#(*opinionated)

[honeytonedhottie]

all about role models⋆.ೃ࿔*:･🧁

FIND ROLE MODELS ;

its important to have people that u look up to. people with similar morals and values as you and people who have achieved things that u want to achieve, or things similar to what u want to achieve.

you can find mentors or role models or, simply look up to people even if u dont know them personally. for example one of my role models is kimora lee simmons. i look up to how effortlessly glamorous she is and how much of an amazing business woman she is, shes also a biracial woman just like me.

find traits in ur role models that u already have, whether thats interests, talents, physical similarities etc.

finding role models helps to give u inspiration. something important to remember though is to emulate, NOT imitate. use their qualities and achievements as motivation to discover and develop your own individuality.

for this post im going to focus on one of my role models, the wizard liz because this is a mindset based post...💬🎀

STUDY THE MINDSET OF UR ROLE MODELS ;

their conception of self ; the wizard liz has high standards for herself because she knows her worth. because of that she won't settle and she doesn't let herself get walked all over.

something that liz has said in her videos before was to be okay with people misunderstanding you. dont go out of ur way to get worked up just bcuz someone sees something in a different way then u do.

her conception of self continued ; in another video she says to "make a list of tough situations that you've handled in the past and what skills you used to handle them". she has a lot of trust and belief in herself and her abilities

after taking notes on the mindset of ur role models (like so) i can see what resonates with me and what doesn't, i can see clearly ways in which we are similar and ways in which we are different.

WHAT ABOUT YOU? ;

take time to formulate ur own opinions. take time to think, "hey what do i think about this" without the influence of others views or opinions what do u think originally. grow comfortable with thinking for yourself.

trust ur gut feelings and intuition

be confident in ur own mind and trust that you have the ability to make the best choices for yourself.

another thing, grow comfortable with asking yourself for advice. something that i realized is that often times when we ask others for advice, we already know what we should do but we wanna hear it from someone else but its important to just ask urself some times.

"what do i rly want" or "what is the best thing for me to do" are things that u should be asking urself instead of asking others. dont let others peer pressure you into thinking the way that they do. THATS NOT TO SAY DONT BE OPEN MINDED, THATS NOT WHAT IM SAYING. but im saying think for urself first.

SOME OF MY ROLE MODELS ;

kimora lee simmons - successful business woman, biracial queen, effortlessly glamorous

beyoncé - passionate about her talents and recognized as one of the best in her industry

wonyoung - smart, beautiful, and unbothered queen

jennie - so talented and radiates major it girl energy

britney spears - popstar queen, her music is AMAZING and her energy is palpable

bella hadid - empathetic beautiful human being who speaks up about things that society wants to be silent about

megan thee stallion - educated queen, such a hard worker, strong even when everyone is against her, talented and confident

paris hilton - used the image that the media portrayed for her to make a profit, marketing and business genius, gorgeous and cunty

[abiwaif]

Abi PSA

[neilsanders]

small guy BIG OPINION

[evanpeterswifeyyy]

Phantom of The Opera rant because I just watched the full movie of my favorite stage play and it’s on my mind.

Warning: controversial/ unpopular fandom opinion. Key word: OPINION. Excessive yapping—I’m pulling up recipets yall. This is actually an essay. Despite that, I will definitely make some spelling mistakes, explain things poorly or repeat points. I am human, thanks.

I’m not sure if this is controversial or not, but I don’t fully understand how people like Christine and the Phantom together. At a basic level, I can understand why:

- It has dark romance themes/ tropes (totally different topic I could rant about)

-It’s taboo and edgy, kinda raw

-Many actors who play the Phantom are conventionally attractive

-Christine and the Phantom usually have more on-screen chemsitry (chemistry does not always mean romantic, please be mindful of that)

So, I wanted to write a small little essay picking apart why I believe The Phantom and Christine are a toxic and abusive pairing.

This is not an attack on anyone who pairs them together, nor do I honestly care that much if you do, I just don’t see many in-depth second opinions about this.

With this knowledge, proceed at your own discretion and be respectful:

I want to start off with the main reasons why I believe the Phantom and Christine should NOT be paired together. To preface, I have only seen TWO pieces of media related to the POT. I will be using those as my evidence, as they are also the most popular reditions of the play that I’m sure most of you will know and reference yourself.

