#....with said friend's consent

[teacup-captor]

I feel like the internet condems writing fiction about real people too much. Don't get me wrong writing porn about someone without their knowledge is definitely a bit ick but hey. What if I wanted to write about Markiplier fighting a dragon to save his subscribers. Or a story where Neil Gaiman meets Aziraphale and Crowley. Or if I wanna write a story about my friend kissing the fictional character they're dating with their permission. What if I want people to write stories about me, huh? What if I allow people to put me in a fantasy setting, to make me a background character, to kill me off, what's wrong with that? What if I WANT people to write fics where I date a reader insert? Why when it's with permission is it still weird

[lilidawnonthemoon]

[mueritos]

a little strange to get dms from other trans people saying they agree with biden's dumb statemet that he doesnt want minors getting gender-affirming care. if you really think its such an epidemic that 13 year olds are getting their knockers blown off by surgeons every other day, then please point me in the direction of said 13 year olds that are somehow accessing gender-affirming care that literal trans adults can't even access.

like please be fr. we literally have privatized healthcare and insurance where not even people who go through the appropriate avenues can get approved for care they need to stay alive. what makes you think a trans minor is getting phallo or vaginalplasty. feel whatever you want about 13 year olds who want gender-affirming care, but dont parrot transphobic rhetoric that is based on no facts and a moral panic. they second they legitimize barriers to care for trans minors is the second they start finding ways to do the same for trans adults. dont be a buffoon.

[moeblob]

OC again gomen ... (her name is Yuma)

[forcebookish]

so... in the drama where ray kissing mew (who has said he doesn't want to be with him) when he's asleep is explicitly wrong and there are real consequences for it,

boston shoving top (who has repeatedly said he doesn't want to have sex with him) against a wall and groping him in a public place (twice) is... fine?

continuing to touch top after he's said to stop and let go is... okay?

hmmmmm, almost like this drama is trying to say something about consent... almost like it's a recurring theme........ 🤔

[acourtofquestions]

“Can I hold you?”

[fatuifucker]

tw SA mention

tbh i would rather have minors read my work rather than those coquette smut blogs (not targeting anyone specifically, just in general) that write really ooc drabbles and topics that are basically SA. sometimes it's even blatant SA it's wild that you'd have the reader basically crying and begging the character to stop but the post's theme is just (˶˃ ᵕ ˂˶)

[yashley]

you ever think about how a choice that wasn’t even really a choice for fearne, but her being the only one with the ability to perform the ritual that made it her* choice as everyone around her buckled to try to help her out of that situation and the ramifications of that choice that she had scarred her so deeply that now she is terrified of making another mistake that will dramatically affect the people around her who she loves, and then when another situation followed, she was led into a situation that she did not want to be a part of, but under the veil of friendship reluctantly assisted and it blew up literally once again, took that overwhelming burden of guilt and while her friends stood by and once more let her be alone in her guilt and scarred her further.

now it feels like she can’t make any choice for herself, she can’t make any move because that will ultimately inevitably lead to her making a mistake and all of her precious friends will look down at her in disappointment and that there is not a single friend amongst them who has the emotional wherewithal to what’s happening with how fearne has changed and how she is shutting in on herself and how she is slowly imploding breaking at the seams because she’s being lost in the sea of guilt and no one else notices and no one else sees that she feels like she can’t do anything anymore from the smallest carefree little action that has no plot repercussions to a character centered decision that is integral to her own character arc that has been in the works for her character since the campaign’s conception

now she can’t even say anything, and if fearne does have an idea to do something. She quietly mutters it, and if they hear her they hear her enough to respond that ehhh that's not a good plan and that’s not gonna work and we’re not gonna do that. We’re gonna do this and fearne being fearne, trusting in her friends and doubting herself to the point of despair will nod her head that they were right and then we go on with our day until the next moment happens where she wants to think of something, she wants to do something, and it’s dismissed as the silly dumb fearne not thinking, that She has her own thoughts and feelings, and drives and desires but because she is drowning in doubt and drowning in guilt, She freezes up and doesn’t move and everyone around her just pushes her on, and even in the moment where she is faced with the situation that she is terrified of undertaking, and she is terrified of becoming a Nightmare version of herself her friends push her forward, her friends dust off her shoulders say your doubt is misplaced, and don’t worry about it and you need to do this, it should be you. This is for you.

