#I deleted the Tumblr app off my phone the other day. Need a social media detox. I was wasting a lot of time on here

[solradguy]

The weather needs to stop being cold and cloudy and stupid and miserable so my brain gets back out of fart stink hibernation seasonal affective disorder bastard mode. I gotta draw Sol Badguy but my motivation is directly tied to how much the sun's been out like I'm some kinda sunflower solar panel

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

WIBTA if i cut off someone reaching out for help on tumblr? i am a very anxious person. ive been on tumblr a very long time because most all other social media terrifies me as someone who grew up with the wild west internet a decade past (im in my late 20s) so i feel sometimes with how reckless and spurractic people can be online in chatroom and especially clearly public platforms where any stranger, malicious or otherwise can just archive your digital presence for personal use.

more recently as someone who has been here during the pornban and as an asexual really enjoyed the quiet with no drama farming and a slow pace to talk about more unique political topics in a measured way it is something im strangely nostalgic for and a great example of my sensibilities to people when they insist that i use other platforms like discord or twitter or whatever clone for these services comes out of the old guard introducing feature creep to copy everyone else or any other indi "were the anti corporate version" of the endless scroll apps. i just dont want it. tumblr is special because im desktop only, been here for years, and i have kept track of every single change made so i have manually adjusted the change through hacks to evade every bad decision on here and make my set up look identical to how it was in 2010. so let it be understood that i tend to be a loney person because of this stubbornness. web 3.0 is too dangerous to people with addictive tendencies that my adhd brings out and my need to wear my heart on my sleeve. so i hope i defended my personality type enough to show why someone like me would see a post about some horrible abuses they have fell victim to who also share alot of the marginalized status as me and writing depressive things in the replys of others posts as to attention seek about it.

i directly interact with this person, not only to check if they are real (but wow, modern chat bots make this part horrifying for me. we really cant ever know for sure what is real anymore. trying to find warmth on the internet feels impossible now a days) i have multiple conversations at this point both venting and just casually shooting the shit. but the begging for me to constantly repost their paypal makes me so nervous in a way that i feel so guilty for because it reminds me of all the scams that get associated with this kind of ebegging and the reminder that capitalism takes away all warmth from human interaction to make them purely transnational and conditional. but then it just has been escalating where im so scared that now its not enough that im reposing on my 8 follower, all mutual blog, they are asking me to share it on other socials. accounts i do not have i have a flip phone and a laptop and i am tinkering with a windows 7 tower that will never be connected to the internet so i can always have software sit perfectly in its time capsule for when i need it. i do not have a way to help this person outside of what i learned from collage psyche classes. a part of me is so scared to just abruptly cut them off and just delete my entire account like i tend to do often on tumblr for a multitude of reasons, its a part of what lets people survive being here this long but i worry that would crush them if i did that, i dont want to make them feel more hopeless and unwanted then they already talk about. but i am text on the internet through a screen. i can only do so much. so would i be the asshole if i just deleted my account with a "i hope you hang in there, the world is a harsh place but keep moving" to cut someone so similar to me who is struggling out of my life?

What are these acronyms?

[belleame333]

how i overcame my phone addiction.

so for some background, i used to have a screen time of about 8 hours daily. i used my phone all day, every day, obsessively scrolling through tiktok and other social media apps. this did a significant number on my mental health and social life, and when i decided i wanted to work on myself i knew that this was the thing i needed to change first. so here's what i did to bring it down to less than one hour a day (some of the advice i took is from faye bate on youtube, go check out her video on the topic!)

turned off my app limit: this may seem counterproductive, but whenever i had my app limit on i would just press 5 more minutes until the next pop-up came and i would just press ignore and continue scrolling. i realized that it just didn't do anything.

deleted ALL games and social media: yes, even tumblr, and now i only have it on my laptop. i know many have FOMO (fear of missing out), and i did too, that is what keeps pulling us back to all these social media apps. no, it won't kill you if you do not see your friend's insta story or what your favorite tiktoker wore that day. trust me, it was hard to delete it all, especially since it gave me that feeling of being connected, but i just did it. that's what you need to remember in this whole journey: to just do it, even if you don't want to at first, you will not regret it. we see so much of other people's lives on social media that we forget about our own, that's why i cut my screen time so much, i wasn't focusing on myself and my own life.

put my phone far away/turn it off: whenever i leave a room i leave my phone in there, i put it up somewhere out of reach or i just turn it off completely, easy as that. also, when i go to school, i leave my phone at home sometimes so i don't go on it during class.

stopped listening to music: this was probably the hardest thing to do because i used to listen to music 24/7 but that fucked my brain up too since i just couldn't sit in silence without thinking about putting on music, and if i put on music, i also wanted to scroll through my phone. this also helped me to calm my mind a bit, because before i was constantly just singing in my head.

