#Gender queer stim

[januscorner]

Gender Queer Maddie Hatter Stimboard

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[galactic-rhea]

Funny that you use the Anakin Trans gun image because iirc its like. canon that he invents the term transgender in star wars.

LMAOOO OMGGG??? NKALJNJSDSFNJDFKS

Okay okay but like,,,this fact gives me, no no no like, there's LEVELS, levels and levels of amusement originated from this fact because not only my star wars blorbo supports trans people canonically (apparently) but you're telling me Darth FUCKING VADER invented the term transgender?

AMAZING

He took the be gay do crime too seriously heLP

I'm not even going to check for facts because this is too good and I'm too happy about this, THE MASSIVE MURDERER SUPPORTS TRANS RIGHT, AHHHJJHDD THIS SUPPORTS MY TRANS ANAKIN DRAWING HEEELP

I said i wouldn't check for facts but I'm GUESSING you must refer to this scene

If i could i would make this my banner

[meilia-stims]

Non-binary Discord (My Little Pony) stimboard

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[voltage-stims]

Mewbellic stimboard one two three .. four five six .. seven eight nine

day 1 prompt of @deadboystims 300 follower event, "make a stimboard based off of your queer identities!"

mewbellic flag used made by @bun-gender!

[birdricks]

every member of the smith/sanchez family is autistic and queer. see my vision

[chaotic-stressy-depressy]

What if I sat on a chair and did, oh how important stuff on my laptop and you were craving my attention so much that you'd kneel before me, begging me to touch you or at least let you touch yourself cause you know you're not allowed without my permission.

I'd be kind enough to leave my work for a moment to take care of my needy sweetheart. I'd play with you for a moment, maybe allow you to finger fuck yourself while I watched and then I'd tell you to put a remote controlled vibrator into your hole.

Then I'd take the remote with me and sit back down at my desk and call you over to kneel beside me again.

I'm sure the remote would make for a a great stimming toy, I could turn on and off the vibrations, change them to different settings and enjoy the way it makes you whine and pant.

I wouldn't care how many times you cum, you're just a toy, aren't you? Why should I care then?

[auggiestardust]

Hello👋🏼

My name is August I use they/them pronouns, I'm 14 years old and I'd like to make a difference.

I'm autistic, I have AFRID, irlens syndrome, suffer from panic attacks and anxiety and others.

I'd like to find teens who are also 'diffrent' so I can share my story.

Please follow along if you'd like to hear my tales and advice for fairys in a world for yetis🏳️‍🌈🍊🫂🪩

[drchucktingle]

On your blog you've talked about dealing with chronic as a result from the stress of masking your autism.

It's a bit of a different situation, but my little sister (who we've begun to suspect has adhd) has been experiencing chronic pain in her arms and legs. I may be totally off base, but I was wondering if a similar stess might potentially be a factor in her pain.

If you're willing, would you mind talking about how your pain affected before you found a way to manage it (I tried searching your tumblr, but not much came up, so sorry if I'm asking a question that's already been answered)?

Thanks either way, I love your books. Love is real!

sure buckaroo GOOD QUESTION. i have had chronic pain in some form or another for LONG TIME in a number of STRESS RELATED WAYS. in past it has been cracking teeth from clenching dang jaws while i sleep and things like that, but a few years ago it was FULL ON BODY PAIN AND TIGHTNESS like every muscle was clenching up. went to the doctor over and over all kinds of dang specialists and it was very difficult to figure out what was going on. eventually landed on a sort of nebulous trot of STRESS but i can get more specific.

there are several things about me that you would never know just from looking or even talking to me for long times. i am a bi buckaroo, i am a non-dysphoric trans buckaroo, i am an autistic buckaroo. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE THINGS IS EITHER HIDDEN AUTOMATICALLY OR I AM SUCH AN EXPERT AT HIDING THAT IT IS SECOND NATURE

autism presents its trot in many ways, so my words do not apply to all, but my version is EXTREME ORGANIZATION AND ENDLESS WORK ETHIC. in way of freud (which is a silly way but sometimes good for symbolism talk) i have what you would call an OVERDEVELOPED SUPER EGO which is a double edged sword. i can write 100s of books at an incredible pace, but also feel like my body is constantly collapsing in on itself

this is not really something i consciously think about much, but eventually these health problems started creeping up. it was all from carrying this mystery tension in my body, because while it feels EASY for me to mask i believe all that tension goes somewhere and it stores up and stores up and stores up.

