#advice would be very helpful /nf

[toasterdrake]

unsurprisingly, homeboy won the poll

these things are mostly to help me figure out which decision i truly want based on how i feel about the winning result -- can't dedicate yourself to something you're not wholly passionate about, am i right? -- and i'm still feeling indecisive asf. i'm gonna work on some more designs and get back to y'all when i've had more time to consider. i will say that it's mainly between arkos and schneekos for now

until then, here is jaune's Final Competition design! pyrrha's is already drafted and will soon be ready for posting :)

[just-a-ghost00]

Advice on manifesting your desired reality

Group 1 🌸 Group 2 🌷 Group 3 🌼

Group 1 🌸 Oh I never meant to brag ~

Shufflemancy : Rollin Limp Bizkit, The Search NF, Misery Business Paramore

Cards : King of pentacles, 3 of pentacles, 8 of pentacles

With all this emphasis put on earth related cards the major theme here is grounding. You need to ground yourself in your current reality to be able to see it clearly. Another think I’m picking up on is consistency. You may have a hard time focusing on one task at a time or being consistent in your efforts. It is really important that you deal with that. You are encouraged to work in cooperation with people around you. Isolating yourself is not the best strategy for you at the moment. You are encouraged to rely on your community and exchange with others, especially when it comes to your career. Teamwork makes the dream work. You are encouraged to study, to rely on your mentors. Their could be a masculine figure around you that can provide constructive criticism and help you improve in the areas you are wishing to work on. Standing your ground and being in your grounded masculine energy will help you manifest your desired reality. That would be true especially if you have major earth placements in your chart. I’m mainly picking up on Taurus energy. There needs to be more balance in your energy exchanges with people and situations. If you are currently spending more time and energy in one area of your life you are asked to focus on other priorities to restore the balance. Also, be confident about yourself. Spirit is saying you need to put an end to that impostor syndrom or modesty. I feel like some of you do not allow yourself to be successful because of how others would perceive you. You’re afraid that people around you will not appreciate you being more successful than them so you maintain yourself in a position that does not suit you. Your guides want to warn you that dimming your light for others won’t make them love or respect you more. It is time that you express your true power and claim your throne.

Group 2 🌷 Do whatever we want oh we don’t give a…

Shufflemancy : Stray Kids SKZ, Galaxy Kid Travis, Eye on you Wonho

Cards : ace of pentacles, Chariot, 7 of swords

You are advised to keep your projects and ideas to yourself and move swiftly forward without a sound. Take the opportunities that come your way if it feels right to do so without giving notice to anyone around you until you make it. I am getting that many of you are often times deterred from doing something that would benefit them because of the pessimism of others. There are people around you that do not have your best interest at heart. These people might not realize it or some may be very well aware of what they’re doing. Under the disguise of wanting what’s best for you, they prevent you from moving forward and manifesting your desired reality. You have to move past their illusions and one way to do that is to keep your intentions a secret. In some cultures they say that the more you talk about what you plan to do the less you’re gonna act on it. Don’t be just all talk and instead let your actions speak for you. Get going. Write that book you always had in mind. Create that online shop, go to that dance class, buy those shoes you really wanted. Don’t deprive yourself of good things. Don’t second guess yourself. You know what to do. You have what it takes. You just need to get moving. Some of you are encouraged to start a physical activity to help you deal with possible mental health issues. It is time you stop self sabotaging and also it is time that you don’t let people’s negativity rub off on you.

Group 3 🌼 You take the pain, make it feel good

Shufflemancy : Bad habits Ed Sheeran, Middle finger Bohnes, Lil psycho Kid Travis

Cards : 7 of wands, The World, 3 of wands

There were a lot of eyes on these cards in the deck that I used. So that could be a sign to work on your vision and visualization skills. If you have psychic abilities, honing them will be beneficial to you. Try to get yourself out of the daily drama of others and rise above it all. You need to gain a higher perspective of what is going on around you. If you are currently surrounded by pessimistic/toxic people and things, get yourself out of the eye of the storm. Traveling could be needed. Turn your gaze on the future, not the past. Keep your focus on your expansion. Maybe find inspiration in other cultures, in people that are very different from you or that have already gotten out of the storm and try to learn from it. Don’t get into petty fights. Don’t mingle in people’s business. If they try to grad you in it set boundaries. You are encouraged to plan and script your next steps. If you resonate with scripting as a manifestation method then definitely do that regularly. Write your daily intentions, your daily gratitude list, write your letters to the Universe. Write your desired reality on a paper and cleanse it with sage or any other purifying herb. Keep that paper with you wherever you go. Don’t put it under your pillow. You don’t want to sleep on your dreams, do you? However, you can whisper your intentions and affirmations to your water and drink that water. The good vibrations of your words will then circulate in your body.

