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[ohwhereidream]

So many people’s views & desires stem from their unhealed wounds and traumas, shaping the way they see the world and what they chase after.

I met someone just like this, this year. Had so many traumas, insecurities and wounds that they refused to confront. They refused to open their heart, but wanted love. They wanted love, but they wanted to love with their “brain”. They wanted certain things, but entertained what they didn’t want in the process. They wanted certain things, but did not reflect those qualities at all. They thought they were in control this way but really kept ending up in situations that went against everything they “wanted” and disregarded the emotional toll it was taking on them.

Wounds create a lens of fear, lack, insecurity, leading them to seek validation, approval, or fulfillment in ways that might not truly serve them. Desires rooted in trauma will manifest as an intense need for control, attention, or perfection, as people unconsciously try to soothe their pain. Control itself stems from insecurity. You can’t flow and reject what flows if it doesn’t fit your narrative. That’s not flow. It’s resistance. Recognizing this is the first step toward healing—when we confront our wounds and work through them, we begin to align our desires with genuine fulfillment rather than unaddressed hurt. Only then can we see clearly, love authentically & live freely.

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Do you ever feel like SHIT? Like life is moving so fast, and you’re stuck, tired, or completely drained? cuz same 🙋🏻‍♀️. That’s why I started looking into Japanese and Chinese habits—because I'm searching for slow down type of lifestyle, finding balance, and creating small moments of peace in the dawm chaos. Now, I know some of y’all will say, 'It’s overrated, you’re just obsessed with China or Japan,' but hear me out these habits aren’t about trends—they’re rooted in centuries and they’ve genuinely helped me improve both physically and mentally. If you’re ready to stop just surviving and start thriving, keep reading. These little changes might just change your life too.

Little Habits, Big Glow: Japanese & Chinese Traditions That Changed My Life

First off, warm water in the MORNING. I used to roll out of bed and go straight for coffee or cold ass water cuz my throat is DRYYYY , and honestly, my body hated me for it fr. But then I read about how in Chinese medicine, drinking warm water first thing in the morning is seen as a way to wake up your body gently. And let me tell you, IT WORK. No bloating, no sluggishness—just a simple, calming way to start the day. Sometimes I add a slice of lemon, and it feels like I’m doing something kind for my body before I even check my phone

Two Ikigai.( I talked Abt Ikigai and how to achieve this concept click here!) Japanese concept changed the way I see my day-to-day life. It’s basically finding purpose in the little things—like, not waiting for some huge life-changing moment to feel fulfilled. I used to put so much pressure on myself, thinking I needed to achieve these massive goals to be happy. But Ikigai taught me to slow down and find joy in small things, like enjoying my morning tea or journaling. It’s a game-changer for anyone who feels like they’re always chasing something bigger.

Another thing I’ve started doing is Tai Chi or qing gong. I know I know—it looks slow and kind of boring, but hear me out. It’s like moving meditation, and if you’re someone who struggles with anxiety (like meeey), this will center you like nothing else. It’s not about burning calories or anything like that; it’s about connecting your body and mind in the most peaceful way. Even just 10 minutes a day leaves me feeling lighter and more focused. (Click here to watch a video of it) When I first started, I thought, 'This is way too slow for me.' But then something clicked. The slowness is the point. It forces you to focus on your breathing, your posture, and every little movement. It’s like a moving meditation that clears your mind while strengthening your body.

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This is brilliant - theres so many of these I have not even tried my hand at yet (cause zippers seems daunting), and I love the award thing 🩷

Sewing Challenge ˖ ࣪⭑

Next year I am going to get better at sewing and garment construction. Here's a list for fun to check off as I make progress. i intentionally left some open-ended. I dont expect to check off everything, just using it for fun. Ill update with any new ones I think of.

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Techniques

- [ ] Pocket

- [ ] Invisible zipper

- [ ] Separating zipper

- [ ] Closed end zipper

- [ ] French seam

- [ ] Flatlock seam

- [ ] Flat felled seam

- [ ] Lettuce hem

- [ ] Rolled hem

- [ ] Double needle hem

- [ ] Gathers

- [ ] Shirring

- [ ] Pleats

- [ ] Bias tape

- [ ] Piping

- [ ] Elastic

- [ ] Drawstring

- [ ] Adjustable straps

- [ ] Buttons

- [ ] Pankou

- [ ] Snap closure

- [ ] Magnetic snap closure

- [ ] Hook and eye closure

- [ ] Velcro

- [ ] Collar

- [ ] Dyeing

- [ ] Printing

- [ ] Grommet

- [ ] Lace

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Garments

- [ ] Tank

- [ ] T-shirt

- [ ] Long sleeve shirt

- [ ] Button up shirt

- [ ] Knit top

- [ ] Short dress

- [ ] Long dress

- [ ] Skirt

- [ ] Shorts

- [ ] Skort

- [ ] Pants

- [ ] Jumpsuit

- [ ] One-piece bodysuit

- [ ] Bikini set

- [ ] Bra

- [ ] Underwear

- [ ] Robe

- [ ] Jacket

- [ ] Hoodie

- [ ] Vest

- [ ] Coat

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Awards 🏆

- [ /5] I completed 5! 🥉

- [ /10] I completed 10! 🥈

- [ /20] I completed 20! 🥇

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Wishlist

Some items id really like to have <3

- [ ] Dressform

banner edit by me

[ohwhereidream]

Be your own friend, have your own back, encourage yourself, motivate yourself, discipline yourself, make yourself laugh, comfort yourself when you cry, enjoy your own company, discover yourself, ask yourself the deep questions, feed yourself good food, watch stuff that makes you feel good, hug yourself, smile at yourself just because, compliment yourself, extend yourself endless grace… you are the greatest thing you can offer yourself.

