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evilverbose · 11 months

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i will simultaneously read someones experience and mesh so thoroughly with the image of them (that i created), feel affective empathy so strongly, and yet i still have nothing there to offer real people in my life. the difference in empathy is so strange.

#i think i get why this happens with me #doesn't make it any less frustrating #esp when i am so bad at masking.#anyway.#schizotypal #schizospec #npd #avpd

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shalom-iamcominghome · 29 days

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People findinging out that antisemitism does, in fact, victimize people

#jumblr #jewish politics #antisemitism tw #nothing is more instantly frustrating than the 'jews just want to victimize themselves!' thing #yes actually. bigotry victimizes people. that's why it's called bigotry #honestly this is just me venting about this because i see this way too much #it's even more confusing how much i see it from 'leftists'. you sound worse than my conservative family #it's less that leftism is a set of principles to some but rather that it is an ego-boost i think #it's the aethetic of being a Good Moral Person without any of the work #you won't have to make any uncomfortable reckonings with your own pitfalls #you don't need to worry about what Actual Inclusion looks like because that's not the appeal of leftism #the appeal of leftism is how it props you up #i think in this case this is less a horseshoe theory moment rather it's just that people just...#don't care about the principles they say they have adopted because aethetics are a very attractive set of values #and the people who are hurt most by this is everyone else. it's the jews who won't make a stop in entire cities because they are unsafe #also to make this emphatically clear: antisemitism victimizes people (primarily jews)#this does NOT mean that i am saying someone is like... essentially a victim or they are Cursed or whatever else #recognizing that someone can be victimizes doesn't mean that someone is by character/nature a victim

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bitchthefuck1 · 2 months

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you know what, I actually will talk about this because it's bothering me. The issue with focussing so heavily on syd and carmy's potential for a romantic relationship isn't that there's something inherently unintellectual about romance or whatever, it's that a lot of people seem incapable of doing that without immediately flattening the story and ignoring or intentionally misreading any and all nuance for the sake of that romance. Every scene suddenly becomes about how it impacts their relationship, every analysis is done through a romantic lens, every frame or line of dialogue becomes about finding some easter egg or hint that "proves" these people should start dating. Their dynamic is absolutely a fundamental part of this show, but if you can only see it as a will-they-won't-they, you miss so much of what the story is actually trying to say with these two.

There are good versions of this story where their relationship is romantic and there are good versions of this story where it isn't, but as soon as you decide them being together is "the point," you lose the ability to actually judge the story for what it is, not what you want it to be.

#like so much of their dynamic (esp but not exclusively in S3) has been about showing the ways that carmy's trauma and dysfunctional #attitude in the kitchen impacts other people and how even though he cares about syd and wants their partnership to work he keeps self #sabotaging and setting himself and by extension her and the restaurant up to fail and replicating the same toxic environments that #he grew up and trained in and this is very much consistent with his character and a natural continuation of the conflicts they've been #having since S1 but because him being shitty with her runs contrary to them getting together suddenly its 'ruining the story' and #out of character and only happening bc the writers just hate to see this ship winning and like. if you really think that i genuinely don't #know what show you've been watching bc it sure as shit wasn't this one. like it hurts to see him do this because you know #they could do something genuinely great together and that he's ruining a really good thing but this is also the reality of where he is rn #if he was just a good and supporting business partner and not deeply dysfunctional it would be wildly out of character #the problem w S3 wasn't that it 'ruined' their relationship it's that it had no clear focus overemphasized carmy's arc at the expense #of the other leads deprioritized the supporting cast while failing to give them their own arcs gave more screen time to #unecessary and uninteresting new 'comic relief' characters and let conflicts stagnate without resolving them or #letting them evolve over the course of the season.#this isn't exclusive to the bear this is a general trend ive noticed where as soon as the 'shipper' part of people's brains get activated #it's like they lose the ability to read the story any other way and it stops being about what's good for the narrative and starts being #about whether or not these two people kiss and anything that gets in the way of that is bad and anything that brings it closer is good #and it's usually whatever but it's really frustrating when the story ppl are doing that to is this good #it also makes people fundamentally incapable of treating any 'obstacle' to that romance in a way that isn't wildly meanspirited and #gross (esp bc those characters are usually women) which is exhausting. like no claire isn't evil or a 'pick me' or 'bad' for carmy #or a useless addition to the story or whatever other nonsense you guys have decided must be true to feel okay. she's a perfectly normal #character and their relationship is exploring some of the ways that carmy's inability to deal with or actually address his trauma #impacts the various relationships in his life. she doesn't even have to be a monster or a narrative mistake for him and syd to be #'destined' for each other or whatever. this isn't a middle school wattpad fic.#im definitely gonna get killed in the street for this but ive been looking for a good reason to spend less time on here so might as well #the bear #sydcarmy #sydney adamu #carmy berzatto

