#Compulsive Behaviour

[hong-kong-art-man]

The Trend Of “Travel Light” These Days: What Is The Minimal Way Out Of The 9 That You Prefer?

Travel is a big gift that keeps us on receiving. We are exposed to great scenery, cultures and people. It rewards us with beautiful photographs and memories.

Crazy shopping while travelling can be a kind of “retail therapy”. But, if this is how you fill most of your time and then carry many heavy bags back home for things which you do not really need, such compulsive behaviour can imply that you are emotionally in trouble.

I used to misconceive travelling as an activity of vanity. I tried to impress my friends in other countries that I had taste, got money to spend and could be a well-dressed person. The moment that I stopped caring is when an awakening emerged from myself. The truth is that simplicity is the vainest form of sophistication.

The expressionist painter Hans Hofmann said, “The ability to simplify means to eliminate the unnecessary so that the necessary may speak.” The new trend of travelling is “travel light” which means to travel with a minimum load or luggage. People regard backpackers as those who travel light. There are ironically many backpacker shops in Hong Kong which try to induce the wants rather than needs of backpackers. Goods are too abundant.

Thumbs up to the wise people who can “travel light”. I used to carry 3 or more suitcases, backpacks and shopping bags abroad. I even brought towels, hair dryer, hangers, shoetrees and teddy bear with me. I have made a pinky swear that I will not do such a stupid thing again. The recent fad within the travelling culture, out of the blue, is to be minimal. We want a hotel room to look neat and tidy so that we do not have to elbow our way to the bed, especially in a tiny Japanese cubicle. When taking a trip, you should look inward for spiritual happiness and not look outward for shopping jubilation.

How to travel right?

The simple answer to take just a few lightweight, quick-drying and adaptable clothing items. Also, Iimit yourself to one pair of shoes.

A said, “Remember to limit yourself to a small suitcase or backpack, and a sensible packing list! Then, you will not take a lot of things to travel! ”

B said, “I bring old or unwanted clothes with me. After use, I leave them in the hotel room.”

C said, “Why don’t you guys ask the hotel to do laundry for you?” We laughed, “Hotels charge a lot!”

D said, “I choose the hotels which have public washing machines. This is why I usually take only 3 sets of clothes for travel.”

E smiled, “I am hardworking. I hand wash clothes in hotel bathroom sink.” I asked, “Will it take many days for clothes to dry?”

F said, “Come on! You can buy disposable briefs or knickers! Now, shops like MINISO or  Mannings sell disposable cotton underwear. They are comfortable and cheap.”

G said, “In many countries like Korea and Japan, you can rent clothes and such clothing rental companies will deliver clothes speedily to your hotel! Renting clothes is greener than buying them and this is a good habit when travelling overseas!”

H said, “Technology made it possible to have ‘quick dry’ clothes which can become dry within a few hours. I always pack clothes for 2 to 3 days and can repeat them!”

 Finally, Mr I said, “My way to travel light is simple. I wear a pair of jeans for the whole journey. If the weather is cold, I shall wear one to three windbreakers and they can be as warm as a coat. A windbreaker can also protect you from the wind and rain. Windbreakers can be dried within an hour after hand wash!”

The world is getting smaller but people are richer. Travelling is no longer a big deal. People travel more and more frequently for many reasons, including for vacations, to visit family and friends, for business ,and to be alone for a few days in order to escape the stresses of daily life. There is no need to create “a home away from home”. The hotel room should be like an unadorned room in a monastery!

A journey outside Hong Kong can be very simple, but people like to make it complicated. I heard friends indulgently taking 5 meals a day when travelling. I guess their stomach would be heavier than their luggage. Hunger is a bottomless pit. Life is simple and “travel light” is simply a simple truth.

Maurice Lee

Chinese Version 中文版: https://www.patreon.com/posts/lu-you-xin-wen-115581100?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link

How to choose a good quality luggage https://youtu.be/OcWtfNjvldQ?si=MODSmUsPIaRnBSQG   Acknowledgement-RTHK

Luggage packing tips https://youtu.be/BBzLD5lDBvU?si=-hE3KQfiYUUO88k6   Acknowledgement-dontkjoanne

[uncanny-tranny]

Part of harm reduction is recognizing that abstinence or sobriety, whenever these terms are applicable, is not the inherent goal for so many people. Forcing complete abstinence or sobriety can absolutely be detrimental, which is why we must not idealize either one or force it on people. It should be an option, yes, but that does not mean it is the only option or the only option worth pursuing.

