#THESE /FALSE/ ALLEGATIONS !!!!!!!!

[eve-was-framed]

I feel like the way ai is currently being used is one of the various things that completely shatters the incel argument that every woman on earth wakes up hoping they get an opportunity to falsely accuse a man of sexual assault or abuse.

If that were actually true we would have thousand upon thousands if not millions of cases of women using ai to try and frame men for crimes they didn’t commit. but we don’t have that.

but you know what we do have? thousands upon thousands if not millions of men using ai to sexually harass women and little girls.

[themoonking]

actually, genuinely, people who are defending or are still "on the fence about" neil gaiman, tell me, what do you think is more likely:

(a) two women who have never met, who live oceans apart, and who engaged in relationships with neil gaiman two decades apart, and whose stories line up down to the manner in which gaiman acted during sex and the way in which he abused them, both decide to lie about being sexually assaulted by a man who they were apparently actually in a completely loving consensual relationship with (one of them going so far as to file a police complaint in 2022 that lead to an investigation that is still ongoing), undergoing serious personal, social, and legal risk, all to gain the sweet sweet reward that i keep hearing women who come forward about sexual abuse by famous men receive but coincidentally never actually see them get. possibly as part of a transphobic psyop to get back at a different man for supporting trans rights, or potentially as part of a government psyop to win votes in an election in a country that neither of them live in, and that the one who filed the police complaint did not file it in. or, according to gaiman, because one of them is still upset about the ending of a relationship twenty years ago, and the other is delusional and formed false memories of assault due to a medical condition that she does not have and never has.

(b) a rich and famous cishet white man sought out relationships with much younger women who he was in a position of power over and sexually abused them

[ahtqueenuwu]

I’m happy to say that the false grooming allegations of Sean Chiplock and Casper situation has finally been resolved HAPPY ENDING FINALLY 😭🥹

It was exhausting but I’m happy that I was the mediator and helped with this situation

[chaiaurchaandni]

Alessandra Sanguinetti, "Portrait of Modern Palestinian Childhood," 2004.

[saturnsconstellation]

snap is not that bad.

THERE. I SAID IT.

Like c’mon let’s be honest 😭 if we want to talk canon, SNAPE was a victim of the marauders (specifically James’s) bullying. Ofc yes he was terrible to Harry and yes, he was mean during his years in school. But being honest with all of you (as a victim of bullying) it changes you as a person, Snape did nothing to deserve that kind of treatment.

IF WE’RE TALKING FANON

Snape is literally just used as the ‘bad guy’ because the fandom already converted the slytherins (More Regulus and Barty who are canonically known to be PROUD DEATH EATERS) and now they need a character to “bully” and make the marauders (and I’m talking about Sirius and James) look cool.

Please grow up and realize that if you can and want to make Regulus, Barty, Evan, NARCISSA AND BELLATRIX good people, you should also consider doing the same for snape. That man did NOTHING to be as hated as he is 😭😭

[robothell]

i find it ironic that disney knowingly hired an openly gay man to write their x men cartoon and then fired him for being too gay

[made-by-moon]

I can not believe you all assumed that Sirius would be pissed if James and Regulus started dating. Like, come on!

Sirius knows that James will treat Reg with the kindness and love that he deserves and that Regulus has had enough shit in his life to settle for less than a perfect man.

Stop. Assuming. That. Sirius. Would. Not. Be. Happy. Because. He. Would. Be. Absolutely. Thrilled.

And I will die on that hill if I have to.

[leiascully]

Fic: The only thing I ever wanted will be standing at my door (E, MSR)

2600 words; Explicit for sexual situations; what if Mulder and Scully had fucked after the neck check in Ice? happy birthday @enoughslices

The moment kept replaying in her head:

Mulder’s broad back warm under her searching fingers. The way her body had sagged in relief when her examination had yielded nothing. The way he’d caught her, startling her. His hand turning her head away, his very touch a question: do you trust me? And she’d stood there straight and motionless (yes yes yes I trust you). His whole hand sliding up her neck, possessive in a way that made her shiver.

She was rarely aware that Mulder was bigger than she was. Even when he leaned over her in normal conversation, they felt of a level. But Mulder standing behind her, possibly infected with an alien worm that would give him a furious strength, had felt enormous. She’d been acutely aware of the strength of his fingers, the power he had over her. Mulder, her partner, would never snap her neck. But Mulder might not have been himself, and his palm had spanned so much of her skin.

We’re not who we are.

