#(to me it means regardless of gender btw)

[inkskinned]

okay is she being actually immature or is it just a woman over 30 expressing a human experience you find to be immature.

like yeah. at certain ages... let shit go. im not defending the real immature shit. im not defending the karen you're picturing. i worked in retail i hate those people too. (once somebody got mad at me because she didn't like how our winter window decor was a snowman smoking a pipe. i wish i was joking).

but men at 57 will write books about how 17 year old girls are soooo sexy. they will invent worlds where women have to be naked for "armor reasons." they will write songs that treat women as objects. people rush to defend them. meanwhile a woman at 35 will be like "heartbreak is hard, actually" or "i feel betrayed by a friend" or "i am struggling with something emotionally." immediately people will say stuff like this woman is 35 by the way. by the way this woman is SO OLD to be experiencing this. BY THE WAY.

im 31, almost 32. the other day a poet was blasted online because at her "big age", she had written a poem about feeling unloved. top comment was "this woman is 29 by the way." this woman is too old to still be useful, by the way. she has to behave better . maybe if she was a good wife and mother she could stop existing loudly, and the story could continue on without her. this woman has served her purpose, by the way. she's so cringe, by the way. at 29 - so old! - she still hasn't figured out that her existence should be one of shame.

[apathyandmischief]

Not bi as in any, bi as in ALL

[old-man-hell]

the more i keep thinking about russell "horse girl" crowe the more i want to ask him about his preferred riding style/saddle because my brain can literally not let go of how GOOD and comfortable he looks riding in Winter's Tale (2014).

[daylesspax]

Three out of four OG Rescue Bots done!

Heatwave was super fun to do (I definitely went overboard with the colors… even if you can’t see some of them, it’s the thought that counts 😅

It has come to my attention that it is exceptionally hard to put flag colors on a none-white surface and be able to tell what they are, especially with the lighting I chose (I’ll adjust it later so you can actually see the colors and know what flags they represent)

Anyway, time for the list of flags!:

Demi-AroAce on the big flag and on his left shoulder

Bisexual flag on his left shoulder and right foot (this applies to him and Kade)

Pansexual flag on his helmet and left arm-tire

Apagender/Inersgender flag on his windshield, the upper party banner on his ladder, and his right leg-tire (I think… can’t exactly see it bc of the blending mode making it look white, but I think that’s what I put there, I could be wrong, I have bad memory… 😅) btw, apagender just means ‘gender apathy’ or literally not caring abt your gender and how others perceive your gender regardless of if you’re trans or not

Genderqueer flag on his right arm, right leg-tire, and the lower party banner on his ladder

Demiromantic flag on his right arm-wheel thingy (sorry no technical terms today-)

Demisexual flag on his left arm-wheel thingy

Polyamorous flag on his left shoulder (the newer version I’ve seen pop up, mainly because the design is easier to replicate due to the lack of literal Pi symbol. I was originally meant to put it on the big flag, but I was unsure and decided against it)

Finally, the Rainbows: the side of his helmet, his left leg, his right arm-tire, and his windshield

I used quite a few flags on this, huh? I love Heatwave and am mostly projecting my own, personal identities on him, but I do want to be inclusive to as much of the community as possible! I don’t want to come off as disingenuous by throwing flags around for the sake of representation, so just let me know if you find this in any way offensive or hurtful or if you want to let me know if a flag I’ve used is controversial, etc!

I’m always open to criticism, and once more, headcanons for Boulder and the others so I may add on!

[asmodeauxx]

HEY HEY HI HI HDHDEJSJ MY BRAIN HAS BEEN TAKEN OVER BY UR ART (I am normal)

I don’t mean to come across rude or pushy btw (if I do) ANYWAYS

1. How old is Narinder and the Lamb in your au? I imagine like, ancient for Narinder, but how much time has passed since the canon story for our favorite cult leader?

2. Does the lamb use they/them pronouns? Regardless they give me MAJOR gender envy (compliment)

3. Is the mysterious floating eyeball god thingie going to show up? If they do, would that be a good or a bad thing? (They scary 💀)

4. Do we have an oficial name for “the lamb”? Bc I keep saying the lamb but like what do they/insert correct pronouns here go by?

5. How much power did Narinder keep from his godhood, if any at all?

6. Where exactly does this AU take place in the canon timeline? As in, like relics of the past and all that (if that makes sense 😭)

ANYWAYS I LOVE UR AU, SORRY IF ANY OF THESE QUESTIONS HAD OBV ANSWERS OR CANT BE ANSWERED BC IT’LL BE REVEALED LATER, HAVE A GOOD DAY ! : D

you have no idea how long i've been wanting to push these answers out,,,/pos

DDUP takes place around 40-50 years after the games ending, and which in turn starts at the beginning of Relics of The Old Faith! Their ages aren't properly estimated, but they are ranged! Narinder is ranging from 2000-3000 years old while the Lamb is a mere 300-400 years in comparison! (It took a long while for the Lamb to free Narinder)

2. The Lamb indeed does use they/them pronouns!

3. The Mystic Seller is scripted to show up (as evident of it starting at the beginning of Relics) but to say whether it's good or bad,,, up to your interpretation for now ;)

4. I indeed have an official name for the Lamb! Of course, I won't be able to share it now (only till plot demands such!)

