#*points at them* GENDER!!
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historical drama/sitcom where two gay best friends (woman and man) get lavender married--and proceed to spend the Fancy European Honeymoon their parents paid for acting as each other's wingman
#and hijinks ensue. obviously.#BONUS POINTS if they're gender nonconforming/questioning/trans coded#back at home they'd get dressed up then switch outfits in the taxi on the way to the gay club#now that they're married/on vacation in a new country they just wear what they want#he already has a glamorous collection of silk dressing gowns but she's the one who drags him out to buy a closet full of evening gowns#he tries to throw his suits out to make closet space and she steals them for her own wardrobe#also i think they should be a fun mixture of supportive and Cattily Judgemental about each other's dating decisions#just for funsies#like when your bestie is making a mess of their love life but you're in no position to lecture them bc youre WORSE#no wait wait wait#FINAL SEASON they both realize they're trans and move abroad permanently--where they each assume the other's legal identity!!!#SERIES FINALE: a joyful double wedding--wherein they lovingly divorce each other#and (under their switched identities) legally marry their longterm partners
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the thing is that they're so fascinated by sex, they love sex, they can't imagine a world without sex - they need sex to sell things, they need sex to be part of their personality, they need sex to prove their power - but they hate sex. they are disgusted by it.
sex is the only thing that holds their attention, and it is also the thing that can never be discussed directly.
you can't tell a child the normal names for parts of their body, that's sexual in nature, because the body isn't a body, it's a vessel of sex. it doesn't matter that it's been proven in studies (over and over) that kids need to know the names of their genitals; that they internalize sexual shame at a very young age and know it's 'dirty' to have a body; that it overwhelmingly protects children for them to have the correct words to communicate with. what matters is that they're sexual organs. what matters is that it freaks them out to think about kids having body parts - which only exist in the context of sex.
it's gross to talk about a period or how to check for cancer in a testicle or breast. that is nasty, illicit. there will be no pain meds for harsh medical procedures, just because they feature a cervix.
but they will put out an ad of you scantily-clad. you will sell their cars for them, because you have abs, a body. you will drip sex. you will ooze it, like a goo. like you were put on this planet to secrete wealth into their open palms.
they will hit you with that same palm. it will be disgusting that you like leather or leashes, but they will put their movie characters in leather and latex. it will be wrong of you to want sexual freedom, but they will mark their success in the number of people they bed.
they will crow that it's inappropriate for children so there will be no lessons on how to properly apply a condom, even to teens. it's teaching them the wrong things. no lessons on the diversity of sexual organ growth, none on how to obtain consent properly, none on how to recognize when you feel unsafe in your body. if you are a teenager, you have probably already been sexualized at some point in your life. you will have seen someone also-your-age who is splashed across a tv screen or a magazine or married to someone three times your age. you will watch people pull their hair into pigtails so they look like you. so that they can be sexy because of youth. one of the most common pornography searches involves newly-18 young women. girls. the words "barely legal," a hiss of glass sand over your skin.
barely legal. there are bills in place that will not allow people to feel safe in their own bodies. there are people working so hard to punish any person for having sex in a way that isn't god-fearing and submissive. heteronormative. the sex has to be at their feet, on your knees, your eyes wet. when was the first time you saw another person crying in pornography and thought - okay but for real. she looks super unhappy. later, when you are unhappy, you will close your eyes and ignore the feeling and act the role you have been taught to keep playing. they will punish the sex workers, remove the places they can practice their trade safely. they will then make casual jokes about how they sexually harass their nanny.
and they love sex but they hate that you're having sex. you need to have their ornamental, perfunctory, dispassionate sex. so you can't kiss your girlfriend in the bible belt because it is gross to have sex with someone of the same gender. so you can't get your tubes tied in new england because you might change your mind. so you can't admit you were sexually assaulted because real men don't get hurt, you should be grateful. you cannot handle your own body, you cannot handle the risks involved, let other people decide that for you. you aren't ready yet.
but they need you to have sex because you need to have kids. at 15, you are old enough to parent. you are not old enough to hear the word fuck too many times on television.
they are horrified by sex and they never stop talking about it, thinking about it, making everything unnecessarily preverted. the saying - a thief thinks everyone steals. they stand up at their podiums and they look out at the crowd and they sign a bill into place that makes sexwork even more unsafe and they stand up and smile and sign a bill that makes gender-affirming care illegal and they get up and they shrug their shoulders and write don't say gay and they get up, and they make the world about sex, but this horrible, plastic vision of it that they have. this wretched, emotionless thing that holds so much weight it's staggering. they put their whole spine behind it and they push and they say it's normal!
this horrible world they live in. disgusted and also obsessed.
