#also yeah i am Adult With Job

[baked-bread]

amazed at how many customers we get that are clearly just instacart shoppers that are so bad at traversing a store. i've had people ask me for the location of every single item that their customer wanted. people will take up 20-30 minutes of my shift to show them around the store (which isn't that big in the first place) like. sir, have you never bought groceries for yourself?? i am so surprised that they manage to make this their job

[somecunttookmyurl]

all the while society conflates "being an adult" with "having a proper job" and "having money to make arbitrary Adult Purchases" disabled people who can't work - or can only work part time or can only do entry level baby jobs - will never be 'allowed' to be adults

you can say "being an adult is looking after yourself you don't have to have a job!!!" all you want but most people who say that will still assume anybody who doesn't either can't or won't 'look after themselves' actually. and every 'marker' of 'adulthood' that's observable and thus actually counts or whatever loops back around to... having a job and 'contributing' something

[thotsfortherapy]

also I was watching HealthyGamerGG’s video on women with ADHD about how ADHD symptoms in women aren’t interpreted as symptoms, but rather as failings of being a woman… oh you can’t keep the house clean, the kids fed, and the Christmas tree decorated? Bad Woman. You can’t manage your schedule and your husband’s schedule? Bad Woman. You’re too emotionally sensitive and reactive in relationships? Hysterical and probably on your period. It is not seen as a disability or as someone who might need help, instead it’s just chalked up as this internal thing that is wrong with you and they punish you with shame.

It really reminded me of my own mom, how she could never get us to school in time, I would always be the last one picked up from the playground because she would be late, how I had to do my own laundry and make my own lunch (aka just a package of salted crackers because i also had undiagnosed ADHD and could not make my own lunches), how she would randomly fly into rages… and now that I have my own ADHD diagnosis and am trying to work out how live as an adult, I feel like I can extend so much more sympathy towards her. Because I also know how much shame she feels around her inability to “Be a Good Mother” as society wants her to be, and that one of her worst fears is that she is a bad mom. Which sucks! Because it turns out that so many things she did that made me feel like she didn’t care (like missing my school plays) is actually the symptom of a disability that she never got help for. And the only difference between her and me is that we’re living in different eras, we have access to different information, and we have surrounded ourselves with different people. As much as I appreciate my dad, he is not supportive at ALL and makes my mom feel like she’s completely at fault for all her ADHD symptoms.

As opposed to my partner who was like “hey man, I think there is something actually wrong with you let’s get you some help” (after I almost crashed his car lol) and who helps me so much with basic life stuff that when he’s on a shift rotation I can tell not because I notice that he’s gone but because suddenly I am not eating, I am not sleeping, and life suddenly does not go smoothly anymore (why is there no food in the fridge? Who put all these clothes on the floor? Where are my keys?) (obviously I notice he’s gone but life also just coincidentally seems to fall apart whenever he’s not there..)

So much of what I do (and what I can’t do) reminds me of my mom, which gives me a lot of complicated feelings because I never ever wanted to end up like her. But the older I get the less I see someone who is evil and the more i see someone who never got the help they very desperately needed. And that is sad. But then I’m also like damn I wish she had been the one to figure this out, because instead of being able to teach me how to accept my ADHD and work with it, instead she just passed down all the shame, the maladaptive coping mechanisms.. forcing me to sit still, praying to God instead of trying any sort of professional help (no hate if God helps you but therapy was much needed for me), and most importantly just constantly shaming me for things that I am further and further realizing are completely ridiculous to shame someone for 😭 the amount of times I got called weak or sensitive 😭 EXTREMELY ironic considering the shit she’d get mad at me for!

All of this to say,

TURNS OUT THIS IS A DISABILITY, NOT SURE IF ANYONE ELSE KNOWS THAT (sarcasm)

[melancholic-pigeon]

Alright, this is my last comment on the issue, for real this time.

@nerdykeppie is staffed by unprofessional, rude, cruel people who double down on their entitlement to be unprofessional, rude and cruel in public to their former customers.

You should know the sorts of people you're giving money to if you patronize them. The founder is liable to misread your words, lash out at you in anger over something he misunderstood, and generally behave like a tantruming child even if you go out of your way to be polite and give him the benefit of the doubt when he lashes out at you over his own poor reading comprehension.

I'm done getting into this. No, Spider is not ~required~ to be professional on his (public) personal blog which is closely tied to his business. I just think it's extremely stupid to double down on his "right" to be unprofessional on his public blog when he owns a business that is clearly tied to said public blog, because it reflects very poorly on both his personal character and his business. I think it is hilariously foolish and an extremely poor decision to openly advertise and defend your founder's unprofessionalism, which speaks of general lack of professionalism and poor judgment throughout the whole business, not just from Spider (though his lack of good judgment and public unprofessionalism is the most obvious).