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significant-ace-nnoyance · 3 months

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"they casted ___ too hot, how am i supposed to root against the villain" is a direct product of children's literature that constantly associates physical attractiveness with moral character and value

#its the most frustrating thing ever actually #to read books where they CONSTANTLY have to tell you how the good guys are attractive and the bad guys arent #also a product of ableism and fatphobia bc the bad guys are always disabled and fat too COUGH COUGH DISNEY #even with characters like luke who are written as attractive the fact that he's the 1 hot bad guy makes us believe there's smth worth savin #like just admit that if he wasn't hot soooo many more people would be sooooo quick to condemn all of his horribly abusive actions #im so sick of people defending male villains just with “hes hot” or “its not my fault they made him hot” DO YOU NOT REALIZE THAT BAD MEN #USE THEIR PHYSICAL AND SOCIAL CAPITAL TO MANIPULATE PEOPLE AND GAIN UNDESERVED RESPECT AND OPPORTUNITIES #BEING HOT IS PART OF THE WAY HE IS ABLE TO GAIN POWER AND INFLUENCE (AND STEP ON ALL THESE WOMEN TO GET THERE)#WAKE UP WAKE UP WAKE UP #this is less so for women i feel like bc characters (like kelly the empousa) are hot but they are Evil bc they use that to their own gain #like you have to be quirky mc attractive but not AWARE that you are attractive (like one direction type girl) to be valuable and good #and that beauty can only serve others basically like you can't use it to further your own goals bc thats Evil Women #which is why i think a lot of people are drawn to evil women bc its the one time women are allowed to be selfish and confident in themselve #and you dont have to be worried about the constant over criticism of every mistake or imperfect trait bc like yeah. shes evil.#while if you have a fmc she has to be PERFECTLY PURE to deserve any modicum of love and appreciation #if people put as much energy into appreciating “basic” female protagonists as they do into “redeeming” male villains....#anyways blah blah blah ive been thinking so much lately about how much we associate attractiveness with having value #like i thought to myself early that not being 'pretty' doesn't mean i shouldn't feel worthy of love from others or myself #and i was like woah. physical attractiveness doesn't define your worth as a human being #like i know that mentally but saying it out loud i was like woahhhh waitafuckingminute #anyways fuck jk rowling #thats what i actually meant to say #kiri into the void #once again writing essays in the tags #because it frees me from expectations and lets me just yap away

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jessmalia · 5 days

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how many times do i have to relearn the lesson that being productive actually makes me happier before it actually sticks?

#if we're being real it's definitely because for so many years the only way of being productive i really had was doing the school work that #was forced on me and made me miserable so now i don't exactly have the perfect psychological association with the concept #but it making sense doesn't make it any less frustrating #shut up mal

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corvid-language-library · 3 months

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God I don't wanna go to work today, all my classes are 🫠🫠 and the weather is 🫠🫠 and my brain is 🫠🫠

#chough chatterings #first class is 11 kids with mean girls vibes and like 3 adhd kids and one who's too young for the class so juggling it all is a nightmare #the other classes i have some good kids but again lots of adhd kids that make classroom management difficult #it's such a frustrating experience bc they enjoy the games once we get to them #but we can't play the games if we haven't studied the target sentences first #but making them sit down and shut up long enough to spend all of 3 minutes looking at the target sentences takes like 10 mins #and then we only have maybe 5 minutes for the game #or sometimes i have to cut the game completely bc it takes them THAT long to clean up we have to start cleaning up 10 mins early #it's not their fault but that doesn't make it any less frustrating #i'm hoping as they get more used to me and my routine they'll figure out the connection #it's happened with my other classes so i think i've just gotta give it time

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dustofthedailylife · 1 year

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Just went to read a fic during my dinner break and for some reason, I thought the wording sounded like AI.

With the increase in AI-generated content, I went and threw it into GPTZero (AI-detection tool) and...

I'm well aware it's not a 100% proof but still... I'm so disappointed.

I tried some things and it seems to be fairly accurate from what I can tell. I quickly had chat GPT generate a text for the bg-story of my OC (did it for test purposes and did not save it because lol) and it showed it as AI and then I yeeted my latest Alhaitham fic in there and it says human 👇🏻

It's not 100% proof but what GPTZero says is fairly accurate from what I can tell.

AI fic "authors" are already among us. And I'm frustrated as hell about it. Like... why do we as fanfic authors even put in the effort anymore? ._.

Edit: Because it was a good input from someone: these tools are not 100% accurate or proof like I said. Don't go and accuse someone directly of AI generating or publicly expose them! (It's also why I didn't name drop or show the fic). Albeit... It's a fact that there are people who "write" their fics with AI ._.