Those being:

The 25th Anniversary stage play with Sierra Boggess and Ramin Karimloo

The Phantom of the Opera screenplay starring Emmy Rossum

To begin, in the screenplay Christine has been shown to have known the Phantom since she was a child. Throughout multiple reditions, Christine has always been portrayed as in her late teens to early 20’s during the main events of the play and the Phantom is depicted somewhere around his 40’s-50’s. That in it of itself is creepy.

I understand that age gaps are a big topic in fandoms and media, and I would have little problem with this age gap if it weren’t for the fact that it is implied many times that he has been training her to sing since her father died. To get to Christine’s level in the opera, that would take years. Even if she already had vocal talent. Meaning that she was a minor when he met her.

That would be grooming. Literally.

To add onto this point, I want to paraphrase and quote some of the things the Phantom says to/ about Christine.

“Sing for me, my angel of music”

“Since I first heard you sing. I have needed you with me, to serve me, to sing. For my music”

Now, anyone can interpret these lyrics differently, but how I interpret them is:

He is using Christine for her voice. He has groomed her (in multiple ways) and polished her voice to sing so he can use her for his music. I mean, he literally kills and threatens people who do not allow Christine to be the star of every play once the main events happen.

He calls her his “angel of music”. Which might be endearing, if you remember the fact that he has been grooming her since she was a child to “serve” him. This is an objectifying name. He is saying this in contrast with Christine’s angel of music, which is a literal angel that her father promised to send her. To Christine, her angel of music is her father’s love and legacy. For The Phantom, it is his magnum opus: Christine.

Speaking of Christine and her “Angel of Music”. This leads me to my next point:

The Phantom pretends to be Christine’s father/ angel of music to manipulate and trick her.

During both graveyard scenes (the musical and the screenplay) Christine says:

“Angel or father, friend or phantom?”

The way I interpret this:

It is not a coincidence the comparison. [The split/ play on words]

Angel or friend?

Father or phantom?

Christine believes the angel to either be her father, or an entity he sent. When the Phantom says to her in the next moment:

“Have you forgotten your angel?”

That is him admitting he knows that Christine has believed he was the angel of music/ her father teaching and guiding her this whole time. And in the same song he is manipulating her, putting back on the facade of being her “angel of music” and leading her back to him—where Raoul has to snap her out of it.

Raoul has to literally tell Christine that the Phantom is not her father in both the play and the screenplay. Further solidifying the fact that she believes that the Phantom is her father or a being sent by him.

If we take that into fact, that means that the whole time up until at least now, she has only seen the Phantom as a fatherly figure.

Now, let’s talk about the final confrontation.

I’m already hearing the “but she says she loves him at the end!” Or “then why did she kiss him?!”

Glad you asked!

The final confrontation is the most blatant showcase of the Phantom’s delusion and abuse.

First, lets it back to the fact that the Phantom is shown to be a murderer. Someone who kills for their own benefit without remorse. Christine says it herself, and there are multiple scenes where she speaks of the Phantom and is afraid. She believes the Phantom may even kill her if she does not comply with his rules.

Quotes/ Paraphrases here (from the broadway and movie scripts):

“(to RAOUL, pleading)

Raoul, I'm frightened -

don't make me do this

Raoul, it scares me -

don't put me through this

ordeal by fire

he'll take me, I know

we'll be parted for ever

he won't let me go” (Christine talking about doing the Don Juan play)

“RAOUL

When will that be?

It's an engagement,

not a crime!” (Raoul fighting with Christine about hiding their engagement. It’s implied here that Christine is hiding their engagement from the Phantom because she knows it will upset him.)

The most damning piece of evidence:

“CHRISTINE

Twisted every way,

what answer can I give?

Am I to risk my life,

to win the chance to live?

Can I betray the man

who once inspired my voice?

Do I become his prey?

Do I have any choice?

He kills without a thought,

he murders all that's good

I know I can't refuse

and yet, I wish I could?

Oh God - if I agree,

what horrors wait for me

in this, the Phantom's opera?” (Christine speaks about the Phantom after being told she is forced to play in Don Juan)

With this information, we know that the Phantom kills for selfish reasons. He will do anything to get what he wants. Regardless of even the feelings of Christine.

