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Guys, but what if Red Hood's helmet was never about protecting his identity or hiding his baby face. What if it was just about protecting him from potential head trauma.
Think about it, when Talia found him he was catatonic and suffering from severe brain damage. Brain damage that she tried every natural means to heal before ultimately resorting to the pit. Ain't no way she was about to let the baby bird she literally nursed back to health go out into the world and ruin all of her hard work.
His mommy literally sent him off to become a crime lord and traumatize his father with a fucking safety helmet.
The anonymity of it was purely coincidental, but I'd bet my left tit that she emphasized that aspect of it to get him to use it without complaining about her perfectly reasonable overprotective tendencies.
#lmfaoo#just a thought#thats been living in my brain rent free recently#jason todd#red hood#talia al ghul#tiger mom talia#good mom talia#red hoods hood isnt a hood#its a safety helmet#his mom said safety first#she said i did not birth you from my pit of madness for you to return to your fathers city only to die from a fucking crowbar to the head#again#dont be stupid habibi#i raised you better than this#jason: but mooooom everyones gonna know#talia: how will they know??#💀#we always make fun of jason for his earlier helmets#but i find the thought of him only wearing them reluctantly and under extreme duress due to talias nagging even more hilarious#he used to sit on his favorite gargoyle brooding about the aesthetic sacrifices he makes for his mother#and how everyone is making fun of him for it#and like#he hated those first few helmets#and he lived in dread of every new updated version she came up with#like the one with the lips!!!#the LIPS!!!!#but if anyone made fun of them to his face hed shoot them in their fucking kneecaps because he got them from his MOTHER#his MOM is concerned about his safety#shes such a good mom and she loves him so much hes so lucky to have her and her hundreds of ugly helmets 🥰
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i find it crazy how comfortable Men™ are yelling and taking out their anger physically on objects. im listening to my younger brother screaming at his video game in a way I’ve only screamed by myself in my car.
if I ever took out my anger by screaming and hitting things, I would be called hysterical and used as proof to why women are ‘so emotional’.
#me#mine#commentary#why are men like this#anger#screaming#text posts#feminism#like why bro#I raised you better than this#if I told him he scares me when he’s like that#he would again#call me#sensitive#and that it’s#my fault
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@starmoongazing9 really just fucking said "elton john is GAY????" and i had to like... take a minute
#i am a failure of a parent#my post#i raised you better than this#YOUVE SEEN THE KINGSMAN MOVIES#siblingposting
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you were raised in comparison.
it wasn't always obvious (well. except for the times that it was), but you internalized it young. you had to eat what you didn't like, other people are going hungry, and you should be grateful. you had to suck it up and walk on the twisted ankle, it wasn't broken, you were just being a baby. you were never actually suffering, people obviously had it worse than you did.
you had a roof over your head - imagine! with the way you behaved, with how you talked back to your parents? you're lucky they didn't kick you out on your ass. they had friends who had to deal with that. hell, you have friends who had to deal with that. and how dare you imply your father isn't there for you - just because he doesn't ever actually talk to you and just because he's completely emotionally checked out of your life doesn't mean you're not fucking lucky. think about your cousins, who don't even get to speak to their dad. so what if yours has a mean streak; is aggressive and rude. at least you have a father to be rude to you.
you really think you're hurting? you were raised in a home! you had access to clean water! you never so much as came close to experiencing a real problem. sure, okay. you have this "mental illness" thing, but teenagers are always depressed, right. it's a phase, you'll move on with your life.
what do you mean you feel burnt out at work. what do you mean you mean you never "formed healthy coping mechanisms?" we raised you better than that. you were supposed to just shoulder through things. to hold yourself to high expectations. "burning out" is for people with real jobs and real stress. burnout is for people who have sick kids and people who have high-paying jobs and people who are actually experiencing something difficult. recently you almost cried because you couldn't find your fucking car keys. you just have lost your sense of gratitude, and honestly, we're kind of hurt. we tell you we love you, isn't that enough? if you want us to stick around, you need to be better about proving it. you need to shut up about how your mental health is ruined.