so i think the HEALTHY way that i have found to deal with this (i think of it as releasing the steam valve a bit so the boiler does not break down) is ART. this space where i am allowed to be CHUCK TINGLE and write without obsessing over the spelling or punctuation, or to loudly express my queerness, or explore gender, and to let my neurotypical mask down DIRECTLY RELIEVES my chronic pain because it literally makes my muscles relax.

when i started out this ARTISTIC TROT as chuck i used a LOT of metaphor to keep my privacy, with different words or different versions of people for different things, and buckaroos found this very funny. as a way to express myself artistically i also liked this metaphor trot a lot, but i have also found that the LESS metaphor i paint over my life as chuck, the better it is for my health. if you have noticed, i talk less about some of the parts of my life that were metaphors, or maybe you have seen that my voice has relaxed a bit in interviews, or that i carry myself a little differently over time, this is partially why. (there is another artistic reason that was a planned trot from the beginning and it has to do with my feelings as a young autistic buckaroo of not fitting in on this timeline, but we can dive into that later).

anyway, as PRACTICAL ADVICE i would say that FINDING A SPACE TO EXPRESS YOURSELF WITHOUT FEAR OR MASKING has been the number one trot for me. that can be a pink bag over your head writing hundreds of erotic shorts, or that can be just laying on the ground howling your heart out, or doing whatever stim you need to do.

i will also say that ONCE I REALIZED IT WAS MUSCLE TENSION getting a physical therapist helped a lot. because there are two sides, you have to start releasing steam from the steam valve, but at the same time youve also gotta start HEALING THE DAMAGE. so i think stretching and techniques like that can be very helpful.

hope that helps buckaroo LOVE IS REAL

[slimi-kaito]

Ok, so I know Nimona's gender fluid and the whole shape shifting thing is a queer allegory.

BUT. (Don't worry)

I also think it’s an allegory of neurodivergency and disability! And I wanna talk about it:

To me, the « I wouldn't die die but I sure wouldn't be living » discussion feels very reminiscent of autistic stimming and masking, masking being explained here as the constant state of « that second before you sneeze ».

With that in mind, Nimona and Ballister's discussion in the train hits a lot closer to home for ND and disabled people in general because Ballister says « it would be easier for you » which isn’t actually true and shows how a lot of the world views disability. For people your disability is completely fine until they see it, they say they are disability allies but will shame you if you start stimming etc…

I think Nimona’s reaction to what Ballister said also shows that she is used to that kind of rethoric, she tries to lead him to the true answer « normal? » you’re normal for people if they can’t see your disability, « easier for who? » easier for him, easier for society because if they don’t see it they can ignore it. At the end of that conversation he doesn’t understand though and even think he is a hero for it « a lot of people aren’t as accepting as me » except what he does is actually the bare minimum, treating disabled people like actual people is the bare minimum whether you can see their disability or not!

At the end, Ballister understands that he was in the wrong and goes on to actually see Nimona as a person, as who she is « I see you ». And theoretically/utopically it’s the same for the kingdom’s people BUT it took the literal sacrifice of Nimona’s life for them to start treating her like a person which again should be the BARE MINIMUM. I think it is especially sad that it’s the way our society works as well, disabled people, queer people etc… shouldn’t have to earn the right to be treated as a person.

Thanks for reading all that, byeeee!

[illdowhatiwantthanks]

Haircut

Alex Blake x autistic!fem!reader Warnings: some innuendo, implied smut, gender presentation struggles, explicit language (let me know if I've missed anything!) Word count: 1.6k

Summary: You get a dramatic new haircut, and you're scared of what your girlfriend will think of it.

You sat awkwardly in the chair, tapping your foot, as the barber observed your hair from behind.

“All of it?!” they asked, raising their eyebrows at you. “You’re sure?”

