#also i feel like most trans people i can think of/know are bi or still gay after transitioning
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I feel like people transitioning to escape their sexuality isnt a thing cause... well its a lot cheaper to be gay than trans
#also ngl i dont think trans people are treated better by average society than gay people#and like i am a trans man which is the one where i can see how theoretically at the end you might get less oppression#but like that kinda takes a shit ton of time and effort#like idk ive been out for like 5 years and i havent started to be treated better#i guess i was more bullied in middle school but like everyone was more bullied in middle school#just like truly dont see why anyone would pick this#like dude i break organizational systems just by existing why would anyone want this???#also i feel like most trans people i can think of/know are bi or still gay after transitioning#so like i dont think it adds up
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Cracks knuckles. The hyperfixation is getting too strong, gotta beam queer headcanons at these guys.
007n7 ; Transmasc, He/Any. Especially any pronoun that is similar to he/him with a different spelling (hx/hxm , h3/h1m , hy/hym , ect.) Probably bi or aroace spec, but hx don't got time for all that. (Raising a kid.)
Chance ; Canonically nonbinary, He/They. I'd like to add neos and xenogenders to that. That bitch uses gambling and bunny based genders and neos. Maybe gun ones too. What exactly? Don't know yet. Probably pan, but he never really picked a label. So he'll just say unlabeled most of the time.
Guest 1337 ; Trans vibes... I don't know in what way though. Maybe transfem? She has transfem vibes to me, She/Her. She hung around too many trans people, and boom, egg cracked /silly. I don't know her orientation, she just really loves her wife.
Builderman ; Gender apathetic, probably genderqueer, mostly uses he/him, but doesn't really give a shit. If you use something else, he'll just roll with it. He's got other things to do, than worry about something like that. Also unlabeled, because again, to busy to care. Dude is just existing and living his best life.
Taph ; They/Them and emojipronouns. Definitely uses xenos, don't know what though... And they don't use emojis because they mostly communicate with emojis, common misconception, they do it because they like emojis and seeing people's faces twist up at them. Definitely bi. They just have the vibe.
Elliot ; Dude, he doesn't even know what she is. He's just tryna make sure her teammates eat his pizza, and she makes it through the round /silly. Uses He/She. No preference most of the time, but will sometimes ask people to use one set over the other in certain cases. Mostly when he thinks people use one of her sets more than the other. Orientation? Fucking tired. Again, busy pizza worker man, she ain't got time for it.
Dusekkar ; Mirror pronouns. He'll use he/they as aux pronouns if needed, but she actually uses mirror pronouns. Agender. At least aromatic, maybe asexual. She just. kinda figured out he was aro and left it there.
Shedletsky ; Genderfluid. Any pronouns but also pronounfluid. Like technically she uses any pronouns, so you can't misgender him, put their preferences on what ix's favorite sets are and what feels most comfortable changes. He knows his sexuality is more complicated than just bi, but she never really looked into all that, so ix just says bi.
Noob ; Genderfluid <3. Along with they/them, ze uses neos, often prefers neos. Things like ze/zir, xe/xem, dae/daem, ae/aes. Basically, any non noun or emoji pronoun. Ae will just say dae use they/them though, since it's easier. Queer. Just. queer.
Two Time ; Points at canon. No complaints here. Nonbinary, they/them. Will sometimes use other pronouns. Sometimes they/them just doesn't fit right at the time. Typical doesn't last longer than a day or two. AroAce spec, maybe gray or demi? Azure's the only person they've ever really liked.
John Doe ; He's cishet to me, he/him. Or maybe transhet... I just know he's a guy (or guy esc) who likes women. (Especially his wife. He really loves his wife, even if he can't recall her.)
1x1x1x1 ; Her genderfluid nature captivates me /silly. BUT. He's also pangender and genderflux. They are literally every gender all the time. She just moves between which one she feels most connected to, and how much he's connected to it. Any pronouns. Literally couldn't care about attraction, they're too busy being fueled by rage to worry about that.
Azure ; They/He/It, either genderfluid or flux. Maybe genderfaun? Genderfaun. They haven't settled on a sexuality label. He used to say straight, since it likes girls, but since their relationship with Two Time, he isn't sure anyway. Technically he knows it can still identify as straight, but they just feel weird using the label since then. Then it got Forsakened, and hasn't had the time otherwise to worry.
Jason ; Transmasc nonbinary, He/Him. I do not care about anything the movies tell me. I don't know the other Roblox game he comes from. He's so fucking transmasc coded. I will die on this hill. Literally could care less about sexuality, but if it has to be labeled, gay or bi work best. Maybe even both. He doesn't know, doesn't care.
Noli ; They/He, bigender. I don't know what genders make up his bigender identity, they're just bigender. Sexuality is complicated and tied to his gender in weird ways. He likes women one specific way because he's [gender], and likes men a different way because they're [gender]. So they'll literally use many, many contradictory labels because of this. He's winning at life.
Guest 666 ; Agender and genderfluid at the same time. All pronouns, no preferences, but will let you know if he thinks you're only using one set. She uses all, and would prefer if people used all of their pronouns. Make things up, assign faer things. Beast doesn't care, just don't use a singular set. Like noob, I think ey just says queer. Sexuality is a complicated thing that red never really got around to tackling, so.
Mafia ; He/Him but in a distinctly genderqueer way. I don't know how to word it. His gender can't really be explained by normal terms. A xenogender could probably describe it, but who knows. Also queer. Honestly? I think everything about him can just be described as queer. Definitely could have better / more accurate terms, but he likes using the term queer best, so it's what he uses.
-- While I'm not giving them separate things, his "boys" are also queer. I say "boys" because at least one of them is transfem. She doesn't really care she's a boy though. All of them in a poly relationship. They all love each other. That's all.
Jane Doe ; Cis, she/her. But she has the biggest fucking bi energy around. She just radiates pure bi energy, it's actually insane. She could pull anyone. I believe this with all my heart.
I don't know how much since any of these make. I just had to get my ideas out of my brain / brainstorm ideas for these guys.
All of these are so peak. I love them all.
#forsaken headcanons#forsaken#forsaken roblox#roblox forsaken#007n7 forsaken#shedletsky forsaken#chance forsaken#elliot forsaken#two time forsaken#noob forsaken#dusekkar forsaken#builderman forsaken#taph forsaken#guest 1337 forsaken#john doe forsaken#1x1x1x1 forsaken#noli forsaken#jason forsaken#guest 666 forsaken#jane doe forsaken#mafioso forsaken#azure forsaken#mod missletsky🍗⚔️
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wayne brady is pansexual!!! 💗💛💙🥳
i’m pansexual. in doing my research, both with myself and just with the world, i couldn’t say if i was bisexual, because i had to really see what that was, especially because i really have not gotten a chance to act on anything. so, i came to pansexual because — and i know that i’m completely messing up the dictionary meaning — but to me, pan means being able to be attracted to anyone who identifies as gay, straight, bi, transsexual or non-binary. being able to be attracted across the board. and, i think, at least for me for right now, that is the proper place. i took pan to mean that not only can i be attracted to any of these people or types physically, but i could be attracted to the person that is there. i’ve dealt with the shame. a shame cake, just eating it every single day — and then worried about… people finding out. i’ve always had a wonderful community of friends who are in the lgbtq+ community, people that i’ve grown up with in shows, gays and lesbians, and, later in life, my trans relatives and my niece. i’ve always had that community, but i've always felt like a sham because i wasn’t being forthcoming with myself. i could speak out about black issues because i can’t hide that. and you can play at being an ally, but until the day that you can truly say, “this is who i am, and i wanna stand next to you,” that's not… i always wanted that day to come. i’ve told myself in the past, also, nobody needs to know my personal business. the world can absolutely go without knowing that wayne identifies as pan. but that gave me license to still live in the shadows and to be secretive. what does that feel like to actually not be shameful, to not feel like, “oh, i can’t be part of this conversation because i’m lying?” i had to break that behavior. i’m now trying to be the most wayne brady i can be. i don’t know about most, actually. i’m still coming together. but if i’m healthy, then i can go onstage at let’s make a deal and be the best wayne brady that everybody wants and expects. i can be the best dad that maile needs. i can be the best friend to mandie, the best son to my mother, and one day, the best partner to someone, because i’m doing this for me. not dating yet though! [laughs] i am single, but it’s not about being with someone right now. i’ve got some work to do still. then, wayne as a single, open-minded pansexual can make a decision and be free and open to other people.
i included more quotes from the article than just strictly pan related because it’s quite touching. good for him!!!! 🌈👏🥰
#wayne brady#pansexual#pansexuality#pan pride#pan positivity#long post#mine#text#and yeah his explanation isn't quite how pan is defined but he acknowledges that#and we really need to allow pan people the room and space to explain their pan identity in their own words how it makes sense to them#even if it isn't the textbook definition. other queer people are allowed that so why do pan people get held to a higher standard?#and we're fucking human beings!!! it's weird to expect us to do nothing but spit out preapproved technical impersonal definitions#*1k
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Mspec Lesbian Misconceptions
I still get exclusionary comments and reblogs on my friend's mspec lesbian infographic so I thought I'd make a sort of 'addon post' that answers basically everything!
