#and i think that’s a stupid mindset
Explore tagged Tumblr posts
Text
i think ppl who are super online or into fandom should watch/read/etc something without ever touching fandom discourse or making aus or shipping characters just like every once in a while
#this isn’t a diss at shipping or aus#i participate in that sometimes#and its fun#im mostly saying like#sometimes people seem to get way too engrossed in the idea of fandom to the point its not even about enjoying the source material atp#and it also seems to result in fans acting like the creators of things have some obligation#to keep in mind a fandom or how a fandom would feel ab their thing#and i think that’s a stupid mindset#a writer should not be like i better specify this specific thing so there’s not meaningless discourse about it on tumblr!#☀️🌈🔥#i just think it’s not particularly good to get really into a fandom of anything and everything you consume#mostly bc of the way fandoms are nowadays#also maybe i’m a bit tired of seeing really good series/whatever turned into au/shipping fodder and nothing else#if you’re going to do that at least pretend you like the source material outside of the character designs#idk im rambling i might make this a more cohesive post later lawl
72 notes
·
View notes
Text
My post about Anya is making like a little ruckus on Twitter and I think it’s crazy how many people like have a problem with it.
Like you don’t have to agree with how I characterize Anya and her actions but it’s more like, why are you focused on only one aspect of her character? Why are you removing nuance from the situation? I don’t see it as giving Curly the benefit of the doubt when it comes to doing better for Anya, but as exploring his character and hers relationship with a the very little authentic facts we get about them. In truth, there’s a lot more I wish Curly did, even if it wasn’t pragmatic but I realize the issue there.
The first psychological horror game in a while that’s real intricate in its storytelling and makes you need to really need to address the morality of intentions and its already getting torn asunder smh 😔
#I don’t know if it’s the case of people who hate curly and think he should’ve just killed Jimmy won’t accept anything else#but I really am trying to get the idea that they were stuck for over a year in space together on a ship barely kept together with wildly#different and conflicting personalities who also got more hostile because they know they are going home to unemployment#it sounds heartless to say and he should have prioritized her more but in his head that’s not the only thing he has to manage and he has to#fit the necessary actions to take in his head with all that including his perception of them as a friend vs as a boss#idk I just don’t believe Curly was comforting Jimmy with the intent of helping him get rid of Anya. he wanted to help both of them he went#about it horribly like the game is literally about realizing how misguided you can be and that responsibility#and how to be responsible look different even if there are better options like it’s just weird just block my ass dawg#also I think the argument of how could the situation be worse if he stopped Jimmy is stupid cause it’s under the guise that Curly would#assume someone he trusted would just try and commit murder suicide or he’d get degloved and all his crew directly#or indirectly killed by that friend like sorry if that’s a reach statement like adding#your supplementary thoughts is how analysis is born but adding facts about events we don’t know happened and treating them like character#truths is lame is a cop out from actually engaging with parts of the story that adds grey areas to characters you wants to see in black#this is just a stupid like thing to me but it makes me sad cause I don’t even hate seeing depictions of Curly as more aware and#accommodating to Jimmy purposely but I need you to understand he thought he was doing the right thing for both his friends and his closest#friend but the key point is he thought he was doing right for both of them like what game were we both watching???#mouthwashing#like just block me pls like Anya would not share ur mindset or hold ur hand like do more than just pity her if you like her so much
33 notes
·
View notes
Text
One sad thing I've learned from being in this fandom is that people will always value a man's opinion more (Cassian) than what a woman declares for herself (Elain). A man's thoughts, opinions, and beliefs will always trump what a woman says and believes about herself, and that's twenty different shades of fucked up.
#elain archeron#pro elain archeron#the seer#the lovely fawn#I love Cassian#but thinking he knows more about Elain#than Elain herself#is truly a stupid mindset and needs to be called out more
115 notes
·
View notes
Text
Every once in a while there will be a blogger I'm not following, but whose posts I know and whose blog I visit from time to time. They can either be a generally popular user, a fandom-popular user, a mutual-in-law, or simply someone whose posts I've seen reblogged by other blogs I visit. You know how it is on tumblr dot com.
