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These are so beautiful 🩷 I am always surprised by how creative people have been throughout history, when it comes to fashion and arts that uses fabric as a medium. How I would love to be able to use this method correctly and in a way that enhance the clothes I sew.

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More beautiful

More wealth

More intelligent

More private

More exclusive

More refined

More influential

More sophisticated

More elegant

More confident

More successful

More graceful

More well traveled

More accomplished

More alluring

[ohwhereidream]

You'll get the future you want so badly. It's okay to be on your own timeline. You don't have to feel ashamed for taking a gap year, a leave of absence from school/work, or time off of whatever you do. Things will come together eventually. Take care of yourself first.

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Working on it 🩷

Glowy skin, vintage lingerie, cherry lips and curly hair is such a look

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I got my feelings a little hurt today. I reached out to some friends to hear whether they wanted to celebrate my birthday with me, sometime next week. Some of them never replied, others told me they were too busy. I know life can be very stressful and I am not mad at them. I also know that I should have reached out earlier, maybe at least a month in advance.

The experience did however, leave me with some sadness, and a wish to be more of a priority to my friends.

Instead of having my head go spiraling over this, Ive decided to dedicate today, and my upcoming birthday, to me. So I'll take a quick shower, dress up nicely and go to the city to have lunch and plan my birthday 🩷

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I love the version I am right now to the fullest cause she will love and mold us into the one we dream about becoming 🩷 I am grateful for every version of me that came before this one, cause they all survived, and they fought to be the one I already am 🩷

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My fiance randomly gifted me a smart watch so I can track my sleep, menstrual cycle, stress and activity levels. Its so sweet of him, I know he worries about my lack of sleep! Im so motivated, I cant wait to compete against my past self with this watch 🩷

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Dunno how to put it properly into words but lately I find myself thinking more about that particular innocence of fairy tales, for lack of better word. Where a traveller in the middle of a field comes across an old woman with a scythe who is very clearly Death, but he treats her as any other auntie from the village. Or meeting a strange green-skinned man by the lake and sharing your loaf of bread with him when he asks because even though he's clearly not human, your mother's last words before you left home were to be kind to everyone. Where the old man in the forest rewards you for your help with nothing but a dove feather, and when you accept even such a seemingly useless reward with gratitude, on your way home you learn that it's turned to solid gold. Where supernatural beings never harm a person directly and every action against humans is a test of character, and every supernatural punishment is the result of a person bringing on their own demise through their own actions they could have avoided had they changed their ways. Where the hero wins for no other reason than that they were a good person. I don't have the braincells to describe this better right now but I wish modern fairy tales did this more instead of trying to be fantasy action movies.

[ohwhereidream]

Men who are serious about you will INVEST in you.

They invest:

Time

Energy

Effort

MONEY

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All that wasted energy aching for “sensuality” and wanting to embody it in my youth when you just naturally acquire it as a woman with age experience and wisdom and understanding that it has nothing to do with your actual appearance and manifests more clearly in the way of speaking, of self-respect and respect for others, in personal routine and rituals, taking care of your mind and body, etc

[ohwhereidream]

honey instead of romanticising neat little plans that live only in your head, you gotta fall in love with the mess, the challenge, the chaos of a life truly lived. it is so so beautiful but you’re so afraid of anything real and raw; you think it’s ugly and frightening. but it’s not, it’s not!

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The Real Luxuries of Life are much simpler than you think.

A good night of rest

A slow, peaceful morning

A space and time for fun and hobbies

The freedom of choice and opinion

Time and space for nature walks

A good book to enjoy purely for enjoyment

A healthy home cooked meal

The opportunity to watch sunrises and sunsets

The ability to express yourself freely and openly

The time to rest during the day

A person to have deep meaningful conversations with

The option to leave whenever

The resources and time to explore ideas and business ventures

The time to enjoy a cup of coffee or tea

[ohwhereidream]

Make sure to look presentable everyday, that doesn’t mean “glam” but every single time you walk out of the house you should never have a “nobodies gonna see me” outfit. You should always go out presentable & ready to accept potential opportunities that you could miss in your “nobodies gonna see me” outfit. You shouldn’t even have “nobodies gonna see me” clothes. Throw them away.

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BEING MAGNETIC THROUGH SOFTNESS

BEING OPTIMISTIC, regardless of the circumstances. People love positivity and will gravitate to people who make them feel good regardless of their circumstances.

SMILE. Even if you’re just walking around, having a nice friendly smile appeals to people and deems you approachable.

HELP WHENEVER YOU CAN, hold the door for someone, or lift a small burden for them. However, if you’re helping someone and it is out of your capabilities, it’s people-pleasing.

BE PRESENT, don’t dwell on the past or worry about the future. Just focus on what you’re doing, and with who at that moment.

BE AN ACTIVE LISTENER, engage in conversations with people and genuinely take in the information they tell you + make an effort to remember these facts about them.

AVOID JUDGING AND GOSSIPING, no matter how nice you are, as soon as you display these traits, you create a distance between your friends/family. While honesty is valued, if people don’t feel like they can be their authentic selves around you, they’ll close themselves up.

GIVE COMPLIMENTS OFTEN. Only if you mean it. It doesn’t have to be someone who you’re close to, but even just passers-by.

BE VULNERABLE. People won’t open up to people who are closed up. Share your deepest fears, challenges and emotions to create a deeper connection and trust.

PRACTICE BEING HUMBLE, while it is okay to celebrate our successes, we must be mindful of the manner we do so. Acknowledge other’s efforts and be willing to learn from others.

REPLACE SORRY WITH THANK YOU. If you’re a serial say-sorry person, replace them with thank you. E.g. sorry I’m late -> thank you for patiently waiting.

BE OPEN-MINDED, surround yourself with a diverse environment, and be willing to learn from other’s perspectives.

TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY. Apologise when necessary and own up to your own mistakes, but be sure to not repeat them.

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I realised this after reading about bodyfullness. The book was written by a yoga teacher, and bodyfullness is kinda her version of mindfulness. It teaches you to connect with your body and heal stuck trauma, as well as how to listen to your body and the many signals it sends you. How your body is constantly whisperings truths to you and that in the end it'll scream if you dont listen. As in sickness and wierd symptoms appearing.

It really inspired me, but then I forgot all about the practice, due to stress. This post was a nice reminder. I will try and include the different exercises from the book in my daily routines.

Stop ignoring your bodily signals that’s somethings not right. You get a bad stomach and need to run to the bathroom after the morning smoothie? It doesn’t agree with you. You get terrible anxiety and feel you need to perform on dates with the pretentious guy? He’s not your person. You feel shaky after the iced latte? It’s not for you sweetie. Your body is constantly sending signals, letting you know what feels good, and what doesn’t. Foods that don’t agree with you, people that cause you panic. Take inventory on what's causing dis-harmony in your life, and start editing ruthlessly. This is an act of self love. No more ignoring signs from your inner guidance system. Start heeding the call from your body. It’s speaking to you always.