it could be worse! what if you were actually experiencing executive dysfunction. if you were really actually sick, would you even be able to look at things on the internet about it? you just spend too much time on webMD. you just like to freak yourself out and feel like you belong to something. you just like playing the victim. this is always how you have been - you've always been so fucking dramatic. you have no idea how good you have it - you're too fucking sensitive.
you were like, maybe too good of a kid. unwilling to make a real fuss. and the whole time - the little points, the little validations - they went unnoticed. it isn't that you were looking for love, specifically - more like you'd just wanted any one person to actually listen. that was all you'd really need. you just needed to be witnessed. it wasn't that you couldn't withstand the burden, but you did want to know that anyone was watching. these days, you are so accustomed to the idea of comparison - you don't even think you belong in your own communities. someone always fits better than you do. you're always the outlier. they made these places safe, and then you go in, and you are just not... quite the same way that would actually-fit.
you watch the little white ocean of your numbness lap at your ankles. the tide has been coming in for a while, you need to do something about it. what you want to do is take a nap. what you want to do is develop some kind of time machine - it's not like you want your life to stop, not completely, but it would really nice if you could just get everything to freeze, just for a little while, just until you're finished resting. but at least you're not the worst you've been. at least you have anything. you're so fucking lucky. do you have any concept of the amount of global suffering?
a little ant dies at the side of your kitchen sink. you look at its strange chitinous body and think - if you could just somehow convince yourself it is enough, it will finally be enough and you can be happy. no changes will have to be made. you just need to remember what you could lose. what is still precious to you.
you can't stop staring at the ant. you could be an ant instead of a person, that is how lucky you are. it's just - you didn't know the name of the ant, did you. it's just - ants spend their whole life working, and never complain. never pull the car over to weep.
it's just - when it died, it curled up into a tight little ball.
something kind of uncomfortable: you do that when you sleep.
#writeblr#warm up#my dad was actively doing bad shit to us and we STILL were told we were lucky . and to a point i do think im lucky#i just think also there's somethin to be said about like. how about we stop using comparison to dismiss ppls individual struggles#yes there are people who have no perspective. for the reference tho having perspective actually made me really unwilling to get help#for what was a serious and debilitating mental health issue. bc i thought i didnt DESERVE IT#and i would rather have 600 ppl who aren't THAT bad get help and get heard and get seen#than make any 1 kid. do the math that i did: look at the world that is dying and the people who are hurting and say#''oh. okay. others have it worse. they are probably better people than i am. i am being unreasonable. i cannot ask for help#i am not good. i am taking too much space. i am not worth saving.''#bc our WHOLE lives we are taught a scarcity mindset - that you can 'steal' from someone. so that instead of changing a system that doesn't#actually offer fair support to everyone#we put the impetus on the individual to just... demand less.#and here's something - there are probably ppl who think i DIDNT deserve to get help#bc i DID have it better than other people#and something about that is ... so sickening. bc i think all of us in some way at some point WILL need help.#we were supposed to make communities. we were supposed to offer our hands. we were supposed to raise the barn#instead we said: it could be worse. now handle it yourself
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hey has anyone else noticed that totk looks a lot like princess mononoke sometinms (<- guy who has never had an original thought)
#loz totk#zelda#ganondorf#tloz fanart#tears of the kingdom#tloz crossover#tloz au#i drew this back before i got very far in totk and i was convinced that the zonai would turn out to be dragons somehow#which wouldve made the game 150% cooler#i imagine eboshidorf would be kinda windwaker-esque#more like. reserved and genteel than totk dorf#trying to make a better life for his people but willing to kill gods and destroy the world to do it#meanwhile zelda lives in the forest and was raised by the gods (zonai)#and she meets link when he leaves his home village to find a cure for the gloom that is sapping everyone's health and nearly killed him#do you see my vision#my art
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Gil-galad Variations, featuring all the gil galad theories i've encountered.
