#I don't have to tell you what dating apps I have used or the exact circumstance of how I met my boyfriend
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daisywords · 6 days ago
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#I know he's just making conversation but my work enemy does not have the right to ask me every day what I did last night#and what I'm doing tonight#like does a girl have any right to privacy around here?#I'm not accountable to you. also my answers are boring and the same. ate dinner and talked on the phone what do you want from me?????#also started teasing me for how often my answer has been ''go to the grocery store''#because apparently it's weird that I buy groceries and cook food????#and like we're kinda friends but also not through much choice of my own. in the fact that he stops by my desk most days to chat#but by that nature I am trapped here and have no power in when the conversation starts and ends#and am forced to answer whatever small talk–esque questions he dishes out because I have no social script for not doing that#occasionally I have drawn a line and been like ''I don't have to tell you that''#when he's asked me about things which might seem innocent but require context which I prefer not to get into as part of my worksona#I guess what's annoying is that he pushes past my attempts to deflect or dodge questions and just keeps pushing#like it's some kind of game even when I'm pointedly like ''I'm not going to tell you that''#and none of it is outside the realm of normal conversation on the surface but like. dude.#I don't have to tell you what dating apps I have used or the exact circumstance of how I met my boyfriend#or even what I did over the weekend if I don't want to!!!! And it's not a crime to ask those things#but it is a crime to keep asking when I deflect and also while standing at my desk and trapping me in the conversation#within earshot of the rest of the office!!#and the fact that he asks me follow up questions and follow up questions narrows the topics that I'm willing to get into with him#and it's like. I know he's just trying to be friends and for the most part is fun and nice to me#so it feels like there's no normal way I can be like 'dude. leave me alone.' without escalating inappropriately
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boypied · 7 months ago
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pairings: steve rodgers x male reader
request: Steve Rogers, aka Captain America, was found by the male reader and not a shield. Male readers help Steve come to terms with the past and get him situated to the present. Throughout the process, Steve grows to have feelings for male reader, which leads to their first date and a night of fun. Where they both lose their virginity.
warnings: SMUT ! , swearing, anal sex.
MDNI + FDNI !
You aren't sure how you ended up in this situation, but you had a famous war superhero from the 1940s in your backseat. You didn't want to take him to the hospital, in case they took him to a lab and began to test on him and you didnt want someone like Nick Fury to get ahold of him, because you knew he would exploit him and force him to go onto missions and risk his life, so I guess that's how you ended up in this situation.
His body just laid across your back seat, and your eyes gaze off the road and towards the man in the back. You admired his bulging biceps as they were almost tearing out of his shirt, his wet shirt to be exact! it clings to his abs. You dart your eyes back to the road to make sure you don't crash and die. Once you reach home, you manage to get Steve's body inside after a LOT of trial and error.
You gently lay his body down against your guest room bed. You slowly peel his soaked top off his body to reveal his rippling six-pack and his soft pink nipples, "Wow, this guy must have been sculpted by gods" You blush slightly before leaving the room, closing the door quietly.
THE NEXT MORNING
You lay down in your bed staring up at the wall, thinking about how there is a soilder from the '40s in your guest bedroom. Where do you even go from here? There isn't a manual book that teaches you how to help someone who hasn't aged since 1945. If he ends up staying with you long-term, you're going to have to start teaching him the modern language, how to use modern appliances, all of this stuff.
You head out of your bedroom and walk into your living room, where you find a confused and naked Steve Rodgers. "Steve?..." You mumble quietly, worried to set him off. He turns around and reveals the full package to you. "Where am I? and who are you?" Steve asked curiously and with slight concern in his voice. Your eyes trail from his perfect pecs down to his rippling abs to his 9 inched, veiny, meaty cock.
His eyes dart down and his hands immediately cover his cock and he blushes "heh, sorry about that." He laughs slightly before being quiet. "I found you while I went out exploring, and I was worried if I took you to a hospital, they would start running tests on you like you weren't a person" you say while making eye contact with him, he feels a warmth in his heart that you just filled. "Thank you for saving me." A smile creeps up onto Steve's face, which causes you to blush.
You start to show Steve around your house and telling him what everything is or at least the more modern things. You had to teach his how to use a mobile phone, where you showed him all of the different apps. He really felt connected to angry birds.
THE DATE
This whole date situation just kind of fell into your lap, Steve wanted to find a way to thank you after you taught him how to adapt to the modern world over the course of a couple months, so he came up with the idea of taking you out for dinner. Except you had to plan it all for him since he still didn't fully wrap his head around how to use a computer.
Since Steve hasn't quite worked out how to drive stick, you decided it would be for the better if you drove. The whole time while you were driving, Steve had his large hand placed on your thigh, moving it back and forth gently. Your heartbeat picked up the pace.
You parked the car outside the restaurant and turned to face Steve. You both have a warm smile from ear to ear on your face. "Let's head inside, then Cutie," Steve says, which causes the blush on your skin to intensify.
Once you are both finally seated, at a candle sit dinner, you can't take your eyes off each other. You stare at his chiselled jawline. You admire the way he spoke and the way he contorted his mouth. Each movement of his caused you to fall harder for him. He could ask you to do anything, and you would do it. "I am really thankful that you saved me." He says while staring at you lovingly, "I am really thankful you came into my life" you stretch your hand to hold his.
You both ate your food, paid, and went back to the car to drive, once you got home... that's when the fun truly began.
VIRGINITY LOSSED
You unlocked the door, and you both stumbled inside, not taking your lips off each other. "I am going to show you how much I am thankful for you." Steve says while lifting you up and wrapping your legs around his waist, laying you down against the couch. He tears your shirt off to reveal your body, and he begins to devour your body, running his tongue along your body as he begins to suck on your nipples.
You begin to breathe heavily and mumble some moans "wait wait! slow down." You say as Steve pulls away from you." Am I doing something wrong?" His face contorts while looking down at you. "I'm.... I'm a virgin." You say while looking up at him, Steve laughs slightly before smirking. "So am I"
Steve continues to kiss up your body. Before pulling away to unbuckle his belt, to get out his semi-hard shaft. You stare at it, and your hole pulsates.
"Fuck" you gasped out as your mouth hangs open, Steve smirks as he enjoys how flustered you've become. "Do you want to... um... suck it?" Steve asks nervously. He sits down, and you go onto your knees between his legs. "I'll be honoured to, Steve."
You wrap your hand around the base of his thick shaft. You give it a few jerks before leaning down to swirl your tongue around his tip, slurping up all of his delicious pre-cum. He grabs your head, pushing you down to the base. "Awh! Fuck" he moans out, soaking in all of the pleasure. Your eyes water and your jaw aches, but you will stop at nothing to give him the best pleasure ever. You feel his cock twitch in your throat to indicate that he is close, so you pull away with a pop.
"Wait, no! Don't stop!" Steve pleads and begs with you while you strip off in front of him. You climb on top, straddling him. You place you hand on his cock lining it up with your hole. He nods at you to show he's ready, so you begin to slide down onto his shaft. "AH!" You begin to whimper at the slight pain but Steve begins to kiss your neck to help ease it.
Once he is finally balls deep inside you, you both pause for a moment. He lets you get used to his large size, rest your head on his shoulder while he gently thrusts into your tight hole. He begins to breathe heavily. "fuckk." he lays his head back while he grips your ass thrusting gently into you.
"...faster." You moan while kissing his neck, "Okay baby, I'll speed up." Steve begins to speed up his thrusting, his balls slapping against you. Steve pulls you into a kiss while his hand travels down to jerk you off. His hand goes back and forth, his thumb rubbing your tip. You moan into the kiss while his tongue dominates your mouth, "mhm" you moan.
His thrusts continue to hit your sweet spot, his tip constantly rubbing against it, causing you to unleash sultry moans. "AH! S-Steve, I'm close. " You moan out as Steve continues to jerk you off harder while thrusting into you.
You shoot your load onto Steve's abs, He pulls you into a kiss while he paints your walls, coating them in his cum. You both moan into the kiss as you ride out your high.
THE AFTER CARE
You both clean each other up while laying next to each other, embracing eachothers warmth. "I'm so happy I met you, Steve." you say while running your hands through his hair. "Meeting you was the best thing that ever happened to me!" Steve mumbles while blushing.
You both lay there for the rest of the night, cuddling and embracing each other.
Steve whispers into your ear, "Will you be my boyfriend?" He asks. You wraps your arms around his neck, pulling him into a kiss. "Of course I will!" You blush and pull him tightly towards your body.
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punksyeet · 2 months ago
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- Sweet Escape ❥
Plot: During tough times within his marriage, Josh turns to Gianna (OC) for comfort - in more ways than one. When she starts to catch feelings, instead of telling him, she slowly but surely distances herself.
Warning: Angst (happy ending) & talks of smut!
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I climb off of him and lay flat on my back, breathing heavily thanks to tonight's thrilling events.
As I turn around to face him, he's already gotten up and started getting dressed.
I sit up and run my a hand through my curls before taking a deep breath and breaking the silence.
"Josh?" I call quietly, my voice just above a whisper.
He looks up from zipping his jeans.
As I open my mouth to respond, his phone rings.
He picks it up off my nightstand and sighs, throwing his head back when he sees the contact name: T ❤️
"Hey baby," he greets his wife.
I let out a deep but quiet sigh, and lay back on my pillow.
For context, my co-worker Josh — better known as Jey Uso — and I have been sneaking around and sleeping together for a little over a month now.
He and his wife have been going through some issues, as most couples that are together for 15+ years do, and he's been using me as an escape.
Every Monday and Friday night, after a live Raw or SmackDown taping, he'll come back to my hotel room and we fuck the life out of each other.
It's a great time but, I can't lie, I've been catching some heavy feelings recently.
Which I know kinda defeats the whole purpose of sleeping with a married man, but I can't help it.
And you'd think that confessing my feelings for someone that's going through relationship issues would be easy, but it's the exact opposite.
Usually I try to ignore them but, whenever a sense of bravery comes around, things get in the way.
I know he cares about me, but not nearly enough to separate his marriage so that we can be together.
I just want to be with him.
For him to love me the same way I love him.
To have him all to myself.
"Aight love you too," he says, before hanging up the call and placing his phone back down.
Silence falls over the room for about a minute or two before he speaks up again.
"You were saying?" he asks, pulling his shirt over his head.
I shake my head, looking down and fiddling with my fingers. "Forget it."
"Hey don't be like that," he replies, spraying lots of cologne all over himself to mask my scent on his clothes. "What's wrong?"
"It's nothing," I exclaim, still looking down.
