#and as a she/they non-binary it hurts me

[tadc-harlequin-au]

Is Zooble's pronouns just they/them?

sighhhh.....

no.... I really want Z to have such she/they gnc energy.... it's just that they/them has been the default for the fandom, so I'm lowkey scared to switch over to it.....

gnc she/they Z save me..... save me.... gnc she/they Z save me....

[solasfenheral]

I am just. chewing over and over again the connotations to Taash alternating between ‘mother’ and ‘Tama’

[kiirous]

I've been called a woman twice today so I feel great!

[glittertimes]

As a 24 year old I’m kind of over drinking culture. The last time I really drank it took me a week to recover from it loll, I’ve been getting really dizzy since a covid infection 2 years ago, and I had a really bad flare-up a month ago after celebrating a friends birthday.

But even before that I drank pretty minimally and I didn’t like how my friends put the responsibility of caring for them on me when they put themselves in harmful situations. I’m always going to be there for my friends, but it takes a toll caring for people and watching them not have that same care for themselves.

And then it’s funny and normalized when people drink all the time.

[haoaibai]

today at school, i had some “friends” and one friend went “who’s ready for pride month?” and they were all cheering in the classroom and then this one friend who sat next to me (found out she makes fun of me sometimes) said so much horrible things about trans people and the lgbtq community (mostly the trans and non binary community including genderfluid)

they started saying they hate trans people bc we “take the piss” and they never understand why we go by he/they and she/they and that and they invalidated neopronouns too saying “wtf are neopronouns? some neopronouns users actually have pronouns like meow/meow, xe/xem, etc” like why would i wanna call you that like that’s so stupid (laughs)” and they started talking about this teacher who got sacked bc he misgendered a student who was trans and trial for 3 days and now they went “oH nO OfFENsE but what is genderfluid? what is that? bc why am i a man the next day, a female today, a trans next day, and demi fucking the next week like that’s so confusing and you can’t change genders like that so they need to stop that HAHAHAHHAA” and the “why do you guys use he/they pronouns? and she/they and whatever? like you can’t use more than one pronoun and gender equals pronouns like stop being stupid” LIKE I FELT SO INVALIDATED OMFG

“and i never understand the non binary mfs who use more than one pronouns or say their gender is this that like THERES ONLY 2 GENDERS. female and male. nothing else???”

and they just said so much more like oh my god (message me if you wanna hear the rest) and i just hate them for it. I BROUGHT MY PRIDE FLAG for celebration in my bag and thank god i never brought it our bc yall wouldve invalidated me.

i hate people. lgbtq ppl are extremely valid. yall cishets and straights NEED TO SHUT UP.

[travelingtwentysomething]

My gender is the same as my first time in the world and I was born in the past

😂 my phone revealing secrets of my past lives

@thatfaeb1tch @fyeaheddiemunson @unclewaynemunson @utterlyinsanity @wishuweregay

Type "my gender is" on your phone and let your phone finish the sentence, then tag your moots to keep the chain going, I'll go first.

My gender is a little bit more intense than I thought I could have done

@mirukosbitchywife @get-junpeid

[mapsareforbraindeads]

it’s all coming together. i know why i’ve been leaning on being fem for so long. it is entirely her fault

[gender-euphowrya]

hey fun fact did you know non-binary people having rights and social recognition doesn't take away other trans people's it's wild how this works innit

[fuckyeahgoodomens]

David Tennant interview at the British LGBT Awards, June 2024 (x)

Int: You being an ally to the community isn't something new. You've been doing it, but recently you've obviously really stepped up for trans and non-binary people in a time that's so, so needed. What made you do that?

David: I don't know that I feel like I've done anything that I wouldn't just sort of be normally doing. I mean, it's for me it's just common sense that there's there should be any suggestion that people aren't allowed to live the life they want to live and and to be who they want to be with and to express themselves wholeheartedly. I mean, as long as you aren't hurting anybody else, everybody else just needs to fucking butt out. I don't really understand why...

