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^what he said

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lol i went to delete a twitter account for reasons (i ran a satire account of my university’s president) and it wouldn’t let me.

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roberto cavalli fall/winter 2022

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I dont go to sk8 but I really do like the dichotomy of characters in it. like you've got ones that look like yk regular guys and gals you'd see loitering around a skatepark and being a welcome nuisance next to like your nearest ice cream parlour. and then you have a clown. like an actual clown. a grown ass man-clown. and it's just like. hell yeah I guess?

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the united states of...erm...okay, im not even gonna TRY to pronounce that one

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uhhhh fuck it *gummies your escapers*

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i love you polyamorous relationships, open relationships, friends with benefits/friends that have sex with each other, queerplatonic relationships, friendships that have some weird queer element to it, relationship anarchy, staying single and i love anything that doesn't match what society considers "normal"

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i think the power of milgram as a series is that it's a choose your own path, but not like a game where you have multiple set out endings. there is one ending and we chose it, and everything else will never see the light of day. every other possibility can only be speculated.

at first i thought it'd be cool if milgram was a video game where we can each choose our own verdicts, bc ik a lot of us don't agree with the majority / weren't around to vote at parts. but that aspect would take away from what makes milgram so impactful. the deaths have impacted me so much because not only was it our choice, but we also had no power in deciding them.

a lot of people, me included, can sit and say "well if it was up to me, i would've done this differently or voted this person guilty", and thats true (most of the time). individually, we'd each get totally different endings. but as a collective, only a small fraction of us are actually getting the exact verdicts we voted for.

and this ending that we've gotten isn't something the creators wanted or even expected. yes, they wrote the story, but we made the decisions that led to it. and we can't just reload the game and change our choices after finding out what happened. no one wants this, but we chose it. just like real life. it is such a good take on real life.

i can only aspire to make a series as gut wrenching and impactful as milgram has been for me.

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matching !

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Mr j my cat has a crush on you and he is a boy

That's how things are these days

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last time my mom visited I was talking to her about parenting and how I appreciated a lot of the choices she and my father had made about raising me and my brother and she agreed that just listening to the child and taking them seriously was the One Weird Trick to cutting out like 60% of conflicts between parents and children. and she said one time I was about three or four years old and we were all going to the grocery store, and at the threshold of the store I just had a meltdown. i was overwhelmed, I was crying, I was just at the end of my rope like kids get sometimes. and instead of dragging me through the store my mom and dad stopped what we were doing and just asked me what the problem was. and I was able to say I didn't want to be there, I couldn't do it, I wanted to go home. and she says she and my father just looked at each other and back at me and said "okay" and we all went home that day instead of forcing the grocery store trip. and I had so few public meltdowns as a kid despite being pretty autistic because, I think, I knew that if I ever really needed to leave, my parents would understand and back me up. and that was the case throughout my childhood. which paradoxically (one might think) resulted in me having fewer incidents of being overwhelmed in the first place, which then made me better able to handle increasing amounts of stress and so on. it also taught me that expressing feelings and communicating them to my caretakers wasn't going to be punished or ignored or called weird, so unlike many other autistic kids who get judged or rebuked for expressing sensitivity or opposition, I didn't need to constantly blockade everyone and internalize everything all the time.

it's a pretty simple concept whether your kids are autistic or not, but most parents don't seem to get it. their parents taught them to just force everything and let the child deal with it alone so they just repeat the cycle even though they know how it feels.

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letchworth state park ⋇ 23 oct

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