#(directed at irl people not online people)

[bmpmp3]

im kinda bad at talking to people on the internet but i always want to comment on art and music i like by small creators 1) because its nice to know and 2) depending on the website (like youtube) maybe it might help a little with spreading it around. but im still kind of bad at it. so a lot of people get an "awesome!!" from me and lemme tell you - i mean everyone of those "awesome!!"'s. i mean it with all my heart. sometimes a thing is just awesome, so awesome it needs more than one exclamation mark!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[hollowfacility]

Agh, I've been feeling kinda distant to people lately. It's probably my fault for not really reaching out, but I also kinda feel it online. Idk, im probably feeling like this because I havent slept lol. I feel really bad for needing validation and reminders that people like me, but it's easy to get just by doing simple things, which you would think means that people do like me, but it just feels fake and cheap, and I dont want to ask too much of people, so it feels like im caught between feeling like shit because I constantly need validation and feeling like im a fake friend because the things that get me validation are simple for me to do. Im not doing them just to get validation, but the fact that I get it makes it feel like im taking advantage of someone, when its just really that they like the things I do. Idk, ill probably delete this if I remember to

[crustaceousfaggot]

When I was 13 my mom caught me trying to shoplift a Doctor Who comic book from Chapters, and I remember being more worried about her finding out how obsessed I was with Doctor Who than I was about her knowing I'd been shoplifting

[themagnadefender]

I'm watching Grimm and the found family dynamics are killing me. Also Trubel I love her so much why was she only in 30 episodes I needed a spinoff with her I adore her so much, her and nick>>>> I wish we could've gotten so much more of her, she deserved to be there for the whole show, she was always so alone 😭 and then when nick took her in she was so loyal and badass what a babe

cannot put into words how over the moon i was to see this!!!! 😭😭😭 thank you so much and so sorry for the word vomit ahead lol

but i toooootally agree, trubel deserved more screen time and we deserved more of her!! her own show would have been /mwah. while i did loooove the setting of portland and of course the cast of grimm, i think giving trubel her own little gang and expanding on the world would have been so fun. UGH. but hey, im just happy they brought her back at all <3 happy to know that there is someone out there in the world who GETS it

and i totally agree!!! her and nick's relationship was one of the best in the show, and for it to have come in as late as it did and still work SO well was fantastic. i think the thing about nick and his refusal to be the Lone Grimm Stereotype was one of the BEST parts about his character, but you do see him have his lonely moments as a grimm because no one can really relate to that even if they know about the wesen community. because the only other grimm he knew out there was his mom, and she just had her own mission to tend to and couldn't stick around for long so even though she was alive, he couldn't even talk to her about all the shit he goes through.

until trubel!! and same for her, like you said she was so alone and had been through SO much, until they found one another. and not just solely because of their relationship to one another but because he also introduced her to all his people, too, who she cared about and who cared about her in return. there is simply nothing like a character who has had to fight their whole life to survive and has felt like they had to do it all on their own, finally being given a soft place to rest and being allowed to just relax and feel safe 😭 like idk what episode it was but after she got back from being kidnapped by chavez and co. and she says, "i just knew if i could get to you, i would be okay." like 😭😭 yeah!!! 😭 she never had a safe place in her life until she met him, and then nick became that for her. and we got that vulnerability but that she was still allowed to remain a badass in her own right, beating people up and threatening them and all that good stuff!!

TRULY a character of all time. am forever going to be obsessed with her. every scene with her was iconic. she is everything to me. also so glad they gave her a motorcycle. as much as i loooved that she got to take aunt marie's truck, i think her going from juliette's bike to a motorcycle with a bunch of superhero features was exactly what she deserved <33

[thespoonisvictory]

tbh I saw this post that was like omg if you’re childhood friends and you don’t want to be friends anymore or stay in touch as you get older you have to Directly Tell Them you want to stop being friends. and like maybe I’m evil but I just don’t agree? I’m all for communication but like, sometimes there is this attitude that changes in relationships over time are always traumatizing and you need to directly announce your intentions to every friend. I’d rather just quietly feel it out with the person like if they aren’t texting me first ever that’s enough for me to recognize they probably don’t want to hang out or talk as much. that’s just life man.

