#< not really but thats for if people have those tags blocked

[h3llh0undz]

i am under the very firm belief that destiel was NEVER supposed to happen. everything that ever pandered to destiel was just because of the fans. it was to make the shippers happy, not because of what the characters were supposed to be. (and NO, cas telling dean he loves him doesnt make it canon. one sided i can agree, but its not canon. “dean wanted to say it back!” NO HE DIDNT?) but samdean was always ALWAYS supposed to be endgame. platonically or otherwise, this is THEIR show. (i dont really like people calling cas the third main character too. he wasnt created with the intention of being important. BUT i do like him as a character. i AM glad he stuck around, but people really over-inflate it all. thats all a conversation for a different day though). since the very beginning, sam and dean have been insane for each other. and that never changed. theyre SOULMATES for fucks sake. there is infinitely more evidence for wincest than any other ship in the show could ever conceive. people calling sam a third wheel to destiel is so fucking delusional imo. salmondean is always the duo and everyone else is secondary to them. they always leave anyone they do get involved with for each other. ship destiel if you want, its cute, but understand it is NOT real. your perceptions of characters do not affect the show.

[contagious-watermelon]

if i hear one more person unironically identifying themself as afab or amab I'm gonna start biting

[milkweedman]

The colors of the copper on blackberry dye seem to have shifted from maroon to a very rich milk chocolate brown--which I will hardly complain about, since that's a hard brown to get. I do hope I get something more permanently reddish/purplish with alum--that's what I'll try next. I'm just waiting for the 9 pounds of raw fleece to arrive.

Last night I carded a lot of that blackberry dyed fleece and then put it on the blending board with about half of the white (which was the previous distaff dressing) as a little stripe to one side. Idk, just curious how it'll turn out and seemed more interesting to spin that way. Carding first definitely helps with consistency--both colors were willowed first and put on the blending board, but only the brown was carded as well, and it is much easier to keep smooth and least kind of even.

The one improvement of this phone camera over my old one is that it has a timer setting, so I can actually show where my hands normally are (sometimes anyway). Fairly comfortable although my distaff hand is starting to cramp. Might just be one of those days or might be too heavy for me, but the shape at least is good.

You can probably see that the white is still all over the place, but the brown is pretty even, just with lumps still on occasion. Also, the new height of this spindle means it's perfect for lap spinning rather than impossible to lap spin with, so I'm very happy about that.

[existentialcrisisetcetera]

anyone else kinda worried about how a bunch of posts are suddenly talking about how the idea that you don't need to transition medically is damaging to people who do want to transition?

like two ideas can be true at once. denying gender-affirming care to trans people is bad, but you dont have to medically transition to be trans. we dont have to knock down one part of the trans community to uplift another

[my-thoughts-and-junk]

what some of the undertale fandom did with grillby fucking fascinates me like my god

[bloodanddiscoballs]

Kim is a,fascist

are you stupid

[bugsmoocher]

mmaster hcief

[atticcreationz]

We've reached the point in the season where I don't want to watch the Adventuring Party episodes until AFTER the ending, but good lord the physical restraint I will have to exhibit if any of the last few APs have even a whiff zoom energy...

[youmakethelight]

OBSESSED with this scene between them. 🥺🫶

Also, she is Sooo beautiful.

And side noteee - ezekiel out here calling his full ex-wife and mother of his adopted child and woman who he "will never stop loving" his friend. Bc you don't have to be one or the other - someone tell the spinoff showrunner.

I have to admit, though. It feels special. After all we’ve been through, as close as I came. I got a fresh start. And it was important to me that my friend know just how much I appreciate her. It must feel really really good.

