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doodle-do-wop · 6 months ago

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Rayni (open discussion post)

as some of you may have heard/seen I am Rayni Aria's biggest goddamn hater

I can't stand her ass

I recently read/listened through Stellarlune for the first time and I hated her the moment I met her. Yes I know the ending of Legacy, I know how it all flows

But I Still can't stand her

Why? Because she is a literal blob of nothingness on the page

Spoilers for Stellarlune

Rayni Aria is a character who was once the Neverseen member Glimmer (dumbass name btw) who, allegedly was involved with none of the Neverseen's major plots so far; The Kidnapping of Sophie and Dex, their torture, jumping Sophie, Keefe, and Silveny in Exile, Mt Everest, the gnomes etc etc etc

Allegedly she's had zero part in any of that because they just stick her in a corner and even when Gisela was overthrown she still didn't do diddly squat, she just read medical books. Sure. Okay

Her life previous to joining terrorists willingly was she was just a normal girl with a normal life until people started to whisper speculations about her parents' relationship not being all of what it says on the tin. Her parents are found guilty of messing with the match system to be together and avoid a Bad Match status and are made an example of by banishment But Rayni isn't banished with them as instead her parents leave her with a note and are never heard from again Rayni drops out of Foxfire and lives in a rented room in Mysterium until Gisela finds her and tell her to quit her unemployment and join her emo band Cool, alright. Mid and extremely questionable loyalties. So you'll just go with whoever reaches out their hand first. Good to know

Beyond her frankly uninteresting backstory Rayni's personality is the exact same cookie cutter cardboard cutout mean girl leave no coughed insults unspoke persona that is so old and over used I think Shannon might've actually managed to resuscitate this dead horse. Rayni whines and bitches about how 'no one will trust her' but does absolutely nothing to win herself any favors. Instead she seems more than chipper to keep digging at her own grave so why dont we just drop this whole pointless scene and let her keep on going at it She's boring. She's bland. She's lame. And don't get me started on the weird cat lamp thing I don't know if Shannon was going for 'oh look she likes cats' or 'boo hoo she's so broken and jaded an this lamp is the one thing that lights up her dark dark soul'.

Rayni is weird, her vibes are just so off and so lack luster. Her depth is so shallow I couldn't even soak up a puddle of it with a napkin.

What's the point of bring in a bad guy now good guy/anti hero if all they do is snark in the corner, pet a cat statue, watch the protagonist do jack diddly squat and be like "oh yeah, you're a leader now" girl what??? That entire scene where Rayni unmasks herself was so boring if I cut out the only other emotion I felt while listening which was annoyance. I listened and live reacted to it on discord with some friends as my witness and what even was that scene? Tam is supposedly the one holding the talking stick in the group I guess just because he and Rayni are just such good buds so obviously he should take point (cause no one thinks he's brainwashed) and the entire time Rayni bicthes and moans about how no one trusts her (girl you're wearing a stinky, smelly, raggedy terrorist hood. You couldn't ask to trade it for a less stinky less terrorist embroidered one?) and while yeah people poke holes at her and take small jabs Rayni really seems gung ho with tossing playground responses with 14-16 year olds at her grown ass age. She's one year younger than Wyile and while young adults in their 19/20s arent mature at all it is CRAZY to me that she bitches about no one trusting her and then turns and calls Fitz Sophie's "telepath back-up" I believe the correct quote is "You're basically Sophie's telepath backup" and this is said to Fitz and that was just the most absurd thing I've ever fucking heard spoken by Gisela's fucking lapdog. Fitz is done so dirty in this book and Rayni basically calls Fitz a "backup" like he's a damn battery or some waterboy Sophie only needs to use like an object. The worst part isn't that its the bad guy's lapdog with questionable loyalties that says this. Its the fact that no one stood up for Fitz. No one said anything. And Sophie fucking laughed. She laughed at that. And Fitz is the only one to blame for their fucked up cognate bond, sure. (Biana, FITZ'S FUCKING SISTER also says and does nothing because Biana is just a little poster Shannon sticks on the wall this whole book)