#🍁 dust rambles #AI is the bane of all creatives #first art now writing as well #I'm slow-ish with both #why do I even put in the effort when I could just generate everything #(because I value human made stuff and AI stuff has no soul)#(doesn't make it any less frustrating)#(because as a human being you cannot keep up with the speed of AI content generation)

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martyrbat · 6 months

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im so considerate.... (<- guy not ranting about a thing it hates before its friend is done with the media)

#can officially say i finished the arkhamverse. didnt watch anything about that suicide squad one but i read all comics #a d watched the complete story & side mission gameplay for origins asylum city and midway through my refresher for knight #the biggest takeaway i have is wow these people are weird about convicts and addicts and love their toxic masculinity #but the gameplay and nostalgia impacts peoples opinions on it. maybe an enjoyable experience but for the story or universe itself #its a complete failure in every regard i can think of—only having glimpses moments of quality that makes the rest of it #be frustrating because the potential can be there. theres interesting premises occasionally but the execution and payoff doesn't make it #even worthwhile to get to those premises because of what you must wade through to reach them #<- thats me being my nicest and most spoiler freeabout it btw.#my other big takeaway is that tim is canonically older than jason and i think a grown ass man saying fuck that kid is really funny #[SPOILERS LOOK AWAY CJ]#<- tim currently works as a highschool science teacher while jason was shown to be adopted and made robin at 15 #where he was then promptly captured and kidnapped by joker. he escaped half? a year later during asylum and AK takes place 2 years afterward #i think. the entire timeline for this shitty universe is awful and confusing. dick was robin for like 2 years its ridiculous.#and i think primarily so they can go noooo see bruce is a hot late 30 year old instead because you become dust at any older!!#but. back to the age thing. hes about 17 maybe early 18 during AK but because tim is a private school teacher he needs a bachelor's degree #and most people get it at 22/23ish and then theres the actual teacher application and being hired (or not because hes a nepo baby)#so hes early mid twenties or so. compared to a (presumably dead) teenager who he called a loser more or less.

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muninnhuginn · 7 months

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sth about how sapphire has low self-esteem even when he's considered a genius or otherwise extraordinary. and how that low self-esteem can lead towards him seeking validation from a wider crowd in a bid to smother his insecurities. how he uses that to feed his ego until he becomes reliant on it and desperately doesn't want to lose it. and it is validation specifically he prioritises over a deeper understanding or connection with others. because he would have that deeper connection in the form of beryl if he'd so accept it.

#been watching s4 today and was thinking about how the timeloop au specifically had me knowing exactly how sapphire was going to act #it's entirely understandable and in-chara but it doesn't make it any less frustrating the way he self-sabotages to prop up his self-esteem #beryl and sapphire #xiao lu he xiao lan #also like. I'm drawing these examples from cases where he doesn't have a huge crush skewing his reactions #but even in those cases some of it still stands tbh. beryl tends to see sapphire flaws and all.#and sometimes sapphire just wants the positive views of himself/is too scared of the rejection inherent in negative views

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musical-chick-13 · 19 days

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I think. I think there's still a lot of "Well I don't want to be like THOSE girls," even among plenty of adults who truly do genuinely care about feminism. And I just want to say that trying to assure someone who is attempting to parse all of that out with "Oh, don't worry, YOU'RE not like One Of THOSE™️ Girls" does not........actually help.

#you are not immune to internalized misogyny!! this includes me because I am an imperfect human!!!!!#like I'm just as worried about the rise of anti-intellectualism as anyone else but toooooo many people seem to put that phenomenon on #young women and not like. the shitty state of the general world.#I don't actually care if someone thinks I'm Like Those Stupid Girls because I don't give the time of day to people who are #insistent on making generalizations about random women. but that doesn't make the phenomenon itself any less frustrating.#now if you'll excuse me I have to go log off and be a deranged pathetic 'incorrect' woman irl. goodbye.#:o)

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ghoul-haunted · 5 months

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doing my own artistic reconstructions of the middle to late republic (and eventually, late empire) army and lemme tell you. if I ever have to draw chainmail ever again (I will) I'm going to scream (I am)

also I miss the era of forums. shout out to all these guys in a larp/reenactment forum from 2006 for posting close ups of their armor reconstructions from multiple angles to show how it all comes together, I owe you my fucking life

#TRAGIC that spaces like that don't exist anymore and also google is useless and youtube only goes so far because the search #function there sucks too #academics on twitter will act like snobs because the general public has a skewed image of what roman armor looks like #but doesn't actually make any effort to show people visually things would look like. they just want to complain that books #that are easily accessible to the public are wrong and it's so cringe that people have based their associations off of that #like i get the frustration but if you aren't going to try and rectify the situation yourself then shut the fuck up #the average person won't understand the specifics of chainmail patterns and it's actually deeply frustrating when visuals #ARENT provided except for the crustiest scan of a photo from a magazine like you are less than useless god fucking bless

