#This is still misogynoir

[aishabellasbigblogofeverything]

Honestly seeing that one bitch say that Halle Bailey has a "man cock" in addition to being so fucking racist and disgusting, was also really disheartening and served as a harsh and disturbing reminder that...it doesn't matter how pretty or feminine or soft and sweet and delicate you are as a Black woman, you could be all these traits superlative to any white woman on the planet, but as long as you're Black they will always find a way to call you a man...no matter what. As long as you are a Black woman you will be masculinized and have your femininity called into question. It's really hurtful.

[awakefor48hours]

The Legend Of Korra: *spent years fighting an uphill battle of misogynoir and queeephobia*

Korra and Asami: *kiss and announce they’re a couple before gay marriage was even legalized in the United States*

Fans: Korrasami is a bad and underdeveloped relationship. Why do people even like it?

[princessefemmelesbian]

Maybe I’m just being dramatic but it does legitimately scare and sadden me to see that a lot of transandrophobia truthers are literally just…young boys. Like, actual children. Like you’re not even old enough to vote yet and you have your whole life ahead of you and yet you are being manipulated into joining an mra group that hates trans women with a passion and thinks that men are oppressed in society for being men, and constantly uses Black men as their talking point in order to sound diverse and inclusive, meanwhile they’re also appropriating and misusing terminology specifically created by Black women to talk about our own oppression in order to get their misandry point across…to say nothing of the fact that the largest people in this group(including but not limited to its creator!) have misogynistic rape/detrans kinks centered specifically around preying on lesbians and trans women and this is something that is normalized and defended by the vast majority of transandrophobia truthers, or at least defended viciously by every single transandrodork that I’ve ever encountered who argued with me(a lesbian!!!) that actually there’s nothing wrong with getting off to the corrective rape of women because two consenting adults can do whatever they want in the bedroom(yeah right)! Not to mention I have yet to come across a transandrophobia truther who wasn’t also a raging die-hard Zionist.

And that’s why it disturbs me so much to see young trans boys jumping onto this transmisogynistic hate train like you guys realize these men don’t have your best interests at heart, right? They’re only going to manipulate you into being a sexist entitled asshat who shuns and bullies the trans women in your community and sees them as oppressing you. Like I know you’re still in middle/high school but you can still think for yourselves, you can choose to be better than this, you can choose to actually learn about feminism and realize that it’s not actually misandry that oppresses you, it’s transphobia. Misandry doesn’t suddenly become real because you slap a trans paint over it that’s not how it works that’s not how intersectionality works that’s not how any of this shit works. There are better trans men to talk to about trans issues who know that the patriarchy is real and don’t shit on trans women in order to speak out about trans topics, so go seek them out, okay? You absolutely do not have to listen to shit that the “male supremacists but trans” group of lowlives has to say. Hell, tell them to fuck off instead! Please, I promise you that there are much better options, there are ALWAYS better options, and you still have time to escape before they fully radicalize you into basically being an incel. There will ALWAYS be another way. ❤️

[sukibenders]

"Penelope has insecurities!" As an excuse for her harming others because of those said insecurities falls very flat when it puts the character's, who live during a time of few options especially if you were a women, at risk. And even with her insecurities, her lashing out and hurting people should be held in the same regard as how some view Cressida, who didn't get the luxury of a view into her home life until s3, unlike Penelope, and while it still has people calling out this behavior, although rightfully so, it often still includes denying that Penelope needs to take accountability as well.

[sanyu-thewitch05]

I feel so bad that Megan has to deal with the AI sextape being passed around. Yet again, this whole scandal is being perpetrated by Blackistan and its members( The black blogs and obsessive stans) and at this point I think Megan needs to pull a Tina Turner/Eve move and distance herself from the collective rap industry. In general she’s partially already doing that by leaning into her anime watcher side and including that into her music(because let’s be honest, Blackistan stays away from certain kinds of aesthetics and music on purpose).

Also, on the topic of Blackistan and Megan, Blackistan has had its ugly neck out for her ever since Tory Lanez got put in jail. I still remember when the Black rap blogs were putting out fake headlines that Tory was found innocent, only for them to be wrong. They don’t like it when criminal Black men are held accountable in any way. If we learned anything from Tina Turner’s life and death, Blackistan is going to make Megan’s injury, virtual harassment, and fake sex tape a joke to degrade and humiliate her even when she’s in the grave.

And it’s not lost on me how Taylor got sympathy and the government to start doing something when she was the victim of this happening. But Megan doesn’t even get basic human respect and the ability to cry because she’s being dehumanized online via a deepfake.

[void-star]

Recently, I confronted a white guy I know irl who is a long-standing member of a community I organize on his racism (being comfortable enough around black people to try dropping the n-word cause one of them said it in his presence).

It did not go well, I don't really need to explain that to anybody who has ever tried to talk to white people about racism. Deflections, distractions, then turning to accusations when him selling me on his innocence/ignorance did not stop the confrontation.

Anyway, I set down the boundaries and let him decide whether he would take the actions requested of him or not (action informed by conversations with the black people in my community about what they needed).

He had to chew on it.

I found out later he did send out an apology, but only after he went to the person in this community (one that he affected) that he perceives to be another man ( and he is closer with), trying to find someone to soothe his sore ego.

I keep thinking about that goofy post about the alt-right pipeline.