[genderqueerdykes]

hii this might not be the usual asks you get, and if you're uncomfortable w it then feel free to ignore but !! I was wondering if you had tips for gaining weight ?? there isn't many resources out there and, you seem like a really cool person and an okay place to safely ask. I'm really bodily skinny, like really, and I never seem to gain much weight. I might not eat the most frequently, but they're always large and filling meals but the most I ever get is a slightly fuller stomach that goes away after a bit. but I eat till I'm no longer hungry yk, I don't want to force myself to eat more. and although I have " tummy fat " like around uterus area I've come to realize that's like, just the way my body is shaped and it's not anything I can lose through workouts and shit. whereas the rest of me is thin and lanky. And I'm not necessarily wanting to change my weight exclusively for looks, though I do think it'd bring me more confidence, it's also for my health.

I know gaining weight isn't inherently unhealthy, and in my case it's going to help in more ways than one, but I also don't want to go about this wrong I suppose ?? I also have possible PoTs, and I don't know if weight gain would have any negative side effects ?? I'd like to also mention ( mentioning a lot lmao ) that both my mother and father are fat, and though my dad doesn't really care he's never lost weight, and my mum who does care ( she does all sorts. fasting, workouts, diets, etc .. ) also has a very hard time losing weight. whereas I have a hard time gaining it, so that's. yeah. :']

weight related numbers, saying js for anyone uncomfortable ↓↓ ( these are all guesstimates, my memory doesn't do well on number related things qwq )

I'm around 5'9 / 5'10 and I've been about 45kg to maybe 50 at most for years now, my mother is around 90 - 100kg+ and my dad is around the same if not a little less. I'm taller than both of them yet half their weight or less, ( my brother who is around 6'0 is also really skinny like me, but he's made up for that in muscle and eats fine he js naturally looks skinnier and isn't unhealthy for his whatever ratio, in the sense it doesn't bother him or his health !! yeah !! I don't have any better words lol. ) js mentioning this because I know family and genetics can like, change weights and how they work person to person and all .. !?

Anyways this has turned out way long but !! yeah, any advice at all would be great .. thanks in advance :D /nf

this is not something i have a lot of personal advice on BUT i would be happy to open this up to other people to try to get you more information!

i am always fully in support of people having autonomy over their weight and if someone wants to gain weight, then that's their right. doesn't matter what reason they're doing it for, not my business. if someone wants to be bigger, good, they're allowed to be. part of fat liberation is accepting and encouraging people who want to gain weight regardless of reason. i've always been fat so i have zero tips on gaining as i'm just always around 320 lbs, but folks who have experience with this please feel free to lend a hand!

[everafter-life]

how did you guys transition to be cisplural? /nf

-(a transplural looking for advice)

Well, our first step was having other disorders with similar symptoms /hj

Okay now for my actual tips, subliminals. You can find links on tumblr which is how i found them, and you put them on as you do other things or sleep as background noise! It helps for if you have a set schedule of stuff to do.

“Fake it till you make it” is my main mind set! Basically make a fake alter and almost rp as them but only in very very specific situations! I did that and that’s how most of them came to be :3

Put specific interests to specific blogs and treat those blogs as if they’re not yours, make a blog for like, pokemon for an alter who would like pokemon, and a separate one for one who likes photography, if that’s too much you can just do separate tags.

Interact with different people when you feel a set way, have those people be your friends for specific alters!

Treat your emotions as different people, talk to yourself randomly, let yourself space out randomly or when you need to.

There’s probably more I’ve done but i am so tired but really wanted to answer this one!

[aftonsparv-bugzz]

:33 < to anyone learning vocals, PLEASE BE CAREFUL AND LISTEN TO THIS ADVICE !!

:33 < do NOT STRAIN YOUR VOICE !! :o[

:33 < straining your voice and lead to many vocal problems, (losing your voice is one of them !!) this is coming from an opera singer (yes, they are linked. straining your voice in any kind can damage your vocal cords. please take this advice seriously) pushing/forcing your vocal cords to do things it isnt capable of doing yet can hurt them !! :o((

:33 < instead, please make sure that you are doing vocal warm ups !! just like sports, if youre doing sports, eg football, dance, quads, you need to stretch !! otherwise youcould pull a muscle !! singing and sports are actually quite similar when it comes to this ^_^ literally any youtube vocal warm up works, i recommend "10 minute vocal warm up" by jacobs vocal academy its not like a really hard warm up, ive used it before, its a nice, quick and easy 10 minute warm up which should leave your voice fresh and ready to use !! ^_^

:33 < also, afterwards, when you start doing the vocals, start up with some easier ones, then slowly overtime build up your voice. its better to slowly build up your voice without any pain/loosing your voice than rushing into it and forcing your voice to do things it isnt capable of soing. start off with some vocals youcan do, then do some that you maybe havent done before/some that are SLIGHTLY harder than you usually do, and if your voice is hurting, take a break and drink water, maybe later on do some easier vocals, and take time to improve. theres no need to rush into it ^_^ :o))

:33 < also, very important one, DRINK WATER !! make sure to drink water to hydrate your voice, this is very important ^_^

:33 < (any otherkin/alterhuman blogs please repost this if possible, it would be really helpful to spread the news around ^_^ /nf)

[bibibbon]

I started this with a silly joke about the best frenemies but we can take a lot here. I think.