[rotteneldritchhorror]

I just know Rafe, as a man with psychosis and so much guilt and regret who was almost definitely forcibly sobering up and going through withdrawals, being in such close vacinity to a giant golden cross that HE STOLE from a church did *something* to fuck with his brain

Like he's not religious, he doesnt believe in god or anything, but I just know that sometimes he compulsively prayed to it about his "sins" and prayed for Barry to forgive him (what did he do wrong? he doesnt know, he just feels bad not being near him), and he absolutely started hearing "angels" and feeling flames lick at his feet and hands after a while as part of his usual rotation of hallucinations

[b-blushes]

achievement i have made this year: i used to physically shake like a leaf teeth-chattering style when replying to comments/talking to literally most people on here, and now i can just. say things? waow........

[lesbianwyllravengard]

So funny to me when I'm explaining to my parents the habits I have that are a result of my spiralling anxiety and paranoia and my father goes "yeah I do that too, that's normal" as if we're not literally both diagnosed with OCD and our actions are very much not normal

[stoportotouch]

do wish i didn't have the non-medical emergency form of compartment syndrome. (i mention that so that you know not to worry. i just have sore legs all the time.) but hey, at least i know exactly what caused me to develop it.

[cornix-the-void-crow]

Welcome to little list of Alastor headcanons that are actually technically projections, in no particular order of importance:

Has the bob because his hair tends to not grow much longer past his shoulders

Triple A battery (Aroace and agender), started as "man by default" but over time presentation slowly leans more and more into something else entirely

Habitually presents himself as having everything under control. He is not. If he wasn't busy convincing himself that he is he would have started asking how in this ever damned hell anyone believes him

Perpetual eyebags (and dark circles around eyes to some extent) that never fully leave and get significantly worse if he does not sleep

Undiagnosed slight astigmatism that causes regular headaches and perpetual squinting

On the topic of headaches, can ignore pain but it will make him easily irritable

He knows really well how easy it is to verbally or physically hurt other people, and irritability lowers his restraint towards not using the most painful insults in his arsenal significantly

Does not handle disrespect towards his work well. Technically it's a form of rejection-sensitive dysphoria but feeling hurt from it just makes him angrier and more likely to fight someone

In some cases the desire to fight people also applies if criticised work wasn't his but his friends'

He also a hypocrite in that regard cause Alastor is (sometimes unintentionally, sometimes intentionally) cruel with his own criticism of others' work

Subconsciously (sometimes consciously) refuses to process a lot of things. Such as actual reasons why he does nice things to people, why he allows certain people to live, certain aspects of his appearance, that somehow to some people every little part of him is possible object of desire

The last one is better not being thought about ever cause if he ever realises it he would disappear for more than 7 years this time

[touch-starved-lurker]

wow love skin picking so much (sarcasm)

kinda satisfying and hypnotic

but also ow, my face hurts, and is really red

[anzfaulkner]

Ok yk what I think I need to run a poll I need to know what the pipeline is for ppl who like went to public school or didn’t have many friends or smth & basically had zero exposure to what is & isn’t socially acceptable until eventually branching out social circles and learning more

SO HERE IS THE QUESTION maybe this is actually a natural human experience maybe im just fucking autistic idfk. All I know is I’m still incredibly fucked up from smth that happened a decade ago and I’ve never bothered asking if anyone else has gone thru smth like it

[pigeonliker420]

idk why i expected commentary on how we view and treat criminals/incarceration in arkham city thats on me but im a lil :/ anyway. i need to keep reminding myself this was made around 2010 by the most mainstream whiteboy tastes and opinions imaginable

[b-blushes]

i feel like in the last year i'm really, like, meeting myself if that makes sense? which is a really wild experience. like, i'm suddenly realising that perhaps what i thought of as immutable personality-trait Shyness was in fact Severe Clinical Anxiety as the aftermath of/alongside being autistic for nearly two decades without knowing it and Struggling with it, and i'm learning all kinds of things about my me! I've been to two groups for people with some of the health stuff i have over the last year, one a long-term hospital program and the other a fun thing, and i'm suddenly able to not only confidently and competently talk in front of a group but also, like, have a personality??? :P I was at one of the groups earlier today, realising i could straight up talk about my first impressions of an artwork i was seeing in front of everyone (mostly total strangers I'd only met minutes before) and i got home and was suddenly like HELLO?!!?!?!? I can just straight up DO this?! the main two thoughts i've had on realising this are 1. huh that kind of sucks! wild to have lived most of my life unable to kind of, like, develop much identity/self-knowledge of what i *did* like/think because i was So So Afraid In General! 2. if i had physical energy to go along with this i would be *such* a menace >:) which on one hand is kind of sad, but on the other hand it's like *looking at myself with awed wonder* there's things in my me???

