#” “bank owned home

[marzipanandminutiae]

thoughts on "tradwives" as a 19th-century social historian

It's great until it's not.

It's great until he develops an addiction and starts spending all the money on it.

It's great until you realize he's abusive and hid it long enough to get you totally in his power (happened to my great-great-aunt Irene).

It's great until he gets injured and can't work anymore.

It's great until he dies and your options are "learn a marketable skill fast" or "marry the first eligible man you can find."

It's great until he wants child #7 and your body just can't take another pregnancy, but you can't leave or risk desertion because he's your meal ticket.

It's great until he tries to make you run a brothel as a get-rich-quick scheme and deserts you when you refuse, leaving your sisters to desperately fundraise so your house doesn't get foreclosed on (happened to my great-great-aunt Mamie).

It's great until you want to leave but you can't. It's great until you want to do something else with your life but you can't. It's great. Until. It's. Not.

I won't lie to you and say nobody was ever happy that way. Plenty of women have been, and part of feminism is acknowledging that women have the right to choose that sort of life if they want to.

But flinging yourself into it wholeheartedly with no sort of safety net whatsoever, especially in a period where it's EXTREMELY easy for him to leave you- as it should be; no-fault divorce saves lives -is naive at best and dangerous at worst.

Have your own means of support. Keep your own bank account; we fought hard enough to be allowed them. Gods willing, you never need that safety net, but too many women have suffered because they needed it and it wasn't there.

[sematarygirls]

"oh, golden boy, don’t act like you were kind. you were mine, but you were awful every time." THIS IS SO RAFE CODED IM BOUNCING OFF THE FREAKING WALLS

      merry christmas, please don't call / bleachers

[news4dzhozhar]

[hometoursandotherstuff]

Here's another custom home designed to be the owners dreamhouse. This 9bd, 4.5ba 2002 estate in Yantis, Texas is bank owned and for sale for just $549K. You would think that an estate for that price would've sold, but it's been on the market for over 210 days.

Hmmm. Huge dining room is actually a sun porch with a metal ceiling.

I thought that this was the living room, and maybe it is, until I saw the fridge standing there.

This is kitchen #1. Not terribly impressive.

The dinette area has a poker table. Did you notice that a bedroom was next to the family room and double doors open to a bedroom in here. Strange floorplan.

Okay, this is the living room. Very spacious. Looks there's a bedroom through those double doors, too.

And, this is kitchen #2. Looks like they painted over the dated oak cabinets with black.

There are 9 bedrooms. This is one of them, and I don't see a window.

Bedroom #2 has paned glass doors, but it doesn't look like they open to the outside.

This bedroom also has double doors. Maybe they go out to a courtyard or hall.

This bedroom has a small en-suite.

This large bedroom looks like a sun room.

I can't tell which bedroom is the primary.

2 room bath. The shower is in room of its own.

There are 2 tracts of land, and the buyer must purchase them both. This 6 boat bay is on tract #2- The area is noted for Bass fishing.

Courtyard in the middle of the house has a covered patio and a 2nd uncovered patio, but no pool.

There is a garage and a carport.

The front of the home has a porte cochere and some sort of feature for a plant, I guess.

The entire property measures 2.58 acres.

https://www.realtor.com/realestateandhomes-detail/214-County-Road-1900_Yantis_TX_75497_M99433-41038

[trainerethan]

I think red wouldn't be a picky eater at all. In fact he's the kind of person who will eat anything you give them. As an adult at least. While living alone on a mountain you don't have That much variation or ability to have particularly fancy meals. So he got used to eating whatever he could. He'd have things he likes more, but will eat most things without complaint.

I hc green as having arfid so he is the opposite. The autism arfid combo has him eating a very restricted diet which doesn't help the fact that he often gets too focused on his work and forgets to take breaks to eat n stuff. He doesn't realize how hungry he is until the end of the day.

When he lived alone and was under a lot of stress+The Guilt he was extra averse to trying new things. When you are fighting mental demons you do not want the additional stress of eating something outside of your safe foods and potentially ruining your appetite for the next however long.

After he and red live together, it's a lot easier to try new things. Since red isn't particularly strict/picky with his diet, if green tries something and ends up hating it he feels less bad about wasting food because his beloved wife red will eat it for him. He can also try new things by stealing a bite or two of something red is eating without the pressure of having to finish a whole plate of it.