[wreckedhoney]

^^ "coming to the conclusion that positioning the "can people enjoy things that would be immoral IRL in their fiction" debate as a proship v anti fandom debate is akin to pretending that "should we have the death penalty" is a discussion that only matters in Death Note discourse"

not proshipper not anti but a secret third thing (person who has a career in the media and, through covering legislative politics, has watched "associating with problematic fiction or entertainment is an indicator of moral degeneracy" rapidly become a mainstream GOP position that they are encoding in legislation to target the queer community under the guise of protecting children, thus coming to the conclusion that positioning the "can people enjoy things that would be immoral IRL in their fiction" debate as a proship v anti fandom debate is akin to pretending that "should we have the death penalty" is a discussion that only matters in Death Note discourse — the extent and manner to which fiction affects reality is an issue that is immediately relevant to today's US politics, and to summarize my opinions on the matter in fandom terms would be to diminish the ways this debate is affecting america Right The Fuck Now. and i have stopped taking "this person is bad for shipping the wrong anime thing and being horny about it" in any sort of good faith ever since I saw it literally used as part of a GOP smear campaign against a transgender state legislator in an attempt to defend the right from backlash after they used their supermajority in the Montana house to prevent her from speaking on the floor. Anyway I think everyone on this site, especially Americans, could benefit from ceasing to think in proship v anti vocabulary and instead developing coherent political positions on the nature of fiction that do not directly align with current fascist political tactics)

[girlivealwaysbean]

i don't feel like studying any of the subjects from The Plan rn but everything else is so boring that i also don't want to waste time on like watching content or something and i would rather switch subjects then give up on studying for the day and by old me standards ive already done enough but new me i still feel like i can do more but i don't know what ughhhhh this is torture

[wowreally0102]

how happy can you really be when you’re reading paragraphs upon paragraphs of people against your very existence whenever you log on is my question

[gayashawol]

man… the silence is almost demotivating me from making more stories…

[spiderbitesandvampirevenom]

iunno y'all. as a trans woman of color who has dealt with racism, sexual violence, and (internalized) transmisogyny directed at me from white trans women both online and IRL, i do think dismissing criticism of white trans women unilaterally as baseless transmisogyny is actually a problem.

like you get how mocking people pointing out racial privilege and disregarding their concerns does make you and the community you belong to look racist to the people of color around you, right? especially when y'all loooove to bust out the racism as long as you can prove they're one of the bad ones. cut the smokescreening and just say it with your chest cracker.

[cuntyji]

everyone’s talking about nerd gojo (thank you @to00fu for the meal), but what about nerd nanami? and i’m not talking about just any nerd nanami, im talking about letterboxd nerd! nanami — 

who wears a “directed by quentin tarantino” tshirt under his suit because he's a bit embarassed about unironically liking this type of merch, and who actually reads through all the letterboxd published articles from cover to cover.

his profile is so organised and he leaves such beautifully written and critical reviews that people who read it go crazy and spam the review’s comments section with “who is this diva 😭” and “WHO LET BRO COOK 🗣️” (he doesn’t understand the meaning of these phrases, but yuuji told him they’re positive phrases so he lets them be).

he's very selective about who he follows — a few of his irl's do know he's on letterboxd, but when they ask him for his profile he does not bother entertaining them. it's not that he's ashamed of his profile or taste, he just likes to keep his irl's seperate from his online activity. 

letterboxd nerd! nanami is heavily against piracy, and he refuses to opt for the “easy way out” when it comes to watching regional films. (he once took a flight all the way to paris on a weekday just to watch a movie that hadn't started international screening).

not to mention, he has a lot of friends that are directors, producers, script-writers, actors etc…it's not even a flex, he was genuinely the most supportive figure in their lives when they were starting out, and often times he gets free tickets or VIP passes to special movie screenings as a way of thanks.

letterboxd nerd! nanami is always one of the top three or five reviews in most trending movies on letterboxd, but imagine his horror when casual letterboxd user! reader bests his review and pushes him down to seventh place.

the horror.

and it's not even a “good” review, as nanami says —  it's just a rant about how hot the cast is. and for some outrageous reason, everyone seems to be upvoting your poorly written review instead of his meticulously detailed review about the script writing, acting, soundtrack, camera angles…you get what i mean. 

naturally, letterboxd nerd! nanami is pissed. 

and he's even more so when he realizes that casual letterboxd user! reader doesn't even log films on the daily — no, it seems more like you just remember this app exists and then log in whatever you just watched. you didn't even bother putting up a profile picture up until yesterday. and why the hell have you rated most of the disney movies a 5/5? do you not know what an objective rating is? 

letterboxd nerd! nanami, after stalking your watched list, prays you never come online to log your films again. he can't afford to be bested by you again. until he sees a notification that makes him groan out loud in annoyance — 

y/ncore has started following you.

bonus: nerd gojo and letterboxd nerd! nanami are mutuals and close friends on letterboxd (under aliases of course), but both of them hate each other irl — nerd gojo mocks him for spending time on “lame” things like movies, while letterboxd nerd! nanami scoffs at his blatant attitude of “not appreciating cinema.”

