#Divorce Option

[divorcedifferentlypa]

Why Mediation is a Healthier Divorce Option

Divorce is a difficult life transition, often marked by emotional, financial, and logistical challenges. For couples seeking an alternative to the stress and hostility that traditional litigation can bring, mediation offers a healthier and more constructive path. Mediation prioritizes open communication, mutual respect, and collaborative problem-solving, providing a framework for couples to part ways amicably while minimizing the negative impacts on themselves and their families.

What is Divorce Mediation?

Mediation is a process in which a neutral third party, known as a mediator, helps divorcing couples negotiate and resolve their differences. Unlike a courtroom setting, mediation takes place in a private, informal environment. The goal is not to "win" but to reach agreements that both parties can accept.

The mediator does not make decisions for the couple but facilitates productive discussions, ensuring each party's voice is heard. This collaborative approach fosters a sense of control and cooperation, making mediation a less adversarial and more empowering option.

Reduced Emotional Strain

Divorce litigation can be emotionally exhausting, often escalating conflict and prolonging animosity. In contrast, mediation offers a breath of fresh air, encouraging constructive dialogue and focusing on finding common ground. By addressing issues calmly and respectfully, couples can lighten their emotional load, reduce tension, and focus on solutions rather than grievances.

This aspect of divorce mediation is particularly valuable for couples with children. Minimizing conflict sets a healthier tone for co-parenting, helping children adapt to changes in their family dynamic.

Cost-Effectiveness

One of the most appealing aspects of mediation is its affordability. Traditional divorce litigation often involves lengthy court battles, multiple attorney fees, and other expenses that can quickly add up. Mediation streamlines the process, requiring fewer legal hours and avoiding many costs associated with a court trial.

While mediation does involve fees, it is typically far less expensive than pursuing a contested divorce. This makes it a practical choice for couples seeking to preserve their financial resources for future needs.

Greater Control Over Outcomes

In litigation, a judge ultimately decides the outcome of key issues such as property division, child custody, and spousal support. On the other hand, mediation puts the power back in your hands, allowing you to make decisions that best suit your circumstances.

This collaborative approach allows couples to craft personalized agreements that reflect their unique circumstances. Whether creating a flexible parenting schedule or agreeing on how to divide assets, mediation provides the freedom to design solutions tailored to your family's needs.

Faster Resolution

Traditional divorces can drag on for months or even years, leaving couples in limbo and prolonging the stress. Mediation, however, offers a quicker path to resolution, typically being much faster and avoiding the delays associated with court schedules and prolonged legal battles.

Most mediations can be completed in weeks or months, depending on the issue's complexity. This quicker timeline helps couples move forward with their lives sooner, reducing the emotional toll of a prolonged divorce.

Privacy and Confidentiality

Divorce litigation is a public process; sensitive details about your personal life can become part of the court record. Mediation, however, is confidential. Discussions and agreements during mediation remain confidential, allowing couples to resolve their differences without public scrutiny.

This privacy is essential for individuals who value their reputation or wish to shield their children from unnecessary exposure to marital issues.

A More Positive Foundation for Co-Parenting

For divorcing couples with children, the ability to work together amicably is critical for effective co-parenting. Mediation fosters collaboration and mutual respect, helping parents establish cooperative relationships that benefit their children.

By resolving disputes constructively, parents can set a positive example for their children, demonstrating that disagreements can be handled with maturity and civility. This foundation can make co-parenting smoother and more successful in the years ahead.

Customized and Flexible Agreements

Unlike court rulings, which are often rigid and one-size-fits-all, mediation agreements can be customized to fit the unique needs of each family. Whether it's dividing assets in a nontraditional way or creating a creative custody arrangement, mediation allows for flexibility.

This adaptability ensures that the final agreements work for both parties, reducing the likelihood of disputes in the future.

Reduced Stress on Children

Children are often the unintended victims of contentious divorces. Exposure to high levels of conflict can lead to emotional and behavioral issues, making it essential for parents to shield their children from unnecessary stress.

Mediation's focus on cooperation and problem-solving helps parents maintain a united front when addressing their children's needs. By reducing conflict, mediation creates a more stable and reassuring environment for children during a difficult time.

Mediation is more than just an alternative to traditional divorce—it's a healthier, more constructive approach to ending a marriage. Mediation empowers couples to resolve their differences amicably by prioritizing collaboration over conflict, saving time, money, and emotional energy.

For families, especially those with children, mediation sets the stage for a more positive post-divorce relationship, fostering cooperation and mutual respect. If you're considering divorce and want a process that prioritizes dignity and fairness, mediation may be the best path forward.

[your-mom-i-guess]

Charles being there for Carlos and watching him one last time in red from a distance 😭

[gotticalavera]

I know it's a funny reference, but it's also fun to think about why Rick erased his memories... And I'm sure he didn't do it intentionally.

My reasonable side thinks that Fiddleford erased his memory because he knew he was a person capable of starting the portal, and what he wanted to avoid was a catastrophe...

