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So I was going to some old post and saw there was an ask that if you had to pick a papyrus it US, now is it in the au as big blue or another?
>> i have dabbled if there was a Papyrus Motti could see herself loving would be Underswap Papyrus.
And i may have dabbled to myself that in this timeline where Blue is the love interest to Motti, Papyrus has an unrequited love towards her. <<
#mothie talks#MAYBE#>> totally haven't thought if him longing to love her but knowing she has eyes for only blue#absolutely just theoretical#>>
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#i can't reblog this but it came across my dash#and having just watched 4.9/4.10 again last night I NEED to yell about it#so i'm doing this#because YES#Silver does NOT fail to Get why Flint and Madi are pursuing the war because he has not suffered like they have#it's actually the opposite#we see him go through more real brutal direct pain and trauma on screen than either of them#even totally discounting the implied Unending Horrors (tm) of his past#maybe less grief but absolutely more trauma#for him the suffering this war will lead to is not theoretical#and the good it could possibly bring about very much is#and he is SCARED and trying to protect the people he loves#not to say anything about whether his choices are justified or not#but it is very clear WHY he is making them#and it's interesting how suffering in this show pushes characters in different directions#black sails#john silver
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we will never see a character as specifically fucked in the head as five hargreeves again… time traveler stuck in the child body he loathes. weird sexual thing with his boss that an alternate version of himself hired to work at the Time corporatocracy HE founded. ran away from home too hard and got trapped in an apocalypse for 50 years. cares about one (1) thing (saving his family) which he fucks up at so badly and repeatedly across thousands of timelines that he NOT ONLY kills himself over it but convinces his entire family to go out with him. homewrecked his brother. vaguely alcoholic. most prolific and talented assassin in the space-time continuum. 85 years old and visibly demented. still believes deep deep down that daddy will fix it.
#five hargreeves absolute VICTIM of the narrative he’s trapped in#show ending so dogshit it’s unironically theoretically possible that it was literally just that five killed himself and that’s it#btw five suicide which i’ve been predicting since s2… we won but at what cost#five hargreeves#tua#the umbrella academy
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every time there's a rise in fascist action and power in the us, there's an en masse feminist response of like. affirming that gender is an ontological trait, you can tell what gender someone is without them directly stating it to you, appearance is indicative of gender (rather than just being correlative particularly in conservative populations), gender is a useful signifier of ideology separate from factors such as class and race (and may even be more causative regarding fascist ideology than class or race are), there is no form of gendered oppression targeting men, and there is no form of gendered privilege afforded to women.*
it's annoying! i do not like it.
*nb4 someone gets on my case about how gendered targeting of men is "just" racism/ableism/etc and gendered privilege afforded to women isn't "truly" privilege as men who reap the benefits of patriarchy are still higher in the social hierarchy than women who reap the benefits of patriarchy: we have entirely different modalities for viewing interactions of privilege + power + hegemony. your modality is, in fact, part of what i'm critiquing. it refuses to recognize gender itself as the oppressive structure, and patriarchy as a structure enforcing gender. we can chat in good faith if you want to understand this lens better but like i'm not going to be arguing about it or trying to make a Discourse Post(tm) defending my ideology.
#so many people come to this blog acting like i'm trying to defend an ideology or convert them or create educational resources#in actuality i am just saying things that i don't want to say on my main because i do not affiliate myself with online activism#(not that i think it's bad if other people do. however it would be truly truly horrific for me personally if i were to allow myself to view#the internet as an appropriate space for my activism. it is not and will never be and it is simply a place to speak my personal thoughts.)#and quite honestly as a result i do not think i owe a theoretical ''audience'' defenses or explanations#i will write them out if i am thinking about it and find it interesting and fulfilling#but like. this is a blog. it is not a resource. it is not a fount of activism. it is my space to write out thoughts i do not want to#put out into my low-stakes fandom-based social spaces due to this stressing my friends out irreparably.#(tag ramble fairly unrelated i am just... so tired. this is why i rarely use this blog and i do not check my notes when i do#because the way tumblr users interact with this blog is absolutely fucking miserable and antithetical to my purposes using it)
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the people aren't ready to hear this but angelique arbitrarily picking quentin to decide to be in love with out of nowhere, bewitching roger into marriage and then absolutely not wanting him to touch her, and constantly pursuing men's (chiefly barn's) attention only when it's clear he doesn't want her, is soooo comp het of her.