#silm#silmarillion#gil galad#gil galad son of plothole#<- best tag lol#personally i like the maglor theory#son of lalwen is probably my second favorite?#also that would make him the 16th known finwean grandkid#the aegnor/andreth peredhel variant is interesting#also i feel like when everyone meets him in valinor/the halls finrod would just look at aegnor like :/#finrod: 'if you were just going to ignroe my whole speech you could have at least told me so i could get birthday gifts for the kid!'#the russingon one looks very much like nerdanel lol#both the maedhros ones' hair is *just* dark enough to not cause a diplomatic incident#the elured/elurin one is really funny#like. hes 0% noldor not even related to finwe at all. like. theyre descended from different cuvienen families. they literally are 0% relate#he was raised by cirdan who is also 0% noldor#but he is somehow a better king of the noldor than like 90% of the previous ones#even funnier if hes Just A Guy#did they accidentally switch the real finwean baby? did they just grab a random kid and go 'oh well close enough'? who knows?#i think princess-faelivrin has a FAQ about the leading version of fin-galad (gil galad being finduilas)
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“I shall protect you, & you alone… even if…you stand as the last person on this earth”
#still better than her actual father tho & I stand by that🗣️#maaaan I’ve wanted to use this quote for something for so long !! since the scene was trending on tlkt0k ! & WELP-😩#every time I hear or read it it gives me absolute chills. it HAUNTS me#I promise I have so much cutesy fun father Fyodor doodles coming but this would not leave my head !!! poor sweet Aya🥺#dw Fyodor & I will raise her well😌🫶 lmaoo *coping*#seeing Fyodor having to interact & be seemingly kind to a kid - could not have dreamed up this scenario !!! I’m livinggg he’s so cute#ALSO I stg I will fight ya with a stick if you make any of THOSE Mori comparisons !!😠#I know we all have the reading comprehension to recognize that Fyodor’s manipulations & scheming are NOT *that*😤#but ANYWAYS love you all MUWAH💕😆 I cannot stop redrawing 115 & doodling sillies !!! HELP !#fyodor#fyodor dostoevsky#fyodor fanart#fyodor bsd#fyodor dostoevsky fanart#bsd#bsd fanart#bungou stray dogs#bungou stray dogs fanart#bungo stray dogs#bungo stray dogs fanart#fanart#anime#bsd manga#bsd 115#artists on tumblr#artists of tumblr#bsd aya#aya bsd#manga#bsd spoilers
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If My Body Could Speak, Blythe Baird | The Godfather, Mario Puzo | My Father's House, Sylvia Fraser | To The Daughter Who Secretly Longs For Her Mother’s Affection, Lynne Shako | Storms from Jupiter, Wanda Deglane | DO NOT REPLY, @filmnoirsbian
#connie corleone#carmela corleone#the godfather#web weaving#this is...quite negative towards carmela i guess#so i just want to make it clear that i actually really love her as a character and i actually can understand how she became who she was#she was a woman born in the late 19th century raised not just in a patriarchal society but a CATHOLIC patriarchal society#who therefore grew up learning that she was primarly defined by her relationship to her husband and her capacity to be a 'good wife'#so i totally understand why she would take some type of sick pride in knowing that her husband never 'had' to hit her#but like...that entire part of the book was legit hard to read and Carmela was really not that much better than Vito there#so it's kinda hard for me not side eyed the shit out of her when she blame Connie for being a neglectful mom#like geez Carmela I wonder why your daugther might be struggling I'm sure it has nothing to do with anything you did or refused to do...#i'll say that she did end up being concerned for Connie and trying to help so she definitely deserves some points here#unlike Vito's dumbass who was just like 'it really hurts me to know that my daughter is being hit all the time but i can't do anything :('#'I'll tell her it's all her fault and that she deserves to be hit that will surely help somehow'#Vito really spent the entirety of this book being like 'nothing and I mean NOTHING matters more than blood (conditions very much applies)'#domestic violence mention
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have some domestic price x gender neutral reader fluff that floated into my head.
pairing: john price x gender neutral reader
word count: 711
tags/triggers: domesticity, fluff, humour, pet names (love), mild bashing of the reader character's sister, slightly older than canon john price, long term relationship, no Y/N, 2nd person POV.
a/n: unedited as per usual. please don't interact with my writing if you're under the age of 18 despite this being a fluffy little something. also, i'm not judging people that want to get married or have kids, you do you but this is for those of us that don't want either of those things.