You nodded quickly. “Every time I say I want it cut short, I end up with like a short bob or some other girly cut. I keep telling them I want it short, like a boy’s, but… that’s never what I end up with.”

The barber nodded. “I feel you. So…” They moved forward to frame your head. “I’m gonna take it in pretty tight on the sides and back with clippers, but I’m gonna leave you some length on top so you can fluff it up with product or style it up front like bangs, that kind of thing. Sound good?”

“Definitely,” you confirmed, smiling quickly. “That sounds great.”

You took a deep breath and looked in the mirror as they draped the cape over you and clipped it at the back of your neck. You heard the clippers buzz to life and met the barber’s eyes in the mirror.

“Ready?” they asked, holding them just an inch from your head.

“Do it.”

And that was it. Years of long hair, gone. You felt both giddy and terrified. On the one hand, you felt more and more yourself watching the hair come off your head. But on the other hand, it was a big change in your appearance. What would Alex think?

She always told you she didn’t care what you did with your hair but, well, you’d never done this. And then an awful thought struck you: did people play with short hair? You hated the feeling of your hair against the back of your neck, hated it getting caught, getting in the way, but you loved the feeling of Alex playing with your hair. Loved it when she’d run her hands through it and scratch her fingernails against your scalp. It was enough to put you to sleep some nights.

The barber touched up the lines of your sideburns and the fade at the back of your head, trimming the top so it laid just perfectly over your head. You’d never been to a barber shop before, but you’d been so frustrated by the girlishness of the salons, you finally caved and found a queer-friendly barber shop here in DC. You’d had high hopes that someone at a barber shop would listen to what you really wanted with your hair, not just what they thought you should want. And from the looks of things, your hopes were being validated.

“The cut comes with a hot towel shave, if you want,” the barber said as they finished up.

“Oh, uh…” you stumbled. “I mean, I don’t have a beard.”

“For the back of your head and neck?” the barber clarified, smiling a little.

You blushed, embarrassed not to understand the lingo of the barber shop.

“Um, yeah, sure,” you said, bobbing your head. “That’d be great.”

You wished you could bottle up the experience–the refreshing warmth of the towel, the cool brush of cream, the way the back of your head felt perfect afterward. And you did bottle it up in your mind to tell Alex. You wanted her to know how great the hot towel shave was, how much girls were missing out on.

When the barber spun you around in your chair, when you could finally run your hands over the soft, shaved down at the back and sides of your head, you smiled wide, holding your hands at your side so you wouldn’t stim too obviously.

You beamed. “It’s perfect! Thank you so much!”

You tipped the barber generously and made another appointment; apparently with hair this short, you needed to get it cut every month.

Now to wait for Alex. You didn’t know why you were so nervous. You loved Alex and she loved you. You tried to put yourself in her shoes. If Alex cut all her hair off, would you still love her? The answer was of course but also… you didn’t know that Alex would seem like herself without her long hair. It seemed like a part of her. You’d support if she wanted to cut it, of course, but it might take some getting used to. Maybe your hair would take Alex some time to get used to as well. If that was the worst thing that happened, you supposed you could live with it.

You’d been living with Alex for a little over two months now and, for the most part, had loved it. But you weren’t used to sharing your space or so much of your time. You loved having Alex around, of course you did, but it was hard learning not to be performative with her. With most people, even Alex to a certain extent, you felt like you were performing personhood, like if you said the right things and acted the right way, people would like you. You’d lowered your guard enough around Alex to know that she liked the not-so-palatable parts of you, as well, but it had taken a long time for you to let your walls down.

For the first few weeks you’d exhausted yourself trying to make conversation all the time, trying to behave the way you did on a date 24/7. Until finally Alex had put down her book one evening, taken your face in her hands, and said, “Darling girl, I am happy to hear whatever you have to say, but if you don’t want to say anything, your presence is just as sweet as your voice.”

You’d curled up at her side and read and not said a word except “I love you” for the next several hours. It wasn’t that your voice had completely turned off in the relationship, rather that Alex had given you the freedom to use it naturally, which was better for both of you.

