#Raising Boys

[globalriseofblackpeople]

Facts Kevin . Especially with these red pill weak men podcasters teach young boys to be entitled and that’s why it’s a whole pandemic of lonely men who don’t know how to talk to women or treat them . Lonely men who online treating women and really do that shit in real life . Raping , beating and killing women cause rejection and the hate of women . Those podcasts are causing men to be angry and violent toward the feminine energy around the world . Protect your boys from that bs .

[bilboyagathechickenfootedhobbit]

I really do my best to not judge other parents but who are we kidding I still do. We were at a taco festival yesterday with the kid and one of his friends and their mom. This mom bought her son literally EVERY SINGLE THING he asked for, whether it was a caramel apple, a giant frozen slushee, a stuffed luchador doll (he had literally never watched ANY wrestling of ANY kind, he just wanted a toy, any toy), giant nachos, whatever. Which hey, cool, we all like having a good time with our kids.

But I sat and watched this kid take either one bite or none at all of all the food his (recently unemployed) mother bought him, spit it out and declare it “so gross it makes me want to PUKE!!” And then start screaming for more food. Which she would buy him. And he wouldn’t eat. And then he’d scream for another toy or demand to watch cartoons, like what the fuck?? This is an outdoor cultural event!! There is LIVE LUCHADOR WRESTLING!!! They threw a CLOWN through a TABLE covered in TACOS!!! There’s live music!! There’s bounce houses and DOGS FOR ADOPTION YOU CAN CUDDLE FOR AS LONG AS YOU WANT!!! You can make your own MARACAS!! There are tacos for DAYS!! There are free games and rides and open fields of grass to run and play in and all this kid wanted was to sit in a chair and stare at a phone while rejecting every bite of food he was offered.

I wanted to scream.

His mom is very sweet and she’s doing it all on her own and I feel for her, I do!! But I want to shake her and scream “TELL HIM NO!!! ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES!! It’s OKAY if he’s mad at you!! Don’t try to be his best friend, be his PARENT!!” He walks ALL over her, he will just snatch her phone straight out of her hands or purse and start watching cartoons even after she tells him no and she just sort of shrugs and is like “oh well….” And I’m like “The FUCK?? First, my kid has ZERO phone access, but if he did and ignored me telling him no and grabbed for it anyway? Oh, he’d be losing those privileges right quick and for a good long fucking while.” Our kid asked us to buy him a quesadilla, we did, he didn’t eat one bite. Five minutes later as we’re leaving, he asks for a candy apple. We told him no, since he didn’t eat any of the quesadilla he asked for. Did he scream and cry all the way home and say he hated us? Sure. And then I did a silly thing where I spun in a circle to “turn our feelings around” and we all spun in circles until we laughed and felt better and he forgot about the candy apple. Like Jesus WEPT, people, it’s OKAY if your kid gets mad at you. Hold the line. They’ll appreciate it when they get older and are able to socially interact with people in acceptable ways instead of just bulldozing people with their wants and demands.

I am by no means a perfect parent and my child is by no means a perfect child, but we try. I don’t like when he’s mad at or upset with me, but I also realize it is my job to provide the boundaries and stability that allow him to learn and explore his world safely. He is going to get mad at those boundaries sometimes and as he gets older he’ll challenge them. And as he gets older, those boundaries will expand accordingly, with trust and responsibility. And because he is being held to boundaries, he respects them. He doesn’t fuck with my phone because I told him not to. Simple as that. Boundaries.

When you never hold a boundary with your kid, when you allow them to walk all over you, you may THINK you’re being cool and nice, but you’re actually doing your child a great disservice. You are teaching them that their way is THE way, that everyone else has to bend to their will, that everyone else has to give in to them. Not only is that just…..so fucking awful for the people around them, and just……SO fucking awful to teach young boys because WOW, but it’s unfair to your kid. Other kids won’t want to play with the intractable little shit that refuses to listen to anyone else. Other kids won’t want to play with the kid who steals their toys and pushes them down and laughs at them. As he gets older, he’ll be a social pariah because he’ll annoy the shit out of his male peers for being a selfish asshole, and he’ll terrify and disgust his female peers for his lack of boundaries and unwillingness to listen when told no. You do your child ZERO favors by not holding boundaries with them.