found other hobbies: i now do yoga, meditate, work out, read and solve puzzles; not long ago these were all things i didn't do because i was always on my phone. you don't even need a new hobby necessarily, you just need to do other stuff to get your mind off your phone, preferably something productive that's good for you.

did a dopamine detox: this is what i recommend most tbh. i found simonesquared’s videos on the topic to be the best and i followed what she did. i suggest you do your research into it but basically, it's not interacting with anything that gives us a dopamine kick (our phones, music, etc.) for a full day. i do this regularly now and it's been a great help with getting me away from my phone.

i truly hope someone found this helpful, love u xx

[mokeonn]

What are you planning to do now? Genuine question. Need sliver of direction now.

Right now, I am going to call out of work, sit on my couch, noise canceling headphones in, phone off, dead to the world as I read nonfiction and theory that will hopefully bring me comfort.

At this point, if I see ANY opinion related to the topic at hand, whether it agrees with me or not, I'll get thrown into an angry meltdown. So I'm just going to hide away from the world for the next two days or so to help me process and calm down enough that I won't be sent into a flying rage at literally any opinion related to current events.

The most I can say without raging is simple: I think a lot of people are catastrophizing, misdirecting their anger, and forgetting who will be the most effected by these results. I think so many people are worried about being caught in the crossfire they forget who the target is.

I am also considering deleting the Tumblr app from my phone and completely turning social media into a "computer only" activity because I don't think having access to literally everyone's opinion at any given time on a device I already spend too much time on is healthy for me, especially after seeing how that device has effected other people after 10 years.

[fleetingkurra]

About This Blog

[Last updated: 8/11/2023]

Hi fellow gamers & FFXIV players!

As you may all know, I basically came from Twitter just a day ago (07/03/2023) mainly due to the constant changes that have been made on that platform. So, I found an alternative way to post my JRPG/FFXIV knick-knacks (just in case Twitter got permanently broken), which is Tumblr!

Additionally, I have a separate FFXIV/FF blog that I mainly use for my longer written entries, where things can sometimes get a little bit serious.

Overall, for this Tumblr account, “Kurra’s Hideout,” please expect a few poses/screenshots, short quest updates, a few reblogs, and FFXIV/JRPG-related fan arts from me! (°▽°)/

You can also view this entry on a separate 📒page.

Navigation Guide can also be accessed 🗺️here.

Other FFXIV Screenshots are 🖼️here.

I needed a space where I can comfortably post daily/weekly updates on Kurra's progress or simply document the adventures she has without flooding some of my mutuals on this blog. So, I've created a sideblog that contains FFXIV daily (or weekly) logs of Kurra and it can now be accessed ✒️here.

🌸 FINAL UPDATE 🌸

08/11/23: In case you're seeing this as I did not plan to make this as a separate post -- I might take a break from posting on sns, especially here, except on my main (it's on a different account) starting today. I don't know if I will come back, and during my absence, I might not be sending ♥ as I'll be deleting the apps from my phone as well. I've enjoyed lurking here, seeing your FFXIV-related posts, fanarts, and stuff, which has made me love the game even more and appreciate the community better. I just don't think that my posts and mere updates contribute to anything, not even to myself. I have finally decided to be laidback and enjoy the moments I have in-game without overposting. Which then led me to finally archive this account. Although I have enjoyed participating in OC questions, along with other similar activities, and sharing support with my fellow FFXIV players during this short period of time, I think social media, on the whole, is not really for me.

I am also still undecided about discontinuing posts on my blogpost account. However, if I decide not to, you are always welcome to visit. But don't expect consistent posts there.

You can also support my partner/EB @skyeblue-phoenix once he gains his energy to do posts again. He is more social butterfly than me. 🙂

Again, thank you so much for your warm welcome and supportive community. I will now continue my journey in-game in solitude. This is Kurra, signing off. 👋

𝓟𝓮𝓪𝓬𝓮!

Author: Neir / @angrybluemint

[destinyc1020]

phone addiction is real and normalized and i haaaate it. i feel like so many of us are on some level addicted to screens, and i just absolutely hate the feeling of it. like i love coming on here, seeing content, catching up, but when i'm away too long i honestly get really restless and feel like i 'have' to check to see whats up in the entertainment world. i've been working on this for years, too, trying to figure out ways to just chill and maybe log off of things for a few days, but i struggle to even manage that. what i want is just a nice balance of checking up on fandom stuff casually, not feeling like i need to do it or that i'm missing something if i'm away for a few days. it's baaad!! and then you go out and see people glued to their screens in restaurants, with their kids, in every situation possible. theres so many advantages to phones but i feel like their disadvantages aren't talked about enough. i love how tom has spoken up about stepping back from checking social media, i hope z for her own health does the same sometimes cause whew,cannot imagine being famous and having social media convo being about myself!