Please check the infographic out! It's much shorter and it looks pretty
🌺 "Mspec always means that you're attracted to men"
⤷ Mspec is short for the 'multisexual (or other multi- attraction type) spectrum', meaning the attraction to multiple genders. Most folks who experience attraction to women and non-binary genders don't consider themselves mspec, but that doesn't mean that nobody can
⤷ As we understand the complexities of gender more and move past the 'only two genders' way, what counts as being bi or otherwise mspec will change
🌺 "There's no reason to reclaim old uses for the word lesbian from before lesbian separatism"
⤷ Lesbian separatists tried to exclude anyone that associated themselves with men or masculinity from lesbianism. This included bi people, trans people, butches and mascs, lesbians still married to men, lesbians living with men, and more. Some went as far as considering butch-for-femme relationships to be harmful. Why wouldn't people want to reclaim lesbian from a time before this ideology spread? See more here
🌺 "But bi women wanted to make their own spaces and stop using lesbian spaces and the lesbian label" ⤷ Obviously, some bi sapphics of the time would've wanted to be distinctly and only viewed as bi, and have no affiliation with lesbians, but plenty didn't. Implying that the rise of radical feminism in the lesbian community was wanted by all of the people they excluded is ridiculous. It wasn't a consensus
🌺 "Mspec lesbians just want to feel included in lesbian spaces"
⤷ You've hit the nail on the head actually, this isn't the gotcha you think it is. Mspec sapphics were originally welcome to use the word lesbian and exist in the lesbian community, and then they weren't, so some of them would like to be included again yes
🌺 "It takes away spaces that are just for monosexual lesbians"
⤷ There have been attempts made to create terms for monosexual lesbians (though usually people just mean 'not attracted to men' rather than monosexual), but the lesbian community thrived with bisexuals in it for a long time. Lesbian spaces are heavily dominated by monosexual lesbians as well
⤷ The real question here is why are you so keen to know for definite that nobody in your space is attracted to men? And what are you counting as 'attracted to men'? Are you assuming it based on dating habits? What label they use? What you consider to be attraction? Everyone views this stuff differently, you can't police it properly
🌺 "Lesbian can't be used in the split attraction model, it means no attraction to men at all"
⤷ Insisting that someone has to use 'homoromantic' rather than lesbian just because they're bisexual or vice versa is pointless. Not only is lesbian a more open and functional label (it specifies attraction to women and doesn't imply that the user is also a woman), but defining it as an absence of attraction to men is very 1970s lesbian separatist of you
🌺 + "If you're fluid between mspec and lesbian just say abrosexual", "If you heavily prefer women just say homoflexible" and so on so forth
⤷ There are probably terms that technically apply to you that you don't use because you're not connected to the label or it doesn't fit quite right. The same applies here. Abrosexual is very broad, homoflexible implies 'same gender' attraction to women, and we've established that there's nothing stopping them from using mspec and lesbian instead
#lesbian#misconceptions#mogai#lgbtq#pride month#radinclus#inclusion#inclusivity#lesbian positivity#lesbian awareness week#sapphic#wlw#nblw#queer#mogai flag#mspec lesbian#bi lesbian#pan lesbian#omni lesbian#lunian#lesbian pride#lesbian community#lesbian history#mspec#bisexual#bi#pansexual#pan#omnisexual#omni
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My Two Cents On The “ Is David Tennant Queer” Drama
As some of you know, I spent a solid third of the past year working on a movie-length video essay about David Tennant. This video essay features an eight minute section titled “Gender, Vulnerability, and Why David Tennant Is A Queer Icon”, which does not speculate on David’s own sexuality, but discusses the queer coding and subversion of gender norms in plenty of his roles and his importance as an ally to the LGBT community. At the same time, I was also coming to terms with my own identity as nonbinary and bisexual, and it ended up playing a crucial role in me finally working up the courage to come out to my parents. Characters like Crowley and the Doctor, both in terms of how they present themselves and how and who they love, have been absolutely instrumental in me developing my queer identity, and my comments section was full of people who had had similar experiences, who’d realized they were trans, nonbinary, gay, etc thanks to David and his characters. And as a result, I won’t deny that if David himself were to be queer, it would mean a lot to me.
Do I think David is queer? It’s certainly possible. I see a lot of how I express my queerness in how david chooses to express himself, most prominently through his frequent queer coding of characters who don’t necessarily have to be played as such. This can especially be seen through his Shakespeare characters, such as Richard, Hamlet, and some would argue Benedick as well. When I was 15 I played Mercutio in Romeo and Juliet, who I chose to play as a closeted young gay man harboring an unrequited crush on Romeo. I think I saw this role subconsciously as an outlet for my own repressed queerness, both of gender and sexuality, as I had experienced an unrequited crush on my female best friend the previous year which I was still in denial about. I’ve described my gender identity as “a girl with a chaotic tortured gay man inside of her that needs to be let out every once in a while”, which has never been more true than with Mercutio- a character who I might add, I took a great deal of inspiration from David when playing! In terms of using roles as an outlet for one’s queerness, I could absolutelt see this being true with David, especially when it comes to Crowley, who seems to have had an impact on David’s style, behavior, etc in a rather similar way to how he’s impacted me. I don’t want to act like David wearing pink docs means he must be gay, I think people should be allowed to wear whatever they want regardless of sexuality, but taken in conjunction with so many other things about him, it does make one wonder, and the fact that a seemingly straight man has been so many people’s queer awakening is a bit puzzling to say the least. I won’t pretend that these “signs” (if you interpret them that way), haven’t been increasing somewhat in the past year, and if I got to share my own coming out journey with the man who inspired it, I would be absolutely thrilled. I also can’t specifically think of an instance where David has SAID he is straight, as opposed to Taylor swift, who has.
With all of that said, where I personally draw the line is when mere speculation crosses into interfering with the subject’s personal relationships and the sense that one is OWED something. I believe that what matters to David more than anything is being a husband and a father. I believe he adores Georgia and his children and would not do anything in the world that he believes would jeopardize his family. As happy as I would be for David if he were to come out (probably as bi) I realize that that would put so much unwanted attention on his marriage and family and I think that’s the last thing he wants. I don’t think it’s IMPOSSIBLE that he and Michael Sheen are having a passionate love affair behind everyone’s backs, but I absolutely don’t consider it my place to insist that they are, because as much as I may feel like I do, I don’t know these people! And besides, if David were cheating on Georgia, he really would not be the person I thought he was.
So many queer people see themselves in David and his characters, and that is beautiful. And I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with having theories that David might be queer himself. However, it must be acknowledged that these theories are THEORIES, and they should not be used to invalidate people’s real life relationships- after all, it’s totally possible to be bi/pan and also be in a loving and healthy heterosexual relationship like David and Georgia at least seem to be in! If David were in fact “one of us”, I would welcome him with the openest of open arms, but unless and until he himself decides to proclaim himself that way, I will not expect anything of him other than to be the incredible artist and person we know and love.