"john, what do you think about getting married?" you ask as casually as possible between sips of tea as your long term partner perches on the sofa next to you, his eyes focused on the liverpool game on the telly.
"i think you called it a "monument to compulsive monogamy and heterosexuality" and then you swore loudly about henry the eighth for twelve minutes on our first date." he replies before groaning loudly as his team bungle a free kick.
you smile into the rim of your mug because, yes you did say and do that when he brought it up all those years ago.
"mm, i know. one of my better rants i think."
john's hiss of triumph as one of the little red shirts on the screen peters off into discontented grumbling as half time is called and you place your mug on the coffee table.
john turns to face you when you settle back into the deep cushions and you trace the salt-and-pepper in his beard with loving eyes. if there's one thing you can say about retired captain john price it's that he's only got better with age, much like the whiskey he has stashed in the spare room/office. forty six is a damned good look on this man.
"what's got you asking about marriage, love?" john questions you with a raised eyebrow and you grumble, curse your overly observant partner. even when he's distracted his mind is still turning over every interaction and sniffing out a motive.
you sigh.
"my sister is having a baby."
"christ, really?" he looks so scandalised that you laugh at his expression. it's a familiar one when the topic of your younger sister is brought up, a combination of bafflement and mild disgust that pulls his mouth down into a frown even as his eyebrows reach up towards his hairline.
"mm." you make a noise of agreement.
"with the estate agent?"
"yep." you pop the 'p' obnoxiously.
"christ. she's only known him for five minutes," he shakes his head disapprovingly before reaching for your hand to give it a squeeze, "but what does this have to do with us getting married, hm?"
you shrug a little helplessly as he strokes his thumb over your knuckles.
"i don't know, i just started thinking when she sent me a copy of her scan and -"
"of course she did." john interrupts you with a weary sigh. "your sister is nothing but a self centred cow and i'm positive she sent it to you to get you to feel bad."
he looks at you, pinning you in place with a fond sort of sternness that you had seen a few times before when kyle had been over for dinner espousing his worries about being the right man for the job.
"listen to me when i say this, yeah?" he taps your knuckles with his thumb gently to make sure you're fully focused on him, "i'm happy exactly as we are, love. i don't need a bit of paper telling me that we're bound together for the rest of eternity. god knows we already are, what with the mortgage and the bloody cat."
"be nice john, she's a sweetheart." you chide as you glance over at your middle aged tortoiseshell moggy curled up on the armchair.
"she's a bloody demon and you know it." john snorts good-naturedly as the cat in question makes a noise similar to a creaky gate at the sound of his voice.
he releases your hand so that he can reel you into his side to press a kiss to your temple.
"stop trying to distract me with the cat and stop focusing on your bloody sister. you've never wanted to get married and that's one of the reasons i love you, you silly arse."
the small knot of worry you'd been carrying since the start of the conversation unwinds and you release a long breath, taking the opportunity to snuggle into his side more comfortably.
"i love you too."
john simply presses another kiss your temple in response as the football match starts again and you settle in to enjoy an evening with your not-husband.
(tomorrow you'll threaten him with a rolled up tea towel after you find that he texted your sister off your phone calling her baby scan a "badly made lasagne".)
#pfh headcannons#<- i need a better tag than that honestly#john price x reader#john price x you#gender neutral reader#i wrote this for my loves that don't want marriage or kids#i see you and i'm raising a mug of coffee in solidarity
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'lloyd is very weak now and needs to marry so he'll have someone to protect him'- lloyd has the only grandmaster on the world following him around like a puppy. he has the most terrifying motherfucker on the world wrapped around his little finger. he has the one person in the world who can hit an absolute in the head and get away with it swearing in his heart to protect him no matter the cost over and over again.
lloyd made javier watch him die twice right in front of him just to keep him alive. there is no power on existence that could make javier allow anyone or anything to even think about harming lloyd again.