5. Narinder kept a good chunk of his powers! (albeit not as strong as it used to be) he also got a handy new trick down his sleeve literally

This is a ref image I made on his powers that I've shown so far!

(i've posted this image before on my old acc but,, yknow,,,)

6. I hadn't realised this was a later question jhfdsh, but yeah! Takes place during Relics of The Old Faith!

[genderkoolaid]

hi! your blog's been encouraging to me as a trans guy, but i've recently felt that i should no longer call myself that/should just "go back to" being a girl, and idk if my train of thought makes any sense...so i just wanted to ask someone w more experience (but feel free to ignore this rant/call me out if im not making sense btw)

so yeah, my cousin's been out to me as a (binary) trans man for a few years now, and in trying to find understanding, i came out to him a few months later, but got a very flat/kinda disgusted reaction. despite my consistent support for him over the years, he has continued to "joke" about my looks/short hair and dismisses any attempts at serious conversations or even just jokes about gender/being a guy too. he also calls me things ive told him makes me uncomfortable (gender-wise) and then acts like it means nothing. he generally brushes me off by telling me to stop trying to compare myself to him, and is either prickly about it or just in-your-face "idgaf what you're talking about and i'm tired of you." it barely hurts me anymore, but ive felt connected to trans-ness for so many years (longer than id even known he was too) and his reaction to this part of me has honestly made me wonder if i'm just making it up/am trying too hard or something,,,like maybe i'm just trying to cover for being a gross 20-somethings woman ?? idk ?

i'm probably just being over-sensitive, and i dont feel it's outright malicious or anything (maybe he just doesn't think/care about it as much as me?), but i have nobody else to ask (no irl friends/people im out to) and i'm currently renting/living with him, which has brought these worries to the forefront. thanks if youve read this far, but please don't feel pressured to respond!

Your cousin sounds like he has a lot of internalized transphobia he's directing at you. Unfortunately there are trans people who try to prop themselves up and make themselves feel more confident in their transness by tearing down others. You are not being over-sensitive, and regardless of what he thinks he's doing, he's actively being cruel to you. You are well within your rights to be hurt by his actions. Living with someone who is constantly being transphobic to you is traumatizing- detransitioning can be a coping method for those who have to constantly defend themselves from transphobic abuse.

If its possible, I would recommend trying to see if there are any queer orgs in your area you could connect with (physically or online). At the least, you may find some people who can give you emotional support, and they also may be able to find you a better living situation. Even if that's not possible right now, keep reminding yourself that his behavior is cruel and you are allowed to be upset about it. You do not need to take any of his opinions on your gender seriously. You are not making up your transness or trying too hard. You are not over-sensitive, you are being hurt.

[princessefemmelesbian]

*sighs*



the weirdest fucking thing to me is how men will be like "it's so hard being a man. no one cares that i'm sad. the loneliness we experience could NEVER be understood by a woman" and then also be like "btw i never talk to my friends and i don't know their names and i love hanging out with men because they don't talk about their stupid emotions all the time. women could never understand a bond like this." like ???

[scarefox]

Imagine being so into your misogynistic headspace that you watch a queer pink film / soft porn (not realizing what a pink film is) and then rant on that this is what women think what gay relationships look like and that this is based on one of those horrible yaois and they didn't even change it up to something better in the movie...

When actually the movie is made by male writer, male cast, male porn actor(s) and a former prostitute who slept with men and women (transwomen btw too, but that just as nice to know side fact)

Just because it's from asia and labeled as BL for marketing and "vibe", it doesn't mean that it is made by "evil fetishizing" women (don't get me started on the history of yaoi) 🤦‍♂️

Sometimes men make fantasy scenario gay erotica and it can be hot trash of a plot (more often than you think). And we can still find it entertaining regardless of gender.... sometimes hot trash is just funny ya know

(yo I am begging the BL fan bubble to learn what a Pink Film is and what to expect from that)

[bonedo-enthusiast]

coming out to bnd 𐂐◯𓇋

A/N: my first ever actual tumblr post! (AHH) i’m still learning about how to use tumblr and whatnot but… i had this thought one day and figured maybe i should post it. hope you guys like it. (also btw lowercase is intended!) :)

tws: none(?), mention of homophobia/transphobia but only in passing

genre(s): fluff, comfort

wc: 723

sungho

“oh, really?”

