#TRAUMA BASED fucking disorder.
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#vent/rant in tags#some people are JUST ABUSIVE.#i’m not gonna lie - it hurts so fucking bad to have done so much work all by myself - untreated - unmedicated - no resources -#just guesswork - just to have it not fucking matter because people discard me the SECOND they learn about my#TRAUMA BASED fucking disorder.#it’s not my fault. i was a CHILD. i was a CHILD who should have been cared for - not neglected - isolated - and abused.#i’m sorry that maybe some people take that and repeat the cycle - but everything about that told me that i HAVE to be BETTER -#i CANNOT repeat those same fucking behaviours that wounded me so deeply and ruined my fucking life#IT IS NOT MY FAULT.#and you know fucking what? my biggest abuser had NPD - and i rejected my diagnosis for YEARS. because of terms like narc abuse.#and because people demonized him on the basis of being a narcissist instead of on the basis of being an abuser.#rejecting my diagnosis only hurt me more - and hurt the people around me more.#i am so tired. i’m just a person. i am just a human being. i try so hard - i don’t even want recognition or praise for trying -#i’m just tired of being thrown away - i’m tired of being treated like my abuser just because of my diagnosis#he quite literally tried to murder me - believe me if you want - i don’t care - i was a child and he tried to murder me and i still think#that there is no excuse to demonize NPD just because he has it.#fuck all the way off - go die - i don’t care#none of my friends would ever know i have NPD because i’m not a fucking stereotype - i’m not an evil monster - i don’t want to hurt anyone-#the way i’ve been hurt - i NEED to be the best - i NEED to be as good as possible#stop demonizing my disorder - please - i am begging#screaming into the void#NPD#narc abuse#narcissistic abuse
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I haven't seen this take a WHOLE lot, but I have seen it enough to get. Frustrated. About it.
So for anyone who doesn't get it: no, symptoms of mental illness are not, in every case, majorly or solely the result of Dealing With Capitalism. Sometimes, they can be! Sometimes the symptoms are situational, and those situations are heavily related to how much capitalism sucks! But many times they are not. I am sorry, but mental illness and trauma and neurodivergence are still going to exist even if capitalism completely goes away. We still have a responsibility to treat the people affected by and experiencing these things with compassion and understanding. We still have to. You know. Acknowledge that their life experience is going to be a lot different than many other's is.
#I promise that when my ocd onset happened at 10 years old I was not thinking about capitalism#germs are still going to exist post-capitalism. the concept of a good person vs a bad person is still going to exist post-capitalism#which means. if those are your OCD Themes™. then. you're still going to have OCD post-capitalism.#and this is true for. you know. EVERY INSTANCE OF THIS.#you take things that are rooted in trauma like did or ptsd. I hate to tell you this but mistreatment and the trauma that results from it#are still going to exist in a post-capitalist world. bad people who do bad things WILL ALWAYS EXIST. so those illnesses are likewise still#going to exist. plenty of anxiety-based symptoms are related to fears that. have nothing to do with capitalism or financial security.#they are DISPROPORTIONATE REACTIONS. THAT IS THE POINT.#if someone has anxiety that isn't completely situational. or if someone has paranoia. that disproportionate fear does not have to#have capitalism to exist. meaning. you know. those will ALSO still exist.#adhd and autism have nothing to fucking do with capitalism lmao.#the existence of. for example. schizophrenia and psychosis HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH CAPITALISM????????#like. we can talk about how much easier it would be for people to get care/accommodations under a non-capitalist system. we can talk about#how divorcing personal worth from the concept of 'productivity' would help the people who experience the things I've mentioned.#I'm not disputing that. but I've seen...a not-insignificant number of people downplay or outright DENY the existence of these#illnesses/experiences outside of 'languishing under the pressure of capitalism/tying your worth to productivity/worrying about financial#security' and that is simply not how it works my friends!#tw: suicidal ideation#like. sorry. I did not seriously consider killing myself at age 10 to escape The Disorder™ for you to tell me that all my issues with this#illness would go away forever if capitalism stopped existing LOL!! LMAO EVEN!!!!!#In the Vents#the real horror was the ableism we found along the way
