#Inappropriate Behavior

[mikufunfacts]

miku fun fact #168

miku does not appreciate nsfw asks

[tomorrowusa]

People who would never tolerate personal behavior from somebody like Trump are willing to inflict it on a country of 335,000,000 people.

Trump is in cognitive decline and is unfit to hold any public office. In short, he's nuts.

[kingfranpetty]

A piece I call, "The Ever Present Problem of 'That won't fit' in Cybertronian x Human matters"

[kajthes]

My new fic, the sequel to my first "Slick Deals," playing with the power dynamic of Daniel LaRusso as Johnny's boss. I'm writing the last chapter now, and having a total blast. I'm so excited to share it!! Chapter 2 will be up tomorrow, Saturday.❤❤

[antiship-callout]

Are you truly anti-harassment, @ anti-paradise?

Before we begin with this post, we would like to make the following clear:

asks, submissions and notifications have been turned off. We will not be looking at or answering any comments or reblogs, should there be any

we do not like being called proship, anti anti, anti or anti-shipper. We are critical of "both sides"

we are aware that most of the depicted accounts are owned by teenagers, with two or maybe three exceptions.

we are strictly against harassment and do not wish for the individuals here depicted or anyone else to be harassed

at the same time we are aware that there is at least one harasser who keeps interacting with the individuals described in this post, and who these individuals call "shoo". We condemn any harassers' actions

we collected screenshots from different posts, but we are not associated with any person

Now with that out of the way let's talk about the "infamous" anti proship group that has been making the rounds on tumblr. If you know who we are talking about, it is the individuals frequently found defending, following and or reblogging from the blog "anti-paradise" who was previously known as antiproshipconfessions.

We decided to categorize the group as "anti-fans". Unlike normal fans who interact with media or a person they are a fan of with genuine passion, anti-fans invest time and "passion" into mocking, criticizing, spreading bad faith rumors, and posting malicious posts or articles about the media, person or group they hate. This may also border sometimes on strong and negative obsession.

This specific group shows clear signs of this preciously mentioned anti-fan behavior.

We also need to mention that all of the people within their circle want fictional characters to be treated like human people, and anyone who tells them that fictional characters do not have human rights is quickly slandered as "insane".

They are invested in denying people of their humanity, their identity and are constantly breaking their own DNI as seen in the first screenshot above. They pretend that they are just "criticizing" people, but genuine criticism does not give anyone the right to make false accusations. If you want to criticize a work posted online, you begin with analyzing it, giving your thoughts and offering improvements.

Instead, these people made clear that their goal is to attack any small fish they perceive as "different" or "weird". They have not spoken up about bigger and controversial personalities whose works have wider reach such as Colleen Hoover, George R.R. Martin, Neil Gaiman, or Maïmouna Doucouré (Director of the movie "Cuties" - which was criticized for sexualizing the cast members, most of which were young girls)

We have also looked through all of the accounts they have targeted in the past or present, and none showed any sign of worrying behavior towards or about (prepubescent) minors.

However, we are excluding people who identify as radqueer from this. We do not support them, but we believe that they should be left alone as well.

But why are these haters making these false accusations?

One of the major reasons is the concept of reciprocity: negative energy or behavior can be mirrored and reciprocated by those who encounter it.

Or simply said: haters attract hate. And haters rarely hate alone, they feel empowered when they hate the same thing together, and will encourage others into hating the same thing or people.

Hate groups form identities through symbols, rituals, myths and conspiracy theories, which enhance the members' status and, at the same time, degrade the object of their hate.

We would like to emphasize on the word "degradation". In the beginning of the post, we have described that these anti-fans deny their enemies their humanity and their identity.

This hate group has been noticed by both anti-shippers and pro-shippers because they have decided to use the loaded term "degenerate" and its variants against pro-shippers, and continue to defend the usage of this term.

The screenshots above show that these people have been educated about the term and why they should not use it (by anti-shippers as well), but they ignored it in favor of continuing to defend and "giggle" about the controversy. It's just a "silly word" and using Nazi terms is no big deal apparently

And for those unaware, here is a small history lesson on why "degenerate" has explicit Nazi origins.

It was used centrally within their ideology since the 1920s to describe any group varying from their notion of the ideal human ("Aryan," straight, cis, etc). During the 1930s, the term was most known for the 1933 Nazi book burning (the destruction of literature considered as "Un-German") and the infamous 1937 Nazi exhibit "Degenerate Art."