Shiga never earned the respect of LoV...do you think he cares? Or LoV cares? Bc they follow his plans ...and from what I get...Shig is not noisy, so if they have a side hustle....shig is fine with with it "what a nice boss" not really!

This supposed side hustle could have been a problem for Shig ...and the fact he doesn't even asks what they do...is concerning, but even if we go "LoV wouldn't do anything to prevent Shig's insane dream to be true" it's also a huge leap hori wants us to take...regarding shig bc dude has no interaction or desire to know LoV. He manipulates them...and sure he give the sushi but it was more to manipulate them "you all did a good job, here take a reward" than anything

(btw that in itself is miles better than what Izu has. You say A1 has potential. I agree but as I mentioned many times...this potential is not in being nf IZU's friends. If I had to give friends to Izu ...I would make him befriend people who aren't from A1)

Shiga is a pretty incompetent leader. His goals and plans make no sense.

And as much I like dabi and I think his past is better, writing wise, than Shig...doesn't mean he is better. Bc I don't get what was Dabi's plan before joining LoV. What was he doing? Killing random people? Did Endy even cared?

Also if we go "it was essential for dabi to join LoV" ok...show us why. Bc the way I see dabi had no real plan, a goal yes but no plan. The video thing could have happened without LoV.

Sorry it's just ...dabi has some blank spaces and it leave me confuse me.

Shigarakis character and his whole substance/arc/development or whatever you want to call it is underdeveloped and very much lacking

In my opinion this is one of the reasons why we as readers can't say much. Before shigaraki dies his last words are dedicated to spinner and the league but we haven't seen Shigaraki really care for the leauge and grow into a reliable leader for the leauge. This in my opinion stems from horikoshi doing tell don't show instead of doing show and tell when it comes to his story.

Shigaraki as a character is never truly explored in depth. The MVA and overhaul arcs could of been great arcs for him by giving focus on his relationship with the league and izuku himself. After the kamino arc shigaraki should be in a somewhat tough position having left behind three members of the league some of the league members would feel vulnerable and may not trust shigaraki as he literally abandoned three team members!! Shigaraki also lost AFO at this point so he would be in a tough position without advice or anything really so the overhaul arc would help him to grow into the role of a leader and prove to the leauge that he can be trusted. He could do this by getting revenge on maganes death and all and he could use overhaul to learn more about the underground and izuku in general.

I would also have it so that it's Izuku that gets kidnapped in the training camp arc (not bakugo or have both izuku and bakugo be kidnapped) and that would establish a connection between the leauge and izuku even if it may start on a bad foot.

when it comes to the MVA arc the leagues loyaltly and shigaraki's loyalty is put to the test. We would get more bonding time with them and just see their overall other goals that may contradict with the league itself.

Shigarakis interest in Izuku doesn't disappear and he actually uses the MVA resources to actually reach out and get to know izuku or he tired to get to know more about izuku be all.

Dabi first joined the league due to the influence stain and had and in my opinion he also joined due to needing a place to crash and free food. His goal was to take down and kill enji but I guess during that he lost his true goal and ended up doing things to build his reputation as a villain (like burning people alive)

In the end I would very much change this and build up on the leauge of villains characters and explore their personality, goals and how these two things can contradict or compliment eachother which can cause conflict .

[fatphobiabusters]

Does anyone know where to find 3-4xl tradgoth fatshion? /nf

Sorry if this is the wrong blog to ask

Hi! This isn't the wrong blog to ask! I've separated this answer into parts to make this post easier to read.

Option 1: Independent Artists

I'm not super knowledgeable about where to buy fatshion myself. If I'm not simply buying from Torrid and hoping for the best, I'm probably buying from @mayakern. She's mainly known for her skirts, but she also sells shirts and I think is branching out to even more clothing types. These two skirts of hers may work for a goth aesthetic, and I think one is still available as a miniskirt as well.

A similar store is @freshhotflavors. They have an online store here along with their Tumblr. I haven't personally bought from them, but they work with Maya Kern. I've bought many a skirt from Maya Kern over the years and know her dedication to quality. She also has been very understanding with me about exchanging one of her skirts I accidentally got double of for christmas. So the fact that she works with Fresh Hot Flavors encourages me to trust FHF as well. I believe they sell some of her skirts in maxi length, but they sell a variety of other stuff too!