Int: ...it's controversial.

David: Yeah, there is and the thing... the thing, if there's something that's particularly sobering and depressing, it's that certain debates are being weaponized by certain elements of the political class, often for no... it seems it's not ideological so much as opportunistic. And I just think that's pretty disgusting, really.

Int: I couldn't agree more. What message would you like to send out to trans youth?

David: Please don't feel like you're not loved and that you're not accepted and that you're not... you know, most people in the world are good and kind and just want you to be able to be who you are. Most people in the world don't really care. I mean... you know what I mean?

Int: We're all narcissistic.

David: Exactly. Everyone's so self obsessed that really, the sort of noise that comes from a certain area of the press and of the political class is... it's a minority. It really is. And please don't let that make you feel diminished or dissuaded or discouraged, because, you know, you just... you have to be allowed to be yourself, and you are, and you are yourself and you must thrive and flourish, and we're all here for it.

Int: Amazing. I think, yeah, it's so important .I think sometimes it feels like there's so many people, but it is a minority. It's such a minority.

David: It's a tiny bunch of little whinging fuckers that are on the wrong side of history and they'll all go away soon.

Int: Like what happened with gay people 20 years ago.

David: When I was a kid, when I was a kid, exactly. You know, I was at school when Clause 28 came in and it all felt like being gay was something to be terrified of. And gay men in particular were demonised as paedophiles and now that just feels historic and ludicrous and, I mean, I don't see all those... all those battles aren't won, but we're in a very, very different place. And I feel like.I feel like history is on a progressive trajectory and it might get knocked sideways now and again by people for all sorts of reasons, which are often quite selfish and quite, as I say, not coming from a place of any sort of genuine belief system, but other than a place of opportunism. And that's something that we... I hope that in 20 years time, we're talking about, you know, these culture wars as something of the past.

Int: I believe we will. I'm a huge Doctor Who fan, so.

David: Oh, good, me too!

Int: You are my Doctor.

David: Oh, thank you very much.

Int: But recently, obviously, you came back for the 60th anniversary and you got to work with Yasmin Finney.

David: Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Int: What was it like working with her?

David: Oh, she's brilliant. She's fantastic. Yeah. And she's in the show again now, she's back in it, so that's fantastic to see. She's lovely, talented, cool as a cucumber, articulate, brilliant. I learned a lot from her as an actor and also as someone who, you know, who's become a sort of de facto activist just because of who she is and where she is, and she becomes a sort of symbol of hope, and she's wonderful.

[genderqueerdykes]

2024, yet another year where I see my local city's pride fest have a day specifically to "celebrate femininity" (called "She+ Fest") and then have no such day dedicated to a celebration like that that for masculinity, or gender neutrality/gender beyond the binary spectrum folks. there is a non-binary pride flag on the poster for this event, and yet it's only for feminine people. there's a lesbian flag on the poster, and yet it's only for "femininity", meaning butches will feel alienated and not want to attend.

it actually made me just want to cry because yet again masc & neutral/other gendered queers are made to feel like we're nothing special, like we're nothing worth celebrating, like we're meant to just blend into the crowd and be background noise, like there's nothing to be proud of and like we don't need community. if this event is for lesbians, where the hell do the butches go? where the hell do the femmes who aren't women and don't want to be seen as one go? why do we claim to love lesbians and then RACE to leave out butches and non woman identifying lesbians as fast as we fucking can?

the big issue here is this is yet again leaving masc and other gender queers with nowhere to go. no space to occupy. no way to meet each other in a concentrated and guided fashion. its great to uplift feminine people and women, i'm not complaining about the existence of this event; what I'm saying, however, is that it's glaringly apparent what people are implying by having an event only for "celebrating" femininity and then having so such events for other trans people. the message is deafening and hurts like hell.