surprised but tries not to be too surprised because he doesn’t want to make you feel weird

will take your secret to his grave if need be

probably won't ask you many questions because he doesn't want to make you uncomfortable

assures you that this won't change anything about your friendship

he might be a little awkward though, unsure of how to segue into a different subject

if you came out as trans, it would definitely take several months for him to be able to switch to your new name and pronouns

not out of malice, but because he knew you for so long as (insert deadname)

he would cringe every time he slips up, quickly apologizing and moving right along

riwoo

"oh... thanks for telling me."

similarly to sungho, he's surprised

but he's definitely more awkward about it

like to the point you wonder if he's homophobic/transphobic

but he just has so many thoughts and questions swirling around in his head

like how long have you known? what does this mean? does this change anything about your friendship? (no, of course not!)

once he pushes those thoughts aside, he smiles at you tells you he's glad you told him

now you both are closer than ever! <3

no but i feel like whenever riwoo would mess up your pronouns, he'd apologize profusely

like to the point where it's very awkward...

but he's trying his best! :,)

jaehyun

"oh word?"

no but something in me tells me jaehyun would get excited (?)

(like this man may or may not have taken a "am i gay test" in high school kind of vibes)

"whaaaat?!"

if you came out as trans, he would definitely insist on buying necessary supplies for you, especially if your birthday is around the corner :D

he's super sweet and supportive, immediately asking you what your new name/pronouns are

"ooh, that's such a cool name!"

and if you came out with your sexuality, he would always consider this when talking about attractive people

like pointing out cute people you'd potentially be attracted to with your newly revealed sexuality

might even try setting you up with them lol

taesan

"okay... and? took you long enough."

bro already knew 😭

taesan strikes me as a very observant person, so i feel like he'd already have some idea

maybe he'd even start viewing you as the gender you transition to, before you even tell him

(he's psychic! /j)

in his mind, that's who you are and who you always have been! <3

as a result, he would have no issues with getting your pronouns/name right

as for sexuality, he really doesn't care (respectfully)

"cool."

like. so nonchalant.

leehan

"oh? tell me more."

i feel like he'd be very curious about your identity (if you're comfortable telling him about it of course!)

he's a big listener and likes learning about things, so he would be very good to talk to about these things

and actually, i could even see him doing some research to try and learn more about his friend and understand them better :)

i see him as the kind of person you'd come out to first, just because he's so understanding

like you could come to him with your fears and worries about your realized identity and he'd just be so so sweet :(

"you're still the same person, and you're still my friend. you are never alone. it's okay, we can figure this out together."

PLS 😭💗

woonhak

"huh... so what does that mean exactly?"

i'm not sure he would understand anything beyond the basic terms most people know (like gay, lesbian, trans)

so if you were to come out to him as, say, nonbinary, he might need some explaining about what exactly that means

but regardless, he'll just smile and nod

but still be confused because why are you telling him this??

he wonders if he's supposed to do something with this information, or just listen

i can so picture him trying hard to pay attention to what you're saying while at the same time trying to figure this stuff out in his head lol

but once he's past this internal debate, he's so sweet

messes up your pronouns/ name quite a bit at first though

"yeah, me and (insert deadname)-- i mean, wait! sorry, (insert chosen name)..."

[nastasya--filippovna]

reblogging again with @aq2003 's tags bcs they're literary fire

I know that Richard2Shakespeare is played as an obnoxious little twink for political and drama reasons (you’re telling me a queer coded this tragedy etc) and to let the actors chew the scenery a bit, and the indecisiveness is a tragic flaw that sets him apart from the clear penetrating masculinity of eg Bolingbroke etc etc. it’s great that there is a whole play about “the deserved downfall of cunty little maximalist who changes his Starbucks order 3 times with a huge line behind him.” However, I have forgotten what I was great revelation I was going to write here, so here are some richard2shakespeares I found while trying to remember

[txxxciii]

Happy PRIDE month!

As a way of celebrating, I will be posting my sexuality/gender-related headcanons of various Mortal Kombat sources, starting with:

MORTAL KOMBAT (2011) LGBT HEADCANONS

(Note: this won't be including guest characters)

Tbh Baraka doesn't have anything interesting going on with him until MK1, but I personally like to headcanon that tarkatans don't have gender norms in a way that we do; reproduction for them is not an important priority, just something you can do if you like how the other one smells or something.

Tarkatans are intersex by default, including Baraka. The "genders" are usually assumed by non-tarkatans, in Baraka's case, by Shao Kahn, who only wished to see male figures in his army.

Btw, tarkatans themselves never refer to each other by pronouns. They do it either by simply saying the name, or making a sound that is only associated with a particular individual.

You already know. The non-binary monarch (king but gn) of MK.

With so many souls living inside you it's only a matter of time when you just start using They/them. Something also tells me that Ermac doesn't mind being called other pronouns – well, not like they care.

