#EMPATHY

[thescaliforniagentleman]

Amen. Perspective. Priorities.

SCalGentleman

"match my freak!" match my sweetness. match my benevolence. match my empathy. match my ability to feel emotions so deeply it tears me apart from the inside out

[eldritch-metalhead]

sometimes I hate having no empathy because everyone talks like empathy is needed to be a decent person. it's not, you just need common sense. you don't need empathy to support Palestine, you don't need empathy to realise what's happening in the US rn is fucked up, etc, you need basic common sense and critical thinking skills. quit demonising those without empathy, thanks.

[spenjelly]

Some nights I am normal and other nights I have the big mad about mha characters

These characters include:

Enji todoroki; I would like to steal his knee caps and cronch them like chips in front of him while making blistering and prolonged eye contact

All Might; That man did not do right by Izuku midoriya. What kind of professional hero leaves a civilian (and minor and minority) who was previously unconscious and suffocating without medical help on a roof alone after bluntly crushing their hopes??

Kai Chisaki; it’s not enough. I don’t know if anything could be enough but it’s not enough.

Eri; I would die for this child and strongly desire to spend all my disdain for her “guardian” spoiling her.

The MHA faculty (and All Might, again;) who thought it was a good idea to not inform a minor’s teacher (and basically guardian) that he literally just got his quirk and has absolutely no control over it instead of letting false assumptions build?

Bakugo; homie literally chill. Also why do consequences just not exist. Forgiveness is cool but so are justice and learning moments.

Inko Midoriya: sweet as she is, the blindness to the amount of physical and emotional abuse her child was experiencing, the lack of any emotional support for any version of his future… it’s giving neglect.

Also.

The quirk laws??; First of all, I don’t understand. Second of all, I still don’t understand. What about self defense? What about latent abilities? What about the ability to help others in emergency situations? Or people who have quirks that have nothing to do with other people? How can you just say no one can use quirks in the out of doors?? When most of the population has quirks???? That’s like making it illegal to have your eyes showing?

[gandalf-the-bean]

with the current decline of american politics, it’s important to remember that as funny as it is to look on at other people’s downfall and go “haha they brought this on themselves,” non americans need to remember so many of us are not the ones that brought this, not the ones that chose this, and yet are the ones suffering the consequences

57% of florida voted yes on 4. it didn’t pass even though it was an obvious majority because it wasn’t a supermajority

the overturning of roe v wade was out of the hands of the people. no matter how vocal we were, we had no real say

the presidential race was very close and there were issues with so many mail in ballots (there’s so many reports of things like damaged ballots, ballots getting rejected for “signature errors” and other nonsensical issues, people not receiving their ballots at all (a big issue at my college in the tampa bay area of florida due to back to back hurricanes), and even burning mailboxes). and there are people who live in america that aren’t allowed to vote (many immigrants aren’t allowed to vote on their own rights)

there have been protest after protest against the don’t say gay bill and advocating for trans rights. we are trying so hard and have been trying for a long time to keep this from happening. there are even calls for a recount of the presidential votes. the people suffering the consequences are the ones who tried to prevent them. we did not bring this on ourselves

so please, as funny as it is to look on and laugh at the state america is in and will be in (and i get it, the political and social climate here is unwelcoming and absurd), remember that the ones affected most by the regression of american rights are those of us who did not choose this. everyone will be affected (aside from the wealthiest of the wealthy), and the consequences will catch up to the people that did choose this (and i worry for them too). but the ones hurt the most are the ones who were spoken over

so please use empathy. solidarity. kindness. we’re scared

sincerely,

a young american man who is trans, queer, and biracial

[new-chapter-new-beginings]

Is this another one?

[thoughtstherapy]

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[shining-dawn]

The way the government treats homeless people and panhandlers ought to be evidence enough on its own that empathy doesn't always lead to ethical behavior. Middle and upper class people get uncomfortable seeing homeless people because seeing someone in a bad state triggers an uncomfortable empathic response. They feel bad seeing people suffering. But people respond by trying to remove the source of their discomfort just as often as they respond with compassion.

That's why cities respond with hostile architecture and brutality. They just need to make the problem invisible, and people stop complaining.

Empathy is very useful, but it's no substitute for actual ethical principles.

[5ellaal5]

Putting humans in a brutal capitalist system and then saying “it is in our nature to be selfish and greedy” is like putting a human at the bottom of the ocean and saying our “true nature” is to drown.

(Just gonna keep pulling that forward.)

If 10-40% of people (fluctuated depending on material and social conditions) impulsively and reflexively turn towards suspicion and cruelty, that also means 60-90% of people will impulsively and reflexively turn towards community-building and mutual care. The evidence is everywhere.

But social media is optimized BY the 10-40% to mirror their beliefs back to them, so you have to look carefully for the care.

I love this collection as it is that reflection.

“People are inherently terrible” no!!! Have you ever seen a child wait for their friend while they tie their shoelaces? Have you ever known someone who would bring hurt squirrels and rabbits and mice to the nearest vet just so it doesn’t suffer? Have you seen someone grieve? Have you ever read something that hit your heart like a freight train? Have you looked at the stars and felt an unexplainable joy? Have you ever baked bread? Have you shared a meal with a friend? Have you not seen it? All the love? All the good? I know it’s hard to see sometimes, I know there’s pain everywhere. But look, there’s a child helping another up after a hard fall. Look, there’s someone giving their umbrella to a stranger. Look, there’s someone admiring the spring flowers. Look, there’s good, there’s good, there’s good. Look!!!!

[jacobnordby]

Message of the year:

“How do you spot an idiot? Look for the person who is cruel. The kindest person in the room is often the smartest.” — Gov Pritzker

[youlookkindadead]

i've seen quite a bit of confusion about this, so let me attempt to clear things up :

empathy is the ability to feel somebody's emotions as though they are affecting you personally. for example, somebody tells you "my dog died last night!" -> you now feel as though you've lost a pet personally -> you feel grief and sadness just like the other person. not everyone has empathy. it's a trait some people develop and others don't. some have high empathy, some have low empathy, some (like me) have none.

sympathy is the ability to understand and care about somebody else's struggles, even if you don't feel them yourself. so, somebody tells you their dog died -> you realize how this affects them emotionally -> you care about this person, and are upset that they are suffering. not everyone has sympathy either! it's a scale, just like empathy.

compassion is doing something to relieve another person's suffering or make them feel better. somebody tells you their dog died -> you don't want them to remain upset -> you come up with ways to help them feel better, like offering comfort and distractions, or other forms of support. compassion is a learned trait, not something you can be born with like empathy or sympathy. anyone can learn to be compassionate, although some may struggle more with it than others; it's a skill, just like anything else.

however, none of these are required to be a good person. that's a choice you make on your own accord. i hope this clears things up!

[new-chapter-new-beginings]

Thoughts ?

[itsaspectrumcomic]

Sometimes it feels like I'm absorbing the emotions of everyone around me

[reality-detective]

The more I live the more I realize that we were all lied to as children, taught to believe humans are the only intelligent beings, the only ones capable of emotions and empathy.

But animals are far from unintelligent. It’s not that they lack understanding, it’s that we fail to comprehend them. In fact, many animals display empathy that exceeds what most people could ever hope to achieve. 🤔

[mikedawwwson]

What Are You Going Through

Published in The New York Times Sunday Book Review, 4/2/23

[new-chapter-new-beginings]

All I wanted was clarity, authentic and genuine love.