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[3dfeels]

judas' kiss

[stars-bean]

Home Alone (1990) dir. Chris Columbus

[r-truth]

[grossrottie]

One of the funnest part of being a writer with ADHD is that a few months after I write and post something, I’ll totally forget about it.

So then I can read the fics as if I just stumbled across them by happenstance!!!! And they’re catered to my tastes because I wrote them :P

[jopzer]

feeling very in the muddy middle of this jamie fic im writing >:/ was full steam ahead writing about his childhood and the start up to the series but now that ted is here i am feeling a Touch lost in da swamp

[yellowloid]

In my opinion, Louise is a very down to earth girl, she's not flashy like Taylor was, but she's not a very party person. Surely is a very mysterious girl, it is not perfectly clear what her job is even if many have opted for her as an influencer, she tends to copy what many influencers do and many times she has copied Alexa and recently also Taylor. She has little personality and is inspired by others but there is nothing of her own that can be said to be interesting. I hope her lack of personality hasn't affected Alex because honestly he's changed a lot since he's been with her

tbh i don't really want to compare them as people (taylor and louise) because i don't want to pit them against each other looking for the "better" one. they're obviously very different people and their dynamics with alex are obviously very different.

i agree on the fact that she doesn't really look like that much of a party person, but i don't find her to be very mysterious either - and that's because she tries too hard to be. the fact that she takes inspiration from alex's exes (especially alexa) isn't exactly ideal, no - but let's not assume she "lacks personality", we literally don't know her!! we don't know how she behaves irl!! i think the problem with her is, again, the fact that she probably thinks/thought that in order to fit into alex's "type" she has to copy his exes (or at least take great inspiration from them) and hide her true personality by doing so. which is just… kinda sad. like girl. for a man???? hell nah. you can do so much better than that.

especially considering it doesn't seem to work that much. he's always away, he barely appears on her socials, they don't even officially live together, sometimes it feels like the furthest she is, the happier he looks. sometimes it also feels like he purposely ignores her (remember back in june when she had her first gig in literal YEARS and he couldn't even be there like. alex. come on)

so yeah he doesn't exactly win the Best Boyfriend award. back to louise, though, i really hope the whole "mysterious 60s/70s french girl" aesthetic is just an ig façade. i hope she's a bit more natural in private and that she's able to actually be herself with the man who's supposed to be her boyfriend, you know? for her own sake. and the other way around too - i hope alex is able to be genuine with her. we don't know how they interact in private, so we can't really tell.

also i don't think he changed because of her. he already had his issues to work through pre-louise. what happened in 2018 with her/taylor/miles probably made everything worse but she's not the devil lmao she's not the cause of all his problems just like she's not some salvific angel making everything better as amanda has been promoting her on her ig during the last few months shfgsksdk

she's just his girlfriend. let her be that if that's what they both want

[captain-lonagan]

something something.

the difference in how team vibe/leadership appears from the outside is still crazy to me. like i didnt watch a lot of soulfire pov and so hearing the tales of how things were internally is such a wild contrast to how they looked. I SAY THIS WITH LOVE IN MY HEART. PEACE AND KINDNESS AND BEAUTY ON PLANET EARTH.

like my mind particularly hones in on tubbo saying bbh was out of control and such in his discussions with (if im remembering correctly) phil and foolish. i cannot be damned to bring up every instance of things but the general vibe of blue from POV outsider was like, tubbo is leader in name only and bbh is making aggressive plays without talking it over with his team first.

but the soulfire livebloggers tell me that soulfire is operating with 3 person leadership split between tubbo, bbh, and tina. the word on the street is the majority of blue is chill and working together. which i would Not know if not for those blessed bloggers because my watching habits meant i saw tina and soulfire's base once in a blue moon (hehe blue team blue moon). so the face of soulfire i saw was Mostly bbh, pierre, and tubbo, which did not aid in the impression of the organization i got during the early days.

on a different but related note, i'm fuckin dying to better know how Decisions happened with that 3 leader gig. like i'm used to the drill usually being phil gets on early, sees the stats and calls out what tasks are priority that day, and then the team balls and focuses on that task because it is Decided.