I'm sorry, you cannot convince me that Jade "I care more about my friend's safety than myself's" from Edenia likes men. I can go and write a whole rant about Jade and Kotal and how I fucking hate that stupid Walmart Sonic on steroids (not only for his romantic ties though), but I'll save that for later, maybe. Until then, Jade developed a crush on Kitana over time and doesn't wish to let go of her since she's the only reason Jade keeps going everyday. Alas, the feelings are not mutual, but Jade knows better than to envy Liu Kang. She's happy that her friend found her love, and she wishes one day to let go and find her own, too.

Kabal is a gay man, but not a closeted one. He had partners throughout the spam of his adult life, from Black Dragon to police forces.

There were rumors going around inside of Black Dragon that he and Kano had a affair. Whether or not this is true is left for speculation, as neither Kabal or Kano wish to discuss such topic.

What is true, however, is his work romance with Kurtis. At first, Kabal actively denied his attraction towards him, but learned to be more truthful to himself. He had a hard time opening up though, as he did have bitter aftertaste of his previous relationships, but somehow things were pretty decent, mostly thanks to Stryker's demeanor.

(Yeah I'm a strykabal truther, how can you tell?)

Every iteration of Kenshi is demisexual in my eyes. Bad part? I can't really explain my reasoning. Sometimes you just see a character and immediately assume things about them.

Maybe it's due to Kenshi not really having any romantic interests prior to MKX, as far as I can recall. Maybe it's just an ace-dar (as someone who's on the asexual spectrum). Oh well, we'll never know.

Like with Kenshi, every iteration of Kung Lao is gay in my eyes.

I see it more as Kung Lao not realizing his sexuality yet as throughout his life he had no time to think about personal stuff. When he does realize, however, he'll view it as an advantage as monks are typically forbidden from getting married and having intercourse, thus meaning he will less likely be judged by his fellow ones. Yes, he'd plan on simply ignoring this aspect of himself as getting into a relationship would bring a lot of burden (and if Lao falls in love, he will fall HARD).

Mileena is canonically bi!! Duhh! She likes positive attention from anyone, regardless of the race or gender. Either way she will take advantage of the partner and eat them alive :)

She's also part tarkatan, which should technically make her intersex, but since Kitana's genes are the dominant ones, she's assigned female. However, she believes such limitations are stupid, so she uses She/they for herself. It makes her more proud of who she is.

Gods don't need s*x!! Also I think he's canonically genderfluid since he can be literally anyone.

Uhh idk that's it.

One of those times where I can't explain my reasoning... again.

I just feel like Rain liked the thought of absolute control ever since he was young, to the point where he wanted to control his own body's appearance. Even if he didn't realize it, he always wanted to have a body of man, to speak like a man and to be viewed as one as well. Once he finally reached his ideal physique, he felt like he was unstoppable.

... or something like that, lol.

I meaaannn... why else would bro CHOOSE to change into anyone?

I have this little headcanon that Shang Tsung gets bored very quickly. To cure his boredom he'd transform into one of his captured souls and go on with his day until he gets tired of that body too.

———

Alas, these are all for now. Tumblr won't let me upload another image but just so you know, Stryker is a closeted bisexual. No reason other than vibes.

Anyone else who didn't make it to the list are either cyborgs or those who I think are straight. Anyways, hope you enjoyed and understood everything I just wrote. Byeee :3

[deafeningfanlight23]

TSAMS SEXUALITY AND GENDER HEADCANONS CUZ I DUNNO! :D

And yes my headcanons change every two seconds just like my art style- 😔

☀ Sunrise!

He is either bi or pan, but she's definitely queer cuz like WHATCHA MEAN HE COULD BE STRAIGHT??? ANY STRAIGHT THOUGHTS HAVE ALREADY VANISHED FROM THIS GUY'S MIND 😭🙏 (But you do you, YOU THRIVE REGARDLESS >:D)

She is a demigirl! :D His pronouns are he/she! AND HE SLAYS THOSE DRESSES 💃✨

☾ Moonset!

He is our AroAce king! :D And he's the repulsed type btw, but can imagine himself ONLY in a queer platonic relationship when he finds the right person who he trusts fully and is his number one bestie! :D

He is boyflux and sometimes feels like a boy and then agender or not as intense as a boy and more a bit agender LIKE YOU KNOW THE DRILL ;D His pronouns are he/they!

☀☾ Eclipse!

He is transmasc! :D At first, he was no gender cuz code, BUT got also entirely the female code thingy of Sunrise when he entered her mind and his systems adapted to it and made him then be a girl at the start but he feels like a boy and uses a binder! I KNOW DOESN'T MAKE SENSE IDC IT'S MY SILLY BACKSTORY FOR THE SILLY AND AUTISTIC ECLIPSE ;D Only goes by he/him pronouns!

He 👏 is 👏 G A Y

☾☀ Lunar!

He is omniromantic and asexual! :D

Definitely non-binary, he/they

☁ ☀ Solar!