But the shipper side of me thinks Fiddleford erased his memory because he was jealous that Stanley's ex kept flirting with him.

[xxplastic-cubexx]

so like do you think they made the plastic wheelchair ALONGSIDE the plastic prison as a Just In Case situation, only after they realized charles was going to be a frequent visitor, or both as in because they knew charles was going to be the only person visiting him during planning they decided to make him a chair ahead of time

[o3o-lapd-o3o]

other people playing hades:

*gets to the hades fight*

move old man, i gotta let zagreus see his mother!

me playing hades:

*gets to the hades fight*

move old man, i gotta get the ancient greek gays back together!

[thankstothe]

[lgbtlunaverse]

If yu ziyuan had been a character in a different story set when she was younger I'd be on here making posts about her like "she would NOT fucking have kids" because genuinely the worst thing you could do to that woman was make her a mother. Except in the story she's in she is a mother. And that's what's wrong with her.

[acotarmemes]

ACOTAR tweets // rick roll

icons by @copypastus

[moongothic]

Seen a few people too many discuss the concept of Dragodile Baby 2 and my hot take is that there's no way in hell Crocodile would ever detransition just to go through nine months of horrible dysphoria again, let alone go through pregnancy ever again (or allow Ivankov to even touch him, what if they died and weren't able to trans Croc's gender again afterwards? Hell naw, ain't worth the risk)

But this leaves an opportunity for a Funnier Option:

Dragon wants another baby? Sure, but it's his turn to carry it >:)

[irohsteaa]

i want to know more about Grimmer's ex-wife

[moonleey]

Happy Xmas everyone!!!

[backonrepeat]

Cursed fic idea that I need to share (because I'll never write it and I need you all to suffer with me): Gortash and Dark Urge arranged marriage.

Where Bhaal is very proud of his daughters' murdering prowess but would still like some grandchildren (bhaalspawn are not easy to make), and Bane is happy to offer his Chosen in exchange for being able to direct where Bhaal's cultists will strike next (and have them help further his plans, rather than ruin them)

Of course, both Durge and Gortash are less than pleased at the plan. Durge, because she's a strong independent woman who wants to keep slaughtering people and leading her father's temple, not playing house with a bloody banite, and certainly not having him tell her who she can, or cannot, kill. Gortash because the marriage is just another thing he has no control over and is instead forced upon him (he can see the value of the alliance but chaffes at being used as a bargaining chip yet again)

Featuring:

- Enemies to allies to lovers (to enemies again if we follow the game timeline)

- Instead of super kinky sex, they start their relationship with super boring, detached, and perfunctory sex because they both assume the other doesn't know how to fuck and want the whole deal over with

- Bridezilla Gortash

- Sceleritas Fel & Orin ducking it out for the Maid of Honor spot

- They start to care for each other, but are afraid to show it because their whole alliance is mandated by their Gods (plus they both have the emotional maturity of a rock), so the sex goes from boring, to nasty, to kinky with feelings

- like, they are allowed to look and touch, but they cannot feel, so they show affection in small ways, a soft touch here, a shared look there, some joint slaughter over there...

- Them being evil and domestic, like the true villain power couple they are

- Ketheric hates them and their married antics *so much*

- Durge being introduced to the Gate's patriars as Lord Gortash's wife and having to behave in public. There's a fancy ball at some point, with dancing, UST, sex and murder

(if the game plot happens, Gortash greets Durge as "my beloved wife", the whole party starts to seriously question their choice in leadership, and Karlach has an aneurysm. Astarion just loves the drama)

[libartz]

*Arcane season 2 comes out*

"Yeah sure I guess I'll watch it. I didn't really vibe with season 1 but nothing else really going on rn"

"Hang on this is actually really good. OOO Viktor's purple now good for him, can't wait to see him being an eldritch freak"

"Act 1 is over and I want more. Guess I'll read some fanfiction. Hmm... let's go with Jayvik. I only really ship them agnostically in a qpr way but nobody writes fic for that so romance it is."

"Ooh this is a good fic. Kind of invested in this pairing now. Jayce go get your mans"

*Act 2 comes out*

"God fucking dammit"

[lizzybeeee]

(Same anon) It's also just a lot harder for me because Solas in Inquisition was trying to take down the Veil in a world that was genuinely shitty to elves, mages, and spirits (nvm that until this game I was 100% sure that he was trying to do this more for the ancient elves, like why else imply there are more out there to Abelas? I guess he was just being polite?) Veilguard depicts Thedas as being largely okay with mages and spirits even outside of Tevinter and pointedly doesn't depict racism against elves outside a handful of throwaway lines. So they had him going at this with the same conviction from DAI, of a man trying to reverse the slow genocide of his people, but they've boiled his motivations down to "The Veil is unnatural" Like. How much more awesome if we could have convinced him not to destroy the world because of a culmination of choices in this game and all the others that made Thedas a kinder place idk man. ngnegnwgnf sorry for ranting in your inbox, I still liked Solas enough in this game but it was really bittersweet that they just dumbed down his motivations. I love your idea for influencing the Inky though, it definitely should have been a choice closer to the end and allowed for more variations (ideally all Inkies should have that, not just the Solavellans)

Hello again, Anon! :)

100% agree that the sanitization of the world and lore absolutely hurts Solas's motivations - especially if you look at it solely from what Veilguard gives us and with no background from previous games. All of the previous games, mostly Origins, were really effective in conveying how shit life could be for an elf - and how inbuilt this prejudice against the elves was in all aspects of Thedas.

