#Now one of them bullies me
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There’s this kid I’ve known since pre-k. We have the same birthday and we’ve always been friends, one year we were really close. Anyways today he found out I was omni and he went on a whole rant about religion and stuff and how it’s wrong to love the same gender and now he hates me :( that’s honestly one of the longest friendships I’ve ever had
#Sorry idk why I’m posting this#Kinda just sad#My birthday buddy :(#I share a birthday with 3 guys in my school and one year we all sat together in lunch and had a “birthday buddy bash”#It was really fun because we all have different interests and we could all get along really well#Now one of them bullies me#Now one of them thinks I’m the devil or smth#And the other one complimented my Green Day shirt 🤷♀️
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I like to think no matter the circumstances or Siffrin's role, Isabeau is always a LITTLE down-bad for the little fella. Even when they're dumping his inner secrets out on the ground for everyone to see.
I don't think you can fix this guy, Isabeau
#isat#in stars and time#jpdoesart#isat kingswap au#isat spoilers#but like just for isabeau's quest lmao#this is tagged kingswap au stuff but like this is just villainfrin and Isabeau for the folks who just wanna see an evilNB twink bully a joc#guys have you ever tried to intimidate one of your arch nemesis heroes by dumping their darkest secrets out on the ground as a power move#but they seem more flattered that upset??????#and you call them a freak but now they seem to have caught on to your inner core in a reverse uno?#anyways holy shit i did an 8 page comic and i'm very pleased hee hoo#also please note Mirabelles shitty :O face cracks me up every time I see it#happy pride everyone
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Woah, I guess Silver isn't NRC's only human.. Heartslabyul got one of them too!
Mono creates an TWST oc that for once ISN'T a merfolk??? INSANE!! Anyway, say hi to Alison or "Alis" (She's a twisted of Alice Liddell from Alice: Madness Returns). She's a third year in Heartslabyul, and she's also one of the students that helps keep everything intact for Riddle and calm along with Cater and Trey. I'm working on her UM, but here's ONE important thing you should know about her hehe..
Her and Che'nya are adoptive siblings! With Alis being a year older than Che'nya. Not a lot of people are aware of the fact these two are siblings since Alis rarely brings it up unless she's asked about it, or unless you are there at a unbirthday party and witnessed Alis spotting Che'nya, immediately tackling him to the ground and laugh at him struggle to fight her off. Only now she mentions the fact the screaming catfolk she's sitting on is her younger sibling.
They don't often interact since they're in separate schools, but with the rare times they do. You can tell they have the typical "older sibling bothering the younger sibling because it's funny" dynamic, with Che'nya being the victim of Alis' teasing. Kind of also preventing Che'nya himself from teasing others, because he's too busy running away from the one person who's giving him his own medicine. As far as it's known, Alis has been like this to Che'nya ever since they were kids.
Though, despite constantly picking on her sibling. Alis has a protective nature to her, being the one who helped Che'nya get away from NRC students after they witnessed him at their school and went to beat him up- only for them to be the ones who end up getting their asses kicked by Alis who threatened to "actual" hurt them if they didn't piss off. Alison is sometimes seen standing guard by Riddle as well, could be because Alis already knew Riddle cause him and Che'nya used to play alot as kids, or it could be because Riddle strangely reminds Alis of her pet rabbit at home and therefore she wants to protect him (What a strange, strange girl..).
Alison is alot more relaxed and allowing herself to have fun than the character she's based on, but that's for good reason! Let's just say she has a much easier life now where she can freely be a teenager without constantly keeping her guard up and thinking everyone is out to get her </3 (FYI She didn't have a good childhood, but she's doing okay now). I think that's all I have to say for now, but one last funfact- Alison is transfem and uses only she/her, thank you. <3
#Second time drawing Che'nya#ofc the next drawing is them being bullied LMAOOOOOOO#adding them to the list of characters I like to torment now HAHEFHFA#I originally just wanted to update my caters design but I got distracted and finally worked on one of my AMR ocs woahhh#If theres any typos ignore them it's like almost 3:40am for me so shhhhhhh enjoy Alis#twst#twisted wonderland#twisted wonderland fanart#twst fanart#twst oc#twisted wonderland oc#heartslaybul oc#cater diamond#trey clover#twst che'nya#che'nya#💜- Alison#💜- monoduke's art#I'll add her to my pinned tmr Im going to bed now LMAO
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Do the modern scene kids of today know how incredibly bigoted and mean the original scene kids of the early 2000's were.......