He is gender-apathetic, but likes to be adressed with he/him! :D

He is G A Y, SO GAY THAT EVERY STRAIGHT PERSON IS WIPED OFF THE FACE OF EARTH 😔 (/j!!! :D)

☁ Earth!

She is a lesbian (I don't know how she's then in a relationship with Monty THEY GOTTA FIGURE IT OUT NOT I 🙄)

She is pangender, any pronouns can be used to adress her! :]

Now, the VILLAINS >:]

Bloodmoon! (I've ran out of symbols to use :'D)

The calmer twin is gay, the more energetic one is omni! Both are asexual and greyromantic tho

They identify as one single entity because they're so close together and want the other twin to always be addressed, too, so they/them :D They're agender as well tho! AND YES THEY'RE PARTNERS IN CRIME, or should I rather say TWINS in crime??? >:D

Helios (Dark Sun)!

I HAVE NO IDEA BRO, BUT HE'S QUEER CUZ HE IS A TSAMS CHARACTER 😭 Maybe pan??

Gender-Apathetic, doesn't care about pronouns

Nexus!

Transwoman! :D (THE FANDOM INFECTED ME WITH THIS HEADCANON 😔🙏) She/Her

Aroflux and aceflux! :D

Dolus (RUIN/JIGSAW)!

He is genderfluid, so he/they pronouns 🙌

He is Archillean! :D

I'M GETTING LAZY SO THANKS THAT YOU WASTED YOUR PRECIOUS TIME ON SOME RANDOM PERSON TALKING ON THE INTERNET ;D TUNG! :D

[ewy-na]

On Astarion’s sexuality, again…

I’m sorry, I’m going to go on a bit of a long rant here but it seems like it still needs to be said since there are still comments roaming around claiming that “Astarion is 100% gay”, that “he’d be be gay if they did not make him ‘playersexual’ to appease the ‘cishet women who fetishize’ gay men”, that “it’s disgusting to see him with a female Tav”, that “people who romance him with female characters are [insert any kind of insult here]”.

No Astarion is not gay, he’s PANSEXUAL. HC whatever you want in you own game, HC that he’s fully gay if that’s the only way for you to enjoy the character, but stop claiming your HC as absolute canon and trying to control how other people play and interact with the character, especially if you’re going to be nasty about it, and even more so when people who worked on the game and the game itself show that your HC is not actual canon. The same applies for anyone who would claim he’s fully straight btw (haven’t see these takes myself, but that doesn’t mean they don’t exist somewhere)

The romanceable companions are not playersexual. 

They are all canonically pansexual, it was confirmed by people who worked on the game and it’s visible in game as they all have lines or behavior that indicates attraction to more than one gender / regardless of gender. And in Astarion’s case, it was also confirmed by both his writer who calls him “a man of all the appetites” or “medieval Deadpool”, and his actor, who has been on record more than once confirming it, he also romances him with a female character in his own playthrough.

A few examples of the top of my head : 

Astarion : comments on Wyll’s horns being flattering on him, comments on the bloodlust look being very flattering on Lae’zel or calls her “spicy food” in a very suggestive way, calls Shadowheart “vintage port on two legs” or says she’s “enticing”. Has flirty banters with Gale, Shadowheart and Lae’zel. Will sleep with Lae’zel at the Tieffling/Goblin party if none of them is romanced

Gale : has a known ex-girlfriend, offers his blood to Astarion in a party banter and comments on Raphael, and is the most open to stay with a Tav who turned Illithid.

Halsin : talks about former lovers, both a maiden and a male sailor, and is clearly down for anything who can consent.

Karlach (i’ll focus a bit more on the male side here since she’s also often called just lesbian) : has an erotic fantasy where she’s with a man and a woman at the same time, has an erotic fantasy with Dammon, says she’d ride Astarion to the Feywild and back, several comments about Wyll being attractive with his horns, shows interest in Halsin too.

Lae’zel : Will sleep with Astarion at the Tieffling/Goblin party if they're not romanced, will try to bed Wyll or Gale if Astarion is unavailable, and will apparently go for Shadowheart if none of the guys are available. Makes some comments about Karlach and has flirty banters with Minthara.

Minthara : refers to a former female lover, flirts with the ladies and says she’d catch Astarion in her web if she was still living in the Underdark.

Shadowheart : makes thirsty comments about both Karlach and Halsin. And has flirty banters with pretty much all the companions.

Wyll : makes comments about both Astarion and Halsin being attractive, flirts with Lae’zel and Shadowheart.

Now on to the arguments usually said to prove he’s gay or has a heavy preference for men : 

He’s too feminine / flamboyant to be attracted to women : 

A man can be feminine and flamboyant and not be gay. Ever heard of Prince or David Bowie ? They were both pretty androgynous and flamboyant and one was straight, the other was bi. And not every gay man is effeminate or flamboyant. 

Can we stop with these outdated stereotypes ? 

