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Excited to announce John Kim, @theangrytherapist will be teaching at the upcoming Breakup Bootcamp on April 21-24 in Sonoma, California. Check out our team of experts! ⠀ 👉 Ready to pattern interrupt? We have a few spots left. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ #breakupbootcamp #divorcetips #wellnessretreat #mentalhealth #divorce #heartbreak #breakupsupport #therapy #angrytherapist #menscoach #fyp #anxiousattachment (at Sonoma, California) https://www.instagram.com/p/CplNCY7vXO9/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Remember, standards and expectations are not the same thing. ⠀ Perfectionist expectations only keeps people out and you disappointed. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ #amychanwrites #standards #bekind #motivationalwords #motivationalpost #motivationalspeakers #fyp #expectations #codependentnomore #codependencyrecovery #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #emotionalintelligence ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ (at Vancouver Convention Centre) https://www.instagram.com/p/CnfDN2nvEU5/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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This applies to the people in your life too. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ 🙄 And for the quote police out there, no this does not apply to every situation. There are obviously things that give you energy that are bad for you. There are obviously things that make you feel depleted like going to work. That doesn’t mean you sit on a couch all day. ⠀ #fyp #happynewyear #2023vibes #2023quotes #motivationalquotes #inspirationalquotes #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #narcissistrecovery #codependencyrecovery (at Vancouver, British Columbia) https://www.instagram.com/p/Cm7F5nXJ0ku/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Which one do you agree or disagree with? Share in the comments👇 ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ #relationships101 #relationshipsbelike #relationshipstruggles #relationshipstruggle #relationships #anxiousattachment #avoidant #betterhalfbreakup #breakups #heartbreak #quote #loveavoidant #relationshipgoals #relationshipquotes #couplegoals❤ #datingadvice #inspirationalquotes #relationshipcoach #datingcoach #relationshipquote (at Capilano Suspension Bridge Park) https://www.instagram.com/p/CmuVdgwPtDl/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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Sometimes, a jerk is a jerk and doesn’t need to be categorized under the DSM-5. ⠀ 👀 Having terminology for why people behave the way they do can be helpful, but quickly assuming someone is a narcissist is problematic. ⠀ What do you think? Let me know in the comments. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ #anxiousattachment #anxiouslyattached #dsm #dsm5 #codependentrecovery #codependentnomore #narcissist #avoidantattachment #gaslighting #narcissism #attachmenttheory ⠀ ⠀ (at Vancouver, British Columbia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CmcJL7RvuDS/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=

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All we need is love? Nope.

The reason why relationships fail is not due to a lack of love, it’s due to a lack of skill. 

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⏳ There is no such thing as not enough time. There is only what you prioritize as important enough for your time.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #quote #quotes #love #quoteoftheday #motivation #life #inspiration #success #inspirationalquotes #instagood #quotestoliveby#motivationalquotes #lifequotes #inspire #happy #quotestagram #lovequotes #relationshipgoals #loversandfriends #relationshipadvice #loveadvice #lovesayings ⁣ #anxiousattachment #estherperel #brenebrown #datingexpert #vancouverinfluencer #relationshipexpert #breakupexpert #breakuptips (at Vancouver, British Columbia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CXb6tKAPzWr/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Relationships require mutuality. This applies to romantic or platonic ones.⁣ ⁣ Take an inventory of your one-sided relationships.⁣ ⁣ 👉 For the ones where you’re the only one investing, take a step back. Stop taking three steps to make up for their lack of steps. Communicate what you want and give people the opportunity to step up. If they don’t want to, then you have your data.⁣ ⁣ 👉 If you realize you do not make an effort with you love - take action to nurture the connection. Initiate plans, send flowers, tell them how much you care… do something, anything, than passively waiting for people to happen to you.⁣ ⁣ ⏳ There is no such thing as not enough time. There is only what you prioritize as important enough for your time. Invest wisely. Love fully. ⁣ (at Vancouver, British Columbia) https://www.instagram.com/missamychan/p/CXMNEDCFv9q/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Louder for the over-achievers in the back. ☺️⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #breakupquotes #healtheheart #quotestoinspire #quoteoftheday #lettinggo #hurtssobad #heartbreakquotes #hurtssomuch #overachiever #inspirationalquotes #selfcompassion #quotestoliveby #motivationalquotes #lifequotes #inspire #happy #quotestagram #qotd #overachievers #relationships #lovequotes #relationshipgoals #loversandfriends #thingsfallapart #relationshipadvice #loveadvice #lovesayings #breakupbootcamp #mindfulnessquotes (at Manhattan, New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/CWi9-u2r863/?utm_medium=tumblr