Yea girl....I feel you lol.

I think society has kind of normalized this behavior of "Phubbing" in public also. However, if you look back to old movies, or even old photographs, you'll see images or pictures of people casually enjoying one another's company at a restaurant and giving everyone their full attention.

But if you go out to eat in 2023, and look around a crowded restaurant, you're guaranteed to notice at least more than a few people phubbing the ppl they're with at the same table because they're deep into their phones. I've even seen a group of friends (not mine) all at the same table, and EVERY SINGLE ONE of them had their heads bent into their phones.... nobody talking to each other... 😑

I'm like, what's the point in even going out as a group of friends if all you're going to be doing is ignoring each other the entire night? Rofl 😆 🤣

Anyway, I totally agree with what Tom says about giving yourself a BREAK from social media, and just your devices in general!!🥰 That's just wise advice imo. 🤷🏾‍♀️

I know it sounds super crazy, but I guarantee you that if you were to delete all of your social media apps from your phone and stay away from them for two weeks, you will realize that you feel SO MUCH BETTER, and your addiction will subside. 😊

***You are addicted BECAUSE you keep going on these sites lol. If you stay away from them, the less you will be addicted, believe me. 💯

It will be tough, but that's why it's called an ADDICTION. That's classic addiction symptoms if you can't stop doing smthg, or you feel anxious or uneasy when you remove the addiction from your life.

However, it DOES get easier with every passing day that you don't give in to your addiction.

You're only feeding your addiction the more you go on it and can't stay stay away from it for many days.

Just like Tom noticed that he had a problem with alcohol and started to stay away from it, you can find (just like he did) that it gets easier the longer you stay away from it! 😊 The first step however is (as you've already done) recognizing that you have an addiction.

I know for me personally, I stop craving it when I get off of even Tumblr for a few days lol 😆 I highly recommend it. I also think that a lot of fans will STOP feeling so anxious about Tomdaya every two seconds when you're not following their every move every second of the day. 👀🤷🏾‍♀️

I'm telling you, NOT being addicted to your phone is a wonderful thing! 😊

You can even try a "Living in the 90s" Challenge by driving someplace close to home (maybe the grocery store or smthg) and actually *gasp*! leaving your cellphone at HOME!! 😳🤯😲

I'm getting anxiety just even thinking about doing that rofl 🤣, but I've actually contemplated doing that just as a challenge for myself to see if I can actually do it, and not break out in a cold sweat wondering where my phone is, what I'm missing, or whether someone has tried to reach me at some point lol 😅

I think what we will find when/if we do this, however, is that we're way more PRESENT in our lives, we make more conversations with ppl in public, and we will probably notice so many more things in our life when we leave the phone at home, or just leave it in our purse. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[the1975attheirverybest]

As a Taylor swift fan… I understand a bit why people are “missing” Matty. I joined the 1975 fandom right when he left social media, so I don’t know what Matty used to be like with fans… but it sounds similar to Taylor.

She used to have fans over to her house, let them listen to her albums at big house parties, do surprise meet and greets, and be super active on social media. But then she stopped. But not because she wanted to… because she had to. It was starting to become both a safety issue and a mental health issue.

Because like it or not, if you���re logging into instagram every day to talk to your fans… you’re also gonna see other stuff. Like hate, body shaming, and rumors about you. And it messed Taylor up. She famously tells this story where she was in such a bad place mentally because of her Instagram/Twitter use that Joe snuck on her phone and deleted all her apps. She was pissed at him, but like 2 days later she realized how much better she felt.

It’s just… a fact…. That once you get to a certain level of fame, it’s a trade off. You CANT be super personal anymore. And If you try and push through and do it anyway, it’ll destroy you.

Another example is that this tour, Taylor isn’t doin any meet and greets. A lot of fans were really mad at her about that.. but like what is her other option? At this point she is SO famous that the security and safety is a big concern… but also she’s playing three hours. Do we really expect her to be up til like 1 am meeting fans? Sure… for a small artist that might be no big deal, but the bigger you get, the more complicated simple tasks can be.

My point is… what Matty is currently doing is very typical of many other celebrities, and I don’t think it means he’s stopped caring about us. I think he’s just reached a bit of a breaking point and he needs a break, to try something new. Maybe he’ll come back once he’s feeling better… but maybe he won’t. Maybe he will decide that in order to stay sane he needs to put a little bit of separation between his life and his job. And I don’t think he deserves to lose fans for that.

- 🔆

Yeah, I remember Taylor’s active days on tumblr even and how she used to do vlogs too. Some of them are on YouTube I think so you can even see what she was like. And it’s a real fact that people were awful to her especially when she first got famous.