Today, people like Nick Fuentes, Richard Spencer, and Donald Trump continue to use the term degenerate to attack minoritized people and political opponents.

Anyone who seriously uses the term "degenerate" is invoking Nazi ideology. When they call POC, Jews, queer/trans people, or anyone who may differ from them "degenerates," they're calling for our extermination. This is also something anti-paradise has not only "joked" about, the other hate group members supported it as well.

The extreme radicalization or just reactionary behavior, the need to defend open death threats, book burning, the erasure of their enemies' (proshippers) humanity, the eagerness to call them "illegal aliens" like racists call immigrants and refugees, the call to criminalize adult material, which will always affect and hurt minoritized people, the accusations that their enemies are "faking" their trauma, and denying that they are also LGBTQ+ or BIPOC/Jewish is extremely worrying.

Some people have played their behavior down as "rage bait" coming from "uneducated" teenagers, but the eagerness they display when they degrade people they hate tells, in our humble opinion, a different story. We also believe that most anti-shippers at least respect pro-shippers' basic human rights and identities - these hateful people do not.

The accounts with the random usernames and standard tumblr profile picture is the previously mentioned harasser "shoo". Most of their accounts are deactivated

Curiously enough they want to "redeem" pro-shippers of their wrongdoings, but to do that you must actually see "wrongdoers" as human. People who merely exist in their own spaces and who do not intrude in yours are not evil. People who respect internet etiquette are not criminals, nor can someone "recover" from being in favor of letting people be, even if someone ships something they dislike.

You must respect a human person on grounds of being a human if you want to redeem them.

And to be human means that no one is good or bad, we are simply people.

Secondly, these people erroneously compare being in favor of letting people ship whatever they want as long as it's fictional to a coping mechanism. But being in favor of or against ships is not a coping mechanism, and they never suggest a coping mechanism that, in their eyes, is better than adhering to fandom and internet etiquette.

We also find it quite interesting that an adult, rainbow-starheart, has come to the defense of yet another hateful person (or teenager, we are not sure), who keeps using the term "degenerate", who agreed with the intent to criminalize adult material and who called for the destruction of a queer webtoon.

Naturally we do not see issue with people disliking "Boyfriends", but just because you may not like it doesn't mean you should wish for its or any art piece's destruction.

We also have reason to believe that the hate group members do not care about copying and or indirectly supporting Republicans and their plans to harm and censor LGBTQ+ people. They most likely know who they're sounding like - and chose not to care

The screenshot above depicts the Heritage Foundation's "Project 2025"

And this screenshot is Oklahoma's new planned bill to criminalize adult material. This bill doesn't directly name trans people, it makes a reference to gay and trans people instead ("warps young people's perception of the opposite sex").

Have you noticed that the Republican Senator is calling adult material "degenerate material" and likens it to a highly addictive drug? These people also believe that one can "recover" from a nonexistent porn or sex addition despite the fact that major health organizations recognize it as a behavioral problem rather than an addiction instead.

Our belief is that people like these, despite identifying with left leaning identities and movements such as LGBTQ+, have never truly unlearned internal biases or have picked up anti-kink rhetoric and sex negativity from conservatives.

This is made evident as they only target anything related to sex, sexual assault and sexual health or kink, and associate transgressive fiction and kink with pedophilia.

The screenshot of rulerzreachf4n7's complaint about Medrano's show "Hazbin Hotel" proves this as well, to them the only problem lies in the fetishization of sexual assault. Other problematic behavior such as Val's love-bombing, violence and the manipulation of Angel is ignored.

Lastly, we are concerned that this inappropriate and concerning behavior is encouraged by another adult. We do not know how connected they are to the hate group above as they have previously never interacted with each other before until the harassment started.

The conversation in this screenshot shows that this adult and rainbow-starheart have become "protectors" to (these) minors, and this inappropriate behavior has unfortunately been normalized in fandoms.