[starless-nightz]

Genuienly what the actual fuck is wrong with JJK fans, if you dont know a few days ago i posted this post and I have apparently copied someone elses smau and have been send threats over it (only in my inbox, luckly not the comments):

So i'm gonna tell you this:

1. I got this as a REQUEST, it was not my idea to being with and heres where I answered the ask, there are many smau creators on this app, i am not going to check every single one to make sure they haven’t done that prompt

2. I have @/nanaslutt blocked just because th3y ar3 an adult that has MDNI on their blog and i am in fact a MINOR, I am the type of person who would accidently like a post while scrolling thro the tags, so like i do with most mdni blogs i see i blocked them and I just never think about those blogs again

3. Unless i used the exact same phrasing in my messages and characters as nana (which i wouldnt be able to know since i would rather not go and see the post because they have MDNI and i want to respect their bouderies), then i really wouldn’t call it “stealing” like so many people say in my inbox have

This is nothing against nana. So yeah thats it, thank you for listening to my rant

[our-queer-experience]

I apologize for bringing drama to your blog, but I don't want this kind of attention on mine.

As a trans man who dipped his toes in radblr back in like 2017, the thing I need a lot of trans people to understand is...a good chunk of these terfs are likely trans. I know no one wants to hear that, but no one else talks about this and I need it to be heard.

The amount of terfs I have blocked on this website is staggering, and even more so is the number of blogs that say "dysphoric female" "diagnosed with gender dysphoria | radfem" "detransition female" in their headers.

People don't seem to talk about, at least in the circles I'm in, how many trans men fall into radfem spaces and get taken in by radfems. We know that radfems seek them out to tell them they're not really trans, they just hate their bodies because of how the world treats them, but I'm going to need some people to look at the big picture here. That's dangerous, obviously, it doesn't help these young men or trans people as a whole, obviously. But with people jumping so fast to scream "fuck terfs! Death to all terfs!" That isn't helping either! I understand the desire to say that, and I'm not saying that engaging with terfs is something everyone should do, but Jesus christ someone has to. And I've always liked arguing so its probably going to be me.

What terfs tell you, as a closeted or egg transman, reaffirms all your fears. They tell you you don't have to change, that you shouldn't, that the world is scary and hates you for being a woman and thats why you feel this way, not because you're not a woman at all, but because you are one. I mean, how many times have you heard "dysphoria in women is a natural response to living in a patriarchal society."

Terfs take all those fears you have of not fitting in, of being different, and tell you you can just be a weird, different, masculine, butch woman and everything will be okay. They implant this visceral fear of men and of being associated with men. "Men can't control themselves. We can't wait on men to change because they never will. Men aren't capable of the same depths and emotions as women."

They take every negative about cis men, who are also forced into boxes by the patriarchy, and dial it up to 11. They ingrain the fear of even the idea of men so much that any ideas you have about being a man get squashed down immediately, and with force.

When you're a teen or young adult and you're squishy and vulnerable, terfs say "you are vulnerable, you are in danger, let me help you." And thats what draws people into them.

A lot of people seem to think terfs stick their heads in the sand about social issues. And I'm going to say this as someone who was raised in a high demand cult religion and I need yall to hear me: They. Always. Have. An answer. Always. That's why its hard to leave.

Terfs, like Mormons, will always have a convenient answer for why things are the way they are, and they're hard to disprove and argue against because of that, because they will talk circles around you by refusing to see the actual point you're making and will create strawmans to argue instead. I need people to stop fighting terfs on their territory, on their terms. They will talk circles around you and use it to reinforce their own beliefs. You don't attack like that, you come with facts, and just facts.

When I was 15 I was shoved back into the trans closet by my conservative Mormon parents. I was young and scared and vulnerable and I started dipping my toes in radfem spaces because they were the only ones affirming my fears about the world. Yes, the world is scary! It is scary to be a woman in the world, but the thing that pulled me out of that space was intersectionality.

Radfems like to say they care about all women, but the second women disagree with them they don't. Now I never did more than reblog some text posts with "radfem safe" tagged underneath, but I need people to understand that the thing that pulled me away from that was not people telling off terfs for being stupid or obtuse, it was the posts talking about the statistics and history about true intersectional feminism. Histories of how black American women were not deemed "woman enough" by early feminists and not given the right to vote. Statistics about how trans women are in much more danger in their day to day lives than cis women are. Learning the history of this country, about sterilization of native women, the way women at the border are locked in cages left to die of miscarriages, how trans sex workers are beaten, abused, and killed on the streets, and it was real people in real life, people who knew me and loved me and could look me in the eye and tell me I was wrong and gently lay out the truth for me. THAT is what pulled me out more than anything else. THAT is what put doubt in my mind that radical feminism was wrong.