#text#I never wanted to be scene but I still remember resenting them so much as a kid because of the sheer snobbery#and it took me forever to learn to actually appreciate the style now that the modern ones wouldn't bully you#for being fat or not white-passing enough
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THIS CHALLENGE WAS LIKE WAYYYY TOO FUN. TBH
YOU COULD NEVER GUESS MY TYPE IN FAVES. HAHA. HA. ha 😔
#it’ so obvious#ITS SO OBVIOUS.#please ignore nick wilde. I COULDNT THINK OF ANYONE ELSE AND KY FRIENDS BULLIED ME INTO DOING IT#ALSO FYI I DO NOT HAVE A CRUSH ON A NICK WILDE. ITS COMPLICATED younger me got too attached to him and now 😔#this was so fun tho I loved drawing them interacting…… SILLIES ALL OF EM#tbh kazu legit could’ve filled up all spaces himself but we want some diversity in here#I LOVE MY BLOND PLAY ESC TYPES W MULLETS!!!! AND MISCHEVIOUS PINK CATTY TEEHEE CHARACTERS!!! AND SLY FOXY GINGERS!!!#this was legit so fun one of my fave things I’ve made recently FR#ashipiko draws ♪#ensemble stars#enstars#kaoru hakaze#hakaze kaoru#enstars kaoru#proseka#project sekai#prsk#mizuki akiyama#akiyama mizuki#18trip#chihiro natsuyaki#twst#twisted wonderland#twst wonderland#twst ace#ace trappola#a3!#a3! act addict actors#kazunari miyoshi#a3! kazunari
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Imogen Temult, Exaltant Hope of the Red Storm
Heroes and Monsters by Penny & Sparrow // Critical Role Campaign 3
#thinking about the 4sd where laura was talking about how all the hells titles are good but imogens sounds like it has a double meaning#that shes the storm's hope rather than just the intended a hope that comes from the storm.#and all of imogens 'i am the storm' esque responses#something something what does it mean to turn away from the storm when the storm is inextricable from who you are on both a psychological#and metaphysical level. how do you turn away from your fate when its already in your veins#imogen answers: you don't! you take it into you. and i think that's fun!#me holding imogen's arc in my hands so I can look away from the context it exists in: this is wonderful#critical role#imogen temult#cr3#bell's hells#predathos#liliana temult#also god. i really miss fcg and imogen. not only was fcg the only witness to a lot of imogen's most significant moments of internal conflic#he was also often the only one that could successfully get her to elaborate on vague claims she would make about how she feels about#the moon and the storm and their fight and all her fear and her willingness to be scared and still do the Right thing even if it risks her#life. and I remember how much fcg's presence was often imogen's impetutus to take seriously that the gods matter to people. because imogen#was the first and often the loudest one to insist fcg had a soul. but it wasn't until the magic of the everlight through pike and their#realization of a meaning through the changebringer that fcg really began to value themself. and she saw how much the gods really could be#this powerful and good force in a person's life beyond just granting them magic. and it led to her often pushing back against (thought ofte#in over delicate and tentative ways) ashton's claims against the gods. but fcg is gone and he died for the hells. and imogen doesn't have#that ever present reminder amongst the storm that the choices she makes will echo out farther than the people she cares about.#also just. they were besties 2 me. they bullied each other but also put the most effort into both challenging and understanding each other.#actually. now thinking about it. fcg and imogen had maybe the most illustrative dynamic of what bh could've been and failed to be. alas ala#cr spoilers#my post#long post#web weaving#web weave#cr edit
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I will never be over Yami Bakura being the big baddie in all of Duel Monsters while wearing New Balance
#ygo dm#yami bakura#yugioh#ygo#duel monsters#OK SO LET ME TELL YOU#i grew up in new balance shoes bc my parents made me wear them for support and i got bullied so hard for it#ik theyre cool now / no one gives a fuq anymore but back then#that was putting a target on ur back LOL#i love him and this is so funny
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There's a lot about Twilight's injury arc that makes me wanna cry but every time I read through it Legend is what gets me
Because Legend took his hat off out of respect when going into Twilight's room while he was injured




I don't I ever have or ever will read a "salty and traumatised and not-nice but still good" character as well written as Legend. Because he's mean and snarky and grumpy- and almost always at least one of his eyebrows is down. Twilight even saw him as a bully at first. (Ref. comic 'bully' in Lu archive)
But this is a warrior who will take off his hat for another who got hurt. Legend shows love in almost invisible ways, and his heart is guarded enough to have spikes. But if he's going to see someone who's injured he shows respect and care.