to the people who say "the generalized pride events are made for you, why can't you just celebrate in those?" my answer is this: WHY do we need a day specifically dedicated to femininity, then? why can't femme queers celebrate in the generalized events, too? why are non-binary people only being recognized in a feminine context? why are we making it easy for feminine people to interact, but not masculine or gender neutral people? why do masc & neutral people have to wade through a sea of people to find other people just like us, but we create space after space for "feminine" nonbinary people and women. please create spaces for masc and other gender queers. we are begging you. we are tired of being told we're oppressors or that we're inherently dangerous to femme queers and women. we're sick of being told we don't deserve to be celebrated, or that we are nothing special.

our community can't keep going like this. masc & neutral queers need community, too. we need to be able to find and support each other, too. how is it 2024 and we're STILL only acknowledging non binary identities in a feminine context. our community is suffocating. masc & other gender queers are drowning. include EVERYONE and allow EVERYONE to find support from people just like them. this shouldn't be something we afford to just femmes and women. fuck out of here.

[cyanidedrinkers]

Animalistic mutants

I wanna see more animalistic mutants. I wanna see them bare their teeth when mad as an act of intimidation I wanna see them let out a rumble in their chest when happy I wanna see them get mad, So mad that they attack whatever is upsetting them I want to see Animalistic mutants that dont know how to control the animalistic side I want to see animalistic mutants that have to wear muzzles as apart of their uniforms or a mask at least to keep them from biting I want to see animalistic mutants that are strictly vegetarian I want to see animalistic mutants who have iron deficiencies because they require more than a normal person I wanna see them get ugly while fighting, unrecognizable when mad, i wanna see the ugly disgusting side no one shows or acknowledges, i wanna see the side that makes people fear them I wanna see a sweet little girl tear a mans throat out because she cant help it I wanna see a big strong man eat his danty salad I wanna see the scrawny kid sniff out drugs because his nose is strong then others I wanna see the a trouble little boy be happy in water because thats where he feels most secure I wanna see a big strong girl whimper because somethings to loud and it hurts her ears I wanna see non-binary teen beg Logan for help because they just snapped at their crush and they dont know what to do I wanna see that teens crush go to Logan and ask how to approach dating a animalistic mutant I want to see the nastiest side of their animal, Because god damn it no ones perfect and it takes time to learn how to control yourself. I want to see someone cry when they're finally accepted because they were used as a weapon.

I want more animalistic mutants (Since people seem to like this feel free to DM me or anything if you just wanna ramble or talk about em :] i may release a sheet on my own X-Men oc soon. She's a eastern wolf Mutant, But i'm not very good at drawing)

[quinnhills]

Hey y’all, life is a journey. Gender is a construct. And I’ve been feeling this for a few months, but I’m a she/her woman. I will always have unwavering love and support for my non-binary siblings, but they/them does not feel like me.

I don’t need anyone to edit their past posts or police folks who still use it. Because it doesn’t hurt me to be called they/them. It just doesn’t fit.

My perception of myself is constantly growing and shifting, but I feel I am getting much closer each day to my core quinntessence.

Yesterday I was getting my hormone levels checked in a clinic, and my nurse exclaimed, “Quinn Hills! That’s a cool name.”

You know what? It is. I’m really proud of who I am and who I’m becoming.

Take care of yourself and love yourself. I’m trying to.

Listen to yourself and let yourself grow.

This isn’t even my final form.

[fxlling-slxwly]

There’s so much about Heartstopper Season 3 that I LOVE. Obviously Nick and Charlie’s relationship growth is beautiful, and Charlie’s mental health stuff is SO IMPORTANT, and I was SOBBING at Episode 4. HOWEVER. Breakdown of my favourite parts / storylines:

1. Darcy’s exploration of pronouns and gender identity. Seeing them start leaning more masc, cutting their hair, using they/them pronouns, and then coming out to Tara as non-binary?? WONDERFUL. As someone who recently came out as genderqueer (with a fairly similar path as Darcy actually) this made me so emotional and so happy for them and the representation.