Red doesn't mind. They are very supportive of each other. He also just likes anything green does ever so sharing and trying new foods with him is just another fun activity.

It is also cute to imagine despite red eating most things and it seeming like hes ambivalent about it all, green still notices which things red enjoys even if it's barely noticable to anyone else. He will buy snacks and stuff that red likes to give him next time he sees them. Id say red would buy green things he likes too but red is jobless in all my posts.

[coyoxxtl]

when people say falin had “pretty girl privilege” with how people treated her autism are insane like, she wasnt at that magic school by choice, she was sent there by her father because everyone in their community shunned her. and when she was there everyone but marcille thought she was a weirdo and didn’t fuck with her so, literally what are y’all talking about

[cuteniarose]

The consequences of my poor financial decisions are here!!

[helianskies]

fuck it arthur lives on a canal boat now

[hairtusk]

while the dinner with family yesterday was awful, I heard a story from my grandma that was genuinely chilling, and made me think of this sudden resurgence of 'stay at home girlfriend' or trad content that is being pushed online. basically, my grandma's male friend recently had a massive stroke, and is in a hospice essentially just waiting to pass away. this has really put his partner into dire straits - he never got married to his girlfriend of 30ish years, and now, she's living in (his) house that she has no legal right to occupy. she's been a stay-at-home partner, so she has no pension, no savings, no money whatsoever to move out. and the man's family (who *do* have a legal right to his house) are hovering like vultures ready to take possession. this woman is in her 70s, and has absolutely nothing in the world now that he's on his deathbed. i cannot imagine a scarier situation to find oneself in.

[traumagenica]

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[queenerdloser]

so i grew up in apartments. always apartments - if we were lucky, my parents got a duplex, but those trickled away as i got older. and not like nice condo apartments, but the mid-tier paying too much for slightly shabby accommodations apartments. the apartments where you couldnt do anything to them if you wanted your deposit back and if you are a day late with rent you under the threat of eviction.

i was recently talking to a coworker about home ownership - one of our other coworkers (younger than me) bought her first house with her spouse and we were chatting about it. and this coworker is older, in her 60s, and was fretting about how this young couple might regret buying a house and how much WORK it is and how they couldn't possibly anticipate how difficult home ownership is and on and on.

and i tried to explain to her that like - for my generation, home ownership is this unattainable dream for a lot of us. and after living my entire life in transience - always moving, always aware that my living situation wasn't permanent, always worried about doing something against my lease that would get me evicted, constantly hemmed in by what my landlord said i could or couldn't do with my own private living space - that yes, i would take the extra work of home ownership if it meant stable permanence. i can't begin to describe how dreamlike that feels to me - a place that belongs to me, that i can do whatever i want with, that i can stay in for years and years. yes, the upkeep can be a lot with houses. yes, the responsibility for everything will fall on me. my coworker brought this up repeatedly after i affirmed i didn't care, as if i just wasn't hearing her. but the fact is, i would take a lot more hardships if it meant i could live permanently and i just. genuinely don't care about the additional work in light of that. and i think anyone who grew up in a house or largely lived in permanent residences is going to have trouble seeing eye-to-eye with me on that, bc this is 100 percent coming from a place of always always always living in apartments.

[lavendertarot]

im so tired of needing to connect to the internet for things. internet should go in the internet box (desktop) and nothing else. why does my video game machine need to be able to access wikipedia

[clownaura]

i love when higher ups check the cameras and send screenshots to micromanage me <3 i love it and i love knowing that i am being watched at any given time <3333

[astral-catastrophe]

me and the generic extra strong Tylenol and the pure rage in my system

[narugen]

okay if hoshina gets promoted to captain status in another division i will literally be so sad but it would be extremely fitting if he ends up nurturing a whole batch of recruits/an entire division through his kindness.. passing on the warmth that his captain showed him when they first met.. ough

[talentforlying]

i have like four separately-dated posts in my drafts that are all completely unrelated to constantine, they're just me being excited about the concept of 'the end' in the magnus archives being self-terminating and self-defeating to the point where it might, by its very nature, have contributed to the creation and inevitable triumph of the extinction. what was happening in my life to get me so hype about this.