#Victimisation

[thehopelessauthor]

Men who are/were victimised (because yes it can happen to men too)

Husk:

Abuser: Alastor

Status: Ongoing

Abuse:

• Modern slavery

• Emotional

• Financial (possibly)

• Being owned

• Physical

• Humiliation

Triggers:

• Intimidated

• Condescension

• Hypervigilance

• Volatile (particularly towards Alastor, than anyone else in the hotel; depending what the situation is)

• Witnessing another abusive relationship — ie Angel being struck by Valentino (bro nearly lost it)

• Alcoholism - not sure if this stems from his background or if it’s amplified by Alastor’s abuse

• Isolation

<> This is a little hard for Alastor to do within the hotel so I think he would let that slide — however, I suspect, he’d at least ensure that Husk doesn’t have any distractions that could cause him to leave his side— for example: let’s say entering a relationship with Angel Dust etc 🤭

Jamie Fraser:

Abuser: Randall

Status: Formerly (☠️)

Abuse:

• Physically

• Sexually

• Mentally

Triggers:

• Severe PTSD

• Repulsed by sexual activity (particularly with his wife - formerly)

• Smell of lavender

• Guilt-ridden (formerly)

• Dissociation

• Hallucinatory visions

• Closed off

Stolas of the Ars Goetia

Abuser(s):

• Stella

• Paimon

• Striker

• Blitz (verbally)

• Andrealpus

Status: Ongoing, slowly healing

Abuse:

• Physical

• Sexually - forced, by Paimon, to have sex with Stella to procreate an heir for the Goetia family (didn’t matter what his 🏳️‍🌈 sexuality 🏳️‍🌈 was)

• Emotional

• Neglect (as a child)

• Mentally

• Psychologically

Triggers:

• Closeted

• Hypersexuality

• Stockholm Syndrome (via Blitz)

• Socially awkward (via different variations of abuse)

• Flinch at the slightest

• Clingy

• Helicopter parent (to Octavia)

• Love-bombing

• Financially (via Andrealpus)

• Institutional

<> Not offering choice or promoting independence

Gale Dekarios:

Abuser: Mystra

Status: Determinant

Abuse:

• Emotionally

• Sexually (Groomed)

• Religious

• Stockholm Syndrome

Triggers:

• Manipulative (subconscious)

• Love bombing

• One-sidedness (on Mystra’s part)

• Clingy

• Lack of affection (romantically)

Angel Dust:

Abuser: Valentino (mainly)

Status: Ongoing

However, I do theorise that the other two Vees are involved as well, but more indirectly, like you have Velvet’s “love potion” specifically for date-rape for victims and then you have Vox with his cameras in Angel’s dressing room; so basically a key witness to the ongoing assault or even just watching (?) him get undressed which is also another violation — since he’s visually participating — of his privacy.

Abuse:

• Sexual assault

• Physical

• Modern slavery (via pornography & sex worker)

• Mentally

• Emotionally

Triggers:

• Hypersexuality

• Depersonalisation

• Masking

• Reliant on drug substances

• Unpredictability

• Stockholm Syndrome (severe)

Lucifer Morningstar:

Abuser: God (his father)

Status: Formerly

Abuse:

• Self-neglect (to himself— if in a really bad way)

• Emotional

• Neglect

• Domestic violence (psychological)

Triggers:

• Lack of affection

• Commitment issues

• Incapable of love

• Masking

• Abandonment issues

• Favouritism

• Broken family (via parents splitting up)

• Hypersensexulity

• Reliant on drugs and alcohol; to numb any sort of positive feelings

• Daddy/mommy issues

• Helicopter parent (when it comes to Rory 😂 )

<> Because of the lack of affection his father never gave him; spin cycle repeat

(Okay let me just acknowledge that despite that these no longer exist anymore, because of some very tense therapy thanks to Linda Martin — but it still doesn’t change the fact that he WAS abused at that point)

Astarion Ancunín

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Abuser: Cazador Szarr

Status: Formerly (💀), semi-healed

Abuse:

• Physically

• Modern slavery (formerly)

• Mentally

• Emotionally

• Neglect

• Psychological (Act 1)

• Sexually

(Not directly to him but he was forced to do sexual acts against his will, which is a type of rape)

• Domestic violence (psychological)

<> It was stated that Cazador thought of his (s)pawns as “family” so I guess this goes under this category

• Institutional

<> Cazador no doubt had planned Astarion’s death (by charming a group to attack him) so he can use him as a pawn after turning him into a vampire