[ohwhereidream]

One of the most dangerous things in the world is not being able to say no to people because you don't want to upset them or dissapoint them. This will completely ruin your life in every way possible, at work, in your private life, your sex life and your friendships. It's a way of removing your own consent in your own decisions and go against your wishes, it is always a crime against yourself. Let yourself have a say. Upsetting people is better than traumatizing yourself.

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A little wholesome posts i stumbled upon early in my morning scroll🩷

Some of my favorite posts on r/BenignExperience from the past week

Thanks to the tumblr post that made me aware of this subreddit. It makes me smile.

Part two, part three, part four

[ohwhereidream]

I can reblog and preach this all I want, but the gods know that this is one of the things i struggle with the most. I used to only see the good or the potential in everyone. I still do to some degree, but putting my heart away for a moment and looking at the evidence in front of me, is getting easier day by day.

It definitely helps to have an embarrassing resume of all the times I got fooled

Having standards is important. There is an underlining reason for peoples actions that says alot about who they are and how they will handle things in the future. How someone does anything is how they do everything.

[ohwhereidream]

Amen - every single time I felt uncomfortable, blinded by obstacles, hitting a block was right before i climbed a massive and important step in my life. I could not see it then, but in hindsight it is so clear.

have been reflecting on those big “turning points” in my life and realising at the time they actually felt very destructive and i was not certain or confident it was “right”, but it was like i couldn’t stop myself. one was leaving two bad relationships (friendship and romantic). the other came later, to shut down my business. in both instances i’d been focusing on manifesting and self improvement and it came to a point where i couldn’t actually stop myself from annihilating these tension points in my life. it didn’t feel good. i was scared and sad and often felt like a failure. but it allowed so much good to grow after that. this is what i mean when i say getting your dream life won’t always feel good. or clear. or even certain. often it is gathering courage to step through mess, to enter into a period of sadness, to confront very difficult feelings. in doing so i became stronger, smarter, and more aware of my shortcomings holding me back. my life got better because i actively changed in reaction to what i learned. point is, you’re not doing it wrong because it doesn’t feel airy fairy good time woo woo 24/7.

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Traditional Skills To Learn

In a world ran by technology, business, and success, the art of learning traditional skills and homemaking has been lost. I believe we should all go after our dreams, no matter what they are, but going back to our ancestral roots is a great way to practice mindfulness. Working on traditional skills gives you a sense of satisfaction, wellbeing, grounding, and peace. Here is a list of some ways you can reconnect with yourself and the earth : 

Gardening

Cooking from scratch

Canning food

Pottery

Wood carving

Sewing

Baking bread & making cheese

Learn about herbs and make your own medicine

Crochet

Make jam

Learn etiquette

Decorate your home

Write in cursive

Paint

Make candles

Teach & care for children

[ohwhereidream]

Love this

actually i love growing older and learning how i work as a person like realizing what kinds of fabrics feel best on my skin or what brand of yogurt i like best or how I want to be touched. watching myself change, enjoying brussel sprouts when I used to hate them as a child, understanding why I got angry in that one conversation 10 years ago… there are so many mysteries inside me that i have yet to unravel and there will always be more and sometimes i think maybe its all worth it

[ohwhereidream]

I think i will try and make this for new years Eve! Maybe as a snack while we watch the Queens speech🥂🩷

Million Dollar Dip Recipe takes less than ten minutes to make, and it is a taste explosion with crisp bacon bits, slivered almonds, sharp cheddar cheese, and green onions. It is always a crowd-pleasing appetizer and one of the first ones to go. 

[ohwhereidream]

I’m a social butterfly I love talking I love meeting new people I love listening to peoples stories about anything I just love having conversations about anything

[ohwhereidream]

Not too long ago I made a post about the Sanded Church of Skagen that was abandoned due to being buried in sand, but the “sand problem” is much larger than the church.

If you look at Denmark on a map you might notice a white dot near the very top of the country.

That my friend is a huge sand dune that arose out of the sea 300 years ago and is slowly eating its way through the landscape at 18 meters a year.

And if you look closer you might notice that it’s heading straight for the towns Rannerød and Hulsig and when that happens no one will come to save them because the dune is protected. At least they’ll see it coming.

That means that in a few hundred years we won’t just have a sanded church, we’ll have sanded towns with more roofs and towers sticking out of the dune than any tourist bureau could wish for.

Because the dune is a very popular tourist spot. I myself have been to it a few times and it’s quite the experience for a child to suddenly be in a “desert” in Denmark.

If you feel sad for the people in the towns just remember that’s nature. The reason why the dune is protected is because the area used to have many more but people made an effort to destroy them and it fucked up the ecosystem in the area. The dunes leave moist wetland behind that loads of rare creatures thrive in.

So today the inevitable end of the towns are viewed as sort of romantic poetry about nature, the march of time and appreciating the now.

And isn’t it kinda beautiful? To know that something like this exists in the world that will destroy our towns, roads and railways that we could easily eradicate with our modern technology but we choose not to simply because we know it would be wrong.

[ohwhereidream]

I’ve noticed that insecure people can’t be alone. They need constant attention & jump from relationship to relationship, trying to make anyone the “love of their life.”

While confident people thrive alone & prioritize their own growth & have high standards for the people they allow into their life.

[ohwhereidream]

If you lack discipline, you also lack:

Consistency Focus Progress Self control Confidence Time management Achievement Accountability Motivation Reliability Resilience Healthy habits Financial stability Structure Emotional regulation Work ethic Clarity Purpose

Discipline isn’t just about goals or career. It’s about you & the relationship you have with yourself.

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