#am i being unreasonable?

[cakebatteronabrickwall]

I clown on min harper sometimes but obviously i think Dustin Demri-Burns is a fantastic actor, like i'm watching Am I Being Unreasonable? season 2 and it absolutely rules

[i-merani]

VENTING

My family is always like why don't you do xyz and I want to do so many things actually but since im terminally unemployed I have no money for all that and I really don't want to ask them for even more money for extra curricular stuff like idk how to explain to them that the reason I don't do things is because 1.I don't have money and 2.they also don't have money and I don't want to ask them for hundreds of lari for non-essential things…

[partlyironic]

Kerry and Kurtan in Am I Being Unreasonable? S2 : E6

[bubbleteaacadamia]

So I just did the first day of a new job and holy shit I absolutely hate it. I'm 3 hours away from being done with the first shift (should be 2 hours but my colleagues decided to work later and they are my ride home), and I'm already overstimulated and socially exhausted.

I've worked other jobs before, but they were mostly just cleaning, this is the first one I've taken with a big social component. I need to get experience in said social component if I want to progress in my chosen career.

I know quite a few people here have autism, is this normal for having it and starting a new job?

[dead-loch]

If you haven’t watched Am I being unreasonable? and you enjoy a mindfuck, kindly watch it NOW.

(if you haven’t watched this country which is also daisy mae cooper, please also do so now but be aware those two shows could not be more different)

[ramascreen]

NEW CLIP: BAFTA TV Award-Nominated Hulu Original Series "Am I Being Unreasonable?"

Check out this new clip from the genre-bending Hulu Original comedy thriller “Am I Being Unreasonable?” featuring BAFTA TV Award Performance in a Comedy nominees Daisy May Cooper (“Nic”)  and Lenny Rush (“Ollie”). From BBC Studios, season 1 of “Am I Being Unreasonable?” premieres on Hulu on Tuesday, April 11th with all episodes. SYNOPSIS: Co-produced by Boffola Pictures and Lookout Point,…

[inkskinned]

you were raised in comparison.

it wasn't always obvious (well. except for the times that it was), but you internalized it young. you had to eat what you didn't like, other people are going hungry, and you should be grateful. you had to suck it up and walk on the twisted ankle, it wasn't broken, you were just being a baby. you were never actually suffering, people obviously had it worse than you did.

you had a roof over your head - imagine! with the way you behaved, with how you talked back to your parents? you're lucky they didn't kick you out on your ass. they had friends who had to deal with that. hell, you have friends who had to deal with that. and how dare you imply your father isn't there for you - just because he doesn't ever actually talk to you and just because he's completely emotionally checked out of your life doesn't mean you're not fucking lucky. think about your cousins, who don't even get to speak to their dad. so what if yours has a mean streak; is aggressive and rude. at least you have a father to be rude to you.

you really think you're hurting? you were raised in a home! you had access to clean water! you never so much as came close to experiencing a real problem. sure, okay. you have this "mental illness" thing, but teenagers are always depressed, right. it's a phase, you'll move on with your life.

what do you mean you feel burnt out at work. what do you mean you mean you never "formed healthy coping mechanisms?" we raised you better than that. you were supposed to just shoulder through things. to hold yourself to high expectations. "burning out" is for people with real jobs and real stress. burnout is for people who have sick kids and people who have high-paying jobs and people who are actually experiencing something difficult. recently you almost cried because you couldn't find your fucking car keys. you just have lost your sense of gratitude, and honestly, we're kind of hurt. we tell you we love you, isn't that enough? if you want us to stick around, you need to be better about proving it. you need to shut up about how your mental health is ruined.

it could be worse! what if you were actually experiencing executive dysfunction. if you were really actually sick, would you even be able to look at things on the internet about it? you just spend too much time on webMD. you just like to freak yourself out and feel like you belong to something. you just like playing the victim. this is always how you have been - you've always been so fucking dramatic. you have no idea how good you have it - you're too fucking sensitive.

