#//sex ment

[thecommunalfoolboy]

It’s crazy how many people just don’t understand why a lot of aro and or ace people don’t like that Alaster gets shipped. It’s not that hard to understand we don’t have a lot to let ourselves lose. I mean can you name 10 asexual characters? 5? Can you name two aro characters. There’s the guy from Archie who they made have a sex scene in a movie version. There’s a few books. I think a background character in Heartstopper? Do you see the theme here??? You’re all queer people, do you not get it? How it feels to have nothing? Is it so wrong to be upset that there’s finally an outwardly aroace person in popular media and instead of people embracing that they’re fighting on the internet about why it’s ok to ignore it? And I will never in my fucking life have anything against the people who are aro and or ace and portray him in THEIR experiences, even if it is a romance or sex favorable experience, but it is obvious that way too many of you guys are allo and it just leaves a bad taste in my mouth. I don’t even like him as a character that much, he isn’t even made by an aroace artist. The show isn’t even that fucking good, I just want to keep someone like me for once in my life. If there were a million other aroace characters I wouldn’t care, but it just hurts seeing erasure coming from my own community. It just sucks, man, I don’t know. It just sucks

[cloudabserk]

look i understand if you like marius because this is the evil morally bankrupt vampire story. however when people argue that marius was actually really cool and chill and normal about armand i want to fight them

[raisans-art]

Fellas, is it sexual intercourse to put your shoe on your friend's shoe at work?

[ace-aro-queerplatonic-positivity]

Credit: insta @/acedadadvice

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Obviously these terms aren’t set in stone, these definitions aren’t gospel, use whatever definition/ term you are most comfortable with!

I’m sharing this because I went “oh hey, it me!” when I saw this.

I have made it a point to call myself averse to sex consistently and I will keep using sex-aversion to describe my views. It’s nice to see this info-graphic mention aegosexuality in context of that :)

Because yea, I’m a sex-averse aego-ace

EDIT FOR CLARIFICATION: Aegosexual as a sub- / micro-label for asexuality is not inherently connected to being sex-averse. The mention of aegosexuality in this context refers to an aego-ace being comfortable with the fantasy/ idea/ imagination of sex without necessarily wanting to participate in those sexual acts. Many aegosexuals use the label because we prefer sexual fantasies and things we can remove ourselves from (aego literally meaning “without self”). Not all aego-aces are sex-averse. Which is precisely why I said “mentioned in the context of that” since aegosexuality is not inherent to being sex-averse and sex-aversion is not inherent to aegosexuality.

Also, please keep in mind this is about personal feelings towards sex and towards participating in sex. Most asexuals are sex-positive which means we support that everyone has the right to have as much or as little sex, as vanilla or as kinky, as they want to have.

Sex is not shameful, sex is simply something people can do with their bodies. Sex is exactly as meaningful/ intimate as the people participating want it to be. A bodily activity or the most intimate act to share with your chosen partner – it’s as important as you make it out to be, nothing more, nothing less.

[objectsarebestest]

Does anyone know the URL of that website where you can simulate sex with computers/phones? The one that was created as a social experiment? I used to know the URL, but I was afraid to use it. I felt weird doing it. And now I want to use the website but don’t remember the URL. If anyone can send a link that would be great.

[justaz]

i don't like putting homophobia in my fictional worlds so like when i think of bbc merlin i like to imagine uther as a classist anti-magic bigot but a hashtag ally. anyways i thought of a way to make homophobia make sense in canon without it being like. serious?

we know that true love is a force powerful enough to overpower any love spell so i think it's safe to say that love is the most powerful force in albion, above even magic. and this is smth i maybe made up but sex is a sacred thing in magic and to the druids. sex rituals happen all the time and the power from sex fuels spells to make them more powerful.

how would uther weaken the magical community? outlaw wlw and mlm relationships to that love and sex can't be used in magic. he couldn't outlaw love and sex entirely as men and women needed to have children to continue on the population. he uses the new religion to push that it's immoral to engage in mlm/wlw relationships and that's what arthur grew up hearing but he's known since he was a kid that he's gay so he has his own super deadly secret he can't let anyone know.

the druids never bend to uther's laws and continue their free love and that's why arthur is always sympathetic to their plight and hates when his father sends him to raid their camps because part of him feels like he's hurting his own people. it's also why uther is able to get away with attacking peaceful people without anybody bashing him for it - they have magic and they're immoral.

so uther has his anti-magic laws but also his anti-love laws

[what-even-is-thiss]

I still get the occasional person telling me I have “top energy” and idk what that’s supposed to mean but I’m a sex neutral to repulsed asexual. My position in bed is idk dude can we get this over with I’ve got stuff to do

[flowerbloom-arts]

Poor lad.

[cripplecharacters]

(asphalt anon part 1/2) is it okay to say that someone with a neurological or developmental disorder that makes their mental age younger than they physically are shouldn't be romantically or sexually involved with someone whose mental and physical age are much older? for example a 25 year old with the mental age of a 14 year old and another 25 year old whose mental age is still 25. bcuz ive seen people say that you shouldnt "baby" people with ___ disorder, and they can still be in

(asphalt anon part 2/2) and they can still be in relationships, but i assume it doesn't apply to people whose mental age is far younger than their physical age? not sure though so i wanted to check, thanks

Hello,

Okay, so, mental age is an outdated medical term and seen as offensive by people with intellectual, cognitive, and/or developmental disabilities. I'll use IDD as an example. The character doesn't have the mind of a fourteen-year-old, they have the mind of a twenty-five-year-old with IDD. They're still very much twenty-five, they just have disabilities that affect their brains.

And if the character is capable of understanding what a relationship and sex is and the risks associated with both, it's perfectly fine for them to engage in either thing with another consenting character. Some people with IDD are perfectly capable of giving and receiving informed consent, this is something a lot of advocates with these disabilities have stressed. There are some people who might not be capable of understanding relationships, sex, and the risks associated with both, meaning they're unable to give informed consent, but not all people with these disabilities are like that. It's absolutely okay to respectfully portray those who are, but keep in mind that intellectual, cognitive, and developmental disability are very diverse spectrums.

Here is a post by zebulontheadult discussing this topic in a real-world context

So yes, it can be perfectly fine for the character to be in a relationship with a character who doesn't have the same disability. As long as the character can understand relationships, sex, and the risks of both, they are capable of giving informed consent.

Mod Aaron

[thecommunalfoolboy]

“College is about SEX and DRUGS and PARTIES” it’s been a month and the majority of people I’ve met have been asexual

[ravousisfamous]

was anybody going to tell me that chase tried to dom a patient into signing consent forms??

[boatcats]

Izzy: I ... apologize. I thought that you and Blackbeard were engaging in activities of a, uh... sexual nature and it was affecting his judgment. I see now I misunderstood... it was simply fencing practice.

Stede: Oh, no no no. No, we were not doing anything like that.

Stede: We are now, mind you!

Ed: Quite a bit!

Stede: Quite a bit! But we weren't then!

[doriandrifting]

Pure chaos.

[utterhomestucktrash]

I'm facing troubles in my personal romantic/sexual relationships

[bluestarlett]

i think i have a new favourite. a new little guy to hyperfixate on