Outside, the wind howled and the snow pelted down. Soon the drifts would be taller than she was. The windows would be covered. The air inside the station, already less than crisp, would get stale as they breathed in each other’s exhaled air.

She prowled around her little room, restlessly touching things. Tension coiled inside her, driving her on. She turned over papers, trailed her fingertips over the personal trinkets on the desk, opened and closed all the drawers, twitched the bedcovers smooth. She was sleeping in a dead man’s room. A scientist. The whole place was a coffin and she was trapped inside it. She should have said good night to the corpses in their body bags, just in case. Maybe the worm would reanimate the dead, on a delay to lull its potential prey into complacency. That would be their luck, at this point.

When there was a tap at the door, she nearly screamed. With eerie calm, she went to the door and unlocked it. Mulder stood there, filling the space between the frame and the door. Wordlessly, she stepped back and let him enter. He closed the door. She heard the lock click behind him.

For a moment, he leaned against the door, looking at her. The moment stretched out between them, taut as a wire, the same tension that had been humming between then since he’d closed his hand over her shoulder. Of course it was Mulder at the door. Of course she’d known. She sensed the connection between them drawing unbearably tight. And then they were on each other, fumbling frantically with layers of flannel and wool and silk, stripping each other to bare torsos without saying a word.

(read the rest on AO3)

[loonylooly]

watching Feysands talk about "I'll never forgive Tamlin for killing Rhys's mom and sister and hanging their wings!"... did we read the same books?? Tamlin's father and older brothers (personally I believe coerced but let's not get too opinionated) got Tamlin to tell them where they'd be, killed them, and THEY hung up the wings. And also everyone seems to conveniently forget that Rhys and his dad then massacred the entire spring court high family (is that what they're called?) INCLUDING Tamlin's completely innocent mother. If we're gonna pin Rhys's mother and sister's deaths on Tamlin (who did not do it), lets pin Tamlin's mother's death on Rhys and his dad

[aropride]

tbh. i don't think false reports are as big of a problem as some people would want you to think. it seems like every man seems to know someone who was falsely accused, while every woman knows someone who was assaulted. and i don't think that's because false reports are an actual big problem. i think it's because rapists and abusers don't go around saying "yeah i did that." they're not gonna proudly claim the label. they're gonna say they were falsely accused. they're gonna say the victim was blowing it out of proportion. that it was fine for some arbitrary reason. that they were in a bad mental state. that they didn't mean to hurt the victim. that they had no way of knowing what they did was wrong. that it wasn't rape, the victim just regretted it after the fact. that they just lost control of their feelings. whatever. and their friends are going to believe them, because why wouldn't they? that's their friend, he's a great guy, and only truly evil people (not even people, monsters) can be rapists.

i think if people really understood how incredibly complicated & difficult & humiliating & frustrating reporting is. whether at a school level, at work, or to the police. how much time it takes. let alone the way every person you retell the story to is scrutinizing every word that comes out of your mouth and every slight change in your expression. how people don't look at you the same when you tell them. even if someone doesn't ever report and only tells their story to friends or on social media or whatever. they still will experience the social consequences of that. and those can be devastating. and i think if people understood that they would be less likely to believe the "false reports" narrative.

not to say that false reports never happen. i'm sure they do. but i don't think they're nearly as common as some people, especially men, will claim they are.

and if you ask me, i think a lot of the people echoing that idea believe it wholeheartedly, and i think some of those people are rapists and abusers. and they can't look at what they did and call it what it is. because they thought it was okay (they ignored clear signs of discomfort), because they were in a bad mental space (they just wanted to feel close to someone), because the victim was wearing a short skirt (they were asking for it), because they just got caught up in their feelings (which they see as more important than the victim's), it's not like they had a weapon or anything (a vast majority of sexual assaults don't involve a weapon at all), whatever. and so they say "false reports are a real problem." they say "i was a victim of false reporting. it ruined my reputation for a while, until she dropped the case." they say "my friend was falsely accused, he had to switch schools." they say "it's one of the cruelest things you can do to someone, to falsely accuse them of something like that." they say "the sentence for false accusations should be just as bad as the sentence for rape." they say "people are innocent until proven guilty," as though they are the us legal system and not a friend of someone who's been accused of abuse.

it's just... so frustrating that people care more about false allegations than they do about victims. and i wonder how many people with stories about "false allegations" against them are just avoiding looking at the truth.