#this shifts gender so much bc it actually affects everyone#yes it's a gendered phenomenon. i have written a LOT about how different genders experience it. that's for a different post.#writeblr#ps my comments about seeing someone cry -- this is not to shame any person#and on this blog we support workers.#at the same time it's a really hard experience to see someone that looks like you. clearly in agony. and have them forced to keep going.#when you're young it doesn't necessarily look like acting. it looks scary. and that's what this is about - the fact that teens#have likely already been exposed to that definition of things. because the internet exists#and without the context of healthy education. THAT is the image burned into their minds about what it looks like.#it's also just one of those personal nuanced biases -#at 19 i thought it was normal to be in pain. to cry. to not-like-it. that it should be perfunctory.#it was what i had seen.#and it didn't help that my religious upbringing was like . 'yeah that's what you get for premarital. but also for the reference#we do think you should never actually enjoy it lol'#so like the point im making is that ppl get exposed to that stuff without the context of something more tender#and assume .... 'oh. so it's fine i am not enjoying myself'. and i know they do because I DID.#he was my first boyfriend. how was i supposed to know any different#i didn't even have the mental wherewithal to realize im a lesbian . like THAT used to suffering.
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Calling Lesbians' attraction to vaginas a mere genital "preference" erases the sheer violence behind corrective rape of millions of sapphic women. I do not just "dislike" dick, I am physically incapable of being attracted to it. My allure to the female genitilia is not a choice, it's my biological reality. Dismissal of same-sex attraction as a choice reinforces the homophobic ideology that attractions can be altered and also paves the way for discrimination. One cannot opt out of their sexuality, they are always born with it.
#I am physically repulsed by dicks#And the reason is because i am a Lesbian#Not because i have some sort of trauma or discriminative bone or whatever bs tras say#Tras calling homosexuality a choice is what peaked me tbh#The only reason i supported trans people was because i was friends with great tifs lol#And with a LOT of tirfs on edtwt#Im greatful to them for introducing me to radical feminism but now im confused why would you be a tirf#No point in it#rad fem#radblr#radical feminism#terfsafe#radical feminists do interact#radical feminists do touch#trans exclusionary radical feminist#radical feminist safe#female seperatism#women are the superior sex#terfblr#terfism#terf#gender critical#gender abolition#sex not gender#sapphic#wlw#Lesbian#wlw post#lesbianism#anti trans
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ultimately when it comes to shipping and fandom space treatment of aspec characters i just don't accept "aro/ace people can still date/have sex" as an answer from nonaspecs. like yeah. mhm. okay. now i think we both know that you're not saying that out of real interest in the diversity of aspec experiences. so you can turn in your seventeen-page essay on why and how you plan to examine this character's aspec identity within the context of a romantic or sexual relationship complete with evidence from canon and peer reviews from multiple aspec people within the next week or i'm putting you in the pit from the edgar allen poe story
#you know. the one with the pendulum#'hey. why are you as an allo person shipping this aspec character like this'#'oh aspec people can still date/have sex!'#'yeah. now can you answer the question that i actually asked you'#like goddamn just say you don't care they're aspec and you want to fulfill a sexual/romantic fantasy with them. that's Fine#it like. sucks. for sure. lotta aspec people will be unhappy with you. but everyone is entitled to their own wants and experiences.#but i'd prefer you just be honest with it rather than using our community's conversation points as retroactive justification#and ONCE AGAIN. you guys are real fucking cavalier with this shit and it shows a real fundamental lack of respect for aspecs#when most of you would NEVER ship a canonically gay character with the 'other' gender. cause again. it would suck.#you can do it. nobody's Stopping you. but it would suck.#and we understand that putting a queer character in situations that erase that queerness is shitty! until it comes to aspec characters!#and whoa... there it is again... people don't consider aspec identities to be queer... crazy how it always comes back to that#anyway. you all know what i'm talking about. have seen many posts about this lately#it is [ long sigh ] unfortunately a very hot button issue with the advent lately of alastor hazbinhotel#which. again. god i wish there were other canon aspec characters to be having this conversation about.#but we'll have to do our best with what we have#aromantic#aromanticism#arospec#aroace#talking#aspec#asexual#asexuality
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i love the interpretations of Any of the pines being trans but to me mabel and dipper Are fraternal twins they are just also both trans. they just swapped names and ‘pretended’ to be the other. i know dipper being transmasc is like the most popular trans hc in the fandom, so to me this is why dipper’s name is mason but he always wanted the name tyrone
#mabel is wearing sweaters in the summer. idk kinda transgender#unless oregon is cold in summer. but last episode i think soos mentions it’s like 80°#(saying it’s too hot for stan to be wearing a sweater(the one mabel made him)(bc he says he’s wearing it bc it was cold)(lying)#anyway she’s still wearing a sweater there#and ford !#i think it’d be funny that they’re all trans.#like the more trans people in a family it just gets funnier imo. what are the odds#<-i say this lovingly. i am under the transgender umbrella#also imagine w me Stan who was there when the kids were born meeting them again now age 12 and at some point going#’wait i thought mabel was the one with the birthmark’ and they’re like ‘wow you confuse siblings even when they’re different genders. smh’#the kids probably dont know stan is also transgender. or maybe they do. is it funnier if they do#gravity falls#words from the monarch
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#20.06.23#3390#im pretty sure i would have also gendered myself fem at at least one point in my email to them so cmon#idk whatever
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This one is for all my fellow "My gender is 'I have a job and I can't worry about that right now"'. I see you.
