#SOCIAL LIFE

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Snapshots of Autistic Social Life

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maintaining/creating a social life⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🧁

ok so i used to have HORRIBLE social anxiety and i think that the contrast between me with social anxiety and me now is INSANE. in a good way ofc. so im not going to talk about how i overcame social anxiety, instead im going to talk about how i created a social life ✨

MAKING FRIENDS ;

the science of making friends is simple and im about to explain it. so go to where there are ppl that u can relate to/want to relate to. example being school, clubs, etc.

next, observe who u want to befriend and make sure to start with a compliment. starting off by introducing urself just makes for an awkward conversation but starting with a compliment puts u and the other party at ease.

something thats rly important is ur CHARISMA and ur magnetic energy so be CHARMING ✨ if u find that the other party is not reciprocating its either they're uncomfy, uninterested, or just a weirdo. and in all cases, you should stop.

MAKING FRIENDS THRU FRIENDS ;

make friends with your friends friends -> make friends with their friends -> and so on and so forth. this is how you network and create a friendly status with lots of people.

if ur in a school setting like i am, make friends with people in ur own grade or in a higher up grade, i dont usually make friends with ppl in lower grades but ofc there are always exceptions.

making friends through friends is how u get invited to parties, have more opportunities be available to you, and ofc network for more connections. guys connections are literally EVERYTHING.

MAKE TIME FOR UR FRIENDS ;

make sure to learn who u call friends. when is their birthday? do they have specific preferences? what kind of music do they listen to? knowing ur friends makes them feel special and thats how u learn to be a good friend. i can make a whole POST about being a good friend cuz i've learned and grown so much with that.

THE POWER OF A COMPLIMENT ;

make it ur mission to give a compliment everyday cuz first off, being nice is HOT so pls be nice and second of all, if ur trying to talk to someone and u start with a compliment i promise that it'll go so much better.

if ur thinking "thats so awkward how will i do that" then the category dont be shy is one that u gotta read cuz girl 💀. if u need an example i'll provide one from my own experience so u can see the power of a compliment.

there was this girl in my spanish class and i always thought that she was so pretty and she seemed so nice. one day we bump into each other in the bathroom and i compliment her hair and makeup, she responds well. we continue to have friendly interactions throughout the rest of the school year and now we are good friends on and off campus.

DONT BE SHY ;

when u make friends please please PLEASE work on ur confidence first. you need to be SURE of yourself. if not, when ur being friendly it could come off as desperation and ppl will humiliate, make fun of and take advantage of u. and thats NOT hot.

be CONFIDENT, you literally have nothing to lose. when u shed ur shyness (thru things like exposure therapy etc) a whole new world is opened up for u bcuz sometimes the only thing holding u back is urself and ur limiting beliefs about urself.

MAKE UR PERSONALITY SHINE ;

make sure that know ur own personality and from knowing that u can find ways in which u can make it shine. no matter what ur personality is though, something that i cannot stress enough is BE NICE.

be friendly and amicable with everyone and stay out of drama and if drama comes to you then stay unbothered 😭. dont try and uproot ur own personality to copy someone else's.

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Imagine - Regulus Black

you guys are parents

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A message about TADC airing on Netflix

So if you saw the latest news by GLITCH, The Amazing Digital Circus is coming to Netflix on October 4th

“Honestly feel that this is a HUGE step for indie animation” -GLITCH

I’m not stating a negative opinion on it airing to Netflix, I personally find it very unexpected but I just wanted to say the following

This proves that Indie Animation can become something much bigger, this was proved for Hazbin Hotel. If you have an indie animated series you want to make then go on and make it! It could turn to something huge like Digital Circus, there are so many creative Indie Animated series ideas out there such as

“Ramshackle” by @zeddyzi

“Social Life” by @lego-man75 (in development)

“Epithet Erased” by @jelloapocalypse

“Lackadaisy” by @lackadaisycats

and so much more!

Indie Animation has a special place in my heart for being one of the only types of shows I watch now due to all the good shows I’ve watched being over or cancelled for dumb reasons, Indie Animation expresses creative minds without a company to push you around and tell you “This will be an 8 episode season” or “The show will be cancelled due to not fitting our brand” when you have had that same story on your mind for ages just for your plans to be flushed down the toilet because of some companies bossing you around, not all companies are like that but I know a few who are

Indie Animation has improved and grown since Hazbin Hotel and Helluva Boss’ (by @vivziepop) success and has continued to inspire a lot of people to make creative, outstanding, astonishing and stupendous material

If you have an Indie Animated series idea and are ready to make one, go on and make it! It could turn to something big like Digital Circus did, I’ve been involved in Digital Circus ever since it was teased by GLITCH and seeing the show grow into something big makes my heart warm. For everyone’s creativity is coming to life

So what’s my advice?

Don’t give up, good things are coming your way!

Congratulations @gooseworx for your show being a popular hit and having The Amazing Digital Circus be the second Indie Animated series to hit a streaming platform!

Long Live Indie Animation!

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How to stop oversharing?

Slow down: Always pause and think before you speak

Consider anything you share with someone who hasn't earned your complete trust or whom you have a transactional relationship with to be a PSA; Don't trust anything to be confidential with someone you don't fully trust

Reflect on why you overshare in the first place: Do you use it as a tool to soothe social anxiety or pauses in a conversation? Are you lonely or feel like it's a struggle to feel heard/seen/appreciated in your everyday life? Start journaling and/or go to a therapist to work through these very valid emotional wounds

Give yourself a "do's" and "don'ts" list on topics you will and won't discuss at work, different social events, with certain acquaintances, family members, etc., and stick to it

When you feel yourself starting to overshare, take a pause and ask the other person about themselves – it makes you show the other person you're interested in connecting and gives you time to think/reflect on what you should or shouldn't say

Hope this helps xx

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Solarpunk and the Third Place

Let's talk about third places. It is a topic that has been brought up in a lot of Solarpunk and leftwing places have brought up during the last few months. Andrewism has made a video on it for example. And given that during the last few weeks I actually made a lot of use of third places, I thought I also could talk a bit more about it.