Back to confrontation, Christine in the movie is shown to have the Phantom force her to put on the wedding dress. She clearly does not want to do it, but feels threatened by him to do so.

The whole time she is uncomfortable. Then, he captures Raoul.

He gives her an incentive and she only has two choices:

-Admit she loves him to free Raoul

-Deny she loves him and kill Raoul

Now, if you know anything about incentives and abusive people. This is the most toxic thing to ever do. It is completely self-serving and both Christine and Raoul know that he is going to kill him regardless and is pressuring her to lie and say she loves him.

Quotes/ Paraphrases:

“CHRISTINE:

Farewell my fallen idol and false friend

We had such hopes, and now those hopes are shattered!

PHANTOM:

Too late for turning back, too late for prayers and useless pity!

RAOUL:

Say you love him and my life is over

PHANTOM:

All hope of cries for help; no point in fighting!

RAOUL/PHANTOM:

For either way you choose, he has to win/you cannot win!”

The Phantom is not doing this out of love. No one who loves someone would threaten to kill the person they love/ choose instead of them. The Phantom up until this point is possesive, infatuated and obsessed wih Christine. There are no signs of real love from him. It is all self serving and an idolized image of Christine.

When Christine shows him a bit of kindness during this moment I believe she is being genuine, but I also believe she’s only doing it to save herself.

Christine feels pity for the Phantom because she realizes during this encounter that he has been traumatized and isolated so bad that he feels he has to torture others to get what he wants. That he truly believes that no one but Christine will love him, and therefore he must make sure at all costs that he will get what he wants. Christine, being empathetic, tells the Phantom that she hears him.

I don’t think Christine kissing the Phantom is out of love. Not in a romantic sense. Christine kisses the Phantom not only to save her and Raoul’s lives, but also because she is feeling pity for the Phantom. He has never felt the physical touch of another person as he says in his own words, so she kisses him.

This obviously works, and she sets him free.

Lets talk about the musical because there’s a scene after this where she returns while the Phantom is wallowing after freeing them.

I still don’t think Christine returns because she loves the Phantom. Up until now, she has no reason to except for the fact that she finally humanizes him. No, I think that this scene just further solidifies that she yes, she loves the Phantom. But not in a romantic sense. From the beginning she has been shown to have a fatherly view of the Phantom, and I believe that paired with the memories of her father and the years they spent—she returns because she continues to see her father in him and feels pity for him. She wants to help the Phantom be happy because he brought her a piece of her father. Possibly she even still believes that he was in fact sent by her father to teach her music and take care of her in some way.

This is my interpretation of the scene.

A point I see brought up A LOT when it comes to justifying Christine’s romance with The Phantom is:

“Well, Raoul is abusive in the second rendition and her and the Phantom have an affair.”

Have you ever seen Cinderella 2? Have you ever heard of it? There are 3 Cinderella movies.

But we all refer to the first one because A. It’s the most popular and a classic B. The other movies sold poorly because they were bad and nobody asked for them.

My point here is: so is Love Never Dies.

I said what I fucking said. Cry about it.

But lets imagine for a moment if we took Love Never Dies as part of the main canon:

I don’t think Christine should be with Raoul either.

Another point I see a lot is: “They just meet again and instantly get engaged”

Which yes, that’s definitely a point of contention.

But considering just The Phantom Of the Opera in this case, they have known each other since they were kids. And considering the time period the events are set in, this is actually not that surprising or uncommon and makes sense. Even if Christine didn’t love Raoul, given her position, it would have been beneficial for her to get married. And it might as well be someone she’s known for a long time.

But if you were to ask me, without being forced to choose between Raoul or the Phantom, I would tell you that I believe that she should be with neither.

Both are abusive towards Christine. One just more literally stated than the other.

Edit because I forgot to add this crucial point:

The Phantom of the Opera was NOT a story created by Andrew Lloyd Webber (the man who created the musical adaptation and scores)

It is a story from 1910 by french author Gaston Leroux. If we take that context into consideration, (as someone who has not yet read the book) the movie (based on the musical) and the musical are not accurate representations of the original material or intention.