#good luck babe!#the one exception i can think of where she genuinely seems to enjoy physical affection with men is when she's#enthralled joe. and joe is more like a really clingy; very pretty jelly donut in that situation.#in leviathans she's more or less happy with sky who does seem to want her.#but i would strongly argue that what angelique *wants* is the social position of a Wife —#as opposed to being interested in any given man himself.#and there's something really fascinating about the difference between her and julia there; even though ang possesses way more power#(and is theoretically not bound by human gendered/sexual structures of power)#julia found her position (and significant influence!) via her own intellect and career; her want for barnabas is tremendously personal —#not socioeconomic; not needing to be Established in the world as a wife to move through it or find meaning.#(and i realize i'm going against most barnjules shippers here but i do think julia would prefer to be known as Dr. Hoffman infinitely more#than becoming yet another anonymous Mrs. Collins)#but angelique is so different. for her (over and over and over again) finding her place in the human world as a woman means#becoming someone's Wife. whether or not she wants them! and i'd argue she usually doesn't. not like she thinks she does.#and this is sort of only a footnote; but even the ploy to get roger — enrolling as a student in the college in rockport —#is only a Very Temporary ruse to get into position as Mrs. Collins. academic knowledge like julia's; or establishing herself#institutionally doesn't even seem to make a blip on her radar.#feminine identity for ang is Only contained absolutely in the marriage contract#— which the show is pretty explicitly; emphatically against!#julia is the hero to root for (narratively and romantically) and ang the unquestioned antagonist (most of the time)#and her marriage plots are shown as devious and unwanted; even when they're not to the level of brainwashing and drugging roger.#but. man. fascinating. just Fascinating the way ang interacts with sex and gender.#phenomenal cosmic powers ... itty bitty gender space.
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EP. 114 spoilers
Okay, guys, I have an insane theory. An absolutely bonkers unhinged one and I'm absolutely sure it's getting debunked by the info we'll get from ep. 115 fucking immediately, but let me have this, entertain the madness I'm about to spew from my lips.
"Praise the Solar Mother" means that Faye Ferin is not only conscious and aware of the prophecy, she BELIEVES it. The question is, which version of it, right? Well, she was warned abt Black Sea beforehand and this allowed her to get the upper hand in expanding Navy's influence, but not only that, she says "the day it spreads is coming and we'll be ready" And which prophecy speaks of it? "the seal remains locked by a key of divinity, its release, in time, an inevitability"
The real one.
She fucking knows that the Black Sea is about to spread soon and wants to either use it in some way or be the one to control the world after the calamity. And here comes my absolutely deranged idea.
"The Machine is stable. My son is stable"
What if the machine is an artificial Leviathan and the son is Jayson Ferin. Picture this madness. See into my crazy gay-ass mind.
What if Faye Ferin wants to control the world by making Jayson Ferin into a new Chosen one. She is constructing an artificial Leviathan, but why? To somehow connect Jayson to it and make him "a Sea god's last egg". We SAW the Leviathan bones, the Navy is strong enough to kill real Leviathans, they don't need them as weapons, they have things stronger than them! So what if they need one to literally trick fate? Jayson is literally raised like Gillion. Only under his mother's influence, controlled by her agenda, her vision of justice. She makes him consider Drey and Jay as traitors, feeds his hatered, feeds him her own perception of reality to use him for her gains. His almost ethereal sun-angel form. Where does his power come from? Was he modified? I fully believe he is not replaced by Black ops. She doesn't need to do that. She had full control over his way of thinking ever since he was born simply bc she is his mother. She enjoys that control. She is confident that Jayson won't break from her grasp.
And now see this. Jayson just so happens to come for a visit to the Undersea, not so long ago. Could the Elders be replaced as Black ops at this point? They very much could. Why would the real Elders banish Gillion if they believed he was the Chosen One? Why not imprison him, keep him in their own control? Well, cause they were Navy clones, possibly. And Navy wanted Gill out of the picture.
The important meeting in the Undersea arranged by Elders (impostors?) a while back. Suspiciously high amount of Triton torture victims in the stronghold. "You abandoned us". What if they are taking over Undersea from the inside? What if fake Elders spread propaganda, saying that Gill was not in fact banished but that he abandoned his people willingly? So maybe they are willing to appoint a new Chosen, Jayson?
Why would Edyn want to help them with all that? "I just want you to be able to come back home again"
If Jayson is a new Chosen, then Gillion doesn't have to be. If Gillion becomes a regular person Edyn can take him home, they can live a normal life and if the world has to burn because of it, so be it. Gillion will be free. That's all Edyn cares abt.