Anyway, impressing me -- and at the same time making me take you for a Cool Person Who Knows Things, And Whose Opinions Are Important And I Should Defer To Them -- is only a little bit harder than biting into an overcooked noodle, or accidentally stepping on an ant. So, I'll often admire these people from afar and feel sad and inadequate if we disagree on something, or of they criticize something I think is fine (especially if they do it without giving a reason, like 'well, it goes without saying that X simply sucks').
However -- sudden salvation -- every once in a while this blogger will have an opinion that's so nonsensical, or they'll behave in a way that's so unnecessary hostile to someone who doesn't really deserve it, that it's honestly both sad and surprisingly relieving to me because ohhhh okay you're just a fucking asshole. You're not a special, sophisticated mini-god, you're just an asshole who's mean for no reason. Phew! Aaaaand block.
#shrimp thoughts#this too is an Incorrect way of thinking. I should not do that. I should work on maybe not putting people on pedestals while burying myself#deeper underground. Other people being smart don't mean you're dumb and pathetic or something! Well I'll have to work on believing this#(as well as 'it's okay for you to exist and be as you are' though this one is more difficult) but like. yeag#this is funny because I do dislike this genre of a person who's acting all cooler than ya and edgy asshole. yknow this 'yes i do believe#men/white people/straights should all die/kill themselves <3' person. I really fucking dislike them AND YET I can't help but feel that#Smart and Capable People are allowed to be judgmental assholes to a degree. like well this opinion was phrased meanly and it made me feel#bad but it's not that they're an asshole! I'm simply just stupid for thinking otherwise. it's REALLY difficult to get rid of this mindset#not that I ever tried it in any way but you know what I mean
10 notes
·
View notes
Text
Oh so “I want to rid of gender roles without ID’ing as trans” is fine for a liberal man to say, but when I, a radfem…
#the phrasing of this is very interesting also#I want to opt out of toxic masculinity and the expectations placed on men#but I also don’t care to reflect on male privilege#misogyny. or the ways in which men as a class have hurt women. even indirectly#(ex: the mental load on wives and mothers. men taking up more space than women in the public sphere#getting more representation than women. seeking more emotional labor from women)#none of that stuff exists now because it’s not my responsibility and I choose not to think about it#lazy boy mindset#comments on this post are beyond stupid too
23 notes
·
View notes
Note
I saw your poll about how your followers met you and i think i met you bc of the beatles??? Rn im not sure if you did fanarts of them or if im confusing things but i think thst was it
YESSS oh that phase was embarassingly long KAHSJDKFKF
#also i legit was shipping real people that was very cringe of me. dont do that KSHDJDJFJFJ#i have come to my senses now#again. highschool mindset KSKSKS#sometimes i go around seeing people saying 17 or 18 is an adult but i truly think my brain at the time is embarrassingly stupid KASNNDKD#my brain now and my brain in my highschool years are DRASTICALLY differrnt#asks
21 notes
·
View notes
Text
Sometimes I feel bad for killing Valentino in Roseverse because it makes me look like one of those people who thinks only Vox and Velvette are deserving of a redemption narrative or “I say I love the Vees but I really only love Vox and Velvette” which isn’t true, and I can’t stop people from thinking it anyway, so I just make up for it by continuing to stress the effect his absence has on Velvette and Vox.
#listen it was a sacrifice the island demanded#could I have given him a chance? yes#did it work for the narrative to have him die? yes#is this going to have far-reaching effects we haven’t yet seen? also yes#like for all that Val and Vox’s last moment was Val leaving him to die#that’s a Tuesday#vox and Vel DO miss him#they think about him frequently#idk it doesn’t matter but I know how common the mindset of FUCK VAL ONLY VOX AND VEL#and while I think Val is awful for what he’s done to angel#I still enjoy his stupid ass#red roses and dead things
8 notes
·
View notes
Text
I have the suspicion what the Cult of Murder wasn't very keen on healing/ had many healers around.
They probs had healing potions and scrolls and stuff, but do you think Durge would bother with them? Or would they, intimately familiar with the anatomy of the body, occasionally treat their own wounds with the cold precision of a surgeon?