They just completely dismiss and ignore her when she actually does speak up so what does that do? that means that she remains silent. She doubts herself more. She even more will only make a decision if it’s signed off by all these fucking people around her who claim to be her friends. she can’t even move without frantically looking to people around her for confirmation that that’s a good idea she’s not gonna fuck up. Everything about her that was supposed to be free and fun and sweet has just rendered her into a character who feels like they have as much agency as characters who would be absent for the majority of the campaign.

shes been so chained up by doubt and so chained up by guilt and hesitation and fear that she just is a person who affirms everyone else’s desires and ideas because what she wants will inevitably end up being horrible and everyone will hate her for it and they’ll leave

and it’s like if they deem fearne even capable enough to be the vessel she will leap at the chance to be useful and to be told her path and it’s like. fearne was ruidusborn first. how has this campaign done such a disservice to her character that the only thing fearne is certain of is that she doesn’t really matter. she’s a ruidusborn and holds a primordial titan of fire inside her, and she still believes she doesn’t really count are you kidding me

[brotherofbagels]

There needs to be more nuance in how people view the situation but the internet doesn't allow for that.

[thedreadvampy]

it's been a strange arc so far

when I was 19-21 and having an extremely imbalanced relationship with someone in their mid 30s I was like 'we are both adults so the fact that this is fucking me up is my fault'

when I hit my late 20s and saw how young people in their late teens and early 20s seem now I was like 'oh wait I was so fucking young I didn't know shit about my own limits or about managing relationships and I don't know why someone in their mid to late 30s would be into that except for nefarious purposes'

the weird bit is now I'm into my 30s - not even that far into my 30s - and while I still wholeheartedly believe that last thing about how young (and self destructive) 20 year olds are, I'm also kind of like 'huh, actually nobody I know that age has their shit remotely together and frankly the reason this fucked me up is because NEITHER of us knew what the fuck we were doing it how to cope, for different reasons and at different life stages, and there probably wasn't any malice or intent to control as much as there was Blind Flailing.'

[chaos0pikachu]

The reason I be defending Boston so hard is because the way some of y'all be talking about him is straight up unhinged like some folks act like he's a sociopathic MCU villain out to systematically destroy the sanctity of TopMew and SandRay's love and Nick's purity instead of some messy 22 yr old who's selfish, and makes bad decisions

[fizzytoo]

a friendly tap on the ass as a show of camaraderie can save the world btw

[cottonsox]

maybe i’m wrong but not only do suicidal people deserve better than a hotline but straight up most of the people perpetuating the idea that it’s the ‘best option’ are looking at life far too.. clinically?

you can’t have a ‘deep’ conversation without being told there’s pills for how you feel, even if you’re just feeling cynical for a moment. you can’t be upset with results of an election without being given a nocebo-esque suggestion that you might as well be dead already if you don’t call the hotline.

i think people forget that we are way too far away from nature. obviously we don’t have to abandon technology and risk getting eaten by wolves while living deep in the forest but a lot of us depend on online interaction, eat crap food, hardly exercise, don’t sleep enough...

mental illness exists, shit i’ve been living most of my life with it, but when you live in a complete mockery of what a society should be and get told to take pills that fuck up your libido and fix absolutely nothing, of course your life gets worse. the conversations i’ve had with therapists have all been things i could’ve been told by a good friend over a coffee and the best changes that have happened to me have literally came from going through the motions of life.

you live with abusive parents, you’re burnt out, you live under a government with a lot of worthless rules, you’ve gone through a lot of trauma in your life. you don’t want to ‘trigger’ or give your good friends too much emotional labour for a long and real chat, a connection. so so where do you go?

why is therapy and psychiatry a mediocre version of the friendship and life experience you need to function? you need community and maybe a bit of ‘magic’ in your life. you don’t need to see yourself as data and chemical imbalances. you don’t need to blame anyone or anything or give things complex labels to exist. it is better to fix the root problem as best as you can rather than end up on a wild goose med chase with PSSD.

[thattheater-kid]

The worst thing is when you get in a bad situation and you hate it, but you can’t even blame anyone else. It’s all your own fault. You have no one to blame but yourself. This was your own idea, your own choice, your own decision. You’re stuck in this bad, vaguely traumatizing situation, and it’s entirely your own fault.

[forcebookish]

it's not lost on me that top shoves mew against a wall and tries to kiss him but when mew stops him he backs off in the same episode that boston shoves top against a wall and gropes him but doesn't stop when top tells him to stop

seems to be lost on a lot of other people though😒

[coquelicoq]

after spending the last week very stressed out and losing sleep over how much i regretted giving my number to a stranger, and after talking to several friends who all gave me the same very wise advice ("decide first what YOU want out of this and make decisions based on that" sounds obvious now but honestly blew my mind), i saw food truck man again today and he asked me if i have a boyfriend, told me he's all alone, hugged me twice, and tried to kiss me. i texted him after to be like just to be clear, i don't want a boyfriend, but i hope you find somebody! and he texted me back: i don't need a girlfriend. i'm married.