#....with said friend's consent

[teacup-captor]

I feel like the internet condems writing fiction about real people too much. Don't get me wrong writing porn about someone without their knowledge is definitely a bit ick but hey. What if I wanted to write about Markiplier fighting a dragon to save his subscribers. Or a story where Neil Gaiman meets Aziraphale and Crowley. Or if I wanna write a story about my friend kissing the fictional character they're dating with their permission. What if I want people to write stories about me, huh? What if I allow people to put me in a fantasy setting, to make me a background character, to kill me off, what's wrong with that? What if I WANT people to write fics where I date a reader insert? Why when it's with permission is it still weird

[lilidawnonthemoon]

[mueritos]

a little strange to get dms from other trans people saying they agree with biden's dumb statemet that he doesnt want minors getting gender-affirming care. if you really think its such an epidemic that 13 year olds are getting their knockers blown off by surgeons every other day, then please point me in the direction of said 13 year olds that are somehow accessing gender-affirming care that literal trans adults can't even access.

like please be fr. we literally have privatized healthcare and insurance where not even people who go through the appropriate avenues can get approved for care they need to stay alive. what makes you think a trans minor is getting phallo or vaginalplasty. feel whatever you want about 13 year olds who want gender-affirming care, but dont parrot transphobic rhetoric that is based on no facts and a moral panic. they second they legitimize barriers to care for trans minors is the second they start finding ways to do the same for trans adults. dont be a buffoon.

[moeblob]

OC again gomen ... (her name is Yuma)

[forcebookish]

so... in the drama where ray kissing mew (who has said he doesn't want to be with him) when he's asleep is explicitly wrong and there are real consequences for it,

boston shoving top (who has repeatedly said he doesn't want to have sex with him) against a wall and groping him in a public place (twice) is... fine?

continuing to touch top after he's said to stop and let go is... okay?

hmmmmm, almost like this drama is trying to say something about consent... almost like it's a recurring theme........ 🤔

[fatuifucker]

tw SA mention

tbh i would rather have minors read my work rather than those coquette smut blogs (not targeting anyone specifically, just in general) that write really ooc drabbles and topics that are basically SA. sometimes it's even blatant SA it's wild that you'd have the reader basically crying and begging the character to stop but the post's theme is just (˶˃ ᵕ ˂˶)

[bedazzlecunt]

i love the idea of being a free use slut for your physically-close friend group or your housemates, but there’s also something fun about the idea of that in a long-distance context?

waking up in the morning to a message in the gc from someone telling me to post a video of me edging when i wake up, cos they woke up horny and need porn.  someone interrupting in the middle of a totally normal call to tell me to turn on video and fuck myself on a dildo cos they’re horny and bored.  everyone knowing they can ask for nudes or vids or audios whenever they want, can tell me to drop what i’m doing and edge, knowing that we’re all besties and also that i’m a slut that’ll get off on being shown off and bossed around.

hard cnc/misogyny/detrans/etc. blogs DNFI

[yashley]

you ever think about how a choice that wasn’t even really a choice for fearne, but her being the only one with the ability to perform the ritual that made it her* choice as everyone around her buckled to try to help her out of that situation and the ramifications of that choice that she had scarred her so deeply that now she is terrified of making another mistake that will dramatically affect the people around her who she loves, and then when another situation followed, she was led into a situation that she did not want to be a part of, but under the veil of friendship reluctantly assisted and it blew up literally once again, took that overwhelming burden of guilt and while her friends stood by and once more let her be alone in her guilt and scarred her further.

now it feels like she can’t make any choice for herself, she can’t make any move because that will ultimately inevitably lead to her making a mistake and all of her precious friends will look down at her in disappointment and that there is not a single friend amongst them who has the emotional wherewithal to what’s happening with how fearne has changed and how she is shutting in on herself and how she is slowly imploding breaking at the seams because she’s being lost in the sea of guilt and no one else notices and no one else sees that she feels like she can’t do anything anymore from the smallest carefree little action that has no plot repercussions to a character centered decision that is integral to her own character arc that has been in the works for her character since the campaign’s conception

now she can’t even say anything, and if fearne does have an idea to do something. She quietly mutters it, and if they hear her they hear her enough to respond that ehhh that's not a good plan and that’s not gonna work and we’re not gonna do that. We’re gonna do this and fearne being fearne, trusting in her friends and doubting herself to the point of despair will nod her head that they were right and then we go on with our day until the next moment happens where she wants to think of something, she wants to do something, and it’s dismissed as the silly dumb fearne not thinking, that She has her own thoughts and feelings, and drives and desires but because she is drowning in doubt and drowning in guilt, She freezes up and doesn’t move and everyone around her just pushes her on, and even in the moment where she is faced with the situation that she is terrified of undertaking, and she is terrified of becoming a Nightmare version of herself her friends push her forward, her friends dust off her shoulders say your doubt is misplaced, and don’t worry about it and you need to do this, it should be you. This is for you.