There were definitely creative liberties taken or misinterpretations. Especially with Love Never Dies.

There were black and white movies made of the story as well. The Phantom is specifically portrayed as a real life monster. This image of him being a handsome man with a scarred face and tragic past only happened in the 20th century.

I believe that is the conclusion of this rant/ essay. I know this probably won’t get a lot of reach, but if you read this whole thing (whether you agree or not), thanks a lot. Truly.

Hopefully this will add more discussion to the topic and give people a more open minded view on the topic, and realize the real nature of the Phantom. There are so many ways to interpret and art piece, and time and time again, this is what I see in it. So to see people romanticize their relationship always gives me the ick (ofc, you do you boo, I can’t stop you). So I’m tired of arguing individually with people, so I might as well have a full reference to come back to.

I’m sure there’s more evidence and points I could have made, but this is long enough. Regardless, I hope you can take away something from this, and if you want to possibly hear about any more of my controversial opinions—leave a note so I know! <3

[odinsblog]

[lovepersevering13]

My three top posts are just me complaining about things I hate 😭

[smudge-gate]

If I see ONE MORE MOTHERFUCKER (whether that be a man or woman let it be up to you) SAY ANYTHING. AND I MEAN ANYTHING. ABOUT SUNDRESSES.

"me when she wears a sundress 🦴"

"when she got that sundress no panties combo 🤤"

"hottest thing a girl can wear is a sundress"

"oh it's sundress season 😏"

LITERALLY SHUT THE FUUUCCKKKK UUUPPP

LIKE DAMN WE GET IT (queue that one tiktok audio)

AND THE WORST PART. HALF OF THE DRESSES THESE DUMBASS BOYS BE TALKING ABOUT. AREN'T. EVEN. SUNDRESSES. LIKE WHHHAT THE HELL 😭

I can't even play I'm so tired of these little ass boys out here being gross about a traditionally modest outfit like y'all really know how to turn something in on itself (for example: the recent controversy with dressing like a sexy nun CUZ ITS NOT OKAY)

AND SHHHAAAMMMMEEE on the annoying ass pick me girls feeding into this bullshit.

"Going out in public with a sundress to see how many men look at me"

"look at this new sundress I bought! 😜" (and proceeds to show a skims/body con dress with no bra on and body checking the entire vid)

"sundress no panties! Gotta let the girl breathe!"

like yes let her breathe but YOU KNOW the things these men and little ass immature teenage boys have been saying/seeing. PLEASE. YOU ARE SETTING US BACK. STOP FEEDING INTO THE SEXUALIZATION.

I just wish there was ONE THING men couldn't ruin for us women. ONE THING. Dresses are traditionally modest and more often then not represent something along the lines of purity (which I mean as literally just modesty) and if you wear these clothes without that intention, THATS FINE!!!! BUT MEN. BUT BOYS. PLEASE. LET US BE. LET US LIVE. GIVE ME THE CHANCE TO BREATHE WITHOUT HEARING DUMBASS SHIT FROM YOUR DIRTY MOUTHS.

had to throw this in there for funsies.

[idkwhatimdoinghere-69]

Shout out to the my baller waiter, Lucas at the Red Robin in west town in Delaware. The Red Robin there is worth going to solely for the absolute pleasure of having Lucas as your waiter. He’s funny, has strong opinions on cheese, knowledgeable on the definition of gourmet, considerate, respectful, Parmesan loving, likes MatPat, likes DanTDM, and the reincarnation of Jesus. Red Robin, give this man a raise, he deserves at least a 15% raise. 5/5 stars. Lucas is my new best friend, and deserves the utmost respect. The ideal waiter. Lucas is really cool, GIVE HIM A RAISE. I like Parmesan too bro.

[thefreelanceangel]

What do you try to avoid when creating an OC? Are these things you dislike in other people's OCs? Or purely your own personal preference?

Back in my GW2 days I wrote a lengthy rant about one of the most common things I saw happening with a rash of newly introduced RP characters. As I'm basically just a viewer of RP tumblrs now and don't really participate with a lot of the community--when you can't reliably RP in the game itself, it's a BIT hard to participate in the community LOL--I don't run into much that exasperates me.