And not to mention that whole bit with Rayni constantly comparing her and Stina as if they're different faces on the same coin. Like you can't sit there in your terrorist onesie and look someone in the face and be like "Yeah your life is gonna be just like mine. Just you wait. It's coming for you. And then, yeah, you'll be just like me. Huff Huff" and then get mad when she doesn't like you in the slightest. Like yeah, I just love sitting in the same room as someone who tells me my life has a timer on my happy days because we're totes twinsies. Shannon should've let Stina punch Rayni because if this snarky little bug really wanted some damn allies wouldn't she want Stina on her side? You know, the most outspoken nay sayer in all of the Lost Cities? If you're gonna bring up your little Gisela Mini-Me act get good Circus-Circus.

If I wanna like Rayni I need more depth than Miss Hardknock Life over here who gets her kicks out of throwing tantrums when people dont trust her while she wears a terrorist hood and gets her kicks out of replying to every petty response.

If I could, I'd rewrite that whole scene because I genuinely love big groups in books and it would be fun to see a diverse group personality wise instead of the same 'bad bitch' boring outline. I can't believe Rayni's 'tough' personality is a facade because she's not just tough to trust. She's tough to want in any way shape or form She's not Heather Chandler, She's not even Heather Duke, she could never even dream of being Regina Georgie. She's so 2D she flies away with a tiny sigh. The whole book could've honestly been the exact same without Rayni around. Erase her and simply have Trix reach out on his own or something and you still have the Esilyum plot intact. Rayni was just there to make a page count for nothing of any great importance.

That's just what I think of Rayni. She annoys, bores, and pisses me off. She's like the physical embodiment of an Instagram comment section. If yall want, please tell me what you think about her because I genuinely want to know what makes her even the slightest bit interesting to any of you. I like headcanons and I can be convince to take a lot of them. Will my opinion on canon Rayni change? Who knows man

#kotlc #keeper of the lost cities #rayni aria #kotlc rayni #lets talk about it

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lillysilvermoon · 2 years ago

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What April will bring to you?

Pile 1

Hi pile 1! So I see that a lot of you are going through a difficult time in life. Some of you maybe are over thinkers and are feeling restricted by your own thoughts or a situation (for some I feel it's your environment that makes you feel this away). I think a lot of people here are going through end of cycles and has been really hard, especially because some of this ends are feeling like some kind of betrayal (I am so sorry Pile 1🥺) I feel like it is the end of friendship and relationship for a lot of you. BUT I have good news to y'all. This situation is because you are not seeing the BIG PICTURE, I know has been hard, believe me I know how it feels, but what I heard someone's guide say is "she is not realizing that SHE can figure it out! That's the lesson, it's all with her" and even tho not everyone reading this is a "her" I think this applies to a lot, really A LOT of you. Here me out: we can't control everything in life, endings can create space for new opportunities to emerge and hold on tight in this situation/relationship/thing will only cause you pain. April asks you go stabilize your energy, to try control less and go with the flow more. This month you bring you more balance and patience (for some it's what you will need to learn or work to be better at) and avoid extremes, maintain a sense of calm. I have a very good example: you know tiktok trend that "omg you wronged with me now I am the most BAD BICTH here me out are you seeing how bad I'm now?? Yeah now I hate you and don't care about anyone" it's what I'm talking about. Hate someone it's exhausting, and I'm NOT saying to have the toxic positive also, because this is a extreme too. Just.. focus on you in april okay? Focus on develope more patience, a calm mind and take care of yourself. April will be all about this, this "mind care" you know? And also to learn to go with the flow more, it's a big thing here.

April is about change, shapeshifting maybe, something is developing in y'alls lives. You know all this struggles and cycles? It's finalizing, and you know what the guide said about you can change the situation? This card here (it's from moonology oracle) says that YOU can still change the course of this outcome (you are in a toxic relationship and are thinking this is a sign that "ong I can change him/her blablabla" IT IS >NOT< but you can change the fact that you are in this relationship and put a end at it).

This card also talks about the need of more flexibility in situations.

I highly recommend to calm your mind because maybe will have some very emotional intense situations in this moment, maybe related to family issues (but don't worry, usually this card indicates the end of some challenge. It's also time to overcome your insecurities and stand up for yourself.

