#and im stubborn and don't want to

[gerudospiriit]

" Yes, I'm short for a Gerudo, but I am much taller than most Hylians. "

[bisexualmaedhros]

i feel like the afab trans people* who believe in "male/female" socialization are the same people who talk about how eeeeevery afab person has like trauma from being told to "act more ladylike." i'm not saying that never happens, but it annoys me when people paint it as this universal fixture of being an afab child.

i do not remember a single time in my childhood where i felt pressured to be more feminine. like, i did already enjoy "feminine" things, but i also sat however i wanted and played in the mud with the boys, that kind of thing, and all the people around me were totally cool with it.

i know that unfortunately my experience isn't universal, but that's kind of my point- you can't act like an assigned sex dictates everything about how someone was raised. you can't act like it gives every afab person some secret unique knowledge on misogyny. some of the most misogynistic people i can think of are cis women! when i was a kid and thought i was a cis girl, i held misogynistic beliefs even while calling myself a feminist, and obviously that's common.

like, i'm sure all this seems pretty rudimentary and it certainly feels like it as i say it. but my god, the number of transmascs i see online acting like they're incapable of misogyny makes me feel like i'm losing it sometimes. and i don't often post about it because i don't want to sound like i'm white knighting or anything; i don't want to sound like i'm going "haha wow those guys are crazy, good thing i'm one of the good ones ;-)" and i don't know if this post will come off like that but i hope it won't because that truly isn't my intention.

my intention really is just like... idk if i somehow have afab followers who think like this, please god examine it. every time you accuse trans women of "dividing the community" or whatever, you're closing yourself off from learning something indispensable. but more importantly, you are actively choosing to make yourself someone women cannot trust. the most valuable lessons i have learned when it comes to feminism and untangling internalized misogyny have been from trans women. so many people who were afab seem to think we have a uniquely pure understanding of misogyny, that everyone else can never understand it as well as we can. that is not true at all. i know for a fact you have met cis girls who were misogynistic as fuck. remember that.

*note: when i say "afab trans people" here i'm not "reducing you to your agab" as many people claim. your agab is directly relevant to the post. i mean this genuinely: please learn to move through your gut instinct of guilt/defensiveness. it's only human, but it will not serve you well in the path to self improvement. acknowledge that it's there, and then learn to listen and consider the things that trigger it anyway. that's the only way you'll actually improve in any meaningful way.

[piscesprncesa]

welp . due to "unforeseen" circumstances, imma have to leave my toxic ass household :D

[bokuwadekinaiko]

cw post / tags. sorry

i don't even know if i have the words

to express this

she's gone

and its all my fault

[poptartmochi]

something something growing up poor something something cosplay and crafting being expensive and also high-risk when you start out something something the thought of messing up and wasting money almost makes the entire process not worth it something something

[thelesbiansuperjesus]

omg I got muted on my fav server cuz I broke the nsfw rule cuz I said "clown yaoi" so I threw a fit and left the server I had been big apart of for over year or so and literally nobody noticed LMAOOOO im so done, now im not on a single discord server im so bored

[skullzy20]

I am not exaggerating when I say I live with one of the worst cishet men I've ever met in my life and its horrible

Pretty big vent incoming in tags, just a warning. Feel free to scroll past /gen

[tvckerwash]

ugh my uncle brought home covid and I've been sick all week, and it's only now when I feel better that I lose my entire sense of taste 🙄

[scattered-winter]

does anyone know any workarounds for the stupid anti adblock policy on youtube that an absolute idiot can follow. i'm talking a total complete dumbass. because so far i haven't been smart enough to figure out how to follow the reddit threads </3

[fortunately-bi]

I know I don't have many artist friends or followers on here but if anyone knows of any online courses or free classes or anything (honestly even if they're paid, as long as it's not like college stuff that requires my gpa or anything) for art, like figure drawing and anatomy and so on id really appreciate some help in my search

[im2tired4usernames]

I want their fuckin freedom they have no chores no responsibility they can go out with their friends when ever they want for however long they want they can sleep in there bed all day they eat drink drive vehicles use the phone have a home with no bills no expenses they can spend their money on stupid things that bring them joy with no worry of the gas they burned in someone else's vehicle or if there's dinner at home they have no worries about laundry no worries about dishes no worries about the messes they make because they know I'll clean it up always I want to be viewed by my family and by my friends as someone who is an actual person with limits and boundaries and who has goals and dreams they'd like to accomplish in the day besides laundry for 16 people and not a tireless cleaning machine. I want to be able to rest and have hobbies I want to be able to do things with my partner and my friends again I want to be able to fuckin daydream and make up stories again for Christ sake I want to feel like a person and not a corpse forced into playing "tradwife" I want the freedom they all have while I'm in the background doin they're dishes.

[celestial-sapphicss]

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[sapphic-haymaker]

for people who use RSS feeds which one do you use. the one I was using was okay but i discovered it just won't flag stuff was new if i don't watch it within a timeframe T.T

[kingabezka]

I'd like to apologize to every artist who ever received a "I don't ship it but the art is amazing" comment from me, I swear I meant it in a "The quality of your work overrode my instinct to scroll past a pairing I don't care about" way

Somehow, in my small brain that was supposed to make the praise higher than just shutting up and saying I like the art

so like ye, art gud

[the27percent]

How do you describe writing / rp to others? In what fandom did you start?

[I'm just going to say now.. I don't want to speak on the fandom I originally started. I.. I don't feel great about it. I feel very ambivalent if not... deeply embarrassed. And I just.. I don't want to remind people it exists at all if I don't have to.

I will say I have an earlier muse inspired by Welcome to Night Vale, I still have a blog for. So.. that's closer to where I started, I'll admit to that no problem.

In terms of how I describe rp to others, I guess it's collaborative writing.. I think. Just trying to build out interactions with other while parallel.. thinking about ways to expand your own characters either based on canon sources or.. you own inspiration. ]

[look-at-the-stars-tonight]

it is ok to ask for help. people are not going to hate me for asking for help