What I have in mind is Durge casually sewing their own wounds shut with the first found rusty needle and something they deemed would suffice for a thread, Gortash seeing this horrific display and deciding enough is enough and taking the ordeal of healing this freak of an ally into his own hands.
#bg3#the dark urge#durge#dark urge x gortash#durgetash#durge is not squeamish and they are very familiar with the way body functions#so in theory they could treat their own wounds just enough so they would die#it requires the cold detachment and not Caring that much about your own well being#but i think A cchild-weapon of Bhaal is exactly in that mindset to perform tasks like those#like why would they care if their wretched mortal bag of bones hurts or not?#is it moving? is it functions? then that's enough#i have the idea of durge not being allowed/offered any comfort/personhood#and as a result treating their own body as a tool#with the difference what they take better care of their daggers than of themselves#gortash seeing that and being like “what are you doing you stupid fucking bitch”#like at first he just needs his ally Not To Die from something dumb like infection from a blunt needle or bad care#and then he gradually starts to carw#like fr how someone care about themselves so little#a child of god no less#but the more he learns of durge the more he gets Why#and the more his affection grows the more it annoys him#wouldn't die*
51 notes
·
View notes
Text
it’s such a big pet peeve of mine when cooks get pissy about having to cook around dietary restrictions… like this is ur job! get creative! it’s an opportunity to try something new! ur telling me u can’t think of a SINGLE good dish without meat that’s not a salad?? u can’t come up with something delicious that doesn’t have dairy??? fuck u gordon ramsey for telling everyone vegan food is stupid. it’s such a lazy mindset.
#my dinner i made tonight is vegan and i wasn’t even going for that and it just made me think ab#all the other cooks going off ab how restrictive and stupid cooking vegan/vegetarian/dairy free is#and it just bugs me#and i’ve worked in so many kitchens where that’s the mindset#anyways sorry i just got annoyed ab this again and needed to get it out of my system
169 notes
·
View notes
Text
That post about guilt and shame only being effective as deterrents but not in inspiring anyone to change their behavior in any meaningful way got me thinking about those other posts about progressive circles consisting way too much of people not with a desire to do something right but instead with a fear of doing something wrong, and...
Yeah. Those two are related. Guilt and shame are the weapons of the status quo, designed to instill in everyone with a conscience a fear of failure, of hurting others, of being a bad person. And it's pretty fucked up when people are being shamed for that, since, well, shame doesn't inspire any meaningful change. So the problem persists, deepens, even. Since by shaming someone for not getting over that shame, you've now discouraged them from thinking about that instilled shame and maybe finding a solution.
It's shame and guilt all the way down. Perhaps shame and guilt could be used against people who tend to shame and guilt others in order to shame and guilt them out of shaming and guilting others? I don't know. And that's a true shame.
#random thought of the day#shame#guilt#toxic guilt#yeah it's a pickle#i kinda feel this way of thinking is deeply ingrained in the modern hyperindividualistic worldview#which ignores everything we know about humans as a social species shaped by our social circumstances#in favor of this very catholic guilt inspired 'stop being naughty' mindset that whips people into obedience never into self-actualization#as i wrote in the tags of the other post frustration is one of the most dangerous feelings since shaming and guilting starts there#if you look at the world around you and think you see the problem and the solution but others won't listen to you#it's natural to feel frustrated#the desire to shame and guilt others in a twisted way try to make them spring into action seems like a natural response#but it's stupid and wrong#shame and guilt are primarily ways to make yourself feel good in the moment to stroke that sense of superiority#i look back at how i was raised and i understand that a lot of the hesitancy and self-doubt and other paralyzing feelings are guilt#if you were raised to always doubt yourself always assume that you're in the wrong always take others at their word#you were raised to be a perfect victim#it's really hard to push through that and the metacognitive capabilities one must have to monitor all of that are staggering#meanwhile people who were raised through inspiration and motivation can be immune to guilt and shame#so what are we even doing here why is it so easy to fall back on a method that at best has little effect at worst increases the problems#there is a lot to say about this and i wish i had an answer but alas
9 notes
·
View notes
Note
MACKERELMORE hii good morning i hope u r goodddd :] anyway. staring up at u w/ my big sopping wet shark eyes.... do u have any new haven wards costume opinions & thoughts. ik a while ago u said smth abt imprint showing an Inadvisable amount of skin considering his power bc he's cocky & it's an intimidation thing..... wraith with the whisperer cloak... what else!!!