Signs: Roses, flowers, lake, oak trees (this was to specific lmao), landscape and horses (maybe you should check out Pile 2??) 4444, 6666, 222

Pile 2

Hi pile 2! Let's get into your reading, shall we?

So I think y'all have been working on something and its kind weighting on your shoulders. Maybe you are feeling overburdened, overloaded and/or having too much responsibilities and challenges, and because of this you feel like your life are lacking spontaneity... I HAVE GOOD NEWS!!!!!! I know has been hard, but you are almost there with whatever you are doing. April you brings to you lots and lots of good moments with family and friends, and for a very small group a lover (possible Soulmate connection) a feeling of true contentment you know? You will feel more confident and have the drive to overcome obstacles and moving forward in a very positive direction, I feel you will learn how to channel you inner power with very fierce dedication to bring your goals to fruition, and even tho will have work to do, will feel much more spontaneous and just happy in general, a sense of confidence in what you are doing. You will have more time to enjoy with friends and when is time to work again you'll be feeling happy and energized.

It's a moment to you stop and think abouts what you learned from your experiences rather than blindly forging ahead,you need to face your fears because they may be holding you back (you are also being called to listen to your feelings and allow your emotions to be free) it's important to you to have faith that whatever happens will be for the best. Some of you REALLY need time out for your own good and health, breathe, have time to relax because you just CAN'T be "on" all the damn time gosh, also if you feel you've hit an obstacle or failed in some way, now is the time to reflect about it and how you can do things differently next time (without judging yourself please, I feel I have to emphasize this a lot, don't be so hard on yourself you are just human)

Signs: books, wood/smelling of woods, barbie movies, color link, number 8 (I think it's a date, caterina, 222, 5555, 66, pisces, cancer

Pile 3

Hi Pile 3, welcome to your reading! I just saw 11:11 when I finished shuffling your cards and was like, literally just the time for to see it and then changed lmao. But let's get started! You may be in between 2 options or 2 paths and you don't know what to do, I think you have been daydreaming and procrastinating because of your indecisiveness and I have to be honest: you need to stop living in this wishful world. Pick and choose, but don't worry because your guides have your back, if you stop and really, REALLY be in silence (no music sir) and hear your intuition you will know which path to go, and be aware that I'm not saying will be easy, but your intuition will help a lot, I feel you may be a water sign because you got more cups, but you can just be very sentimental and make decisions based more on your heart and feelings (I got you🙌💗) and sometimes it's hard to decide where to go, what to do. I feel you need to put EVERYTHING aside, think what you wanna do? What would makes you happy? What you are good at? Those are good questions to begin with, maybe journaling would help too! I feel you maybe have to face you family disapproval depends on your choice and this is weight on you but honestly? It's your life and you have to do what YOU think it's better, because more you get older more you realize it's not worth be miserable just to make out parents/friends/etc happy. Really isn't. When you listen your intuition you will realize what you truly want, and will be easy to choose. April asks you this, and know that you shall succeed. If you are looking for a job or starting a business know that April may bring you a new start in this area, if you are unhappy it's the moment to look for something new and even tho you aren't thinking about work-related stuff it's a moment for a new plan or strategy, it's a moment to do long-term plans and think about where you want to be and who you want to be in the next 12 months, and take steps by this perspective (be realistic). And here this: you CAN be ambitious!!

You need to be more disciplined and realistic, it's also a good month to study or learn something new.

In general april brings you reflection to decide what you want, and once you have make your mind it's all yours, it's a very good month you just need to get off your head and make a choice.

For anyone facing a problem of any kind: it's reaching a solution and a fresh start in your private life is coming! It's also asked to you to take better care of yourself this month and nurture yourself more. And be aware of any insecurity you have, you need to work on them ie they will hold you back (maybe you can't make a decision because of this and as soon you take care of this you will be able to choose more calm!!) Its literally written in the book card that meditation may help with you with insecurities lmao I would give a try.

It's also a good month in family matters.

Oh, and one more thing: don't be to controlling and avoid people who are!