And he showed his care in other ways too- he has so much love for Twilight to show this much past his guarded heart

Legend is always wearing his hat- it is literally something he puts on just as much as his shoes or tunic.
He shows so much love for Twilight through his injury. And him pulling off/putting on his hat is just one small way that was shown.

*dies drowning in tears because legend took off his hat and it means so much and*
Art and comic by Jojo @linkeduniverse au
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#linked universe#linkeduniverse#lu legend#Lu twilight#also#sometimes I don't realize things until I'm cropping screenshots but#Sky was by legends side the whole. freaking. time.#I didn't notice before- but Sky was right there over his shoulder#sky stayed by legend the whole time#and the comic where twi thought leg was perhaps a bit of a bully is the same one where Sky defended him 'nah legends chill'#and by now both Sky and twi have adopted legend and it matters so much how both of them care for him and in this essays I will-#hello to everyone still reading these tags.#you are loved <33#also language is hard and i hope i didn't accidentally say anything offensive or something if i did let me know#I didn't edit this much I hope it's ok... it probably is obvious but to me it's a small gesture of respect I like#:)
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hear me out on scag x split guys. they both start with "s" it's practically canon.
#labyposting#yes i know split x bive but guys we have other women for the both of them. let's explore!!!#don't bully me on my wheelchair drawing skills i have both never drawn one and also attempted a mashup for it so. no real accurate refs#i also couldn't think of how to attach the claw prosthetic to scag's arm so we got tha arm warmerrrrrrrrrrrrr.#probs will change it at some point cus i don't like it. sigh. more references and studies.#not enough time for that now though i must create lesbians#futch4butch my beloved...#they would be so awesome together guys do you have any idea. DO YOU GUYS EVEN KNOW??!???!?!??!#someone ask me about them i want to think about their relationship more but im stuggling with ideas. of what to think.#somebody else ship this with me also. i need a friend in these lonely and trying times#cleft lip gamer electric wheelchair butch nonbinary lesbian IT worker and shop owner scag for the win#oh my gooddddd someone PLEAASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE#my newest freshest brainrot born straight out of my mind. i'm not going to stop thinking about this.#i want what they have.#ok now i will actually put tags#soz guys i got a little carried away#labyart#my art#regretevator#regretevator roblox#roblox regretevator#regretevator fanart#regretevator art#roblox#roblox art#roblox fanart#fanart#regretevator split#split regretevator#split
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[<==PREV PAGES] [NEXT PAGE==>(not out yet.wait a year.or maybe more.imagine.]
saw alot of comments on prev pages; saying 'i HATE that mean teacher! im gonna FIGHT HIM!!' & i LOVE the energy!! it WOULD be nice. to have that catharsis. but the story of young tidestrider is Not one of catharsis. it is a story of being so small and so special and sucking so bad.