Let me know if I fully lost my mind please.
#jrwi#jrwi riptide#just roll with it#gillion jrwi#gillion tidestrider#jrwi spoilers#theory#edyn tidestrider#jrwi edyn#srsly tho what do you think#does that even make sense theoretically???#i need you to come at me and say to me#Alex you absolute goofy silly crazy individual what the actual shit are you talking abt?#cause i am loosing it I'm sure#but it makes sense in my head and it scares me#faye ferin#jayson ferin#jrwi jayson ferin
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I've seen a decent chunk of fics where Tim is Not Dead in s4, just for the sake of it, so I keep kinda pondering how that would've worked out, and how that would change depending on how exactly it happens
like if he just flat out survived, like Basira did, mostly unharmed, and was stuck waiting through the horrors for Jon to wake up for six months with everyone else, would he just keep on with hating Jon / hate him even more than before? could seeing Jon spend six months dead and then be shunned by everyone else somehow be enough to make him sympathetic to Jon again? would missing him be enough? or would he be even more upset and angry about the whole "you're not the same person, whatever you are you're not jon" thing that everyone else was so edgy about?
what if he also had his own coma, or other extended recovery period, or even had to become an Avatar himself to survive too? if he also had to trade his humanity for survival, would he stick by Jon through solidarity of that choice? could he even be the one to tell Jon about that choice, instead of Oliver Banks? or would he just be even madder seeing it as Jon put him in that situation where he had to make that choice? if he were just injured but didn't become an avatar, would that effect his attitude to Jon?
if Tim were around would Peter Lukas have considered him as a target, instead of Martin? if so, would he have chosen him? would Tim have prevented Martin from being taken in by Peter Lukas? would his anger have turned on Martin without Jon there to take it instead, and chased him to him sooner and harder?
if Tim were around for any part of Jon's Daisy Rescue Plan would he have encouraged or discouraged it? and why? what about the plan would bother him most? the risk to Jon's life, or just the risk that it wouldn't work? would he care if Jon went in without waiting for Basira to return? would he go in with Jon? would he help Martin pile tapes for Jon to find his way back?
how would he feel about Daisy's return? "we both almost died in the unknowing" solidarity, or "you're still a monster / you weren't here" anger, or "you're not a strong defense/weapon anymore" disappointment? would Daisy be able to bring Tim and Jon together if their relationship was still strained, being the between of "we suffered for six months after almost dying in the unknowing" and "we're both trying not be monsters while the rest of our companions shun us"? or if they were friends again would she be pushed to the side because Jon already had Tim, or even worse, put a wedge between them if Tim hated her for being a cruel and evil person before and Jon related to her through monster solidarity?
during the six month gap, would Tim and Basira bond over the loss of their closest companions (Sahsa and Daisy)? would Tim resent Basira for being disappointed by how Daisy had changed, even though it was at least still her, unlike Not!Sasha, "how dare you grieve someone who's still here"?
would Tim and Melanie get along? would they commiserate over their anger, or would they tear into each other over it? would they bond over "trapped in this horrid fucking place by Jon" solidarity?