Do not misunderstand, we are not accusing either adult of grooming, we simply criticize inappropriate behavior some of them (may) have shown such as:

promoting anti science beliefs and encouraging youths to trust random bloggers more than medical professionals

seeking validation and emotional support from minors

posing as "one of the good ones"; a self proclaimed protector of children and the vulnerable.

showing minors 18+ material to "warn them" about certain artists

encouraging minors to openly discuss pedophilia and sexual abuse in art

casually discussing sexual topics openly or privately with minors.

reblogging public posts from or encouraging minors to publicly discuss the "ethics" of kink based on personal disgust

making themselves seem safe compared to artists who draw or write the "nasty" media they or the minors they encourage cause scenes over

bonding over how "gross" certain sexual topics are

encouraging minors to catfish people they believe to be pedophiles and or sexual predators to "expose" them or to gain evidence

encouraging minors to seek out and "criticize" adults (random strangers) about (their) kink(s)

A true "safe adult" who has the best intentions for a minor or minors would not encourage them to "make connections" to or discuss pedophilia so openly. Minors should not discuss or be encouraged to talk (to random strangers) about any of these things on a public platform, it is inappropriate and unsafe for them especially

Now we would like to finish this post with the following:

You are allowed to dislike or feel disgusted about anyone and anything, for any or no reason at all

remember that anyone can be a predator regardless of the ideology they have, the things they support or how they treat others

disgust is a defense mechanism that protects us from harm, but not everything that triggers feelings of disgust is harmful

if you are truly disgusted by someone or something, it is healthier and easier to avoid the person or the thing rather than mocking, attacking or verbally abusing the person or the thing

blocking people is not censorship, it is a tool to make your internet experience more pleasant

to any harasser/to anti-fans/to shoo: do not engage or stop engaging, move on and leave people alone

here is your chance to let this discourse finally die. Do not contribute more to it because it will affect you too

Fandoms are for many a place to escape life. Do not join fandoms if your intent is to be a hater

please do not encourage for the censorship of art in an age where this is happening again. It does not benefit you at all

remember that trauma is always dark and never clean, as such healing process of a survivor may be messy

education and information is power. Do your own research instead of blindly believing others or rumors

verdict: anti-paradise and followers are not anti harassment

[turtle-sister-april]

is it wrong for someone that i barely know (literally see her for 2 hours a week in lessons) to randomly grab hold of my thigh even when i've told her that im not comfortable with being touched?

i dont know if she's diagnosed, but she shows a lot of signs of autism. we're both 13-14 and she said that she touches her other friends like that when we met, which is when i said that im touch averse and dont like physical contact unless im the one initiating it

she might've forgotten but at the same time it should be morally wrong anyways for a 13-14 year old? i dunno i dont want to blame her in case she didnt know what she was doing but now i cant look at her the same and i feel bad for it

Ooc since even in character my answer is the same and I honestly can’t find anywhere I would normally color code different words.😅

Even if you’re not touch averse, for anyone to touch you there without consent is inappropriate and can cause anyone to be uncomfortable. If she touches her other friends like that then either she doesn’t know that it is wildly inappropriate and is seen as unwanted sexual advances or she does know it and you need to get away from her for your own safety.

Bottom line, touch aversion or not, never let anyone touch you on your thigh without clear consent.

So, yes it’s wrong.

[punk-chicken-radio]

WHAT THE ABSOLUTE EFFIN EFF!…..

…..yeah…..I am know to go ballistic and shout really really loudly from time to time…..usually at uncooperative inanimate objects…..I’d like to reassure you though, that I am generally super chill and quiet, but with a parental guidance sticker for occasional bad language and explosive yelling at stuff…..so don’t mess with my buttons…..

…..I know it’s not a good thing, and I’m getting better at managing it, I mean, I didn’t even yell when I fell and split my ear last week…..although I must confess I did mutter F#*@% C@#> B€*#/% under my breath…..and I didn’t even punch the wall…..

…..I asked @loveaxiomatic if she had any tips on keeping super chill and relaxing…..she said to get in the garden, get some fresh air…..and use the gift of flowers to address any problems…..

…..remind me not to sniff any bouquets she sends…..

…..you know what’s coming up next?…..songs about violent and/or inappropriate behaviour…..in it’s various forms…..

Calming Kisses 😘

love(a chance to wear a skirt)axiomatic

The Old(again)Smelly

[snarky-badger]

Okay, Men/Males/AMAB of Tumblr - here's what NOT to do.

Do not approach a female human being (AFAB or otherwise) - who is with their family (actually just don't do this in general) - sit next to her table while trying to give her compliments she doesn't want, ask to share her serving of soup, tell her 'oh I always wanted a bigger woman as a wife, they're sterner', when she declines, and then proceed to STARE AT HER FOR THE ENTIRE TIME you're there, and then, when you leave, tell her she's pretty and then RUB YOUR FUCKING MEAL RECEIPT AGAINST HER CHEEK with a creepy smile.

God I need several showers and some bleach.