#jrwi fanart#jrwi show#jrwi riptide#gillion tidestrider#GONNA START FORMATTING MY COMICS BETTER. W THE PROPER 'PREV' 'NEXT' LINKS#REALLY DIDNT EXPECT TO CONTINUE THIS SERIES BUT AAAUUUHH MY BRRAAAIN MY BRAIN IS SO IDEASSS. I HAVE 3 OTHER PAGES SKETCHED OUT#NO PROMISES ILL FINISH EM ANY TIME SOON OR EVER. MY WHIMS ARE THEIR OWN BEAST AND I ONLY DRAW ON MY WHIMS#THAT BEING SAID IF U COMMISSIONED ME ILL GEEETT TO YOUUU IM SORRYYYY. ART IS AN EMOTIONAL RELEASE FOR ME N BABY I HAVE EMOTIONS.#ESPECIALLY ABOUT GILLION TIDESTRIDER CHAMPION OF THE UNDERSEA HERO OF THE DEEP.for the desc here i put smth that i typed up in the tags of#another thing i made. i gotta make a proper Baby Gillion tag or smth. eventually.. eventually...I LOVE DRAWIN THIS LIL BABY GUY..#i also LOVE depicting the teachers as just being so fuckin mean. ofc theres variation in that. just like in all things.like the teacher her#idk if itll be mentioned but the octo lady is named Ms Octburn.an octopus pun based off the name of an actual councilor i had#when i was in elementary school i got bullied alot but teachers never did anything. i hated adults and didnt trust them.#but this councilor o mine was so genuinely sweet. i remember spending alot of time w her. she doesnt work there anymore.#but that one school adult that actually earns ur trust and is there for you when they can be.its SO important for a child i think#i hope she knows how much she helped me.youll see in the next page that ms octburn isnt perfect either.but she tries. they all try.somehow.#ALL these comics are gonna be inspired by somesorta experience o mine in the school system. school is so fucked up u ever thing abt that#AND GILLIOOOOONNN IN THE MOST FUCKED UP LITTLE SCHOOL OF ALL. MAINTAINED BY A CULT. CENTERED AROUND HIM. OUR CHOSEN ONE#I IMAGINE ALOT BANKS ON HIS SUCCESS. THIS IS THE WORLD. THE WHOLE WORLD. THE PROPHECY IS GOING TO COME TRUE N UR TELLIN ME#THAT ITS THIS LITTLE IDIOT THATS GONNA BE SAVING US? WHAT IF HE FAILS. IF HE CANT GET THIS RIGHT THEN HE WILL FAIL AND WE WILL DIE#WE NEED TO TRAIN HIM. WE NEED HIM TO LEARN. AND TO SUCCEED. OR ELSE WE'RE DEAD. WE'RE ALL FUCKING DEAD. I IMAGINE THAT MUST BE STRESSFUL#in other news i hope ppl actually giggle when they read these. they ARE intended to be comical. dark humor or whatever. like its also sad#this is intended to be a sad comic series. but a funny one too. does that make sense? god i hope so.saw some1 say they had flashbacks-#-reading this. like YES!! THE INTENDED EFFECT!! YOU GET ME!! i love seeing ppl get upset on this lil baby boys behalf. i LOVE seeing ppl-#-wail n weep n cry in the comments. i LOOOVE seeing ppl RELATE to baby gillion. and i love letting u all know that this wont be a happycomi#gillion gets his happiness arc in the actual show. this series is one of unfortunate events. teehehehe. do u guys remember that show#i keep listening to the lil songs from A Series of Unfortunate Events for inspiration. GOOD STUFF!!#anyway uuhh uhh thats all i got in my brain. for now. feed me ur comments give me ur input i NNEEEEEDD THHEEEMMMM
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Liu Qingge date lineup… I was thinking about how funny it would be to see how dating might change your lifestyle