[steorn]

ok look. I love having internet friends but I resent that idea that some of you would turn on me on a dime.

[clockworkreapers]

Update to this. cuz guess who just got a second bill. mhm this ones unrelated, still high, but capitalism frankly is hell and my jobs yes JOBS with an S are not able to cover this. My last paycheck with everyone's help has covered up to half- but that's like with all comms too. I am literally full up between doing all the work u see normally commissions and irl jobs. Idk what it is about these past few months but my god wtf.

This is just if anyone can help out and if you have been liking everything I've been making as of recent. I'll still be making things so I can stay somewhat calm and sane. Still survival mode is not fun, would not wish this on anyone.

WILDLY DIF POST BUT OH MAN

guess who just got hit with the US healthcare system mallet? Yeah me. A 3000$ one (specifically 3206.25$).

I hate to do this but If anyone has the ability to help, be you a friend, caring person or someone who enjoys my work… if you can lend any amount cuz dear god I need to get over my pride and just be like ok I actually need a hand with this

I'll likely be opening comms too if you want to get something in return- but that means the rest of my work and life is put on pause till I can recover. So if anyone at all is able to help with a couple bucks that would be incredible.

[noxtivagus]

good morning T_T

[clearancecreedwatersurvival]

Is anyone gonna explain to people that ‘proship’ does not actually mean ‘problematic shipping’ or ‘problematic ship’ or are we just going to let this misinformation spread some more?

It means pro-shipping. The prefix pro, meaning ‘supporting.’ In favor of shipping.

It only became a defined position after anti-shippers who initially identified themselves as anti-a specific ship started harassing creators they didn’t like, doxxing them, and trying to get them fired from their irl jobs for shipping reasons around 2014-2016.

So people who had been in fandom for long enough to know where that kind of rhetoric leads (ffnet purges, LJ strikethru, as well as the direct harms caused by doxxing) observed this increasing trend of harassment and rallied to say ‘oh you lot are anti-shipping, as in opposed to certain ships? Well in that case, we are pro-shipping, because we follow the adage of ship and let ship.’

Before that point, it was just basic fandom etiquette to not bother people who ship stuff you don’t like, and to understand that if something squicks you out, it’s not the fault of the people who made it.

If someone says they are pro-ship, it means fuck all about what they actually enjoy in fiction.

It just means they’re opposed to harassing creators for making content that doesn’t cause tangible harm to real people. A better way to understand the ideological position is being anti-harassment and anti-censorship.

I have a lot of ships I find disgusting blacklisted so I don’t have to see them. But I am not interested in forcing people to comply with what I think is gross. That’s what it means.

Curate your online experience, and understand that your disgust response is not a defensible moral indicator or a justification to harass, deplatform, and dox fan writers.

[nixisverytired]

Can we take a moment to think about the younger trans men and mascs on tumblr right now?

I was a teenager when ace and transmed discourses were at their peaks, and I can’t exaggerate how badly it affected me then.

Now trans men are the latest target, and I’m terrified for trans kids.

It’s easy to say “intracommunity discourse is an online problem! Go talk to queer people irl!”, but people forget that so many kids and teenagers do not have safe or reliable access to IRL LGBT+ communities and support groups. For many, online spaces are the only option.

We need to make sure the younger members of our community are being heard, and block out the hateful voices with messages of support and encouragement. Things are bad enough for trans people right now, and it's easy to forget that trans minors are often the ones suffering the most.

To any younger trans men or transmasculine people reading this:

The hate you are experiencing isn’t normal, it hasn’t always been like this, and it won’t always be this way. It is bleeding out from a small, miserable group of self-absorbed jerks.

Don’t feel obligated to call them out, don’t feel like you have to interact with these people. Please don’t doomscroll through discourse tags; it will make you feel like everyone is out to get you.

If you want to speak up for your community, that’s fine, but please take a break if you feel like your mental health is worsening. Block anybody who so much as breathes rudely in your direction.

You’re just as trans as the rest of us. You are welcome here.

Oh, and if you want to seek out external resources and groups, PFLAG helped me a lot when I was younger. It is an American-based organization, however, so if anyone has recommendations for those living outside of the US, please let me know in the reblogs!