you were like, maybe too good of a kid. unwilling to make a real fuss. and the whole time - the little points, the little validations - they went unnoticed. it isn't that you were looking for love, specifically - more like you'd just wanted any one person to actually listen. that was all you'd really need. you just needed to be witnessed. it wasn't that you couldn't withstand the burden, but you did want to know that anyone was watching. these days, you are so accustomed to the idea of comparison - you don't even think you belong in your own communities. someone always fits better than you do. you're always the outlier. they made these places safe, and then you go in, and you are just not... quite the same way that would actually-fit.

you watch the little white ocean of your numbness lap at your ankles. the tide has been coming in for a while, you need to do something about it. what you want to do is take a nap. what you want to do is develop some kind of time machine - it's not like you want your life to stop, not completely, but it would really nice if you could just get everything to freeze, just for a little while, just until you're finished resting. but at least you're not the worst you've been. at least you have anything. you're so fucking lucky. do you have any concept of the amount of global suffering?

a little ant dies at the side of your kitchen sink. you look at its strange chitinous body and think - if you could just somehow convince yourself it is enough, it will finally be enough and you can be happy. no changes will have to be made. you just need to remember what you could lose. what is still precious to you.

you can't stop staring at the ant. you could be an ant instead of a person, that is how lucky you are. it's just - you didn't know the name of the ant, did you. it's just - ants spend their whole life working, and never complain. never pull the car over to weep.

it's just - when it died, it curled up into a tight little ball.

something kind of uncomfortable: you do that when you sleep.

[mollysunder]

The way Ambessa talks about the Guile is interesting. She speaks of it with such suspicion, dislike, and literal resentment. At first you'd assume that her attitude is driven by her fued with the Black Rose, but we don't know how long that's been going on, or if this was her own bias prior to it. Under the lens that these are Ambessa's own preconcieved biases before she got involved with the BR then it immediately becomes a critique on her own family. You just can't divorce her comments from how the show depicts her children, from Mel.

Almost every word Ambessa used to describe the Guile describes Mel, except "absent honor" of course. And when you understand that, it becomes clear just how doomed Ambessa and Mel are as mother and daughter. Ambessa indirectly, without the intention to imply Mel, states that her distaste for the fundamental aspects of Mel's personality. Ambessa loves her daughter, but she doesn't LIKE her.

[bxriles]

I’m sure that this is not a hot take and that a lot of people feel the same way but like…

The question “does it have spice?!🌶️🔥” makes me want to jump off a cliff. I’m out here looking for gothic book recommendations on Reddit, tumblr, and goodreads and WHY is this the first question so many people ask 😭

Look, I love erotica as much as the next person but come on. There have got to be other things that matter when recommending books or choosing to pick one up, my GOD.

[zorionbbq]

based on this video (y4 spoilers)

[lloydfrontera]

the way lloyd will mourn being single and complain about how unfair life is by making some guys extremely handsome. all while being followed around by literally the hottest guy in the world who's hopelessly devoted to him and who has already planned on spending the rest of his life at his side. like. ok. fuck me i guess

[thirdtidemouse]

for anyone who hasnt watched the show this is just sketchbook in matching coats and twig in a dinosaur onesie

the most niche thing i've ever done. kaisa and jo, as jen and nic from daisy may cooper and selin hizli's BBC comedy thriller Am I Being Unreasonable? which is 6 episodes long and freaking awesome.

if anyone is interested in aibu/the basic premise for this au:

this is the original promo pic of jen (ms hizli) and nic (ms cooper)!

johanna lives with her daughter, hilda, the light of her life; her husband, anders, who she doesn't like; and twig, who is missing. she has no real friends, is grieving her parents, and in general is not happy with her life.

kaisa is new in town, and her younger sister (frida, whom johanna mistakes for a daughter) starts at the same school as hilda. kaisa and johanna, equally lonely, quickly become friends, and their sudden, intense connection kind of unravels both of their lives.

both of them are hiding a lot i wont spoil too much!! someone watch aibu so i can talk about this au with them. its like a psychological drama about mothers in their late 30s with lesbian subtext. jen has this really intense protective attachment style and its kind of like love at first sight when she meets nic. and their sons become friends and its just really sweet and sad and scary.

its a show about change and missing cats and being lonely and people's lives falling apart and its so so so so funny. if you like fleabag youd like am i being unreasonable. i'm not trying to sell you anything here but I WANT SOMEONE TO DISCUSS THIS WITH!!!!!