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A reminder to not get wrapped up in the tornado of others. 🌪 Not your chaos to get involved with. ⁣ Thanks @paulgeller for the simple yet powerful reminder.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #histrionicpersonalitydisorder #histrionic #clusterB #dramaticpersonality #needfordrama #manipulation #darktriadtraits #gaslighting #mentalhealth #NFD #psychology #drama #codependency #chaos #emotionaladdiction #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narcissism #narcissisticmother #narcissiticabuserecovery (at New York City, N.Y.) https://www.instagram.com/p/CWbJkddr8uA/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Yes he looked at your IG story. No, this doesn’t mean they have the intention, capacity or ability to build a relationship with you.⁣ ⁣ Maybe they’re avoidant, maybe they’re dating other people, maybe they’re busy, maybe it’s Maybelline! The point is - it doesn’t matter! ⁣ ⁣ 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗼𝗻 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝘂𝘁𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲.⁣ ⁣ Being caught up in analyzing the why just distracts you from moving on. Look at the data that’s being presented to you. And if there is any “why” to be asked, ask why you are you allowing someone to treat in a way that’s below your standards.⁣ ⁣ Stop waiting to be chosen and start actively choosing. If someone can’t make plans to see you or communicate like a grown up, then guess what - they don’t get a rose!⁣ ⁣ Standards only scare off the people that aren’t meant for you. So start choosing yourself and stop giving discounts for those who aren’t worth your time. ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #anxiouslyattached #narcicissm #relationshipquote #unavailablemen #loveavoidant #avoidantlyattached #getoverhim #anxiousattachment #estherperel #brenebrown #datingexpert #lovebombing #lovebomb #vancouverinfluencer #relationshipexpert #breakupexpert #breakuptips #scienceofattraction #breakupbootcamp #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #datingexpert (at New York City, N.Y.) https://www.instagram.com/p/CWBP0B5rLMD/?utm_medium=tumblr

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The pillars that make a strong foundation for a relationship include: ⁣ ⁣ ✔️Chemistry⁣ ⁣ ✔️Compatibility⁣ ⁣ ✔️Shared vision⁣ ⁣ ✔️ Both people equally invested in BUILDING the partnership.⁣ ⁣ Good intentions and warm feelings are not enough.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #breakuprecovery #heartbroken #anxiousattachment #loveavoidant #breakupcoach #therapy #anxiouslyattached #mattheyhussey #anxiousattachment #estherperel #brenebrown #datingexpert #vancouverinfluencer #relationshipexpert #breakupexpert #breakuptips #scienceofattraction #breakupbootcamp #unavailablemen #narcissisticabuse #emotionalabuse #marriage #avoidantlyattached #toxicrelationships #gaslighting ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ (at Vancouver, British Columbia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CVyQTj0vd9t/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Are you experiencing emotional abuse? Here are some signs.⁣ ⁣ Please, do not make excuses for someone’s abusive behavior. You might be so used to emotional abuse that you think it’s normal. But if you find yourself hiding things they say or do from your friends/family - that’s a signal that something might be wrong. It doesn’t hurt to talk to someone you trust.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #codependency #gaslightingawareness #codependentnomore #selflove #narcissistic #gaslighting #controlling #narcissist #boundaries #codependent #avoidantpersonalitydisorder #manipulation #narcissisticabuserecovery #toxicrelationships ⁣#psychopaths #breakup #narcissisticabuse (at Vancouver, British Columbia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CVn_iTshO6-/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Comparing your pain to how much or little someone else feels, does not make your hurt any less real.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #quote #quotes #love #quoteoftheday #motivation #inspiration #success #inspirationalquotes #codependency #quotestoliveby#motivationalquotes #lifequotes #inspire #happy #quotestagram #poem #truth #lovequotes #loveadvice #lovesayings #anxiousattachment #glennondoyle #brenebrown #datingexpert #vancouverinfluencer #relationshipexpert #breakupexpert #breakuptips ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ (at Vancouver, British Columbia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CVdPsKala6K/?utm_medium=tumblr