#David tennant#michael sheen#georgia tennant#queer#lgbt#bisexual#nonbinary#Rpf#Personal#meta#I try really hard not to discuss David’s sexuality online#But people are so divided on this topic and I wanted to voice my thoughts seeing as I stand somewhat in the middle#good omens#doctor who#Crowley#The tenth doctor#hamlet#the fourteenth doctor#much ado about nothing#benedick#richard ii
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things i love about heartstopper 11/?
Isaac Henderson. I love this boy so fucking much. He's sweet, he's funny, he's thoughtful, he's stylish, he's kind... He's a goddamn delight and also all the feels. (Tobie Donovan is SO GOOD you guys!!?)
The moment in ‘Truth/Dare’ where he comes back into the party? Those tears? Then when he’s on the balcony alone?

The times he opens a book in S2 and S3 but ends up ruffling the pages because he can’t read it?
His face when he’s gazing up at the art in ‘Sorry’ and seeing himself? My heart!

Then when he's watching Tori and Michael (two more characters I could rant about forever) in 'Apart'?? Just inject that shit into my veins.
"I know they would be [supportive about being aro/ace]. I just can't be bothered to give everyone a vocab lesson." ('Love') So goddamn real. Even knowing all your friends would be there for you, having to explain yourself is isolating. (Side note, I love that Charlie does go home and google what aromantic means and lets Isaac know.)

Realising you’re gay or bi or pan or trans is hard. But realising you’re on the ace spectrum is a whole different type of hard. It's so invisible even now. Even his friends who are accepting and loving keep making him feel excluded without ever realising, because they never consider that this is something they should account for. A lot of us find so much safety in queer spaces because people know us (or parts of us) without us having to educate them, but for ace/aro/demi people, even really welcoming queer spaces can be as isolating as cishetero ones. (Side note, it can be a very odd experience having part of yourself feel so seen in queer spaces, while another is still invisible.)
“It changes everything I thought I knew about myself. And about my life and my future.” ('Talk')
It’s so true, and such a gut punch. I think most queer people have a moment like this when we're figuring out who we are, but for aro/ace/demi people there's still not many visible potentials. For gay/bi/queer people, we have visible queer relationships to look to. For trans people, we have visible trans people to look to. NB folk are closer in experience to aro/ace, but even there, we see more representation even a few decades ago. And these are all things that are visible in our local queer spaces in a way ace/aro/demi people's experiences aren't - they're mostly seen as "just single", as "not yets". Our community haven't learnt to see something else yet. Isaac's story is so fucking important and he’s such a beautiful character and I love him so much. (Also Tori is so great for this, but she needs her own post!)
Isaac is also courageous and principled. Lecturing Harry Greene on basic human empathy under the Eiffel Tower?? Iconic.
Bonus points for all the ways he’s the sweetest human. He knows Charlie isn’t okay and he’s trying his best to be there for him, even though Charlie can't accept it. “You said you were okay and I guess you just lied. I mean, I kind of knew that" ('Journey' - didn't check the exact quote sssh). Ugh, ugly crying.
Luckily it doesn’t hurt all the time either. His humour is tragically underrated imho. In no specific order:
*kicks over the monopoly board to end an argument without even opening his eyes* "Oh, whoops."
“They’re just in the honeymoon phase.” “It’s not like they’re even dating.” “Unless they are.”
His completely unsubtle smirk when he’s delivering antiseptic wipes.
"Ooh I might have been asleep...!"
“No, I want all the details!”
I would watch a whole series about him and his side eye and his adorable smile I love him.
#isaac henderson#tobie donovan#heartstopper show#heartstopper#things i love about heartstopper#charlie spring#alice oseman#heartstopper netflix#osemanverse
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I see so many posts over different social media platforms about sexuality/gender hcs for the strawhats and i want to add in my own two cents because i believe im very correct (but anyone’s opinion is valid so long as it doesnt go against canon coding)
Luffy - the most aroace and trans guy to ever BREATHE. i dont mean aroace in that hes somewhere on the spectrum where he can still be attracted to people, because he cant. this guy had never grasped the concept of romance and never will, because theres no reason for it to him. hes trans because i say he is, i dont have many reasons for THAT but its just the signals hes sending me. trans to trans communication trust
Zoro - gay. thats it thats the post. no but i dont ship luffy with anyone but zoro is just attracted to literally any man who is strong, thats his criteria and thats all he ever needs. is he aware of it? not at all, he has no idea that its not normal to get bricked up by the thought of other men
Nami - i havent seen a bigger lesbian in media ever, genuinely i dont think any other character is as obviously lesbian as she is. she loves girls unapologetically no matter what, supports all girls at the end of the day (cough kalifa) . i also hit her with the asexual beam because i can, specifically demisexual because i THINK so
Usopp - while i wanna consider kaya, i wanna consider sanji too and thats making me lean between bi or omni even if omni is a label under the bi umbrella. its more a question of if he recognises his preference for men or not, because he does prefer then at the end of the day. the ace beam bounces from nami to usopp because he too doesnt feel anything and doesnt think about it either
Sanji - oh my god where do i begin. maybe just the blatant queer coding of wci as a whole?? of course hes attracted to women, thats not an aspect you can remove or just toss around to being something else. he loves and respects women, but he is so QUEER. all of wci is just queer coding, its a queer story and sanji is a queer character i will die on this hill. he probably has some kind of gender issues too, what specifically? no clue, but he likes people of multiple genders and is in deep denial about it all the time he wont ever truly accept it but he can one day as a treat live with that fact
Chopper - oh hes a reindeer he cant really have a sexuality DID WE FORGET THE FACT HES HUMAN TOO ISNT THAT LIKE HIS WHOLE THING, NOT BEING A MONSTER BUT ALSO A HUMAN. HE IS BOTH? i dont have any specific labels to slap onto him, just that hes a people lover and encourager of literally everything. ace beam bounces onto him too
Robin - trans trans trans trans trans trans trans trans you will accept robin transfem into your life right here right now. she can like anyone, she has no label on it, she just likes people and cant bother with genders or anything like that. the ace beam actually skips her because if they were doing a hear me out cake she’d be the one putting all of the crazy things. freak. (lovingly)
Franky - HOW TRANS CODED IS IT NOT TO REBUILD YOUR OWN BODY TO BECOME A BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF AND TO REBUILD YOUR LIFE IN A WAY YOU WANT, BUT GOING BACK TO WHAT YOU LOVED ABOUT YOUR OLD SELF, AND EMBRACING IT. literally, trans goals. he modified his body and went i might as well give myself top surgery and an awesome dick while im here!! sexuality wise hes a lover of everyone, but he has preferences for women (robin) but encourages all bromances (with brook)
Brook - THIS IS WHERE IM MOST PASSIONATE!!!! people can say that hes the token straight grandpa. but theyll never understand the joy of old gay brook had a romance with his captain, the joy of brook trying to subtlety let the other strawhats know he accepts them (he isnt subtle at all and everyone knows). look at brook in drag twice for no reason and tell me he isnt queer, in some way. the ace beam finally hits someone and its brook, insert skull joke here
Jinbei - very specifically old gay man who didnt really do much throughout his youth, he always knew he liked men but he never had TIME to do anything, too busy being awesome and a father i fear. now that hes with the crew he isnt automatically gonna seek anyone out, but hes also not gonna restrain himself from finding interests in people, hes being more selfish now and thats good for him. finally the ace beam hits jinbei and proceeds to fly off towards other op characters that i might talk about some other time
can you tell im asexual and love projecting onto characters with it !!!!
#one piece#headcanon#straw hat pirates#straw hat crew#one piece strawhats#monkey d. luffy#roronoa zoro#nami#sanji#black leg sanji#tony tony chopper#nico robin#franky#soul king brook#first son of the sea jinbe#jinbei#jimbei#sexuality#gender#lgbtqia#wow this took long to tag and write#noahsop
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can i ask for some sex advice? im a bisexual trans guy, i’ve been with cis women and had hookups with a cis guy where he just went down on me. i’m generally attracted to all genders, but sexually i find myself turned off/repulsed by penises and cum so i’ve only pursued hookups with ppl with vulvas (so far cis women and other ftms) or situations where i don’t have to interact with the penis. totally fine with trans women and femmes who are post-op, etc. i’ve just been worried that i’m gross/transphobic/a chaser? even though im bi i feel like a shitty person for not being into dick.