And now I was out of radical feminism, but I was still deeply closeted and afraid of being trans. You want to know what changed that? What made me accept my gender? Trans women. Just transwomen existing. Because for the first time I saw something I never saw in radfem spaces, someone who loved being a woman. Someone who did not see it as a curse, but as something they celebrated, something they loved, something they could squeal and laugh and dance about. I saw gender euphoria with my own two eyes for the first time in my life, and that is what told me it was okay. It was okay for me to be trans, it was okay for me to be a man, it was okay for me to not be a woman. Woman was no longer a role forced upon me that was my duty to uphold. I could let it go, because there would always be someone on the other side ready to pick it up. And I loved myself enough to let it go.

So I guess the rambling message of this ask is to say, trans women, your existence is enough. Hold onto womanhood because I couldn't, so cherish that thing that they try and take from you.

And to people trying to argue with terfs online, it's never going to work. They'll likely never listen, you can't get them to understand by screaming at them. I do think the majority of terfs are cis women, but a LOT more than you think would come out as trans if they weren't caught in that doom spiral of radical feminism. So if you actually want there to be less terfs (I am shocked and appalled at the number of terfs my age and younger) maybe start there. Keep being proudly trans, keep talking about history, and the facts, and our history. And let people be confused, let them be angry, let them be torn up inside about being trans. But don't stop welcoming them in when they're ready.

no yeah you’re so right. there are so many posts i’ve seen when i go on a blocking spree of women(which i’ll call them out of respect) who talk openly about feeling like men and being miserable because they can’t transition, and then terfs on the more rf side will affirm this choice and moralize it, telling them they’re miserable but thats ok because they’re making the right choice. the same with the way detrans people are horribly mistreated by gc crowds but are told they have nowhere else to go.

[lemedstudent2021]

yahya sinwar

went through the tag and im disgusted by the sheer number of zionist scumbags on there. never blocked mfs so fast in my life

to the idiots out there who think theyve 'won' you couldnt be any further from the truth. interestingly enough the same news circulated in september. God alone knows whos dead and alive in palestine.

to the dumbfuck who celebrated sinwars to be confirmed martyrdom saying 'bring back the hostages and end the war', the only way to break this to you is by smashing your skull with a rock because holy fuck how stupid do you have to be to think he was in the way of the negotiations? really? killing one single man is going to end the war?

this didnt start with hamas and for all i know it might not even end by their hands (though i pray for all of them the honour of doing so). the reason being that this all started way before hamas came into existence, and the resistance will continue to grow and fight for freedom regardless of who leads. regardless of the name they bear. because they represent their people. and the people will be freed.

israels war on gaza (and by extension the sanctity of life of humanity as a whole) wont end because the they simply dont care. it is not in israels best interests to stop fighting. they couldnt care less about the hostages, they couldnt care less about the millions of lives across the region (its own citizens included) its stolen and ruined.. and the white house is more than happy to oblige.

knowing them, theyll boast about it for years to come. how they defeated the 'mastermind' behind october 7th. theyll turn it into a national holiday. they will milk it far more than its worth because they have been fighting a losing battle for a over 76 years now. and they know it. theyre all literally hanging on by a thread.

theyve illusioned themselves and the world into thinking that this will all be over as soon as they kill those they fear above all. what they fail to realise is that they were vessels for the power that is and has always been with the people. if anything morale is higher

they were public figures and politicians and fighters on the front lines and beloved members of their communities, but you have to be beyond every conceiveable definition of stupid to think that killing a leader would lead to the dissolution of the movement.

sinwar, may God have mercy on his soul and that of every martyr everywhere on this earth, was always going to die. israel didnt accomplish anything but accelerate its downfall.

