#ableist comments

[a-totally-reasonable-username]

People that go "oh i wish i could stay at home all the time too" and "oh i wish i didn't have to go to school and could just stay in bed too" when they hear you're chronically ill and / or disabled: no you don't?? Remember the covid lockdown? Everyone lost their minds after three weeks stop acting as if you wanted to do that for years.

[aetherial-boy]

if you say that someone’s disability is self-inflicted or that they make it worse because of lifestyle choices like smoking or drinking or not exercising, fuck right off.

my ex (who’s a shitty person anyway but that’s another story) used to say those things to me a lot, that i wasn’t doing everything i can to not be disabled so i deserved the pain i was in, i deserved to faint, i brought it on myself so i deserved it

what she forgot is that i was a cripple before i started doing those things. in fact, i sort of used them to cope for a while because my brain is Not Nice about me being disabled (it’s Not Nice about anything really, but this post isn’t about my brain)

so here’s your reminder that disabled people can smoke, drink, be ‘lazy’ and do whatever the fuck we want, and your opinion on it is bullshit. and if you’re disabled, here’s your reminder that you don’t need to feel guilty for doing ‘unhealthy’ things, we all have our vices, ways of coping and things we just enjoy doing, and anyone who shames you for them can go fuck themselves.

-Avril / Supernova (literally any pronouns)

[thedisablednaturalist]

physically disabled person: hi

every abled neurodivergent person in the whole world: Hi I know this isn't about autism but I have executive dysfunction and I really think we should talk about that more not to derail or anything I just wanted to share my experience :) don't forget that not all disabilities are visible! I have anxiety and depression and this explains sooo much!

[laikabu]

ppl r still fighting me on that senshi thing lol idt people understand that this is a medieval society. even if the readers don't consider a character unmasculine because he's soft/weird/nurturing, the characters in-universe are not as progressive as the readers. it's really not that hard to understand

[marcyonacross]

Imagine you spend your whole life working your ass off to succeed with your metal band, something you've always dreamed of. You get so much hate from both the mainstream media and from inside the metal community itself, but keep going and end up as a Grammy award winning musician with a sellout arena touring band and your own movie.

And then at your movie premiere, your so-called 'fans' go online and say you need a shower and that your wife should be having second thoughts because you had the audacity to grow your hair out...

... Tobias Forge really is stronger than any US marine to have to deal with this shit

[sillymille]

Every time a homophobe and biphobe post that the show is ruined because Buck is bi, Oliver Stark is living his best life, happy that he can finally play Buck with 100% honesty and joy. And knows that in doing so, he's giving a majority of the fans joy.

[your-unfriendlyghost]

Was watching “Tex” w/ my cousin, here’s some of their interesting commentary:

“Maybe if they sold the brother Tex could buy back his horse”

“Jamie would probably not reject him if he just info dumped about horses. Tex is clearly autistic he needs to embrace it”

“Yeah Mason the solution to not being stressed is to just take it easy bro”

“Maybe if they sold the dad they could afford to put the horse through college”

“What if instead of expelling him she’s about to give him his horse back?�� (A few seconds later) “OH MY GOD I WAS BASICALLY RIGHT”

(Imitating Tex, in a terrible attempt at an Oklahoma accent) “Oh no…not motorcycles…that reminds me of my hoooorrrrsssse…”

(Imitating Pop in the scene at the hospital) “See, the thing is kid, your mom…she was a horse…”

(Me, mishearing it as “whore”) “Damn, I mean, yeah??? I guess?”

“Jesus, that exploding typewriter prank would NOT fly nowadays”

(Me, nodding all sagely and shit) “Yeah…since we don’t use typewriters anymore”

“Do you think Cowboy hat suit guy (Cole) and Cowboy hat traditional guy (Pop) are epic rivals? Do you think they have enemies to lovers fics?”

(About Lem’s baby) “I just don’t think that babies need feet. I don’t consider babies to be people who need feet. I just feel disturbed, you know?”

(Me) “no, not really. I don’t…no. …Babies have feet.”