Hey, thanks for the question. I think it is a good thing to be asking oneself. I think that even if you were to conclude that your attitudes were transphobic, I don't think the solution would be pushing yourself to have sex you didn't want to have or trying to force yourself to "get over" the associations that you have. That won't work, and it's not your fault for having them. What matters is how we treat people, not what fleeting thoughts and emotions we might have privately, which is part of why it is so annoying for cis people to act as if they are persecuted for having a "genital preference" or whatever. The problem isn't their feelings. It's their exclusionary, cruel, often violent actions and the words they express publicly.
I think it's worth contemplating that many trans femme people have absolutely no desire to use their penises during sex, or can't because of various medical issues, and do not produce cum that looks anything like the way most cis men produce cum. How would you feel about a trans woman who does have a penis using a strap-on on you? About you two fisting each other? About you using a hitachi magic wand on her? How do you feel when you see a trans guy with a post-phalloplasty cock? Try to reflect on questions like these with curiosity and not judgement.
Maybe you will explore your feelings and find that there are still barriers; maybe for example you wouldn't feel comfortable going down on someone's penis, but would be happy to be fucked with a strap-on by someone who has a penis, or to fuck them. That's okay. Lots of trans women want exactly that kind of sexual encounter anyway. And lots more are open minded and recognize that T4T sex is experimental and free-floating and doesn't have to involve any specific sex acts. Negotiating these things should be done delicately and respectfully, but it is always fine to say "I don't do [xyz]" or "I don't want to do xyz right now."
I relate more to your question that you might know, albeit from a different direction. I have a lot of dysphoria about having a vagina; though PIV can feel good, what I most picture myself as having in my mind's eye is nothing at all between my legs. I hate receiving oral, as I've talked about a lot, but I'm also dysphoric about and disturbed by giving oral to a person with a vagina. I have also experienced a lot of sexual trauma that involved a (typically cis male) partner forcing or pressuring me to have sex with cis women. That's happened to me many times over the course of my life. It's also made facing any pressure whatsoever to have sex with women (either cis or trans) deeply triggering and upsetting to me.
All of my own personal hang-ups and traumas have left me feeling funnily very much like that one line from Saltburn, "Women are too wet. Men are so lovely and dry."
I do get into my head about it being super transphobic of me sometimes. But I have also had fun, carefree, experimental, gratifying, hot sex with trans men with vaginas. I might not be able to eat them out, but there's lots I can do. I can finger them, put my hands in them, eat their asshole, take their strap, suck their strap-on, kiss them, fondle them, play with their nipples, be fucked alongside them, writhe atop a single hitachi together with them, slap their ass, put a dildo in them, whatever. I just don't want to eat them out or have them eat me out, for the most part.
It would be highly understandable if a trans guy felt invalidated by my feeling that way or didn't want to have sex with me given those limits. that's fine. I understand this stuff is fraught and sucks sometimes. I don't talk about my feelings around this topic publicly often because it is so contentious and I don't want feelings to be hurt. But in my heart I'm comfortable with where I am at. I know which limits I have that seem immovable and I don't really want to push them ever again. Having those limits pushed is what traumatized me. At the same time, I know it's not connected in any way to seeing trans men as lesser than cis men, or as less attractive, and I know it's not a barrier to me having sex with trans men if the moment and our interests both align. I'm not a bad person for feeling this way. It's actually really hard to be trans and to be wired this way. But I'm doing the best I can with it to both grow, and not be an asshole, and also to find fulfillment.
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So wild to see someone claim that transfems are the only marginalized people who are not taken seriously when they talk about the problems they face. Like have you ever talked to another marginalized person before? All marginalized people deal with not being taken seriously, that's kinda one of the biggest components of systemic oppression. Society not taking your suffering seriously or believing it doesn't exist in the first place is the reason laws are so hard to change, if the people in power don't think your suffering is real or they think it's not that bad/how you should be treated why would they lift a finger to help? A significant portion of de-radicalizing bigots is helping them see that marginalized people are treated unfairly and that we should do something about it, because the system is designed to deny that things like transphobia and racism exist so thoroughly that the average person can end up doubting that it happens.
Disabled, fat people, intersex people, and yes even cis women, die all the time because society does not take us seriously when we talk about our problems, and fuck "do bi+/ace/aro/enby people actually face bigotry" discourse is happening everywhere all the time. That's gotta be one of the most out of touch things I've ever seen someone say, how could you possibly believe that transfems are the ONLY group not taken seriously when they talk about their problems?? The walking on eggshells thing around cis men part is wild too like hello have you ever tried to combat bigotry small scale? Because it's a lot of walking on eggshells around people who have power over you in the hopes you can convince them to treat you like a person, partially because that person often holds the kind of power over you that could get you killed or worse. Suggesting that this is somehow unique to trans women is one step away from arguing that transfems are the only people that experience bigotry at all.
None of us are taken seriously because it's hard to accept that you are not the only person being hurt. Even if you aren't oppressed at all you are always going to believe your suffering is the worst and most important because your body is trying to prioritize your survival to keep you alive, which then colors everything about how you see the world, including other people's suffering. Most of us learn at some point that everyone's suffering matters and other people getting a slice of cake doesn't mean there's less for us, but unfortunately some people have become so entrenched in their own suffering the idea that anyone else could also be suffering and have a right to talk about it feels like an attack. So often we see people saying bigoted things insist acknowledging the suffering of others means you are denying that they suffer even though it isn't true. White people do this shit all the time with racism, pulling the "how dare you say black people suffer don't you know that I have problems too??" card like their life depends on it the second someone suggests that parts of the game might be rigged in their favor, or when cis women insist that talking about trans issues is hurting them by somehow denying that they have problems, or when TRFs insist talking about the issues transmascs, nonbinary, and intersex people is unacceptable and transmisogynistic because somehow suggesting that any other queer folks suffer is the exact same as saying transfems don't suffer at all.
If some trans women/fems truly think that they are the only people who do not have their suffering taken seriously, I just don't know. I don't know how anyone could think that unless they've either never actually listened when another marginalized person brings up their problems, or they think everyone not paying attention to their suffering and their suffering only 24/7 and still centering them even if the conversation is about something that has nothing to do with them at all surely must mean no one cares about them and they are the most hated and marginalized people on earth, or both!
It's "I am uncomfortable when we are not about me" all the way down, and it's exhausting in it's immaturity. You can talk about how people don't listen to trans women/fems without suggesting or even stating that they are the only people this is happening to when that is so provably incorrect it's contradicting the very basis of what oppression is. If that's your take on social justice you need to go back to class. Accepting that one of the biggest parts systemic oppression and bigotry is people in positions of power not taking the suffering of the oppressed seriously/denying that it happens at all or that when it does it's a bad thing should not need to be explained to you.