#kamaetedraws#svsss#liu qingge#bingliu#liujiu#bingliushen#(implied)#svsss lqg never gets in on the fashion party bc lbh and sqq are too busy spoiling each other#liujiu lqg's hair is better taken care of bc sqq does that for him. sqq doesnt like braids tho#liujiu lqg also has The Most decked out clothes bc sqq embroiders them when he is feeling petty#he likes hiding bamboo motifs and chrysanthemums#lqg doesnt care except when he does in which case he vacillates wildly between#'haha look how much sqq wants to show me off' and 'UGH can he NOT leave my clothes alone for ONE second'#bingliu lqg has servants who bully him into taking care of everything he normay ignores so that's why his hair is longer#lbh replaced his whole wardrobe with Bingge Colors and burned all the cqms stuff#AND he is always giving lqg fancy fiddly little gifts of jewelry and stuff#lqg doesnt actually care for it but he's gotten better at manipulating so he sometimes wears it as a bribe#bingliushen lqg is SO embarassed right now and is thinking about hiding his little bingqiu belt tassle so he doesnt get dragged into this#(but he is obviously coming out winning.#HE still has his principles he tells himself HE still dresses his own damn self HE isnt so fussy and self absorbed about his relationship#he is a little jealous)
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you know something. shadow is honestly ridiculously lax and even veers on the edge of being """nice""" (in his own way) with the hinoxes. and it's hilarious:
like sorry but if it were me. and a bunch of clumsy ass hinoxes were fucking around with the mirror that granted me near-unlimited power and also a body. i would do a little more than call them idiots and shake my fist at them while yelling at them to get out. i would literally just straight up kill them. also him bursting in when vio hits (kills, actually, according to the fan translation where shadow actually says "why did you kill him?") the hinox and immediately giving him a squinty-eyed suspicious look because of it is SO fucking funny. and also the last picture is even more so because of the fucking expression on the hinox. just "shadow somebody threw a hammer on me after trying to break the dark mirror and now i've got a case of the ouchies :(((" like brother you just KNOW if they pulled that same expression in front of ganon or vaati they'd be vaporized on the spot. what's going on here
#why are the hinoxes in that one panel where vio's In Trouble congregated behind shadow like that.#the first thing it reminds me of is kids calling in their parent because someone was bullying them and now they're waiting for the#parent to rake the perpetrator's ass over the coals for it. or something#LIKE SDKJFDSNKJDFS THIS IS SO FUNNYYYYYY WHY ARE THEY LIKE THAT#fsa#txt#four swords#<-sure i'll main tag this
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the idea came to me in a migraine induced dream but now im obsessed with the concept of a mu qingfang who knew the abuse bunhe was going through at the hands of og!shen qingqiu/shen jiu and did his best to treat the kid whenever he could (and bring his concerns to zhangmen shixiong, which were obviously very much ignored) and his constant worry over the situation means that when the qi deviation happens he is suspicious of shen qingqiu’s changes for all different reasons and very much protective of luo binghe -who is a sweet child and an earnest disciple who seems to always find the most incredible medicinal herbs to bring to his mu shishu as thanks for the care bestowed upon him- which means that when the whole shen qingqiu dying thing happens instead of bad mouthing luo binghe or fighting him at every chance he does his best to come over and keep an eye on things to try and help him and make sure luo binghe won’t kill himself trying to bring shen qingqiu back because he remembers that earnest kid and he’s witnessed luo binghe’s devotion to this shen qingqiu first hand and knows there is no way that the kid who cried when ning yingying found a bird with a broken wing and begged mu qingfang to fix it and the kid that would always borrow medical texts and try to find new herb combinations as if it was a game between him and qian cao disciples is actually doing anything nefarious to shen qingqiu’s corpse.