NICE!

[onewomancitadel]

I think a lot of people lack the self-knowledge to know whether a random post or opinion or assertion etc. necessarily needs to apply to you and whether you need to be included in that caveat and whether a good faith interpretation here might be helpful. Look mummy I'm a real grown-up

[fiapple]

not to be mean, but if you've never had a restrictive ed or bdd then maybe just stop talking about body checking? 90% of the time you lot have no clue what you're talking about, and as someone who's struggled with those issues a majority of my life, the misinformation it spreads can be really damaging to people who are sick regardless of their recovery status.

(please read op tags before you decide to argue, thanks)

[msvorderofoperations]

New dream journal.

This one was a very strange one, and pretty disturbing.

I was watching a horror anthology series that had some elements of video games in them, in that you had some amount of choice at certain parts of the story. The thing of it was though, they were all shot through a first person perspective, and every single one ended with your death, often in very upsetting ways.

One of the stories involved being a masterful expert of this scripted on-rails shooter game (think House of the Dead, but a lot more slick and stylish). It then transitioned to living in the real world while still having a gun, and how people were terrified of you because you were open carrying, and how the quick reflexes you exhibit in the game meant that you are a hairs breadth away from shooting random people just because they made an unexpected noise. And because it felt like this was a series I had watched many times before, I remembered that one of the least upsetting ways to die in this particular setting was to just turn the gun on yourself. It wouldn't even be enough to kill you right away, but it meant that your suffering was a lot more brief than it would be otherwise.

Another of the stories involved being in a run down industrial setting, and each variation of the story ended with you being pulled into some machinery, and being slowly ground to death. The real kicker with that one was, no matter how safe and cautious you were, sometimes the opening of an industrial shredder would open up beneath your feet, or a person you were talking to would transform into some gnashing set of pistons or the like.

At some point, it felt as if I had become so familiar with the ways in which you die and the occasional shared elements of these stories that this was a series that I loved, and was part of a community of watchers. In talking it out with other fans, we were re-watching because we were both trying to unravel the mystery of this show, and prep for a forthcoming second season. In the rewatch however, we noticed that the default set of actions (ie where you do nothing and just let the story happen) were a lot less scary overall. It seemed that they had edited the show to be less initially disturbing, but the endings were all every bit as horrific.

But because I eventually started feeling overwhelmed (even in the context of the dream, much less how I felt once I actually woke up) I just started watching with my eyes closed. While I was familiar with how a lot of it ended, removing the visual component softened how distressing the whole affair was. But only barely.

Other stories involved being at a LAN party where a everyone was playing this comic book superhero based tactical game that was somewhere between XCOM and Payday. But after only a few rounds, everyone leaves, and then as you search for them to find out why they left, you find each person has been killed in a horrific way by one of the more ineffectual villains from the game. And then the story always ends with you hearing the villain's distinctive laugh, and then you (as a powerless vanilla human in the real world) are brutalized in a similarly fucked up way as all of the people you found.

Eventually I woke up enough to recognize that as all being a dream, but given the narrative's tendency to repeat ad nauseum, I opted to stay awake rather than try going back to bed.

[wait-thats-illegal]

Told my therapist about the time I tried one of those "take care of yourself by taking care of a virtual pet" apps, Finch specifically. I had a little bird named Eleanor (who was yellow and wore little socks) I absolutely adored her and the first few days were great, I did all the tasks like she wanted but slowly I didn't have the motivation to keep up. I thought she was now disappointed in me and I was making her sad. This ended up causing So Much emotional distress that I cried over a virtual bird and deleted the app

Anyways she recommended How We Feel (an app that help tracks and identify emotions), since it was simple and "had no virtual birds to upset" (said in the most sincere tone)

[engiiiiiii]

honestly beginning to believe I definitely have OCD, my behaviour does actually fit within the definition. and it explains some of the other related behaviours, so. I remember years ago the stigma related with it and idk if it has gone, I still feel terrified to talk about it for some reason... would be nice if people stopped treating it as the light switch cleaning disorder though!!