"Aight," he replies, and sits on the edge of the bed. "Whenever you wanna tell me, I'm here."
I look up and nod, giving him a fake smile.
He leans in to kiss my lips but I turn my head so that it's my cheek instead.
A look of confusion comes over him. "You sure you're good?"
He always kisses me goodbye, and it hurts knowing it means nothing.
But tonight feels different. A different type of hurt.
I nod again, looking back down. "You should get going. Don't want to get caught."
He looks at me for a moment longer before nodding and getting up to leave, then closing the door behind him.
I sigh and lean back on my headboard, looking up at the ceiling.
I bite my lower lip as tears form and a single one rolls down my cheek.
I just wish he was all mine.
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I wake up to the sound of my alarm and immediately stop it, before laying my head back down on the pillow.
Today is media day for the entire WWE / NXT roster.
We have these every few months, just so the media team can stay up to date with posters for matches and PLEs.
The SmackDown roster is scheduled for 12pm this afternoon, and just my luck, Josh will be there.
I'm snapped out of my thoughts when my phone chimes.
I look over at my nightstand and my heart drops when I read the text that came through.
Josh 🫶🏽: Morning ma
Josh 🫶🏽: Need a ride to work?
I let out a deep sigh and pick up my phone, slowly open the iMessage app and contemplate what to say.
I don't know if I can be around him. Not after last night anyway.
Gianna (Work): Morning Josh. It's alright I'll take an Uber. Thanks for the offer though.
Josh 🫶🏽: Nonsense baby
Josh 🫶🏽: I'll pick you up around 11:30
Josh 🫶🏽: That sound good?
I chew on my bottom lip before responding.
Gianna (Work): Alright that's fine. Thank you. 🫶🏽
Josh 🫶🏽: Gotchu ❤️❤️
I stare at his reply for a little while — if only the hearts actually meant something.
Shaking my own thoughts out of my head, I get up, stretch, find an outfit, and head to the bathroom to get ready for the day.
I ended up going with a baby blue matching zip up and sweatpants set, my UGG slippers, and a blue purse.
Cute, comfy, and easy to get out of when I need to change into my gear. Perfect.
To finish off the look, I fix my hair into a messy bun and throw on some of my go-to jewelry.
A couple minutes later, I get another text.
Josh 🫶🏽: I'm outside
I take a deep breath, make sure that I have everything, head out, and lock my room behind me.
"Morning babygirl," Josh coos when I enter his SUV, sliding into the passenger seat.
I turn to him and softly smile at the nickname. "Morning, Josh."
He leans over and kisses my cheek.
"You look cute," he compliments, starting up the engine again and pulling away from the curb.
I blush lightly. "Thank you."
He stops at a red light and turns to me, to which I try to avoid his gaze by looking out the window.
"Hey," he says softly, placing a hand on my thigh. "You alright?"
No. You, sir, are playing with my feelings.
"Mhm," I reply quietly. "I'm good."
He studies my body language for a second. "You sure? Cause last night you pulled away from my kiss. And now you can't even look at me."
I look down and fiddle with one of my rings.
He pulls up my chin gently. "What's going on, baby? Talk to me."
I shake my head, doing my very best to hold back tears. "Can we not do this right now?"
A look of confusion comes over his face. "Do what?"
I let out a deep sigh and pull away from his touch, leaning my head back against the headrest. "Forget it."
As if the Gods are helping me out, the streetlight turns green.
He continues driving and, this time, never removes his hand from my thigh.
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** Josh's POV **
"Earth to uce!" my brother yells, snapping me out of my thoughts.
I shake my head quickly and hold out my hand. "Oh hey. What's up, Jon?"
He gives me a look of confusion and leaves me hanging for a second before accepting my handshake. "You alright, bro? You seem....distracted."
"All good man," I lie, running a hand down my face and smoothing out my beard. "Just tired that's all."
But that couldn't be more untrue.
I've been thinking a lot — a lot about Gianna that is.
We've been fucking on the low for a good month now and, while we both agreed to just mess around for fun and as a distraction for me, she's been acting weird lately.
And the only thing I can think of is that she's backing out.
As in, she doesn't wanna do this anymore.
I just can't seem to figure out why.
Last night was perfect.
Jon shakes his head. "I've known you my entire life, uce. I know when something's eating at you."
I take a deep breath and rub my temples.
"Come on bro," he continues. "Maybe I can help? You know I care about you, dawg."
"Aight man," I reply, finally giving in. "Let's go talk somewhere else. I don't need any nosy bodies in this company listening."
He snickers and nods in agreement, before we both walk off.
"So what's this all about?" Jon asks, sitting down on one of the sofas in our and Roman's locker room.
I take a deep breath and sit down, resting my arms on my knees.
"So," I begin. "You know how me and T have been going through it lately."
He nods. "Yeah, of course. Did something happen?"
I bite my bottom lip gently and think for a minute. "Sort of...?"
He tilts his head and gives me a confused look. "Stop beating around the bush, uce. Just say it."
I look down and fiddle with my fingers. "I've been sleeping with Gianna as a distraction."
He narrows his eyes and thinks for a minute before responding. "Gianna? Gianna Nicole? Trin's friend?"
I nod. "Yeah, uce. She agreed to keep it on the low a month or so ago and we've been sneaking around since."
He places his head in his hands and runs them down his face. "Josh, what the fuck?"
"And I think she wants to stop," I continue, fixing my chain. "She's been acting mad weird since last night."
"And you don't think that's the right thing to do?" he suggests. "Does T even know that you're not willing to work shit out? A real man don't do this shit, uce."
I narrow my eyes at him. "A real man? Whose side are you even on right now?"
He holds up his hands. "You know I'll always be in your corner, uce. But you need to fix this shit. Either break things off with T or stop seeing Gianna. You're fucking with both of their heads."
He's right. I know he is.
I close my eyes and nod slowly.
"And you said Gi has been acting weird," he continues. "Have you ever thought that she's distancing herself from you because this has all become a mental thing?"
I raise an eyebrow. "A mental thing?"
"Uce," he replies, touching his temples. "You're sleeping with the girl damn near every night. Do you not think she's gonna catch feelings for you sooner or later?"
Holy shit. Is that why she's running from me?
"Fuck," I mutter under my breath.
Jon nods and claps me on the back. "Do what you gotta do, uce."
I watch as he walks out of the locker room and shuts the door behind him.
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** Gianna's POV **
It’s a couple days later and this is the first Friday in nearly two months that I haven't spent with Josh.
Paul didn't need me for any matches, promos, nor segments tonight, so I decided to spend the night at home with some self care.
I just finished a steaming hot everything shower, which felt amazing considering I would've been sweaty in a wrestling ring right now otherwise.
And afterwards, I changed into my favorite robe from Victoria's Secret.
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As I'm in the mirror applying my face mask, my phone rings.
I look down at the counter and see the contact name “Josh 🫶🏽” appear on my screen.
Nope. I'm not letting anything, especially drama, ruin tonight for me.
Once the face mask is fully applied, dried, and washed off, I finish up in the bathroom and head downstairs to order some Chinese takeout.
As I'm about to dial the number, my doorbell rings.
I sigh and slide into my bedroom slippers before answering it.
Once the door opens, my jaw practically drops at the sight I'm brought with.
"Special delivery," Josh says, holding a bouquet of colorful tulips in one hand and food from the same Chinese restaurant that I was about to order from in the other.
I give him a look of confusion before he speaks up again.
"Can I come in?" he asks, a hopeful tone in his voice.
I let out another sigh before stepping aside and closing the door behind him.
Probably not my finest moment, but I am curious to see what he has to say.
"Josh if you're here to try and get me to have se-" he cuts me off before I can finish.
"Aht aht," he stops me, setting the food and flowers down on the kitchen island and turning to me. "I'm not here for allat."
I fold my arms across my chest. "Then why are you here? Shouldn't you be with your wife?"
He takes a deep breath before walking over to me and wrapping his arms around my waist.
I flinch at his touch but don't pull away.
"Baby," he begins, looking me dead in the eyes. "I ended things with her."
Instead of letting my jaw drop, my lips partially open. "What are you talking about?"
"I did some venting to my brother when we got to the arena on Tuesday," he explains. "He made me realize that I was taking advantage of you. Baby, I never meant to hurt you or get in your head. It took me a while to realize this, but I want you. I want only you. When I'm with you, I'm the happiest. This entire time, I was worried about hurting my ex. When really, I was only hurting you."
I just stand there, an emotionless expression on my face.
I don't know what to say. Or how to say it.
"So," he begins again, turning back to the island and breaking the silence. "I got these for you. From the bottom of my heart, I'm sorry baby. I hope you can forgive me."
He holds out the bouquet to me.
I take a deep breath before gently taking them from his hands and smelling a flower.
"Thank you," I reply, my voice just above a whisper. "I forgive you."
His eyes widen and a gorgeous smile appears on his face. "You do?"
I bite my bottom lip gently and nod. "You hurt me, Josh. Bad."
He strokes my face. "I know ba-"
"But," I continue, cutting him off. "I want to believe you. I love you more than anything. I have since this entire mess started."
He breathes a sigh of relief and flashes me a soft but gorgeous smile. "I love you too, mama. I just hate that it took me so long to realize it."
I transfer the bouquet to one hand and run my fingers through his curls with the other. "Well, you know what they say. Good things come to those who wait."
He raises an eyebrow, smirking. "Babe you sound like a fortune cookie."
I drop my jaw as if I'm offended and he chuckles, nuzzling his face into my neck and giving me kisses.
"Speaking of fortune cookies," I exclaim, looking over at the bag of food he brought me. "I'm starving."
"Oh right," he replies and turns around to open the bag. "I almost forgot."
I shake my head and giggle.
As he's setting up the food, I walk into the kitchen and grab a vase from the windowsill, fill it up halfway with water, and put the flowers in.
"You like them?" Josh coos from behind me, his muscular arms wrapped around my waist.
I nod, turning to face him. "I love them. Thank you."
He smiles and leans in, pressing our lips together.
I automatically kiss back and wrap my arms around his neck.
"Look atchu finally kissing me back," he teases and does a goofy dance.
We share a laugh and a few more kisses before heading back over to the island and eating together.
A couple minutes later, he runs to the bathroom and I use the opportunity to text a little someone.