Y’all can correct me, but, am I right in thinking that Matty’s interactions were kinda different? Like he had a different approach. Maybe I’m wrong, I don’t know.

And to be fair, I don’t think he’s stopped caring at all. He’s Matty. All he does is care, lmao. So, he can’t have made that decision easily, I’m sure. And that man’s love for the fans is so clear. SO SO clear. I think we’re just mostly sad that the band’s relationship to the fandom is changing.

[interstellar-lamb]

As a parent who is often on her phone this is actually constantly on my mind tbh. Like I am hyperaware of the shitty example I am setting while simultaneously being too drained and tired to truly fight it.

I just deleted my social media apps off my phone, save for tumblr bc I don't doomscroll on here, so literally the only other thing I use my phone for is sudoku and I still prefer doing that over actual human communication or doing something fun, bc nothing feels fun.

Don't get me wrong. I do stuff with my kids. We go out to playgrounds. I literally just played soccer with them, then basket ball, then climbed a fucking tree with them. We go to petting zoos. Market trips. Library trips. Movie theater. I'm not on my phone for that stuff.

But yall, capitalism is killing everybody, and that includes parents. The pandemic was awful. Everything is becoming inaffordable. We are tired. I've been sick over 11 times this winter. Every fucking virus is having a field day. I've got my fourth ear infection. I'm exhausted.

I need my little doom screen 😭

im so done with seeing articles about kids and screen time that doesnt mention parent behaviors even once. “kids are always on their phones” so are the parents! which the kids look to for how they should behave! ipad babies didn’t chose to only play on their ipads, thats what their parents gave them!

an anecdotal example: when i was a kid, all my parents would do in their minimal free time was watch tv and then they would be surprised when in my sister and i’s minimal free time we would also only watch tv/play video games. they scolded us for not reading books, but they never read books. they scolded us for not going outside but they never went outside.

“kids are always on their damn phones” my mom is in her 60s and opens up candy crush anytime she’s sitting — it isnt just the kids

[tonytylerdraws]

August Newsletter - Artist of Nothing 002

So far this month

Brushes

I’m still in the process of finalizing the design of the image, but I want to share Ibis Paint custom brushes. A lot art tutorials and resources lean heavily into Procreate and Clip Studio Paint; not too many focus on Ibis Paint X, which is the drawing app I use. So, in addition to brushes, I hope I can also share tutorials as well.

Worked on Website

I worked a bit on my website, which has been up and running for awhile now. I am one of those people who can never stick with a single design. I think my old Synaptic Misfiring website went through 5 redesigns, and I barely drew that webcomic for 5 years.

Art I’ve done

I finished pieces of art, all in Ibis Paint. The pixel art was inspired by Pokémon and the work of Brandon James Greer.

July Recap

Took a social media break

About mid-July I was realizing that I wasn’t really spending work on a lot of the stuff I had wanted to. And in fact, most of 2024 I hadn’t spent working on things. I thought it was The Funk (which it was) but I was also spending a lot of time on social media. And with social media being as broken as it is nowadays, I was putting more hours in to get the same sort of enjoyment that I was getting back in 2019.

So I deleted apps off my phone and just…existed. I didn’t try to force myself draw or work on art, or get into a productivity fugue state. I really put a lot of thought into how I was using social media, both in my personal life and with my semi-pro art life.

A lot of my social media use was due to habit; I would go to Tumblr, then Instagram, and then back to Tumblr, etc. None of it was fulfilling. None of it gave me anything of substance. I can’t tell you any of the posts I’ve actually liked. Or why I follow an artist. I just did things.

And this lead me to look how I was using social media for my art. I wasn’t getting engagement, whether it was comments, shares or likes. So why was I making art FOR social media. Why was I making a piece of art specifically for Instagram if it wasn’t going to perform well? Why appease an algorithm that doesn’t care about me.

So I ended up changing my whole approach not to just social media, but also my art life. It’s about making art first, and then making content from that art, rather than making art as content. It’s the difference between recording myself drawing and making a short form video instead of recording myself making art specifically from a short video.

It also means I don’t need to worry about posting 5 days a week in order to get engagement. Social media is broken, so why try and use it as a central part of my workflow

I’m hoping that this will help me feel better not just about making art, but also sharing it through social media.

Rest of August

Exploring other platforms

I’m looking at Cara, Telegram, Snapchat and other non-algorithmic platforms, while at the same time not being platform-dependent. Platforms aren’t safe anymore; look what happened to Patreon in the last few days.

Store

I’m in the process of finalizing my products. All print-on-demand for now, and starting small. I definitely will be trying some digital downloads.

Find me elsewhere on the web, including Substack! See you next month.