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Does anybody else feel like mental health awareness has done very little to help them in material reality
#i was gonna say done nothing to help but that seemed too harsh#like there definitely is more knowledge about it now. maybe more people feel comfortable speaking about it which is good#but personally i don't feel that. like idk. workplaces will post about mental health awareness and then do nothing to help employees#the same w universities. my uni cut back the already meager mental health support#and then the government is doing absolutely fuck all as well#like idk im just back in a place i thought id gotten out of long ago and i still don't feel comfortable talking about it with people#maybe that's a me problem or maybe it's cultural or something idk. but in the 10 years ive been depressed (🫠) i don't think it's gotten a#whole lot better. teenagers are still dealing with the same shit i did and they're still not being taken seriously#women's mental health is not even spoken about.....anxiety depression sh eds etc are still ignored or seen as hysterical behaviour in women#or just normal esp with disordered eating. society hasn't changed people still want women to be stick thin and weak#like i know 10 years is a short time and there has been massive improvements in mh awareness if we look back over the past 50+ years#but idk i just think that it hasn't gotten better for a lot of people#i think specifically of belfast and like god. the amount of trauma there is the amount of homelessness the amount of substance abuse#drug abuse in particular that has gotten visibly worse over the past decade or so*#and i connect the dots n see the 2008 recession + a tory gov defunding the nhs + dehumanisation of homeless people & addicts + the troubles#+ ptsd + generational trauma + a negative peace + classism + paramilitary drug dealers + parties linked to those paramilitaries#and its like hmmmm i think we live in a society. and a mental health approach based on individual actions like journaling and meditation#isn't the way to go. or at least is not the be all and end all which is what a lot of mental health awareness raising seems to promote#*visibly worse on the streets. it was always a problem ofc but even a decade ago my parents never imagined it would be as bad as it is now#and it's become so normalised. i do think there's less individualism here than there seems to be elsewhere which can be good and can be bad#but i think we are becoming more and more individualistic. slowly. there's still a sense of community here but i do think it's changing#and callousness towards homeless people is one of the most obvious examples of this.#love when i put a wee asterisk in the tags of a post. like i have A Lot To Say lol
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daily reminder that you can be a system without trauma, but you can't have DID without trauma. it's fine to call yourself a system without being sure you have trauma but if you're looking into DID specifically, you will have to come to terms with the fact that you have trauma.
#post.#i don't care what anyone says#if you scream at me about endos not being real#i'm just going to tell you to get a life#get over it#there are better ways#to go about this discourse#than arguing about something#that has .05 research on it#that being endos not DID#you cannot prove endos don't exist#because there is so little to no research on them at all#that you cannot reasonably be conclusive#however DID on the other hand#has fuck loads of research#and all of it says it's a trauma based disorder#fuckingggg cry about it#syscourse
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"Are we really plural if--" Yes. This is a non-exhaustive flowchart with a small sampling of origin labels, system experiences, and how being disordered can (or doesn't) fit in.
These questions share a lot of overlap, but they are still separate issues. (Note: not all wDID/OSDD/etc identify as plural or as systems. This chart is purely for folks who are plural/systems.) A huge problem these days are some people, including systems, conflating it all.
We didn't include topics such as age of onset, overtness, or types of system members. To us, that is covered by the blurb at the end: YES. If you& are "more than one", that is plurality. And you& can use the term "system". Everything else is details.
The community needs to go back to embracing the concept of "more than one" being the only requirement for being plural/a system. Microlabels can be important for articulating experiences, but they don't make or break what plurality IS. Cheers.
PS: When we say “disordered” outside of like, a dx’d disorder, we mean knowing that your system has struggles that impact it but might not be severe enough for a dx. Or that don’t really impact functioning.