They just completely dismiss and ignore her when she actually does speak up so what does that do? that means that she remains silent. She doubts herself more. She even more will only make a decision if it’s signed off by all these fucking people around her who claim to be her friends. she can’t even move without frantically looking to people around her for confirmation that that’s a good idea she’s not gonna fuck up. Everything about her that was supposed to be free and fun and sweet has just rendered her into a character who feels like they have as much agency as characters who would be absent for the majority of the campaign.

shes been so chained up by doubt and so chained up by guilt and hesitation and fear that she just is a person who affirms everyone else’s desires and ideas because what she wants will inevitably end up being horrible and everyone will hate her for it and they’ll leave

and it’s like if they deem fearne even capable enough to be the vessel she will leap at the chance to be useful and to be told her path and it’s like. fearne was ruidusborn first. how has this campaign done such a disservice to her character that the only thing fearne is certain of is that she doesn’t really matter. she’s a ruidusborn and holds a primordial titan of fire inside her, and she still believes she doesn’t really count are you kidding me

[brotherofbagels]

There needs to be more nuance in how people view the situation but the internet doesn't allow for that.

[chaos0pikachu]

The reason I be defending Boston so hard is because the way some of y'all be talking about him is straight up unhinged like some folks act like he's a sociopathic MCU villain out to systematically destroy the sanctity of TopMew and SandRay's love and Nick's purity instead of some messy 22 yr old who's selfish, and makes bad decisions

[fizzytoo]

a friendly tap on the ass as a show of camaraderie can save the world btw

[coquelicoq]

after spending the last week very stressed out and losing sleep over how much i regretted giving my number to a stranger, and after talking to several friends who all gave me the same very wise advice ("decide first what YOU want out of this and make decisions based on that" sounds obvious now but honestly blew my mind), i saw food truck man again today and he asked me if i have a boyfriend, told me he's all alone, hugged me twice, and tried to kiss me. i texted him after to be like just to be clear, i don't want a boyfriend, but i hope you find somebody! and he texted me back: i don't need a girlfriend. i'm married.

[ant-diary]

I think I have maybe decided to tell someone I no longer want to be friends with them, but I'm wondering if I should give it a few more days before I commit to it

[dimensionzero]

the funny thing about stranger things season one is that they really build up the idea that steve harrington is a POPULAR JOCK which means that he's a SELFISH DOUCHEBAG BULLY who's USING nancy for SEX and DOESNT CARE that people are DYING and then steve actually shows up and hes just like a regular guy

[forcebookish]

it's not lost on me that top shoves mew against a wall and tries to kiss him but when mew stops him he backs off in the same episode that boston shoves top against a wall and gropes him but doesn't stop when top tells him to stop

seems to be lost on a lot of other people though😒

[methaim]

Something I really hate is this belief that consent—or rather, revoking consent—is something that can only be done in the context of sex.

Something I've noticed in a lot of social situations is people being upset when someone says "no" or revokes their consent for something they agreed to earlier. Like I know we joke that peer pressure doesn't really happen when it comes to drugs and alcohol, at least not as much as those anti-drug organizations that came to our schools claim, but I have been in situations when someone tried to make me feel bad for not drinking "because I went to a party where I knew there would be alcohol" or "because everyone else is drinking and having a good time." Like I should be allowed to say no and not feel guilty about it, because it was a choice I made.

But even in other situations, like when friends go to hang out but one of them declines. I've seen groups of friends dogpile on one person because "they're ruining everyone's good time" by not being present, guilting them to "consent" to going to an event they didn't want to go to rather than giving them the option to join later if they change their mind.

I've also seen friends get mad at each other because someone decided last minute that they didn't want to go to an event. And it's like... Isn't that still their choice? Shouldn't they be allowed to revoke consent whenever they want, for whatever reason?

Like when it's explicitly sex, the importance of consent is understood. If someone was being coerced into sex because their partner "had a bad day and was really looking forward to it," then we would agree that it's not really consent if it's reluctant, right? Like if sexual coercion isn't okay, why is social/emotional coercion okay???