Jon Fatu 🫂: Thank you 🤍
Gianna Nicole: You're welcome lil sis ❤️
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midnight--sadness · 12 days ago
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I JUST READ ALL OF YOUR FOUND FAMILY AU HC AND I LOVE IT and I want to add more stuff about uncle junho
Sometimes when inho and gihun are on a date or having a "just the two of them" moments they would ask junho to babysit, even though some of them is already grown up(bc trust me the minute they're out of inhun sight it's a mess). And the kids were like "oh come on we dont need some to babysit us" and gihun was like "nope not again the last time we left you guys alone, you almost burn the house down". But really we all know that junho is absolutely trying his best to be everyone's favorite uncle and mostly just ended up letting them do whatever they want, even letting the younger ones to eat candy or ice cream after dinner
Idk why but I feel like the older kids would try to help junho find a partner, probably even setting him up on several blind date and made him a dating app acc. They even tried to match him with the salesman(inho's personal assistant,not sure what inho's job in this au but i think it would be nice) which went better than his any other dates they set him up with so after that everytime they see them talking or sitting next to each other they would ship them for fun and junho actually went on a second date but they don't need to know that and probably some time after they finally starts dating and when junho tells them they were ecstatic bc their "incredible" plan as they called it was working(junho x salesman shipper here🙋)
Bc his plan of being everyones favorite uncle "failed", he tried even harder to become the twins favorite when they're born and it's seems to be working and some time when they're older and can talk, they gave him a nickname which is "uncle ju-jun" and he was so happy that he felt like he just won a world championship
Sometimes when the older kids are going out to have a drink(when they're legal ofc) and accidentally gets too drunk, they would call him to pick them up and told him to swear on not telling their parents(inhun were out on vacation or something)
His first reaction when he was told that inhun are having another child was "AGAIN?!?" Bc he knows that means he have more presents to bought on Christmas, in which the next Christmas after the announcement he gave inhun a pack of condoms as their gift and made the kids burst out laughing including gihun meanwhile inho is giving him a death stare(junho's face: 😌😁)
Let me know what you think!!
(I purposely not making this anonymous bc you're cool and i hope we could be friends if you want!!)
YES!!! LET'S BE FRIENDS PLEASE 🥰🥹🥰😩💖💖💖
i really love the found family au too, it's so cute but there is a possiblity for angst (my beloved 🫶)
you guys have such good headcanons!!! i'm jealous i can't come up with stuff like this 😩
the salesman being inho's personal assistant is so funny jienoaujnjrif i can imagine him using his position to just barge into the house and sit down for breakfast with the rest of the family; inho doesn't know why he isn't scared of getting fired but that man doesn't even blink when inho threatens him with unemployment, especially after he flirts with gihun or starts dating junho
in this particular au, i had initially put inho down as a senior detective because i wanted to include silly shenanigans with junho at work. and maybe they have money because his old uncle (oh ilnam) on his mother's side left inho an absurd ammount of money (4.56 billion wons to be exact 😉).
maybe if inho is like the chief or whatever he can have the salesman as his personal assistant still! that way both of our ideas work 💖
oh, the kids would def try to play matchmaker with junho! they have a list of potential future uncles/aunts ranked by how likely they are to survive the hwang inho shovel talk/interrogation.
junho pretends to be upset that his brother is still breeding his wife but he loves his nieces and nephews and when the twins are born he fights with the kids to be able to hold them more.
uncle junjun is so cute 😭💖
the kids call junho when they're too drunk to get home but also to bust them out of the jail because he's a detective and of course he has connections. except one time, when he left them in there overnight so they could learn their lessons (maybe thanos, since he has a period where he acts out).
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enemymine2000 · 3 months ago
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For the women and people with a uterus of the USA: You need to make your plan now. Obviously you need to think about getting your birth control sorted right now. Even if you plan to never have sex, because we know why we always would choose the bear. Birth control pills, implants, IUD, tubal ligation, whatever, just make sure it's in your control, because men can not be trusted with it. Stock up on Plan B now, it apparently has a shelf life of about 4 years. Personally I think it doesn't matter which shelf that is, no matter what your government after January might think about it. Check out PlanC.org for at home abortion information and access to medication per mail, as long as that is possible. Delete all digital traces of your period. Apps (first delete the data within before deleting the app itself), texts, posts, anything from which someone could make a guess as to the status of your uterus. Don't tell doctors either. There normally is no reason for a doctor to know the exact timing of your cycle. Just tell them that you have your period and that it's regular/irregular, but never exact dates. Do so, even if you're in a blue state or plan to move there. You never know how long those protections might last.
Don't get pregnant. Even if you want to have children. 1 in every 3 pregnancies end in a miscarriage. Which is a spontaneous abortion. You might get prosecuted for something sad, but natural. Additionally you might not receive care for other conditions while pregnant, because doctors have real concerns of being prosecuted themselves if that might lead to pregnancy loss.
If your significant other voted for Trump, leave him. Now. Especially if you're married. No matter how much you love him, no matter how much you think you can change him, he does not care about you. Because if he cared about women at all outside of a warm body to sink his dick in and to clean his house, he would not have voted for someone who is a rapist, who will try to strip you of all of your rights. No fault divorce might be the first thing of those to go. In that vein, save as much money as possible that only you can access. Financial dependence is the reason most of our grandmothers were unable to leave, don't make the same mistake.
If you're single, stay that way. Don't date. Don't have casual hook-ups. Men will lie and tell you they were voting for Harris, to get what they want. They have already started on the well-known apps. Cut them out. 4B movement all the way.
But that not only means those men. That also means your father, mother, sister, brother, friend, colleague, etc. who voted against your interests. Let them reap what they sowed. You don't owe them. But of course your safety is paramount.
Get something for your personal protection. I would rather you not buying a gun, because in doubt it would be more trouble than help. But mace, knives, self-defense courses are better than nothing. A roll of coins in a sock, whatever you feel comfortable with.
Get your documents sorted and ready to go. Have a passport.
For every step Trump's government will take, make a plan in advance. How to get your money, how to leave your home/the town when it gets dangerous, who you trust with information, with your power of attorney. Find groups and organizations to find and build community with. Heck, even unionizing at work might give you an edge. Get a VPN, which is from a country that is not part of the "14 eyes". Use Signal to communicate. As mothers and/or as birthing parent you need to educate the children in all those things the MAGAs want to erase from the public conscience. Ideas of equality for all, of feminism, of anti-fascism, even just readings of the bible as it is, are dangerous to their christo-fascist ideology and thus to their power base. To that end, get those books as soon as possible. So far it's only MAGA cleaning out public libraries, but you'll never know. Facts are their worst enemy. Raise your sons right! Because something has been really fucked with that for way too long.
Hopefully it won't all come down to the worst, but better be prepared and not need it, than the other way around.
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cookinguptales · 2 years ago
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Something I always think about a lot during disability/chronic illness/rare illness pride months is like... It is wild how often people will come up to me and want me to listen to some guilty secret they have re: disability and expect me to tell them it's okay.
Like... once I was waiting for my dad to bring the car up at the airport, and this guy approaches me and starts telling me why he'd never want to date a disabled woman. (I'm gay and completely uninterested in men, which made this whole interaction even more awkward.) And after talking about all the reasons why people like me would not make a good partner he turns those sad eyes on me like, "But that doesn't make me a bad person, does it? I'm not doing anything wrong. Like, you get it, don't you?"
You get it, don't you?
I hear that one a lot.
Like when the grad student teaching one of my classes at my university was chatting to me after class and told me that once she and her friends went to Disney World and pretended to be disabled to get onto the rides faster. I recognized the nervous laughter, the entreating look. The you get it, don't you?
I understand what these people are asking me for. They want absolution. They want this disabled person, maybe the first real disabled person they've ever talked to, to listen to their guilty secret and tell them they're okay. They're not a bad person. I don't mind. I don't judge them. I get it.
But frankly... I don't get it. These people often tell me that they've done things that make disabled people's lives actively worse. Disney has changed their policies re: disability because so many able-bodied people were abusing them. Companies and organizations walk back accommodation policies all the time because they're being abused. That grad student who pretended to be disabled actively made disabled people's lives harder.
And I don't really give a shit if one asshole dude doesn't want to date disabled women (probably better for those women, tbh) but I know how bad it feels to be ghosted on a dating app when you talk about accessibility, even when your profile is explicit about your disability. I know that I felt like I was not worth loving in spite of my disability for years because I knew that people like that guy would only see all the ways I'd slow them down.
Guys like that actively make us hate ourselves.
But like... it's wild how these people don't see how the only thing crueler than harboring these feelings and doing these things is making some random disabled person listen to their stories. My day was going great before some guy practically gave me a powerpoint about why I should never expect to have a relationship. I really enjoyed that class before I found out that my teacher had participated in the exact kind of ableist theft of accommodations that was currently making it difficult for me to get accommodations at that school.
They took this weight they were holding on their shoulders and then forced it onto mine -- and then expected me to comfort them. To tell them it was okay. To throw my fellow disabled folks under the bus.
And -- both of these times in particular, I was in situations where I was not really free to speak my mind. Alone with a big guy in a parking garage? Alone with the woman who would ultimately decide my grade for the class? The power differential there was huge. And whether they were consciously doing it or not, they were leveraging that power differential to try and force me to give them absolution.
I made noncommittal noises. Really, what else was I supposed to do? And even then, I could see the spark of disappointment and anger in their eyes. I was supposed to tell them it was okay that they'd hurt me and people like me. I was supposed to tell them they were still good.
But I didn't want to offer them absolution, and I was angry that they'd asked for it in the first place. I can't offer you forgiveness for something you know is wrong -- and that you've done nothing to fix. Moreover, I won't. You should feel bad that you hurt us. You should feel guilty. It's a shitty thing to do.
If you want to feel better about yourself, stop doing shitty things!
And I knew these people were still doing shitty things because dumping all this on me when I was just minding my own business was in and of itself a shitty thing. Trying to transfer their burden to me. Reminding me about the discrimination I have to face every day just so they could feel better. Expecting me to do emotional labor on command for strangers because it doesn't matter if I hurt so long as they feel good.
That's shitty! Don't do it! I already have to use physical crutches, don't try to turn me into an emotional one!
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cf-377 · 4 months ago
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JAKE - boyfriend
It's crazy how crazy I am about you.
Jake!fem/reader
Date at the cinema.. and a kiss🤭
:tell me if yall want a serie I really want to do one so bad 🤔 (jk I already started at one😃)
⚠️OFF TOPIC - NEED TO BE READ IF YALL DONT WANT TO WAIST MONEY AND ITS 100%FREE⚠️
I do not use Spotify because I will not waist my money on it! But I have another app and it's the best app ever and I want more people to know about the app so they don't waist there money on spotify, the app is called AUDIOMACK and it's not an ad or whatever I really just want yall to use it if yall don't want to waist you're money!🤝🤝 JUST HELPING!!!