#plurality#plural systems#actuallyplural#actuallymultiple#endo positive#sysmeds fuck off#we just really want system to stop equating ORIGIN and DIAGNOSIS and SPIRITUAL VS PSYCHOLOGICAL#as if trauma formed and DID and psychological are all the same thing#they're not#endo safe#you can be endogenic and have DID and be purely psychological#you can be trauma formed and not have a disorder and be spiritually based
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i wish DID/being a system was as fun as some people seem to think it is like "oh you've got friends in your head!! you'll never be lonely" fuck i wish it was like that.
#⚠️#🌸#💋#🍏#people act like its not a trauma based disorder like fuck do you think we're all just having a party up here? im so tired all the time im#exhausted
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Being Treated like a Nothing is Aren't Traumatic Huh?
Guys trust me I have some "vision"
#my art#Im am Nitchs stan N1 fuck you Fake Zero Nightmare Zero and even Omega#mega man x giga missions#i love that parasitic doppelganger#+German language is cool for me#and yeah this based on Renard album covers “Trauma” and “Post Traumatic Stress Disorder”#mega man x#mega man x nichts#his name is hard but im not mad
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#did memes#osdd#did osdd#anti endo#fuck endos#i think i’m funny#for a trauma based disorder#so like#memes image#discourse#syscourse
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something ive learned over the past 2-3 years: health and wellness classes absolutely were not meant for neurodivergent people
#at least my old health teacher could/would sympathize with me#i am a week and a half into this semester and the new teacher pisses me off unnaturally#just got an assignment that said something like “the opposite of empathy is SELFISHNESS! always be empathic!!”#as someone with multiple friends who have low empathy but are still genuinely great people; fuck you??#also there was some shit with socializing and 'getting out of your comfort zone'#ever consider that maybe the reason someone is staying inside their comfort zone#is bc forcing themselves outside of it makes them more likely to have a panic attack or breakdown?#DID YOU CHRISTINE?? maybe you're the one who needs to work on seeing things from others perspectives. fuck you#its always “get out of your comfort zone! try new and unusual things!”#but have you(/nd) considered: making the zone comfortable? “take as long as you need”?#considered “you're not a bad person simply for not living up to others standards and not knowing unspoken rules”?#(and yes 'nuerodivergent' here includes people with pd's and other trauma based disorders)#adhd#autism#mental health#vent#kinda#can you tell i'm not having the best day#hellth class
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When you first learned about the Queer community, did you immediately realize ‘That’s me!’ Or did you consider yourself a ‘really good ally’ for some time?
Oh! I don't think I've talked about this before.
TW: Religious trauma and internalised homophobia.
I was raised fundamentalist southern baptist. and homeschooled. I was so controlled sheltered it's not even funny. I was easily 13 before I even knew that being gay as a thing, let alone anything else. There were gay people in my family and I just... didn't know about them.
Of course i knew i didn't experience attraction like everyone else, but i actually attributed it to my "godliness." (🙄)
The first time I learned about the queer community was when i was in college. And the people I learned it from where... oh boy. Very toxic. It was a realllllllllllly complex situation. They actually bullied me a lot for being young (16) and very naive.
Around the same time, in college, I was talking to a friend in one of theater my classes and we were discussing how neither of us had ever had a crush. Someone in the class popped in behind me and asked if I was asexual.
And honestly? I remembered my heart sinking. Cause you know - Religious and internalized just about everything.
I won't get too far into it, but that started all of it. Slowly trying to sort through those emotions, being called slurs for the first time when i tried to search religious sites, being bullied by the same people who championed the community, being warned not to tell my parents by other adults.
Honestly I don't harbor ill will towards the bully. There was a lot going on with them as well, and there were other Queer people i met in college that very quickly made me realise "Oh It's Just That Person".
But I'm not sure i'll ever forget sitting across the room from them feeling so small and so confused.
