#a lot of psych tags

[spvrkvoid]

like shit that frightens me so much is when i do keep in mind that i'm very different from average ppl in the way i think n behave and still hope that they'll be okay about this. i can't be that bad anyway. but nah, no. somebody will find me ridiculous & horribly wrong and won't be able to tolerate me. and will for sure ruin my reputation so no one will want try to befrend me. i know that everyone cause the wft reaction sometimes but i hate how frequiently this happens to me. idk how's that. like. i don't deserve this. i can't. why are the normies so mean?

And the funniest part of it is that I was normal when I was little. Now I can't go back and it feels like I'm cursed forever.

The generation gap between me and ppl of my own age

[loosethreadsofyoursoul]

how does it feel? to know that because of fandom, we get to create infinite universes in which our favourite characters find each other and love each other over and over again?

[starfish-spencer]

Whumptober Day 18: "Revenge"

TW for some mild blood and a gun

The bad guy of the week™ thought it would be easy. Take down the meddling psychic, how hard could it be?

Unfortunately, they forgot one important thing: Hurt Shawn, and Gus will hurt you.

Previous drawings: 1, 2, 4, 8, 10

And of course, click on the pictures for much better quality :)

[dawnofiight]

We got the ultimate study guide: Damien, Aaron, David

The Crammer: Asher, Darlin', Elliot (I do not know this man)

And the person who doesn't study at all but somehow fucking passes because knowledge: Porter, Milo and unfortunately Blake

[coquelicoq]

im obsessed with him im obsessed with his pathetic little life and his idiotic little choices. i want to adopt him but in the way you adopt a highway. wanna get some friends together and go pick up garbage on the side of his psyche once a month in our little hi-vis vests

[mylittleredgirl]

depression is genuinely so fucking stupid. at least being insane is interesting.

[sprinklethetangerine]

Hey, I just watched Dead Poets Society for the first time ever! Now, if you guys don't mind, I'm gonna go sit in the corner of my room and scream!

[mahou-no-momo]

I know the ending was bleak and tragic but I find it hard to believe that the crew's family would not be outraged with the company and go off to search for them on their own or at the very least hire a PI/search & rescue to find them. It definitely wouldn't take 20 years for them all to be found. Months at best. However, they all likely still would've been found dead because they didn't have enough supplies to last until they were all found.

At the very least I just can't fathom them all floating through space rotting away and NO ONE actually looks for them. No way. Specifically Daisuke and Swansea's family.

Like I think about this so much. How much would it cost? What would the company say to cover their ass? (We all know how corporations are. Especially this one.) Would they not even acknowledge any concern? How much hush money would they attempt to offer? How would the families cause enough of an uproar for the company to take action? What lies would the company spread before finally accepting that they're at fault? How long of a battle would the families put up with before taking matters into their own hands? Would this cause there to finally be proper work regulations? Not specifically for a crew since the Tulpar was the last, but in general for any job with humans at the helm.

I don't even wanna think about if any of the family finally finds the ship and goes on board. Daisuke's parents would be devastated and guilty. Swansea's kids would be outraged, seeing the bullet hole in their father's head. You even have to wonder about Curly and Anya's family too. I don't think they'd be allowed on the ship just simply for the fact that the investigator/S&R would know that the crew would likely not be in a good state when found. So that puts my mind somewhat at ease. None of their families has to immediately see that whole scene. But they would have to identify the bodies, and that's what hurts me.

[jamesrodayrodriguezpresents]

Let's show this series some love, peeps!

They have the international version of the pilot and the extended episodes, and of course the musical (and even the After Pshow). If that isn't incentive enough, I don't know what is!

[total-drama-brainrot]

Alenoah, where Noah cares about Alejandro, more than Alejandro's family did:

Noah: I will now torture you.

Alejandro: Kinky!~

Noah: I think you are brilliant and beautiful.

Alejandro: Wait!

Noah: You deserve to be cared for and loved, despite your mistakes.

Alejandro: No!

Noah: Your feelings and needs are valid, and deserve to be heard.

Alejandro: I need a safeword! 😳

Real.

[trans-axolotl]

urgent ask--do i have any followers in the UK who have resources for how to fight getting sectioned, any hotlines for groups that do urgent response or legal advocacy for psych survivors, especially any info on how to make sure a ward does not take away someone's wheelchair? or any phone numbers for disability rights legal groups that are legit? thank you <3

[muppetjackrackham]

black sails has made me so insane that i started plotting out a 1980s band au with every major captain as the frontman of their own band and every band name is a reference to black sails or treasure island

[whatiswhump]

"If you think about it, court-mandated counseling is really just winning a scholarship for free therapy."

-Whumper, probably

[shyloudpanda]

Do you think Gus knew about Shawn's crush on Lassiter?

I mean it is cannon that at least James played Shawn Bi. Was it written that way at some point?

Hey who went to that fan experience convention thing? I NEED to know everything that happened that weekend. This pineapple had to work, and had no one to go with, and had potential other plans that all fell through because work.

Boy this derailed, huh!

[spaceacerat]

Shoutout to fellow sibling-abuse survivors.

Sibling abuse is said to be the most common form of domestic abuse, but also the least reported due to the circumstances surrounding it.

People tend to play it off as siblings being siblings, but it's not. If you lived in fear of your sibling(s), if you are traumatized/suffer PTSD from it, if they abused you in literally any damn way, even if you had good times or they helped you otherwise, it was still abuse and you should be able to speak on it and get the help you need to process it without it being downplayed.