The theater is almost silent, only a few others scattered around, but it feels like you and Jake are in your own world. His arm rests over your shoulders, pulling you close. The movie has been playing for a while now, and although you try to focus, you’re too aware of him beside you, his warm presence and the way his thumb gently brushes your shoulder.
Then, on the screen, the two main characters exchange a glance—an unmistakable, lingering gaze—and you know what’s coming next. The characters in the movie kiss, slow and intense, the kind that makes everything else disappear.
You feel Jake shift beside you, his fingers freezing for a moment, and you sense his gaze on you. You turn toward him, heart pounding, cheeks already flushed. His eyes drop to your lips, lingering, like he’s thinking about it, feeling the same pull you do. The light from the screen reflects in his eyes, making them look even softer, and he leans in, hesitating just a breath away.
"Is this okay?" he whispers, his voice barely audible, close enough that you can feel the warmth of his breath.
You nod, almost forgetting to breathe, feeling like every second is stretched out, heavy with anticipation. Jake’s hand lifts to gently cup your cheek, his touch featherlight but grounding, as his lips meet yours. It’s a soft kiss at first, gentle and cautious, like he’s savoring every detail, like he’s afraid to break the spell. His thumb grazes your cheek, and you feel the warmth of his fingers, his steady presence grounding you.
But as you sink into it, as you respond to him, the kiss deepens, turning into something more raw, more real. His hand slips behind your neck, pulling you closer as if he can’t quite get enough. You lose yourself in the feeling of his lips moving with yours, his gentle yet insistent hold, the way he tastes faintly like popcorn and warmth.
The movie keeps playing in the background, but you’re completely oblivious to it now. All you can focus on is Jake, the way his hand cradles your face, the way his other arm tightens around your shoulder, as if he never wants to let you go. The kiss is intense, raw, as if you’re both pouring every unspoken feeling into it, all the words you haven’t said yet.
When he finally pulls back, just a little, his forehead rests against yours, his breathing unsteady, eyes still closed as he smiles, almost like he’s a bit overwhelmed too. You both stay there, caught up in the magic of the moment, not saying a word, just letting the silence and the warmth between you linger.
"Guess the movie isn’t the only thing I’m falling for tonight," he murmurs, his thumb tracing slow circles on your cheek.
You let out a quiet laugh, feeling the exact same, your fingers still tangled gently in his hair as you whisper, "Maybe we should come to the movies more often." He chuckles, and for a moment, everything just fades away, and it’s just you and him, holding onto a memory that feels like it’s yours forever.
:sorry if it's short!! And ikk there's gonna be a lot of post but because I've been working on them for long so I thought why not post them? Anyways- I hope yall like it and I take req so feel free.��❤
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loveislandthegame · 1 year ago
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Babe if you can't complete Kassam route before the deadline, someone called Sound something covered every single scene of his route. Anyway, congrats on getting the 🦄 I tried it but alas.
yes, SoundNo3485 on reddit ! i have mad respect for their dedication in covering so many different routes. especially with the bugginess of the OG app (and all the damn ads, because the airplane mode trick doesn't work. that's the only thing i like about the new app) they've posted scenes i've never come across before, it rlly amazes me how detailed season 2 was.
kassam was my LI while s2 was airing, so i managed to unlock him back in 2019 ! (time flies, doesn't it?) after that, i couldn't get it to open again , i've always just dragged him back to the villa. so i'm like, ridiculously happy i unlocked his route again lol
if you (or anyone reading this) want to unlock kassam's route: there is a guaranteed method of getting him . unfortunately it's extremely time consuming (FB is so trifling for only giving us two weeks notice) the game is glitched out so the "actual" way of getting him (being a shy/chill MC) is pretty much impossible, but we can use those glitches to our advantage. what matters is the casa guys' heart scores, nothing else. hearts from previous playthroughs get stored in the game's cache, so:
before casa amor, play however you want, seriously, you can do anything. (if you're wondering what i did, i was with rocco until he gets dumped, then i was with henrik. unlocked marisol's route, fixed all the drama, didn't participate in operation nope)
once you're in CA, wear the free outfits to prevent getting hearts from arjun and felix . pick all the mean options for them too, you'll need to get a bunch of frowns (when it comes to carl, i think he always likes MC ? at least in my playthroughs he does, but i pied him off as well just to be careful)
flirt with kassam and elijah at every opportunity. yes, both . their routes are connected for some reason. more importantly, elijah has to be your bed partner if kassam's route isn't unlocked. if kassam rejects you, you'll most likely be stuck with arjun or felix, whichever casa guy has been hounding you the most. it's way easier to get on elijah's route, even if he doesn't say your name. as long as you pick all his heart options, his route will open during the speed date . (i like elijah too, he's such an underrated LI)
pie off elijah when he eventually starts talking about bringing him to the villa (sorry luv) choose kassam for brunch and then drag him to the villa, keep increasing his heart score for a few days. another important thing, if you care about scenes being out of order, don't kiss, don't do bits, don't take gem scenes for alone time. blah blah blah. his first kiss is where he reads your palm. his first alone time scene (on the swing) he talks about taking in the moment/meditating (imma be real, idk what the steamy scenes look like cus i don't pick them lmaooo🖤🩶🤍💜)
the unfortunate and time consuming part, you have to hit the "restart show" button. one time! no more than that. some people on the LITG subreddit have had luck with just restarting to day 14, i'm not one of them . you can try it ofc, but it's very finicky. restarting the show works 100%
again, play however you want. (i pretty much did the same stuff as my 1st playthrough, except i was with lucas after rocco leaves) while you're at it, check for signs that heart scores carried over. one immediate way i was able to tell is: in my completely brand new playthrough, i picked the shy and neutral options, so bobby didn't step forward for my MC. second time around, with thee same exact choices, he did.
once you're in casa, kassam and elijah will be the ones that say your name ! yay ! wooo. i cheered when it was elijah staring at MC instead of felix . there's a funny scene during the speed date when you're on their route. elijah lingers after the buzzer goes off, kassam walks up to yall and tells him to move. anyways, ask kassam to share a bed and he'll say yes . unicorn acquired
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natycupcak3 · 8 months ago
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NatyCupcake's Tumblr Blog's very long "about me"
Hello all beings from Tumblr! I am Naty. I am 18 years old as of the date I am writing this. My pronouns are they/she, plus a list of neos I've yet to decide on... I am Brazilian, therefore English isn't my first language. I identify as a transgender non-binary xenogender person! (if you do not know what xenogender is, click here.) I have created this blog mainly to interact with the Pop-Culture Pagan community that seemingly resides mainly in this site, as well as witches and pagans in general. I am a Poképagan, which means I am a Pagan that believes Pokémon spirits/deities exist in this world and we are available to work with them as spirits/deities in a pagan context. For example, at this moment I work with The Creation Trio (Arceus, Dialga and Palkia), Jirachi, Solgaleo, and soon Xerneas. I have an altar set for the five and I will add Xerneas as well to the altar whenever I have stuff for her. My Pokémon altar is made of the cards of said pokémon, dolls/figures of said pokémon, and crystals. For example, for Arceus I gave a Jade/Jadeite, inspired by the movie "Arceus and The Jewel of Life" where the Jewel of Life is, well, a Jade (at least as far as I can remember). Don't think I'll post pictures of my altar immediately in here, if i do... I'm just a bit scared bad stuff will be sent my way, I apologize :,) I am very much a baby witch, as well as in the broom closet. I am able to light some incense and do some stuff with candles from time to time, as well as some simple protection spells, but nothing else, pretty much. I would love to change that sometime though! I am very interested in tarot, even owning a pokémon themed tarot deck I bought from Etsy! I brushed it off telling my parents they were just normal pokémon cards. They don't seem to mind my altar either. So, I'm alright! Hehe Now, for non-spiritual stuff: I love to draw and listen to music! I am a furry artist and I've been in the fandom for around 9 years. My favorite music genres are J-Core, Speedcore, Drum n Bass, EDM, Vaporwave, etc. Basically just electronic music. I also really love anime, my favorite genre is magical girls/mahou shoujo! My favorites are Cardcaptor Sakura and the Precure franchise. My favorite Precure Seasons are Go! Princess, Mahou Tsukai, Smile, and Tropical Rouge. Something I should also mention is that I am a system and otherkin. I am a disordered system (OSDD-1a). Other mental stuff i have going on is autism, ADHD and BPD, so please do be patient with me! As for my otherkind (is that the correct conjugation? hehe) I am fictionkin and a therian. I have a ton of fictotypes, but my theriotype is a golden tiger. I can't remember the exact kind of tiger, but it's probably a siberian one. I will use singular and plural pronouns exchangeably, so do not correct me, please. For the serious stuff: DNI if syscourse participant, anti otherkin/therian, basic DNI (can't think of anything else to put in here... if in doubt, ask). I am planning on using this blog for digital altar stuff, as in reblog/post things of the pokémon deities i work with such as images/gifs, prayers, offerings, etc. Although if I don't post for a long time, don't worry! I simply forgot to post or don't have any energy to, and it snowballs until i completely forget about this app- but please don't worry! ... Well, if you do worry or just want to be friends, do add me on Discord! My username is the same i use everywhere (natycupcake). I am in there every day and I'd love to meet fellow pop-culture pagans or just people who want to be friends with me! :D That is all, people! Gods, that was long. Thanks for reading it all if you did! ;P Until we meet again~
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libra-stellium · 10 months ago
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My recent Venus transits!
Description from Planets in transit - Robert Hand
Venus trine Pluto (Apr 1 - Apr 5)
Transit intensifies your emotional expression and makes relationships more intense
It's already 4/16 and I swear I'm still feeling this lol leading up to the eclipse on 4/8 I remember thinking about "omg....am I happy..??" bc I was feeling joy randomly like walking around smiling type of shit lmao and at first I was like omg this is embarrassing but then I looked back to exactly a year ago and I was definitely cosplaying joy oops but not anymore!
Under Venus-Pluto love is not an intellectual abstraction, it is felt and expressed through the mind, emotions and body
So real! I go through periods where I don't listen to music and then I remember music exists and I get obsessed and I could feel every single song and I was telling everyone about what I was currently loving lol I also started getting back into fandoms and like being part of the group excitement feels so great!