#my college years where honestly so fucking bonkers#my program closed underneath my feet#shit happened that hit national news#i lived 2 hours away and commuted#i transfered schools#had a nervous breakdown#developed a panic-based seizure disorder#and then covid happened#so yeah lmao#mmmmmm sorry nonny this wasn't sweet and wholesome#religious trauma#internalized homophobia
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absolutely wild that a doctor who had spoken to me about three times and possibly gathered information from other people who'd known me about a week could write down the he thought i had BPD and when i asked if there was some way for them to figure out/point me in the direction of whether i might havd adhd or autism or something they said "oh we dont do any assessments sorry"
#posts#i dont think bpd got put an any of my charts thank god#< not in a weird way just in a i extremely do not have that way#the doctor even said he decided that based on 1. my impulsivity and 2. something about my emotions. i cant remember anymore#i was gonna say strong emotions/emotional reactions but i didnt really act that way in the hospital#i think i talked about feeling very strong emotions? or described an emotion that Was strong? but that would have been me talking about the#severe and extremely recent trauma i was going through#so like. this is not my baseline#but yeah go ahead and decide i have a personality disorder about it. because thats definitely the only thing that would cause me to be#impulsive and emotionalw#LIKEEEEE. i have strong feelings/opinions about people yeah. but those do NOT fluctuate#it is in fact very inconvenient for me how concrete those get. its hard for me to get over it once i decide i hate someone#which uhhhh. is maybe not quite the same as intense switches in opinion! in fact might be a literal fucking opposite! you motherfucker!
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there was a tiktok I made a while ago basically saying "your abusive ex boyfriend is more likely a misogynist than a narcissist" and while most people agreed some said I was victim blaming(?) and that I couldn't know what their ex is like, and while obviously I don't, every fucking person describing their narcissistic ex is describing a typical misogynist. ask yourself, is this behavior you associate with narcissism directed at women or does he treat his male friends the same way? is his general functioning in life impaired?
many people don't seem to know this, but a mental disorder is NOT based on symptoms alone, it's based on how much the symptoms actually impair you in daily life. most people could look at a list of mental disorder symptoms and identify either themselves or someone else with them. as far as a narcissistic personality, we all know people who appear more self absorbed than others, but this is typically subclinical narcissism (presence of narcissistic traits without significant impairment of functioning) which is not a disorder. there is also a misunderstanding of what npd is. a narcissist is not a supervillain invincible to emotion. npd is a defensive reaction to trauma that lead to deep insecurity and fear of being seen as weak or vulnerable. so narcissists aren't actually "in love with themselves" at all and often are diagnosed when seeking help for other issues such as substance abuse resulting from their struggles.
this focus a lot of abused women in online pop psychology have on narcissism is particularly concerning because it completely glosses over misogyny which is literally a huge factor in violence against women. people really only know misogyny as a surface level thing. they don't know it can lead to family annihilation, for example, and is one reason most family annihilations are committed by the husband. it's always "this man is a sociopath" "this man is a narcissist" when the man's behavior is driven by ideology. I am so fucking tired of everything being tied to mental illness and left at that. you know what this leads to? courts "fixing" abusive men by...giving them anger management therapy. guess what? it doesn't fucking do anything because the problem isn't mental instability leading to anger, it's targeted, purposeful abuse. we are getting nowhere
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i think i should be allowed to kill anybody who says they believe everybody with cluster b disorders are abusive hahahahahahaha
#luca speakin#sawry but the ableism bro#i post about this alot because it matters to me a lot#but believing somebody cant be a victim because they have a ??? TRAUMA BASED DISORDER???#IS INSANE?#“i was abused by the hands of somebody with borderline for decades. they are masters of manipulation in ways you have never seen.”#ARE WE FUCKING INHUMAN MYTHICAL ANIMALS TO YOU?#HAVE YOU GONE SO FAR DOWN THIS SPIRAL THAT U THINK WE'RE A MONOLITH?#im sorry you experienced the abuse you did nobody deserves that#but cluster b PDs are usually formed from childhood trauma so please explode or at least do your research#god.#throwing myself into the sea
