#R slur mention

[creature-wizard]

Since the r-slur is making a comeback (you know, the word that starts with R, has six letters, and ends in D), I'm gonna make a little PSA:

Yes, it's an ableist slur.

Terms like "asshat," "head-up-ass," "up their own ass," and "high on their own farts" exist. There's also words like crap, dogshit, half-assed, assclown, and chucklefuck. And on the less vulgar side, there are terms like ridiculous, nonsense, train wreck, pointless, insipid, self-absorbed, pretentious, annoying, boring, contemptible, vile, and disgusting.

Substituting words like restarted, poptarted, brain damaged, smoothbrain, etc. is still ableist, because either 1. you obviously still mean the r-word, or 2. you're still using disability as an insult.

[autie-hobbit]

It is actually so wild to me that so many Autistic people consider being referred to as "neurospicy" and "the 'tism" worse than being called the R-slur.

Because, like, "neurospicy" and "the 'tism" are silly internet terms that Autistic people came up with to have fun, and the R-slur is... a slur.

You know, a word that has been used to enact violence upon mentally disabled people (namely intellectually disabled people).

It also tells me that you haven't really had the R-slur used against you before. Like, when I hear/see the R-slur, my heart skips a beat. It's like I got stabbed in the chest for a moment. It scares me everytime I hear/see it. It immediately tells me that that person is unsafe.

And, I cannot emphasise this enough, "neurospicy" and "the 'tism" are community made terms, and pretty much exclusively used by Autistic people (I know that "neurospicy" is used by other neurodivergent people, but it started as an Autistic term as a spoof on "mild Autism"). It is not meant to harm, it is meant to be silly, you just find it annoying.

The R-slur is meant to harm. The R-slur is violent. Stop it.

[jackrabblt]

Every time someone calls me ableist for using the r slur as an autistic creature, a rabbit gains pawpads againist it's will.

[idiot-mushroom]

leo and donnie angst for all you fuckers

[spot-the-ableism]

https://www.tumblr.com/homochadensistm/762029424206020608/do-not-open-this-persons-archive-and-go-to-october

just was made very uncomfortable with the use of the r-slur (especially as an autistic person)

“The R-word, also known as the R-slur, is a hurtful term that remains prevalent throughout social media, according to a Kantar Social Listening study. The research shows that when social media users are posting about people with intellectual disabilities, 7 in every 10 of those posts are negative, and 6 in 10 contain a slur.  The R-word is a form of hate speech that stands for “retard,” “retarded,” or other offensive words ending in “-tard.” While “mental retardation” was originally introduced as a medical term in 1961 for people with intellectual disabilities, in the decades since, the R-word has become an insult used all too commonly in everyday language. Those who use the R-word often do so with little regard for the pain it causes people with intellectual disabilities—and the exclusion it perpetuates in our society.” -source

there’s not exactly any perfect resource I can point to that explains everything correctly so I will explain, since I will be @‘ing homo with this information I genuinely do think it’s that because their first language is not English they probably don’t know about the reason why people are upset, so I am using the benefit of the doubt.

“Retard”, “retarded”, “retardation” and “retardant” are all words that mean to slow or delay something. It’s originally a French-ish word.

there are many different contexts that the word is used, not all times is it a slur.

But the reason it is, is due to almost a hundred plus years of systemic abuses to intellectually disabled people, epileptics, people with learning disabilities and people with autism and schizophrenia.

for almost a 100 plus years people were sent to institutions or asylums to live out the rest of their lives abused or dying, many many people died in those institutions.

they were diagnosed with “mental retardation” which is actually an umbrella term for all sorts of mental and neurological disabilities, many people with Down’s syndrome, facial deformities and differences, people without the use of their vocal cords and more were also treated in these asylums and institutions and were among the many effected by the rampant systemic ableism and eugenics of the time.

there is this idea that asylums and institutions are not bad, when in reality it’s been almost 200-300 years of them and you can have families and friends and people who wrote books about it and they’ll tell you what it is. Hell.

so why did I give you that context?

well the reason “retarded” or “retard” is a slur is because of those institutions and asylums treatment of people they called the R slur.

their autonomy was taken away, they had no rights, anyone calling out the abuses of institutions were for a long time also penalised, and the eugenics of the time had swayed way too many peoples opinions of the rights of the neurodevlopmentally disabled.

over time things got better and the eugenics of it all started to be penalised, but the fact remains that the r slur is incredibly hurtful and harmful to people still to this day.

there is generational trauma that comes with being neurodevlopmentally disabled or having intellectual disability.

so a lot of people are very insulted and upset at the usage of the word as a slur to insult or belittle others.

I hope that makes sense to you @homochadensistm

[disguisedcheezed]

this is what the reason, by the way.

[aropride]

update on the state of middle schools these days- i was joking with my sister abt getting into wearing a "spread the word to end the word" bracelet i got in like 2012 and she was like. what word. and i was like. the r word. and she didnt even know what word it was. ive been seeing a resurgence of the r slur especially on social mdia but finding out that's a late teens/early adulthood online trend and not being reflected in person for kids/young teens is insane

[shadowwolfmemes]

I'm so done

Fucking hell, I'm actually done with @your-little-dead-angel-girl-200k. She made this post when I saw her post she made after blocking @rainbow-starheart for holding antis and proshippers responsible.

There are so many goddamn flaws in this whole entire paragraph, I can't even. I get she has BPD, but this is beyond bullshit and I'm sure as hell not letting it slide!

1.) I'm not trying to control you, Angel. Giving advice is not controlling. I was just shocked is all.