Transit is capable of producing profound and useful psychological insights, don't be afraid of them
My pluto is in the 9H and I was having a lot of thoughts about religion lol I'm not religious at all but I was thinking it's so crazy how in the same weekend I was thinking "wow...religion is probably the worst thing to happen to humanity!" One of my friends was getting baptized to dedicate her life to the lord like...omg lol and I was talking to my aunt about religion too bc in 2020 when everything was closed she had literally been a completely different person mentally, a better person, and the only change was that she wasn't going to church and now she's back and her thoughts are insufferable to me again lmao
Venus opposite Sun (Apr 5 - Apr 8)
Transit introduces pleasantness into your life through good times, agreeable relationships, sexual attraction and friendship
This transit was such a fun time! Been feeling very happy and it was the weekend and the day of the eclipse and I after the eclipse went exact! I was talking to a lot of my friends more than usual and we were cracking jokes the whole time lol tears streaming down my face jokes lmao
The problems you'll confront are overindulgence, lack of self discipline, and unwillingness to work
Yeah I did overdo it at happy hour 4/5 and felt like shit 4/6 lol and I looked at my budget app to see I ordered food every single day from 4/1-4/7 and I was like omg that's embarrassing!
Venus trine Jupiter (Apr 10 - Apr 14)
One of the best transits that brings grace, ease, and pleasant social interactions
Loved this transit! I have venus sextile jupiter natally so as a native venus-jupiter girlie I was thriving! It was great how easily I was making people laugh lmao I love that so much!! I was with friends on 4/13 and had a great time even tho the event we were at tried to scam us! I even made one of my coworkers laugh lmao I'm remote so it was over email and she said "that is hysterical!!!" to a joke I made about our case I was so proud!
You may meet someone who will be of great service later
Idk if it counts as "meeting" but I had a meeting with my mentor on 4/11 and she connected me with someone over email and we scheduled to talk in june lol hopefully the "great service" is her helping get a new job!
There may be a romantic interest throughout the day but transit isn't strong enough to bring about a major relationship
Thissss!! Okay when I wrote out the transit I was about to leave this out bc I have not been dating and I've only been hanging out with my own friends if I leave my apt lol but on 4/13 my friend's sister invited some of her friends and this guy was so obvious with his crush on me lol he wasn't my type but it was adorable how he was like intrigued by me saying basic things and the place didn't have a lot of seating and after getting a drink I came back to the table and he like jumped up to let me sit LMFAO ngl i love when men are obsessed with me like this
Transit benefits financial interest, good day to invest in entertainment, leisure activities or the arts
I finally got paid that half of my check that was missing! And it worked out so perfectly bc I kept my money in my checking and didn't transfer it to my credit card in case they didn't pay me again and when I saw I got paid i transferred it immediately on the same day my card statement closes and usually the bank takes days to process but they did it in less than 12hrs and my statement closed at $0!! love that for me lol
Not a good day to start things that require a lot of energy, you may be inclined to sit around and do nothing
I was chilling on 4/14 watching TV and tiktok and then my bestie and I made some event reservations for our trip!
Venus opposite Venus (Apr 12 - Apr 16)
Pleasant transit, you feel at ease with yourself and self-indulgent, which is fine as long as you don't have work to be done
Real chill time! I'm starting to look around like....it's suspicious i'm not doing anything
You are likely to buy some expensive frivolity on a whim or an expensive pasttime only to regret the cost later
The only thing I bought was the amsterdam city card thing and a flight to come back home from NY lmfaooo that better not be what I regret later! The flight we bought we got first class seats only because the economy ticket plus paying for a bag was $10 less than first class lol that's a no brainer to me!
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fountainpenguin · 1 year ago
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Can you share some of what your planning process for long fics is like? What kind of outlines do you do or what prep do you do to get in the zone?
Thanks for the ask! [Tagging #ridspoilers for minor plot outline, birthday, and alien planet calendar spoilers for Origin of the Pixies, Frayed Knots, and Factor It In]
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I write on Google Docs; it might not be for everyone but it's what I've found to work well for me after a lifetime of writing (Ex: When I was a kid, I used WordPerfect and Dropbox and it would take hours to sync my documents before a long road trip... I travel between two locations a lot, so these days I just pop open the Google Docs app on my phone or use the Edit Offline extension on my laptop and it's always up to date, which works great for me!)
I also like Google Docs because I can link between documents and have lots of open tabs [along the top of the browser] in "one tab" [along the bottom bar], which isn't something I was able to do as a kid or with Microsoft Word, and it just helps me feel clean.
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Masterlist Doc [1 per fandom]
I keep all my Fairly OddParents 'fics in a doc titled FOP 'Fic Masterlist. I have my most important resources at the top and they're all broken down with clear labels and doc links.
This way, even if I haven't accessed a doc in a while [meaning it doesn't come up when I type its name in the URL search bar], I always know where I can find it. Also, thanks to my edit offline extension, all I need is this one link and I know I'll be able to open any doc I need.
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I have a lot of 'fics, so this doc is several pages. If you've ever read my FFN or AO3 bios and saw that note about how I keep a queued Tumblr post containing links to my unfinished 'fics in case I unexpectedly die, that queued post links to this doc!
You'll also notice that I have distinct scrap docs for Origin, Knots, and the 130 Prompts. I change or cut a lot of stuff and it's nice to keep the old WIPs in case I ever want to look back on them (each of those docs is 25k words just of scraps). Sometimes those scenes get recycled, but usually they just sit there. It's a lot easier to cut things from a story when you have a place to put them and you're not deleting them forever.
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Table of Contents Doc [1 per long 'fic]
All my long 'fics have a table of contents doc, which I highly recommend for anyone doing a large multi-chapter project. I always slap the cover image, a height chart, or a character reference on top to make it pretty, then the doc will contain some notes I might need. For example, Origin's doc has two height charts:
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Makes it easy to know where to find things. Also, you don't have to draw your own height charts, but I recommend keeping a list of heights on hand. Even if you don't tell the reader someone's exact measurements, it's always nice to get a feel for how characters compare to others and whether they should be looking up or down.
Come What May's doc has this screenshot comparison on it, which I put together by measuring different characters who appear next to each other as carefully as I could, and it works too:
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Obviously Kevin and Molly never appear in the same episode, but since they're about to become step-siblings in Come What May, it was important to me that I knew how tall they were, so I measured Molly against Timmy and then Timmy against Kevin. Same for Mrs. Crocker, who I measured against Timmy to get a feel for how tall Kevin is compared to his grandma.
I know it's a fanfic so it doesn't really matter, but you have to do self-indulgent things sometimes :)
Frayed Knots also has Sunnie's character reference [i.e. Anti-Cosmo's patron nature spirit, the water dude], which I just want to show off because this is still really good art for something I drew in 2017:
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Other things I keep in my table of contents docs are lists of episodes where certain characters appear, random notes that I need to keep track of (like any canonized character addresses or allergies), and chapter title ideas. I also keep track of the starlight levels [i.e. which season it's bright outside vs. dark], school year reminders, and Anti-Fairy migration season.
I keep my Vatajasa name chart in Knots too:
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Factor It In's table doc contains a list of villains who appear in the 'fic (Red for ones who don't appear, green for those who do). It also links to the Wiki page for the Evil Villains Association so I can remember which villains are and aren't in it. It also has my timeline details:
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Timeline Notes
Factor It In is set in 1998, and my table doc has all the notes I used to narrow down to that date (ex: I originally planned to set it in 1987 because I felt that the late 80s fit the technology level we see in the show before I re-watched the episode "There's No V In Team," which specifically refers to the year 1987 as having happened in the past).
One of the reasons I liked using 1987 originally was because Factor It In is a story about Kid Math training under WordGirl, and it takes place shortly after the Kid Math episode, which aired in 2014. Factor It In opens in early January, so I like the Easter egg that the 2015 calendar would be the same even if we took its airdate literally. 1998 was the only year in the 90s that also matched the calendar, so that's what I ended up with.
I like keeping my timeline notes around so if I take a hiatus, I can always come back and remind myself why I picked stuff. Also it's way easier to expand your worldbuilding if you kept your notes... it's awful if you threw your math away and have to start over (I once redid an entire timeline because someone said I'd messed up the dates on my chart, and I believed them and redid it all, only to realize several months later when I ran into a timeline problem that my math had actually been right all along :') Don't be like me. Record your work and leave notes explaining why.)
[I always use THIS calendar website when I'm planning timelines. It tracks moon phases, which was important when @zachbrightside and I were working on the FOP timeline and heavily relying on moon phases as a guide, and you can easily type any year and month into the URL bar so it's super easy to navigate.]
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Birthday Notes
I also kept all my notes on determining birthdays (very important for long 'fics with lots of characters that take place over several months! One of my FOP resource docs is specifically for birthdays and annual events, ranging from parades to anniversaries to carnivals).
My headcanon for Becky Botsford's birthday is July 28th. We know she starts the series at age 9 and has a birthday in Season 1 episode 4, meaning she's 10 for much of the series. There are at least two episodes where she cites her ages as "10 and a half," and we saw that in her next birthday episode ("A World Without WordGirl"), her cake had 11 candles on it.
Show canon implies that time IS passing and that the show doesn't exist in a timeless void (see also, Timmy Turner wishing to freeze time for 50 years), so it was important to me that I nail down her birthday. I knew I wanted it to take place after Rhyme and Reason if possible since there are no more birthday episodes, though I would also be fine with having "Rhyme and Reason" shortly after her birthday [to ensure she stays 10 and 11 for the majority of show canon].
Here are some of my notes on her birthday for anyone interested (Hopefully they're not too squished):
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^ Like I said, I switched 1987 to 1998, but yeah. Rex's birthday comes out to June 13th, 1989 and Becky's is July 28th, 1986.
Clickable links for Rex and Becky on the age calculator if you're curious... Important for me since one of Rex's math powers is to always know how old someone is to the day.
Fun Fact - I deliberately gave Rex June 13th as a birthday so he would share a birthday with Foop, who is also a Season 7 Episode 1 debut kid over in Fairly OddParents :)
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Having birthdays planned is also nice for when I want to write multiple 'fics in the same world, even if they're not the same 'fic. In my story "Flypaper," which takes place in early June, Rex is eagerly awaiting his 17th birthday and Becky muses on how she'll be turning 20 at the end of the summer... Just a nice detail not only to set the scene, but also to help the story feel grounded and realistic since one of the themes of "Flypaper" was that Becky felt time was slipping away from her.
It's also important to note that Rex and Becky are always among the youngest in their school years since they have summer birthdays. Tobey is 12 for most of the time Becky is 11... Little details that don't take a long time to plan for, but can really help a story feel like the author put effort into the world.