[ftmcutiepie]

Okay anon I am not publishing your ask because I'm not here to get into discourse, and you're completely missing the point I was trying to make.

I never said "all people who get mad about x porn secretly like it", although I am not denying that our society is still so sex- and kink-negative that many people feel shame about their kinks and desires, which can lead them to lash out against others.

The point I was making - or trying to make - is that if someone deliberately seeks out porn that upsets them, or at least comes back to the same porn account posting that content for MONTHS to send the same ask, baiting for a reaction, that seems to me - a random person on the internet without a degree in psychology or anything like that - like EITHER self-harm (deliberately looking at things that upset them) OR like the content has a certain appeal to them that keeps them coming back (and then lashing out at the people who post that content because of their own internalized shame about the kink).

I can't stop oppressed people from getting mad about kinks based on their oppression, but you can't stop other oppressed people from having those kinks, either.

Consenting adults engaging in a kink that upsets you only affects you in the way you let it. Nobody is forcing you to look at my blog. Yet here you are.

[itissadbutitsmy-artblog]

no one cares about them as much as me but by golly do i care them. puts them in Situations

[holydramon]

Oamahababahajbavavagavavavavvav-

HAPPY BORTH!

Thank!!!

[stars-bean]

National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation (1989) dir. Jeremiah S. Chechik

[chosokamosbf]

actually—i'll check back on this later—but since i have too many ideas, i'll let it be a choice which one gets worked on (and likely posted) next.

[bevertown]

personally i think there should be an option to display tags either before or after a post when you reblog/make a post

[everchanging-cryptid]

Crowley kin (no clue what “kin” actually means in this sense, don’t crucify me please) but also currently not sleeping and instead having an existential crisis about dying and ending up in Hell because I disappointed God

anyway what are all of you doing on this lovely night

[elumish]

In the wake of what's going on in the world, I see a lot of rhetoric that basically boils down to the idea that everyone has a responsibility to watch every bad thing that's going on in the world all the time. That awareness itself is a responsibility that everyone has always.

I'm not going to say that people do or don't have a responsibility to be aware of things, but I want to talk about how to take care of yourself and others while doing so.

For some context, I spent close to a year and a half reading about every terrorist attack in the world as part of my work on the Global Terrorism Database. It was 2015/2016, so this was the height of ISIS/Daesh, it was a major time for Boko Haram, and it was when there was a lot of political violence that we weren't sure how to classify in places like Yemen, Crimea, and Libya (stuff the GTD didn't know how to classify had all of is information recorded, and then it went into purgatory until someone above my paygrade decided what to do with it). What this means is that I was spending 10-20 hours a week reading about hundreds or thousands of attacks a month and, in my case, recording infomation about the type of attack and the type of weapon. Much of my life was reading terrible things.

Limit what you do in isolation. One of the worst changes for me during that time, mental health-wise (even though it was great for my commute) was when I went from working in-person to working remotely. With other people, there are ways to diffuse the pain. A burden shared is a burden halved and all that. That may mean talking about it, or joking about it, or finding some other way to engage with it that isn't just reading about the most horrible things in the world and then stewing in your own thoughts about them.

Find something to do that's totally unrelated. I highly recommend finding something to do with your hands, if you can (knitting, Lego, cooking, whatever), but regardless of what it is, you should have some time when you entirely switch away to something different. During a fair amount of my time with the GTD, I was also doing my undergrad thesis about terrorism on TV, so a huge amount of my life was about terrorism in some way. The only other thing I watched was Great British Bake Off, and I would just rewatch the episodes, over and over.