very well said anon <3
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Random valorant agents headcanons bc I'm sleep deprived
(this means I didn't get my 12 hours of sleep today)
Brimstone
Hugest ally on the VP (which, lets be honest, doesn't mean much since they're all gay)
First person KJ came out to and he was so emotional about it
Constantly tries to get the agents to get closer or at least respect each other but after Cypher mentioned how him and Breach treat one another he gave up
Calls some agents (Viper, Sage and Killjoy) by their first names on the everyday and calls Sova, Chamber and Deadlock (the other ex militars) by their last names
I wanted to hc him an American football team but idk any💞💞💞
Viper
Brimstone and Vyse are the only ones to call her Sabine bc they know her since before the "incident"
KJ also used to call her Sabine before the VP but Viper was bitter abt agents calling her by her first name
Scared for her life of failing Reyna, not because she actually fears her, but because she actually cares about Lucia
Older sister who lost contact with her family
Aroace
Has a snake named Viper that is older than the protocol
Omen
Is annoyed by people mistaking knitting with crochet
Very kind to the younger agents
In his own way though
Killjoy
Has an older sister who doesn't talk to her since she was a teenager
HOW DOES ONE BECOME THE LEAD OF A WHOLE DIVISION ON SUCH A HUGE CORPORATION AT THE AGE OF 18???!$+2+_(not a hc, just a concern)
The fact her dad died before she was born probably has something to do with her closeness to Cypher and Brimstone
Rich af but rents an apartment with another girl and that place is absolutely precarious
Pays the rent monthly even if she doesn't spend a single night there
Has a huge lesbian flag on the living room and that has gotten her very straight roommate into delicate situations with her boyfriends
Her roommate is Brazilian from São Paulo bc I want her to
Very easily impressed by anything Raze does even if it's something she can do a thousand times better
I feel like she would main a duelist if she played val, probably Reyna or Raze
Cypher
Has a picture of his wife and kids on his bedside table
He keeps Nora's favorite clothing and his children's baby toys
Girl dad obv
Killjoy reminds him of his oldest daughter and sometimes he calls her his daughter's name
Hates kingdom but since he joined the protocol he learned how to convive with their workers, even if he doesn't like it most part of the time
Scares little kids on Roblox for fun
Wouldn't mind having a relationship with a man but after Nora he can't imagine himself in another relationship so he doesn't give it a try
(I love him and Nora😭)
Sova
Calls the other agents by their first names
Was friends with Sage since before the protocol
Recommend Sage to Brimstone
One of the only coworkers Viper enjoys the company of
Once he tried to speak Spanish to mess around with Reyna and Raze swore he was speaking Portuguese bc of the accent
Trans bc I want to project into my fav characters
Morning walks
Sage
Calls everyone by their first names
Has two younger siblings but she hasn't had notice of them since she started the monk training
Misses them
Met Skye when researching about her healing powers, Skye was doing the same
Born radiant
Great at cooking but Jett gaslit her into thinking it was bad as a joke and she still believes it
After Harbor joined the VP she got back into cooking
Lesbian bc I said so
Not much close to the other women in the protocol, only Skye, Jett, Neon and Reyna
Closer to the men on the VP (Sova, Brimstone, Cypher, Iso, Omen etc)
Doesn't have a clue of why Clove doesn't like her
Phoenix
Nerd
This man is a canon theater kid, he absolutely LOVES musicals, specially Hamilton and Jett and Raze tease him Abt being British and liking it
Bi
For some reason Jett gaslights him into thinking he's actually gay, obviously never worked
Him and Jett break up for the most ridiculous reasons, they've already broken up more times than one can count on fingers
Banned from every kitchen he steps on
Learned Korean só Jett would shut up about her being bilingual while he only spoke English
Once he let Astra undo his dreads to give him braids, it was the saddest day of his life
Raze bullies him for his style💔💔💔💞
Jett
Can cook five stars dinners but insists on eating leftovers she finds on the fridge and steals from the other agents
Doesn't dare touching Chamber's "monstrosities of dishes"
Makes people their favorite dinner and a special breakfast on their birthdays
Cooks for the whole protocol on weekends
Most my hc surround on the fact she's always eating something and was a chef😔
Gaslights everyone into believing the most random and/or stupid things and has actually convinced Gekko that dog is a common dish in east Asia
First thing she asks every east Asian she meets outside of east Asia is if they eat dog
Sage was mad at her for this
Also bi
Reyna
Actually very caring and worried for most agents
Siblings relationship with Yoru
Randomly starts speaking Spanish to Sage just to annoy her
Learned Chinese just to mess around with Sage
Lesbiana
Flirts with Breach as a joke
Iso actually believed she and Breach were a couple when he arrived
Homophobic to Raze and Killjoy
Non ironically has offered to find Raze a better girlfriend than Killjoy
Wants to be a mother but can't because of her duties and Sage doesn't like children
Raze
BRAZILIPPINES
Hugest anarcocomunist
Grafitti artist
Has sent Kingdom, Killjoy and Viper dozens of blackmails before joining the protocol
Didn't like Killjoy for her first years in the protocol
Boombot was created as a "rebellion" from Killjoy's tech with an alarmbot that Kingdom placed near her house
Has a younger brother who is her absolutely whole world
Capoeira.
Breach
Actually speaks Portuguese very well
Dad jokes
Hates children and the only exception is Raze's younger brother
Please please please please please read the joke I posted😭
Didn't get along with Deadlock nor Chamber at first
Gets along well with Cypher, Harbor and Fade
Likes men and makes it everyone's business and is very annoying to homophobes about it (bi)
Has kissed Harbor once just to see the look of terror on a homophobic guy's eyes
Skye
Lesbian
Owes a personal gun that she uses to scare bigots and idiots in general
Was guilty about rejecting Yoru
Still is very close to him
Skyelock beloved
The ship name should be changed to Hiking Buddies or something
Can make a cat with her powers and it plays with Nightmare when it's starting to affect Fade too much
Closer to Fade than most agents think
Morning walks with Sova and Deadlock
Yoru
Has a huge knowledge on east Asian culture in general
Speaks ainu and a little uchinaguchi
Values culture and tradition more than his life
Constantly educating Jett on Korean traditions???
Mansplains a lot
Neon (single) teases him for being single
Has the "lesbian curse" in which every woman he likes is a lesbian and it's starting to develop into an "aroace curse"
Homophobic to Killjoy
Misogynist to Killjoy
everything you can think that is bad against Killjoy
And Reyna is with him on these
Astra
Pansexual
Nerd on physics
Knows a lot about quantum physics
That was me projecting, sorry
I need more astra content to make more headcanons 😔😔😔
Galaxsea/ astrarbor/ Neptune/ sea star
Born radiant
KAY/O
Doesn't actually have feelings, he's just programmed to make humans feel loved (besides, obviously, being a war machine)
It was a way of keeping the non radiant soldiers hopeful during the radiant war
He's a robot, of course he doesn't have feelings
Killjoy is absolutely fascinated by him and wonders if it was her who built him or at least made his project
The "hatred" he has for the radiants is also a way of keeping the non radiants feeling safe and appreciated
Sage is the exception from his radiant hatred because she's always appeared to be against Reyna's radiant dominant ideal world and he read that as a powerful ally to his cause
He's AI ofc he's gonna be a little dumb even though he's from like 2060
Chamber
I refuse to
Does he like men?
Was homophobic to Killjoy and Raze when they started dating and to Sage and Reyna
Was actually homophobic
Turned out he likes men???
I'm confused
I don't like him
Neon
BRAZILIPPINES
She probably knew Killjoy before the VP or at least heard about her not as an professional but as a person
Definitely likes women
Since she became a radiant at such a young age and os so powerful there were probably lots of accidents
Was mostly isolated from the outside for a long time before the thing that is sticked to her back was finished
That'd explain why she doesn't like making new friends, she doesn't know how to
Knows a lot of stuff involving quantum physics and science since her parents work at kingdom and she has worked with them
Fade
Constantly found sleeping on the floor
Sometimes she leaves Nightmare out of her bedroom to get a peaceful night of sleep
Goes to sleep on about the same time Skye is waking up
Fadelock goes hard too
You'll rarely see her awake but when you do she looks like she hasn't slept in a decade
Doesn't actually sleep, just take 30 min naps throughout the day
Took a while to stop calling Harbor "agent Batra" during missions
I just checked and that is lore inaccurate but idc
Likes men and women, never stopped to think of it as "oh, I'm lgbt" that's just one more small detail about her
Had a cat that her brother gave her when she was a kid, it died of kidney failure a few years before she joined realm
Harbor
History and architecture nerd
Also a philosophy enthusiast
Has a tattoo that says "Memento mori et memento vivere" and that's what caught Astra's attention at first
Him and Astra spend a lot of time just nerding around
He's very caring yet not much protective to the younger agents
Randomly throws water at people who walk by
Breach and Deadlock learned on the hardest way not to be around him with a glass of water
Calls Fade Hazel because at first he thought that was how it was and never corrected it
Older brother of two sister
Pansexual
Gekko
Grafitti artist
Is an only child but is very close to the children is his neighborhood
Gay
That guy looks so gay I'm gonna cry
Has a dog named Lizard
Him and Raze talk to each other in Spanish and Portuguese and it's an absolute nightmare for others to decifrate their alien language
Asked Sage if people actually eat dogs in Asia and was punished for a week, Reyna had lots of fun
Jett still teases him about it
She told Iso about that and every time Gekko asks him what he's eating he says it's dog
Him and Deadlock are actually chill about each other for as long as one doesn't cross the other's boundaries when it comes to his radivores
Deadlock
This woman doesn't have a drop of heterosexuality on her body
She thought she liked Iso but it turned out he was just the only one not asking her to get along with radivores and radiants
Hates when she's called by her first name
Skye, Sage and Sova call her Iselin or Ise
Lost contact with her family and legally got rid of her last name Legally got rid of her last name as a way to try to protect her parents from potential threats related to her missions (edited bc apparently Frøya and Anna were indeed Iselin's sisters and I was too stupid to notice)
Fadeskyelock(?)
