#Maintenance Therapy

[themiumiubarbie]

More YouTubers I recommend watching 🎀

Gina B.

SheraSeven

Tam Kaur

Emily Paulichi

Simone Nicole

Vanessa Faga

Olivia Yang

Kayli Boyle

AlliyahsFace

Zhirelle

Kenna Marie

sophie diloreto

Michaela Bento

Amber Scholl

Samantha Nicole

Bria Jones

[acequinz]

Once again bound by meng yao demons.

I want to squeeze him till his head pops or bite his head off...

Is this how NMJ felt?

NMJ just be there confusing the absolute urge to kiss the mess meng yao is with wanting to kill him.

Maybe the reason was that LXC also has extreme kissing thoughts about Meng Yao but they are much gentler.

So NMJ was like- oh i probably just want him dead.

Like nah. You all should have fucked.

Maybe lxc was trying to get NMJ and meng yao to fuck it out by forcing them into sworn brotherhood.

[gent-illmatic]

A matter of time⏱

(A long af ramble)

I don’t care how long you’ve known some people, what the bond was, if they’re relatives, part of a community, childhood friends, best work buddies etc.

Everybody isn’t meant to stay in your life!

During my spiritual journey I realized you can’t “helicopter” over the people you care about. It’s a dysfunctional love language many of us have. I wanted to support and guide my loved ones to the best of my ability. I’m known as the therapist/fixer of any friend group I’m apart of.

I’m the Olivia Pope of this shit. However, I would end up being the emotional trash bag ,while they reject every plausible solution presented. Im the person strategizing how to get them on track and distracting from my own goals to save theirs (ppl pleasing). Silently seething because not only do they seem to care very little about themselves … but also about my time and effort in supporting them! They’re turning up while I’m stressing for them.

I also realized a lot of these actions stemmed from events in my childhood, but I digress!

Then the “Ah ha” moment hit!

They don’t owe me shit.

Why? … because it’s not my job to do that! They’re not calling for advice. They’re calling to vent. Yes, being a good listening ear is part of being a good support as well. We don’t always have to swoop in with “what you should do is…”. I also learned my actions of support make me seem like a “know it all” with good intentions. It sends signals that I don’t believe they are capable of figuring out their own issues. As if they were mentally challenged. This dynamic breaths life into resentment.

However, for people like me , that becomes exhausting after while. Loved ones complaining about the same bullshit misfortunes over & over without looking for solutions, better discernment, or to establish positive patterns/habits. Constantly returning back into the arms of what has them forever frustrated. Wanting you to hold all of their emotional and dysfunctional baggage. You are being spiritually drained!

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Especially, if you’ve done the work for your own life’s outcome! With or without therapy! You’ve put in the effort aside from your prayers. Now, you’re reaping the peaceful benefits of the investment in your life. You feel your spirit and life being led to better pastures ….It’s time to realize…

You’ve outgrown them.

it’s time to love them from afar!

The dynamic you once shared has expired/changed. The people you were in the beginning, No longer exists now. It’s no longer serving or fulfilling.

People will always prioritize themselves (as they should). You need to make sure you do the same. Nobody will care about you more than yourself as an adult. You can care for your loved ones, and wish them well. Give them guidance if specifically asked. However, we can’t live for them or force them to take our advice! It doesn’t matter how great the quality of our advice is…. We don’t even have to experience the consequences of the advice we give them! They have the choice of what to take and what to leave! We don’t even know if we have all the facts of the scenario anyway. They have their journey and you have yours…

But….

If their dysfunctional life starts to effect yours just being in their company…you begin reaping their consequences for their choices…you notice yourself regressing … you recognize you’ve lost sight or esteem of your own life mission…

Fall back.

You are the average of the 5 closest people to you. Choose wisely!

The mental ease you receive for allowing people to “do them” and letting go is priceless. Now you have time to dedicate towards your own conquests , continue your own development, and learn from your own choices.

I’m rambling now… but one last thing

Beware: When people notice you walking away to a better life, they may morph into your enemy. They may spill your secrets, smear you, they may not even care about your absence. If that’s the case It’s all good… some people can live in your heart but not in your life!

Keep the grass cut🌾🐍🌾

-KANAAN🌱

[transingthoseformers]

I've just gotta show you this post s3 tfa concept, like really post s3

Blah blah blah Sentinel is no longer Magnus, Optimus either gets the matrix and goes from a tfa prime to a Prime™️ or himself becomes Magnus

But Sentinel pretends like nothing has changed, so we get the image of Sentinel berating Optimus while Oppy, who's now comparable to Megatron's height, just. Stares down at him past his tits at Sentinel who's giving off metaphorical "peaked in high school" vibes.

[pinkbowmuse]

let me just put it out there what you accept is what you attract so if you keep letting those people that treat you bad continuously YOU are attracting that.

[theygender]

Fucking forgot how locks work today for some reason and dragged a maintenance guy all the way over to my apartment only for him to have to look me in the eye and tell me I was turning my key the wrong way. Fuck my stupid baka life

[farther-north]

A03 IS BACK UP YIPPIE !!! Back to reading silly block men doing silly things :DD

[genderfluidgothwitch]

I'm working on a project on my computer and vaping, this is the closest I've been to my normal pain level in days. I know it won't last, especially not when I'm trying to sleep later.

Trying to ignore the guilt of disappearing from work for three days, when the last time I did that it was my mental breakdown two years ago.

[blueheartedwolf]

I wish I could find a doctor that wants to find out what’s actually wrong with me instead of recommending prescriptions to address the symptoms. I’m so tired of being recommended ibuprofen for debilitating pain. Tired of relaying my medical history to a new doctor and getting the same furrowed brow and shrugging shoulders I get every time. Tired of having so-called medical professionals ask why I need a cane if I’m able to walk down their clinic hallway without it. When will someone fucking help me?

[that-one-girls-blog-posts]

It's another one of those "better not check the banking app" months

[jules-van-hering]

working on a thing!!!

[loudmound]

chapter 4 of art therapy...............

[jimmystrudel]

5 year dog plan updates: I think I've identified a breed (and 3 potential breeders), I have more clearly figured out what I don't want and what my life style will not fit and most important I need more experience with dogs in general

[dailybehbeh]

Behbeh

[danggirlronpa]

A real quick blog maintenance update - I had already done this pretty recently back in September, but I found a blog theme that I really liked and worked much better with what I've been doing with this project lately. So the theme changed again! Hopefully this will make the blog more accessible, not less, but if anyone has issues with it please let me know!

[august--and-everything-after]

Coming to terms with the fact that I'm high-maintenance, and that's okay.