[chai-hat-tea]

why did you go off the social media for 10 days?? just curious 👀 (PLEASE GIVE SOME TIPS TOO TO STAY AWAY FROM SOCIAL MEDIA LIKE YOU DID DESPITE LOUIS RELEASING HIS LIVE ALBUM ETC ETC, I AM BEGGING YOU 😭😭 I HAVE EXAMS COMING UP, YET I CAN'T STAY AWAY FROM SOCIAL MEDIA ESP. TUMBLR)

Hi Anom Nom!!! Soooo I was off at a meditation retreat (which I honestly recommend to EVERYONE. It’s called Vipassana and it’s all over the world and you don’t even have to pay anything to go there, just donation at the end of it as a way of sponsoring the next student cuz they don’t charge anyone) and we’re not allowed to use our phones for the duration of this course. Or talk to anyone except the teacher or other servers who volunteer to help you (yeah reach out to me for more info I’ll be so fucking thrilled to tell you more about it cuz it literally changed my life). So I just wanted to tell people I’ll be off even though it’s not like anyone would notice lol. But yeah XD

As for the adviceeeee you’re really asking the wrong person lol I reach for my phone for every small thing in every 10-20 seconds. However, when I REALLY need to get something done:

1. I delete all the distraction apps so that my phone is boring without them.

2. It helps to switch it off and throw it in a corner where you can’t easily see it if you live alone/give it to someone you live with and ask them to keep it far away from you until you’re done with the task.

So yeah Anom Nom, I really had no way of using my phone which is the only way I got off social media 😂 my control has improved, but it’s yet to be tested. I also remind myself that phones and shit are all things meant to make you only consume and be an addict to consumption and fully dependent on capitalism (fuck capitalism) so to spite those companies it’s easier to not use your phone and let them control you.

Hope this helped, thank you so much for your ask!!!

[thejennydreadful]

The De-Cluttering

I think if there’s one thing that my life needs more than anything, it's a good ol’ de-cluttering. And not just my apartment, although yes that, too… I’m always doing my best with it, but things just have a way of piling up so fast.

The same goes for every other aspect of my life, including my online life. I first appeared online in 1995, but it was when I first got on social media 14 years later, in 2009, that my current situation really began to develop.

Now it’s another 14 years later and it’s become clear that it’s time to re-think things once, again.

Dave started me thinking about this by deleting his own Facebook and Twitter, but I couldn’t quite bring myself to delete my actual accounts. I’ve posted so much over the years, so if anything, they could be great sources of content for future projects, both personal and business. Not to mention that I have built up a certain following on these different platforms, and I wouldn’t want to lose those avenues of promotion.

What I have done, though, is deleted certain apps from my phone. It was something that only took a couple of seconds to actually do, but it’s a huge step for me, nonetheless.

I’m not deleting any content and/or profiles, at least not right now, but I am taking a step back. I have deleted the Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr, and TikTok apps from my phone.

I have an addiction to checking those apps over and over and over again. I know they’re designed to make you want to do that, but it works a little too well on me. So, I’m going to restrict myself to using those websites on an actual computer, only. You know, like the old days! :-p

That’s it. I think that’s a big enough step for now. I just want to try and focus more on the stuff that really matters… the stuff I’m creating (or at least want to create). These apps also prey on one thing that has dominated a lot of my life: loneliness.

I'm an oversharer because I've just found it to be an effective way to connect with others, even if it works to my detriment, at times. What can I say, my free-spirited, yet seeking nature has led me down many paths. :-p

All in all, I just feel that I will be better off, the more I can clean things in my life up. Frankly, I can use all the help I can get. :-p

[pancakeke]

I've seen posts saying tumblr is surprising these tags from trending and that tumblr is not allowing links to news articles about Palestine but I think we need to be reasonable haters here. this is the site whose search can't find posts you've made on your own blog. the site that, for some reason, has recently applied mature content filters to multiple untagged photos I've taken of myself (fully clothed) and random other things that I posted 5 years ago. the site that a few days ago would not allow me reply to my own post until I force stopped and reopened the app. the site that can't let you edit a video post on mobile if you made it on desktop. the site that will randomly tell you a popular fandom tag only has like 20 posts total in it. the site that wont update people's icons on the app until you manually clear its cache. perhaps incompetence is a more likely issue here than malice.

and to get ahead of this, tumblr does not have the ability to push pro-isreal ads. that is not how running ads work. I can link an explanation of this if anyone needs it, I reblogged it a few days ago. tumblr does not protect terfs and nazis either. they get deleted constantly and just remake. I have blocked a few of the same freaks multiple times now but they always come back with slightly different urls. I've also seen a few people get deleted for arguing against nazis and terfs, but they admittedly kept telling nazis and terfs to kill themselves. so idk what those users thought would happen. all social media have rules that you can't do that. whether or not you agree, you know what to expect.

according to glassdoor tumblr only has 50-200 employees. that's nothing. yeah they were able to delete posts targeting a member of their staff yet they don't do that for normal users. but that probably has to do with this staff member having the phone number to a manager with the power to nuke posts. we don't have that number, and tumblr clearly does not have the moderation power to review every individual report and nuke whatever ungodly number of posts that would entail every day.