All this really makes me wish we could see more feminine and flamboyant straight or bi/pan men and more super masculine gay men in series, movies or games, same goes for women, give me a masculine straight, bi/pan woman and super feminine lesbian every once in a while.

Just let people carry and express themselves in a way that makes them feel comfortable without assuming they have to be a certain sexuality.

Besides, the very theatrical / flamboyant side of him his mostly a mask he puts on, it tones down quite a lot whenever he's genuine with Tav.

He talks about "handsome virgin" and "prince-type". 

Well in the context of the game these are very much gender neutral.

Handsome can be used for both men and women, and it is used in game for both, like Minthara calling herself handsome or Karlach calling a female Tav "handsome and talented" for instance.

As for the "prince-type" comment, nobility titles in game usually default to their masculine form, even for female characters like Duke (not Duchess) Stellmane who is a woman, Duke Wyll who can name a female Tav Duke (still not Duchess) or Gortash telling a female Durge that the two of them will rule as Kings (not King and Queen). In that instance Astarion is also talking about what we consider irl as the archetype of a fairy tale prince, just like when he calls Volo a "Damsel".

Not to mention in both cases, considering the tone he uses, the context of these lines and in the case of the "prince-type" comment, the other things he says in the very same conversation he's likely just being sarcastic (if not salty in the “prince-type” one) anyways.

He also uses words usually more associated with women like “pretty” or “dowry” regardless of the character’s gender.

He has slept with more men than women for the past 200 years… 

We don't really know that since we know of, what, 5 of them (which would be 0.05% of the estimated number of people he’s slept with), but to be quite honest considering he was hunting in the middle of the night in taverns, brothels and in the streets, yeah i’d expect most of them to be men, he probably had a bigger pool to choose from with men in these kind of places, regardless of any kind of preference on his part and men may have been more likely to follow a stranger just to have sex.

But, in any case, he’s very clear he wasn’t doing any of it by choice and he didn’t enjoy it.

He compares himself to a prostitute and especially as Origin Astarion he can have an interesting chat with Nym and Sorn Orlith at Sharess’ Carress where he tells them “I was once in your position, in a way” and when Sorn asks him how it was, all of Astarion’s answers are negative 1/”I try not to think about it any longer”, 2/”Just what I had to do to get by.”, 3/”I was forced into it, but it sounds as if you weren’t” and last but not least 4/”Horrible. Unfathomably so.”. He can also tell Haarlep “I already lived an eternity devoted to pleasure and it was rather dull.”

He also says himself about these relationships and his conquests things like :

“The entire reason for my existence was to seduce anything with a pulse.”

“I spent two hundred years using my body to lure pretty things back for my Master. What I wanted, how I felt about what I was doing, it never mattered.”, 

“I've gotten on my back ten thousand times or more, and forgotten half of them.”, 

“Enjoyment ? That didn't come into it. I never had a choice. I have bedded thousands of people. Half of them I barely remember. Most of them didn't even grant me temporary bliss.”, 

“Being close to someone, any kind of intimacy was something I performed to lure people back, for him”

“They’re my conquests. I pursued them, seduced them, then brought them back to Cazador.” 

 “They weren't lovers... not in the way that you mean. They wanted me more than I wanted them.”

… and he only talks about the men in his past :

Hm, he talks about exactly 2. The darling boy and Sebastian.

We don’t know much about the darling boy other than he was apparently pretty young and too nice and innocent for Astarion to force himself to bring him back to Cazador (we don’t even know if he actually slept with this one, only that he let him go, which led to Astarion’s worst punishment), whether that was because he somehow had feelings for someone he just met or felt too bad about ruining his life (especially if he was one of the very first, if not the very first person he ever had to bring back to Cazador), is up to interpretation. 

As for Sebastian, people really like to call him Astarion’s ex-lover/boyfriend, and claim he had some deep feelings for him, but he was not a lover, only a victim. Astarion remembers him because he was one of the first and one of the few who didn’t abuse him and he feels guilty for ruining this nice man’s life, but even so, when meeting him as Origin Astarion, he needs to succeed a DC 18 check to even remember his name or pass a DC 10 check to dig it from Sebastian’s head, all the other options are some variation of “I can’t remember”. And then, the only dialogue option implying he was even attracted to Sebastian is a DC 20 [DECEPTION] check.

So, if these relationships are supposed to show a huge preference for men, what he himself says would do  a pretty good job at showing the opposite to be quite honest…

He’s bad at flirting with women despite being a super skilled seducer :

He’s not really a skilled seducer actually, he’s also bad at flirting with men. Gale will outright reject him, and Tav, regardless of their gender can also call him out on his cheesy pick-up lines. He never really needed to be good at it actually considering he was picking up his victims in taverns and brothels and they were more than likely drunk and/or very horny, so he only really needed his good looks. His 10 Charisma doesn’t come out of nowhere.