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We create an identity of who we’ve been and cling to that even if it doesn’t serve us. We justify, “𝘞𝘦𝘭𝘭, 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵’𝘴 𝘫𝘶𝘴𝘵 𝘩𝘰𝘸 𝘐 𝘢𝘮.”⁣ ⁣ Just like how sunk cost fallacy explains how humans continue to invest more in a bad deal, we also do that with ourselves. We keep investing in the identity formed in the past even if that’s not who we want to be now. We believe our history dictates our present and future.⁣ ⁣ Every morning you can choose. It doesn’t mean it’s easy. It doesn’t mean that there won’t be resistance - both from yourself and others who are comfortable with the status quo.⁣ ⁣ Perhaps the approach is to ask yourself who you desire to be - and start investing in that.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #quote #quotes #love #quoteoftheday #motivation #life #inspiration #success #inspirationalquotes #instagood #quotestoliveby#motivationalquotes #lifequotes #inspire #happy #quotestagram #qotd #poem #truth #relationship #relationships #lovequotes #relationshipgoals #loversandfriends #relationshipadvice #loveadvice #lovesayings #brenebrown #datingexpert #vancouverinfluencer (at New York City, N.Y.) https://www.instagram.com/p/CVOFMNurAq7/?utm_medium=tumblr

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If a child’s needs for connection and physical touch aren’t met, they learn to rely heavily on self-nurturing behaviors. They stop seeking closeness, expressing emotion and may even disconnect from bodily needs.⁣ ⁣ This attachment style follows them into their adulthood. After decades of living a pseudo-independent orientation to life, it feels uncomfortable when someone gets too close, and they will unconsciously push people away.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ❤️ 𝘓𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘯 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘢𝘤𝘩𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘴𝘵𝘺𝘭𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘯𝘴:⁣ 𝘙𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘸𝘉𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘬𝘶𝘱𝘉𝘰𝘰𝘵𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘱.𝘤𝘰𝘮⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #avoidantattachment #fearfulavoidant #anxiousattachment #tinder #datingexpert #vancouverinfluencer #relationshipexpert #breakupexpert #breakuptips #scienceofattraction #breakupbootcamp #breakuphelp #estherperel #brenebrown #survivebreakup #heartbreaktips #anxiousattachmentstyle #codependency⁣ #getoverex #getoverhim #getoverher #breakuphelp #anxiousattachment ⁣ ⁣ (at New York City, N.Y.) https://www.instagram.com/p/CU8AjueB4KJ/?utm_medium=tumblr

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Recognize when you’re making assumptions, and filling the spaces in-between with fiction.⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ ⁣ #cognitivedistortions #thinkingtraps #CBT #DBT #cognitivebehavioraltherapy #loveaddiction #anxiousattachment #breakuprecovery #heartbroken #breakupcoach #therapy #anxiouslyattached #narcicissm #anxiousattachment #estherperel #brenebrown #datingexpert #vancouverinfluencer #relationshipexpert #breakupexpert #breakuptips (at Vancouver, British Columbia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CUsmI-VvNg1/?utm_medium=tumblr