So. Best of luck in the people involved resolving whatever problem in their lives that they're taking out on me, and beware interacting with them in any way because they will absolutely be rude as shit to you and then smear you in public and private for (/checks hand) apologizing for a miscommunication because you didn't mean what they incorrectly interpreted you to mean.

I can't fucking believe they still think they're in the right here and *I* am the one who needs to be ~asked not to contact them again~. You answered me THREE TIMES *after* I had blocked you because you cannot let go of the fact that you were wrong about a stupid fucking plastic pumpkin and the fact that I went OUT OF MY WAY to give you the benefit of the doubt.

(two of those three asks were frantic apologies because I genuinely felt terrible, and they were both met with meanness and scorn and snide insults about my communication failures.

Lol. Me. I'm the one who is failing to communicate and has poor reading comprehension because you misunderstood me and started lashing out like I personally strangled all of your pets for having the filthy nerve to apologize and try to clear it up.

Yeah. I'm the villain here. Sure, Jan.)

I'm done now, but enjoy having your unprofessional, cruel, immature nonsense publicly exposed. I stand by my actions (the ones I actually took in real life, not the fake pretend ones you made up because you misunderstood what I wrote) and I look forward to you experiencing the natural consequences of your own.

Don't give money to childish jerks.

[gen-is-gone]

Ye gods, the continued existence of billford antis in 2024 is so genuinely funny that I can't even be annoyed at them. Like, tri-sexuality won, babes. RIP to y'all tho, must be sad to hate fun so much.

[jakeperalta]

spent weeks psyching myself up to stand up to my mum and then immediately got shot down by her 😃👍

[lunar-fey]

ohhhh my god. okay. so. my aunt does like, she buys random junk in bulk from retail wholesalers and then resells it on like, facebook marketplace and ebay and stuff. whatever. so my mom works for her. makes a flat $50 a day, regardless of the fact that shes disabled and doing hard labor for at least 8 hours a day, often 10+. and min wage here is $10 an hour but mom argued that $50 a day is still more than what she would make working the same hours at an actual job because of taxes...like girl that would be 50% taxes. you do not pay that fucking much. so thats already Bad.

but today mom shows me a video of a knife theyre gonna sell, and i watch 2 seconds and i realize its an automatic knife, and i tell her hey. thats illegal to possess in this state. let alone sell! and mom is like ohhh [aunt] knows what shes doing itll be fine.... we sell knives on there all the time she just doesnt put pictures and calls them something else on the listing to get around fb/ebays policies :)

LIKE. HELLO. THATS NOT BETTER. YOURE COMMITTING MULTIPLE CRIMES. *AS YOUR JOB.* and she was just like "its not a big deal she knows what shes doing." folks, this is the same aunt that, very illegally, paid me to sort through her clients confidential tax documents and bank records and stuff. because she works for a bank. and took the records home to sort them. i dont think she DOES know what shes doing, actually!

[bbael]

Oh I just remembered that very early during the pandemic or a little before idk I had a dream on which I was living on a beach town and working as a teacher and I looked very different (long dark hair, prettier, just more mature, normie & put together in general ?) and when I woke up was like haha that's never going to happen, I could never work at a school or get out of the gastronomic system, I'm doing this for life + moving out is impossible anyway with my salary. And now... 5 years later (that felt like much less??) I'm doing (nearly) all that :|

[themyscirah]

When you just want to rant about an obscure character you hate in a worst guy ever poll but he gets put up against a popular character whose presence there is supported by lots of misinfo abt a very specific plot arc (that you havent read) among other things and now the fandom is on fire 😟

[simptasia]

mum and i were almost not able to buy our house because a real estate lawyer heard us casually say i'm autistic and alarm bells went off in her head, because she believed that meant i wasn't mentally capable of understanding what i was signing up for

[whimsicalskeleton]

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[plexippusangel]

I either need to accept that I am just a way stronger person than this friend and can handle way more while still being able to engage with the world as a person, or recognize excuses as excuses, accept that I am not valued and be done or. Maybe both. Idk. It might be somewhere between the two. I am just sick of regular life stuff rendering him unable to spend any time with me, and of him being unable to bear any of the details of my life, when I would move mountains to rekindle our friendship. Though I'm starting to wonder if I still would.

[box-dwelling]

I'm going to be honest, I think banning disposable vapes is going to send smoking rates through the roof. Especially among minors

[bluupxels]

simblr is dead allegations going around again oh brother

[theflyingfeeling]

stupid stupid stupid stupid I am so fucking stupid

(LONG rant in the tags. originally a little longer still but apparently there were too many tags so tumblr deleted the rest lol)

[a-passing-storm]

I HAVE GOTTEN MY FIRST JOB!!!