I wish I were more of a Tim understander so I could ponder it more substantially
#these ideas are all 100% up for grabs and if anyone knows fics exploring them you can absolutely drop recs#I love spit-balling theoretical fiction ideas#just me rambling#tma spoilers#rambling about blorbos#should I tag this with tim or tma ?#I am no where near a tim-understander so if I tag it maybe they can come give me their thoughts...#or maybe they'll throw tomatoes at me for not getting him QwQ#I'm just gonna. put a couple tags#tim stoker#tma#tma s4
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i think the funniest neal relationship is when he's dating sara because 90% of it is 'we both like to be dressed to the nines at all hours of the day and night, we should fuck about it' and the instant they have any disagreement whatsoever they're like oh right our expensive and impractical taste in clothing is the only thing we have in common
#she was like oh i want adventure so i will date a conman...wait not this much! babe stop doing art crime and just be theoretically bad!#hes like oh i have absolutely 100% moved on from the late great One Real Relationship ive ever had in my life i'm fine we're fine it's fine#sara doesn't think lunch counts as a date and he never thinks to plan real dates because he more or less counts all time spent together#and their relationship STARTS while El is telling sara how much better her and peter's lives are for having neal in them#and sara's like 'well what if i don't trust him' and El's like 'git gud i guess. i trust him with my life'#and the parallel conversation is peter gushing about how lucky in love he's been and neal going :( i dont think that's me :(#and peter going oh you just have to give it time :) you just need the right people :) you got this :)#like sara's cool but the two of them were doomed from the start as any sort of romantic partners#we did get some great leyendecker-esque scenes out of them posing in clothes though. so that was cool#white collar#q
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I've consumed and enjoyed my fair amount of wyllstarion content but i must say i'm surprised i've not seen any where astarion pulls the whole "your son calls me daddy too" thing
#i suppose it's doesn't need to be wyllstarion; any m/m pairing with wyll would theoretically work#but astarion absolutely would#bg3#baldur's gate 3#wyllstarion#also just now i realize you can do this with shart's dad but#that's less funny
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my nelvas and moraak thought crumblets
#text#eaaaaaaaaaasy Peasy#actually i'm upset now because i had to read at least some things m*raak says during DB quest and omfggggg the absolute snoozefest that is#- his character i'm actually knocked out and drooling on my pillow#the fact that he has fans is solely bc he's pushed to the forefront as the big bad. cus he has goldfish IQ and idk.. personality of -#- some pebbles in reality#the only good thing to come out of his existence is The sexxxxxxy ass fact that mora protected him (and then decided to marinate him)#i think he falls flat badly just cause he doesn't have something to fall back on; idk how to describe it tho#i think making the Big Bad the character who is 5000+ but was dormant and useless all the time is um..... it was a choice#idk what's up with him but his character doesn't even have the value it should theoretically#Nah that's crazy bc why does t*lvas have a more interesting personality from like 10 voicelines than that abortion#but i'm not mad cus t*lvas is superior to every other character on that island like i mean it#mostly cus he bounces off n*loth's personality really well. to Me#this might just be my personal bias tho bc i do only like characters that are down-to-earth and 'normal people' more than the ones that r -#- very overblown to the point where they're just marvel villains#i would rather lsiten to some working class elf serving dinner at a political gathering than to anything m*raak has to whine about#i remember saying the same things about m*raak like 2 years ago when i didn't talk much and someone pointed me to a mod or smth and -#- like 🤦♀️ no offense but maybe i will actually take whatever happened in canon over the shakespearian Dookie the fans will be writing -#- about him#i think there's no point in building a bigger and impactful backstory or motives to him if in canon he was meant to be ass#'meant' as in it turned out to be ass#cus i don't actually believe sk*rim characters are rly that much very 'Badly written' really.. and there are things to dig out of what -#- a character has#and if one of them has nothing pleaselet him die . No i'm jk
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since this discourse is going around again, some brief thoughts:
i think a lot of people who (mis)identify as being transfem/trans women while having been afab are speaking of real experience, but are mislabeling it. ultimately people can identify however they want, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't try to be legible or accurate with our terminology. some examples of this include but are not limited to the following:
"I was afab but-
1. I don't totally feel like what society expects of me as a woman" - you could be nonbinary, a demigirl, or even just a cis woman who is experiencing misogyny
2. I feel like I should have a penis/other "masculine" trait" - you could be any number of trans masculine identities, including things like "butch". Do you still feel ties to femininity? perhaps consider bigender, genderfluid, or another multigender as a label, or maybe even no particular label at all! penises don't a transfem make, not to mention many trans women don't have penises
3. I have been treated as overly masculine by society, growing up my femininity was always denied" - may I suggest that you may be experiencing intersexism or misogynoir? more people than just transfems are denied their femininity, to varying degrees and experiences.