(edit to add: i use gendered language in this post not to imply that all aggressors are men, but because most of the people i see using this rhetoric are men protecting other men)

[scp-4999]

Everyone telling kendrick he should come with proof, I think his next upload should just be an hour long compilation of all the freak shit drake has done

[ahtqueenuwu]

Welp since I have the motivation to draw now and I think time has passed where I can now comfortably say this to all of you

And I’m going to vacation tomorrow for my Bday so I had to make this quick :D

[tallerthantale]

On False Memories

There is another moment around Scarlett's allegations I want to expand on. It does come from bits where Tortoise is doing the pseudo attribution thing, so keep in mind we don't have the exact wording used by Gaiman or his lawyers, we have Tortoise's characterization of what has been said. I am going to go forward on the working assumption that it is a generally accurate representation of what was said to Tortoise.

"Rachel Johnson: Neil Gaiman��s account suggests we should treat Scarlett’s allegations with caution, as they first surfaced when she was hospitalized, he says, for the treatment of a condition that’s associated with false memories. But we know her allegations pre-date her admission to hospital. Scarlett’s medical records also show us that Neil Gaiman’s claim that Scarlett has a serious preexisting medical condition to be false. According to her records, she presented as a genuinely high risk of suicide and was discharged after recovering overnight.

Rachel Johnson: There’s no mention, even in her previous medical history, of any condition like the one Neil Gaiman claimed in his account. The only medication she was on was the sleeping pill Zopiclone."

The things about this series of claims that jump out at me might be a bit different than what other people would be paying attention to, so I want to explain what stands out to me and why. But we are going to need to do a little bit of background first. Getting into this is a big ass can of worms, but I'm going to see if I can do a bit of a cliff notes version.

The underlying issue is that a propensity to develop 'false memories' is a disposition that all humans have. That's just normal brain functioning. It isn't a condition you will find in diagnostic manuals because it is the condition of being a human. It's hard for people to process and accept that knowledge, because everyone hates it. Doesn't make it any less true. Functionally everything you consciously remember is a post hoc reconstruction to suit the needs of your current situation.

Under normal circumstances this does not account for things like spontaneously constructing major sexual assaults into existence. That's not a thing, but not having the memory in the front of your conscious experience for years, and then remembering that you have that memory later when it's triggered is a thing.

For most people, most of the time, the shifts of constructed memories are things like your brain not bothering to pay attention to what color someone's shirt was, and making it up later to have a cohesive memory. It would account for something like a person thinking they said no louder than they did, which shouldn't be relevant anyway. It could account for thinking you stated a boundary very clearly, but when you look at the message later it's actually ambiguous.

Ideally, the needs of the current situation are to remember what actually did happen. Unfortunately memory can be highly vulnerable to suggestion in the name of preserving continuity. This why police will do things like shouting "stop resisting" while beating up someone who isn't resisting. People absolutely will form a memory of the person resisting to make it make sense. Not because they have a specific condition, because that's how brains work. The counter to this is for the general public to understand that it 'makes sense' for the police to engage in that deceptive strategy. Once that is widely known bystanders will be more likely to remember the events for what they were.

In moments of high emotional distress people's minds generally prioritize 'making myself feel better' as the main need of the current situation. What it makes a person feel better to remember is going to be very context dependent. One day it might be what validates seeing themselves as a victim, the next it might make them feel better to frame themselves as in control of the situation by seeing themselves as a villain. Both genuine victims and genuine perpetrators can cycle through both perceptions. Shifting reframing of memory to form a narrative can occur to all sorts of things in all sorts of scenarios. These are examples of what's called cognitive distortions. Learning about how they work does not prevent them from happening. They exist in all people. Yes, even you, yes, even me.

However, if a person's emotional regulation is shit, and / or they are stuck in a childlike mode of emotional development, these mechanisms can be more dramatic and reaching. One of the most common folk psychology (popularly believed psychology misinformation) things I run into is people attributing cognitive distortions solely and specifically to people with Cluster B personality disorders.

I see a lot of people start learning about Cluster B and then very quickly start seeing signs of Cluster B everywhere. I think that is because they are largely learning from people who fixate on 'warning about of the dangers of Cluster B people,' describe Cluster B mostly in terms of cognitive distortions, and then frame those cognitive distortions as more or less 'the thing Cluster B people do.' People who get their information from that sort of content start looking IRL and immediately see them everywhere, but it's because literally everyone has cognitive distortions all the time.

My first impression of the "condition associated with false memories" line was that it looked to me like Gaiman was trying to claim that Scarlett was a narcissist and / or borderline off of a poor understanding of those conditions. If Gaiman thinks false memories are 'the thing Cluster B people do,' Gaiman using that narrative fits with claiming she was hospitalized on suicide risk due to the condition and him associating the condition with false memories.