anyways in this essay i will-
#listen#binghe needs to have more people in his corner#and for some reason i have imprinted on mqf#so you get cool healer uncle#who probably smoked weed with binghe and made him promise to keep quiet#lbh and mqf bonding activity was teaching lbh to properly roll joints#anyways mqf understanding that the rituals are intricate and lqg doesn’t have any other way of coping with his grief#but the first time lqg injures lbh almost to death in a fight they get into a screaming match so violent#that no bai zhan discipline will look at him in the face without going pale for the next month#that is his nephew! who found several thought-to-be-extinct herbs for him!#also him telling sqq that lbh might have forgotten what he did but mqf certainly didn’t#a healer never forgets the wounds they heal#and sqq is just like yeah brother me neither :(#mqf is going to therapy these idiots so fucking hard#lbh also keeps trying to matchmake him with some nice demons in his court like shamelessly trying to poach his mu shishu#also he and shang qinghua are the only ones who still get the full shishu treatment#except lbh kinda bullies sqh a little for the virtue of the whole mbj situation#(hes never gonna let them live that down)#anyways it’s whatever at first but at one poont years in the future it does become a point of contempt with the other peak lords#nothing can take away from me that when bored they will squabble like children#such is the way of bored adults#i have rambled enough so normal tags now#svsss#svsss writing#luo binghe#shen qingqiu#mu qingfang#bingqiu#svsss au
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rereading the luxury liner arc after I just got back into my hyperfix recently and I wanna make sure I have a fresh understanding of the characters and. Guys I’m slowly being convinced of dadbastian now. I’m a changed woman
#I still think Sebastian’s demonic side is very interesting#But it becomes even more interesting to me when you add the layer of this fucked up father-son shit they have going on too#Like#Aughhh one minute he’s acting so gentle and patient with him and then the next he does something weird and predatory that reminds you that#Seb’s still a demon and doesn’t really care about Ciel in the same way a human would#The dichotomy and tragedy of that whole dynamic is really really scrumptious to me I get the appeal now#I think I was kind of fishy of it before bc I think I saw some people being like “oh no I think seb genuinely cares about Ciel guys” and#I was like#Not really convinced tbh#And I still don’t think he can truly love or care for Ciel#at least not in the same way humans do their children#But believing in both of these things at the same time and having them coexist???#Yes…. GIVE IT TO ME NOW !!! IM HEARING YOU OUT ON YOUR FUCKED UP DOOMED BY THE NARRATIVE TRAGIC FOUND FAMILY !!!!#Anyways. Character development arc hehehe ^_^#I still don’t think Sebastian is necessarily a good person btw I still think he’s fucked up#And the only thing that’s stopping him from being the series antagonist is him being on the side of the protagonist#But perhaps I was too caught up in jokingly bullying him#Because just so you know as fucked up as he is I genuinely think he is a very interesting character to watch grow and develop#And I do understand where he’s coming from with his amusement and outsider perspective for human life#Esp as an autistic person like watching him adjust to human customs feels oddly charming to me#Albeit his amusement does come from a place that seems slightly calloused and cruel#I’m still gonna make fun of him and call him stinky tho. Sorry#And UT’s still my wife#Anyways I don’t even know what I am talking about anymore. It’s 3am man💔#I am going to go eat some corn now. Bye#/ref#Kuroshitsuji#my post
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#i dont think im a bad person. i dont think i behave in ways that are especially terrible. i dont hate myself. but i do believe i deserve to#suffer. and im not sure how to align those incongruent ideas. its hard to articulate because a lot of my rigidity stems from restrictions#without cause. i don't do things for a specific reason. im not afraid that if dont do specific things it will cause bad things to happen. i#behave in specific ways because thats what i have to do. thats just the way it is. without reason. without cause. like im getting dictates#from some higher power. a lot of my restrictive behaviors manifest in a sort of religious way. not in a religious trauma way. the church i#grew up in was all love thy neighbor and not fire and brimstone. its more that this rigid views is deeply and profoundly rooted in how i#belive i need to behave. i behave imperfectly. i make mistakes. and there has to be a consequence. i have to suffer. and thats just how it#is. like preying for forgiveness or committing self flagellation. i repent through self punishment. and when i try to imagine why i do this#all i can think about is being a little kid. praying before i went to bed. not aloud. the prayers i kept silent. that nobody would get sick#and die. that all the kids in childrens hospitals would get better and that nothing bad would ever happen to anyone. i had a pretty idealic#childhood. it was stable and my parents loved me a lot. i was never really bullied in school. my family was comfortably middle class without#money troubles. and i guess i find that difficult to contend with because i didnt do anything to deserve that. it was just luck. and why#should i have that when other ppl dont? but random things dont happen to you because you did something to warrent them. thats not how the#world works. so maybe im seeking to balance the scale. maybe im trying to pay for my good luck because it makes more sense that way.#sins must be punished and good fortune must be paid for. but only for me. i am an isolated entity controlled by an angry god.#and again. i dont hate myself or thing im a bad person. it only seems fair and correct that i should suffer. thats just how it is.#and how do you classify that? its a rigid worldview that sprauls out into restructions and compulsions. a lens warped from through#existential fear? the rot from which 0cd manifested? a set of restrictions born of aut1sm? i dunno. it doesnt really matter but i try to#classify anyway. maybe it doesnt fit neatly into one box. so it goes.#just stupid bullshit im being forced to deal with now that im basically in triple therapy lol#unrelated
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Both my parents actually suffer from HORRID emotional dysregulation and are prone to snapping and going into rages. My sister is the same way tbh. I am now realizing this is why they are constantly baffled by the question of whether or not I am mad at them.
