#MtX

[ftmtftm]

Someone using a truth against you to harm you does not make the truth any less real. It just makes the person using the truth against you an ignorant or disingenuous/dangerous person.

What does this mean?

It is a truth that it is okay for trans women to have facial hair. Facial hair is morally neutral, it's okay if a trans woman has it.

If you personally do not want your facial hair and are struggling with it, and someone says "Well it's okay for trans women to have facial hair!!" in response the issue is NOT with the statement "it's okay for trans women to have facial hair". The issue is with the way the person talking to you and how it is completely ignoring your emotions and dysphoria in an unhelpful, ignorant at best / malicious at worst manner.

It is a truth that it is okay for a trans man to not go on testosterone. HRT is morally neutral, it's okay if a trans man does not want to seek it out.

If you personally want to go on testosterone but are struggling to access it, and someone says "Well it's okay for trans men to not go on T!" in response the issue is NOT with the statement "it's okay for trans men to not go on T". The issue is with the way the person talking to you and how it is completely ignoring your emotions and situation in an ignorant at best / malicious at worst manner.

Not only this, but multiple potentially conflicting truths DO exist.

It is simultaneously a truth that trans people as a whole are pressured not to seek out gender affirming care and a truth that not all forms of gender affirming care are for every trans person.

The important thing is that everyone is allowed to opt in or out of that care in an informed manner. What is life saving for some is going to be neutral or completely unwanted for others - there is no perfect way to accommodate all of those experiences, but there are still informed ways to account for many experiences.

That begins with recognizing that the weaponization of a truth does not make the truth itself inherently harmful. Look more closely at the person wielding it against you, rather than take it out on the truth being used as the weapon.

[themaveriqueagenda]

some signs you might be maverique*

1. you feel like terms like "man" and "woman" don't apply to you at all. this is pretty self-explanatory.

2. you have a distinct sense of gender. your gender feels as specific and as clearly defined as manhood and womanhood. you are not genderless.

3. you relate to having a neutral gender, but not entirely. because gender neutrality is a well-known concept, it's not uncommon for maveriques to first explore and relate to that when they first realise they are nonbinary, however neutrality still tends to feel "off" or "not quite right".

4. your gender feels unusual, even to yourself. because maveriquehood exists independently from the gender binary and gender neutrality, it can be hard to put it into words, find history or people you relate to. being maverique can come with great feelings of alienation even from other nonbinary people due to binary expectations. maveriques may feel "weird among the weirdos".

5. your gender is neither in between male or female nor a mix of them. this one is self-explanatory. maveriques tend to feel far away from both binary genders.

6. you don't relate to femininity, masculinity or androgyny. some maveriques don't use any terms that are derived from binary genders, even terms for gender expression or transition goals.

7. you feel like your gender is "just you". some maveriques feel like their gender is truly unique to themselves, cannot be separated from their being and is best defined as "just them".

8. you simply like the term or flag. if you've already narrowed down a few terms for your gender that are similar and could all apply, it's totally valid to choose your label on the word and/or flag you find most aesthetically pleasing.

don't know what maverique means? check the pinned post on this blog.

*of course a lot of these "signs" also apply to other genders, and not all of them will apply to every maverique. this is in no way meant as a checklist you must fulfill to be maverique, merely a guide that may help people figure themselves out. especially multigender maveriques may have different experiences from the above.

[ryanthedemiboy]

Hey transmascs! I made a tumblr community for us!

It's for all transmasculine folks, regardless of presentation or how binary you are, whether you're out (even if you'll never be out), whether or not transition is something for you, and regardless of your agab (amab transmascs are welcome!)

You can't just apply to join like a normal website would have you do, so just leave a reply or comment requesting an invite.

Have a great day!

[genderstarbucks]

CTMTN | CTFTN

CTMTN is a term for those who are transitioning from ctm (close to male) to neutral. This term is exclusive to intersex people.

CTFTN is a term for those who are transitioning from ctf (close to female) to neutral. This term is exclusive to intersex people.

CTMTX | CTFTX

CTMTX is a term for those who are transitioning from ctm (close to male) to an unspecified gender. This term is exclusive to intersex people.

CTFTX is a term for those who are transitioning from ctf (close to female) to an unspecified gender. This term is exclusive to intersex people.

Some other versions to ctmtnb and ctftnb

[rjalker]

This is a poll. It will last 1 week. Certain letters are capitalized to make it easier to tell this poll from the other one.

Question: If you were assigned Male at birth and you are trans or not cis, do you identify as TransFeminine at all (Including in combination with other identities)?

Option 1: Yes, I am TransFeminine.

Option 2: No, I am not TransFeminine.

Option 3: I am currently questioning this.

Option 4: See results

[rainbowcafelgbtqcenter]

HAPPY NONBINARY PARENTS DAY

[tomboy-brainwasher]

[bnyrbt]

companion poll: https://www.tumblr.com/bnyrbt/726683896113233920

[posbitivity]

Dear transgender folk, I love you.

Most of the people who will read this I will never meet, and yet I still care for them all. The bisexual and the transgender communities are historically inherently intertwined and I am so proud to embrace their intersectionality and nuances.

I especially want to reach out to young trans/gnc/questioning people living in states or countries that are becoming increasingly unsafe to live in. I am Oklahoma and I am deeply troubled by the overwhelming feeling of powerlessness, and still I refuse to back down. I will not be complacent just because I, as a cisgender woman, may not be personally affected.