I didn't see anything in the fake therapist's videos or ramblings that looked like he was in the dark triad fandom, (my name for people with strong folk psychology attitudes about Cluster B personality disorders) but it is certainly possible he is. The book that conspicuously popped up on Neil's... amazon reading list? something like that? a while back was a book about getting out of relationships with narcissists.

The other side of the false memories issue is that certain types of hypnotherapists claim to be able to recover memories of childhood abuse through hypnotism. This is a very bad idea to try to do for multiple reasons. While there is evidence that these hypnotherapies result in a person having more memories after than they did before, those memories are post hoc reconstructions, because that is what all memories are. And those post hoc reconstructions are vulnerable to suggestion, particularly surrounding the needs of the immediate situation and continuity.

If the explicit goal of the therapy is to hypnotize a person into a heightened state of vulnerability to suggestion specifically so that they can remember a specific thing, there is little reason to believe any particular memory 'recovered' by a hypnotherapist has anything to do with reality. What ads another layer to the horrifying is that since there is no neurological difference between a false memory and a real one, a hypnotherapist 'recovering' false memories of trauma will create trauma that is just a real as if those things did actually happen.

Neil's fake therapist and the communities he is connected to might have some overlap with the people who still think hypnotherapists doing traumatic memory recovery is a good idea. it's the flavor of pseudoscience they seem to be running on. It is also possible he is more aware of the dangers of hypnotherapists because he has encountered them and bothered to do a bit of reading.

Since he is not actually a real mental health professional and is in community with pseudoscientists, he could have ended up with an overinflated sense of how common hypnotherapist nonsense is, and he may not realize how much policy and training and best practices go into preventing real mental health professionals that work at hospitals from planting suggested memories.

From his own message to Scarlett, he was wildly reckless as to the risk that he might be planting suggestions himself, (assuming that wasn't the intention) in ways a trained professional would know not to do. While many things about him set off red flags, this point was the biggest, and what made me immediately inclined to prompt a license review, which started the 'he doesn't actually have one' rabbit hole.

"A condition associated with false memories" sounds to me like they are trying to diagnose her with a Cluster B personality disorder. Trying to time the origin of the claims to the hospitalization could be an argument that Scarlett was implanted with false memories of the content of the allegations by irresponsible crisis workers. It looks to me like the reasoning of a person who read a few bits and pieces of real things in isolation and put them together into a dangerously inaccurate mess. Which is the sort of thing that can happen when unqualified people LARP as therapists. Or as Cluster B experts.

If the "condition associated with false memories" claim is referring to Cluster B and tracks back to Wayne and his phone call with Scarlett, that would be very gross on a lot of levels. Wayne is not qualified to do that, you really can't diagnose personality disorders off a single session even if you are qualified, Wayne had a preexisting investment in the situation before talking to Scarlett, Wayne did not have her as a proper client, Wayne would have been passing information about his opinions on Scarlett to a different person after claiming to be speaking in confidence, ect.... I can't say if that's what happened, but if it did happen I would have some choice words to say to him about that. On top of the ones I already have.

There is a conversation between a civil lawyer and a psychologist about a lot of these topics on youtube from when they were looking at the Marylin Manson case. It goes over a lot of the issues around false memories if people want to listen through it. It's a bit over an hour. I have mixed feelings about the lawyer in question, (and you probably don't want to look at the chat) but the psychologist is very qualified and knows what he's talking about.

[sondheim-girly]

I finally feel sure enough that all the allegations were false, so I’m listening to the outsiders again and HOLY SHIT I MISSED THIS MUSICAL ITS SO GOOD WHATTTTTT

[not-enough-fandoms]

To the man who just broke his fans hearts,

I was a fool to believe that you a stranger could be a good man. It makes me sad when someone who has talent throws it away. Your decisions will I'm sure haunt your personal and professional life far into the future. I hope you rethink your life choices and I hope all parties involved get what they deserve.

Sincerely,

A former fan that you will never meet

[gummygoatgalaxy]

WARNING: THIS PERSON IS CRUEL AND LIKES TO FALSELY ACCUSE OTHERS IN A GUISE OF "BEING HEROIC"

Everyone, @ari-doodles-stuff

Is a person who threatened me and my friends and followers as well as random supporters over false allegations of me being a "pedophile" for drawing a butt "too detailed"

Please be careful!

Here is proof they harassed me and others

Stay safe