I don't have external meltdowns.
I could. I don't let it happen.
I keep my rage on the inside and stay pretty quiet about it. It's just as strong as theirs [physically shaking nose bleed from high blood pressure kind of bad], but like as a kid I saw how terrifying it was to be around [dad breaking dishes, mom putting our lawn chairs into walls] and I just internalized that I wasn't going to wear that anger on the outside.
So my mother genuinely cannot tell if I am just being quiet or if I am silently hearing the dial-up noises of pure rage. This has lead her to both making strong and confident statements like "You are a pacifist who would never hurt a fly U.U" but also acting like I am secretly dangerous maybe... It's because she has never seen me snap.
She knows what her temper is like [throwing chairs through walls], she knows what my father's temper is like [pick up child and toss out door], and she can tell I am being tested, but she doesn't know what happens when I snap or where that breaking point is.
Her -perhaps unhinged- solution to this, my whole life, has been to do things that should obviously enrage me or shut me down completely, like ignoring important boundaries, repeatedly, punishing me for expressing emotions or needs at all, etc... And then to constantly ask me if I am angry with her when I get too quiet [right after near directly telling me to shut up].
It has occurred to me now, they have never once seen me lose my temper, so they literally just can't tell if I am angry at them. My sister is easy, my mother fights and screams with my sister constantly, my mother understands this. My mother doesn't have any grasp of feelings or boundaries that are not screamed at her [apparently, and I fear my sister is the same way]. Her and my sister are close despite constant fucking fighting because they understand each other.
They are trying to get me to engage the same way and it is not working. I realize now that this has been hard for them.
I was so successfully taught to suppress my emotions, by being punished for any outburst, that rage quiet looks the same as any other kind of quiet from the outside. To them anyway.
I did tell her. For the record. I used my words. I did tell her very calmly that my response to rage, in order to avoid doing the things that terrified me as a child, was to simply leave [the autistic urge to GTFO]. When a situation or person causes too much of the dial-up rage noise, I simply extract myself from that situation, up to and including never speaking to a person again. I explained this calmly. I explained it calmly 100 times and I explained that I explain myself calmly as my rage response 1-5 [also pretty much every other negative emotion tbh], and I told her that what came next was me simply opting out and fucking off. I told her this. I couldn't understand why she never took me seriously, or why she never fucking understood.
I couldn't understand what made her like this.
But it's the same problem I have with everyone else multiplied by a factor of 10.
If I am explaining myself calmly, they can't understand that it's actually serious or that I am actually upset. ESPECIALLY because they read me as "female" and women "aren't that rational" so if I am not screaming and crying about something, which I never do, people assume I can't be upset and it isn't serious.