An artist that FHF works with who seems to make a lot of goth clothing is @vetiverfox. This is their website. I haven't bought from this artist either, but their skirts seem to be similar to Maya Kern's with the sizing, elastic waistband, and type of fabric used. So if their clothes are anything like Maya Kern's, I would give them a shot. Each of these three artists sell skirts that go up to a 6XL (though I think Maya has mentioned having some skirts that go up to 8XL too). I've only been talking about skirts, but each of these artists sells more than that.

Option 2: User Suggestions

I'm hoping our followers may have some advice for you about where to buy goth fatshion. @fine-ass-fatshion has knowledge about fatshion for sure. We've also recently reblogged some great goth fatshion from @wisteriaawillow, so I would definitely suggest asking them for advice on where to buy goth fatshion too. @iridessence wears a lot of pretty fatshion on her main blog, but her side blog @luxus-aeterna would be more your style. I don't know if the clothes she wears on that blog are technically goth or simply make me think of gothic clothing due to being historical clothing with generally darker fabrics, but look at her side blog just in case. I believe her FAQ mentions that she gives detailed information about how to find the clothes she wears if you donate to her work.

Option 3: Tailoring and Getting Creative

A lot of fat people have to resort to sewing and making their own clothes, but this can include taking stuff and simply making adjustments to them. For example, dyeing a shirt a more goth color, taking dollar store trinkets and making them into jewelry, etc. You can even do some clothing adjustments without needing to know how to sew! That's how I used to make my cosplays. People have suggested before to not discard the idea of going to a tailor either. If you happen to find some clothing you like but doesn't fit you, a tailor can help.

Option 4: Etsy and Commissions

Websites like Etsy sometimes can be a goldmine for specific aesthetics. However, Etsy tends to be expensive due to shipping and/or items being handmade by artists. I also hate that a lot of artists on Etsy charge fat people more money for the same product. Additionally, Etsy is probably a better store for accessories rather than your main outfit.

If you're willing to pay for the quality of handmade clothing fitted specifically for your body type and measurements, I've honestly considered the idea myself of commissioning cosplay artists for clothing, which can be done through Etsy or by meeting cosplay artists at anime conventions. If you go to a local anime convention and meet an artist there, you may even find an artist so local that you can try on the clothes during the process of making them so that you know they definitely will fit you at the end. I've thought about this usually regarding cosplay, but a cosplayer who does commissions would probably be able to make clothing that isn't for cosplaying a character as long as you gave them references.

Option 5: Online Stores and Our Pinned Post

Lastly, our pinned post has a link to our FAQ Google Doc, and that Google Doc includes links to online stores that sell plus size clothing. And here is a link to a post we shared about a month ago that has resources for buying jfashion. A lot of of the photos on the post include fatshion that could be useful for a goth aesthetic, though I say that without much knowledge about goth clothing.

I hope one of these suggestions will be of help to you!! Have a good day! cx

-Mod Worthy

[meeb-motes]

; hii !! love love emotes .. ehmm maybe not point of blog but do have any advice for telling parents want use aac ?? we usually have to speak around them, because non understanding, but is getting harder some days and aac would help so much. know autistic, but not very supportive, don't know much ab non verbal, think we more " normal " iykwm ?? scared, but advice from would help ?? <33 /nflr /nf

; sorry if not make too much sense ‼️‼️

For our parents we explain spoons to them, said easier on us to use aac when low spoon and help conserve our energy for other things and that it make us happy, plus aac is fun :>

Yes understand , you could be Semi-verbal ? or Demi-verbal , we semi-verbal :>

hopefully that help ?

[your-queer-dad]

Hi finch! It's the person talking about binders a lot again. I just need other people to bounce thoughts off of bc I don't know anyone else irl who's trans/transmasc.

For context, I'm afab but not a woman and also not a man. I used to be a girl bc i was raised that way and didn't know there were other options but i haven't grown into a woman. I dont want to grow into a woman. I'm pretty sure I'm agender? At least that sounds more correct than the other labels I've gone by (girl, demigirl, nonbinary). I guess I experience gender similarly to sexual attraction (aka I'm very confused and don't understand how other people know what their gender is or how they experience gender).