I don’t know. Parenting is hard. Single parenting is so fucking difficult. I have so much sympathy for moms doing it on their own. But it scares me, as the mother of a young boy, to see other boy moms (fuck I hate that phrase but whatever) raising their sons with zero boundaries, with zero respect, with zero consideration for others. I am doing everything in my power to raise a young boy into a proper man. We have conversations about what it is to be a man and how that’s different from just being an adult. How you become an adult when you turn 18, but being a man entails much more than just your age. His closest friends are girls and other boys with good boundaries. One of his best male friends always asks if he can hug him and they both honor what the other says, even if they turn down the hug. He considers others; just this morning when it was his turn to choose what record we listened to, he picked my favorite one even though he’s going to be gone all day and it was his only chance to hear a record of his choosing. He’s always going through his toys and clothes, looking for stuff to “domate” to other kids. He’s a nice kid. He respects boundaries. He’s thoughtful. He considers his emotions and gut feelings before he agrees to physical displays of affection. He understands how his actions affect others and chooses his behavior accordingly. He has more emotional maturity and ability to self-regulate at six than most grown-ass adults I know. Because we model that shit daily. It’s exhausting and some days I want to let shit slide but consistency is key with these tiny humans and if you want to raise a good person you have to BE a good person. They just imitate what they see.

That’s it. That’s the key to parenting. Be the person you want your kid to be. It’s hard. You have to do a lot of work on yourself and these little turds will reflect the absolute WORST parts of yourself right back at your face, so vividly it will make you want to scream, but then you realize, this is your lesson, this is how you get better. Your kid shows you all your worst parts and then you have the privilege of working on yourself and showing another growing, learning human that it’s possible to change, that it’s OKAY to be in your 30’s, your 40’s and still be working on yourself.

So I don’t know…..I just had to let that out. I want to help, I want to offer advice and support, but I don’t know how to do it without it coming off as “you suck as a parent and I’m worried you’re actively raising a future school shooter, please can I help change the trajectory?” I know enough about what the mom has been through to sympathize with her situation, and even if it sounds like I’m hating, I’m truly not; I really do have sympathy for what she’s been through and why she is the way she is. I just…..I wish I could fast-forward to where I help her gain her confidence back and she starts taking up space in the world and pushing back, especially against her own son. Can we just be there already?

[veryslowreader]

Raising Boys by Steve Biddulph

My Left Nut: Episode 2

[yoonluve]

dad gojo pt.2 featuring Megumi and shikigami training

[literallymikewheeler]

charles.....?????

[fan-a-tink]

This is one of Edwin's most iconic lines, actually.

and I feel we need to acknowledge it more. his bitchiness is on point, but like *respectfully* - it's just so quintessentially Edwin.

[marisashinx]

"Why hasn't Silver woken up yet...?"

[rissaito]

happy birthday, master diluc 🌹

thinking about how no matter what, diluc will always have a family waiting for him with open arms… give this man a hug, he deserves it

[orindis]

AU in which everything is the same apart from Boa not wanting to marry Luffy but instead adopt him.

[tiredbitchposts]

Ok, but Shen Jiu being Shen Yuan's father is so funny in a very tragic way. Shen Jiu is a ball of traumas and all types of issues and i truly believe there's not a single one that man doesn't have, so, you give him a baby!Shen Yuan, a little ball of life that depends on him for survival, cannot walk away from him and is culturally wired to pretty much love him and if not, to at the least respect him above all else, you cannot tell me that this man would be normal about him. Also, imagine Shen Jiu, who'd be the type of parent to project traumas the way only a mother could, having a child that looks like him but with a "sweeter" personality (which, by the way, is bullshit, they just have never seen that boy rip into a book he disliked but wouldn't stop reading) that has the effect on men Shen Yuan has, he'd lock that boy up in a tower to "cultivate" and consequently create a rumor about the Qing Jing's beauty who was so bewitching their peak lord father locked them in a tower because that's just his luck. Loving Shen Yuan wouldn't fix him, but it'd create a whole new set of issues that'd cancel out the other ones

[fairandfatalasfair]

I've seen a few fics where Charles is dyslexic, and while I'm not wedded to it, I do kind of like that headcanon.

In which case, I do think that Edwin has noticed on some subconscious level that if he describes his books to Charles by shape, colour, and location, rather than just title, that Charles is more likely to hand him the right book.