#trans feminism#gender#self post#im not personally going to be upset if you're afab and id as transfem but its extremely understandable that some people finf objections#with it#and i think it is absolutely worth interrogating why this phenomenon happens or exists in the first place#you could say I'm against it on a theoretical level but in no way am i in the business of policing other people's IDs#(not to say theres no limits on that. there definitely are)#its just that im MORE interested in the theory behind it than i am interested in how you personally ID
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reread the first 3 volumes of berserk (aka the black swordsman arc) today and started Really paying attention to guts this time and my takeaway is that he is TERRIFIED way more often than i thought. like puck mentions fear in the mix of emotions he's sensing from him but he is truly wide eyed quivering princessmoding his way through a lot of this ordeal
#could not resist the urge to call him princess i don't know where it came from and i just know he'd hate it. and yet#like the first times (2) i read thru black swordsman the anger and sorrow were kinda the things i got the most but really stopping to think#about the fear and what's causing it and where it's coming from has been so deliciously upsetting. so sorry bestie <3#god. when he first sees griffith-as-femto he's absolutely furious but when he first speaks guts' reaction is just like. desperate#idk if im remembering this wrong since i've only read thru the eclipse once but doesn't griffith not speak at all once he's femto in that?#so theoretically this'd be the first time he heard griffith's voice in a LONG time. so no wonder it kinda fucked him up. not to mention#what he actually said#(unless they met again in the meantime and i just haven't gotten far enough for that to be depicted/mentioned :p)#berserk#guts berserk#yes i read that even knowing that our copies of the next like 12 volumes are with someone in another state#no im not sure if i'll just read them online or something in the meantime#i swear i really want to actually catch up and not just read the same bits over and over i swear but for various reasons it has not happene#and also berserk just kinda hits that harder than most things for me. i need to rake through it over and over and sometimes that means#putting things into chunks. it also means my analysis is very limited so eh grain of salt
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Hello I followed you for the cr stuff but you mentioned seeing Angela in thousanaires and now I'm curious where you knew her from first? Like I originally knew her from starkid but then she dragged me to smosh lol
Also the great thing about candela is you don't have to catch up! The liveshow is completely stand alone, the only reason to watch one of the others first is if you want some more knowledge of the system/setting but that's totally not required
This started as a CR blog and should stay that way but I've definitely decided I can at least do Dropout stuff on here too 😅 I knew her through Starkid first! Got into them around when Black Friday came out (had heard of them for the classics like AVPM, but wasn't following them closely), more or less followed them through pandemic, watched NMT, NPMD, etc. And then in the last half year or so, I also followed the Angela Starkid -> Angela Smosh Pipeline courtesy of youtube compilations. Going from Lex Foster to Smosh Angela was. well. you know. An Experience. But yep, that pipeline got me too. So that's been happening. And that's why when Amanda and Shayne appear on Dropout I'm ALSO going to be insufferable 🫡🫡🫡🫡 sorry in advance. 🫡🫡🫡🫡 but not sorry enough to not do it 🫡
And that is GREAT news, I might just do that 👀👀👀👀. I did watch the first candela round, albeit kind of piecemeal, and it was delightful. And I've been vaguely following the other circles throufh my dash and been fascinated (the one with Brennan, and the one with. Old Liam. looked VERY interesting. 👀). So maybe I'll just jump right in with this one..... thank you for the heads up! :D
#i love cr a lot. but my lifestyle and attention span and brain chemicals recently have not been kind about consistently watching 4 hour eps#once a month though? theoretically more doable....#spar speaks#ask away!#angela giarratana#i absolutely didnt mean to but ive accidentally wound up watching pit/games/cast pretty regularly 😅😅😅#and i never know how to explain it to people because i need them to retrace my steps from starkid -> compilations -> angela compilations ->#angela smosh compilations -> other smosh compilations (probably the arasha one) -> oh theyve got your ass now#ANYWAY. thank you for the heads up about candela!! i might just watch it. ... not tonight. but. hmmm.#not cr#ish#dropout#thousandaires#i never really know how to /recommend/ other people starkid or smosh but i might get a bit more shameless about making references to it#this blog should stay cr/dropout though. if only for my own sanity
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every time i try to learn how to draw in perspective (specifically 1pt perspective) my artist friends are always like oh its easy! you just need a vanishing point and orthogonal lines etc etc. and i (not trained in art. trained in scenic design) ask how do i know what scale to use. and they can never tell me
like i understand how to scale along the x-axis and y-axis walls but not along the z-axis and it's messing me up. help. does anybody who follows me know how to do this
#to clarify: i only have two friends who actually majored in art skldjfhgds#the rest of us are amateur schmucks#anyway!!!! this is messing me up!!!#i can draw windows and doors and decorations on walls easily.#but the second i need to figure out how to draw a couch that's 6' long on the z-axis i cannot do it :(#ive tried googling this but i think im missing some vocab#(i theoretically get what station point is but no clue where or how to find it. how is it diff from horizon line. i thought the horizon lin#was where the viewer's eyes were)#idk like all the video tutorials i've watched just explain how to draw stuff w/o scale and i can absolutely do that. that's fine.#candles speaks
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it occurred to me to Juxtapose the current lackadaisy triumvirate w/the former, now especially mysterious one: namely [rocky ivy freckle] vs [atlas mitzi mordecai]
you have mitzi and ivy where this is sort of an alternate, glamorous, welcoming and potentially promising world. ivy saying everyone treated her like royalty, mitzi's focus on atlas individually and the surprise of his interest & treatment.