(headline in arabic quotes the israeli army announcing the assassination)

theres a slight difference in the headlines across platforms and outlets and nothing has been 100% confirmed as of writing

but you get the idea. im just surprised people are so brain dead as to think that this is the end? but thats on me for assuming they had brains to begin with

from the river to the sea palestine will be free 🍉

[socialc1imb]

Do yall know what my controversial nitpick of the Jash Fandom is? All of the people who go “stop infantalizing heart thats a grown man who shot someone!” Etc etc

Why does this drive me insane? Because, one, people will always see a character differently than you no matter who the character is. There’s literally no such thing as a character with one, and I truly mean only one interpretation. Two, why can’t they? Why can’t someone have fun and do what they want? It’s not harming anyone, nor are they telling you to change your thoughts to match theirs. If it bothers you that much? Block them. Who gives a damn. Three, the album is literally left to interpretation. The Big Man who wrote it has said it himself. Aspects are left to interpretation for a reason. Four, the album deals with (what can be) super delicate topics, ie mental illness, depression, suicidal thoughts and ideations. Hell, it even deals with the vague ideas of murder, depending on how you look at it!

Depending on how you look at it.

Have you considered that like. Most, if not all listeners of Jash’s music take those characters and they project onto those characters (pointing back at the “left to interpretation” point). Maybe they want the Emotional and Depressed CCCC Character™️ that they relate to to feel joy and not be constrained to only sadness and responsibility? Maybe they deal with such things as age regression or similar coping mechanisms that they project onto a character they love? Maybe—just maybe—that’s just their interpretation.

There’s literally no difference between having hcs or interpretations that differ from (the already loose) canon. If that were the case, way more people would be getting onto artists for making Soul Feel Joy. Or like having emotions at all. Hell, giving Soul a personality at all makes no sense considering that, in canon, we know so little about him, truly (if you argue “no we know this and this!” I can assure you most arguments would once again be from interpretation or widely accepted hcs).

Lmao anyways this got long and passionate but personally, the longer I’ve spent on the internet and in fandoms, I find it tiring that every other post in the tag is “remember not to infantilize heart!” because at the end of the day. It really does not matter. Block and move on, no one’s going to stop just because you said so.

[cherrielatte]

genuine question do you even understand what a proshipper is ? like youre okay with people romanticizing pedophilia and shipping minors and adults ? you think thats okay?? GENUINE question.

Hello! Judging from the way you worded this - I'm gonna be honest: I don't think you know what proshipping is. I was very close to not answering this because it was sounding a bit in bad faith ( and this isn't the first time I've gotten belligerent asks on the same topic) But well, I decided to give it a shot and give benefit of the doubt.

 I know it's common ground to jump onto proshipping with the idea that it means you romanticize pedophilia, abuse, toxicity, etc. It's the typical high ground taken when people hear that dark fiction enjoyers exist. But that's not actually what it means. It just means that YOU, as an individual, understand that a drawing is not the same thing as human being. Written characters are not the same as human beings. Harassing REAL people over a non existent character because they put them into situations that make you uncomfortable says more about the harasser than the writer/artist. Proshipping is about taking personal responsibility for your experience online. Not long ago, the idea of a proshipper was just considered having fandom etiquette (ie: Don't like; Don't read type of tag lines. ) I'm a proshipper and there are plenty of things I don't like & make me uncomfortable. But I also understand that I can easily not engage. I can filter tags so I don't see it. I can block people that make that kind of content. I can refuse to click on something clearly labeled as the content I don't like. I can control what I see. And I can also understand that that if someone draws something I don't like it doesn't mean anything about them in real life nor what they enjoy in real life. Besides, a lot of people that consider themselves proshippers are victims of abuse or have had to endure traumatic events in their lives. Engaging in what you might consider dark fiction allows people to cope and navigate through complex emotion/trauma and express themselves in ways they are not allowed to or haven't allowed themselves to. I've seen some people say "I've been through trauma and I don't engage in proshipping." And okay, I'm happy for you. But not everyone copes the same way you do. And no one should be held to the same standard. If we were all carbon copies of each other, maybe I would understand that argument. But that's not the case. I should also mention, that it's become a bit standard for people to only excuse those that have been through trauma to make dark fiction. But only if they publicly acknowledge what kind of trauma they have endured. I am 100% against this way of thinking. I do not think it is anyone's right to demand an account of my or anyone's personal traumas just to validate the existence of certain piece of art. No one is entitled to anyone's abuse story. If a person is willing to share, because they want to, that's the personal decision of the individual. But look, much of the horror genre (movies, books, tv, etc) wouldn't exist if we put these high censorship rules onto art as a whole and unfortunately, I see this happening more and more these days like discussed in this post about someone's experience in publishing gothic horror.

