#and it's a shame!

[lilacthebooklover]

reread the scarlet and ivy books lately and they were actually so dark, what the heck. there were so many attempted murders and successful kidnappings, bullying and arson and abuse, codependency and unhealthy coping mechanisms, etc etc. the way that the twins' trauma was handed throughout was really freaking effective (i've got a full list of every time scarlet's is brought up), and i loved the way every character was handled. the development was there, the twists were incredible, and it gave me a sort of nostalgia that's put me in a really good mood. ofc eleven-year-old me would be into the most morbid kids' book in existence, but hey, i still am now, so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[magnusbae]

In case you were wondering why Spotify Wrapped sucks balls this year, and more importantly doesn't have any genre data:

Can you hear the sound of bells? That's because they're clowns. 🤡 🛎

[leresq]

"gee I wonder how I will transfer this information reliably across long distances"

the trustworthy telecommunications dish:

[rhinco]

"scythes are impractical as a weapon" ok but does anything else have the Cunt. i think not

[clickityweasel]

had a real life "and everybody clapped" moment and im still reeling. spent the rest of the ride comparing butterfly pics with the old lady next to me trying to identify it

[canisalbus]

✦ Pebble ✦

[deansbisexualflannel]

[grungekitty-77]

Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

[hiroshotreplica]

idk if im actually bi or nit but i have an 8 am class tomorrow cant worry about that

[bookshelfdreams]

x

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

The math just adds up!

[doccywhomst]

[soft-october-night]

[rhinco]

inventing some new EVIL tone tags

/pr = pressuring you

/m = mad at you

/f = forcing you to do this at gunpoint

/nj = not joking i want to kill you for real