Again, I highly recommend leaving clear notes to yourself about why you're doing certain timeline things. I much prefer having the breakdown of the episodes I looked at over simply leaving a note to myself that Becky's birthday is July 28th!
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Character Arc Notes
Before planning the events of the story, it helps to get an idea for what themes and character traits you want to focus on. Frayed Knots is about love and betrayal- it's about Anti-Cosmo pushing for what he wants even though it hurts his loved ones (appropriate theme for a villain backstory 'fic).
I want to show some notes I have for Factor It In because I think they're interesting. Factor It In is my first attempt at doing a story that deliberately focuses around two protagonists and their separate but equally important character arcs, and I'm excited :)
Everything that's in my doc is the "tell" part of "show don't tell." The story tries to show what I have in my notes:
Rex arc - Lack of Stability / Lack of Control - Failing, getting tricked, being unwanted, not good enough, not understanding things. Being in foster care is scary. Unfamiliar planet is scary Show Kid Math always being super inquisitive. He always wants to learn. He knows the most, he is the best, he gets upset when he's fooled or when he fails. He was 2nd best in school. He feels lost when he doesn't know what's happening in his future. Gets upset when WordGirl doubts his decisions. In the opening scene of Factor, he's mind controlled by Mr. Big. Literally has no control Kid Math clings to his superhero certification / Hexagonian education. He was raised by his aunts and has basically no relationship with his parents (though he tries to hide the fact that this hurts him). He feels like a burden; he feels like his mom considered him "too much work" and that his father considers him "not worth bothering to visit." Rex constantly struggles under this fear that he's a burden. He wants to prove himself a good superhero so that his education (and life) aren't "a waste." Conflict: Kid Math has already spent his entire life feeling like he's no one's first choice; that he's only "second best" (because he was second to top of his class in school). He understands that he and WordGirl are sharing the city, but it's important to him that he's considered an equal. He wants people to like him. It hurts when WordGirl comes on too strong and makes it obvious she lacks faith in him, because he feels like a burden: his worst nightmare. Throughout the story, Rex internalizes his successes and failures. He cannot separate his superhero identity from his civilian identity. He always sees himself as "Rex, who trained to become a superhero." He calls himself Rex and has no distinction in his mind. His secrets slip, he uses his powers when he's Rex, and he expects people to attribute KM's failures to Rex (Ex: school kids laugh at how he falls for tricks as Kid Math and it upsets him as Rex). Rex values control, and will do all he can to avoid losing control. His deadly sin is Wrath, but he has a lot of emotional control and will try to remove himself from the situation. As long as he has his safe space and his comfort things, he's okay. We get several scenes of him wanting to break stuff when he's upset but he holds back... with the underlying tension of wondering how long he'll last before he snaps (pitting his nightmare of losing control against Becky's nightmare of losing his friendship).
I want to highlight the part about how Rex cannot separate his two identities. This is something I showed even back in "AlgoRhythm" - Rex always calls himself "Rex" inside his head, even when he's dressed as Kid Math. However, when I write from Becky's POV, the third-person writing swaps between calling her "Becky" or "WordGirl" depending on how she's dressed.
I also have notes about how Rex's character arc relates to the story's finale, but that's spoilers. Since Rex's character arc is about how he hates not having control, then the worst thing that could happen to him is not having a say in things: hence why the plot about bouncing between foster families is such a hard thing for him to go through. Eventually, he'll also be put in a position where he needs to think about who he is as Rex vs. who he is as Kid Math, and we'll see that in the story climax.
Becky has a fun arc too:
Becky arc - Loss / Change - People being hurt, losing her friends, hurting or losing her family. Fear of change. Show WordGirl being upset when relationships fracture, even with people who aren't super close to her. She struggles with the idea of Kid Math befriending her villains or losing her position as a hero and getting replaced by Kid Math. Put simply, WordGirl is a control freak who refuses to admit this to herself. WordGirl struggles to relinquish control to Kid Math (which is where they come in conflict since he ALSO feels stressed when he doesn't have control). WordGirl is a bit of a helicopter mentor; she hovers around Rex, interferes with his work, and just generally gets in his way (which is pretty funny imo since Rex never got in her way during "Kid Math"- he's capable, he just causes problems with social interaction and not with the actual fighting... WordGirl gets the social interaction part but definitely gets in the way). Conflict: WordGirl doesn't enjoy having Rex around, but she can't tell him that because it might hurt his feelings and that would cause her "loss and change" pain. She would feel guilty and sad. Rex being Exposition Guy's foster kid is a big source of conflict between them, as Rex believes he should "get dibs" on info EG shares. WordGirl stresses when Rex doesn't do things "her way" and Rex gets frustrated that she doesn't trust him. Tensions keep rising because WordGirl starts seeing "the bad" in Rex; she keeps seeing Miss Power traits in him and she worries that Miss Power might have been his teacher back on Hexagon. Her nosiness strains Rex's trust in her and he starts pulling away emotionally... sending her into a spiral about change and loss (especially as more and more villains and civilians grow familiar with Kid Math and start to think he's cool). Lots of resentment towards Kid Math for "replacing her" even though she NEVER admits that to herself; she still has trace amounts of jealousy towards him in later stories like "Flypaper..." WordGirl doesn't mean to be jealous or greedy, but it's always been one of her flaws (i.e. someone else getting a key to the city, or when she snapped during Miss Power special about Chuck getting a collectible unicorn, wanting to show off a bit during "Invisible Hand"). She's a very nice person but Envy is absolutely her deadly sin.
So yeah! Fun times ahead; I'm excited.
We've already started seeing cracks form between her and Chuck... In Chapter 4, Chuck confronts her, asking if WordGirl is retiring and if he'll still get to see her. Chuck has his own little character arc in the background, which is that he broke his foot a few days before the story starts- he has to sit on the sidelines watching the other villains get "WordGirl time" while he has to watch Kid Math go through hero training.
A lot of other characters have small arcs too, though Chuck's and Victor Best's are probably the most notable-- Chuck and Victor are both characters who struggle with being "the second best" compared to a more successful sibling, so they resonate heavily with Rex's character arc.
WordGirl's arc is about control, so Mr. Big and Tobey (mind control and robots) are pretty obvious choices for her, along with Dr. Two-Brains... but actually, Granny May and Eileen are two villains I really wanted to look at in Factor It In. Granny May's life hinges around being a "people person" (to the point that she had an episode about how she could be way more successful with a different schtick; she just likes talking to people too much to trade that for success).
Granny May is super calculating and manipulative and she also struggles with little losses of control in her daily life (getting on in years, mobility issues, and the episode "Granny's Book Club" where the Evil Villains Association tried to force her to retire). I like Granny May because she looks like this sweet old lady but she also, like. can fly and has a robot suit, which is SO funny.
With her cold, calculating patience and her manipulative ways, Granny May represents the worst of Rex AND Becky at the same time, which is great. I'm excited to get to her chapters. Eileen is also a fun villain to juxtapose Becky because she's the embodiment of envy, which Becky struggles with, so I'm looking forward to that too.
A lot of characters are also working on school projects, so they always have "something to do" or "something that is causing them stress." Mapping out the background character arcs and conflicts can help the story feel more alive, and I think that's a useful part of outlining :)
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Once you know your character arcs ["What is my character's biggest fear, what is something my character will do wrong, what event forces them to face their fear, and how do they resolve this situation in a way that shows them growing as a person?"] then the story sort of writes itself :)
Make sure you have a goal or a problem and make sure there's a reason they can't achieve the goal or solve their problem in the first chapter. Here are some examples from 3 of my long 'fics:
Origin of the Pixies - Fergus (i.e. H.P.) fears being responsible for others... His father wants him to study psychology and take over the family therapy business (Wish Fixers) even though carrying the weight of others' emotional problems sounds like the worst fate imaginable... so Fergus cuts ties with Dad, drops out of the Fairy Academy and runs away from home. Now he only looks out for himself, can start his own business if he wants to, and he can drink and party all the time. What could be better than that?
Fergus's nightmare of being responsible becomes unavoidable when he (a pixie) starts reproducing asexually... during a time when no one really knows what pixies are and Fairy World has a baby ban in place. Fergus pursues a life of business and money-making, fighting to provide for Sanderson and the rest of his clone offspring (some of whom are predisposed by their genetics to kill him when they come of age, which is fun). Things get even worse when Fairy World and Anti-Fairy World go to war... Being responsible for kids during a time of peace was hard enough, but war? Forget it.
After successfully navigating the chaos of war, Fergus is ready to settle back into a peaceful life, but tumultuous politics keep him on his toes. His best friend - the leader of Anti-Fairy World - gets overthrown by hotshot Anti-Cosmo, and Fergus is forced to re-evaluate his friendships, priorities, political alignments, and personal needs if he wants to maintain political piece between the Pixies and Anti-Fairies.
While raising his pixie clones, Fergus has always kept them at arm's length and called them "interns" or "employees" or even "nephews" to avoid calling them his sons. The older he gets, the less he's able to do the things he liked to do in his younger years - goof off, wrestle, attend parties - and the more he needs to think about putting his pixies first. As death looms nearer and nearer, Fergus grows increasingly desperate to ensure his pixies will still thrive without him... and he'll do anything, regardless of who it hurts or how badly he endangers the magical world, to ensure they do.
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Frayed Knots - Anti-Cosmo fears being unloved; his father isn't in the picture, his older brother is aloof, and his mother isn't kind to him. He's desperate to not grow old without a soulmate by his side. When he fails to match with a partner during a betrothal ceremony, he lies his way through it and tricks his peers into believing Anti-Saffron is his fated match.
As the centuries pass, it becomes more difficult to maintain the lie and Anti-Cosmo begins questioning whether maintaining his relationship with Anti-Saffron is even worth it. Breaking things off in a society that believes in luck and fate, however, is incredibly risky and could get him labeled as an outcast for the rest of his life.
Anti-Cosmo struggles to balance his dying feelings for Anti-Saffron with his growing feelings for Anti-Wanda, and things get trickier and trickier as his friends realize he's been lying all his life and start pushing him away. Finally, Anti-Cosmo has to choose between his comfy lies and his betrothed or else throw away everything so he can chase after Anti-Wanda... who might abandon him too, just like his friends did, and leave him alone and unloved.
Anti-Cosmo maintains his lies as long as he can, hurting his loved ones in the process, and struggles to pick up the pieces left behind. Even if no one else forgives him, he can't keep living in the past; he has to learn to forgive himself if he hopes to be approachable and trustworthy again. Being an evil villain, though, I guess whether or not he grows as a person is up for some debate...