<> Discouraging visits or the involvement of relatives or friends — so basically not allowing Astarion to socialise with anyone except for the ones he was forced to sleep with

<> Not offering choice or promoting independence

• Financial

(Not confirmed but implied — perhaps that’s why Astarion chose the rogue class or maybe he was already one by the time Cazador came to him)

<> Someone moving into a person’s home and living rent free without agreement or under duress

Triggers:

• Physical contact — very selective about who touches him, unless it’s those who are in his inner circle; like his friends, family or partner (determined by if he stays as a spawn at the end of the game)

<> Scar tissue — speaking from someone who actually has scars on my body I can assure that he most definitely has what I call ‘tingles’ and it’s both annoying and a little painful on certain days (particularly in colder weather)

• Moral standards (Act 1)

• Masking

• Hypersexuality

<> Although it’s a little different to Angel Dust’s; Astarion is actually hyper aware of what he’s doing but suppresses his loathing and disgust to force himself through it due to two centuries of habit

• Repulsed by sexual acts

• Eating drinking disorder (HC)

<> I’d think if I was starved of my food sources I’d develop some “eating” — or drinking habits — if I was a vampire habits. Or maybe he personally chose to do intermittent fasting (which can be mistaken for eating disorder but they do two different things)

• Claustrophobia (implied)

<> Due to a traumatic experience of being entombed for an entire year for disobeying orders

[reniihere]

I see sm abt victimizing yourself or acting like the victim even if you were not but can we talk about villainizing yourself? Like taking all the blame and feeling responsible towards every wrong that u witness? Because idk if that's normal or not I feel it that way. I never WANT to be the victim just cuz I think it will throw me into pick me category Idk why this habit came but it has always been there. I'm always feeling the need to understand everything and everyone and be responsible although I'm not supposed to. Okay let me take it as an example: fake scenarios. I have an unhealthy habit of zoning out and making fake scenarios, mostly about things I lack in real life or can't have. Mostly it's on romance. With fictional characters I decide to obsess over for the time being.

What I do is I make myself the one who hurt my partner(I love angst way too much) in order to comfort them later on and make them love me. I don't think I deserve that kind of affection if I don't do something for the other first.

Second: group projects.

As a student, we are assigned these all the time. And I don't trust anybody to do the work but me. I take myself as the overall responsible for everything and that I would need to look after everyone even though I'm not the leader.

Third:

I would feel the need to keep everyone in line and never enjoy. I can't. Ever. Even though I really want to. I also want to live freely as the others too but I just can't. It's like I'm bounded by something that doesn't give me the freedom to do stuff.

I would always take the blame if someone close to me is the victim to some accusations. Even though they are right I take all the bad comments upon myself. Kinda weird but really true.

PS: this lookes like it came straight from my notes😂

Anyways tell me if this is relatable or am I just being delusional.

Xoxo.

[her-moth]

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[peacemore-springs]

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[the-dollhouse-system]

Being a victim of abuse doesn’t make you a good person. Realistically, it just makes it harder. Those who are abused are more likely to abuse, and it takes a long time to unlearn what you’ve been taught. It’s a self-perpetuating cycle, and cycles will resist every effort to break them. But even with resistance, they can break.

Acknowledging the influence of your trauma, reflecting on your own patterns, and relearning how to treat the world around you is one of the most fulfilling things you can do. You’ll need to fight tooth & nail, but knowing that you’re kinder than everything that’s ever hurt you feels so much better than accepting yourself as a product of it. Please keep reminding yourself that the pain you were forced into does not entitle you force pain onto others. It does not entitle you to neglect friendships or manipulate relationships or disregard your mistakes. It doesn’t entitle you anything, except the feelings you hold and the opportunity to heal. It’s so much work to recover, and progress isn’t linear, but it’s the only thing that can bring you true peace.

Knowing that you could look your abuser in the eye and say, with all honesty, “I am nothing like you” sets you free like nothing else can.

When will we, as a society, move past the idea that victims and abusers are two discrete, mutually exclusive categories of people.

[ratbastarddotfuck]

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Bad Person Deserves Punishment For Their Sins give me a fucking break and get yourself out of the fucking catholic church. you're all prison abolitionists until you see someone you don't like.

[super-nova5045]

its always “we should beat up and kill rapists and abusers!” but the moment someone actually does you all turn on them

[duchesstopaz]

Monday, May 29th, 2023

3:29pm

Here’s the texts of when I texted my older sister, 5 months after everything that happened while I was in New York City with her.

Here’s what I said to her:

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