See, I have spoken about this: Due to my roommate just being very hard to live with right now, I kinda fled my home. (Which yes, is due to her mental health, but that does not make it any better for me.) And basically I just looked into: Where the hell could I spend my time?

And then I remembered the thing that I did throughout my youth: Hang out at gaming stores and, well, play games. I did that a lot for so long, given it is often a place for nerds to gather. And yeah, what can I say? It still works.

Heck, I found even someone who plays Digimon Cards with me.

But of course we do know - again it has been discussed a lot - that in recent times a lot of third places have either been erased, or the way we live have stopped the third places to work the way they used to work like this.

Let's quickly go over what a third place is: A third place is a place where you can hang out and get to know people. A place distinct from the place you live and the place you work in (or school, for students). Stuff like a park, a café, a library... things like that. Places that encourage you to interact with new people and start conversations.

Recently those places have been destroyed a lot. Partly because a lot of them have become hard to afford (especially on a regular basis), partly because they have become shut down, and partly because our culture actually does no longer encourage interacting with strangers.

And, I mean. Yeah. Parks are counted among third places, but honestly, I cannot remember that I actually interacted with a stranger in a park. If a stranger talks to me, I am afraid they are a creep. And if I see someone I think I could get along with, I do not dare to talk to them.

The fact that most of us run around glued to our electric devices (I am counting myself there as well) does not help this fact, right? If I am sitting in a café, I am usually working on my laptop, which will make it less likely that folks interact with me. And, of course, my autistic self will also not do that in turn.

Solarpunk both as a genre and a vision for the future is very much build around the idea of community and working together as a community. And for that we need third places in Solarpunk futures. Places that are easily accessible and that people can just go to to talk to people.

But more than that, Solarpunk also needs a society and social rules that actually allow for folks to interact with each other, talk to each other and ask each other for help and stuff.

Sure, there also need to be safe and silent spaces for people with needs like that (including autistic folks like me). And really... Frankly, I would not know how to talk with someone outside a nerd context, lol.

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Me: Why don't I have friends in the new school? I wish someone talked to me :(

Me when someone talks to me:

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The one major thing about being the type of person who has been constantly pushed away from many different friend or community groups basically since birth!is that at some point when joining a new group you struggle with forming bonds with the people there because deep inside you know that they’re going to abandon you anyways (at best, due to life or at worst, due to you not being useful to them anymore, or being too much) so why bother.

It hurts. It actually hurts to feel the aches deep within me when my heart wants—from the bottom of itself—to form a bond, to make memories and show itself to the world; my mind, on the other hand, weary with age and trauma, doesn’t want to take chances anymore—ever the cynical entity. Almost all of the time, the jadedness of my mind wins.

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Me complaining that I have no social life when in reality I love staying home and not talk to anyone for several days in a row.

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hellooo i'm hermia!! i've been shifting for four years, listening to subliminals for four years, and manifesting for almost three years, so i thought i'd create a side blog to talk about these topics specifically! you can expect motivational posts, resources, some of my own stories related to these topics, and i can also answer any questions you may have through my asks. hope you have a great day or night, and don't forget to to stay hydrated! <3

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Self-care

If you're unable to afford therapy, there are several self-care practices and resources you can explore to support your mental and emotional well-being. Here are some strategies that may be helpful:

Mindfulness and Meditation:

Practice mindfulness meditation to increase self-awareness and reduce stress.

Use mindfulness apps like Headspace, Calm, or Insight Timer for guided meditation.

Physical Exercise:

Engage in regular physical activity, such as walking, jogging, yoga, or dancing.

Exercise helps release endorphins and promotes a sense of well-being.

Creative Outlets:

Explore creative activities like painting, writing, or playing a musical instrument.

Expressing yourself creatively can serve as a form of emotional release and self-exploration.

Social Support:

Foster connections with friends, family, or support groups.

Sharing your feelings and experiences with others can provide emotional validation and understanding.

Journaling:

Write down your thoughts, feelings, and experiences in a journal.

Journaling can help you process emotions and gain insights into your mental state.

Healthy Lifestyle Habits:

Maintain a balanced diet, prioritize regular sleep, and reduce the consumption of alcohol and recreational substances.

Establishing healthy lifestyle habits contributes to overall well-being and emotional stability.

Online Resources:

Utilize online mental health resources and communities for support and guidance.

Websites like 7 Cups, BetterHelp, and TherapyTribe offer online support and resources.

Self-Help Books and Podcasts:

Read self-help books or listen to podcasts focused on mental health and personal development.

Resources like "The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook" by Edmund Bourne or podcasts like "The Hilarious World of Depression" can offer insights and coping strategies.

Set Boundaries and Prioritize Self-Compassion:

Establish healthy boundaries in your personal and professional life to avoid emotional burnout.

Practice self-compassion and avoid self-judgment, allowing yourself to acknowledge and accept your feelings without harsh criticism.

While self-care practices can be helpful for some periods of time, it's essential to seek professional help if you're experiencing severe or persistent mental health challenges. Many therapists offer sliding scale fees or pro bono services, and some community organizations provide free mental health support. Don't hesitate to reach out for assistance when needed.