AH hello!!! I have been. underwater all morning <3 I will be underwater again all afternoon but it's lunch time first :] I will say hi 2 the sharks for u . blow the grouper a kiss etc etc
UHHHHHHHH I DONT HAVE A WHOLE LOT OF THOUGHTS OTHER THAN WHAT WE'VE SAID BEFORE especially because. outfit design is not my strong suit idk how to talk about clothes lmao. but! the generals:
wraith: big loose fitting clothes that conceal a layer of body armor. they let him move and give him a bigger silhouette than he actually has and look deceptively weak? you go to kick a guy in a hoodie and your foot hits a kevlar vest instead. whisperer cape is a must. i dont think he knows the similarity. william was never big into capes i think if he ever saw anything of the whisperer it was only in passing and not enough to stick in his mind. full-face mask (which i would assume is like.... built into the hood somehow? to keep it up on his head better as hes moving), undecided on whether he would keep his hair fully covered or let some of it out from under the hood. i think at first his costume would be white with blue accents ("ghostly" vibes without being too scary) but as time goes on i think it would be cool if it got darker and darker until the white parts have gone from grey-dark grey-black (idk how that would work mechanically but. nudges greyscale implications)
failsafe: HONESTLYYYYY I REALLY LIKE WHAT YOU HAVE FOR HIM SO FAR. crop top is essential. failsafe has way more skin showing than imprint. i think hed keep his knuckles/forearms taped bc his fighting style is very physical? i know dakotas whole thing is kicks only but i think failsafe should get to punch things super hard too like cmon. hes got the likee.... headband mask . i like what u have for him a lot. i think his pants are a lot like wraiths thing where theyre loose and mobile but hes wearing armor under them.
imprint: tactical. his stuff is mostly black i dont think he would budge on that for anything. i do think he should have skin showing like. in case they get caught off guard by a fight i dont think hed want to take the time to have to pull off sleeves or gloves or whatever in case he needed to use his powers in a snap. i DO however think he has gloves just for convenience's sake. but i think he keeps specific body parts uncovered? majority of his arms for sure. he has the half-face mask. idk if this is something the prt would necessarily allow but i think he has a lot of straps and belts and things for holding weapons. i feel like hes trained in so many ways to fight he would probably always want at least a knife or gun on him at all times. the purple accents were the PR teams additions so he wouldnt be totally black. since he wanted to keep his shitty dyed purple hair, theyd at least make the costume match so it looked somewhat cohesive and intentional
OH YEAH u didnt ask abt tide but its very important to me that his costume is like a wetsuit. i havent made my post about tide and wetsuits yet but i think abt him a lot. also i think the ear fins are cosmetic and not a result of weird clone things but i do think he should keep them bc i think theyre cute. ive been imagining wavelengths costume pretty much the exact same as in pd . and i have. no ideas for auxiliary but whenever i think abt him i think abt ur timeline art so thats canon 2 me
#sorry this took like. eight fucking hours. okay.#trying so hard to think of things a guy like glenn would do to them like taylors butterflies.#for william its the bright costume... i think he probably hates that so bad. kills his emo kid swag(<< stupid teenager mindset)#i dont think it has to be FULLY white like i have been imagining the cape as black. so i think it has black accents still. but the hoodie?#bright white n blue. and probably his pants too. idk man#for dakota its editing out his scars in all promotional material. eugh#and for vyncent its the . you wanna keep your hair? fine. purple on your tactical black costume.#and . VERY limited weapon storage if any at all.#thought about giving him fingerless gloves but i feel like that would. defeat the purpose. idk man#new haven wards#EXTREMELY excted 2 see u draw imprint and wraith btw.... man.#the failsafe one is SO GOOD ive been looking at him for hours#asks#friends!!!#intertexts
9 notes
·
View notes
Text
say it with me now. nuance does not mean a unilateral overhaul of existing takes and source material
#just because someone already said it doesn't automatically make them wrong#this mindset is really baffling but I can't deny that it glaringly exists as the status quo in fandoms#you don't have to disagree with someone to generate a new cool idea#the past is not full of stupid smooth brain artists who were wrong about everything they chose to communicate through their work#and you are not wise and sophisticated for thinking they were
7 notes
·
View notes
Text
I think the most baffling thing about the Tulpar as a vessel to me is the fact that the ship really did only have a one way communication system.
