#- musings -

[plaidos]

i can promise you that non-transitioning & non-passing transfems are not afforded even 1% of the respect that non-transitioning & non-passing transmascs are in trans spaces. i fucking promise you.

[sitronsangbody]

Warning: this gets grim

I'm up at night thinking about an episode of Supernatural and how it demonstrates some really heinous public attitudes toward fat people.

Mild spoilers for Supernatural season 6 I guess:

Dean Winchester has to take on the job of Death for a day, meaning he has to go to those who are supposedly destined to die, witness their final moments, and give them the touch of death, thus claiming their lives and sending them to the afterlife. He soon struggles to live up to his responsibilities as he's required to end the lives of a sick child and a young nurse. His first two victims, however, don't bother his conscience at all. The first is an armed robber who threatens to shoot a little boy and gets killed by the boy's father. The second is a fat man who has a heart attack.

When I say fat, what I really mean is fat-coded; the man is simply not stick thin in the way that nearly every character on the show is, so he counts as fat and his storyline (minor though it is) is tied to his size. He is in his 50s, maybe early 60s. We first see him wolfing down a cheeseburger, and Dean says "this looks like a heart attack situation", before the man indeed clutches his chest and dies. When he asks why he had to die, Dean's reply is: "you think maybe it was the extra cheese?"

His death is not portrayed as tragic in any way. He himself is only mildly distressed. We don't get to see anyone grieving for him. His death is there to be one of the Easy ones, an unsurprising, almost comical and even deserved(?) death to make Dean think it's not that bad of a gig, ending people's lives. And we, the viewers, are supposed to agree. We're not invited to feel sad for this man in the slightest, even in retrospect. Everyone who created this scene and decided to keep it in the show, believed this to be a normal way to think of a fat person suddenly dying. This came out in 2010.

It just encapsulates so much stuff - really fucking dark stuff, I might add - about how fat lives have been viewed through the years. That scene (and scenes like it) says:

- when fat people die, it's because they brought it on themselves. They are ticking timebombs and their death is expected.

- when fat people die young, no they don't, because being fat means living on borrowed time anyway, so a fat person dying way earlier than the average life expectancy is not tragic the way it is if a thin person does.

- when fat people die, it's definitely because they are fat (and they are fat because they make bad choices).

- when fat people eat what's considered unhealthy food, it's depressing and stupid and they're out of control. Dean Winchester is canonically a big fan of fast food and eats burgers all the time on the show. Because he is thin and fit, this is portrayed as fun, relatable and manly.

- when fat people die, it's not sad.

And like, I wish this was exclusive to fiction, but there are real people who act like this when real fat people die. Like they know why, even if they have no clue, like it shouldn't be shocking, like it's self-inflicted and therefore deserved, and like it probably wasn't much of a life anyway so it's just not that tragic, really.

This stuff is, just for me personally, one of the roughest sides of anti-fatness. When people deny us dignity in death. Partly because it's so ghoulish, and partly because it's so ubiquitous it appears in media like this, without controversy. I'd like to believe there would be stronger reactions had this plotline come out today in 2025, but I am not confident.

[werewolfbarista]

every day i wake up and spin a wheel and throw a dart at it and whichever one it lands on is who fronts that day . and NO i dont know who they all are

[thatdisasterauthor]

On today's episode of "fun old people at the gym" there was a couple in their 70s (I'm guessing) and the wife had bright purple hair. Her husband had dyed his mustache to match.

[cardassian-artistry]

Anytime there's a post where something fun and nice happens between strangers, the most unhinged people on the planet chime in to remind you that nothing good can ever happen anywhere, ever.

[evilgirljesus]

my nannas dining room <3

[plaidos]

tme lesbians have such fragile understandings of their own sexuality that they feel uncomfortable referring to a penis simulacrum as a penis, or even acknowledging that it IS a penis simulacrum. like the amount of cognitive dissonance & mental gymnastics it takes just to convince themselves that they cannot and will not ever be attracted to trans women is identical to cis straight men's. it is very funny to watch them be afraid of their own attraction

[two-bees-poetry]

Hey guys-

My girlfriend and I are having a tough time. She's on crutches because she's got two sprained ankles, and one of them is really bad. Her mouth is also in a lot of pain because she bit a lot of the skin out of the inside of one cheek, and now she's got a bunch of super painful canker sores.

We're both full-time college students. I moved her into my dorm, because it's much closer to the academic buildings and the dining hall, but it's a small room, and I'm sleeping on a blow-up mattress on the floor because she needs to take the bed.

She has to rest and ice her ankles for them to heal, but she also needs to go to class tomorrow, and I have no idea how it's going to work. She feels guilty that she needs so much help to do everything, and I keep telling her it's okay, but we just both want everything to be back to normal.

This room is very small for two people, and things are really hard.

Prayers, well-wishes, and morale boosts are appreciated <3

[jamiebluewind]

Meanwhile my weirdly specific self used to giggled when I saw 12:08 on a digital clock because I decided it looked like a late night talk show host wearing a bowtie.

i love six o clock because the clock looks so stupid. "|" like get real

[johannestevans]

Fascinated by the minecraft erotica i keep seeing whilst browsing hentai videos where they're cube people except for their big round titties. Even in a world of cubes, round titty is universal

[teresablogs]

The world is loud, but your soul has a voice, Listen closely, it’s your ultimate choice.

[southpark-trashfactory]

Thinking about how much I miss Chef and realized if panderverse Chef existed we could of had a lesbian Chef singing about making sweet love to women :( rest in peace

[aparticularbandit]

Pure Ice canine.

So if we had frosty Alolan Growlithe instead of frosty Alolan Vulpix.

I would be such a good and fluffy pupper.

pokèmonize yourself!!!!

spin this wheel to see your pokemon type

spin this one to see how you'll look like

[kilonovai]

—- don’t ask me how this happens, because it is a slow and meticulous ache. all mottled and molting, a reminder of armored scales lingering beneath the skin. like how a touch can feel like the soul’s friction, a bond so deeply knotted within, or a fire relit. a love like an evolution. don’t ask me how this happens, for I’ve only ever known how to lie with dragons.

[lipikkawrites]

You spent most of you 2024 in survival mode. Let 2025 be your year in revival mode. It is possible to thrive while getting to where you are meant to be.

-@lipikkawrites