Going back to an earlier point, you have to really understand that the characters are fake. 100% fake. If I ship Sora ( KH) and Ash (Pokemon) neither of them are going to be upset about it because they don't exist. If I draw them kissing, it is a drawing of anime looking characters kissing. That's all. They don't look anything like real human people. Wasting energy fighting over fictional characters is just that. Wasting time and energy. Who are you saving? Ash? Sora? They don't need help, because they aren't real. Fight for real people that actually exist. I have seen people outside of the Soriku fandom genuinely upset about people shipping Riku x Sora because they are underage! Mostly because they are both male but without fail, they always slap on the argument: "they are kids, you sicko!" But you know why they go to that? Because assuming the moral high ground wins over arguments quickly. People are eager to be superficially perceived as morally good. I have seen people ship Riku x Ansem SOD, which could fall into that age gap - problematic shipping you referred to in your ask. But you know what? I get it. I see people interpret their relationship as one of abuse, metaphorical SA, manipulation, etc. I completely understand and see that interpretation and where it stems from. And unfortunately, there are many people in fandom that have had this exact experience. Honestly, without me needing to ask anyone specifically, I KNOW there are people in fandom projecting their experiences onto Riku and Ansem as a means to replay it with a bit of actual control. And even if there are people who don't. I'm not going to ask, because it's none of my business. So again, as a proshipper I am completely in control of my online experience. I can block, mute, filter, and not engage with the things I don't like or things that trigger me. But as long as it is fiction, it remains as just that : Something I don't like between characters that dont exist. I don't have to harass, bully, nor threaten people over fiction. Of course, there are bad apples in every circle. But to me, whether someone is a bad person or not is expressed through action toward real people and the intentional harm done onto them, whether it be through inappropriate interactions, abuse of any kind, exposing personal information, harassing family/at work, or encouraging harm. Those are real actions on real people and engaging in these actions is what counts to me as markers of a bad person. Not someone drawing two fictional characters that haven't aged in the last 20 years kissing or having sex. 

[orionsangel86]

Content Filters - Your New Best Friend!

I dont think we take advantage of content filters enough. So I'm putting together a little tutorial in case anyone isn't aware of them.

Now we may all be aware of tag filters, both via tumblr saviour and also tumblrs in built tag filtration system.

But that still runs into issues as some people just dont tag their posts, and therefore some posts will still find their way to the dashboards of people that dont want to see certain content that they have blocked.

If you are in a small fandom, sometimes popular content that you arent interested in can become quite prevailent and unavoidable even if you have tags blocked. But there IS a way to avoid that content regardless of whether people are tagging their posts or not

CONTENT FILTERS.

Content filters work by blocking certain words that appear in posts. If there is a certain thing that you really want to avoid, you can just block that word or phrase and boom! You'll never have to see it and everyone will be happier for it. If you don't know where the content filters are, I can show you. On tumblr mobile go to account settings:

Then scroll down to "content you see":

Here you will find the filtered tags:

And if you're anything like me you'll have a nice long list of blocked tags to curate your feed.

However if you just scroll down to the bottom of your blocked tags list, you'll find this:

Here is where you add words you wanna block. You can block trigger words, you can block things like "blood" if thats not your jam, you can block "omegaverse" if that gives you a squick, and you can also block ship names and names of whole fandoms if you find them annoying (blocking Supernatural may help with your mental health lmao).

It can be overzealous, so its best to block phrases more than random words as those words can be used in many contexts after all (which is why its excellent for blocking fandom ships as those are usually portmanteaus that wont appear in regular language). Blocking the word "omega" may be a bit too wide a net for instance, but blocking something like "omega Dream" will work wonders and calm those buldging temple veins.