That's not the point of this though, it's (once again) the topic of top surgery. I feel like I'd be fine without getting it... like if I'm by myself my chest doesn't bother me. It's there and I don't hate it. I dont think I experience dysphoria, especially not the way other people do. But if I'm out in public I know that other people will notice my chest and read me as a woman and treat me accordingly as a result. THATS what bothers me, I think. I haven't gone swimming in a few years because of it and i kinda miss doing that... But I think if it wasn't seen as a woman thing/a widely sexualized part of the body I'd be fine just keeping my chest. But on the other hand I'm worried about opting to remove it. What if I regret that choice? What if I hate how I look after? I mean, once I have the surgery that's it, that's my body. And I guess I could keep a small bit of breast tissue but that's not the point lol

There's also the other side of the coin. I just looked in the mirror earlier and for a second my brain didn't register my chest and that felt so correct. It felt so right. But I'm still worried about making a decision because it'd be so much easier to just let my chest be the way it is because it doesn't bother me THAT much. And I wonder if a reduction would feel better but my chest is already on the small side (cant tell you the size bc i never bought real bras lol I've only ever worn sports bras) and I don't know if it would help me. Like what if I regret the reduction? Or on the flip side, what if I do it and it's not enough? I don't want to have to go under twice.

Idk, I've just been thinking about this for a few months now and I'm being indecisive about it. The decision will probably be influenced by how easily I could get the surgery (bc from what I've read you need a letter from a therapist and all that stuff here and also the insurances like to pretend that nonbinary people/people who wanto to do something other than the "normal/full transition" dont exist) and if I think it's worth the stress of having to explain those feelings that I dont even quite understand myself yet. I mean, having a surgery (or potentially going on hrt but somehow that is even more daunting than surgery to me) would make me visibly trans and I don't think my country is doing too well in regards to queer safety yet. I don't know if I want to be visibly trans but I know that I dont want to basically "fully transition" and be read as a man. That'd be too far in the other direction. Ideally I just want to confuse people but that sounds like an unsafe situation to be in, especially in my current almost fully cishet social circle...

Man, I wish Shape-shifting powers were real so I could just test things impermanently before actually going through with permanent changes. That'd make this whole thing so much easier.

Idk, I just wanted to be able to tell another trans person about this and maybe get some advice or something. Im so sorry about how long this got. Thank you for reading it! I appreciate your account a lot, it's nice to just read everyone's experiences. Thank you for running the account and I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day.

Everyone, go hydrate! /nf

- 🌌🌃

Hey kiddo!! I completely understand those worries and my best advice is: if you have any doubts, don't do it. Top surgery is irreversible and it isn't worth it. Wait until you're 1000% sure. I completely understand that's hard and other people's assumptions is so annoying. I wish shape shifting skills were real too!!! That would be so handy.

- dad x

[fromfiction]

(excuse the slight lengthiness of this ask pls 😭)

um hello! i’ve seen you answering questions on this blog, so i hope you can answer this one! /nf

i’m entirely new to the term and idea of “fictionkin” but ever since i found out about what fickin was and what it meant, i figured it might be me but i couldn’t be 100% sure because of a smaller thing.

for a bit more context which i feel may be important: i pretty much spent all my life mentally viewing myself as literally animated, as animated medias have always been a special interest since i was little (i’m now diagnosed w/ autism which is why i used that term btw). though i never truly viewed myself as any canon character, i always viewed myself as my self insert sonas growing up, my finest examples of this through the years would be self insert sonas of mlp and eddsworld. nowadays, as my main special interest is my own work (as a writer and artist) i mentally view myself as my persona, i always have during these current years and i believe i always will, to the point where i don’t even associate myself with my body or face physically bc i’ve always viewed myself as some sort of fictional version of myself and in my mind that’s how i look to myself. to put this in terms of an example, i once told someone that my physical body is like a car because i like to decorate it and make it look nice and i use it to get around in this world, but my persona is the driver because in my mind, that’s who i am and i’m simply using this “car” to get around (remember this is an example i don’t literally think my body is a car lmao)

but yea, the reason i’m very confused is because i always see fictionkins identifying as canonical characters from a media, or ig even self inserts as i’ve heard somewhere (correct me if i’m wrong) but i never hear about people identifying as their OWN characters if this makes sense. in my mind, a fictional character is a fictional character, which would include my persona that is very much fictional in every way (atp my persona is a developed character with fictional lore, other worldly traits (like magic), and is always a part of little scenarios or short stories i make up for comfort or outta boredom, just happens to resemble me irl in most ways but is basically how i view myself mentally down from personality to clothes that i really connect with but don’t really wear irl)

but anyway yes, i’ve tried and tried to research for anything that might be similar to my case but i don’t really find much at all.

i hope this ask was okay to send, ik it might be lengthy ik you weren’t asking for my “life story” it’s just that i’ve always wondered what was wrong with me in terms of this topic and why i viewed myself as being a fictional character, and now that i feel closer to a possible answer it’s very relieving but still confusing since i don’t know if the label really fits what i go through. i can’t help but wonder if it’s also maladaptive daydreaming or multiple things/something else but i prob can’t expect much advice or help w that on this blog which is perfectly okay lmao

again, if you read this or even answer this, thank you i’ve really needed to ask this desperate question to someone who seems to know a lot about this subject for possible help so i came here bc i saw that this blog was active for the most part! i’m also sorry if i asked things that weren’t okay to ask or have said/assumed things that weren’t okay either, again i’m very new to fictionkin as a whole.

have a great day and thank you <3

Hey friend. No worry about asking!