I do agree a lot of changes to this site suck ass and make it less user friendly. also it appears to be using more automation to handle content moderation yet the intelligence of this automation is shit (every site is integrating more machine learning into everything these days and due to this the quality of everything is dropping off so hard).

it's really frustrating to me when I have an opinion/argument and someone else who shares the sentiment supports it with bullshit evidence. you are making us all look bad. being a good hater requires research. don't just say shit.

palestine is trending #1 right now btw

[icewindandboringhorror]

maybe is very Bigg Nerd of me but I absolutely love when it gets to this time of year and I sit down and reorganize my goals, write up a new schedule, make a to-do list for the next year, discard/donate everything I’m not using, etc. etc. It’s jost.. Refreshinge.. despite the fact that no matter how much planning I do I’m always going to have functioning issues and other factors inhibiting me lol, it’s still like, Well Hey At Least I’m Trying, And I Love To Organize Shelves Babey

[gilmore-gossip]

How to use your phone less

1. Track your screen time. This can easily be accessed through your settings whether you have an android or iOS.

2. Turn off ALL notifications, even the messages. My rule is that if they don’t call, then it’s not important enough. But of course you can keep the notifications on if you really need it for some messages. Personally it helped a lot in reducing phone use. You don’t need to reply to someone within thirty seconds. You have a life. And you clearly don’t need to constantly check your social media. Same for turning on notifications for YouTube videos, Instagram accounts and even tumblr blogs. It makes you spend so much more time even when you didn’t plan to. You will see those posts once you access the app anyway. I recommend the “do not disturb” feature for iPhone and if you use it remember to turn on the calls from important people.

3. I recommend the r/nosurf subreddit on Reddit, many people share useful tips and success stories of them using the phone less! It’s motivating.

4. Change the location of your apps often. It’s insane how we mindlessly click on apps when we don’t want to open them yet, but we do it anyway. I did this with TikTok and I even hid it from recent apps, it helped a lot until I ended up deleting it. Best decision ever.

5. Delete apps. Do it. Even if you have to access Instagram through the mobile browser, it will help you to use it less and you can still answer messages there. You can’t add stories, though. This can also apply to other apps. You should delete the most addicting ones that make you feel unproductive and miserable.

6. Don’t use the phone first thing you wake up in he morning and before you go to sleep for at least an hour. It will both improve your day and sleep.

7. It’s okay to sometimes not have your phone on you. You don’t need to go to the bathroom and mindlessly scroll through useless posts. Pick up a book or just be alone with your thoughts for a bit. Listening to podcasts isn’t a bad idea, though. Take more walks and just observe the world around you. Our phones are making us live too digitally and we often forget what the real world is like. Appreciate the nature. 🍃

8. If you have to use your phone more than necessary, at least use it to do something productive. A new language, responding to your family, partner and friends, podcasts, taking care of your social media if you are a content creator, news, any other skill you can cultivate on your phone.

Thank you for reading and I hope it helped you as much as it helped me! 🤍 Remember that while it’s even better to not use phone at all, sometimes we need it. Whether it’s for your safety, information or simply just a bit of entertainment but it’s crucial to reduce your phone use if it’s more than 3 hours a day, and let’s be honest, most of us spend more than 7 hours daily which affects our mood and health.

[uhohnotanotherwp]

1

Oh no, not another WP!

My name is Ana and I happen to love WP’s! (WP = Writing Prompt). Of course, I would like them, because I have always loved to write. Even when I was vey little, I could be found tucked away in a quiet place with my pens and notebooks, completely content.

For years and years I have had Tumblr on my many, many phones and devices and I think, if nothing else, that really does mean something. No matter what I have gone through, and it would be underestimating just how much that entails to simply say it has been very much, I have always kept Tumblr within reach. I surely didn’t have to, and neither am I one of those that lets my phone collect apps I don’t open or pay much attention to. In terms of social media alone, in the time I have known and used Tumblr, many social media platforms were installed on my phones, lived short, barely remembered lives, and then deleted. And more surprising than all of this, is that in all that time I remained mostly silent.

Sure, I have reposted other Tumblr’s posts when I felt the message they sent was one that needed to be heard, or read a WP that I knew some other writers would have a good time with, but I didn’t say much. Oh, I used Tumblr to read and view content about my primary interests—reading, writing, art, and programming—but I very rarely embraced the community. I feel like now is the time to change all of that just as soon as possible.