Used to go on lots of missions involving radivores before the VP but after the polar bear she didn't trust herself near them again
Graduated in biology
She wanted to be a scientist when she was a kid
Used to be obsessed about radivores and radiance before the bear
Iso
Can't cook for his life
Used to think he liked Deadlock but it was just compulsory heterosexuality
Aroace
Not much close with most agents but Sage and Deadlock
Him and Raze are absolute nightmares to go in mission with, those mfs listent to music so loud they can't hear anything else
KJ was scared of him
Only listens to music that are on languages he doesn't speak
Raze showed him Brazilian funk and he started listening to it during missions
Clove
Don't give a shit if they're misgendered
The pet rock is to throw at those who insist that they're a woman even after they correct them
Sleeps the whole day and is awake during the whole night
Immortal, queer, sleeps during the day... Are they a vampire?!
Randomly dresses up fancy and stays on that fit for the whole day, they can be seen wearing a suit during missions in breeze
Spends all their time awake doing unproductive stuff
Vyse
Was a physicist and later got into engeneering
She can't really remember those last years before the scions took her
Was took by the scions by Omen but none of them know
Doesn't like Iso
Her and Viper used to be very close friends, their friendship cou be compared to Jett and Phoenix's, they were very spontaneous
The "incident" was something involving her but no one really remember how it was
Ace
Had a cat named Jaguar
#astra valorant#brimstone valorant#breach valorant#clove valorant#chamber valorant#cypher valorant#deadlock valorant#fade valorant#gekko valorant#harbor valorant#iso valorant#jett valorant#kay/o valorant#killjoy valorant#neon valorant#omen valorant#phoenix valorant#raze valorant#reyna valorant#sage valorant#skye valorant#yoru valorant#viper valorant#vyse valorant#valorant#headcanon#galaxsea#firestorm#skyelock#fadelock
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‼️⁉️🙏🏽 Gotta be the first to request you know what I'm saying
Can you make a poly relationship between the male reader (preferably FTM but whatever works), Sanji and Zoro!
It can be any scenario because I can't think (don't be angst, not trying to cry my eyes out.)
- Mr. Off




╰┈➤ ZORO & SANJI
🎀 ;; fluff,male reader (ftm),poly <3,fem dni,bad grammar,idk if it’s angst(im sorry 😭if it is),lazy at the end,ooc(like always)
🌸 ;; got not idea for an one shot
HEADCANONS,,
• The thought of dating both Zoro and Sanji was something that you didn’t expect. You never thought that’ll happen.
• when you first interact with Zoro and Sanji it wasn’t like love at first sight you were quite distant. They didn’t mind of course.
• you started to get along with Sanji,because of your cooking skills how bad/good you were at it. Then with Zoro it’s mostly because of some missions/adventure forced both of you to socialize a bit to not be awkward.
• As the months passed, you began to develop some feelings for these two people. At first you didn’t thought much of it but when you started to realize this love who was more than that of a love of friendship,you panicked.
• Sanji was huge womanizer and Zoro,well you didn’t know much. You began to deny those feelings.
• after finding out this feeling,talking to them wasn’t like before it wasn’t smooth and sweet it was hesitant.
• Sanji was the first to notice your change of attitude. He always observed you whether from far or near [kinda creepy].
• when you came in the crew he didn’t thought much of you,women was his top priorities.When you mentioned your cooking skills he wanted to see how ‘good you were.
• that’s what made you guys closer than b4. The cook started to caught some feelings for you,he didn’t want to believe it,him falling for a man ? And it took time for him to realize his feelings[you’re totally his bi awakening w Zoro🔥]
• Finally,Zoro,he realized your change of attitude when he was talking and he just turned his head around for few seconds you already disappeared.
• he didn’t know what to say he was just irritated. It also took a while for Zoro to start having feelings for you.
• You guys got closer because of a random situation you guys got yourselves into. He first impression on you was that you’re gonna be as annoying as Sanji [judging by your looks] he thought wrong.
• Zoro isn’t best with emotion and everybody know it. When he find out his crush for you well he asked Robin some help she was kind of surprised ‘cause Zoro seems like a person who wouldn’t fall in love with someone but she didn’t judge and said ‘you should confess first,[Name] isn’t the type to confess first.’
• When Sanji found out about Zoro’s crush he wasn’t happy about [ofc he wouldn’t 😒] but he decided to not fight about it.
• He chooses to share you,Zoro was surprised by that but he didn’t mind it the rivalry between them was still there.
• They both asked you out,you felt your face turning warm and you mumble your words well you accept both of them.
• The first time getting together was quite awkward none of you really dated someone.(maybe sanji)
• but you guys started to get comfortable after few months. Sanji and Zoro started to fight over you,of who could make you feel better.
• at first it was a little annoying but you get used to it.
• When you guys go on dates it’s really funny [for you specially] seeing them fight makes you laugh for some reason.
• baths. Baths with each other,well Sanji and Zoro are both male assigned At birth,you were ashamed of your chest scars and genital pars and so uncomfortable.
• They didn’t want to force you,so they waited until you were comfortable.
•but you finally decided to fight it and tell them that you’re a trans guy,well they aren’t the first person you told about your transition [it was chopper] and you knew they will not care about it and support you.
• It was in the kitchen,Sanji on Zoro were both here. "I’m trans." You blurted. Zoro was the one who was the most confused in the kitchen,but he didn’t cared about it so much he supported you and told you that a man shouldn’t be ashamed of his scars.
• Sanji was supporting you,and will be helping you the most in your dysphoric day calling some randoms manly petnames to comfort you.(he’s such a bbg <3)
#zoro x male reader#sanji x male reader#vinsmoke sanji#one piece sanji#one piece x male reader#one piece x y/n#one piece x you#one piece x reader#one piece zoro#one piece#roronoa zoro#zoro x sanji#zoro x reader#zoro roronoa#sanji vinsmoke#sanji x reader#headcanon#one piece robin#x mâle reader#x male reader#male reader#ftm reader#trans male#trans male reader#mlm#zoro x reader x sanji#trans reader#trans ftm#ftm
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Who of your OCs are part of the lgbtq+ and in what way? Along with any canon character HC’s or within your writingverse 👀?
Tbh I have like. All of 3 ocs who are explicitly straight. For the most part, every oc I make is some sort of flavor of queer— tho very few of them have actual labels. (Mostly bc I myself am very queer and don't think much about labels lmao)
With that said tho uhhh lemme think
Haruka is pansexual (and very much lives up to the idea of swinging violently in all available directions)
Tetsuo is,,, something. Don't ask what. He doesn't know either.
Tsuki's gender is unclear and unknowable, and his sexuality is similar. Whatever the question, the answer is yes. The spiral demon in him is similarly apathetic.