It sounds like you're asking if you can be fictionkin of an "original character".

The answer is absolutely. There are plenty of people who are kin of their own ocs, you just don't usually see them talking about it, mostly because their posts don't end up in fandom tags.

[sys-confessions]

we’re a small system, and previously we only had one known introject (A). there are others that we thought we may have, but we were never able to properly talk to them and they never fronted to our knowledge. so, for all intents and purposes, we had one introject. then, yesterday, A was fronting and really missing someone from his source (B), and B started talking to him. they had a conversation and B seemed real to A. we had never heard from B previously, as far as I can remember. i, the host, was able to talk to B a bit today, and i’m pretty sure he does exist. we did hyperfixate on their source for a while, so i wouldn’t be surprised if they both split during that time.

i can’t help but feel very fake that our only two fully known introjects are from the same source. i’m extremely hesitant to add B to our pk/sp, and if/when he fronts next, i don’t want him telling anyone who he is. i know that that’s not fair, and i’m not actually going to stop him, but i’m scared. i feel like i’m faking because of this, and i feel like people might fakeclaim us if they found out.

advice or reassurance would be appreciated /nf

What you are feeling is absolutely understandable, anon. Discovering any new alter can sometimes be scary, and, in our own experience, discovering introjects often come with an added level of guilt, shame and denial.

However, it does not mean you are faking.

We have many introjects in our system. All of them, except for 1, came in pairs. Always as partners/spouses. We used to struggle a lot with this fact, and still do, from time to time.

Now that it's happened at least 4 times though, we've been able to notice that they always form a caregiver/protector pair. It seems to be how our system works the best. Maybe your system felt that A would work/feel better with B, instead of on his own?

[kevin--of-desert-bluffs]

Do you have an advice for pulling together a Cecil canon outfit then? /nf /gen /nm

I think I do!

First - you must acknowlege that Cecil is 'Night Vale normal' in terms of his fashion. In the rare occasions we get where people's clothing is described to us they are dressed much as Cecil does. Even the scientists are always in labcoats (including Carlos) which is bizarre in itself. So nobody is ever going to comment on how he dresses and everyone around him should probably be dressed much the same but flavoured to themselves.

Second - that word I used, bizarre, that is the expected reaction to Cecil's outfits when we are told about them. Whether you think bizarre is good/funny or not.

In meta, I mean. The joke is that his clothing is weird and real people wouldn't normally dress like that.

So, similar to how the 'joke' that Megan is a juxtapose between masculine and feminine rubbed wrong, we must also think about what we put on Cecil (and Kevin and Carlos and...).

Especially because the fandom loves to say he dresses weird and use friendly derogatory terms and insults to describe him. So if you're putting him in any feminine clothing at all, hmm, are you trying to say that's weird and bizarre then?

Probably it's unintentional. But I think it is worth questioning why your mind may jump to feminine clothing/clothing generally worn by and made for woman, whenever the idea of a 'man who dresses in a strange way' is presented even if you think it's cool and cute and a good thing.

Not that it's forbidden, of course. Just that that element (a skirt or a dress or something) should perhaps be the least odd thing about his outfit if it's there at all. It's a pet peeve of mine, personally, gender non-conformity not only being assumed of any queer man but also presented as 'unusual'. But I do know it's done innocently the majority of the time.

Ok, so on to the actual tips!

Analysing Cecil's clothing we find a kind of...not rule, more commonality.

First, start with an outfit that is relatively if not completely ordinary. Now, add an accessory to it. This accessory can either commonly match, or be completely mismatched for the fit.

If it commonly matches, try adding a strange design pattern or element to it. Do that with any other accessory, making sure some are typical and ordinary to avoid cluttering.

Pick an element of clothing he's wearing. Now change the fabric to something unusual, or frankly impossible or at the best ill-advised (sponge clogs, honey-comb hat). Possibly add a few patterns or unusual colourations too.

Apply this logic to any kind of outfit from business to casual and you have something very Cecil.

Colours are up to you, we love to put him in purple but it's not necessary. If you're having trouble coming up with the base outfit, there's no shame picking a kind of item he's worn in canon (such as the tunic) and using that because we know for sure he likes to wear that kind of item.

Go for 'eccentric gay uncle whose style actually lowkey slaps because he's spent years collecting very specific items which shouldn't but do work somehow' and less 'a cluttered mess with no coordination or thought, the meanswear guy would have a field day (negative), to the point where it's almost boring again'.