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ishikawayukis · 3 months

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idols stop being obsessed with the wizard boy challenge fucking failed

#i truly think that they don't know but that doesn't make it any less frustrating #and i say that because unless you spend a certain amount of time online how would you know #''oh it would came up in the news'' no it won't lmfao #if it wasn't because i'm constantly telling my siblings #they literally would not know because it's not something that thwy would search for #or that would appear thanks to the algorithm or whatever #still doesn't make it any less frustrating because i'm sure fans are prob telling them on weverse #but then you have other prob being like ''omg no you're gonna hurt them''#don't fucking care man stop supporting the wizard boy jfc #b.txt

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thatvampireenthusiast · 3 months

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oh i'm about to get the shit beaten out of me. great. this is gonna suck.

#dragonfable #sometimes a stat block tells you literally everything about how a battle is about to go #sepulchure why #admittedly this is a great way to integrate story with gameplay #doesn't make it any less FUCKING FRUSTRATING

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lonelyplanetfag · 1 year

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why did they make gender so complicated what's up w that

#like yeah. im trans ftm Technically. but calling myself ftm doesn't feel right #cuz yeah i'm a boy & i only want ppl 2 see me as a boy & it hurts when they don't #but also. im not rly trans in an ftm way yk? that feels more like a technicality #and calling myself transgender feels the same as calling myself ftm #im less trans in the 'i was a girl now im a boy' or 'born a girl always a boy' way n more in a #'crossdressing fag with a pussy' sorta way #idk how to explain it right #im not just a guy yk?im a guy that crossdresses n im a faggot n transsexual bc of it #this sounds so edgy jesus god #it's just so frustrating 2 try n explain in any other way #istg my dad said transsexual that one time and it just Clicked that that's what i am n its not in the way everybody thinks if #ig**#delete later #sorry my gender is all tangled up #it's tangled up in the same way my words r tangled up #trying 2 say one thing n getting the point across most of the way but never how i want/intend #& god i hate using pc terms 2 describe what i am cuz what i am doesn't feel pc #it feels offensive cuz it is #but in a way that i can't describe right #idk man im just tired of sanitizing it n making it look all pretty ig

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cassarson · 6 months

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Do any of y'all have adhd and bipolar or know of any good accounts of what having both is like? I've noticed that I've been having some seriously abnormal moods recently, and the more I look into it, the more I think that it looks a lot like bipolar, but I'm not sure how it would interact with my adhd, or even if there's anything other than my adhd going on at all. Feel free to DM me if you don't want to talk about it publicly

#personal #adhd #bipolar #(?)#as an example of the mood swings: last night i worked on a project that isnt for a grade from 6pm to 1am with a 20 minute dinner at 9 #and now im 10 minutes into my first class of the day. and im sitting on my bed in my robe not even dressed from the shower #(yes the class is in-person)#and i know i need to get up and move but its just not happening #and this isnt super weird for me w the adhd but ive been having really long stretches of unsteerable hyperfocus for a few days #when normally being medicated means i can control the general direction of the hyperfocus #and since monday ive felt like i need less sleep and have been even more nocturnal than usual which i think is making mornings harder #and ive been feeling like im on top of the world #like being late to class doesn't matter and i can spend my time doing what i want to even if i have other shit to do.#ive been super late to classes recently bc of executive dysfunction in the morning #and hyperfocus in between classes.#idk it feels like im losing it a bit and im really frustrated by my dumbass brain rn.#n e way. that was a long ass rant. pls lmk if youve got any experience w this or any resources that talk ab it. thx!❤️

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cobwebbed-crow · 9 months

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If your institutionally mandated "diversity survey" doesn't include a 'prefer not to say' option for every single question, congratulations, I now know better than to believe that your institution is safe for minority students.

#original post #text post #stupid ass mandatory online survey asked me for my birth sex #as if that's relevant to anything at all #no “prefer not to say” options #like great.#My birth sex is personal information. I do not want to disclose that. But now I'm forced to pick the sex I was assigned at birth #thereby giving others the opportunity to categorize me into a binary gender based on what genitals I had at birth #before they've even spoken to me no less #and their website says “this information will be kept private and will only be made available to some members of faculty”#as if that makes it okay.#No.#The only person who needs to know what sex I was given as a baby is me.#Such an invasive thing to ask someone.#Point is nobody should be forced to out themselves as queer disabled an ethnic minority etc. etc.#And any institution which doesn't respect that isn't an institution that I want anything to do with.#vent in tags #vent post #frustrated #social justice #enbyphobia mention #implied transphobia #transphobia mention

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