#I’m a sex-repulsed ace so

[deadbeatdadjokes]

best part about having friends infinitely more thirsty than me is that they know all the good babygirl songs

[bookwyrminspiration]

if I weren’t ace I would be SUCH a monsterfucker

[thief-of-eggs]

Writing smut for an ace character is actually so interesting because you’re forced to rely on the emotional connection, the power dynamics, the intellectual connection. Like no, bro is not getting off from the sights or sounds or sensations- he’s not getting off at all. He’s mentally enjoying the show of trust, the vulnerability. He’s enjoying making his partner feel so good, he’s enjoying the rawness between them, with all the walls down, all the barriers broken.

Idk, I just think it’s neat.

[kitsnicket]

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[maomaod]

My friend has finally gotten me into fanfic so I’ve decided to participate in kinktober

The only issue is while I am great at academic writing (I’m literally on scholarship for my participation in a gifted ed writing program despite being an ecology major.) I have never written a sex scene. So…

This is the list my friend put together from the list of prompts I gave her

Suggestions/requests for fandoms or ships is welcome!

[lovebloods]

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[lunarrosette]

I think it’s funny that nark is my favorite ship bc I think it’s one of it not the fandoms most like horny ships and I am a bitch who does not read smut

[lovequeerindigo]

can’t believe i have to make this post but if you use the erasure of aro/aroallo identities as an excuse to be acephobic please get the fuck off of my blog and don’t come back. i don’t like you and i don’t want you here.

[theawkwardvirgin]

An interesting Gospel today, on marriage. Now I know most of this Gospel well (“male and female he created them”, “what God has put together man must not separate”) but I hadn’t heard what happens after the teaching on divorce.

Jesus’s disciples respond in a very modern way, which is kind of funny in a depressing way: “If that is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.”

Yeah, who wants the burden of a covenant with God being actually, you know, binding? Shock and horror!

(Side note, but when Jesus says that Moses allowed divorce because of the hardness of people’s hearts, He’s referring to the fact that men would have their wives killed to get around the “‘til death do us part” thing. Yeah.)

And Jesus looks at them and says this: “Not all can accept this word, but only those to whom that is granted. Some are incapable of marriage because they were born so; some, because they were made so by others; some, because they have renounced marriage for the sake of the Kingdom of heaven. Whoever can accept this ought to accept it.”

This is a fascinating statement, and one I haven’t heard before! Jesus acknowledges that marriage isn’t for everyone, that not everyone is capable of that sort of commitment. But here’s the crucial part: this doesn’t excuse them from the binding nature of marriage. His phrasing makes that clear, from “some are incapable of marriage” to “renounced marriage”.

So what do you do if you’re not cut out for that kind of commitment? Simple really: you don’t get married. People who are incapable of upholding a covenant with God shouldn’t and can’t make such a covenant. Which is obvious when you think about it.

Despite common misconception, the Catholic Church doesn’t just throw young people together and push them to get married for the funzies. Before you get married, you have to pass a class called Pre-Cana (yes, named after the Wedding at Cana), where you and your fiancé go through counseling and training to make sure you understand the commitment you’re making , that you and your fiancé are a good match, and that you’re ready to make that commitment and live together. You’re usually required to be married by your parish priest, who hopefully knows you well, probably did your Pre-Cana, and can be confident in witnessing and presiding over your covenant.

There’s a lot that goes into preparing for marriage in the Catholic Church, and it’s precisely because we understand that a valid marriage is indissoluble. Once you’re validly married, there is nothing anyone on earth can do to change that.

Now, an important note: This does not mean people have to stay in abusive situations, even if their marriage is valid. Separation in the Church is allowed in serious situations like abuse, and in fact you can get legally divorced in that situation, since a piece of paper doesn’t affect your binding covenant in any way. However, in this case, you’re still married to that person and this can’t get remarried. (There are caveats and technicalities that could deem an abusive marriage invalid and thus dissolvable, but this post is too long already. I recommend this website by a canon lawyer for anyone who’s curious about the details and requirements of a valid Catholic marriage.)

[lilacbestpurple]

Orchidsexual is such a frustrating term not because of the ‘person who feels sexual attraction but does not want a relationship’ part - which is all well and good - but because of the ‘they may be allosexual but are considered asexual/on the asexual spectrum’ part. Why are people who aren’t asexual being considered asexual?