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Factor It In (Rex) - Rex values his personal achievements; he finds joy in superhero work and regularly brags about himself, his schooling, and his home planet Hexagon in general (right down to the fact that his planet has "the tastiest raisins in the universe.") Unfortunately, he's stuck in a cycle of giving his all but never feeling satisfied with his achievements because he's "never the best." One of his greatest fears is being confronted with evidence that he really is a burden and a failure, which would absolutely crush his spirit.
Rex doesn't love the way that Becky pushes him around; she's not mean, she just tries to guide him towards foster care even though he doesn't want to go. He doesn't speak up about it because he wants to put his faith in her and believe that he can learn from her and become a better person (since "being a good person" is the one thing he values above personal pride). He still feels inexperienced and overwhelmed in the early chapters, so he's hesitant to speak up and explain why he doesn't like what Becky's doing... up until she starts crossing his boundaries and then he has to draw the line.
Rex's desire for independence leads him to trust very easily. He puts his faith in Victor, Tobey, Chuck, and Granny May, who steer him down a wobbly path of moral grays. Becky keeps pushing him further away, so Rex continues bonding with the villains because he feels safe with them. Obviously this doesn't end well and he has to face the consequences of choosing the villains over his friendship with WordGirl.
In his determination to mend things with WordGirl, Rex accidentally lands both of them in a terrible situation and puts them (and therefore the rest of the city) in danger. In order to fix this, he has to push through his personal pride (Ow), accept his mistake (Double ow), and go against his training (which became useless while Bad Situation is in effect) so he can find a new way to save the day.
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Factor It In (Becky) - Becky values her identity as a superhero and how much work she puts into protecting the city. She fears that Kid Math will be a worse hero than her (endangering people) but also fears Kid Math will be a better hero than her (blow to her self-confidence).
She can't resolve this problem in Chapter 1 because she's scared of hurting his feelings and would rather try other options to avoid direct confrontation; instead, she deals with her concerns by trying to "fix" Kid Math. She trains him and pushes him towards foster care. As long as she feels like she's helping him, she's assuaging both fears: she's proving she's "better" and she's helping him not be worse. Ergo, she "no longer has a problem."
Becky's already on a path that puts her in conflict with Rex, who desires control over his own life and has to deal with her pushing him around until he can't take it any more. Conflict arises when Becky oversteps boundaries and breaks Rex's trust in her. Things get worse when she makes a mistake that sours the city's attitude towards her. Her worst nightmare is coming true: she's "not as good as Kid Math" and people might get hurt without her.
As things keep getting worse for the city and Rex is struggling, it's obvious that she and Kid Math need to team up again. That means repairing their friendship... which she can only do if she proves that she really does trust Rex to do things by himself. Therein lies the pickle...
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Anyway, I really rambled on there, but... Point being, a lot of fun stuff goes in my table docs, and this is the type of outlining I like to do for characters and story plots.
I highly recommend having a table of contents doc for long 'fics. You don't need to bog it down with all your worldbuilding notes (Hopefully you have a separate place you can put those, like a Tumblr blog or other docs), but for things that you know you'll definitely need and are worried you might not be able to find again, I highly recommend keeping them in the table doc.
You shouldn't normally be editing your table doc after you've done your outlining, which means you're less likely to accidentally delete important notes (compared to keeping them in a story doc) and you won't bog your story doc down with stuff you need to scroll past.
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Chapter Docs [1 per chapter]
I have links to all my individual chapter docs (important to me since my chapters are normally 10k+ words... Can't fit everything in one doc or it would be a pain to navigate and take an age to load).
Here are some snippets of my outlines. As you can see, the descriptions I have in my table docs are loose and vague:
This is from Come What May:
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Come What May is special because it takes place over just a few days (while my long 'fics span months or even thousands of years). It's based around Kevin's appearances in Fairly OddParents Season 10.
I wanted to share this because even though my notes for "Cold Shadow" are basically nothing, it still gives the info that's actually important for me to know when returning to this project after a hiatus: "Here's exactly what day it is in the timeline. This episodes shows kids turning in a homework assignment on the founding fathers, which means we need to see Kevin doing this homework assignment (or at least acknowledging it) in prior chapters.
Regardless of the weird supernatural stuff Kevin is dealing with in this 'fic, it's still intended to be canon compliant, and I know that's a detail Future Me could easily forget but would want to know. It's like what I said earlier about birthdays and timelines: leave yourself clear notes. You'll never regret having too many notes, especially if you intend to return to a project after a long hiatus.
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Origin - I unfortunately scrapped my descriptions for all previous chapters of Origin and Knots so forgive the "spoilers," ha ha
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Origin was originally drafted in a single document, which I later split into separate chapter docs. That's why I have notes like "Hawkins hand scene." I know exactly what that's referring to and my table of contents doc helps me remember which chapter it got moved to.
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Knots - I wanted to show these to emphasize how vague some of these are:
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Even though they're vague, you can get a good sense of the direction the story is going. Outlining doesn't have to be a painful, in-depth process. You can knock out the basics in a single afternoon if you just sit down and do it.
I picked one chapter and opened it at random ("Fox's Folly") and it has 8k words in its draft right now. "Tipping Scales" has 15k. At the time of making this post, Frayed Knots only has 34 chapters posted in public, so we're at least 1 or 2 years away from getting to this point, yet there's already a lot of draft info I can go back to. I've added a lot of bits and pieces to these chapters over the years and sometimes I just open them when I'm in the mood for reading something fun.
Having the documents already set up in advance brings you one step closer to opening them and throwing stuff in them and I highly recommend that.
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Factor - These chapter outlines are more detailed (minus the early ones... the first 3 chapters were drafted as 1 chapter originally). If you've actually read Factor thus far, however, you'll notice that the scenes in my outline don't match perfectly with the finally chapters. And that's okay! The outlines are just guidelines and the final chapter can be different:
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Lots of screenshots but I feel like my Factor doc is the most authentic look at my outline process (since it's recent while Origin and Knots were outlined like 7 years ago). I use black on my initial draft and red for things I change on a later sweep.
There are little notes to myself and sometimes I switch the order of things around. Also, "Torus" was written from scratch (no outline) since I came up with ideas for it later, and the nice thing is that I felt comfortable doing that without feeling like I'll write myself into a corner or wreck the pacing.
Having a story outline and all these separate docs means I already know where the story is going and I can jump in and write from anywhere in the timeline when the mood strikes. I think having a lot of options on what to write is the best way to fight writer's block, so this system works well for me.
Origin was drafted in 2016 and Knots in 2017. I create new scenes all the time (and scrap others), but a lot of the early story beats are still the same.
That about covers what I do in my outline process :) Thanks for asking and hopefully this was a fun and interesting read!
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autisticlee · 2 years ago
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I have so many characteristics that make me feel like dating would be absolutely impossible to do and navigate, because they're such undesirable things that no one wants. i
if someone DOES want/are ok with them, there's so few of those people that they either already found someone, or they're out of my reach/we'll never meet. and that's if THEY match what I want as well, which then makes that pool even smaller.
i'm autistic. i'm asexual/aromantic. i'm trans/nonbinary. all things that make dating extraordinarily difficult to begin with.
i'm also not smart, rich, socially acceptable, or conventionally useful. i'm not physically attractive/don't match societal standards. i'm not likable to most people and can't even make or keep friends. my interests are very weird and niche, and it's hard to find people who share them.
if I can't figure out how to make and keep friends, how am I ever supposed to date? that's many levels ahead of where I am, almost end game. i'm at level 0. the tutorial level. except my tutorial glitched out before I even started and won't work. so I can't advance.
yes, I have good characteristics that people would be lucky to have (like loyalty, willingness to communicate, honesty, going out of my way to be there for people I care about, etc) but those things don't overshadow the ones above. first impressions kill me. my most noticeable traits kill me again. I can't lie or mask. no one gets to the smaller "good" traits or they simply aren't ever enough.
this is why I never tried to date and never even thought about it until now. I gave up before even starting because I knew it would be a dead end, a waste of time and energy.
i'm going to complain further under here, despite already making like 10 posts about the exact same bullshit:
"until now." so, I need someone who lives in canada to date me so I can move there from US and be with the only supportive people I have in my life lmao. my closest friends, my found family, who meet my needs, respect my boundaries, go out of their way to help me, and reciprocate everything mutually and equally. they actually want me in their lives. it's not one-sided, for the first time in my life. I don't question their motives or loyalties like every other friend I had in my life. it's genuine and real and they've stuck with me for like idk 5 years now? meeting irl (which usually ends my friendships for some reason...I guess people don't like me after meeting me outside of my internet persona?) it was solidified even more that we are the found family i've been wanting and needing my whole life. why do they have to be in a different country that has an extremely strict policy for being allowed to move there?!
so back to the dating thing a big problem is that I have too many barriers that I can't hide that make people uninterested or dislike me. I also can't control other people. people are unreliable and difficult as hell.
throw on top wanting to date someone specifically to move countries and they might question MY loyalties and think i'm only using them. when actually, I genuinely also want someone who can be part of our found family and be my life partner.
unfortunately, I know it will probably never happen, since it's not even about "trying" or "not giving up." I literally don't know how to try to find someone. like where to look?? social medias are collapsing and I get ignored everywhere. dating apps are for more hookups, polys, cheaters, and bots/catfish than real partnerships. I have no clue how to make people like me because who i am hasnt done me any favors ever in my life. waiting around for someone to come to me first just wastes my time! plus i'm picky as hell and can't accept just anyone.
people keep telling me "keep waiting you'll find The One! don't give up! I was in a similar position and i found someone!" that doesn't help me. it doesn't give me hope or whatever. I prefer actual helpful things like "I'll help you get there!" if you want to "help." I prefer to look at things realistically and live in the moment. not a future I can't see. and in this moment i'm stuck in a shitty anti-lgbt state with unsupportive and unaccepting family who don't treat me very well and no irl friends i can trust and rely on. no one can say that will for certain change in the future. things don't always magically change for the better and if you aren't prepared for that, you'll always be stuck in one place, waiting. i'm not being negative. it's more dynamic than that. it's more "I need an alternative in case this truly is a dead end." i'm simply not getting my hopes up for disappointment and fooling myself into believing that doing nothing and waiting will help, while life passes me by.
but I also can't do anything. because I don't know how/what to do
and by can't do anything I don't mean in life in general. I mean about getting out of my parents house so I can be free from them and fond a safe and comfortable place. I can't afford it alone obviously. I unfortunately need other people on my life, as much as i wish i could be a lone gremlin human and never need others. and that's the part I have no clue how to do. if the only humans who want me aren't attainable, then what? i've tried for over a decade and only had failures because people are unreliable and turn on me without warning, after i'm the only one who puts effort into trying to help us escape our situations. i'm TIRED. I can't keep trying to do everything alone and end up hurt and betrayed by fake friends. i'm so tired.