The chant of light removing the canticle of Shartan, the march on the Dales, the struggles of the Dalish to simply live, the treatment of elves by the ruling class/chantry/ and others in general...it all painted such a bleak outlook for the elves and showed how ingrained this prejudice was in all aspects of Thedas. They had no way out - the structures of power in Thedas would fight them at every turn - which was why Solas being set up as a way for them to fight against all these systems was so compelling! You want the elves to win - but it will be at the cost of everything else if Solas goes ahead with his plan.

(You can definitely also make an argument that perhaps he's using them just to restore the world from before -> Felassan argued with him about this: to see the world as it was as real and worth improving.)

DATV felt divorced from the previous games, and its reluctance to meaningfully go into issues surrounding the lives of elves in Thedas - all the ugliness that brings - really did nothing to add to Solas's motivations for bringing down the Veil. If anything, I got the impression that he does not see anyone in Thedas as being 'real' and that he's simply doing it out of regret and to soothe his own ego/guilt. If this game wanted me to be sympathetic towards Solas it didn't do a good job of making me feel it, especially when you look at the totality of everything that Solas has done.

What I took from Trespasser was that Solas wanted to heal the wound he had left on the world - the Veil - and what he had inadvertently done to the elves. He had given everything he had to free the elven people from oppression and tyranny, only to inadvertently leave them vulnerable to the same oppression from others -> taking away their magic and long lives in the process. He was so blinded by his goal (stopping the evanuris) that he failed to see what his own actions might have wrought in the process.

Trespasser set up the 'Elven Rebellion 2.0' with a Solas who was torn between the world he once knew and the world it had become in spite of his intentions. Does he truly care about the elven people in current Thedas? Or does he just care about the world that came before? In DAI he was such a fascinating character because he could be so polarizing! People loved him! People hated him! Both were correct!

But starting the game with the ritual, sanitizing the world (no real signs of conflicts about spirits, mages, elves, anything really etc...), and simplifying his motivations to "fix fade -> be immortal/magic -> profit"...it just feels so shallow.

Solas: "Long before we met, I failed my oldest friend. She died for that failure. If I leave the Veil in place, I am destroying the world she wanted."

He spells his motivations out pretty clearly at the end and it's just...Mythal? He doesn't seem to care about the elves that are currently living in Thedas - not even Lavellan. Like you said, in Tresspasser I also got the impression that he wanted stop the slow genocide of his people. But apparently it was 'Mythal All Along'!

The lack of supporters/agents really gives him no credence to say that this is anything that the elves want - elven Rook can even call him out on it and he doesn't care. For a character whose own trauma began with bring coerced into a body he didn't want he doesn't give a shit about doing the same to thousands of other elves.

It's far less compelling, to me at least, than what I felt was set up in DAI: the Dread Wolf, god of rebellion, rallying elves after ages of systematic abuse and oppression with the goal of liberating his people and restoring the world that was - the world he inadvertantly denied them with the consequences of his actions. Instead it's just Solas doing his own thing because he's right and he needs to fix what he did wrong for Mythal.

It would have been great to be able to convince him to change his mind/ pursue another path as a result of the culmination of our actions throughout the series. It could be a nice nod to our past decisions and a nice conclusion to see the results of those choice in missives/codex entries. Same as the 'south can repel the blight' counter idea, have their be some kind of 'convince Solas to pursue another option' tally that demonstrates that this world is willing to change and he should be too.

[rottenstawberrygirl]

Happy birthday to my one and only dear husband Fyodor, the most majestic, handsome, attractive, elegant, graceful, charming, fascinating, beautiful, neat, pretty, pleasant, unique, wise, manly, heavenly, drop-dead, gorgeous, delightful, hot, flawless, delicate, cunning, sexy, charismatic, bewitching, captivating, tempting, exciting, enchanting, cute, mesmerizing, classy, exquisite, stylish, intelligent, desirable, gracious, immaculate, wonderful, magnificent, ravishing, aesthetical, marvelous, perfect, stunning, glorious, breathtaking, angelic looking man in the whole universe! I love you from the bottom of my heart babygirl!! No words can describe how divine he really is… ♡ (*ᴗ͈ˬᴗ͈)ꕤ*.ﾟ

Oh to be loved by this man…

♥️♥️♥️

Fellas, I think the patient has escaped from her cell again—

[altruistark]

ur telling me charles & erik met, dated, got married, had kids, had a messy separation AND divorced in ONE MOVIE???