(part 1, part 2)
#fourfold soul#Nobody#Fitch#While it does go counter to the spirit of the main character having no name no gender...I have decided to reveal-#-my placeholder name for to keep a proper tagging system. This was the reason I ended up reading the odyssey by the way.#I needed a placeholder name for our cowboy exorcist and I went with 'Nobody-haha-like-in-the-odyssey-wait-what'.#Project discussion wise this isn't the name we use when talking about this character. *That's* staying a secret.#This comic idea was actually one of the first things I ever sketched for Nobody.#The rhetoric at that point was to show off to my game dev partner the humour in having No Gender for a protag.#None binary with a side of 'I don't have the capacity to think about that right now.'#There was a 4th panel to go along with this but I cut it for time. I'll post it separately later on.#I had to take some steps back to solidify character designs but now I've got them LOCKED DOWN.#WE ARE BACK. I WILL MAKE OUR BELOVED CHARACTER'S KNOWN. THROUGH SILLY COMICS.
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My sort of future au designs (traced/edited their psychonauts 2 renders for this) :] they are like 13 here
#art#illustration#fanart#psychonauts#psychonauts au#razputin aquato#raz psychonauts#lili zanotto#lili psychonauts#btw there's a lot of stuff about this au in my head rn so probably you can expect more posts about it. this is all I've got rn though#also. Lili is exploring gender stuff in this (my transmasc Lili headcanon :])#she's still going by she/her at this point but that probably will change#Raz also has gender stuff going on but will not figure any of that out for a while. too focused on psychonauts stuff at the moment#also (again). sometimes I forget what they look like normally and start drifting off from that when I draw them..#Raz has kind of little eyes and they're lower on his face. I always forget that when I draw him..#Lili. your eyes are so big and far apart like a horse. and your head is so wide. stop that#outfits#<- I mean. sort of
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I don't mean this in a rude way, but what's the point of being very femme presenting and asking for people to use he/him pronouns for you?
What the fuck does this mean lol "what's the point" it's my gender and I get to choose the pronouns homie. I get to be a little gender freak if I want. Pronouns do not correlate to presentation, sorry you're not on my advanced gender level
#she/her = fem he/him = masc they/them = androgynous is such kindergarten shit#the point is that i like to be referred to be he/him pronouns. sorry my gender is fun and yours is lame#i answer
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man remember when that nyt interview w gerard dropped in 2014 and gerard stated directly that they identify heavily with woman and didnt and never could relate to men and the main reaction was people freaking out at gerard using "straight" as shorthand for "attracted to women" while discussing how that attraction was impacted by their struggle with their gender identity
#barry.txt#its also the only time outside of i think one revenge i terview where gerard used the word straight to define themselves#like i remember ppl claiming gerard was lying intentionally bc at that point there were still#huge swathes of ppl and major blogs that thought gerard was a closeted gay man#despite gerard being a not very closeted at all queer person already who shot down multiple ppl online who asked them to#''come out as straight“#and i really think that ppl just kinda let themselves white out the parts they dont like or dont interest them but w no self awareness#like ppl thinking gerards claiming heterosexuality here in whats a pretty vulnerable and complicated response regarding gender#its been like almost 10 years and im still kind of irritated bc tbh it never really stopped happening
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Me after Drayton asked both Carmine and the player character out on a date:
#he asks them out on a date no matter the player's gender its basically canon at this point#also I ship Carmine and Drayton bcuz i love enemies to lovers and girlboss/asshole malewife#also he just has bi energy in general#drayton#pokemon drayton#drayton pokemon#carmine pokemon#pokemon carmine#player character#pokemon#pokemon dlc#indigo disk#pokemon scarlet and violet#pokemon indigo disk
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⚠️Rant⚠️
I’m so tired of seeing “dom Lucifer”, “top Lucifer”, and “daddy Dom Lucifer” Is he just not allowed to bottom?