(if anyone reads this, don't try to comfort me because it won't work. if you relate, you can share that because that's fine. if you want to help me by being a candian who can sponsor me to move there then that's even more acceptable 🤣 if you find you cant stand me after im permanently there, i'll appreciate your help and let you go lmao)
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raviniaraven · 2 years ago
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You know what really bugs me about when dating apps like Tinder or Grindr or Bumble have the gender options like "Yeah you can pick whatever you want! Look at how inclusive we are!"
It's always followed by "do you want to appear in results for men or women". It's followed by "we don't know how to show people matches without making all results fit into this binary." It's basically letting you pick your exact identity and pronouns, then blocking you in with a side of the binary anyways bc they don't know how to code their site to suggest people as anything other than male or female. And most of the time that leads to trans/nonbinary folk that try to use these getting ignored/misgendered/harassed by cis people looking for other cis people that act like we're "invading their space"
You know the amount of insults and death threats I got when I tried to use Grindr? The amount of abrupt disconnects I got on Tinder from people that didn't read the bio?
These dating apps just straight up don't work if you aren't cis, and the things they're trying to make themselves look more inclusive aren't doing anything more than forcing us back into the binary in a way that either insults us or leads to us being treated badly
(And lemme tell you, LGBT specific dating apps aren't any better. I dealt with the same amount of transphobic shit on those, or just a lack of users period)
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samsalems · 2 years ago
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🧛‍♀️+🤝+💉 for... let's go with Lazslo, Elif and Heather (in whatever order/combo you like. answer all for any of them or only one I don't mind. gimme those babies.)
I'm gonna see if I can answer everything with everyone! Because those three simply do not get as much attention as they should :P
🧛‍♀️ Do they have any preference regarding who they feed on/how they feed?
Heather's feeding restriction leaves her forced to drink only from people working in STEM fields. Since it's kinda tricky to figure out someone's exact profession, she ends up mostly using dating apps. Somehow, she can't bring herself to feed on most of the women she meets, they are too sweet to her and she ends up genuinely liking them. The men tho...
Laszlo feeds on whoever they manage to lure into the darkness. Truly the opposite of a picky eater.
Elif tends to play with her food. She stalks them through the night, making sure they know she's there before she finds some way to single them out and feed from them. Does this put her into a lot of danger from time to time? ....Yeah but she thinks it's worth it. For lazy days, she simply feeds on animal blood.
🤝 What is their relationship with their sire like?
Heather is her sire's worst investment - and she dislikes him massively for getting her into this mlm bullshit clan. They don't talk, unless they need to. Laszlo texts his sire from time to time... but that's about it. They are on friendly terms but nothing more and nothing less.
Elif will tell you she loves her sire, she really does. Now, is that true? On some days yes. On other days, the memory of her own embrace is too strong.
💉 Have they sired anyone? If so - why, how and did they claim their childe?
Heather isn't really interested in bringing anyone else into Clan Ventrue. They dislike her, they'd dislike her offspring.
Laszlo most likely secretly sired someone before, only to get rid of them. It's nasty, but they'd argue that no one should suffer for eternity simply because they themselves couldn't handle a flight of fancy.
Elif really really wants to sire someone. Ideally, a hunter! Someone who really deserves it. But first she would need to find someone and then maybe get permission...
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Oh hey I'm in this group and I know this guy. The (quite significant number of) mushroom experts here are some of the most dedicated and knowledgeable mushroom identifiers you'll ever find. They do this in their free time because they see that their expertise is needed in situations where official services like poison control don't have the necessary insight to help. Do not use identification apps to determine which mushrooms to pick when you are foraging! Instead: - Bring an up-to-date identification guide for your region. Mushrooms are a quite new field of study and literature on the subject gets updated frequently as more discoveries are made. A book that is just fifteen years old may describe one species as edible when the species in question might actually be comprised of several subspecies where one is poisonous.
- Have someone knowledgeable with you to check the specimens you're unsure about!
- Only pick mushrooms for eating if you are 100% sure of the species, or at least 100% sure it's not a poisonous mushroom. Some mushrooms you don't need to know which exact species they belong to. Russulas are notoriously hard to tell apart without a microscope, but all mild-tasting russulas are edible and you can determine whether a specimen is safe to eat by chewing a bit of the cap and spitting it out. - If you want help identifying a specimen, there are identification services connected to species databases that can give you a good idea of at least what genus it might belong to. Or depending on factors like how good your provided pictures are, how many listings there are of the genus in the database, and so on, you might get an entirely correct answer. Don't trust them blindly, but use them as a starting point in looking further into identifying your finds. - There are mushroom identification groups online. If you can join a local one, people can often help you with ID:ing your finds. Provide clear shots in natural light from several angles along with information about the environment you found them in. Several of the mushroom experts of the aforementioned group are active in Svamp-Klapp, which is primarily a Swedish mushroom group on Facebook but that does have members posting about finds from all over Europe. - If you are able to determine that a specimen is not a protected species that should be left untouched, you can pick one to bring along to study later. Keep unidentified specimens separate from anything you intend to eat.
Just so everyone is aware:
An international group of qualified mushroom identifiers who do worldwide identification in emergency cases have identified the Shroomers App as a potentially very dangerous system that could kill you if you try to use it to identify edible mushrooms. They use AI to generate almost all of their content, including their identification profiles on their app as well as their books and other materials. Not only is this unethical from a content creation standpoint, it is also extremely dangerous.
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DO NOT USE APPS FOR IDENTIFICATION PURPOSES BEYOND SIMPLE CURIOSITY. A MISTAKE WHEN IDENTIFYING AN EDIBLE COULD COST YOU YOUR LIFE. DO NOT EAT ANY FORAGED MUSHROOM YOU CANNOT IDENTIFY YOURSELF BY SIGHT OR HAS BEEN IDENTIFIED IN PERSON BY SOMEONE WHO CAN.
ONLY BUY BOOKS FROM REPUTABLE SOURCES AND AT THIS POINT THAT MEANS ASKING EXPERIENCED PEOPLE WHAT BOOKS THEY USE.
Mushrooms are fun, amazing organisms. Enjoy safely.
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I guess I can understand that, I feel that when you use more proper grammar I can detect your tone through the usage of your kaomojis and punctation. I also know you well enough through your profile that you didn't mean it personally or cruel, so don't worry!
Ah, I don't exactly want to be an anon but this is my only choice at the moment. If that makes little sense. The only reason why I have composure is purely self-confidence but saying that just sounds absorbed. Being direct and impatient is better than being indirect and impatient, you know exactly what you want and work to get it yourself. I prefer that a lot more. Indirectness rather gets on my nerves as it is hard for me to just know.. (also autism.) To be completely honest I don't know if there is an exact set date or so but I'd like to say November is when my interest fully started. It feels much longer for some reason though. Thank you, I stressed about that for quite some time so I'm glad you understand.
Really? I'll try to say them more often. I am looking forward to getting to know you more as well!
I forgot that I had those tools at my disposal that help with my tone … Kaomoji win !!!! ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ I love my silly little emoticons! Though I do wish I had more… I use the ones off of the Japanese keyboard they provide, as I do not trust any sort of. Custom keyboard app. I am too nervous of the fact they may be able to read what is being typed… Due to that reluctance, I do have a much more limited supply of Kaomoji to use but. It’s okay!!! I am able to make do with what I have. I also have my punctuation that also assists with my silliness . I do not quite know when it started… Thank you for reassuring me about my tone troubles!! It’s actually . A rather common worry…… I’m sure you know me quite well, since you’ve been watching for a few months !!
Oh, I did not mean to come off as forceful if I did at all… you can stay under anon as long as you want! I was just expressing my own personal feelings. We all have our personal reasons for being on anon! You can take as much time as you’d like. I don’t think you come off as self-absorbed at all . It’s good to have self-confidence!! I personally enjoy those who do! No shame in not having any, of course, but it’s always admirable to see those with it. It’s much better to compliment yourself rather than degrade yourself.
You would be right about that… I did not even consider that view of it. I also heavily dislike indirect people (autism)!!! Personally, being indirect in any way just makes me more frustrated . I don’t know how people do it ???? It’s much easier to be outright about things instead of tip toeing around a subject and praying they figure it out by themselves. I would be driven insane watching someone come close to it, only to veer completely off course. Then you just end up having to be direct about it in the end anyways . (Does this segment even make sense …. It’s late and my brain is a little fuzzy so I apologize if this is incoherent!!!!) A lot of neurotypical people are rather indirect, I’ve realized. There’s many things expected of me that I miss because people don’t. Tell me what they want. My parents have told me several times that I was being rude for not helping them with something, but I was just never asked. Confusing !!!
November !! That is quite a while, actually ?? Nearly four months! That’s a long time! For me, anyways. The days have been going by so slow…. Mostly since I’ve been working the whole time. Thank you for sticking around so long!! We might’ve not talked a lot, but I appreciate your presence regardless. I enjoy knowing that people tune into my silly little blog. My life is not incredibly chaotic and worth blogging about but. It’s something! I get the stress behind that. Oftentimes, I leave people on delivered or read for days at a time because I get too busy and wrapped up in other things to respond. I don’t prioritize their texts, as they’re not that pressing to me to reply to in the moment, but I end up leaving them for far too long for me to reply back….:… it’s mortifying. My family and friends Hate me . Worst texter in the world award goes to me!!! falls dead . Though I respond insanely quickly if it’s someone I’m fixated on. Very opposite ends of the spectrum ! But anyways . I find that, as long as you come back to them at some point — it’s much better than leaving for good. I need to hammer this idea into my brain as well………. I hope whatever you had to deal with got resolved!
Speaking of mortifying. I am mortified over how I replied last time. I really do not know how to reply to others when I’m left speechless ……… you said something so meaningful and I just. “looking forward to get to know you!” leave me to the leopard seals……… I accept my fate . …………. 🦭🦭🦭 My one true weakness is any kind of sentimental words.. I’ll do my best to improve on my responses!! I feel positive emotion at a greater level than others, so it’s rather difficult to properly formulate that into words . . . Perhaps I will settle for a multitude of explosion gifs!
I hope you had a good day/night !! I am headed off to sleep now as I am. Rather exhausted after today’s activities….. again, I am sorry if this is insanely disorganized! Thank you for talking to me !! zzzzzZSnore
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