THIS. This is why women/females/AFAB don't feel safe with men/males/AMAB! Because lots of you pull shit like this - WHILE OTHERS JUST WATCH AND DO NOTHING! (like my goddamn father).

I got to have a panic attack in a restaurant bathroom this afternoon. I did not enjoy it.

DON'T DO THIS. DO. NOT. DO. THIS.

It is not 'cute', it is not 'suave', it is not a fucking COMPLIMENT!

It's fucking CREEPY and GROSS!

And if you see another man/male doing this to someone FUCKING STOP THEM!!

[sincericida]

do you know if andrew garfield has had any crazy / inappropriate fan interactions ? i know pedro pascal has some weird fans lol, and it made me curious about andrew

Physical interactions, not that I can remember. But, Andrew has told a few interviews about people trying to follow him for your home. That’s so weird, stalker stuff. I would be very scared if it was to me. (and yes, Pedro has some fans with deplorable behavior, he does not deserve this)

[kurukuhatsune]

Why am I being treated like this ridiculous unknown follower person who doesn't listen or understanding me clearly? 🤦‍♀️

I'm getting real sick and tired telling this unknown person to leave me alone or give him/her a warning over and over non stop!

Just to make this clear to everyone that I'm a ace/straight adult woman who a professional artist that does sketch drawing and not lying to repeating this person again and again. So I recently didn't get new unknown person follower last month after I thought it finally stop since I uploaded new post, but I was wrong this is what I got the day before yesterday and now.. 😡🤦‍♀️they never learn how to respect people just to play them off and to those who are a normal decent followers that loves my artwork thank you so much, I'm really grateful that you enjoy it.

[vizthedatum]

You know what pisses me off about the ex-friend who introduced me to my current partner?

The fucking fake empathy that masks their selfishness of being entitled to my time and energy without building trust or getting to know me.

And what’s more, I’m still upset at my other ex-friend who I dated last fall/winter for several reasons already discussed: the worst part about them is if they truly don’t understand how they’re a selfish two-faced people pleaser, then they’re ignorantly going around being stuck in dissociation and causing emotional damage. They’re not practicing ENM, and I’m worried about their partner (something I’ve talked about in therapy). I’m incredibly certain they also exhibit fake empathy and have probably made “excuses” for my behavior (like how I might be a sex addict, or how I’m not fun to be around because of my trauma) while they do fucked up shit like be social media friends with my ex-spouse well after me filing the PFA while dating me, putting me in considerable risk. And then justifying that they did it so my ex wouldn’t be alarmed they were losing friends. Meanwhile trying to get me to teach them how to fuck my AFAB body that they didn’t get sexually aroused by. Meanwhile straight up not practicing any form of emotionally responsible conversation with our weirdass poly situationship while ignoring how disrespected they felt by that person. And like not telling me that they found my info dumping overwhelming despite knowing I’m autistic and I need clear communication (which is worse when you realize that they’re also auDHD with trauma like me… and they’ve definitely encouraged paragraph texting explicitly with not just me but on dating apps, as something they like doing). They focus on keeping up appearances while one of their closest friends is literally losing their mind due to horrible cyber and in real life stalking - and barely any progress has been made on that front. It’s ok to focus on one’s self but I don’t want people in my life who don’t have the emotional intelligence or empathy to actually look out for friends, lovers, and partners.

Fuck it all.

I made the decision this week that I’m just going to really do this life by myself, with the help of my trusted partners and friends. I may never have a nesting partner or coparent, but I have me.

Let people think I’m crazy. Let them make fun of me or belittle me with their limited perceptions of the world. Let my ex-spouse be an ableist transphobic monster who threw away the person who would have been there for them no matter what (except abuse, I guess).

Fuck toxicity. I’m working on mine. Don’t gaslight me and not work on yours.

[pointman74250]

“I’m sorry for enjoying my life. I apologize.”

—— Joseph Lewis Szabo III (Apologizing for Whatever The Fuck I Laughed At, At Any Fucking Given Moment, At Any Fucking Given Time.)

[rememberroxy]

What’s going on with all these half-naked females “following” me? I’m not into that, and I don’t appreciate it. Write something I want to read, read someone’s writing, or make some art or something. I’m a female heterosexual in a monogamous marriage. Might seem bizarre and boring, but that’s okay with me. I have lots of life experience, and a great imagination, and I write cool poems and stories here and on Medium. If that’s not your bag, don’t “follow” me.