lloyd is fine
#i talk a lot <3#tged#the greatest estate developer#lloyd frontera#javier asrahan#llojavi#sorry i get mad all over again when i think about that stupid ass competition lmaooo#like i know it was just an excuse but. it was sooo unnecessary.#like if you're gonna say 'lloyd will marry the person most qualified to protect him' you cannot blame me for pointing to the one person#who literally spent the whole novel ascending to higher and higher planes of existence just so he could protect lloyd better#that's just how it is#but also this is me saying it's evil and fucked up that we never saw javier going absolutely feral on someone for trying to hurt lloyd#the closest thing is in the battle in hell but that was against hellkaros so like. it doesn't really count.#i need javier to see someone raising a hand against lloyd only for everyone within a radius of a hundred meters to be overwhelmed#by this sheer murderous intent that makes more than a couple people drop to their knees and begin praying.#just this quiet but palpable rage that makes it physically harder to breathe.#a presence so powerful it makes people nauseous just by being near it.#and i also need lloyd to be completely unaffected by it and in fact able to easily appease and assuage it with barely a word#i deserved to see that actually
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Quick (Informal) PSA For Therian Minors
I see a lot of minors in the community who seem very...comfortable, I guess, with sharing personal information and photos on here and other sites, and I just wanted to speak my piece about it.
Something I remembered from another post that I wanna steal because I love the wording: before you share something on the internet, think what could someone who wanted to hurt me do with this information? Not trying to be condescending, I'm an adult and I think that exact sentence in my head before I post/comment/DM anything related to myself.
Just saw a post where a well-meaning therian minor linked their Youtube channel, which has videos of them irl (wearing a mask, but still) doing quads outside and at an indoor non-chain business with the name/logo of the building clearly visible.
I cannot emphasize how much I was taught to be extremely careful about posting any irl images as a kid/teen, as people can infer your location from very minor details, MUCH LESS VIDEOS OF MY WHOLE BODY IN AN EASILY GOOGLE-ABLE LOCATION. What happens if someone with malicious intent sees that video, which is public on youtube? What will you do when someone attempts to blackmail or doxx you? Not only would this would-be criminal know where you are, they can also see how old you are and exactly what you look like. Terrifying.
(I understand we're in a culture of many people posting videos of themselves online, but (in my opinion) it's just not safe to be uploading public content that's advertising "Hi I'm bodily a child/teenager and this is what I look like and this is close to where I live and I'm also a therian who's probably hiding this account from my parents")
This individual is essentially just trusting that no one on the entirety of Youtube will just google the name of the indoor facility (along with any other location-identifying posts they may make) and either threaten them via doxxing or just straight up threaten their life/safety.
I knew someone in school who got too comfortable in an in-game chat, and was lulled into a false friendship and tricked into mentioning his address. Then he was threatened and told to send them money or they would physically find him. Thankfully he felt safe enough to tell his parents, who knew how to stop the situation. I know a lot of us aren't out to our family, and I dread to think what would have happened if the boy I knew hadn't felt safe enough to explain the situation to his parents.
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TLDR; before you post personal info/photos, think of the absolute worst evil that someone could do to you with that information. I know it's a bummer, but doxxing/blackmail happens more than you think, and even if your posts only seem to get low notes/likes/whatever, they can theoretically be seen by ANYONE, including people who want to hurt you.
(also I don't mean to call out or harass anyone, I'm not trying to be mean, I just wanted to use an example bc it's what inspired me to make this post and also I wanted to outline why real behaviours I'm seeing can be dangerous, rather than just making up hypotheticals)
#🐊#therian#long post#sorry for serious-posting i won't do it often#i hope i dont come off preachy or condescending thats the last thing i want#i dont think i'm better or smarter than any of you i just have more years on the internet and was raised in a different internet culture
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i think one of the biggest challenges with advising new dog people on how to find responsible breeders is teaching them norms. I've spoken to so many people who've started a sentence with "i don't know much about dog breeding so maybe this is normal, but-" and then say the absolute wildest shit I've ever heard in my life. no, it's not normal for a dog breeder to want to talk to your mom because you're 25 and female. no, it's not normal for breeder's dogs to not have been vaccinated because of 'herd immunity'. no, it's not normal for breeders to have 7 litters at a time, expecting 5 more next month.
and what all of these people tend to have in common is that they're just looking for a companion, and they probably did feel bad about the situation. but they didn't have the context to realize just how abnormal it was, so they doubted their own reaction, and really really wanted a dog.