So when you heard the door open and shut that evening, your voice snuck down into your chest and you could tell, just from the feel of it, the weight, it was going to be hard to get it back out again tonight. You were just so used to making yourself palatable and you knew that, for a girl, hair like this wasn’t palatable. So much of the way you dressed, the way you acted, the way you were wasn’t palatable to most people. Alex accepted so much of you… what if this was a step too far?

You pulled your sweatshirt hood over your head, hoping to hide what you’d changed for just a few more minutes.

“Hi, my darling girl,” Alex said, stretching as she put her go-bag down and kicked off her shoes. You couldn’t bring yourself to meet her eyes, even as your heart surged to see her, to have her back home. Your hands shook by your sides, and you knew it was irrational how terrified you were, but you couldn’t help it.

“Quiet day today?” she asked, sitting next to you on the couch. “You usually have so much to say when I get back from a trip.”

When you didn’t answer, didn’t even look at her, she frowned, starting to worry. She gently took your face in her hands and turned it toward her, eyebrows shooting up when she felt the short hairs at the side of your head.

“Hey,” she said softly. “What’s this?”

Alex slowly pulled the hood off your head and ran her hands along the shaved sides and back of your head. Her eyes were wide, and you couldn’t quite read them.

“You really cut your hair,” she observed, her fingers against your scalp feeling just as nice as they always did.

Your voice felt almost rusted as you forced it out, quiet and hoarse. “Do you like it?” You were scared to hear the answer.

Alex smiled, letting her fingers roam through your hair before grasping the sides of your head and kissing you, running her thumbs through your short, fuzzy sideburns.

“Sweet girl, I love it. It suits you so well.” She turned your head this way and that, as if to get a better look. “You look beautiful.” She pursed her lips, bending a little so you finally had to meet her eyes. “You look like you.”

“You’re not just saying that, are you?” you whispered.

“No, darling,” she reassured you. “I don’t just say things. You know that.”

This time, you kissed her, though not very successfully–you couldn’t stop smiling.

When you pulled away, she grabbed your collar. “No, no, hang on!” she exclaimed. “I need a proper make-out. I want to run my hands through your hair some more. The texture is intoxicating.”

And you were happy to oblige, even happier to oblige given that Alex truly couldn’t keep her hands out of your hair, tracing patterns into the shaved down as your lips roamed her mouth, her neck, as you pushed her gently into the couch, your hands under her shirt against the soft, warm skin of her abdomen.

“Hey,” she protested, giggling, as your hands made their way to her chest. She brushed your bangs out of your face, looking at you with so much love you wondered how you ever could have doubted her. “Why don’t you take me to bed, darling?”

And you didn’t even need your voice for Alex to understand you, for her to see how much you loved her, how much it meant to you that she loved you for you. You clambered to your feet and held out your hand to help her up, pulling her to your side and kissing the bottom of her chin. And as you led her to the bedroom, there were no words needed.

[januscorner]

Gender Queer Stimboard

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[squishsquishy]

Stimboard Ask Game (or stimboard inspo!)

For others that also need stimboard inspo. Just send the number in their ask box or you can use a random number generator to pick out a prompt! These are kinda random, idk if I had a theme going I just wanted to make them.

What Pokémon type would you train if you were a Pokémon trainer or gym leader? Here are some character creators for insp or the middle image of your stimboard: 1 2 3

Do you have a fursona or a dnd character you really love? Here are some character creators for insp or the middle image if you don’t have art of your character: fursona creator Reddit thread dnd piccrew tumblr thread

What’s a video game you keep seeing around and want to play? Even if it’s something from when you were little and you’ve always wondered about it!

What’s a show you keep seeing around and want to watch? Even if it’s something from when you were little and you’ve always wanted to check it out.

What are some of your friend’s and/or family’s hyperfixations or special interests that you love hearing infodumps about, but aren’t into personally? Or maybe you just haven’t checked it out and keep meaning to.

What’s your favorite arcade game?

What’s your favorite handheld console game or mobile game?

What’s your favorite niche character from your current hyperfixation or special interest?

What’s a character from your current hyperfixation or special interest you love to hate or just feel indifferent to?

Who’s your favorite mascot?

What’s an aesthetic you’ve been into lately?