[greaseonmymouth]

I’ve been watching Becoming Karl Lagerfeld on Disney+ one episode at a time when I have the mental capacity to be watching something in a language I don’t speak* (they mostly speak French in this series) but Karl and his mother speak German together and there are occasional other bits in German as well, I think the other main bit in German was when Marlene Dietrich turned up. My German is good enough that I can understand what they’re saying like 95% of the time.

The English subtitles are often different to what they’re actually saying. I feel like most of the time the difference is due to getting a nuance across rather than sticking to the literal words being said. And sometimes I’ve been switching between Danish and English subtitles and replaying scenes just to see what the translation is like and how it’s different for each language and it’s been fun and interesting to look at the language that way**

anyway in episode 4 at about 4:20 we get this exchange:

Karl’s mother: ich hab [sehr?] gesagt

Karl Lagerfeld: Glückwunsch

In English this is translated as:

KM: I told you it was a start

KL: good for you

In Danish it’s translated as:

KM: jeg advarede dig [I warned you]

KL: tillykke [congratulations]

I’ve replayed this like ten times now and while I’m not entirely sure what the mother is saying I am also 100% sure she is not saying “ich hab dich gewarnt” (“I warned you”) or even Sie instead of dich. Unless she’s speaking some dialect I’m not familiar with? I think she’s saying “I told you so”, which would be “ich habe es dir gesagt” which could plausibly come out sounding like “ich hab s ehr gesagt” since she’s already colloquially shortening habe to hab. I’m not sure though because, well, not a native speaker of German. I just suffered through 8 years of it as a foreign language in school.

I paused at this scene because the English subtitles didn’t make any sense to me for the scene - I like “good for you” as a translation of “glückwunsch” because it carries the meaning across of him acknowledging she was right and being pissed off about it, but “I told you it’s a start”?? What? Where does that come from?? She didn’t say anything like that? The start of what? It’s nonsense. The Danish translation works much better here, a plain “I warned you”, or the same as “I told you so”. (Danish and German share the same passive aggressive use of congratulations as a response here lmao.)

I can’t speak for the French bits but I feel like the German bits were being well translated up until now, and now I’m just annoyed.

*i’m aware there’s an English audio option but i violently hate watching dubbed media because the Lips Don’t Match and it’s so incongruent and distracting I can’t focus on it at all. it’s like being fed noise: the face is telling me one thing and the sound is telling me a completely different thing and the two combine into a scrambled nonsensical mess.

**yes I’m aware I’m kind of neglecting the actual story being told for the sake of linguistic interest but who cares if I’m enjoying something in a way it wasn’t intended to be enjoyed

[itsso18plushuh]

Here’s my “certificate” of humanity:

I’m not a porn bot, I’m just a stupid human that likes interest stuff and prefers their stuff to be censored if possible. Maybe it’ll have my art on here.

Anyway, thank you, loves.

[loungelizardatwar]

I dont want to fuck but I want to fuck the idea of someone? How does that make sense

[titan-god-helios]

god fucking damnit i hate being demiromantic it’s this weird in-between of aro and alloro and i don’t fit in with either side and i need romantic love i fucking crave it so much now that i’ve experienced it BUT AT THE SAME TIME, I CANT FUCKING DEVELOP CRUSHES ON REAL PEOPLE UNTIL I’VE BEEN VERY CLOSE FRIENDS WITH THEM FOR A SUBSTANTIAL AMOUNT OF TIME AND I WANNA RIP MY HAIR OUT ABOUT IT !!!!! FUN !!!!!!!!! and making friends like that takes SO much energy that i just don’t have at all ever it just needs to happen to me but GUESS WHAT. RELATIONSHIPS OF ANY KIND DONT WORK LIKE THAAAAAAAAT !!!!! what i would fucking give to just be either fully alloro or fully aromantic.

[14th-century-verona-queer]

Question-

Do any other ace people forget that people are like…having sex?

Like sometimes im just shocked with the realization like “omg there are so many people that are like…interested in having sex.”

I’m personally like forgetful as fuck an I genuinely wake up every day with the realization “oh yea I’m queer!!” (Im being so deadass about that btw)

But yea like every time an allosexual friend is like “omg she’s so hot i would let her fucking RAIL me” (not like asexuals cant make sex jokes i quite genuinely do it all the time) but like….they MEAN it, ykwim?

LIKE THEY WOULD GENUINELY LET THAT HAPPEN AND THEY GENUINELY MEAN THAT THEY WANT THAT TO HAPPEN AND IT JUST-CONFUSES THE FUCK OUT OF ME

(To be clear, i am sex-repulsed, so idk if that has smth to do with it lol)