#back when i started there was also soooo many talking shit about 'kitchen litters'#litters that were raised on the kitchen floor in a family of not dedicated breeders per se - just someone with a decent enough dog#who maybe got in touch with someone who had their male on the breed club stud list#but honestly? most of the people i talk to about this stuff would probably have been better off with a kitchen floor puppy#than the assembly line nervous multi-allergic maltipoo they ended up with#and i dont think either of those are necessarily ideal options. but i think one is far less damaging to dogs and to dogdom#my best advice is still just 'would you be comfortable returning your puppy to this if necessary?'#because i think it gets those gut feelings up and out#but man its so hard.
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#dipplin#onto the DLC 'mons! i don't really like calling the hidden treasure of area zero a “dlc” just because of the negative connotation of#the word. “DLC” is always such a gross thing in modern games most of the time#whereas i'd consider sv's dlc to be more like an expansion. honestly‚ if i had to describe it‚ it's basically a fucking sequel#it's SO much content. and the story is SO damn good. way better than the base game#the characters are AMAZING kieran my belovèd. if you haven't played the sv dlc but you did play sv for some reason#and you've been avoiding it because it's a “DLC” and we don't like those#trust me. you'll love it#also‚ right after this is Not hydrapple‚ because that was added in the second half of the dlc so has a higher natdex number#actually that raises a good question for me. what the hell happens if you buy the dlc nowadays between the two halves??#like i remember there being a real life time gap in between the first half of the dlc and the second half#that was basically equivalent to the amount of time that passed in game. does it just timeskip to “a few months later”??#strange…
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★ Kirbtober 2024 Day 5: Royal ★
(ID: Kirby series fanart of Shadow Dedede, standing with a confident lean and smiling fiercely at the viewer, one hand propped cockily on his hip, the other holding his great mechanical hammer over his shoulder. Around him, red stars drip darkly. END ID.)
Previous Day | Next Day | Prompt List (made by @/paintpanic)
Started on 09/03/24, finished on 09/04/24. | Kirbtober 2023 Comp
#veins art#veins fanart#kirby series#kirby#shadow dedede#kirbtober#kirbtober 2024#day 5#royal#paintpanic#I love how this one came out#despite SD’s million-and-three tones of gray and the hell that is keeping them all shaded and separated#*shakes the Wand Tool in anger*#also y'know how I sometimes talk about putting Magolor in the microwave as a gesture of affection?#I wanna do the same to SD but as a legit threat#just... stars lookit this smug bastard. with his ship-eating grin#thinks he's better than everyone. bosses his staff around. probably pushes kids off swings and raises taxes on essentials. awful man#(... listen I’ve written him in a *very specific way* in the AU)#(so it’s probably colored my thoughts on him a little bit)#(and those thoughts are “greedy tyrant into the garbage disposal with you”)#(I blame SD's Japanese flavor text calling him “the darkness in DDD's heart” specifically)#(but hey! other interpretations are valid too tho! just like with GK)#eye contact tw#veinsfullofstars
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Many years ago J. Michael Straczynski wrote a miniseries for Marvel's MAX imprint called Supreme Power, which was itself a spin on the classic Marvel Faux Justice League The Squadron Supreme. And in this miniseries you've got a Flash Expy, The Blur, who in a very compelling way is like the inverse of A-train from The Boys. They're both black speedsters from impoverished backgrounds who use their powers to become walking billboards instead of going directly into conventional superheroism- at least in part because there isn't actually a lot of call for conventional superheroism. They even share a color scheme.
But unlike A-Train, whose moral core is thoroughly corroded by celebrity, Blur's apparent crass commercialism ends up being thematically linked to the fact that he's easily the most moral and considerate of the entire first wave of superheroes, because he's literally the only one of these people who's ever had to work any kind of day job, and thus the only one who's really in any way beholden to the logic of human society and its associated common courtesy.