I was nice to this man. I gave him the opportunity to be honest. I offered him an understanding of the importance of the confrontation. But I had to be firm because dude could not, would not show up to the table.

And he still ran to a safer "man" anyway, looking for whatever confirmation or validation he wanted in order to avoid responsibility. And only apologized to a black woman because the "man" he went to reinforced that he needed to be accountable.

I don't know what else happened in the conversation between them, but I can only imagine what platitudes had to be exchanged and how much diminishing of me, at least, had to have been to get this dude to do something as fuckin simple as apologize to somebody.

I wonder where the fuck us "being nicer" to these types of men fits into this exchange to "avoid" pushing men to the alt right.

I could literally do nothing to make this guy behave like a normal fucking person in this situation.

"Be nicer" lmao.

[aishabellasbigblogofeverything]

New blog name

@thisismisogynoir -> @aishabellasbigblogofeverything

Like + reblog if you see!!! 💖

[metalheadsforblacklivesmatter]

(For the record. I'm not attacking Keith Lee. He's an amazing creator, and as a foodie I love what he's doing for small businesses.)

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRtAXn6e/

But I just want to point out what Black women have been saying (and whether Keith Lee knows it or not, what he's calling these big companies out for).

A Black woman has an idea. He loves her idea, replicates it, giving her credit. And the big company comes in and supports HIM and not the Black woman that originally had the idea.

This happens all the time for Black women creators. Whether the idea is picked up by a Black man, white woman, or white man. Black women never get their credit.

(Keith Lee did everything right. He gave the Black women their credit in his videos. He's calling out the big businesses for snubbing them.)

Anyways. I don't have any input. There's nothing I can add that Black women haven't already said. I just wanted to point out that it happens.

-fae

[kouhaiofcolor]

Damn man. Think I’ve realised it’s not Black people at large. It’s not. Nope. It’s a very specific part of the diaspora that is behind most modern apparatus in all forms that reduces, caricaturizes or, in entirely too many ways among entirely too many of us, disgraces Black culture and the representation of Black People in general.

And at the risk of offending or pissing some Black ppl off, it’s the African American community specifically. Black Americans. Specifically af, and I’m done defending it. It’s us. It’s Black Americans in their full-circle complacency. It’s literally the worst of us here making the rest of us look fucking terrible — and that is so anguishing. Year round.😮‍💨

It’s not Black Brits; it’s not Black Germans; it’s not Black islanders; its not Black Canadians; it’s not BIPOC; it’s not Africans in anywhere near the kind of prevalence we observe or experience the kind of shiftlessness and stagnance unique to the state of modern Black American communities. It’s Black Americans, 1000% of the time, making Black People all over the world out to be thee fucking same in the worst contexts. There’s a shame in desecrating our cultures, ourselves and each other that we just do not have here in the US.

And this why I gotta go. Y’all can have it; whole damn continent. All of us definitely cannot make it out — and i fear we’d be worst off encouraging everybody try. This some shit we as Black Americans definitely gotta unpack tho (and maybe get a move on?⏱️👀) cus it’s getting pretty damn irreversible. That should be terrifying. I gotta gtfoh.

[godalyn]

Can't wait to see people making more shipping content for Richter and Alucard despite them not being together over the canon relationship of Richter and Annette:)

[novemberthewriter]

sometimes i trick myself into thinking that misogynoir isn't as pervasive as it is, and then i see stuff like people victim blaming a black woman w/a CDL for being driven half off a bridge & nearly to her death because a person in a smaller vehicle crashed into her & she had to swerve to avoid killing people. 'the most disrespected person in america is the black woman' indeed

[birthofvcnus]

passed out for three hours only for the worst case scenario to happen. well fuck

[apocalypse-boogie]

I gotta be honest, I don’t engage with the Criminal Minds fandom (despite having watched all of the original show + Evolution and read up on as much of the spin-offs as I could) because I don’t like how prevalent the racism and sexism and infantilization is in the fandom. There’s just enough of all that shit upfront that I don’t want to dig any deeper than I already have. I’m good, I get enough of that shit in fandoms that I’ve been apart of for years I’m not gonna let this shit sully my love for this show anymore than it already has (especially considering the show’s writing itself is not devoid of these faults).

I’d rather just love the show and dissect it and write analysis and fanfic for it and shit on my own.

My fav characters (just cause & kind of in best to least order): Penelope Garcia (she’s literally me, I love her), Derek Morgan, Emily Prentiss, Jordan Todd, Matt Simmons, David Rossi.

[sukibenders]

A yte character: *is cunning and has ambition*

Some in the fandom: Oh, I like them, they're so fabulous. I wonder what they're plans are? They obviously have a reason for doing this, no matter the actions.

A poc character: *is cunning and has ambition*

Some in the fandom: Oh so they're the villain? I mean, it's obvious by the way they act. They only care about themselves. Other characters have been hurt and you don't see them acting this way---

[thegetdownrebooter]

I really hate this for my somali-american brothers and sisters, this is so awful.

[sleepynegress]

A word. A gathering that almost evokes sad gentle pity. This is directed at heterosexual men of a certain ilk.

The ones who think women can be "used up", or who only see value in women's adherence to the standards other emotionally stunted men approve of.

A lot of men have ingested and are still projectile vomiting all the internalized toxic they took in while "growing up", at famous strangers. ...Flinching at unbothered happiness because they haven't healed from limited notions of what that's supposed to look like.