I have a voice and so do you, and they are meant to be used. One protester with a sign is always better than staying quiet and staying quiet—for those of us who are safe enough to do so; your safety is the priority, after all. United we cannot be suppressed. We will rise up in solidarity stronger than ever. We will make selfish fascists fear for their lives as much as they have made my friends' fear for their own. I know that living in this era is a struggle for myriad reasons, and I also know that change for the better is possible, but only if we try harder than our oppressors.

I love you. I may never have the honor of meeting you personally but please know that I fucking love you and I want you to live authentically, joyously, and downright hedonistically. If so many people can devote their lives to hating people that they don't know, then I will devote my life to loving the people that I don't know.

[beyond-mogai-pride-flags]

MtQ Pride Flag

MTQ/M2Q (male-to-queer) or MtGQ/M2GQ (male-to-genderqueer): transitioning from male to genderqueer/queer.

[subtle-pride-wallpaper]

[leresq]

I'm like Deadpool but instead of pulsating cancer that writhes over my skin I have patches of hair that I miss when shaving, moving around as I shave areas I missed last time leaving new areas to grow prickly spines of varying length and this all happened through a tortuous process that might as well have destroyed my entire body. Also I don't kill people.

[genderstarbucks]

Trans Dude | Alt FTX

Trans Dudette | Alt MTX

Trans Guy | Trans Gal

FTN | FTNB

MTN | MTNB

I couldn't find any mtn(b) and ftn(b) flags I liked so I made my own

Ftx and mtx in this case could mean anything, so including ftm and mtf and not just being alternatives to ftn and mtn

[rjalker]

EchelonHunt said Re: Binary privilege.

September 23, 2014, 11:39:35 AM

We have a long, long way to go if we cannot discuss a topic about privileges without getting offended, defensive or throwing sarcasm around.

Privileges are a touchy subject, no doubt about that. Saying there is binary privilege should not be considered an attack on anyone's transition or their identity. Saying that transgender binary individuals have easier access to transitioning than non-binary should not invalidate your experiences nor should it make you feel compelled to defend yourself.

Because really, it's not about you, me or anyone else here. It's never been personal, only if you make it such. Binary privilege is about society, the binary rules that have been shoved down people's throats as the norm, the backwards thinking that if you act a certain way, you will be accepted and if you identify as anything else that is not accepted as the norm, we will either tear you down, make sure you fit our stifling standards or claim you do not exist and reject you.   

It is not about being better or being less than anyone. Having a privilege means as a group in general, people are granted a right that others aren't privy to.

Transgender binary individuals are granted the right to have access to transitioning, as long as they fit the SOC.

Non-binary individuals are ... sort of given that right, there is access to HRT and some surgeries available but as far as I am aware, bottom surgeries are completely off-limits to non-binaries unless they pretend to be binary to achieve those surgeries.

But nobody should have to pretend to be binary, nobody should have to pretend to be something they are not in order to receive the surgeries they require to elevate body dysphoria. It is a harsh reality for many of us, it is something real that people go through and suffer because they are not binary, because they do not fit perfectly in one box.

That's the society we live in now. The doors are open if you present as binary but if you present as non-binary, they will give you limited options. God forbid if you want a complete transition as a non-binary, you'll get laughed out of the office and the door slammed behind you. Alternatively, you can fight the system or die trying.

I have suffered this myself, even being raised as a biological female - I was denied mastectomy and hysterectomy because I had a healthy body and the view was, "Well, you're a young woman, you're going to have children one day, it's inevitable so no, you cannot have those surgeries." I was not allowed to control what I could do to my body, the decision had already been decided by doctors who were not the least bit sympathetic to my troubles and instead more concerned about their reputation.

The same thing happened again with my psychiatrist. I was very feminine in appearance and he would suggest I get a masculine haircut. Because yanno, there are no cis-guys who have long hair or anything. But I understood why my psychiatrist was suggesting to conform to gender stereotypes, it's so that the binary-populated society won't mistake me as a woman, it's so that the society can look at my gender expression (flat chest, short hair, male clothing, etc) and assume I am a man based on that.

I have had partners attempt to force me to be somebody who I am not. Being a feminine transguy, one partner expected me to be a walking example of a stereotypical sexist, hyper-masculine cis-guy. She expected me to be the "man" in the relationship, the one who initiates sex and who is highly sexual. If I did not wear traditionally male clothing, she would look horrified. If I expressed wanting to be on the receiving end of sex, she would be horrified. A heterosexual cis-female who was so incredibly close-minded by her views on binary and gender... well, it's no surprise that my relationship with her prompted me to question my identity as a male and whether or not I cared about fulfilling binary roles.

Turns out I don't care about binary roles whatsoever. Like rules, they are made to be broken and changed into rules that will allow me my freedom as an individual, not what society dictates.

In regards to the community, support and compassion for one another is crucial. The us vs. them mentality will not help anything except further divide the gap between us. We are all in this together, if we separate from one another, become apathetic about each other's troubles... What's the point? What's the point of being in a community together if we cannot empathize with each other's plights as human beings but instead continue to keep treating each other as two different sides of the same coin?

What will that achieve?

Absolutely nothing but endless bickering.

"https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,173876.40.html"

[cassandralexxx]

chat never take methotrexate it sucks and is awful 🙏

[ctrl-altgr]

IVE BEEN ON HRT FOR 8 MONTHS NOW WOOOOOOOOO

honestly i feel like a much better person inside and out because of hrt, i feel more positively about myself and my relationships with others, and im very happy to be me :)