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yelling crying breaking things etc etc
#on that. on that. how much of all of my health bullshit is rooted in my stupid fucking trauma like#I know I’d def still have some of my conditions cuz more genetic based etc etc but god. fuck. would I not be as sick if I /hadn’t/ been#I still can hardly bring myself to say it cuz smth smth It Wasnt That Bad babe you were a child!! theres parts of u that literally BROKE OFF#at the ages where it was the worst like you HAVE so many of the symptoms of [redacted disorder] it really was that bad!!!#I just. hate thinking that I wouldn’t necessarily be so sick if this shit hadn’t happened#I should probably see if my therapist has a sooner appointment or to go on a cancellation#this last session has really fucken set things off bad#ugh#delete later#mercury.txt
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#did memes#fuck endos#it’s almost like#you need trauma#for a trauma based disorder#traumagenic did#syscourse#osdd tag#dissociative system#system#anti endo
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Welcome to my Ted Talk about AsPD, or Antisocial Personality Disorder, which the internet likes to coin as sociopath 👌🏻 if you don’t like long infodumps about stigmatized mental disorders from someone who is diagnosed, move on.
Quick toxic rundown: People with AsPD are generally characterized as emotionless, violent, manipulative abusers who kill animals and like to make other people their bitches. The biggest pet peeve we have is the emotionless, sadistic and abusive generalization.
Personally, we are highly neurotic, with highs and lows of: depression, frantic drive, self abuse tactics, chronic fear, lapses of rejection, overwhelming over-analyzation, grey area thinking, false goods and false bads, ultimatums, obsessive compulsive behavior, harsh self demands, and irritability.
AsPD is a disorder that is caused primarily (according to current research) by trauma and abuse in childhood; most notably being emotional neglect and absent caregivers that cause a child to have emotional shutdowns and repression episodes in an attempt to self soothe. Primary caregivers who do not bond with their children are also a factor. Children learn how to behave from those around them. If a primary caregiver is emotionally distant and unavailable, children will learn that is normal behavior and that’s how people are. If a primary caregiver does not provide empathy and sympathy during moments of distress and fear, children will learn that aloofness and disregard of others feelings is normal behavior. If a primary caregiver does not keep a child safe, children will learn that they should not prioritize their own safety or the safety of others. You can find my follow up post regarding this here.
Neglected and abused children often act out trying to get attention and help, often acting out in bad ways because they lack the ability to articulate what they’re feeling and what is happening to them. The pipeline for AsPD typically is: Oppositional Defiance Disorder as a child, Conduct Disorder as a teen, AsPD as an adult. There are a lot of warning signs cueing that AsPD is becoming a risk for development, but often kids do not have a support system to help negate it as it’s their support system that is usually a factor in its creation.
Being AsPD is like being an emotional La Croix 70% of the time. If you’re depressed, then it’s like someone in the other room has depression and is telling you about it. The other 30% of the time, if you’re depressed, your brain doesn’t understand how to handle it so it’s an ultimatum between doing something drastic to remove the Trigger or ignoring and dissociating for days on end.
People with AsPD are very good at ignoring things. Honestly it’s problematic as fuck but it’s not hard to ignore major issues when you just, don’t care. It’s not in the terms of being cruel or making ourselves not care, but the fact that finding the emotional willpower is so far out of our feasible reach we don’t do it. This causes us to piss people off because we don’t have the capacity to care as much as they want us to, even if we can and do to an extent.
Think of it this way: empathy/sympathy is a deep tub of water that everyone has. They can easily fill their measuring cup for the needed amount of empathy without any issues and it’s easy for them. People with AsPD don’t have a tub of water. We have shallow skillet. When we try to dip our cup to fill it, we can’t, it always comes up short and it is difficult to get any water in it as there is no room for the cup to dive. Our ability to care is limited because we do not have the same emotional resources everyone else does.