Be compassionate about how you share information and with whom. Use trigger warnings, and consider using consistent tagging on places like Tumblr so people can blacklist it if they need to. Also consider whether it's appropriate or necessary to share photos of bodies or other results of horrible violence. What is it accomplishing, to show that? Can that goal be accomplished other ways that don't require the equivalent of jumpscares of unexpected photos of dead or brutalized people? Are you just showing it because you think that everyone should have to see it? If you are showing it, are there ways to mitigate against harm it may do?

Do what you can to avoid an echo chamber. Sometimes, when everyone around you is upset or angry about the same thing, it just amplifies itself, and you all get angrier and more upset in perpetuity without accomplishing anything.

Work towards action. Watching terrible things happen for the sake of saying that you haven't looked away isn't as meaningful as taking action in some way. Write to your Congressperson. Donate. Do whatever is appropriate for the thing you want to stop. But penance via watching terrible things happen doesn't accomplish anything.

Recognize compassion fatigue and do what you can to mitigate it. If you spend long enough doing this, you start to lose context, and you start to become less able to have compassion about things. If you're reading about attacks with dozens or hundreds of deaths regularly, five can start to not seem like that many. If you're reading only about the worst suffering in the world, "lesser" suffering of those around you can start to seem unimportant and petty. Do what you can to mitigate that.

Be kind to yourself. You do nobody any good if you burn out. Look away, if you need to. Take a break. Do things so you can enjoy life, because otherwise you are just another person suffering in the world. Other people's pain isn't a hair shirt for you to wear.

[anomalymon]

This actually works as a metaphor to show why it doesn't work for our system. Ironically since our headmate ages skew younger haha

The "teacher punishes the whole class because of one kid" as collective punishment doesn't always work and is only really effective if you don't know who did it. It's a tactic that encourages social strain and where the one who caused the problem doesn't always learn, and the rest of the students get punished for something they didn't do and had know control over. If a kid makes a mess, then there's still a level of accountability they have depending on how old they are. If they're old enough, they're able learn to clean up and apologize for themselves.

Sometimes no one learns. If the only "consequences" is someone else needing to take care of it, then it's like a kid who never learns accountability and grows into someone who expects others to clean up after them - we've met singlet adults like that (and a lot of them working retail). For us, we kept spiraling and getting worse because no one was learning. That was until we finally forced it so that the headmate who did it has to apologize and fix it, and especially with making separate accounts to see how our words reflect as separate people.

When individual headmates started to experience accountability, like the one who snapped at others is the one who needs to apologize instead of forcing the most mature one to do it, then that was actual accountability for us and when they started to improve. Especially with how most of us didn't get the social skills we needed as a teen and needed to relearn it in our 20s.

This works because most of us can understand accountability, we've gotten good to speaking to our kids/teens about it, and we have a good amount of control over our front. Unless something is an actual emergency we need a different headmate for, or the headmate who did it can't understand it yet, this is usually how we do it. So we understand this doesn't work for every system, but the point is that "system accountability" gets treated like a hard rule every system must follow when it shouldn't be.

(I know there's also "no one irl knows you're a system" but when it comes to us being openly a system online, y'all know what's going on. Though even offline we'll still follow these rules.)

I'm sorry if this is a noob question and I should have figured it out already buuut: How does one square away System Accountability and System Responsibility with the reality that we're all separate unique individuals with our own lives? My entire System feels entirely uncomfortable with the concept and think it deemphasizes our individualism. Thank youuu love the blog ❤️

Well, you know how when you're in school, and a few kids in the class are causing havoc but the teacher doesn't know who all is involved so she decides to punish the entire class?

It's like that.

I think you can still be individuals and see yourself as such... but also acknowledge that you're a unit sharing one body and one life. And whatever any member of that unit does will affect the rest of you. It's in the best interest of each member to care about the wellbeing of the unit as a whole and the other members. System accountability and responsibility isn't about being one person necessarily. Just being one team.

Hope that helps! Have a lovely day! 💖