#AroAce-spec

[aroace-ed]

every so often, i think, and it might be so selfish of me, but i crave to be someone's first choice. i want to be the person that someone sees fun things to do and their first thought is to ask me to go with them. i want someone to be willing to inconvenience themselves a little bit sometimes for me as i would do for them. i want to be looked at in a list of people and to have someone pick me out of all of them. i want to be held at the same level as a romantic partner in terms of effort and closeness. i want someone to want me as much as i want them, even though it's not in a romantic sense. i want to be important to someone.

[tomatoandeggs]

Why do people find the need to invalidate aro/ace characters' identities just because they want to ship or simp for that character

As someone on the aroace spectrum, I've only ever seen allos mention the spectrum and microlabels to use as loopholes to ship. They also dont use queerplatonic relationships right. I am not against these bc i identify with aro and ace microlabels and i like to see microlabels and queerplatonic relationships getting recognized properly but not as loopholes

Its like me shipping a gay and lesbian character and calling it queerplatonic as an excuse

Its aphobic and arophobic. Especially when the character shows no interest, and even disgust, at romance and sex

Why do we, the aromantic and/or asexual community, excuse nsfw/ship drawings/fics? It wouldn't fly if you made ship art or fic of a gay and female character, so why does it fly to make an aroace character allo or sexualize them? We deserve respect

Idc what your headcanons are. It still upsets me as someone on this spectrum who uses microlabels

I just had to get my thoughts out

[charlie-yippee]

Demiorchidaroace / Демиорхидароэйс

Or just: Dechidaroace / Дехидароэйс

[ Created by me ; Can be used ]

Demiaroace + Orchidaroace

— A term for people who do not experience romantic and sexual attraction until an emotional connection/attachment has been formed with a specific person. But they won't want a romantic and sexual relationship.

Демиароэйс + Орхидароэйс

— Термин для персон, которые не испытывают романтическое и ексуальное влечения до тех пор, пока с определенным человеком не сформируется эмоциональная связь/привязанность. Но они не будут хотеть романтических и сексуальных отношений.

Mentions / Tags: @radiomogai @acronym-chaos

[adhd-coded-hedgehog]

My brain is literally incapable of understanding the notion that getting into a relationship with a friend is the absolute worst thing in the world.

Why?? Literally why is that so bad?

“Don’t date them, you’ve known them for years and are very close with them and know almost everything about them! You should date this person instead, because they’re hot and you’ve never interacted with them before.”

Like huh

[heyitsdamiien]

systemsona or singletsona whatever tf they call it; i finally got around to drawing them after putting it off since like. september last year

bless vix for actually HELPING and making the design concept in the first place 🙏

[skyedancer2006]

Looking for posts about being fictosexual cause I’m pretty sure I am, but almost everything is selfship related. Which there’s nothing wrong with! But it’s not what I’m looking, for plus I’m aro so selfshipping isn’t something I really feel a desire to engage with. I just think my blorbos are attractive lol!

-🐉Night (Drei/Pup/Claw)

[your-bigender-big-brother]

That mesque anon that asked you for the term a few asks ago! Thank you so much!! /genuine

Here again to ask: could you combine the aroace-spec flag (orange-blue one) with the mesque flag? (preferably the mesque flag with the caption "Mesque flag - kenochoric")

also if it's not too much to ask, could the flag have a blue-ish theme? (I use aroace, but I'm technically aroace-spec and I really appreciate the addition of the blue to represent the entire spectrum)

I made three versions! The leftmost and middle ones are more blue like you requested, and then I wanted to try out blending them in a different way. What do you think?? 💙💚

If you enjoy my content, please feel free to tip me here! It would help me out a lot!

[idkwhatsgoingonargh]

Got some pride rings! I know they aren’t exactly the black and white ones most wear, but then again, I consider myself aroace-spec, so the gold lining kinda fits!

This is so far the most visible way for me to show my sexuality, and I absolutely love it. It’s still subtle enough for most not to notice and after all it’s really for myself.