Just one more little diversion from the creativity one usually embraces in a WP post, before I post my very first ever WP on Tumblr, and then I’ll get right down to business. Some time ago, I’d say somewhere between five and ten years ago, I lost that feeling of importance I once had in using my voice to talk about what I felt mattered. I’m not exactly sure why it happened—and don’t honestly know if I’ll ever really knew what caused this—, why I just lost the spark I had to reach out to others and build friendships, but for a long time it really didn’t mean much to me anymore. Let me now go on to say that when something like that happens, it should be a gods-damned wake up call. Instead, I withdrew inward and cut myself off from the world, perhaps as some sort of uninspired defense mechanism. I wasn’t protecting myself, I know that now. Just disappearing from view like that, something which I have developed quite the affinity for over the years, isn’t productive and caused me to overanalyze everything around me…because I could. Because I wasn’t part of the world. I had checked out.

Recently all that changed. I wish I could tell you what it took, but I really can’t. I just began to put one step in front of the other until I was walking again. And becoming restless. This restlessness has been too much for me to bear, so here we are.

WP 1

You are a scientist, and not one of very much importance. Friends of yours, especially ones from your school days, don’t return your phone calls and you cannot seem to get in touch with them.

A policeman visits you one day, one with a high security clearance. He insists that you come with him.

“I don’t have to ask you to come,” the arrogant, well-dressed man with the badge had told you, and only inches from your face. “I do it only out of professional courtesy. This could go much worse for you.”

You agree to go.

“We have been tracking a group of undesirables—I can’t tell you more than that until they finish running your background—who gave us your name. The one we managed to catch, that is. Young little thing, strange accent I can’t place. Hell, nobody can place it, if I’m telling the truth.” He explained in preface before escorting you into a room where a slight, attractive woman not many years past puberty, you notice, sits peacefully. She lunges for you with two outstretched hands, feral.

“I ought to kill you where you stand!” She screams when she realizes she can’t, that she is shackled and cuffed to the stainless steel bench welded and bolted to the steel floor. “What do you want?”

“I don’t know her,” you insist, incredulously waving your hands at the officer.

“You were one of them. Will be one of them, actually.”

“I have to ask, just what did I do that was so wrong?” You ask her.

“You’re one of the fools that kills the President. The first female President. Madelyn Blaine.” She says, tears forming at the edges of her glaring, grieving eyes.

You had never heard of Madelyn Blaine.

[circethegoblin]

STAYING ALIVE MASTERPOST, FROM A BROKE TEEN WITH ADHD

here you go. some down to earth tips on how to not die metally nor physically.

tired of those "drink three liters of water everyday uwu" and "wake up at 5 am" and "buy a bath bomb and a fec mask and some other things you don't have the money for" shit? i'm here for ya.

1. NOT DYING

eat at least three meals a day, one of which m u s t be warm and above 300 kcal (it can be istant ramen with an egg added if you have to)

you technically should shower everyday, but we know how it is. A change of clothes is sometimes enough.

DRY SHAMPOO AND BABY WIPES!!!

keep bottles with water everywhere. On your desk, near that spot on the floor you always end up sitting on, near your bed, basically whenever you know you spend a lot of time. No need to get up and go to the kitchen will help. Obviously change the water in the bottles as often as you can.

Get some form of physical activity. It doesn't have to be much, you can for example replace scrolling on tiktok by walking around your room and scrolling on tiktok! Brilliant, isn't it? Obviously, running or doing those 10 minutes workouts from youtube is better, but you are still getting like an hour of walking.

Buy blankets. Steal blankets. Summon blankets from other dimensions. Just make sure you have a lot of warm, soft blankets in your house. You will thank me when you won't have the anergy to wash your sheets (just take them off and throw some blankets on your bed), or when the power goes out.

If you have pets, ALWAYS keep spare food that'll last for a week for them.

things to always have in the kitchen: milk, eggs, flour, rice, pasta, yeast, cheese, oil, a leafy vegetable, onions, tomatoes, apples, patatoes, some flavourful sauce, sugar, salt, spices and an emergency chocolate bar. You can make a lot of food with those. Just make sure you won't eat the chocolate too fast.

Have a lot of spare batteries. A lot.

Get urself a flashlight, a lighter, and a pocket knife.

Remember the apples? eat one a day. if you don't like apples or you can't eat them for any other reason, you can take a kiwi, banana, orange, basically something that will give you vitamins and non processed sugar.

do the dishes before your sink starts developing it's own ecosystem

drugs from that one guy around the corner = very bad time

2. NOT DYING INSIDE

Open the damn window.