2. Isaac. My baby. Everything about him is so wonderful and I just want to wrap him in the biggest hug ever. His coming out scenes (both his one to Charlie and to the Paris Gang) were beautiful. His boundaries in refusing to fill in the gaps for his friends is so admirable, as when you’re outside the ‘mainstream’ queer labels it can become such a tiresome ordeal having to explain your identity to others when they aren’t putting in the work to look it up. I’m SO GLAD he got these moments and he’s such a ray of sunshine. Him being the only one to see that something was wrong with Charlie hurt me deeply but it made me love him even more. Also seeing his cheeky side when it comes to Charlie’s sex life is peak aro/ace romance obsessed behavior.

3. Michael Holden my beloved. Darragh’s portrayal of him is everything - he’s so funny, awkward, and optimistic in every single scene and I just adore him. All of his interactions with Charlie made me fall in love with him even more, and they all just felt so RIGHT. His and Tori’s relationship is wonderful.

4. Tori being the best most beautiful big sister. She has so much love in her but she’s so afraid of letting people in and see her being vulnerable. Her love and anxiety for Charlie is so immense, but she does what she can even when her heart is breaking. I adore her and I’m so looking forward to seeing even more of her in the next season.

5. Nick interacting with Elle, Tara and Imogen on the road trip!!! I love seeing Nick integrate more with that friend group, but allowing him to have those moments of gossip and banter with the girls is beautiful, especially as he’d said previously how he didn’t talk about the deeper stuff with his other friends. Having the girls encourage him to talk - especially Elle causing chaos - was *chefs kiss*.

6. Tao and Nick hugging!!!

7. Charlie, Tao and Isaac’s friendship! I adore seeing them be super huggy and telling each other how much they love each other. Healthy friendships for the win!! No toxic masculinity here!!

8. Tao and Elle’s relationship & his utter adoration of her. The scene where he showed her the video he made of her was so emotionally raw and beautiful and UGH IM OBSESSED

9. Mr Farouk and Mr Ajayi’s soft moments UGH I LOVE THEM. Mr F is one of my fave TV teachers - the way he tells Charlie that he could help so many younger students and you can just tell how much he needed queer rep when was younger!! Ugh I adore these two so much.

[dearest-and-nearest]

Spoilers about Taash's questline under the cut and many angry words

So, she is basically 12 year old teenager in body of fucking 20s girl. Oh, sorry "non-binary". She messes with Neve, who wears PANTS and unisex shirt, about her looks and that Taash doesn't want to wear dresses. And then there's shit like that

You can't call her out for shit like that. You can't be truly mean to her like you could to almost anyone in this series before. You could mock Alistair's hurt about Isolda's or Connor's death, but you cannot tell Taash that she's speaking shit. She is acting like being a woman is only wear dresses and act feminine and the worst? The game supports her in this. You can't tell her to shut up and that you don't care how poor little girl feels, you can only support and accept her.

And then she acts like "i don't want to act femminne, so i'm nonbinary" and that's offensive. It's misogynistic bullshit that relegates women to “dresses, makeup, pretty hair”. If you don't fit into that scheme, you're not a woman. You're trans, non-binary, whatever, but you're not a woman. And I find that kind of message misogynistic, yes. Because I happen to have short hair, pants in my closet, and “masculine” hobbies like video games and sports and stuff like that. And that does NOT make me less of a woman. And the very idea that if you're not feminine enough, you're not a woman is insulting.

And this game itself is constantly misogynistic. It doesn't let you create a woman with feminine proportions and big breasts in the editor. At best you'll have an androgynous character, at worst a man. I have zero problems with both categories, but I want to play as a WOMAN. A shapely, tall WOMAN, but for some reason now female breasts are offensive. They can't be added to the editor in sizes larger than B, and even characters who had them have lost them (like Isabela).