“Yeah yeah he got shot that’s bad- but OH NO NOT HIS BOOTS! NOT HIS JACKET! NOOO HE’S GETTING BLOOD ON THEM…NOOO…”

“A good excuse to reconnect with your ex is to get shot- gives you a good reason to call them. Good job Tex”

(In the scene where Tex and Johnny are fighting) “Ooh sweet crop top and cowboy belt- I see ya jock from Breakfast Club, I see ya”

“Maybe…a cowhorse…is like the kinda horse cowboys ride?”

(Me) “Uh…yeah, it’s a horse that herds cows…what did you think it was??”

“A horse-cow-hybrid thing”

(Me, legit shocked) “wHAT?!”

(My sister) “Uh yeah I thought that too”

(Other cousin) “yeah no same”

(Me) “y’all are uncultured”

(cousin) “Naw you’re just a weird horse nerd.

Bonus, from my other cousin: “oh my god Tex is so stupid”

My sister: “Yeah, but in like a lovable way! I’d wanna hang out with him, he’s nice!”

me, more darkly than is warranted: “Yeah, plus, your face is stupid man”

[sukibenders]

I'm a JayVik fan, I'm a MelJay fan, and I'm a MelJayVik fan (as well as a fan of all these characters), full disclosure, but it's really annoying how people in this fandom still only use Mel and Jay as props for Viktor, whilst ignoring who they are as characters outside of him. This is especially prevalent in shipping spaces where people will frame MelJay as being boring (they aren't, many people just can't get over themselves enough to see the value between them), to the point where you can hardly find things in their tag without it resorting back to Vik, over JayVik, but then, in turn, hardly add anything of equal value to Jay in JayVik regards, it's all about Viktor or how Jayce needs to make amends and grovel, but nothing of value besides making him the punching bag---something a lot of people in this fandom do (not saying all JayVik shippers do this, just to clarify). Like it's also very telling with the fact that you have two nuanced poc/poc coded (in Jayce's regards) characters, but can't/won't give them equal time of day as their white counterpart unless it's to elevate said counterpart (this is also prevalent in MelJayVik where some still completely push out Mel and make Jay oc just to focus on Viktor, yall are not slick). And this isn't me saying that you can't enjoy either of these ships or characters, nor dislike them, but it doesn't take much to see the flaws (and thinly coded forms of racism and misogynoir) that also play a role in this fandom. It's so frustrating to see.

[mogai-sunflowers]

unfriendly reminder that using things like low IQ and difficulty with reading comprehension as insults isn’t the gotcha you think it is. using low IQ as an insult just shows how you equate ID with moral failing/human failing, similarly with those “reading comprehension on this website sucks” jokes.

i assure you, the troll you’re trying to epically own won’t care if you make fun of their IQ or reading skills, but the person with ID or another mental disability who happens to see your “joke” is now reminded that people see them as a laughingstock and not as a real person with real feelings.

i understand that many people who make these jokes have no ill intent and aren’t really thinking about the implications of their words, so im not trying to say you’re a bad person if you make these jokes, but i am saying you should reconsider your words and how they could actually affect someone else because ableism is ingrained in everything and it takes work to root out casual ableism in your everyday actions.

[residenttransguy]

'Everyone's a little autistic'

No.

Autism is a spectrum, yes, but that doesn't mean it goes from neurotypical to [ableist voice] 'severely autistic'. It's all autism.

Allistic people might experience or relate to some symptoms associated with autism (this is especially true for other neurodivergent people as there's often an overlap between the traits) but that doesn't mean they're autistic.

[aroaceleovaldez]

feeling feelings this morning about PJO being entirely built and founded upon representing students with learning disabilities and giving them the opportunity to see themselves as heroes. this is a book series about disabled kids. You cannot ignore that without ignoring the very core of the series. you can pry these books from my cold dead hands >->o

[ren-the3rd]

as someone whose second language is english the comments from native english speakers being like ‘how could yuki not know?’ ‘i understand it’s not his first language BUT…’

but what? seriously but what? but he should have magically been gifted the knowledge of all words and all connotations ?

i saw someone being like ‘yuki speaks well enough he know what he did’ ?? what? he literally said he didn’t?

