#I just post it online to see if other people like it or the ideas

[800milesisadrive]

Going through and sunsetting my accounts, may end up keeping this one online since it's the closest thing to an actual archive of my time online as Rev Hale.

Tumblr is owned by a billionaire with an authoritarian ego, but at least it's not the one actively dismantling democracy?

I've been posting less and less as Hale. The climate around NSFW communities has rotted so deeply. Too much of my immoral fantasy has been turned into real weaponized regressive policy.

I wish I could share the specifics as to why I'm shutting shit down now, but for personal safety reasons, maintaining a horny alt is a very very bad idea.

Pursuing public legal action against this administration is unfortunately very risky. I've taken great effort to firewall this account against the rest of my professional and "IRL" identity, but I'm likely going to have active efforts to discredit me and people I love over the next year.

I stand behind mine and everyone's right to be stupid horny online... but I'm making the decision to forgoe this to fight for the legal existence and safety of those I love.

If you're actually reading this, thank you for tolerating my soapbox posting. If we've chatted over the years, I'm sorry I can't take the time to properly say goodbye to everyone.

Stay safe. Protect yourself. Stand up and fight for the right to be horny, queer, kinky or just weird. I highly recommend following the Electronic Frontier Foundation and American Civil Liberties Union.

See everyone on the other side, and hope someday in the future I can resume this kind of creation without fear of it being weaponized against my loved ones.

- Rev. Hale

[fearoftheminotaur]

How not to take accountability

Lately this callout for genderqueerdykes aka equinox has been going around. tl;dr, a blatant terf sent a rambling ask about how trans women are privileged for their genitals, and equinox responded with a rant about toxic masculinity and the kinks held by an ex who accused it of SA.

I don't know the scope of how influential this user is, or how much its follower base is going to be affected by this mask-off moment, but the short-term reaction from equinox has been to bury the post under new content, delete the original, and say that it was wrong and want to grow from its mistake.

The lack of any overt response, clarity on its point of view both before and after the negative reception to the post, or even acknowledgment of the rhetoric in the original ask, makes me think that it has no actual intention of taking real accountability, and that it wants as many people as possible to come away from that post agreeing with it. Just my opinion. But I want to highlight this part specifically, as just in-general useless garbage for anyone's circumstances.

"being informed that what I said hurt people was all I needed... so I stopped it"

That is not how this works! Sometimes saying something that is true and useful involves hurting the feelings of people who are upholding injustices. Sometimes it even involves hurting the feelings of well-intentioned people who did nothing wrong, because you can be emotionally invested in a wrong idea!

It said, about this terf in its inbox, "they are genuinely right and it doesn't matter how much it bothers you", and "these are hard pills to swallow". It knows that hurting someone is not a good enough reason to take something back; the reason you should take something like this back is it is misinformation and libel. Yes, when you make post you regret, it is completely fair to apologize for the harm that it caused. The stereotypes that you amplified, the trust that you broke, even the ways it went against your intentions are an understandable topic. But saying that you wanted to 'stop' (no idea what it even means by it stopped - because it deleted the post, thanked the people criticizing it, and gave a non-apology?), because you hurt people; that's just not a good enough reason, especially when it knew people were going to get hurt by the post before it even made it.

This is not responsible; it's only a step above "I'm sorry that you felt that way" because at least genderqueerdykes acknowledges its agency in causing harm. But by not acknowledging that its post was not just hurtful, but harmful, transmisogynistic, and wrong - and not being able to articulate an actual argument for that (which hey, if anyone reading this wants some of my thoughts on why the original post was wrong, or even just my thoughts on one specific point of it, the ask box and dms are open), means that:

anyone who saw the original post and advocated for it, agreed with it, or was influenced by it, has no real reason to move the other way. Even if they see the "retraction", it will come off that equinox had to take its post down because the "woke tgirl mob" complained too much, and not that there was actual merit to disavowing it.

I think if you asked most of the people in genderqueerdykes' posting circle, they'd say that uncomfortable conversations are needed, so this "I don't want to offend anyone" behavior just comes off as dodging an argument that it can't win, because it's only sorry that it got caught.

Maybe I'm overthinking this, maybe there's some context where ostensibly molding your online presence to whatever won't be hurtful to your followers is the best thing you can do as a public figure, or even in your interpersonal life. But I'd need a real good argument to the effect that a) this can actually address or stop the harm, and b) the intentions here are in any way coherent.

[animationismycomfort]

giving characters my problems or little bits of me is so fun for me idk why

[embv]

I think everyone’s subscribing to the “Helena Infiltration Theory” WAYY too quickly. I kinda feel like a lot of the oddities in the way she was acting could be chalked up to something else, and defaulting to “that’s not Helly” feels a lot like… I don’t know, like brushing off character flaws by saying, “No, [X] is possessed! That’s not actually them!”

I’d probably buy into it a bit more if she didn’t have that moment in the halls with Mark where she fervently said, “We’re not the same, actually. Us and the outies, we’re not.”