Sora is uhhh. Maybe a lesbian? Maybe bisexual? I genuinley don't know. She's not super interested in love and sex in general, so maybe she's ace/aro? Or at least somewhere on that spectrum? I'll let the reader decide
Haru is gay
Hiro is bi
Shiruka is,,, something. Probably.
Shikasada is a very violently closeted gay man, and if you try to drag him out from his closet he might kill you
Orochinatsu is gender fluid and generally unbothered by what others think of them, so they just kind of accept whatever pronouns people feel fit to apply to them. Their sexuality is ????
Ichigo is a trans girl, and probably some flavor of bi or pan
Hiname is like 90% into women and 10% "men are ok... sometimes. If they're pretty." Idk what that'd be called but that's what she is
Maru (Tetsuo's dad) is bisexual but still very in love with his dead Hoshigaki wife. He's that specific kind of cis guy who's so comfortable in his own skin that he wouldn't mind fucking around with gender/clothing just because he's sure and comfortable of his own identity. He's probably worn dresses for his wife before, idk
Keiko (Ichigo's mom, Maru's sister) is also bisexual
I'm still making more ocs to fill in the early Konoha gaps, and tbh I might zap one of the existing ocs with a trans beam some time in the future.
Tbh the only ones safe from me zapping them w the trans beam is the Twins + Nara trifecta— bc its important to the Haru/Shikasada dynamic that they're cis gay men. And bc I'm just attached to queer-platonic straight passing Hiro/Shiruka and the fun implications of their own sexualities/relationships, and of how a man and woman being close in that way and might look at by others
When it comes to canon characters, honestly I can fuck with pretty much any naruto character being trans: I just think it's fun.
I will say tho that my favorite trans HC is gonna be trans man Kakashi and genderfulid Naruto.
Genderfuild Naruto is just canon, actually. In my heart.
Sexuality headcanons I don't have many of, just because to me, anything I read is being read through a queer lense of "these guys are probably fruity by default idk" where I then don't think much more about the specifics
Uhhh Kagami is bisexual tho. Because I say so.
Thank you sm for your ask !!
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/post/767033281734688768/i-hate-the-convos-about-passing-but-i-do-think I'd love to agree with this, because it touches on a point I've made constantly in response to "but bi people in f/m partnerships don't need to worry about being with their partner in public," which is "true, but to say they're privileged because of that also means closeted gay people are privileged, and a non-passing trans man with a cis male partner is privileged, and a lot of people would be mad as hell if you said that." It's not that individual instances of privilege in comparison to other queer people never occur, but deciding "x identity is inherently privileged" isn't actually a conclusion you can come to because of that. Any passing privilege, whether it's bi people in f/m partnerships, closeted gay people, non-passing gay trans people with cis partners or passing straight trans people with cis partners, inherently relies on your identity being secret, and being forced to lie about your identity just to maintain privilege isn't privilege in the same way cishets are privileged. It's not "privilege" in the truest sense, it's...survival? Which I feel is what this anon sort of fails at recognising, even if she recognises that any passing privilege is conditional and you can pass and also be oppressed, because like...at the end she says we all need to band together as a community and lift each other up, but that sentiment is sort of incompatible with the earlier sentiment of "people that pass, now is our moment to put ourselves on the line to help the less privileged!" and like...that's actually just going to endanger the people that pass. It's not actually the responsibility of people that pass to be allies or human shields right now. Can't we, you know, call on FUCKING CISHET PEOPLE to step up to the responsibility of being allies right now? There are way, way, way many more of them than us anyway. For most people that pass, there are still going to be many aspects of their lives affected by queerphobia. If op can acknowledge that, and she did, then she might be able to see why "people that are only suffering slightly less than other queer people, it's OUR RESPONSIBILITY to be allies right now!" might feel dismissive. (Also as people in the notes pointed out, "aroace women aren't affected by abortion bans" is a very very very ignorant opinion to have. I'm getting sterilised despite being aroace because, you know, rape exists, and aroace women face high rates of corrective assault.)
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Cleaning out my inbox from a couple of weeks ago.
Finding all the asks I didn't read for obvious reasons.
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Not hate mail! Genuine discussion on "transmasc privilege"
This whole discourse on transmasc privilege reminds me of discourse around bi ppl. Like, if you pass then yeah, you're not gonna face discrimination as a woman. (Like how if you're bi but in a straight passing relationship you're not gonna face direct homophobia). But not every transman/masc can or wants to pass, so at that point we're still at threat of being harmed by the system, and our masculinity is questioned. Not to mention new threats POC trans men face, Healthcare stigma, t being a tracked substance, threats of corrective rape from both sides, misinformation about what t does to your body, etc.
Its also hard talking about this within the queer community & even with my cis guy friend. Everyone thinks we have it easier, & I'm not trying to say that we're the poster child of transphobia. But like, I had to move states bc of transphobic laws. People knew I was trans, being a man in most peoples eye's wasn't going to protect me. I didn't start passing until I was on t for 2 years! I NEVER passed pre t, turns out unless you're a bean pole with naturally masculine features & tall its REALLY HARD to pass.
Source: bi & transmasc guy here
Sorry for the long rant. It feels like a juggling act of being an ally & feminist while also trying to raise awareness of your communities struggles.
It 100% is passing privilege. Even then, you could be the most passing trans guy ever, and if the wrong partner ends up in bed with you, or you get sexually assaulted and the predator finds you've got a vagina instead of a dick (if you haven't had phallo), then all that privilege goes out the window, and I can guarantee, word will get out and then you're fucked. You're outed, people will know, and your privilege is gone.
It's such a simple conclusion to draw, but a lot of people don't think further than "you become a man, people will treat you that way".
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Hello and welcome to episode 1 of my “Gaydar” series, where I tell people what sexuality I think characters from media are. I am bisexual so I think I’m qualified to say my opinion lol. First up is all the Lord of the Rings and Hobbit characters. I’m starting with the Hobbit because I just rewatched all three movies recently.
Bilbo: There is no way on this green and burning earth or in my mind that Bilbo gives off anything other than awkward, introverted, and chaotic trans gay man energy. I find it increasingly hilarious that despite Martin Freeman’s stance on things like this, that the two most popular characters that he’s played have the highest rate of being in the most gay ass ships known to the world of men. His likeness is carved into the most heartbreaking and also hottest gay ships ever known and he has to live with that.
Thorin: Bisexual disaster man who has absolutely no idea how to show that his love language is both physical touch and words of affirmation, so he gives people he loves what someone hilariously called “love bonks.” Seriously, he had this entire field, a vast open plane in front of the mountain to walk through and he still went right for Bilbo to bump his shoulder against his. Use your goddamn words to tell Bilbo you love him, you silly short little bisaster.
Gandalf: As one of the Maiar (basically an all powerful angel in Tolkien universe) I was originally going to say Gandalf is Pansexual, but upon further examination of his character, Gandalf is 100% demisexual and demiromantic. He’s literally thousands of years old and I feel like he absolutely would not find anyone attractive or see any romantic potential in them if they didn’t share the same lifespan as him (looking at you Lady Galadriel.) He’s a mess but we love him.
Balin: He’s that one old, gay uncle in your family that you didn’t know was gay until you’re older and then realize that’s why he never got married. He literally gives Globber the Belch from How to Train Your Dragon: “this is why I never married, that and… one other reason.” Bombastic side eye on you, my guy.
Dwalin: My husband. My man. My perfect fucking tank of a man. I was originally going to say that he’s very straight coded, but I could definitely see him being bi leaning more towards femme presenting people. I also ship him with my own original character, but that’s an entirely different discussion.
Oin and Glóin: They are also straight coded, but Oin I could see being similar to Dwalin, Bi just leaning more towards femmes. Glóin gives big “I don’t understand what the LGTBLMNOP stuff is but good for you” dad energy.
Ori and Nori: Definitely also bi, but leaning more towards masc presenting people. Ori just gives sweet little gay woodshop nerd and there’s something about how Nori styles his hair that makes him seem fairly gay.
Dori: 100% gay. There’s not much explanation for this one, it’s just the vibe I get off him. He definitely spills some chamomile tea with Balin on those late nights in Erebor.