I know it was cheap but even the most basic of vessels regarding major transport would have some way, shape or form for outside communication. Not only that but there was absolutely no form of innate emergency signal to show they may have been offline or in trouble despite clearly having a system to dock credits if they went off course. It's another factor that really shows that bad situations are made to get worse by design. One person who is required to relay all information to the crew and make all the choices without feedback. No way to update or call for help in case of a dire situation. No way to inform of inner personal conflicts and acquire procedures accordingly.
It really is like they are all in some sort of fucked up solitary confinement. They have their own world with strict roles that are meaningless in the end, as long as the cargo makes it, it doesn't matter what happens on that ship to the company. They don't want to hear anything and will come to conclusions on what happened based on how much pay they can withhold from the workers. Even what they do send is short, sterile and corporate to the extent it was likely written and sent out with a command by some random unmanned computer in an office.
There's something to be said about how unfair it is to force absolute power and control onto one person when you as an entity could do so much more to offload it but I've said it many times before so I won't again.
#its just like idk i dont think Curly was a bad captain because we only have this scenerio and I certainly dont think a man like Swansea#would like him or have very little issues with him specifically if he was incompentent or too lienent in the past but I do think the stress#was making him worse and worse as being a present leader as it dawned on him how much he actually had to handle like I really think he#just wanted to do yknow normal captain pilot stuff and fly the ship and yknow the little stuff like make sure things run right and over tim#the constant stress and strain of having to make every major choice started to grate on him and freak him out cause they cant even fucking#eat unless he pulls out the scanner and starts cooking like he has to choose the meal likely or have a vote and i make that part of the#reason he seems so indecisive and inactive is the fact he has to make the choice all the time and he's hoping he can at least make the crew#feel a little more in control of themselves as people by staying out of affairs like the game or disputes because god he literally has to#choose for them all the time like thats a lot of responsibility monitering their sleep their breaks food consumption thats all on him like#it really should be another persons job entirely as thats almost like absoulte contrl over the lives of everyone else that PE forces onto#that title and its also crazy how everyone accepts it even if they dont like it like they broke the food machine open rather than get the#scanner they all waited two months before Jimmy appointed himself leader its so scary how conditioned they all are to the environemnt#cause that sort of mindset is sadly real where people just wait everyone just waited until it was getting real dire and then they still#followed Jimmy without too many complaints like i saw a fic or post where Anya acknowledges they all kinda just let Jimmy do what they want#because he became the captain and it was stupid on all their parts cause they could clearly see how bad he was and yet he was captain so#they just fell in line to their roles and thats a bigger point towards how PE treated them and the complacency capitalism brings to you#just like something that irks me because idk I know Curly is slow to act but he's not as like unopinionated as people make him out to be#like he does try to find solutions but they are still restricted at the end of the day by what PE provides them and I think his biggest c#crime is being in his own head too much and not giving Anya that emotional stability cause like idk man was he supposed to go to Home Depot#himself and install like padlocks? even if the let Anya sleep in medical after she pointed it out she was already pregnant at that point#like we arent seeing the inherent issue that no one not even Anya herself was thinking of the preventative measures because a)there was a#point nothing was happening that necessitated them b) it would've been the responsibility of PE to address them pre and post incident and c#there is only one person on the entire ship given the authority to do anything. You can not make multiple important choices in one instance#in such little time and Curly should not have had that total power like i think the most interesting thing in takes that really blame Curly#is that level of control they give him over the company. Like again i think about the three days we miss between the eval/party and the#convo/crash like i think people switch them around as if those scenes happen in succession when they are broken up and its heavily implied#Curly and Jimmy just havent been talking vs the depiction that she told him and for like three days Curly was just chummy despite the fact#Jimmy and him just had a blow out fight like the next time we assume they talk is during the crash sequence cause he honestly hangs#around Anya more which i think is really important because she trust Curly to defend her himself but not his judgement to give her somethin#to defend herself as she knows he believes her but also knows she's not seeing the danger the same and its heartbreaking and more