Signs: capricorn, cancer, water, earth, library, candles, green places, owl,55,1111, 22, 66

Pile 4

Hi Pile 4! April you be very rushing, you are progressing and gaining momentum. Lots of good moments and exciting times. If you are working on something you'll see results and you work and sleepless nights you be paying off (for some you may have some holiday romance 😏😏 there is any holidays coming? Here in my country it's just Easter - English is not my language and I actually had to go see how it's said because here it's called Pascoa lmao) you will be feeling more outgoing and full of energy (I am so happy for you Pile 4😭💗💗💗) and optimistic and independent. You will feel called to take charge of things and organize your life. Also, if you have problems to speak your truth, well, april it's looking at this problem and saying "bye bye🤭" because you will work on yourself and will stand up for you unafraid to speak up and be unapologetically you!

But I need y'all to pay attention because it's a general reading, and I see here that some of you might be turning down and refusing offering and after you can feel yearning and regret and then might start focusing on the negative. Don't do that! Sometimes, for a very big amount of reasons, we take decisions that we regret later (sometimes right after lol) but try to train your mind to think this away: it's experience. It's knowledge, take the lesson and live the rest behind with no regrets. If you need to take decisions this month don't be impulsive, contemplate and meditate over this and reevaluate what is best and important for you. Also focus on realizing what makes you feel bored or unhappy and make a change can help a lot.

And I have 2 options here: the first one is that you need to stan firm in whatever situation you are in (maybe you are recovering and things are kind hard) and the second one is that something is stuck, in this case you need to stop and think what is going wrong. Are you being stubborn and doing the same thing again just because worked in the past? If that's the case, it's time to try something new. Anything you are starting this month (business, relationships) may last longer. And you have a reminder to speak your truth (do you know that people who have womb can have problems if they don't speak? Thyroid problems too, This applies to a hell lot of stuff, feelings, traumas, anger. So please, speak. Put this out off you the better way you can) but remember the words you say have consequences and impact in the person who is hearing so be mindful. I also feel I should say this here: someone is interested in manifestation and use affirmations can help a lot, "your words are your wand, you create your own realitye every time you express yourself" (metaphysical Florence Scovel Shinn) so be mindful the away YOU talk to YOURSELF, say kind words to you even if you don't believe in them at first.

Signs: Gemini, fixed signs (taurus, leo, scorpio and aquarius), color red and orange, 444, 111, 333, 555, beach, oceans, trees and bicycles (?? Sometimes this readings are so specific that I just can't-)

Good april for all of you, I hope y'all be okay, happy and take care of yourselves (and drink you water please, also sleep well and eat right please. I worry about you all working too much) see you in my next reading.

Lots of love♡

- Lia

#pac tarot #tarotreader #tarot readers of tumblr #tarot reading #tarotcommunity #tarot free reading #free readings #free tarot #pac #pick a pile #pick a card #tarotblr #pisces #gemini #aquarius #astrology #oracle #tarot

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jq37 · 2 years ago

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So, the Princess' Crusade is more of a cosmic suicide pact. That's disappointing. I was waiting for the other shoe to drop for a while though. Drosselmyer's prophecy from ep 2 never got out of my head: ''Many will offer answers. I would trust your heart and the heart of your companions alone". There's no Big Good that will lighten the load and make things easy, our heroes are gonna have to figure this out themselves.

Man I have been WAITING for their plan to come out this entire time. I admit, I wasn't thinking about Dross's prophecy exactly because it was a while ago--good on you for remembering it from all the way back--but knowing stories and knowing how Brennan tells stories specifically, I was sure there was no way the conflict was as simple as princesses good, fairies bad. Information on what exactly they wanted has been so vague and our heroes haven't been asking for specifics when they had the chance. I had a feeling Brennan was setting up some youthful zealotry leading to Bad Decisions and now, here we are.

This whole situation is really wild for a lot of reasons, not the least of which is the princess squad are saying they're against the concept of these narratives and the power they hold over their lives, but what about the power they themselves will be wielding over everyone else by doing this? They're talking like they're doing a hard thing that's best for everyone though they won't be understood by the common folk and to that I say bicth(es) what? Who are you to decide that life isn't worth living in this form? No one gets to decide but you because you're the main characters? What kind of Divine Right Of Kings BS is that? As someone else pointed out in another post of mine, I think Alphonse the Mule would be pretty put out if he heard the plan was "Let's End It All" while all he wants is to munch some grass.

