#Itgirl

[shitbl0gger]

[sonasi]

How to be confident ⊹₊ ♡ ˚｡°

1. Know you who are. 

When we are more connected with ourselves, we feel more sure about ourselves, our decisions, and make our intutition stronger. Find ways to connect and align with yourself, which can include yoga, meditation, self-care, and alone time! 

2. Walk with confidence. 

Walk around knowing you��re that GIRL! Straighten your back, throw on that outfit, and walk with your head held high. Even if you aren’t feeling confident, walking like it will boost your confidence!

3. Surround yourself with good energy.  

Always cleanse your energy. Cut out all toxic and negative energy that might be in your life - whether its a person, or something else, our energy is sacred. Toxicity will destroy your confidence, and you are your highest good. Do yourself a favor and cut out that bad energy!

4. Self-care. 

Prioritize your mental and physical well-being. You are all you’ve got, so take care of yourself. When you feel healthy, you will look healthy. When people search for confidence and beauty in others, they find it in health - glowy skin, bright eyes, soft hair - self-care will always be my go to confidence booster.

5. Stick up for yourself. 

Never let anyone walk over you. If someone disrespects you, say something. You have to show people that you know who you are, you know your boundaries, and most importantly, you respect yourself. Self respect is the #1 most important quality of confidence. Show it off! 

Love you all 𓍢ִ໋🌷͙֒

[succulentsiren]

Judgements from others is never personal, so stop treating it like it is.

Some people may think you’re too skinny or too fat, too wild or too boring, or too loud or too quiet. But it is only if you agree with their judgements, that it’ll become your truth.

Don’t torture yourself by associating with something that has nothing to do with you because when you do identify with someone else’s lowly judgements of you, you are agreeing to a mindset of self-sabotage.

People who take judgments personally, constantly live in paralyzing fear of what others think of them, which is a waste of time because they’ll be judged anyways — Understand that people’s judgements are not something to be internalized, neither something to be controlled. It is simply just something not to align or identify yourself with.

Make the choice to live your best life regardless of outside judgments. Remain unbothered, self-focused and self-validated. Don’t let what others think define you. Define yourself. Have the mindset of, “I’m not who you say I am. I am that I am.”

Stop replaying painful memories — of when people aimed their judgements towards you, in order to plant guilt and insecurities into your psyche. Free yourself by detaching and disassociating. Let these memories go and understand that it was never personal anyways. (Spiteful people always project their own insecurities unto others because they want you to be as miserly as they are).

You can either choose to disassociate and not take judgements personally, or you can cause yourself pain by identifying with the judgements and hurtful opinions of others.

The choice is yours.

[juicydiaries]

rene caovilla heels at the 2024 victoria’s secret fashion show

[facingaltars]

@bestdressed on ig xx

[irlcupcake]

10 of my favorite easy glow up tips! 𐙚 ‧₊˚ ⋅

get a gua sha!! not expensive at all and made such a difference in my face shape and carving out my cheek bones and jawline. there’s lots of good tutorials on tiktok or youtube!

tea in the morning/night! there’s so many teas to help with different things but my favorite’s are spearmint tea for clearing skin and green tea for reducing bloating.

ice your face! helps SO much with de-puffing and closing up your pores! dipping your face in a bowl with ice water can reduce inflammation, help with acne and reduce oily skin!

make sure to get enough sleep! It’s so easy to stay up scrolling on tumblr until the sun comes up but getting enough sleep is so important mentally and physically!

find a skincare routine that works for you and remember too much skincare can be bad for your skin! my skin was breaking out the worst when i was using a bunch of skincare and It’s cleared so much since i simplified my routine.

use a lash/brow serum! my favorite brand is grande lash and it’s a little pricey but using castor oil works as well and it’s super affordable.

going on walks! I’ve never been a fan of intense exercises and I’m a chronic bed rotter but putting on my favorite hot girl playlist and strutting on the treadmill/sidewalk is genuinely so fun!

rosemary oil for hair growth! my holy grail of hair growth products along with a scalp massager. my whole life my hair grew so slow and since using rosemary oil i have to trim my bangs twice a month sometimes!

i cannot stress this one enough..wear what YOU want! don’t let new trends or judgment from others stop you from embracing your true style. we look our best when we feel most confident!

most importantly ~ take care of yourself! make sure you’re eating enough, drinking water, listening to your body and being gentle with yourself always. improving ourselves can be so fun but make sure it’s not at the expense of your mental health <3

[pinkwishlist]

Blumarine butterfly appliqué silk gown 🤍

[dollfacedarkskin]

[allaboutthemoonlight]

How to Build Self Discipline

Cultivating self-discipline is the way towards personal growth and achieving long-term goals. To me, it’s really all about making choices that honor your well-being and identity.