23 notes
·
View notes
Text
say u have a preference for yuri…nobody bats an eye…say u have a preference for yaoi…society goes wild…
#n all of a sudden u are a fetishizer. What .#this doesn’t even apply to me bc i have yuri ships i like but i think it’s rlly funny how sensitive ppl can be over the morality of yaoi#like it’s two boys kissing it’s not that deep oml….#god forbid women do anything#also that whole mindset is stupid bc u r inherently tokenizing mlm relationships by saying that…like ur saying a woman can’t genuinely enjo#a mlm relationship without it being a fetish. Like u think mlm isn’t normal so it should be questioned if someone likes it a lot#u do NOT need justification for reading yaoi gang. u simply do not. ridonkulous. anyways. rant over.#fujoshi nation let me hear u…#yaoi
7 notes
·
View notes
Text
all r-dfem blogs on here are always posting 3 things: a) most vitriolic disgusting display of shaming people for how they look which almost always implicitly or explicitly aligns with some kind of eugenics or racism, b) how everyone who isnt them or disagrees with them is stupid or misguided or has no hope left for them, and c) how lonely and isolated they feel all the time . I wonder when they will join the dots
#like. i do know people who self identify as radfems and they are nice they dont fit these bullet points#but like. that polite persona they exert is a mask for either a LOT of bitterness and a huge lack of empathy. or a lot of self hatred#that is then expressed by being so unnecessarily mean to other people behind their backs 😭#and im all for being mean occasionally im not one to cry and clutch my pearls when people are cunts to other people#but when theres a specific pattern of being mean to specific people (often other women and especially transfems)#for specific things (looks & taste & intelligence). well then its a problem innit#and then theyre also horrible about men which is like. Whatever. but i am off the belief that making fun of anyone#for their looks or appearance or their body and things that they cant help is just so fucking shallow and bleak and stupid#theres plenty of things to make fun of men for like soooooooooooo so many things#and yet the most popular way of doing it. or the one that a lot of these people (radfems and adjacent) think is either most funny#or most cathartic is making fun of mens appearance#so what if hes ''ugly'' and has male pattern baldness and a thick chin and big nose or whatever. i thought we were here to#idk. dismantle the patriarchy. knock men down a notch on the hierarchy. criticise a culture that encourages misogyny#call out the abuse and belittlement of women by men every day. you know. the things intrinsic to our society because of#capitalism and patriarchy and conservativism etc.#NOT perpetuating the culture that shames people for things that they cant change#and if they WANT to change these aspects youre shaming them for they have to spend ludicrous amounts of money#this is the mindset that makes me think bitch we are never getting out of capitalism !!!!!!!!!!#starting shaming behaviours not looks like im BEGGING YOU!!!!!!!!!!#okay thats all i have to say im really sick of this. and some of my mutuals do this and its really upsetting me sorry .
17 notes
·
View notes
Text
My hot Bridgerton take is that I really don’t care for Eloise that much. She was really like “oh it’s so stifling to live in a society where there is a right and wrong way to be a woman” and then instead of coming away from that like “there isn’t a right or wrong way to be any gender at all” she’s like “actually, there IS a right way to be a woman, it’s just MY way not everyone else’s 😌”
#like oh yeah you’re right everyone who enjoys embroidery is an airhead#and all the women in your family except Kate are stupid right right right right#I think it also doesn’t help that she’s been stuck in this mindset for three seasons now#like they’re saving the character development for her dedicated season or something#everyone wanting her to be gay like dude…she doesn’t Like or Respect most women#bridgerton#too not like other girls pilled honestly#need some character development STAT#woah nellie
13 notes
·
View notes