Speaking of which. She's in her 50s and yet she looks the same as she did 20 years ago in da2. Because again, you can't get old, you can't be “ugly” with not long enough hair and a pretty face, otherwise you're anything but a woman. And yes, it makes me angry. It makes me angry that under the guise of “progressivism” the erasure of women, the erasure of femininity and diversity and the replacement of that with “non-binary” and “trans” and whatever else is being promoted. Because even the topic with Taash's non-binarity could have been pitched any number of other ways, but Weeks chose to write the dialogs that way. You could have tried and created normal different models, but Busche decided to approve what they had.

I don't know who this game is aimed at. For kids there's sex, for adults there's too much dumb dialog and “Taash doesn't like skeletons” level conflicts. For right-wingers, there's too many pronouns and stuff like that, for progressives, there's this misogyny bullshit. I sincerely hope it fails, because otherwise we're in for more games like this. Games that restrict roleplay, cut gameplay, but feed you “nobody likes being a woman” bullshit that you can't even complain about. Bad games, made in a rush by lazy and untalented people, that try to sell under the sign of “progressive” when in fact the only progressive thing here is how developers economize on anything but what they should.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

was I TA for saying I hate Spanish, a gendered language?

so the other day I (25NB, white) was on Twitter, where I'm v active as well as my two best friends who we'll call Tess (25F, black) and Laura (24F, Mexican). we've been friends since we were kids and tbh I rlly appreciate them both.

Laura has offered to help us learn Spanish on a few occasions. I said yes ofc! Tess repeatedly said no bc she considered thats cultural appropriation and she thinks Laura should protect her culture. Tess also berated me because "white people aren't allowed to speak Spanish", but eventually she changed her mind and apologized after Laura said that she loves it when people show interest in her own culture and language, that white Spanish-speakers exist and that a healthy cultural exchange can help people of different cultures understand one another better.

so Tess and I started to learn Spanish with Laura's help as well as Google translator. and that day I searched for "non-binary" and it gave me two translations "no binario" and "no binaria". in other words, in masculine and feminine. I felt invalidated and angry so I tweeted "I hate Spanish so much". Laura was upset by this and replied saying she knows it can be a frustrating language to learn to non-natives but that I shouldn't insult her language. I tried to play it off saying that I don't hate Spanish language, I meant to say I hate the Spanish, the people of Spain. for being colonizers and all that.

this only made Laura angrier because apparently, more than 90% of Mexicans have Spanish blood since the colonizers chose to stay in Mexico. Laura was clearly hurt, she said that she won't hate a part of herself, that she won't hate Spanish people who are alive today, and that one of her online friends is Spanish (Tess and I are her best friends but Laura also has a group of online friends from different Spanish-speaking countries. I know she has a Puerto Rican friend and a Venezuelan one but I didn't know they had a Spanish friend in the group). I apologized and I genuinely meant it. I also admitted I was talking about the language and not the people.

Tess is clearly against me and supports Laura bc she said something like "I guess you can never fully trust white people" and Laura replied "no, white people aren't the problem, white Americans certainly are". I've apologized and I will do so again if I have to. I literally reacted the way I did because I felt invalidated, I don't hate Spanish or Spanish-speakers. I'm scared of losing my two closest friends, I apologized but other than that idk what to do.

was I justified in feeling invalidated? should I have joked about Spanish being a gendered language instead of saying I hate it? and most importantly, AITA?

[xfancyuu]

~ & you should stay in my good graces. [hange zoe] 18+ SMUT

Reader is afab with she/her pronouns. my requests are currently CLOSED throughout the duration October! Please respect that Hange is non-binary and referred to as they/them if you don’t respect their pronouns, please DNI.

I am in NO way responsible in your fanfic consumption MINORS DO NOT INTERACT!!! [914 words]

You knew your spouse was eccentric, always wanting to try new things and explore every possible thing they possibly could — from tying you up to exposing you in public, they were experimental by nature, and it was evident with your relationship with them.