And like, they don't even have it bad! How mad would you be if you were like, a witch or a giant or a monster whose fate in every Once Upon a Time is to lose and be hated and be killed and you learn that the people who were trying to take down the ship with all of you in it are the people whose job it is to suffer a bit sure but then be beloved, rich, beautiful, and happy forever with the men of their dreams? Like I GET why the Stepmother is like burn it all. Why is CInderella on that same train?

Speaking of why is this person on this train, what's up with Elody? Cinderella is like 18-20, right? I've been a dumb 18 year old girl. I understand that 18 year old girls can be very dramatic and fatalistic and rash. Elody is like 35, right? Does she know the plan? If so, is she COOL with it? (Sidenote: Is there another Elody running around in this version of the world or is she maybe dead?) There are like 3 options here.

(1) She knows and she's fine with it. Which wouldn't really mesh with what we know about her so far but maybe with Ger dead she was like OK screw it. Team Let's End It.

(2) She doesn't know because the princesses knew she wouldn't go along with it if she knew the real plan. Def a possibility but I don't want to pretend like she's uncoruptable. Anyone can subscribe to a bad take at a low time in their life.

(3) She DOES know but she's stringing them along for her own purposes. Listen, if MY useless husband that I loved died trying to do something brave for once in his life, mayhaps I would consider joining up with some overly-zealous suicidal princesses to find the power they wanted to use to end the world to bring back said useless but beloved husband.

I guess we'll see how it ends up shaking out. And likely soon. I have a feeling this might be an Escape The Castle situation happening soon enough.

Oh, one more thing. It kinda blows my mind that the princesses have learned of a book not touched by the Authors--Tim's Book--and are not like oh my gosh that changes everything! They're still fully committed to this nuke all stories plans it seems. Guys please. Have just...a moment of thought about this. A sliver of perspective. A crumb of self-awareness.

#farmer 10 #never after #neverafter #dimension 20 #d20 #never after spoilers #neverafter spoilers #dimension 20 spoilers #d20 spoilers #asks #to be clear I still like the princesses a lot as characters #i have been waiting for this turn for a while #I just think ideologically they're dumb as hell #we are 3 years out from a ROUGH pandemic and things still feel rough #if I found out that like 5 rich girls wanted to nuke the planet bc they were having an existential crisis I would be FURIOUS

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dirtyvulture · 1 year ago

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😎 I want to add this thought really quick to my last post ( the one asking what is up what captain Rogers and the SB time line ) but I didn’t want it to be too long so here is the separate post . This is the thought on Nat first realizing and falling for Sergeant Beef. This is how I see it going down .

It is the morning after their ( Nat and SB’s)favorite activities with the sun shining through the window Nat sat up looking at Sb sleeping ( KOed) and softly bushing the hair out of their face feeling absolutely warm inside. That is when it hits her like a ton of bricks, she is in love . The usually stoic and put together Sergeant Natasha Romanoff did the one thing she never thought herself capable of ( fell in love). She was absolutely screaming on the inside and losing her shit but was just as stoic and a hard ass as always on the outside and the poor recruits and the lower level grunts that she took everything out on never had a chance. They were running for their lives on the hamster wheel trail and were run ragged all day ( surprisingly enough she didn’t take it out on SB , they were good and Nat even praised SB on a job well done after they did something well) . Bonus points if one of the low level grunts is the awl face less ex -partner of SB , double bonus points if this was when Nat didn’t know that they were the one that leaked the tape. That they were “ That Bicth” as Nat come to know them as and it became an ON SIGHT thing ( held back of course for SB’s sake) after she found out .

Lol, yes this is an extremely accurate depiction of how Nat probably acted when she realized she was in love for the first time in her life 😂

Those poor recruits didn't deserve the backlash of it lol

#😎 anon #vulture answers #sergeant beef au

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you-like-jazz69 · 2 years ago

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Ok so my first post I really hope y’all like it <33

I’m gonna do some headcanon’s for some of the mha boys having a crush on you (you lucky gem)

Btw characters are aged up

Katsuki Bakugo

Imma be real with y’all this man has never had a proper relationship before.