Don't watch so many commentary videos. You are probably not even checking the sources, so you can easily make unjust judgement, and like. did you even hear of half of those people before?

make a discord server just for yourself. get into the habit of writing little things that happened to you there. rant about the fanfics you read. or the movies. vent there if you don't have anyone you can vent to. write your ideas there, write e v e r y t h i n g. make a section for passwords, for quick ideas, for your to do lists. you won't lose it as you do with sticky notes or notebooks. there is no risk anyone will see it. oh, and when you'll have a strong impulse to tell emily that you hate her? write that message in your private server and list all ur arguments. look at tat the next day and decide if you really mean that.

life sucks. come to peace with it.

cuddle ur pets if you have them

1 hour a day without a lot of sensory input. if you have to, reduce to half an hour.

if you find yourself scrolling endlessly through social media, make sure it's pintrest (just don't compare urself to the people here; if you have issues with that, tumblr may be better)

delete. twitter. from. your. phone.

influencers are lying to you; maybe not even intentionally. remember when you were watching that cute-aesthetic-productive morning routine, and you were wondering why your life isn't that pretty? why your room is a mess? why you cannot for the life of god be aesthetic 24/7? its the filter. don't worry about it, their lifes arent that nice either.

realize there's actually nothing stopping you from screaming as loud as you can right now. like there is no physical barrier. think about it. realize there's no actual physical barierr to many other things.

your body is your body. you can decide how it looks like; just remember it's in your greatest interest to keep it healthy.

3. BEING A LITTLE BETTER THAN JUST ALIVE

If you wear make up, take it off before you go to sleep.

moisturize your body; everything is better when your skin doesn't feel dry

have a one brand of cosmetics that you love and buy things mainly from it. they often have sets of products that complete each other. i like ziaja. it's a polish brand, it's surprisingly cheap and has nice quality

cleanser, moisturizer, face mist

of you can, change your sheets once every two weeks

do the dishes before your sink starts developing it's own ecosystem

do a deep house clean once a month (don't beat yourself up when you don't tho)

keep your workspace organized (it doesn't have to look organized to other people, remember)

sunscreen

cook your own food

keep a calendar

no money for scented candles? got ya. make a simmer pot: throw some apple peel, a couple of cinnamon sticks and whatever spices that smell good you have into a pot, add some water and simmer. boom. your house smells good, and you haven't spend 20 dollars.

If you really like candles, buy scented wax melts. it's cheaper.

Buy urself scented mists. they're pretty cheap and will make you feel A LOT better.

keep your clothes clean. if you aren't sure if that shirt thats on your chair is dirty or not, throw it in the washing mashine anyway. better be sure.

if you can, make your bed right when you get up

wear clothes that make you feel good. put some effort into your outfits. really.

4. OTHER PEOPLE

be nice to essential workers.

if you have money, give tips.

remember, you do not owe anyone love; it is not something you can force. even if they saved your life. even when they helped you in your darkest time. if you don't love them, you don't.

you don't have to be in a romantic relationship to be happy.

if you want to, date! date everyone! date girls, date boys, date nonbinary people! date people completly different than you, date people from different countries, date them!!! just make sure they're kind and won't kill you. even if you don't end up in a relationship, you can learn a lot.

don't be afraid to piss off people that deserve it

smile to strangers :)

5. NOT FAILING SCHOOL

heard of dark academia? check it out

romanticize the heck out of studying

do not let your studying be just reading the same partagraph over and over again. it won't work. believe me.

seterra for geography, quizlet for everything else

try to make yourself intrestet in whatever you are studying (watch veritasium, listen to podcasts about weird history facts)

notes are for you and you only; don't worry about them looking pretty. doodle on margins, make weird metaphors, squeeze in as much info as you can.

when you're studying, listen to music without words/in a language you don't understand.

chew gum while you study

get the forest app, get attached to the trees, focus.

don't feel guilty for taking breaks

grades aren't everything, but they are important.

eat something in school

don't just use the cheapest pens. invest a couple dollars in something that will make writing enjoyable and smooth

those study with me videos? they're great

if you like to argue with the teachers, take care of your grades becouse. they may not like you afterwards.

be nice to your classmates and help them with homework. if you don't do your homework they'll help you

executive dysfunction won't let you study? been there. sometimes it's better to wake up ealier tommorow and do that homework then.

don't feel guilty for failing a test

go to the goddamn class

don't pull all nighters oh my god don't especially on weekdays

6. OTHER LIFEHACKS

don't get involved in the crime, and if you do always have a believable explanation why you were doing it

have different alarm sounds for every day of the week

set a daily limit of money that you spend

great hobbies that don't require a lot of money; urban exploration, writing, hiking and learning other languages

thrift stores

don't eat grapefruits while on meds

nail polish removers dissolve most strong glues.

if you have a cut on your skin, desinfect it. do it. please just do it.

always have pads with you. even if you don't get periods, at least one of your friends probably does

sign up in your local library. its free