Hope that helps!

example: Look at the cosplay my partner did that I recently reblogged! The tunic-style shirt is relatively ordinary, but it is brightly coloured and accessorised with a glittering cactus pin. The trousers are heavily patterned AND furry to boot. The marching band hat is not only decorated in a bizarre way but does not match the rest of the outfit at all. The sunglasses are the icing on the cake, matching up with the hat so the two of them have some coordination, but not exactly what you'd call 'average' glasses.

[octahedral-chaos]

hi :D so- me and 2 other friends have a question, and i was sent your way by one of them since youre otherkin and might know more about it than we do ;;

we're pretty sure we're not therians,,but we all get like- "phantom tails" is the best way to refer to them, but theyre not all tails

for example- I'll get like, "phantom" wings/tails/fangs on occasion;

friend #2 (one who sent me your way) will get like- "phantom" wings and a weird tail. he said its kind of eel-like but not really

friend #3 gets very canine-like/werewolf-like,, like a "phantom" snout, fangs and tail and all of that

im sorry if this is a lot to ask and/or if asking this is disrespectful in any way- we just genuinely have no idea what it is😭and again- we're pretty sure we're not therians but that just confuses us more

any advice/potential explanation really helps-

this is /nf btw /gen,,

UHHHHHH It's okay! These are some pretty good questions!

Yep! Most nonhuman peeps I know about get phantom shifts of their species. Like me, I usually get claws, horns, ears, tail and even wings during the starfolk phantom shifts. It tends to vary wildly in strength and vividness, so please keep that in mind.

I could recommend potentially trying to rule out other things, or trying to figure out *what* causes those phantom shifts to flare up. I could also recommend looking at alterhuman resources (@a-dragons-journal is an extremely good blog for this, especially the phantom shift tags since that's the most useful for your situation).

Oh and another thing! The nonhuman, and by extent the larger alterhuman community, have several different terms besides therians, such as otherkin, otherhearted, otherlink, etc. Of course, the best advice I have is to research. Look up alterhuman, especially nonhuman, terms (Make sure to not get the information from YouTube or Tiktok, as those can be extremely misleading. Some good resources would be The Alterhuman Archive, Beyond humanity and The alterhuman Dictionary .

Of course, I'll allow other peeps to chime in with advice.

[anti-radqueer-zone]

Hi! I was just diagnosed with osdd, could I have some like tips (sorry if I worded that wrong 😅) /nf /genq

Hello! I am not a professional, so I don't want to give any specific advice because different things work for different OSDD patients. I would recommend speaking to professionals and advocating for yourself. If it doesn't feel right or you feel like you aren't being listened to, then there is no shame in looking for professionals who will take your symptoms and worries seriously.

I'm also going to make the assumption that you're talking about OSDD1 and/or OSDD where you have parts, as that is what I've personally shared that I have. Apologies if you were looking for info or recommendations on other OSDD types, but I wouldn't have been able to help anyway as I don't have much experience with those types of OSDD.

For me personally, some things that have helped are viewing myself as part of a whole with all of my other parts rather than many individuals. This doesn't mean I don't see all of us as having individual autonomy or opinions, but instead I am still acknowledging that we are, in fact, part of one single fragmented identity rather than multiple separate identities. This has helped me personally, as I think it makes fusion, integration, and change much easier to deal with and less scary, as I no longer see myself as losing or gaining parts but instead, my identity as a whole integrating or fragmenting more, and I can more easily view it as healing and logically understand how to deal with it.

I'd also personally recommend getting some kind of app where you can log switches and/or symptoms. I know it's very difficult sometimes, and I'm not really very perfect with it either, but it can really help in understanding how different parts or alters work, what they contribute to the system, and also your general symptoms outside of parts, whether it be with identity confusion or dissociation. I know that when I started tracking my own symptoms on my own, I found it much easier to find and identify triggers in my daily life that would cause a switch or dissociation and, more accurately, be able to avoid those triggers or plan for them. I also became aware of signs that I was dissociating and what type of dissociation I most commonly experienced (Depersonalization/Derealization).

There will always be setbacks, especially in healing. It is not a linear journey, and there is no shame in realizing that you're doing worse than you were two months ago. That doesn't mean you're failing or doing something wrong; sometimes things need to get worse to get better, especially with trauma recovery and integration with parts.

Again, none of this information is a professional recommendation; I am not a professional; I am just someone on the internet who experiences OSDD1 and is sharing some things that have helped me and my other parts.

[crescencestudio]

Hello there! It is me, again. I never really know how to start asks, aha.

During my first play through, I at first got attached to Fenir and Kuna’a(surprise surprise, the two probably most popular characters), but during my other ones where I unlocked all but the two Faes’ dates, I actually found myself really liking Kayn? Which really surprised me for some reason. Usually, I don’t get attached to the flirtier LIs, but I have apparently gotten attached to Kayn.