With his bad attitude in middle school to high school he never got any bicthes

And at that time he just didn’t want a relationship.

Then you come in to the picture and he is like a teen in a cheesy romance movie (but way better at hiding it).

Always nervous when you are with him , thinking about you al the time , wanting things he used to think where dumb and sappy.

Then one day he tells kiri.

“Yea I just feel so odd around her/him/them but like in a good way????”

“Oh man *insert eye roll* you head over heels in love dude”

“WHAT NO IM NOT I-“

“Save your breath man you’ll figure it out”

“Whatever”

The next day the felt so flustered after his talk with kiri so he figured out that he quote was “head over heels” in love

Izuku Midoriya

At first he thought it was just admiration a very….. intense admiration.

But he comes to terms a lot faster then Bakugo and by himself.

One night he spirals kind of and then plans out his entire life with you.

Like when you wedding is , how many kids , your ring.

Wakes up in a pile of paper and late for work.

Shoto Todoroki

Takes him even longer then Bakugo cuz he can’t understand feelings

Goes to Momo for help (off topic but I love Momo <33)

Explains what he’s s feeling and ask if she thinks he’s getting sick

She holds in her laughter and tells him to do some research on love

He gets all blushy and mumble’s “ok thanks”

Trust me when I say he got a lot more blushy when he did research

Ok so I’m really tired rn so i’m gonna end it here I will only be doing these three characters for head cannons right now but if you have any would like to request feel free to do that.

I also do oneshots and scenarios look at my pinned post for more details <3333

#my hero fanfic #my hero acedamia #mha bakugou #mha todoroki #mha deku #fanfic #mha x reader #mha headcanons

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forsakenprogam · 7 months ago

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*Bomb poseidon ass the whole ålace exploded run off laughing together with Adamas🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

Jack ate so bad ,He such gentleman that just needs a bit of love🫶🫶💞💞🫂🫂🫂 I hate his mom so much but I thank her for giving birth to such a beautiful baby tho ,I'M TAKE HIM FROM YOU ,HE MY SON NOW🥰💞🫂 GOod thing jack end her.💅😌😌

Slay slay bicth.

Honstly never really liked bruehilde yeah it weird how she cried for Hercules but not her blood her SISTERS the only one that cried was göll she definitely cared alot bruehilde even had the nerv to tell her to stop crying on focus on ragnarok ,Like how selfish can you be is a game of mankind and gods more important than your own sisters?

No worries you reposened when you have time🥰

☆👓-anon.

Jack slayed💅💅 Slayed his own mother, I’M SO GLAD HE KILLED THAT BITCH. BRO WHEN I WAS READING THAT PART I WAS LIKE “FUCK YEAH JACK, GET HER ASS!” And honestly, JACK DESERVES BETTER PARENTS, you’d probably be a WAAAYYYY better parent than that bitch.

Bro Brunhilde did not care a single bit, she had the AUDACITY TO EVEN GET MAD AT Göll when one of their sisters died. LIKE WHO WOULDN’T CRY WHEN THE SISTERS THEY LOVED FOR THEIR ENTIRE LIFE DIES RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEM? I FUCKING WOULD, even though I don’t have any. But when Hercules died she was all crying and saying she’ll kill herself when the ragnarok is over so that she could be with him. LIKE GIRL, YOU CARE ABOUT HIM MORE THAN ALL YOUR SISTERS?! she kinda a bitch, but she’s hot though. Still a cold bitch.

Who’s your favorite and least favorite characters in this series? I’m just a bit curious.

Also, thanks for waiting for my response!

#record of ragnarok #shumatsu no valkyrie #shuumatsu no valkyrie #anon ask

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ashru-premika · 7 months ago

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I'll tell you something right now, I'd rather burn my whole life down than listen to one more second of all this bicthing and moaning

#FACTS #taylor swift #ttpd #but daddy i love him #desiblr

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sanctiphera · 7 months ago

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Girls/Women don’t like to hear and might refuse to accept it, but if you are sleeping with someone on the first date, chances are you won’t be seeing them again. If you are that easy, then you are no prize.