Favorite dinosaur/prehistoric creature

Favorite plants or flowers

Outfits or makeup you wish you had or you want to get sometime

If you could cosplay who would you cosplay? If you do cosplay, who’s up for your next convention/meet up

If you could express your gender with an animal and/or food, what would it be?

If you could express your gender with an aesthetic what would it be?

What are your favorite stims that need more love? (If you can’t find multiple gifs mix it up with ur fave stims that have enough love or make ur own gifs/vids to share!)

What’s your favorite auditory stim right now? Try to translate it into a stimboard!

What’s a queer headcanon for your favorite character ?

What’s a queer headcanon you have for a character you kin?

What character did you enjoy most in the last game you played?

What side character did you like most in the last show you watched?

A song that’s always stuck in your head (not necessarily your fave song)

An album or song you’ve been wanting to listen to but haven’t yet

A pet you always wanted as a kid but haven’t had yet or you can’t have as a pet

An art medium you want to try or an art medium you admire

Do you prefer savory, sour, salty or sweet food? Or a combo?

What food(s) have you been wanting to try or try to cook?

Favorite textures or texture combos

An oc you haven’t drawn or written for lately

An oc crackship

A crackship from 2 different fandoms / media

characters you think would be besties from different media

A character that reminds you of a friend or a stim blogger!

[genderkoolaid]

Hey, I had read a post from you a while back where you mentioned that people can be queer solely because they're autistic, even if they're still cishet, and I was wondering if you could explain that a bit more? I've been frustrated for a long while with how I'm expected to look and act as a cis man, and that's lead me to blogs like yours.

So, its been pretty well established now that autistic people* are more likely to identify with queerness, in gender and sexuality and anattraction (aspec).

One factor in this is that autistics tend to not pick up (or want to follow) arbitrary, often unspoken social rules. So many autistics don't understand or want to follow rules about what defines men and women and how those groups Should behave and why only these groups can exist.

But there's also deeper issues in how gender roles themselves reject autistics. For example, autistic people tend to use and move our bodies differently. For me, I tend to be somewhat clumsy and generally "ungraceful," which goes against the expectation for women to be good at using the body in structured and pleasing ways. We may not speak in ways men and women are socialized too. Stimming can be a very visible sign of neurodivergency, which is often dehumanized and therefore de-gendered; our physical mannerisms aren't not stereotypically masculine or feminine, but simply inhuman. And sensory issues may influence the way people present themselves, like an autistic woman shaving her hair or an autistic man shaving his beard, or wearing certain clothes that aren't "properly" gendered. I've also seen discussions of kink that talk about how autistics tend to have different ideas of pleasure and pain, which shapes how we engage in sex.

And gender tends to be a highly communal identity- while autistics are often alienated from community. We don't pick up, or fit into, "man" or "woman" culture of allistics, which can often be very exclusionary for anyone who doesn't conform to that mold. (For me, I coped with this in middle school by having a friend group entirely composed of undiagnosed & likely queer NDs, so we didn't have to worry about being weird little freaks around each other. Highly recommend this). This alienation can also effect how we form romantic/sexual relationships, and how we engage with the expectations around what it means to be a "boyfriend" or a "girlfriend."

There's this quote from bell hooks on queerness that I really love: “'Queer' not as being about who you're having sex with (that can be a dimension of it); but 'queer' as being about the self that is at odds with everything around it and that has to invent and create and find a place to speak and to thrive and to live.” Autistic people are frequently at odds with everything around us, and have to create or find new places to speak, thrive, and live. I tend to center queerness on gender and desire (or lack thereof), and being autistic can have an effect on any or all of those categories.

Basically, if you feel like queer is good at expressing your relationship with your gender/sexuality, and/or that queer community/queer theory feels like a safe place to explore and engage with those things then I welcome you here for as long as you want to stay.