Understand that self-discipline is about self love and respect

It’s not about punishment or deprivation, but rather caring for yourself enough to make choices that align with your long-term well-being and goals.

You’re showing yourself the respect you deserve by honoring and committing to changes you want to make.

It’s all about recognizing your worth and having the motivation and courage to pursue what’s really best for you, even when it requires a lot of effort and decision-making.

Frame your identity in a way that includes discipline

How we act directly ties to our identities and how we believe we are. If you believe you’re a successful individual, you’ll live a life framed by confidence and determination. If you believe you’re someone who is lazy and unmotivated, you’ll struggle to find the drive to pursue your goals and aspirations.

Gaining discipline is all about acting as the person you believe you are and moving through life in a way that’s consistent with your determined identity. The key here is to try to imagine who you are at your highest self in a disciplined state of mind.

To start this, ask yourself these questions and slowly arrange your life in a way so there’s no distance between who you are now and your highest self:

What does your day look like

What do you eat

What do you wear

What does your week look like

What does your work day look like

What hobbies do you have

What’s your morning and night routine

Who are you surrounded by

What do you say yes and no to

Have systems in your life

I recently wrote a post about habits and mentioned the idea of systems versus goals. Here, I want to delve a bit deeper into that concept within the context of self-discipline.

To me, another way to truly live a disciplined life is to establish starting systems, something that will propel you past hurdles and reduce the friction that accompanies change.

Let’s say you want to improve your eating habits and cultivate discipline in consuming less sugar while incorporating more whole foods into your diet. You could begin by implementing a system of prepping healthy snacks or meals in advance at the start of each week, or however you see fit. By having these snacks readily available, you eliminate the need for decision-making, making it easier to adhere to your goal.

Anything that serves as a reminder or facilitates consistent action toward your desired outcome is a valuable system in your life.

Be okay with not doing something and embrace the mindset of small wins

This may seem paradoxical in the context of developing self-discipline, but being okay with not doing something is crucial. There are times in life when we need tough love and motivation, but there are also moments when compassion is the driving force that propels us forward.

When you don’t follow through with something, whether it’s going for a run or preparing a healthy dinner, it’s important to be okay with it. You don’t need to shame yourself or feel guilty for not taking action because that will only reinforce negative thought patterns, making it harder to create the change you desire.

Consider this: if you miss a planned run and spiral into self-criticism, you’re more likely to avoid running altogether. However, if you approach the situation with understanding and compassion, you’ll be more inclined to try again next time.

This is where small daily victories come into play. Sometimes, all we need is one small step forward to develop a new habit and maintain consistency. Whatever you're striving to improve or change, if it feels daunting, tell yourself, "Just for today, I'll do a 15-minute workout instead of the full hour," or "Just for today, I'll read 5 pages instead of the entire chapter," and celebrate these as small victories. Doing so not only helps you establish new habits but also allows you to acknowledge the progress you've made and the trust you've built within yourself.

—Luna

[feminine-gurl9]

𝘓𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘭𝘢 𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘦 𝘤𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 (circa 2005)

[shitbl0gger]

[ditziestdoll]

[succulentsiren]

Get over the fear of being seen.

Stop caring about how you’re gonna be perceived. Stop doubting yourself. Stop aiming to be perfect. Stop ruminating.

Accept who you are. Hype yourself. Invest in yourself. Be audacious. Trust in the greater outcome. Allow yourself to be seen as you are.

[juicydiaries]

[girlbossagenda]

HOW TO ROMANTICIZE YOUR SUMMER!!

Ahh, Summer time, my favorite time of the year, it's nearly summer and you still can't figure out what you want to do right? But do not be afraid I'm here to guide you into the best summer of your life! So get comfy, read and let's get started!

୨୧Make a summer bucket list୨୧

This is such a cute trend that I saw on TikTok! Try to create a list of activities or experiences that you want to do this summer(like having a new summer fling, go to the carnival, go on a car road with your friend etc...)

୨୧Scrapbook your summer୨୧

There are so many inspo on pinterest, and it's a great way to spurge your creativity and to immortalize your memories, works great if you aren't the type of person to write daily entries in a diary, if you can't print pictures, draw them!

୨୧Make room diy୨୧

This can help you enter more in the summer feelings, and it's a great way to boost your creativity, if you can go to the beach get some seashells and make a candle and so much more! A good exaple of a great summer diy it's a bikini box!

୨୧Go on a random adventurer୨୧

If you're like me and you always stay indoor try to explore part of your town that you have yet to discover, especially places in nature! Since they tend to be free, if your city it's big enough go to the periphery as they are usually full of forests and abandonated places!

Hi bonitas! It's been a while since I posted, since summer ir's near I wanted to make a guide on how to romanticize your summer! I hope this was entertaining and maybe useful lol xoxo gorgeous

-𝓐