#awareness #personal development #self improvement #self awareness #spilled thoughts #manifesting #energy management #abandonment of the self #relationships #relationship #high standards #morality #personal growth #desired life #life hacks #life lessons #bad bicth #girl bosses #queued post

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henrioo · 8 months ago

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okey so this really weird thing happened to me while was out and went to restroom so I was i rest after doing my business and washing my hands their was like several other guys in room,and than this guy that you could tell was trans proply hasnt been taking hormones yet walked in. And everyone startted at him,than the crazist thing happened ,this one guy spoke up and said your in the wrong bathroom this is male bathroom. For male space. And everyone else seem to agree. That guy was bacislly telling that other guy to leave. And it turned in to a fignt..back a fourth.. transph0bi shit was said.😥😥 i know should had somthing. I swear my brain was telling me to do somthing or at least say somthing, but nothing..😭😭😭 I feel like a coward...and a bicth?

If this ever happnes again do you have any tips on how to handle the problem??

This can be a little like

This genuinely is not what you expected to hear but is most true

In most of those situations my advice for you is

Don't do nothing

And that's real, okay?

Why? Because if you are never with who you are starting a fight with, you can never know if one dude is going to push a gun and kill you and the trans guy, you never know if the other men will come together and beat you until dead, you never know what can happen to you

And even if helping a person is totally a valid fight and a noble gesture, don't ever do something that can put your life in danger

You have to be really careful with that, because yes you can help the guy and everything be fine

Or you two can end dying

And when the subject is life, your life matters more than any other person's life (in that case)

So, in a real situation what you should do

First is analyse your surroundings, how many people are in the bathroom? They are in a bigger number? Looks they have anything dangerous? (Sometimes you can spot a gun or a knife if you look carefully enough)

After that, where are you? In a club? In a mall? In a restaurant? Depending on the place you are you can start a real big fight that you don't want, in a bar for example you can attract a lot of angry guys ready to beat you, but if you are in a club maybe you can find women and other LGBTs that are ready to help you

If it's a place with more people, like a mall, you will have more security of helping someone, those idiots don't want to start a big fight in public places that have a big amount of people, also if there's a cop they probably won't do anything too serious

If the situation is better for your side, then you can get involved in this, don't act in a violent or aggressive way, but be firm or they won't take you seriously, ofc fear can make this harder but just try to be calm and you will be fine

You can say things like "c'mon it's a trans okay? Just let him use the bathroom" or "let's not get upset, just let him use it and he will leave soon"

The better thing is putting you in between them, if you manage to put the trans guy on the toilet cabin there's nothing much the other guys can do, just be there until the guy finishes so you can be sure no one will try nothing to him

If you can help him, leave the bathroom as soon as possible and find the guy, talk to him and say to him wait a little to the bathroom get less people and come back with him, or take him to another male bathroom if there is one

Don't try to expose too much about the trans guy's identity, because we can feel somehow exposed and humiliated, so just try to play with the basic "he is a man" "he is trans" "he is lgbt" just to make clear he can use that bathroom but without being like "JUST BECAUSE HE HAVE A VAGINA DOESN'T MEAN HE IS NOT A MAN"

But like I said, there's a lot of things to think about before trying to help someone

In most cases you will have some panic crisis because no one is ever fully prepared to handle this situation, so if you can do nothing in the time just leave the bathroom and try to find the guy to offer the other options I said

But like I said, if the situation looks dangerous for you and him, just try to say to him to leave to not start a fight

Is not a thing to be proud of, my for us is better being a victim of a transphobia instead of being a victim of murder

So even if you don't help someone in that situation, there's nothing wrong with you, you definitely not a coward

Those situations are shocking for anyone and even a trans person cannot know what to do

So don't blame yourself for nothing, handling transphobia on the internet is totally different from handling in real life

And nobody is ever prepared for that

And unfortunately most cases of transphobia can result in physical harm, so never do nothing that can hurt you, you are not a hero and you shouldn't die with someone

If you can help someone of being harmed then do it, but I'd you can risk your life with low possible of leaving alive, don't. Your life matters and unfortunately in this world we always need to think about us first

#henri talk

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