And then after having my boundaries ignored too many times despite having calmly explained how and why it's a problem [shaking inside or not]... I leave. I leave and everyone gets upset like this is unexpected behaviour, even though I told them 50 times that is how I would respond if they kept doing *the thing.*
And for neurotypical people especially, they are expecting there to be a disconnect between what someone says they need or feel and what their actually boundaries and feelings are, and they expect the latter to be demonstrated with emotions. Telling them bluntly you do not function that way somehow never helps?
My mother isn't just looking for normal yelling or a few tears to know I am serious, whether or not I do those either [I don't], she's looking for an explosion to know there's a problem at all.
Fucked if I know how she proceeds through life this way in general or if this is just her expectation of her own kids???
And I couldn't get why my mother couldn't read my emotions and didn't seem to think I have any. It's because she's testing for the rage limit to see where my 'actual' limit is instead of taking my word for it. Never the fuck mind that she could simply *not* test at my boundaries instead of letting me have them. Separate issue.
I couldn't figure out what made her *like this*
She's expecting me to throw a giant meltdown violent tantrum at people when I have 'actually' had enough. Maybe she got away with those being like 5'4" in another time, but I am the size of the average man, I do not get to have giant screaming rages, whether or not people perceive me consciously as a woman, and least of all because a lot of people -at least unconsciously- read me as 'masculine' or at least always "they guy" of the situation compared to all other women and some men [bigger stronger and more rational, more able to just absorb the damage and let it go so the less rational screaming/crying one doesn't have to be dealt with]. Even if it was in me to be willing to terrify people [usually never], there are such limited instances where it wouldn't just blow back on me. Potentially very dangerously.
I am going to be the quiet calm one. You are going to have to let me use my words, bitch.
So she kept ignoring my boundaries until I had to cut her out of my life, and she probably doesn't understand and probably thinks it feels sudden -after 36 long years of bullshit- abrupt and unfair.
But I told her hundreds of times.
I probably should have just screamed at her.
#good stay out of our yard' and he didn't seem to know what to say to that#but other than that I don't think anyone in my adult life has ever seen me turn aggressive at all to the point where people 100% like to#play games of testing my patience and my boundaries because they think my tolerance is infinite#but like I have autistic rage tantrums on both sides of my family and they are just happening inside my head#And somehow it took me until now to realize that being that way was actually -expected- of me by my parents and especially my mother#and that by keeping myself outwardly level headed to be considerate I actually took away whatever signals she can understand#to have empathy for how I must be feeling#I mean it's still all on her#but it makes so much sense of why she's fucking *like this*#And why my sister thinks I hate her just because -she- stopped texting -me-#but that fucking guy#Every time I was like#In my adult life I have screamed at someone ONE whole time and it was 1000% deserved#And I threw heavy objects around one whole other time and in my defense I didn't do it in front of the guy he just felt the ground shaking#heard the thuds and came back to the logs blocking his path because that fucker wouldn't stop parking in our yard after being asked#and then TOLD not to about 10 times because he was acting entitled to just park in our yard and was crushing my plants???#seriously I don't know what his deal was but he wouldn't stop telling me how much the ground shaking scared him like it was supposed#to get my pity like I think this guy took one look at the logs I had just tossed down and was suddenly afraid of this “woman” he was#bullying in their own yard and so my ability to feel bad for scaring him had gone straight out the fucking window#I looked at him and said stop parking in our yard instead of your own you are killing my plants#he'd just fucking be like 'well the last people to live here let us D: :)“ and I'd be like ”good for them?“ ”stop“#and he'd just keep doing it#I was having a week of insomnia and was finally having the best dream#the kind of sex dream you have like twice in your life#and this fucker had just gotten some noisy ass little bike with a spoiler on it#and starts it up right under my window at 3am from IN OUR FUCKING YARD#so I had a nice long anger nap and just after he got home from work and was sleeping in his house#I picked up these chunks of deadwood tree from the back#there was like 3-4 logs that used to be a WHOLEASS fucking oak tree Like these logs were not as heavy as they -looked- but they were still#this fucker deleted half the tags I wrote and I am not retyping that fuck you tumblr so fucking hard
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