*this applies to all ND groups, but we're just focusing on autism in this post

[mogai-sunflowers]

i love you autistics i love you special interests i love you asking your friends for consent to hug them i love you autistic friends sharing special interests with each other i love you stimming i love you autistics who mask i love you autistics who cant mask i love you autistics who dont mask even though they could i love you sensory-friendly fabrics i love you quiet environments i love you autistic trans people i love you autistic cis people with a unique view on gender i love you autigender people i love you autistic women i love you autistic men i love you autistic nonbinary people i love you autistic poc i love you autistics with wEiRD obscure special interests i love you weirdo autistic queers i love you tone tags i love you respectful friendships between autistics and neurotypicals i love you infodumping i love you rambling so much you forget you’re making a pust on tumblr dot com i love you autistics i love you-

[rainshell]

The last dorm diasomnia. The theme for them was mythological creatures with the extra rule that only Malleus is allowed to be an actual dragon(this was added because otherwise I would have had 3 dragons)

Small notes about the designs:

-Lilia is griffin, but I did take the creative liberty of giving him bat wings(I know a wyvern will be perfect, but they are still technically dragons). His feline part is based on a margay. Also yes he is upside down because he always seem to spawn on the celling so it felt fitting.

-Silver is an unicorn, it was perfect for him(and is partially the reason for the theme).

-Malleus is already a dragon although like always I used my own design for him.

-Sebek is longma(a chinese winged dragon horse. I needed something that was part reptile due to his crocodile inspiration and this just fit). I gave him a crocodile tail instead of a dragon one.

My thoughts on them:

-Maleus my 3rd favourite character. Honestly never thought I will actually like him as a character when I first saw him in the game(mostly due to his design and description), but the moment I realized he was the exact opposite of that and he has the personality of a giant lizard obsessed with gargoyles he become one of my favourites.

-I have a soft spot for good dads in fiction(or at least ones that try their best to be) and Lilia is exactly that.

-Silver seems so sweet and I always wanted him to get a little bit more screen time since I want to learn more about him as a character(at least we have book 7 now).

-I actually didn't care about Sebek until book 7, which made me actually like him as a character(honestly the best character out of the first years).

Headcanons:

-Malleus, Silver and Sebek are autistic.

-The reason Malleus never keeps his tail when in public is because he uses it as a way of stimming (by wagging it around constantly) and doesn't want to accidentally hurt someone with it.

-Malleus(any) is agender(I don't think he has a gender), panromantic and demisexual

-Lilia(any) is queer. He doesn't care about labels that much so just queer works(also he 100% dated both of Malleus parents and Sebek's grandpa in the past)

-Silver is panromantic and ace

-Sebek is gay, but in complete denial about it

If you haven't seen them yet here are the links to the drawing I did for the heartslabyul, savanaclaw, octavinelle, scarabia, pomefiore and ignihyde students

[existential-queers-community]

✧･ﾟ: *✧･ﾟ:*Existential Queer*:･ﾟ✧*:･ﾟ✧

(Highlights in bold and Invite link is at the bottom.)

I and a few others have worked to create this LGBTQ+ friendly server, open to the whole community and allies, we’ve got channels for general conversations, hobbies & interests, stimming and more but we also have channels specifically for queer topics such as;

[Image description: Discord channels, category : Rainbow emoji, vertical bar LGBTQ+ related channels, #Sexuality-discussion, #Gender-discussion, lgbtq-discussion (forum) and #homo-overload.]

We strive to be disability friendly so we do do our best to make any accommodations needed so far that includes promoting the use of tone tags, having a channel for stimming & infodumping/giving, the pluralKit bot (for systems) and a few other things.

[Image description: Discord channel Stimming-and-infogive.]

As I’ve already mentioned we have a wide range of channels for different hobbies & interests this includes a whole category of opt in forum channels focused on various subjects!

[Image description: Discord channels, category : dividers emoji, vertical bar Hobbies & interests forums, creativity-zone, game-shenanigans, books, advice-and-tips, health-and-fitness, health and fitness subcategory Yoga, cooking-and-baking, politics, religion-and-spirituality, recommendations.]

The server holds semi regular movie/game nights using polls to decide what we do and when, (keep in mind you don’t have to participate in anything if you don’t want to.)

We also have several fun bots to keep us entertained like our Pokémon catching bot or our truth or dare bot Albert!

If all this interests you and you’d like to join Existential Queer then click the link below!

Please feel free to message our discords tumblr (hello) if you have any questions or concerns! (or alternatively if you’re already a member of the server you can open a ticket in the help desk channel!)