What also helped me get attached to Kayn was your tumblr! One, was when an anon asked what the LI’s mbti would be, and you said Kayn would be an ENFP, which surprised me a little at first, but then it made a lot more sense. The other was the LI’s reaction to puns and how Kayn would make even worse ones back.

For the MBTI, I’m actually an INFP, so we’re rather similar in that aspect. For puns, ooooh boy. I freaking love puns. And I feel like we’d both just fuel each other’s fire in making the cringiest puns making everyone around us suffer while we’re both probably on the floor laughing.

My favorite thing about the potential dynamic though is just how oblivious I am. You see an oblivious character and think “There is no way anyone is that oblivious.” It’s me. I’m that character. But only towards how others perceive me. I’m quite perceptive of all but that.

Kayn frequently using pet names(darling, dear, love), reminds me so much of this one time a friend who had a crush on me started calling me them and I still didn’t get the hint(I did think it was kinda weird that they started out of nowhere though). I just think that that is so funny.

Also, I’m glad you liked my rambling and thoughts on how I interpreted the characters with the VA’s voices! I’m rather nervous when I send long/longer asks cause of that not so little thing called anxiety. I also don’t frequently send things off of anon because of anxiety, but I wanted to get an notif for when you decide to reply/answer

Ah, anyways. I think that’s all for this ask? You’re doing amazing, and I hope to see Alaris grow! Remember to hydrate and what not!

Hi again!

I’m laughing because Fenir and Kuna’a indeed are the two most popular LMAO. BUT I’m glad to hear about the Kayn love!!!!! I actually thought Kayn would be more popular going into the game’s release, so I was surprised Kuna’a was the most popular with Fenir and not Kayn.

Kayn is a really fun and playful partner, which I think gets overshadowed by their flirtiness. But I’m glad to hear even tho they’re not typically your type, you are still attached to them! Flirty types can be hard to write, I think—I’ve noticed they’re a hit or miss in the VN community. Some people love the trope and some ppl hate it.

I personally think flirting can be fun (not that I’m a very flirty person myself lmao)!! It doesn’t have to be a bunch of sexual jokes/innuendos; it can also be cheesy pick up lines, witty banter, corny compliments, etc., and I hope that comes through with Kayn <3

Also, fun fact but your inner two MBTI letters (e.g., NF) are basically very core to you and how you process the world. The outer two (e.g., IJ) are more behavioral. But basically, if your two inner MBTI letters are the same as someone else’s, you will probably get along well! For legal purposes, this is not professional counseling advice.

Thank you again for the ask and sweet message! I have my water next to me as I answer this hehe.

[tavs-kin-korner]

Hello!! I just need some advice, please. I have /r mems with a character, but most people headcanon me as 12 (and I'm 16 while he's 15 and I am implied to be that age in canon but it's mostly up to interpretation.) and I just. It feels weird to have /r mems with him and I don't want people calling me a proshipper for it, if that makes sense!

hELLO! i THINK i UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU'RE GETTING AT,

tHIS IS KINDA DIFFICULT, i SEE WHAT YOU MEAN, bUT, aS SOMEONE WHO REMEMBERS BEING OLDER THAN WHAT'S STATED IN CANON WHEN THE EVENTS OCCURED, i THINK IT'S NORMAL TO FEEL LIKE YOU WERE A DIFFERENT AGE THAN WHAT'S CANON, sINCE NOT EVERYONE IS CANON COMPLIANT, iF THAT MAKES SENSE! yOU COULD TRY TO EXPLAIN TO PEOPLE THE AGES YOU REMEMBER, aND THAT IT'S NOT VERY CANON COMPLIANT,

aNOTHER OPTION COULD BE DRAWING AGED UP VERSIONS, iF THAT INTERESTS YOU? lIKE, hOW YOU THINK YOU TWO WOULD LOOK AS ADULTS? /NF

iF YOU DON'T WANT PEOPLE TO FULLY KNOW YOU'RE KIN OF THAT CHARACTER, yOU COULD ALSO SIMPLY SAY YOU HEADCANON THEM AS 16!

i HOPE THIS HELPED! sORRY i DON'T HAVE MUCH BETTER ADVICE, sENDING LOTS OF LOVE AND SUPPORT! <3 /P

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[Hello! I think I understand what you're getting at.]

[This is kinda difficult, I see what you mean. But, as someone who remembers being older than what's stated in canon when the events occured, I think it's normal to feel like you were a different age than what's canon, since not everyone is canon compliant, if that makes sense! You could try to explain to people the ages you remember, and that it's not very canon compliant.]

[Another option could be drawing aged up versions, if that interests you? Like, how you think you two would look as adults? /nf]

[If you don't want people to fully know you're kin of that character, you could also simply say you headcanon them as 16!]

[I hope this helped! Sorry I don't have much better advice. Sending lots of love and support! /p]