then there's freckle and mordecai at least somewhat spontaneously drawn into "but he's just so good at it!"-based professionally shooting and killing you. perhaps also being obliged to someone as further motivation, whether they helped you finish school or not be killed today.
atlas is too mysterious & undialogued to cite any examples while considering Parallels, but you can wonder about rocky kind of being at the helm of the trio / drawing the others in, and trying to get to compose the result you want even if you're improvising your way there, but the proximity of disaster anyways
#lackadaisy#mitzi and mordecai murder mystery#which is already enriching b/c it's like oh there's just gonna be themes & character material in there#versus that say it seems all-important whether mordecai noscoped atlas himself or someone else did to argue legal liability#sort of have a smoking gun even like yeah and i bet he shot him with atlas's own gun; as comparable b/w Revolver Silhouettes there#but the detective work is like; discerning apparent Themes. speculating on what could bolster Character Arcs lol. classic#like furiously rotating like ok if you suppose mordecai absolutely living for Professionalism & avoiding Professional Complications at the#fun new Uniquely Terrible gig is in part a reaction to [murder mystery] then how to figure in a potential parallel wrt mitzi....#and that imo peak mysterious ''how Could she have even theoretically been like indirectly at fault for atlas's death'' matter....#like if you presume mordecai's thusly Doubling Down. does mitzi think atlas died to leave her the Potential that lackadaisy offers. maybe!#since she's All About That now. and trying to figure out who can best help her with that; exactly#rocky trying to be a contender thusly for sure lol#of course plenty of differences in these juxtapositions but thinking about more general parallels wrt those themes; emotional arcs....#we do love it#just have fun; that's what murder is all about. more like foulplay.die
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masha broke a bowl by accident in the kitchen and when i brought her the broom and dustpan and asked her if she was okay, she looked at me, straight-faced, and said, "no, i'm not okay." and then i realized she meant that she still feels emotionally abused by the house somehow, and i felt a flash of anger because i am so sick of her shit, and i rephrased, "are you physically injured?" and she gave me another look and said "i'm physically okay." and then when connie asked from her room "what's going on?" masha replied "nothing new." like fuck off ohhhhhhhh my god
#p#i'm actually sick of making room for people like this#it's not me being kind or understanding. it's me being a doormat and driving myself crazy for not making everyone happy 24/7#would masha feel better if i continually approached her and invited her to things and forgave her every time she acted like this?#yeah she would. and i can imagine the emotional place she's in right now is a terrible one and i empathize#which is why i feel guilty for being too tired to do the above. but also? but ALSO???#in her head she will always be the victim. everything we do she will always interpret in bad faith; choose the most unkind interpretation#it's gabe all over again. they live in an alternate reality from me and from the rest of the house and it is impossible to reconcile the tw#and i get this feeling of anger and a part of me thinks of it as me 'letting myself be a bitch' but it's not actually that#it's literally self-respect. it's me being so burnt out that i don't have the energy to pretend this is somehow my problem#the whole meme of 'aren't you tired of being nice. don't you wanna go apeshit' that's about being inauthentic not abt being nice#sure authentic/inauthentic is a loaded therapy term now but it's just accurate. i should be able to NOT do things if i'm not moved to#i don't feel like talking to her. i don't feel like inviting her to things. i don't feel like giving an apology for an imaginary wrong#she can hate me for the rest of time. she can be miserable for the rest of the year while she stays here. i don't fucking care#she is making herself miserable. it is absolutely 100% on her. in any way that matters it is up to her to fix her own shit#i am so sick of this idea that somehow through the healing power of kindness and friendship everyone can be lifted up#because actually some people refuse to be helped. and it is so hard for me to reconcile this with my worldview#but it's been proven to me over and over again that this is the truth.#i guess it doesn't necessarily apply to material realities but i think it does for emotional ones#but even that division between the material and the social/emotional feels false to me. they're always related#maybe the actual lesson is that you as an individual and sometimes even as a community#have limited resources. and while the world's ills could theoretically be solved with infinite generosity and kindness#you cannot singlehandedly make that happen.#and also if the other party isn't receptive there's only so much you can do.#god i've written like a fucking essay trying to justify to myself why i'm angry at masha bc i want to be validated for it#even though i know by now that i actually don't need to explain myself to anyone -- even to myself
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