There are reasons why Helly would want to lie about her identity, and chief among them is the fact that she hates her outie—desperately wants to place distance between them, desperately wants to convince herself that the person she saw wasn’t her.

But there are compelling reasons for both angles, and I can’t say that I won’t be scanning future episodes for hints to either prove or disprove this, so… cheers, 🥂.

[sadkachow]

if i hear one more pro-ai take i fear i may start exploding people with my brain

[gammija]

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[adelle-ein]

idk man i've reblogged and said things about how certain people on this site and the bird one are putin defenders, syrian/ukranian genocide deniers, outright white supremacists, avowed antisemites, etc. pointed out the ways in which the current moment is being happily hijacked by white supremacists with very strong and obvious agendas. and some of you guys have reblogged and liked those posts, and then immediately gone on to continue reblogging violently antisemitic things from the very same people. so i don't think it's sinking in tbh

(and like, the posts in question are never anything useful or links to articles or anything remotely "worth" platforming genocide deniers, just the usual "DON'T SCROLL PAST THIS, POSTING IS ACTIVISM" shit)

[booksandberries]

yknow what i wish i had more people i looked up to

[autistic-autumn]

As insane as eye color discourse really is I think it really does epitomize so much online activism. The jump from black/brown eyes are underappreciated to raving about eugenics really summarizes so much about internet spaces.

[stonyponyofficial]

i love seeing how much paratext i can fit into the tags. read my footnotes boy

[dandyshucks]

the difference btwn irl and online perspective on creativity is so funny to me and idk if I'll ever get used to the stark contrast of it all.

IRL when I mention that I draw and write, people act like I'm some super talented creative genius(???). they don't seem to understand the concept of OCs, and if I try to vaguely touch on my DL project they get visibly overwhelmed no matter how simple I make it for them, and eventually they settle on just insisting that I need to publish traditionally and monetize on it. they don't seem to have the ability to understand the concept of zines and immersive storytelling through non-traditional means.

but then i get online and I'm just another drop in the ocean and always a very mediocre drop at that LMAO, I constantly fight with myself to feel like there is any sort of value to my stories and art, and there's hundreds of people doing the sort of thing that I do but even better than I could ever dream of doing!

it's just so strange going from interacting with this online to IRL, I feel like I'm getting whiplash from being largely ignored or scoffed at online (which I'm fine with btw lol I grew up with that in my family and now I get nervous when I get too much attention) to people at the centre treating me like I'm some kind of artistic genius who cannot be understood because I'm too far above their level 😭

[burger-goblin]

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[eggmeralda]

can you get burnout from doing nothing

[asexualjedi]

As a kid I wanted to like be like the doctor like play them on tv but then I was likely they’ll never hire me I’m American and then I was like ok best I can get is companion but I need to like figure out how to break into acting I’m only gonna get older I’m running out of time. I need to get enough credits to ever be able to audition. Anyways long story short sometimes I’ll see the doctor or the companions and my brain just awaken that demon and is like ok we’ll time to drop out of law school change my life completely in need to hurry up and speed run if I’m not gonna run out of time.

[askshivanulegacy]

Sorry to disillusion everyone, but this has been the fundamental nature of posting your stuff online since the online began.

All of you with Facebook under your real name, linked to all your other little accounts and platforms.

All of you who post your faces, your kids, your pets, make your hobby about filming yourself on tiktok, put your voice and your reactions onto twitch streaming. Spotify? Gaming? Twitter? Yeah, how much of these were private in the first place? None of it? Well then.

It's already there. It's publicly available and free to access.

The fact that you posted it online is BLANKET CONSENT for every stranger in the world to study and pull together these pieces of you.

It's not being "dredged up," it was given away on a silver platter.

You act like this is weird and invasive, when there are flashing arrows inviting you into all the closets with all the goods.

If this is horrifying to you, you need to understand that you welcomed this and you wanted it. There's nothing weird about it, because you already said YES and made it available to the world.

If you do not know that posting to any online platform is identical to giving your information away, then now is your opportunity to start knowing. Don't post things you don't want the world to know and are uncomfortable with people "stealing." Don't link identities you need to keep separate. Don't use your real name. Don't give access to your workplace or work buddies. Set boundaries. Control access and control yourself.

It's not hard. None of this is surprising. You all did it on purpose.

anyone else exceedingly unnerved tho about how much information is able to be found about luigi mangione by just like. anyone. like why am i seeing posts about his spotify playlists and gaming catalogue. his twitter, his book reviews, his purchases. i do not need to know a stranger down to every minute detail and neither do you

dudes not even convicted and all of this is still being dredged up btw

[dukeofthomas]

Loved ur musings on btas (along with other stuff !) btas Tim to me is just some abomination of Jason with some tim ?? Characteristics that they've put that industry implant's name on.

Which was sort of basically confirmed so you'd probably love watching those eps too ! Just ignore when he's called tim ! That is not him LMAO

his design seems so good,,, i'll do my best to mentally replace 'tim' with 'jason' lol