#the other superhumans falling on the spectrum from “I am inherently better than you and know better than you”#to “I am literally bronze-age royalty and will kill you if you look at me funny”#to “feral fish woman who was never actually socialized”#to “billionaire”#Anyway there were some eyebrow raising moments surrounding Blur in that series#but I've always enjoyed the implication that the fact he's doing it for money is what keeps him comparatively grounded#even if it also makes him quite vulnerable to ratfucking when he won't toe the govt. line#that being the other thing- he takes the endorsements in large part because he's in a holding pattern waiting for some situation to arise#that actually meaningfully requires a superhero to resolve#thoughts#meta#supreme power#superheroes#the boys
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Imagine if you were a gay or bi man who tried a certain firefighter show because of all the attention it was getting for one of its mains having a later in life bi awakening.....and between seasons you ventured into its fandom in search of material to tide you over til the next one. And you're greeted by a deluge of posts and fics that are just cheerfully homophobic towards one half of the newly out bi character's canon relationship on the basis of 'well he's not the RIGHT gay guy' and pushing the idea that actually its fine to cheat on him because Reasons and he's sexually predacious based on......behind the scenes implications people have divined like they're reading fucking tea leaves.
But don't get it twisted....this fandom, like all fandoms, really cares about representation!
Sorry not sorry, but we really need to kill this idea that fandoms are welcoming and inviting and inherently progressive when they're frequently insular and reductive as fuck. Every single fandom I've been in has had major trends of people doubling down on their own headcanons and fanon interpretations of the characters and willfully enacting trends aimed at running off people who like the 'wrong' characters (usually characters marginalized along one or multiple axes), like the characters in the 'wrong ways' or other bullshit.
Scott is a Bad Friend fics overtaking Teen Wolf fandom was not incidental, it was a FEATURE of the fandom, because the vast majority of that fandom did not want to share its space with anyone who had the nerve to like its main character. Survivors complaining about or criticizing the prevalance of rape fics in a certain fandom has in my experience always led to a reactionary UPTICK in those fics, with gems like 'this character can, will, must be raped' in the tags making it crystal clear that some of these fics exist because how fucking DARE anyone try and push forth a narrative not agreed upon by Fandom Main.
I could cite examples for so many other fandoms, with the commonalities always being that vast majorities in these fandoms are explicitly reacting defensively to being asked to be more mindful of fandom trends revolving around or exacerbating racism, homophobia, transphobia, rape or abuse apologia, ableism, etc....
With the most prolific fucking rallying cry across countless fandoms being "No the fuck we will NOT be doing that," because lolololol.....
Fandom is an inherently progressive space, didn't you hear?
#anyway this has been on my mind in general for a few weeks now#and its more about fandoms just being fandoms#and like....what if they werent though#these patterns migrate from one to another as fans migrate from fandom to fandom bringing their bullshit with them#like do people never get tired of just trying to call DIBS and claim fandoms for themselves while shutting out anyone else#who might have a lot to fucking offer if you werent being so gd intent on staking a claim instead of sharing perspectives#and exploring new possibilities?#and I know not everyone links certain problems with racist homophobic and other behaviors to my own issues with dark fic and rape and#abuse apologia but I do inherently see it as sharing large portions of venn diagrams even though I do not consider being a survivor to be#something that demarcates privilege in the way that axes of identity do#as its situationally based rather than inherently identity based#but the way it can affect and shape large parts of peoples' identities begets commonalities#but my point is just.....a big part of why I so often lump it in is specifically because of how people react to these things or#defend against criticism across the board#like most people know my stance on censorship and how my blood boils when its people who are throwing accusations of#censorship at those raising criticisms....#but the point is just.....think about what censorship actually IS in all practical senses of the word#its about shutting down conversations. limiting the flow of information the sharing of perspectives and experiences#THATS WHAT MAKES IT BAD#now......what about criticism inherently lends itself to any of those things if you DONT accept as a foregone conclusion that criticism#is only ever offered up in bad faith and meant as a silencing tactic#instead of just a request or offered avenue of ways for things to be done better rather than not at all?#who is ACTUALLY out here trying to shut down convos and limit possibilities?#is it really the people being critical of fandom behaviors and trends?#or the ones doubling down at the first hint of any criticism and aggressively ramping up how frequently and visibly they engage in#the criticized behaviors in efforts to drive people away or as a silencing tactic of their own?#just saying
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