I personally would like to see fewer former prostitute/courtesan-turned-information-broker-and-house-of-assignation-madam characters though. I'd love to see a former courtesan who owns a flower shop or learned leatherworking or who uses their former connections to do something like manipulate market prices so they can reliably get their favorite teas at a very low cost.

[opinionatedscreamsintothevoid]

If there is ever a point where you have to say: '-But they're not biologically related', or 'But they're technically not related', etc, that's an instant red flag. CEASE.

[jichan05]

Eka's Portal the special interest website that literally nobody uses.

[wanderingmind867]

I've got lots of random thoughts on things. I'm super opinionated, even though I probably shouldn't be. For example, I have some strong opinions on comics. Even though I've never read most comics, so my opinions stem from reading summaries and other such cursory research (I guess that's what we'd call it). I'd share these opinions, bit I do worry people will be mad at me (because I often don't have extensive knowledge of the things I talk about). Still, I might be persuaded to post some of them if I can get guarantees that at least not everyone will hate me for them. That would just be nice to know.

[opinionated-hive]

Have you heard about the hit webcomic Homestuck?

Yo yo yo!!!

What is good!! We are Out of Canon! This blog is shared by two very cool and swagger people. We have many opinions, and we know think we're hilarious, so we're here now.

This is our intro post, so get to know your epic mods of Out of Canon today, bc idk, or else ur a loser. (/j)

[Intros under The Cut]

Name:

>Decay

Prns:

>it/its/itself

>idle/idles/idleself

>he/him/himself

>he/hiss/hisself

>rot/rots/rotself (Bleed exclusively)

Age:

>A minor 🎶

>17

Likes:

>Music

>Drawing

>Lurking

>Screaming into the void

>Organization

>Debating (v different from arguing)

Dislikes:

>Arguing (usually)

>Bigots

>idk touching grass ig

Special interests:

>Dating sims/visual novels

>Homestuck

>Marvel

Hyperfixations (rn):

>Dirk Strider (I'm so normal abt him /lie)

>ATSV

Extra?:

>Asks r open 4 whatever

>I use a typing quirk sometimes, I'll usually translate it the bottom in [] brackets

>I will post/reblog stupid shit

>Also I will be posting more than the other one, I don't have posting anxiety, he does.

>What makes me qualified to be so opinionated abt Homestuck? Mostly the autism, but also I'm currently reading it for the 7-8th time.

BYI:

>I use tonetags and I heavily appreciate if they're used as well.

>I do infodump/rant a lot, so fair warning on that.

DNI:

>Basic shit

>If ya have a negative view on cringe /srs

>If ur gonna make fun of us/talk badly abt us, your life is sm better if you just ignore it frfr

>Fucking stridercest. Do not fucking come within 10ft of this blog. All incest/selfcest is NOT fucking welcome. Incest/selfcest will get you blocked, stridercest is the fastest way to get blocked.

Nice meeting you, Decay out ��. *. ⋆

Names:

>Bleed

>Kanny

Pronouns:

>he/him/himself

>blood/bloods/bloodself

>h3/h1m/h1m53lf

>5h3/h3r/h3r53lf

Age:

>Soon major 🔇

>17

Likes:

>Talking about absolute nonsense

>Listening to absolute nonsense

>Cleaning/Organizing

>The ocean !!

Dislikes:

>Close minded people

>Anyone who didn't like The Barbie Movie (2023)

>Debating without merit or facts

Special interests:

>Viddy games

>The Titanic

Current Hyperfixations:

>Homestuck (the hit webcomic)

Extra?:

>For a typing quirk, I typically use Kankri's (6 as b, and 9 as o).

>I'm still in the middle of reading Homestuck for the first time. While I don't mind spoilers of any sorts, I just wanted to share my knowledge is limited yet growing with time. :3

BYI:

>I'm fairly nervous about posting on social media sites, so please be considerate if waiting for a post/response from me

>I use tonetags most of the time

DNI:

>Basic dni criteria obv

>Pro-Shippers

>Cringe dislikers

Catch you on the flipside, Bleedin' out ˗ˋˏ ♡ ˎˊ˗

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[quinoa-adjacent]

I never understood how bad alienware PCs were until I actually got my hands on one and Christ is this a trail I've dragged myself through