2.) "-I'm autistic and guessing, you're aren't autistic so don't police my language-" Well, excuse the fuck out of me for warning you out of goodness of my heart. Very bold of you to assume I'm not diagnosed from an actual professional that I'm actually autistic. As someone who is autistic, I've actually been hurt from the word "retard". That's why I, myself, refrain from using it on other people.

3.) I've been bullied from being autistic, too. You don't get to say that I haven't because you don't know shit about me either. Shut yo bitch ass the fuck up!

4.) It's not your age I'm worried about, it's your wellbeing. If that's such a big issue, then I'm no longer sorry for blocking you. "-worry about yourself" Fine, then you don't deserve friendship from anyone if this is how you talk to your friends.

5.) I don't want to be your goddamn online mother. It's not my responsibility to treat you like a motherfucking toddler. I'm sorry your parents don't give you much attention, but to assume that all I want to do is control you when it's the opposite is just too much for me. I'm tired of hearing it over and over.

You know what? I don't care anymore. I'm actually done. I blocked her a long time ago, but this post is the last straw for me. It doesn't matter that she was under a whole lot of stress then because when you lash out at other people, that makes them lash out right back at you.

If anyone is friends with her, y'all can let her see this for all I care. I'm just tired of her toxic bullshit.

@beecha @ennuizrealblog @freakyroma

[us-the-voices-and-more-voices-2]

a quick reminder to everyone

I have SEVERE LEARNING DISABILITIES

I am literally disabled because of my learning disabilities, I have faced literal descrimnation because of it.

everytime you call us retarded or a retard you are ACTIVLY upholding the systems in which I am trapped in.

I take more offence in being called a retard than anything due to the literal DECADES of systematic abuse and descrimnation from the medical system, every single government resource, and almost all school alternatives.

fuck you greatly if you use these words against us, I have to live in a country where they hate people like me and would rather us dead than to do literally anything to help people like us.

call us what you will, but I will never call anyone retarded because it’s a basic decency reserved for everyone.

I’m a very happy retard, fuck your ableism!

I will happily live and love and learn even if THE LITERAL GOVERNMENT doesn’t want me too.

(yeah being a mid supports autistic with other learning disabilities and disabilities in general that made me unable to attend a school just means I deserve to die. 100% legit I deal with this literally all the time always fuck the Australian government)

so again fuck you all greatly, for using a literal slur against me one that has been used against me since I was a baby.

fuck you all, genuinely.

did I forfeit my rights to be treated as a human being the moment I had a bit of trouble learning things? Because if I did I’d like to break someone’s teeth with a brick.

Edit: the language and lines between what the fuck developmental disabilities and intellectual disability are is confusing as fuck.

I have gotten very confused between the 2 because they are grouped together half the time.

My apologies to everyone for being utterly confused where I fall because it is extremely confusing to figure out, and internationally it varies wildly according to my brief reading.

I did not mean to be mean or anything I just was genuinely going off what I’ve been told most my life lol.

Shout out to my developmentally disabled brethren you are loved

[just-antithings]

JAT (or just very dumb things): antis were arguing about lolicon (the usual “sexualizing minors is wrong”!) , the person who made that post unintentionally admitted they spent more time on social media than focusing on their studies, they posted a screenshot of them getting a C in their last assignment

and another one was arguing in their favor, first they responded to someone who said that lolicon is not csem with “the fact you're using the acronym that replaces abuse with explicit is hella weird you gotta go!” and then they were replying to someone who called other people in the same post the r slur with “the Asian stench in this thread is unreal”

But antis are normal,..

[slugass]

the severe normalization of ableism against mental disability as long as it isn’t calling people the r-slur or “autistic” fucks me up

even if it isn’t towards a disability i have

a tumblr user rightfully calls out ableist language yet in the same breath calls a bigot “a stu pid idi ot”, claiming them to be “less intelligent than all mentally disabled people ever”.

nevermind the fact that anyone of any level of intelligence can be bigoted.

describing their ableist characters as “psy co” for being a bad person. and then claiming not to be ableist themselves.

genuinely makes me sad, ACTUALLY FUCKING CRYING, seeing disabilites get disregarded and indirectly insulted in spaces THAT ARE SUPPOSED TO INCLUDE THEM for the sake of insulting bad people.

people need to learn from their mistakes.

please stop using disabilites as insults. there’s other ableist insults beyond the r-slur or using “autistic” as an insult. please look out for them.

[creature-wizard]

Everyone who's like, "Yeah! Stop calling people [r-slur]! Use [other term referring to some form of disability] instead!" is completely missing the fucking point.

No form of disability should be used as an insult, period.

[jackrabblt]

RETARD4RETARD

GREAT MINDS THINK ALIKE💚💛🩷

[aholotte]

I always think of myself as being “anti violence” and I’d rather not commit violence against anyone, but god I wish I could punch every single person who makes acoustic “jokes” about autism or uses “restarted” as a “clever” replacement for the R slur.

[tea-and-secrets]

I need to stop liking this man. he has so so many good qualities but bro. the fuck are you doing calling people the r slur. I've tried so hard to stop liking him but my bitch ass brain keeps going "but what if we can fix him:pleading_face:" and I can't really argue with that. he also has a girlfriend but eh that's not gonna stop me (for the record I'm not gonna homewreck buuuuuut if the homes wrecks itself ya know.) fuck my stupid baka life

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[devilshills]

I am sometimes just contemplating life and reminiscing about the way I diverge from some of my kintypes

like

1. Vel going “burn it like the witches who wore it” . ma’am , I’m the witch

2. Lute being homophobic . I am one of the queerest people you will ever meet . not even my hair is straight in this life . ( plus I identify as Vaggie , which clashes with kinfirming Lute )

3. Blitz using the r-slur . I wouldn’t actually say that . /srs