Whether they were abused as well or not should not invalidate your own experience. They still hurt you. You're allowed to feel what you feel about it.

If someone tells you you have to talk to or forgive them because they're family, know that you do not actually have to. Not unless you want to.

Whether you interact with/forgive the ones who hurt you or not should be your choice. Don't let anyone pressure you until you're sure you're ready for it.

If you ever are ready, and you can talk about it with them when you've had some time apart (aka one of you moved out or you are certain they can't or won't try to hurt you again) and they seem more levelheaded, I hope you get the responses you need to move on.

If that never comes, I hope you can make peace with it on your own, or however you need to handle it emotionally to feel your best. If what you need to feel about it is just rage or dispair, then go ahead. Whatever works.

Just please. Take care of yourself. It can/might/will have a lasting impact, and you should be able to talk about it without hearing people say "Oh, that's just how it is with siblings!"

Because it's not supposed to be like that. There are siblings who grow up never hurting another sibling or have never had to fear the others cruelty.

It's just hard to recognize when you often hear people downplaying their own abuse as a natural consequence for growing up with others. It shouldn't be. This should not be the norm.

[luckycharms1701]

got a response to my last post and fuck if i didn't pull my computer out at one in the morning so i could do this particular topic justice

my "time to talk about family dynamics in tmnt" button was pushed real hard, and i don't get enough opportunities to talk about this

So let's talk about Leo's position in the family in the Bayverse movies. That's right folks, we're pulling out capital letters for the leader in blue, because this is a topic I am super serious about. Full college paper levels of serious. Gonna need to know how you want your sources cited.

This is a fascinating take tbh, and I would love to hear more about how you came to this conclusion. Allow me to show you why my position is different.

First:

I think this image says a lot. Leo's a daddy's boy long before anything like parentification could possibly come into play. Also it's really cute, look at him loving his dad!!

Second, let's talk parentification. Boiled down to its basics, parentification is when a child, usually the eldest, acts like a secondary or replacement parent. This is the part that really gets me, because I just don't see any evidence of it in the movies at all.

We do get to see some scenes from when they are kids, and no where is it suggested that Leo is anything other than another one of the boys.

Sure, Mikey hides behind him when play-fighting with Raph after the buck-buck scene, but that's just younger sibling behavior. No where is it implied that this happens because anyone expects it of Leo. That, I think, might be the closest to "parentification" that occurs in the movies.

The thing is, I don't think Leo has been the leader very long at the beginning of the 2014 movie. Honestly I wouldn't be surprised if it's a move Splinter made just before or even as the movie starts. Leo's and Raph's argument really solidifies that for me:

Raph: And who put you in charge?

Leo: You know who did.

This smacks, on Leo's part, of someone borrowing another's authority to shore up their own. That tells me that Leo at least does not feel that he has this authority on his own merit, that he's new to leadership. Raph senses this like a shark in bloody water, and he pushes because there's vulnerability there. (more on this later *rubs hands together in glee*)

I think that there is evidence in the 2016 movie that Leo is relatively new to a position of authority as well. His struggle to maintain the delicate balance of his brother's personalities and the fact that he allows his own personality to get in the way of being a good leader are prime examples.

These are pitfalls that a parentified person would already have experienced and would be able to avoid, and so they wouldn't have happened if Leo was parentified.

Third, let's talk about Leo and Raph.

So, my position here is that Leo and Raph DO have a normal sibling relationship, at least as normal as it can get when you are turtle mutants living in the sewers with only each other for company.

Anecdotal, I know, but I have a bit of experience with a similar dynamic to the one you assigned to them. I am the oldest of three, and my sister (middle) and I did NOT get along as kids. It got to the point where I thought as teens that once I left the house we would never talk to each other ever again.

Perceived favoritism was definitely an issue in my and my sister's relationship. Is it an issue with Leo and Raph? I honestly don't think we get enough time with Splinter in the movies to determine that concretely. It's definitely possible, but I believe something different is, either concurrently with or instead of favoritism, at play here.

I know it's easy to forget because they look Like That, but the turtles are teenagers. They are immature and don't always know how to express themselves. And Raph in particular struggles because he feels so strongly. It can be hard to control it when your emotions are strong like that, don't ask me how I know.

However, he gives himself away at the end of the 2014 movie. "Every time... I pushed you beyond your limits, it was because I believe in you! I believe in each one of you!"

Remember when I said that Raph sensed Leo's vulnerability and pushed on it? We've come back baby! I am firmly in the camp of 'both Raph and Leo are good leaders in their own way', and I think this is part of what makes Raph a good leader.

Sometimes Raph is actually annoyed at Leo for whatever reason, being told what to do the most common I think. But!! Remember, Raph also believes in his brothers, Leo included. So he puts Leo on the spot in a mostly controlled environment to help him learn how to be a leader. There's a lot more I could say here, but that's a Raph post, and this is about Leo.

So is it favoritism, Raph's need for independence, or Raph pushing Leo that causes tension in their relationship? I think it's a bit of all of that and more.

There is a fourth section to this post, about Splinter, but it is now almost four in the morning, I have to get up in like two hours, and I already fell asleep once while writing this. But know that in this iteration at least, Splinter is a decent single father of four boys, he did not parentify Leo, and any favoritism is unintentional.

Anyway, in my house we spend a lot of time talking about how much Leo loves his dad.