❌ False Positives & False Negatives ❌
I operate on what I’ve learned are called false positives and false negatives. These are things that are trained into the brain from an early age based off of childhood trauma and other factors. False positives are a distorted version of why we do something to help ourself and for our own good, meanwhile a false negative is something we do because it’s a threat, or based out of fear.
❌ Some of my false positives:
- It is good to be afraid of nothing
- It is good to adapt to someone’s personality if they are stronger than you
- It is good to isolate yourself
- It is good to be a silver tongue because you can get into any place you want
- It is good to become a social chameleon and shape yourself to whatever those around you need/want most, because then you have no chance of being abandoned
❌ Some of my false negatives, which can explain the false positives as well as core beliefs:
- it is bad to be afraid, if I am afraid then I am vulnerable and it can be used against me
- It is bad to be emotional or show concern for others emotions because they do not care for mine
- It is bad to be able to be exploited, because I believe it is everywhere
- It is bad to allow myself to be bored, because boredom begets bad thoughts and no one can or wants to help me when I spiral
- It is bad to not shape yourself to the social circle, because people quickly grow tired of those who do not match them perfectly and being discarded means I failed
My core beliefs can be viewed as the root for the false positives and negatives, because they are based on the core of trauma, abuse and neglect. They come from patterns and instances that make someone with AsPD become the opposite of what they experienced:
- eat or be eaten
- If I don’t show that my bite is worse than my bark, I will be taken advantage of and I must remain on top because the ones on top are safe
- I must look out for myself because nobody will do it for me
- It doesn’t matter what happens to me, therefore it doesn’t matter what people think of me
- If I cannot do something well, then I should not do it at all
- If you are dependent on others for emotional and mental well being, you are weak, therefore I must isolate myself to avoid becoming codependent and a burden and useless
- If I can handle the stress of a situation better than everyone else, therefore I will keep the problem (financial, emotional, mental, etc) to myself to reduce chances of being abandoned due to failure of perfection
People with AsPD are hard to get along with. We often:
- are always anticipating a fight
- lack respect for authority
- ignore social structures to an extent
- tendency to lie if it’ll lessen punishment or if we feel the lie is more acceptable than our actions
- limit social support because it’s wrong to be dependent on others
- have an inflated view of our own importance — which turns into a self ridicule for believing someome like me could be found important to others —
- can be rude and inconsiderate of others feelings somewhat unintentionally
- are unable to read the correct social cues in relation to empathy towards people and animals
- am constantly confused by others dependence upon empathy and inability to make desicions from logic based standpoints
We can’t speak for everyone who has AsPD, nor are we saying that no one with AsPD is capable of being a murderer/abuser etc. but we are saying that y’all need to stop automatically classifying someone as a certain “type” as soon as you know about their disorder.
One last thing I do want to point out is that it is not uncommon for people with AsPD to derive some sort of enjoyment in causing harm, doing something illegal, hurting someone or animals, etc. This entirely stems from lack of environmental control as a child. Being able to control what happens to others or being able to control the things you say or do that hurts someone else is a hefty high to get addicted to; it soothes the underlying itch of not being able to control your own trauma and abuse, so in turn you push these behaviors onto others and enjoy it because it gives you a sense of power and control. Some people with AsPD do genuinely love hurting others, and some enjoy hurting others when they believe it’s deserved or their ire has been stoked. Some enjoy causing pain to those they think deserve it, and others don’t care who they hurt as long as they feel like they’re in control of the situation.
Hope this have some insight into AsPD 🤙🏻 if y’all have any questions, shoot.
#antisocial personality disorder#aspd traits#aspd#aspd awareness#aspd thoughts#aspd things#actually aspd#antisocial pd#personality disorder#cluster b#glitcher system#did#actually did#did stuff#did system#trauma#childhood neglect#mentalheathawareness#mental illness#destigmatization#sociopath
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