You were their favourite way to pass time, coming home to you and spending time with one another, though being bent over their lap with your legs spread wasn’t something that had happened often, the bottle of lube beside them on the bed and their finger in your ass, convincing you that this was a great idea while whispering praise into your ear.

You were used to Hange placing a butt plug in you but this was different, the sizes were bigger than you were used to upon first glance and you were unsure if it would fit in you, “Hange please” you begged unsure if it was for more or less, though her finger picked up its speed, adding another to open you up further while pressing their lips to your neck.

“C’mon baby we’re just starting, you said you could handle it,” you could tell Hange was pouting, their tone evidently making fun of you, “and your holes sucking in my fingers so well, imagine it taking something bigger.”

“But you’re already making me feel so good already,” you retorted, moving back and forth to meet their pace, “I’m close to cumming Hange” you told them, though it seemed they were in a playful mood and chose to remove their fingers from within your ass, choosing to spank both cheeks while your sounds of protest were heard throughout the room.

“Good girls don’t cum without permission, Y/N, are you a good girl or bad girl?”

“I’m good, I promise I’m good, I’m your good girl,” you reassured them, wishing they’d touch you in any way, that you had their full, undivided attention.

“Good girls don’t cum without their spouse’s permission,” Hange retorted, picking up the anal beads, the toy started small then got gradually bigger, and while Hange was sure you could take it previously, they weren’t as sure after hearing your displeasure of the size.

“Promise I won’t cum without your permission,” you confirmed, “you’re the boss, I promise I won’t be naughty.”

“You know I wouldn’t let you get away with it, baby, now open your legs further we’re gonna see how much this pretty ass can take,” upon her insistence you opened your legs further, laying over them as to get yourself in a position which would allow you to take all they gave you. “If it’s too much say red and we’ll stop,” you nodded in confirmation that you understood, and antagonising waited for them to insert the toy into you.

The toy was covered in lube, Hange refused to push barriers on your comfort, always choosing to ensure the two of you were safe. The first bead wasn’t large as it was inserted into you, Hange was going slow, playing with your clit as they continued to insert the toy. Your moans filled the room, wetness covering you as you were close to your first orgasm of the night.

“Hange, I’m going to,” you told them, while they stopped playing with your clit, with the stimulation gone, you were unable to reach your peak.

“Not so soon, baby” their response was quick, “you’ve got two more then you get to cum, not before.”

The next bead was larger in size, you could hear the squirting of lube as Hange slowly inserted it into you, their other hand’s fingers trailing up and down your back, as if to soothe you for your hole making accommodation for the large bead entering you.

“Oh fuck,” you exclaimed, moans tumbling out of your mouth as you craved their touch between your legs, “How much longer?”

“Gotta be careful baby, we don’t want you to get hurt, do we?” They asked, the last bead may be a struggle for you, almost double the size of the previous one.

Hange wasn’t lying about the last bead as it was slowly inserted into you, their fingers moving from your back to your clit, while your legs shook, trying to prevent yourself from cumming, the final bead felt far too large as they slowly inserted it into you, stopping as it was halfway in you to squirt lube onto the toy, you could feel the coldness as Hange continued. Their fingers speeding up on your clit, as though to torture you from the stimulation you were receiving.

“Hange, please, I’m so close, I can’t hold it much longer,” you pleaded with them, feeling full — the anal beads and overstimulated by Hange’s fingers was too much, the tears were rolling down your cheeks as you held back.

“Cum for me baby,” at those words you were finally able to cum, holding onto Hange’s thigh as you did so, legs shaking and incoherent sounds coming from your lips. “You really needed that, baby, was gonna finger you too but you can’t take that can you?”

“Too much,” you told them, while they continued to play with your clit, “It felt good though, maybe next time we can go further but not today.” They placed a kiss on the back of your head as they slowly removed the beads from you, the softness of their actions contrasted with everything about them, “love you Hange”

“I love you too, now let’s get you cleaned up.”