you can and should be upset, hearing someone says slurs is upsetting, i’m glad he’s held accountable. But assuming someone who is apologising for not knowing better and explaining why they didn’t know better - that they should have known better anyway is absolutely ridiculous.

y’all need to understand that slurs are fundamentally cultural and as non native speakers there are always gaps of knowledge, assuming his intentions were obviously malicious when everything getting out is only saying how apologetic and horrified he was upon learning what the r slur actually was,,, it’s just weird behavior

he was held accountable, he has a fine to pay, he apologised publicly, you take it or you leave it is your prerogative in the end ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[creampuffqueen]

i am begging people to stop going “but my sensory issues!!!” on every single post about shaving. it is so frustrating and unhelpful for so many reasons

1. you are making it about yourself. you are contributing to the “what about-ism”. bean souping the post, if you will, by derailing the conversation to turn it to you and your personal preferences

2. i’m being so for real when i say a decent amount of y’all are lying about your supposed unshaven related sensory issues. i’m sure there are some people who genuinely experience sensory issues related to having body hair, but when HUNDREDS of comments on a post are all claiming sensory issues? sensory issues are not just things that bother you, or make you a bit uncomfortable. people with sensory issues have their ENTIRE LIVES affected by them, whether that be foods they can’t eat, materials they can’t wear, noises they can’t be around, whatever. i really feel like the term “sensory issues” has been totally co-opted by neurotypical folks who just mean that a sensation bothers them a bit

3. the staunch refusal to look even a LITTLE BIT deeper into your own personal choices is infuriating. you cry “sensory issues!!” and then don’t think any further than that. it’s completely stunting to any kind of productive conversation surrounding women, body hair, shaving, and beauty standards

4. why do you need the approval from people who don’t shave? why go onto a post about shaving like “b-b-but what about me?? i have SENSORY ISSUES, i HAVE to shave every hair below my eyebrows 🥺 can you please validate me?? can you please tell me i’m still a good feminist?? can you tell me that it’s fine i’m upholding the status quo because of my SENSORY ISSUES that FORCE me to shave??”

y’all act like we’re breaking into your house, stealing your razors, and forcing you to grow out your leg hair at gunpoint. no. all that’s happening is people are saying women shouldn’t be forced to shave their body hair, and yet the people who seem to be most upset about this idea… is other women!

again, i am sure there are people who genuinely have sensory issues that mean they absolutely must shave their body hair. that’s not the issue here. the issue is other women jumping into a conversation about shaving, crying sensory issues (likely from a misunderstanding of what sensory issues actually are) derailing the entire conversation, and preventing any kind of successful discussion

and i just don’t understand why! if you truly, absolutely, 100% shave only for yourself and your comfort, that is fine! but that shouldn’t prevent you from understanding the patriarchal influences around shaving, and encouraging other women to do what they want with their own bodies, including not shaving

but your choices and decisions around shaving don’t exist in a vacuum. i highly doubt anyone in this day and age is deciding to start shaving for themselves. you were influenced by the people around you. be that adults telling you it’s a thing grown women do, be that other people your age starting to shave and you feeling left out, be that being mocked by peers and family members over your (completely natural) body hair

if you shave, that is FINE. that is completely valid. be it because of sensory issues or not. but you don’t need to talk about it! you don’t need to go into the comments on posts about not shaving and make it about how you still choose to shave. you can realize that not everything is about you personally, and most posts about not shaving are a comment on society. you can work on deconstructing your own reasons for shaving (and can still continue to shave after doing so if you want). you can help actually contribute to the conversation about the patriarchal influences behind women and hair removal

just. for the love of god, stop crying “sensory issues!!” on every post about shaving. it’s not that hard

[menlove]

I just didn't think tiktok teens reading fics and being annoying abt it was real bc I like to have faith in children but to call a fic ableist bc you couldn't pay attention to 6k words is craaaazy 😭 someone needs to save them

[disabled-dragoon]

Book reviewers talking about disabled characters try not to be ableist challenge

[grecoromanyaoi]

"oh woe is me people can never tell im autistic they dont think anythings wrong w me bc i pass so well" sounds like a you problem. there was clearly Something Up with me from the start ❤️