Is he not allowed to feel like an ant under MC? Is he not allowed to grovel at MC’s feet and BEG for them to have their way with him? Is he not allowed to be submissive? Is he not allowed to be at MC’s mercy? Is he not allowed to be dominated? Is he not allowed to scream out MC’s name from pure overstimulation? Is he not allowed to be a slut for MC? Is he not allowed to be a brat for MC? Is he not allowed to be a whore for MC? Is he not allowed to beg for mercy? Is he not allowed to beg?
This man is clearly not just a “dom”. He can bottom, too. Just give him a chance and let him. Maybe he gets too tired and doesn’t want to do all the work for once.
I’m looking at the ones who always write gender neutral MC’s as bottoms. Maybe some people want to see more top gn MC.
Don’t be basic. Consider both sides. Look at your recent posts and think to yourself: Are they inclusive?
Let. This. Man. Bottom. For. Once.
#obey me rant#rant post#rant#sorry for the rant#obey me#obey me nb#obey me shall we date#obey me nightbringer#obey me one master to rule them all#obey me lucifer#obey me fandom#obey me hcs#obey me gn!reader#obey me gn!mc#obey me gender neutral mc#obey me swd#lucifer obey me#anti top Lucifer#let him be the switch he is#lucifer is a switch#obey me mc#I can’t grasp at how many bottom gn mc headcanons ive seen#the ratio to bottom gn mc to top gn mc is ridiculous#let mc top#let Lucifer bottom#anti dom Lucifer#point me to people who make top gn mc please#I’m so tired for looking for people who do#I feel horribly represented and horribly included in this fandom
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At this point the bully has become the bullied but he keeps coming back for more??
#whitney the bully#dol whitney#dol#degrees of lewdity#dol fanart#ddruxyart#artists on tumblr#my art#Sorry Fem!Whitney lovers I dont have a solid mental image of her yet so yall gotta make do with this Masc!Whitney#I know I said that I prefer to create character designs that work for either sex/gender bc I focus on capturing their feel & personality-#-but there ARE some exceptions and yes; Whitney is one of them. Alex is the other but I havent had the energy to do their fem version#At this point my games Whitney HAS to be into it with the amount of times he comes back for more-#- I'm really curious what his friends thoughts are on that#The lil chibi is my oc turned pc; Dee. They would be in a real unhealthy relationship if the game would allow her to do more to him#Dee; absolutely incredulous: I THOUGHT YOU AT LEAST WERE NORMAL ABOUT ME WHEN IT COMES TO THE BULLYING#He specifically has those snake bites so that he can lick the blood off of them
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the best thing a fictional man can be is depressed, bisexual, and easy to draw
#this may or may not be about#vincent valentine#fictional men#bonus points if you get gender envy from them too#ff7
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«devil» you call me
but seem to be enjoying
the fruits of my labour that came to me too young
when he stole my virtue
I'm glad it seems to serve you
that I was born a daughter and not a son
for if I’m going down
I guess I’ll take you with me
screaming birds sound an awful lot like singing
and I will tell you now
that I’m not even singing
there’s no escape for some
what if we were two tragically fucked up lesbian vampires in 1940s paris and kissed
and what if 70 years later we were too far gone to bring back to life and definitely needing a divorce
and what if there was love somewhere in us all along
#iwtv#art study#interview with the vampire#ldpdl#louis de pointe du lac#armand iwtv#armand#louis de pointe du lac art#loumand#fem loumand#rule 63#gender swap#fem louis#fem armand#ivtw art#light nudity#interview with the vampire art#fanart#loumand fanart#my art#digital art#wlw#lesbian#lesbian kiss#paris paloma#paris paloma lyrics are perfect for them#also taylor swift reference#please tell me something nice#iwtv brainrot is real#take care of yourself
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ngl sometimes i think the inverse to the fanon inability to meaningfully interact with a character flaw that's not "my friends and family would say that my main problem is that i care too much" is the canon hyper critical you can only like a character because of all their flaws and you should never say anything nice about what you think their good points are without a million astericks about how much they really do suck, actually
#i mean. idk i like characters who i find personably likable to myself and because of their good points#and things i find nice about them. i mean i often like what i find to be their flaws too#but mmm i do think there is a tendency to need to prove you understand canon in the One True Fandom way by hyperfocusing on#all the flaws to push back against fanon's refusal to give characters negative traits#this is not going into the sex and gender dynamics there as well of which there are plenty i'm aware of male vs female treatment#that's almost a whole nother essay. all i'll say is sometimes the roles are reversed fanon v canon with female characters#and tbh this usually tends to apply moreso to male characters but not always#and i'm not criticising tbh i just think there is a general trend that i notice sometimes
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