Now this is just a tumblr app tutorial but I believe the content filters are in the same place on desktop. Its not hard to find them and I strongly suggest everyone uses them.

We all want to have a peaceful pleasant fandom experience, and as always, the best way to do that is to CURATE YOUR OWN SPACE. I'm someone who loves searching in the fandom tags, so I dont rely on following/unfollowing to curate my feed. I often expose myself to things in the tags i may prefer to avoid, or maybe I follow people for some content but dont wanna see other content they reblog. Either way, the content filters protect me from triggers, things that squick me out, and content I just find annoying.

Whilst we can all ask that people tag appropriately, it is never the OPs fault if you have seen something you don't want to see. You have all the tools available to you to avoid everything you dont like. Use them.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

Am I the asshole for calling a (now ex-) mutual a stingy asshole?

So to start, I (NB20) am in a pretty rough situation, I'm facing homelessness soon, transphobia at home and work and my hours have been getting cut resulting in me making even less money that can sustain me. I have a toyhou.se forum post up stating I have emergency commissions open to help me out and to please support me if you can. This is where the situation begins. I have a mutual on toyhou.se who I'll call Apple (MTF22) I talk to sometimes to the point I'd say we are friends, not super close but friends nonetheless. She made a bulletin telling people about my commissions and to please comm me if they could which I'm very grateful for since I did get a few customers from her because of that. The thing is, a few weeks later, she made a bulletin talking about how happy she was so many commissions she bought were finished around the same time and posted all of them with the artists tagged in the post. It was honestly... quite a few, I'm talking like 9 pieces of art of her fursona and even a custom vtuber model she got of her sona. I was going to reply all happy for her, but it made me think... how much did she spend on those commissions?? So I went through all the artists socials to find their commission prices and came to a total of fucking $385!!! More than half of my current goal I'm trying to make through commissions to stay out of homelessness!! So I messaged Apple saying since I saw she bought a few commissions if she was interested in buying a comm from me. She replies saying "Ohh! I'd love to <333 but im just not in a place to buy any more comms right now :< sorry >.<!!" So I casually reply really? because it seems like your in the perfect place to help me out after already spending over $300 in commissions. She tells me she's sorry and really wishes someone would be able to help me out but she just wasn't that interested in my art or a custom to which I tell her she could've easily donated to my ko-fi which I have always had since she clearly has money to spend? To this, she straight up IP blocks me. So still fucking annoyed, I vented in a discord server I share with a few friends from being in a few shared CS together, saying how annoying it is rich assholes like her would drop half a thousand for a picture of their fursona but don't even blink twice at their so called friends. anyway, one of my friends takes a look at Apples th profile and notices she has a new bulletin up and sends me a screenshot, but anways the bulletin reads like "hey!! just saying, but please dont come into my dms acting like you know my financial situation better than i do, just because i buy a lot of commissions doesnt mean im made of money! and please dont think that me commisioning artist 1 means i hate artist 2? thats so weird, thanks!!!!!" and seeing all their subscribers just kissing her ass pissed me off so i made my own bulletin that just stated "i thought it was pretty fucking weird to know how bad ur friend's situation was and to go buy a bunch of comms instead of buying a comm from or even throwing a buck to help me out? like yeah im gonna think i know ur situation better than u, you stingy fuck!!!" Anyway, she mustve been block evading (which I reported her for) since she unblocked me, took a screenshot of my bulletin, then went on about how she lived in an abusive household; her dad had thrown her into a sink and chipped her tooth, bruised half her face and scarred it pretty badly. She bought a bunch of commissions immediately afterwards in a panic to make herself feel better, paying everything with her savings. Which to me.. isn't an excuse. Ive been hit and abused and still found scraps of money to pull together to give to mutuals who need it and Ive been bumping my own post like crazy and she had literal weeks to donate or comm me. Not to mention Ive had exmutuals of hers come to me saying that shes never donated anything to them either despite advertising their posts but always had money for plushies, comms and other crap, meaning Im not alone in thinking shes a stingy asshole. This is getting long, so here, tumblr AITA?

What are these acronyms?