[thereareeyesinsidethetrees]

was making stresexual and stresromantic pride pixels for the pridetriangles queue and noticed there wasn't a stresaroace/stresrose flag. and we wanted to complete the set. and also it was an incredibly self-indulgent set of pixels that we were kinda making for ourselves first and foremost so this is almost definitely gonna be the only time we’re making any flags for that blog

savor it while it lasts (lighthearted) (there are caedrose and caedfamilial flags already so we don’t need to make our own flags for those >:])

so anyway we made two: one that uses a blue-to-grey gradient in the same style of the other two flags (with blue being commonly associated with aroace-spec identities) and then a flag that combines the stresexual and stresromantic flags into one

we were going to just use these in the pride pixels and leave it at that but. uh. y'know. realized maybe we should share just the flags too

anyway we’re away from our computer now and thus cannot work on the pride pixels right now (we’re not going to be able to spend too much time on them in general for a while on account of having college classes to go to). so it’s back to your regularly scheduled content :]

[aroace-ed]

i will never understand the emphasis society places on romantic relationships. why is the ideal future always portrayed as living with your significant other in a happy, committed, romantic relationship? why is there a whole holiday dedicated towards romantic love? i've heard so many people i know say that they're so lonely because they aren't in a romantic relationship, and i can't help but wonder how are they lonely with so many friends around them? so many things have become romanticized to the point where people no longer think it's socially acceptable to do them with friends. maybe people would feel less lonely then if it was normal to hold hands with people, to give them your sweaters, to lay together on the couch while watching a show. human connection is so so so important. i will never understand how is it that in a world full of love, we only seem to idolize one part of it.

[glitchedcosmos]

Characters dynamic that’s like “ they’re not in a romantic relationship but they definitely love each other with all their heart and fucking soul”

[evocaitart]

Happy Ace Week 💜 Here's your regularly scheduled reminder that asexual people belong in the queer community because WE. ARE. QUEER!

If you like my lil ace bunnies, I have them as stickers in my shop!

Being Ace is Not a Choice Asexuality ≠ Celibacy! Many Aces TRY to feel attraction despite being unable. This can make them feel broken, wrong, and confused. It can take young Aces many years of suffering before they finally figure out that their sexuality just works differently from others. Being Ace is Not Just Low Libido Aces have a range of libidos. Many have a low libido and abstain from sex, but others have high libidos and enjoy sex for a number of reasons. Libido is your sex drive; the urge to partake in sexual activities. This urge is separate from attraction, which is WHO you feel sexual desire for. Aces are Not Heterosexual Heterosexuality = “attraction to the opposite sex”. Since Aces do not feel attraction to ANY gender or sex, they don’t fall under this definition. This point requires some nuance because many Ace sub-labels (such as Demisexual) CAN experience attraction in a limited or fluctuating capacity. However, the way that these labels experience sexuality still falls outside of what heterosexual society deems as “normal” attraction and can cause compatibility issues in relationships with non-Aces. That being said, some Aces still choose to identify with the Heterosexual label if it resonates with them. You can be both Heterosexual AND Ace, but being Ace is not the same as being Heterosexual! Discrimination/Struggle Happens Many people claim that Aces do not experience any discrimination and thus they don't belong in the queer community. This couldn't be further from the truth. Corrective assault, “it’s just a phase,” getting called mentally/physically ill, “you haven’t met the right person yet” are just a few examples. On top of the blatant discrimination listed above, Aces also deal with other struggles in our very sexual society, particularly when seeking romantic relationships. Aces who are sex-repulsed struggle to keep their partners satisfied in bed. Likewise, non-Ace partners often feel rejected and uncomfortable with the notion that Aces don't find them attractive. This disappointment from their partners can weigh heavily on Aces and make them feel broken/wrong.

Thank you for coming to my Ace talk hehehe. If you're Ace I hope you feel validated. If you're not, I hope you learned something!

[matcha-milo]

I want a relationship that is completely undefinable by any existing labels or words. Like, we're so close and we hug and kiss each other's foreheads and cuddle and travel and explore together, and we get along so well and have so much in common. But at the same time, our relationship isn't fully romantic or fully platonic; it's a completely separate, open-to-interpretation thing that we tweaked as needed, and we have our own boundaries and things we are and aren't comfortable with, and we respect each other in every way, shape, and form.

[bizarreaizen]

someone: hey can you give me some relationship advice?

me who's aroace: communicate

someone: I tried but it didn't-

me: break up /lh

[radios-universe]

wait so…. is the stereotype that aro/ace spec people love garlic bread because of garlic breath??

hear me out.

because garlic breath is not nice for other people in close range and to many (many being only a-specs whom of which are repulsed by it) think kissing is yucky and… and garlic breath would stop people from kissing you

guys hold on now hold on i think i have something brewing

[merely-a-caricature]

I just want to take a moment to appreciate the beauty that is the acespec flag

It so aesthetically pleasing!!! The color palette is just gorgeous, and I’m weak for pinks and purples.

Also the arospec flag?!!

The greens and greenish-blues are just so calming and peaceful. It makes my heart so happy!

Edit: Apparently there’s an aroace spec flag?! And it’s gorgeous too, of course ♡

I literally can’t even-

Our spectrum flags are so pretty!!! ♡