There’s a party banter where he’ll reject Lae’zel:

This one only triggers if you are romancing him, he’ll also reject Gale’s offer for his blood, which can be taken as Gale flirting with Astarion (both because his blood is nasty, but also because he’s in a relationship with Tav), he’ll also decline Halsin’s offer for a threesome. It appears Astarion just doesn’t want to be involved with anyone else if he’s with Tav. Lae'zel will also reject him if she's romanced btw.

If neither Astarion, nor Lae’zel is romanced though, they’ll actually hook up, which proves that unlike what some claim, he can in fact tell her no when he’s not interested, and he’ll do the same with Tav if he doesn’t like them enough. Considering he also admits to a romanced Tav that he was attracted to them and that he has quite a number of flirty banters with Lae’zel, yes he sleeps with her for protection, but like it’s the case for Tav, there still seems to be some level of attraction here.

Now let’s see what happens during the events of the game. 

He expresses in various dialogues that he finds both the male and female companions attractive, it’s possible he talks slightly more about the men, but his actions seem to lean slightly more towards the ladies actually.

He consistently flirts with Shadoheart and Lae’zel the most out of all the companions through all 3 acts, but he also invites Karlach on a date or Jaheira to a threesome (in that last case, he’s probably being sarcastic as well though).

He can sleep with Lae’zel at the Tieffling/Goblin party if the player doesn’t sleep with any of them. She’s the only character outside of the player’s he will actually sleep with during the events of the game. 

He can also invite Alfira to his tent, and if not romanced he’ll flirt with the girl in the sewers in Baldur's Gate.

If he catches the player cheating on him with Mizora, UA will admit that he would’ve been interested in sleeping with her too before, and AA will admit that he’d be interested if she offered, complain that he wasn’t invited to join and ask to be invited if there’s a next time

So he is clearly written and acted as pansexual, he shows attraction towards both men and women and it’s not even clear whether or not he actually has any preference. 

In the end he falls for Tav/Durge no matter what’s in their pants because they’re the first person in 200 years who shows him genuine care and kindness, who isn’t with him only for his body but likes him for who he is and with whom he can form a real loving relationship.

[bunni-v1]

I just read your Omegaverse lighter!!

And I have to say that Burnice is one of those people that I can totally see you being all three in a way.

But me personally I think Bernice is an Alpha She just doesn't show it She's got That "fuck around and find out" personality

Or she just smells like gasoline that hides her scent (cinnamon, apples, maple and bourbon btw)

First off omg I’m like a huge fan of your Lighter stuff no way you’re in my inbox. I feel like a little kid on christmas rn lmaooo

Secondly, Burnice is such a mixed bag of a character she’s so hard to put in a box 😭 I really think I could see her going either way, but it’s not like it matters cause she’ll just do whatever she wants regardless of her second gender.

It’s not like she’s ever gonna be in danger I mean come on she’s fucking crazy who’s gonna be the one to tell her no? Burnice smells crazy strong too regardless of if she’s an alpha or an omega, and it’s genuinely super overwhelming. She can outscent most alphas in a given area.

She smells sooooo good though. It’s like this apple cider-cinnamon combo that’s just delightful. Makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, and god she’s quite the scenter. She loves scenting her friends, it’s like a mark of acceptance from her it’s super cute. When she’s kinda going nuts though she smells very strongly of burbon — overwhelmingly so. Like gag worthy kind of smell that’s how bad it is.

She definitely stresses the SoC out a lot, but when doesn’t she anyway lol.

This got me thinking about the other girls a little more in detail, though, so thank you for giving me this chance 🙏

Lucy I stand by the fact that she’s an omega, and she’s like textbook omega. Pretty, small, smells sweet, etc.. But she hates it so fucking much. Her old man wanted to sell her off to some fancy alpha and she just wasn’t gonna give up her freedom for that miserable kind of life. So she runs away and joins the SoC and she spends every second there rejecting the fact that she’s an omega.

She smells sweet, almost floral — for some reason I imagine her smelling kind of like sweet peas or lillie’s. She hides it by dousing herself in different types of perfumes. She also probably takes hormone blockers to remove the possibility of heat. It plays into her need for domination a lot — to prove she’s more than her second gender despite no one in the outback really giving a shit.

Caesar is probably an Alpha, and I know it’s true. She’s very strong and commanding, which is why people respect her so much. She really doesn’t want to be an alpha though lmaoooo. She wants to be an omega so she can have an alpha come along and woo her like in those cheesey romances she watches 😭😭 Despite this she takes on her mantle as pack leader really well, and she loves her members.

Second genders mean literally nothing to her, she doesn’t give a shit about them (besides the romance thing lol), which is part of why so many people gravitate to her. I imagine she smells kinda like oil? Oil and something very earthy. It’s not overwhelming unless she wants it to be, she has really good scent control and she’s more than willing to scent anyone who might want or need it.