Bombur: Eh, he’s straight. Man is married and canonically has 6 kids. But he’s super chill with everyone because he’s the absolute goat of acceptance.
Fili and Kili: Fili is a proud and out pansexual man who is not picky at all. People are hot, he don’t care. Kili is bi but straight leaning, just for the “that’s not an elf maid” joke.
Bofur: Absolute legendary pansexual icon. Bofur can have anyone or everyone he wants because he’s just such a sweet little dork who gives no fucks about who or what you identify as. If he thinks they’re attractive, they’re attractive, end of story.
Bifur: Asexual. But he likes to watch. Next question.
Thranduil: Bisexual pillow princess. No more notes.
Bard: Bisexual. It gets lonely in that tiny lake town.
Tauriel: Another straight character, but I mean it in the most loving way possible. She loves short kings, what else can I say?
Now onto the LOTR cast-
Frodo: You poor sweet gay boy, let me give you a hug. Seriously, this boy deserves all the love and care in the world, which his best friend would absolutely give him.
Sam: Bisexual king. I can’t Not see Frodo and Sam being soulmates in every lifetime and Sam loving both Frodo and Rosie equally with his fucking Litter of 13 children. Rosie definitely gives the vibe that she wouldn’t mind watching her husband with his boyfriend.
Merry and Pippin: They’re both bi, but Pippin gives vague trans or gender-fluid vibes, I can’t tell which though.
Legolas: Bi, gender-fluid and 100% a bottom. Elves are essentially beings of light that choose physical forms suiting their own wants, and if that’s not gender-fluid coded, I don’t know wtf is.
Ghimli: Also bi, but aggressively so. He thought Galadriel was so fucking pretty and then he turned around to insult his twink boyfriend every chance he got. It’s his love language and Legolas seems to be into that.
Boromir: Straight but literally the most chill and accepting ally you’ve ever seen. Protective dad energy.
Faramir: Totally bi. When he saw his future wife’s crush, he absolutely said “Yeah, I get it.” Probably more fuel for his dad to hate him tho. “Miss me with that gay shit,” Denethor, probably.
Arwen: My queen, my gay awakening, and another straight character, which isn’t bad necessarily, but she can definitely peg her husband whenever she wants.
Aragorn: Sorry Bofur, but Aragorn gets the number one spot for most fruity character in this series. The man, the myth, the legend. Aragorn is a pansexual, polyamorous mess and his vibe is literally one of my favorite jokes.
“Hello, my name is Arwen. This is my husband, Aragorn. This is Aragorn’s boyfriend, Legolas. And this is Legolas’s husband, Ghimli.”
Absolute icon.
Eowyn: Also straight, but upon meeting Aragorn’s girlfriend turned wife, she would absolutely cave and say “Oh. I get it now.”
She definitely wouldn’t say no if Arwen offered a four way with her and Faramir. She would only accept if Faramir did. Which he would.
And before anyone asks about the villains, they are all straight (derogatory) and that’s my stance on it.
So there we have it, my hot take on the absolute fruit bowl that is the LOTR and Hobbit movies. I hope you all found this funny/stupid/entertaining or something.
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I STILL NEED TO FINISH SEASON 8 luckily I found a google drive with all the episodes so I can finish the show BUT
VOLTRON THOUGHTS!!!!
-I don’t think I actually watched the show the first time I watched it cause everything was new to me except for the stuff that was in the AvoRabo reaction videos+I didn’t even finish the show the first time around
-I yearned for more of the characters themselves the entire show. There were so many times where I just felt like I didn’t care about the plot and wanted to see the characters actually interact.
-I wish we got more Hunk dialogue that wasn’t fat jokes. I really would’ve cared about him more in the show itself if it wasn’t for that
-I miss my wife tails (Pidge)
-Ngl I did not care for most of what we saw of Keith and Shiros backstories and arcs and stuff because I didn’t care about them as characters. They were all plot and no personality most of the show. I couldn’t even name a hobby they have even if I tried really hard
-I have a headcanon that Lance got a buzz cut before he went to the garrison and he had been trying to grow his hair back out since which is why it looks like that.
-Honestly I think the Klance art is cute and I see the vision. But it’s not my thing. Honestly, I dig Plance (this may be biased because I initially got into VLD because of a friend who shipped Plance and Ngl I’d rather ship Pidge with myself I love Pidge) and Heith more
-Pidge is hot I love Pidge
-I see Pidge as nonbinary but I respect the people who hc them as a trans guy or even a trans girl I think that’s cool as hell. I’m just nonbinary so I’m somewhat projecting.
-Lance is so bisexual I like to think Pidge was like how he realized he was bi. But also because I’m not totally against Klance, I like to think he didn’t think he could possibly like guys and so his crushes on guys kind of like manifested as insecurity and jealousy and that’s what was going on with him and Keith.
-I wish Hunk and Keith would’ve interacted more
-I like Punk as besties they’re so best friends
-hc that Punk is actually punk
-I’ve only watched the first episode of season 8 but I feel like Pidge is getting done so dirty
-the callback to the old Voltron is cool but I kind of hated the way they did it
-Why did I care more about Sven getting hurt in the alternate reality episode than I did for most of Keith’s backstory stuff
-I heart Allura so much omg there was one episode where she fucking threw Shiro through that door and I was like WOAAAAHHHH
-They did her so dirty towards the end of the show and Allurances development had nearly no build up. I don’t hate Allurance but it’s just :|
-I like how Pidge is thought of as a voice of reason but they’re not. Girl snuck into a government facility with a new identity and had got into their systems multiple times before. They are insane in the best way I love them
-I cut my hair because of Pidge I’m ngl with you guys they’re so gender
-Pidge Holtttt
-I wish we got to know why Matt nicknamed Pidge that. Like where did that come from. Like I know the real reason is because the original shows but like I mean in universe.
-guys I’m literally Pidge Holt I’m also Italian
-I wish Romelle was an actual character
-Veronica is hot
-Pidge Holt looks somewhat similar to my irl partner fun fact
-I love Pidge and Matt’s dynamic they’re so cutie patootie :(((
-this might just devolve into me obsessing over Pidge
-GARFLE WARFLE SNICK 🔥🔥🔥🔥
-I loved how silly the Galran team was in that episode
-I loved seeing Zarkon and Honerva in their backstory they were kind of cutie patootie
-I also loved Monsters and Mana
-I also loved Lotors generals but I wish Zethrid had more dialogue other than “punch stuff >:(“
-I can’t believe I didn’t appreciate Coran before. I love him, he’s so silly.
-I think too many people simplify Pidge to smol gremlin and I hate it.
-Some of the outfits I see people put Keith and Lance in are so not them. Keith is NOT going to wear an eboy outfit
-I hate the way they did Keith becoming the black paladin I’m sorry
-some of the battles were such bullshit I’m sorry like I know it’d be boring if Voltron was literally invincible to everything but it’s supposed to be the most powerful weapon??? A lot of battles were really boring too.
-also why is there ALWAYS something like we couldn’t even have a nice Pidge and Matt reunion they got interrupted by that one guy.
-Honestly I was never fully convinced on the bond they told us the paladins had. I feel like I didn’t see enough to fully believe they were like a team and friends like that
-Tbh I never cared about Keith and Shiro as much as I think I was supposed to.
-I hated how 90% of Lances interaction with Pidge was just them saying something sciency and him going “wtf r u saying” THEY WENT TO THE SAME SCHOOL HE SHOULD KNOW SOMETHINGGG IDC IF THEY WERE FOCUSING ON DIFFERENT THINGS LET HIM BE SMART MORE
-I love how the Paladins gradually started using Altean/Space time measurements I think that’s a cool immersive detail to bring home the point that they’re not on Earth and they’re dealing with Alien civilizations and stuff
-what was the deal with the pure yellow eyes, the Balmerans have them, the lions have them, the Galra has them, is there any significance to them???
-I’m not normal about Pidge guys
#pidge holt#VLD#voltron#allura#hunk garrett#heith#plance#klance#allurance#vld coran#coran hieronymus wimbleton smythe
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