[namisweatheria]

You can defend Sanji’s reasons for treating women the way he does all you want, obviously there is a clear sympathetic angle to view him from, (that I am not immune to!) but that cannot change the fact that he never consistently treats women as regular people, and that is sexist.

Being obsessed with them before knowing them based only on appearance, ignoring what they’re actually saying in favor of believing his single-minded fantasies, constantly trying to play a Prince Charming role with them, which necessarily attempts to place them in a Damsel role whether that accurately reflects their situation and personality or not, being unable to interact with them (if they’re beautiful) without flirting, attempting to invade their privacy and personal space, there’s no reason that can make any of this not sexist.

I’m also amused by how pathetic he is, I also enjoy and appreciate how he’s the butt of these jokes, I also care about the traumas that made him the way he is. I appreciate the kindness and silliness central to his character. I appreciate and enjoy his character development in one of these respects. But none of that makes his constant treatment of women not othering and grating, or compels me to defend him.

There’s this weird glamorizing of his behavior as that of a “hopeless romantic”, which is, you know, clearly true, but not an acceptable reason to treat women as differently as he does. Nor is being a traumatized misandrist who is obsessed with protecting women from the men he hates. There’s no good reason to treat an entire population as an Other the way he does. The fact that it’s a “positive” treatment doesn’t make it less sexist.

I can’t emphasis enough I’m glad there are compelling reasons that make him that way, and I often enjoy his character despite these things, but that’s not going to make me pretend he’s not sexist. I wish that people were more comfortable enjoying characters without defending them from obviously true criticism. It’s okay to love Sanji and also acknowledge he is sexist! We can do both!

[uncanny-tranny]

I think what might actually help the families of trans loved ones is to actually engage with where the trans person is at - especially if the family isn't quite understanding yet. When I came out, I was completely alone in figuring out my manhood. I had peers and I had exposed myself to so many trans people who explored gender, and while it was amazing, it isn't quite the same at times. I grieve quietly, sometimes, about all the missed opportunities that might have just made it easier for my family to have seen how utterly happy I was. It took them a very long time to actually notice that I was happy, especially once I got on testosterone. I'm lucky that they saw that happiness eventually, and slowly accepted it. My manhood is completely detached from their influence, both to my relief and chagrin. It's sad to me that I learned to shave from a kind online stranger, somebody who didn't even have a father and yet, I do. I have a father. I grieve at the loss of a potential shared experience. I grieve about the pain I went through when I was in that stage of transition, especially because it was raw and vulnerable. I grieve that many trans people today are traversing the path I had to, because it's sometimes lonely (even when you do have other forms of support).

It's hard to know that I will never have gotten my sense of being from my family. In many ways, it has severed a lot of connection with them because there were so many times that I was begging them to see happiness when they were focused on the idea that I was almost in a state of purgatory - flesh which felt warm but held no familiarity to them. I don't harbor ill-will toward them, I hope I don't leave the impression that I despise them. I understand what they felt, even if I can't conceptualize it myself. However, it's a raw wound in my heart, and I don't want to leave anybody else feeling that way, either.

[anxiousapplepie]

Have been scrolling the blog. I do think an ISAT/RK AU would be cool, but if it does happen you should definitely finish base RK first, especially if you are feeling burnt out from ISAT at all!

It would be very sensible to finish showing off the basics of RK before combining it with ISAT :3 Especially since the RK AU version of Siffrin and Loop will only make sense once I introduce you guys to the Bugs. I am not sure how long it will take for me to get back into an ISAT mood either, but until then I'm gonna keep drowning myself in roses and plant politics and love every second of it!

[nonasuch]

I do not want to in any way diminish the happiness of the firefighter show fandom — I am genuinely thrilled for you! Having an ostensibly straight main character come out as queer seasons into a show is not something that happens often, and I’m delighted that it happened to your blorbo.

but. i have to admit. a small mean part of me is saying, quietly: my god. did Willow Rosenberg mean nothing to you people.