Piper is probably the only beta, which means she’s the most normal of the group. She kinda sits on the sidelines and does her job, silently judging them all. She’s like the pack elder pretty much despite how young she looks. It’s kinda funny seeing big overpowering personalities get tsked at by such a small looking woman 😭

She doesn’t really have a scent — not a strong one since she’s a beta. But I imagine she vaguely smells of sugar cookies? Like freshly baked cookies at your grandmas house, it’s comforting and calming. Though it’s usually covered up by everyone else’s scent or even the oil from the machines she works on. When you get a whiff of it though it’s really pleasant!

[dervampireprince]

Tw surgery

I was listening to some of your Ambrose audios (love ur vids btw) and this popped into my head:

Do you think that a trans vampire or werewolf could get gender affirming surgery if the surgeon used silver blades?

i dont think that bears thinking about. i have trans ocs that are non-human and trans and i'll give them whatever gender affirming surgeries they want regardless of if other people don't think it makes sense for vampire lore. this is my own world and i can make my own vampire lore. just because in something like interview with the vampire claudia's hair always grows back instantly after she cuts it because vampires bodies are forced so stay looking exactly as they were when they were turned, doesn't mean that's true of my universe. and i don't understand why you would think a werewolf wouldn't be able to have surgery? unless you're coming from an angle of thinking their skin is too thick to be pierced which i've never stated is true in my lore.

idk it feels a bit icky to get an ask that's trying to rationalise how fictional characters could possibly have top surgery because in other lores that species couldn’t or in real life there were no top surgeries in that time period. because i'm trans and i want my trans ocs to be happy. it's a fantasy story. it's not going to be accurate to other folklore or to our real world or it's history.

so they can just get top surgery, i don't need any explanation as too how other than i'm trans and i want my ocs regardless of whatever anyone else thinks makes sense to be able to transition. also magic exists in this oc world so they could also just have it magically done. and transphobia is not rampant in my ocs world like it is in ours because why would i want to write about that for fun so it would be really easy for them to get it even in time periods in our world where ti wasn't possible, whether through medicine or magic.

also if you're going to add a trigger warning at the beginning of your ask and if you think your ask requires a trigger warning... why would you send it to me? like i can't ignore reading it, you aren't able to spoiler tag or censor the rest of your words so my eyes are going to read it anyway and why would you send an ask you think might trigger me. cos yeah i don't want to get medical question asks, i don't want the image of my ocs being cut into in my head.

if your ask requires a trigger warning, don't send it to me.

/nm

[utilitycaster]

current status report

did a bunch of quests in the Hossberg Wetlands, which I hate. Antoine and Evka are literally the ONLY upside. Also I guess Davrin and Lucanis hating each others' professions and guts with a burning passion. Anyway, we got a demon and we solved two creepy wet mysteries (everyone was dead. fuck this place.)

Also killed demons in Arlathan and Dock Town AND solved a creepy but less wet mystery in Dock Town (a lot of of people, but not everyone, was dead.)

I've done most of the crossroads quest to heal the blight from beacon island but I don't know how to get to the last thing, don't tell me, I'll do it later.

Obviously I'm just trying to get things settled before Weisshaupt so I ALSO went to talk to Mythal. She liked my first argument. she HATED my second argument. So I fought her dragon ass and survived! I've got a fragment of Mythal! I assume I could have had a better fragment of Mythal so hopefully this won't come back to bite me in the ass. How was I supposed to know that the kindness and sympathy my fellow Veilguarders seem to appreciate wouldn't go over well with Our Lady Of The Photo Negative (Who Totally Was Doing It With Solas). I am trying to delicately find out if this fucks me over without fully spoiling the ending (my attitude towards spoilers here is...inexplicable. don't give me any unless you are my mutual and discuss it with me first. sorry man.) but I think it will be fine? I did still get the essence, so. if this results in like, a companion dying I'll be sad [i am aware one dies regardless I mean like, more than that] but if it just means that Solas is mad at me, that is fine, honestly.

I then was like doot doot doot I killed all these demons let's just do this little Necropolis Quest, I guess I kill the last demon? should be fine, I'm so good at killing demons! Guess what friends. It was another fucking dragon. and it fucking killed me and I'm dead. so anyway I respawned from the last save point and went back to the lighthouse. You're telling me there are dragons in this age?

No conversations that involved me in the lighthouse, but Taash is still working on gender and appreciates Neve's Shadow Dragon contacts; Harding has been talking with everyone which is good for her; and the mages are being nerds with each other, even Neve. Also she hates tea. Lucanis does NOT talk with other people much, btw, and I don't know if it's because I haven't taken him out much or if he is just super tired. Oh and Neve told Davrin to be nicer to him.

Anyway I think we're at the point where all my sidequests are Things That Can Wait Or Aren't Properly Unlocked (stupid rivain warden quest) so I guess tomorrow I stop leaving Solas on read. I do know that the First Warden dies during Weisshaupt, which is good, because he is terrible.