But I do not think that Edwin is likely to be consciously aware that Charles is dyslexic, or indeed of what dyslexia is, nor do I think Charles knows. I think if you asked Edwin he would say that Charles is brilliant and therefor is refusing to learn to read Aramaic out of pure stubbornness, and if you asked Charles he would say he's just not great with reading and that's what he has Edwin for.

[sanflawoah]

Something-something samurai!Anakin to shogun!vader.

Sketches I dug from old draft of history brainrots, not sure what to do so I'll just post.

[emacrow]

Danny had a very rough week of not sleeping....

Five days straight of non stop ghost hunting, barely focusing on whatever their parents new inventions were and sabotaging them..

Then Saturday began...

There was skulker with him, ghostnapping and chasing him at 12am in the morning to 3:20am in some new extravagant hunting ground in the ghost zone which ended up backfiring on him later when it wasn't even his hunting ground as the original ghost owner started chasing skulker.

Then there was Johnny and kitty argument and dragging him along as an unwillingly victim because johnny was flirting with some ghost girl as he was trying to fly back to his family portal around 4am.

Accidentally crashing into Youngblood ship who rather excited to play again for the 28th this week and it fucking Saturday man..

He finally back home at 10am.. only to noticed that his parents left him to go on some honeymoon field trip since Jazz was in gotham for her collage and part time job as a assistant turned into a full time therapist in Arkham because she actually got a break through with Scarecrow with his childhood trauma and the Arkham are still flabbergasted by her abilities and immediately slapped her a full time sponsorship.

He tries to go back to sleep only to get notifications at 11:03am from tucker that Techno and Vortex teaming to cause a full blown out town wreacking havoc with a literally tornado dragging machines into it for some grand plan which was a fucking pain in his ass because his thermo also got caught in it.

Danny is dragging himself back to his bed after souping both Techno and Vortex, flopping onto his bed to finally catch those zzz when it about 6:29pm

Only for fucking Vlad to start his own bullshit with a new invention.

Danny is about to fucking snap at this point, vlad doesn't know what he released over a week of sleep deprived danny.

Maybe because how tired he was at that moment to not noticed the ray gun that vlad had looked oddly like the one his parents were making yesterday only to get hit by it directly...

Only to noticed he not in his bed anymore..

He was in snow.. iced cold snow in the middle of freezing temperatures and near some icy like palace..

He could cry right now..

He thought he got sent to the Far Frozen, welp this would be a great spot to take some much needed sleep. His mind is too muddle right now to even takea glance on small his form is now at the moment.

Flying a bit loopy through the icy palace, not noticing humaniod like giant crystallized statues with a S on their chests blinking some kind of alarm.

Making himself right at home as he made a nice snow like fluffy blankey that Frostbite once taught him whenever he went through his daily shots and stay the night there..

Drifting off to sleep finally with the sound of the silence..

He was already too far gone into unconscious to be awakened at this point..

Unaware that his presence brought alert to a certain Superhero.

Whom found a tiny little boy in the Fortress of Solitude, sleeping peacefully like the dead despite his heart beating very very slowly to health concerning matter.

Trying to wake him up only brought him a tiny punch to a face so hard and fast that it actually hurt him.

Which made Clark froze as he realized that punch actually hurted...

Which brought a major misunderstanding that slowly became a much bigger one later on in the dna scanner.

[ichigomaniac]

she is so proud

[gummybearstastelikesadness]

When Danny enters the Fenton portal for the very first time, he still trips and shocks himself but at the same time damages the inside of the portal enough that it can’t sustain itself past the point of changing Danny’s molecules.

The electricity and damage done to both Danny and the portal isn’t something Danny, Sam, and Tucker can cover up and his parents find out immediately. They’re more concerned about their son then the portal (they have the blueprints for the portal and can rebuild it later but can’t replace their son if something happened to him) and go through a lot of things emotions regarding the existence of ghost human hybrids.

Danny’s new biology could easily be passed as meta human traits. Unfortunately President Lex Luther had just recently passed laws against meta humans. Meaning they can’t risk people find out about Danny’s new powers, at all. The Fentons decide that Danny should live with one of Maddie or Jacks relatives off grid until he can control his new abilities better.

luckily Jacks sister, Martha, and her husband have experience with a super powered child and after their son moved to the city could probably use a hand on their farm. All Jack needed to do was call.

[nikolutke]

Oh shit, I can draw whatever I want + Free Therapy moment

Original Post Date: 08/14/2024