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4 more tickets left for the Healing through Creations Workshop. Please note that this will be a maximum of 12 people only workshop (to create a safe intimate space). ________ Healing Through Creations: A Love Letter to My Soul'. A one-day workshop teaching & discussing the actions & application of true Self-Care, with creative activities & goodies, just in time for 'Valentine's Day'. Get ready for honest talks with yourself, about yourself, as you begin the process of reconnecting with your Soul. Workshop Content: - What is Self-Care? - Learn how to apply Self-Care into your daily life. - What are Boundaries? - Create a Cookie Jar of Self-Care. Create your own individual Self-Care Cookie Jar with reminders, tips, activities & pointers of the things you need to do to take care of, & love, you. Bonus: A free introductory session from the Healing My Inner-Child Course, on Writing Love Letters to your Soul. Who is this Workshop for? This workshop is for Males, Females & Non-Binary adults over the age of 18. Facilitators: Both Facilitators are qualified & Registered Counsellors / Psychotherapists, with one, Novena-Chanel, also being a Life Coach, Nutritional Advisor, Reiki Master, Body Therapist & Yoga Teacher. Tickets: www.theequilibriumcoach.com/events/healing-through-creations-a-love-letter-to-my-soul

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MASTER THE ART OF BREATHING AND YOU MASTER THE POWER OF YOUR LIFE Breathing: We all do it, we all know we need to do it, and most know the dangers of not doing, but do you really realize just how powerful and important your breathe is, and how crucial deep breathing is for your mental, emotional and physical wellbeing, and success? From supporting our body to release energy from the foods we eat (metabolism), deposting oxygen into our bloodstream; allowing oxygen rich blood to support the heart in pumping blood around the body to support the cells; to fuelling the Brain! Yes, the Brain needs more oxygen than any other organ. Suffering from Brain fog, feeling overwhelmed, unable to concentrate, feeling anxious? Find yourself over analysing or quick to anger (left brain function), or becoming too emotional (right brain function)? Learn to balance the brain by properly drawing oxygen into the Brain for balance. Learn how to deeply and mindfully breathe, and reep the benefits. Alternate Nostril Breathing Alternate nostril breathing is used to strengthen the respiratory system, reduce stress, provide clarity of mind and help to soothe headaches. It strengthens the whole respiratory system. Below is a basic guide to initial practice (advanced sessions will involve exhalation being twice as long as the inhalation, helping to remove stale air and any waste products.) Cover and close the right nostril with your thumb and then exhale through the left nostril and then inhale to a count of 8. Close both nostrils and hold your breathe up to a count of 16. This may be difficult to begin with so reduce the length of the hold if necessary i.e. inhale for 8, hold for 8 and exhale for 8. (Build up gently and gradually for your own comfort). Keeping the left nostril close, release the right nostril and exhale for a count of 8. Keep the left nostril closed and then inhale through the right nostril for a count of 8. Once again, close both nostrils and retain the breath up to a count of 16. Release the left nostril and exhale to a count of 8 and this completes one round. Repeat 2 or 3 times. Keep the mind focused on your breathe. With that said, I am wishing you a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations. From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® - The Goal Architect™ to Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Balance - www.novena-chanel.com / www.theequilibriumcoach.com

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Let's stop allowing Society and Abusers to write and prescribe our healing scripts. There's this thing that society and abusers push about having to be polite and explain, especially explaining and justifying your pain, and/or right to avoid or walking away from it. Then the double standard comes when a victim or survivor who remains is then negatively judged and quizzed as to why they stayed, or why they tried to remain peaceful, forgiving, or offering chances for improved behaviour. I have worked with victims of rape who have been asked if they screamed 'loud enough' to be heard, or asked if they said "No" to let the attacker know they did not want to be raped. Yet, I have listened as some have been scrutinised for inflicting harm on attackers, and questioned about reasonable force. The double standards and contradictions of protecting ourselves from harm. Be it abusive language, disrespectful behaviour, disceiftul actions, or passive aggressive attacks to your mental, emotional or spiritual wellbeing, there's a double standard that we are responsible for protecting ourselves, but this must only be actioned by first explaining ourselves, and only accepted after being granted permission by others. Well let me tell you this... STOP ALLOWING ABUSERS TO DICTATE WHEN YOU CAN STEP AWAY OR HEAL. If someone is on the phone being cruel, disrespectful, or intentionally trying to inflict you harm, be it through lies, minimisation of your feelings or truth, or attempting to hurt you, YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO END THAT CALL WITHOUT EXPLANATION, PERMISSION OR APOLOGY. Yes, I said, hang up the phone. Anyone who expects you to remain on a call where you are being abused and harmed is not truly for your happiness, peace and wellbeing. If someone is neglecting, abusing or disrespecting you, YOU HAVE THE RIGHT TO VOICE YOUR CONCERNS, ASSERT YOUR BOUNDARIES AND DESIRED BEHAVIOUR / TREATMENT, AND WALK AWAY WITHOUT EXPLANATION, APOLOGY, OR PERMISSION IF THESE ARE NOT MET. Once we voice our boundaries and how we want to be treated, we then give the other person or people the choice to make a decision if they are able to meet this standard. It is not up to you to begin trying to persuade them, plead with them, or bend over backwards to accommodate them. Anyone that expects that from you does not respect your boundaries and right to feel safe, valued and at peace. Walk away. YOU, HAVE THE PERMISSION TO PROTECT YOURSELF MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY AND SPIRITUALLY. Let's stop allowing Society and abusers to write and prescribe our healing scripts. Walk away when you want. End the call when you need to end it. Forgive or do not forgive if you want - just make sure you give yourself permission to heal. With that said, I am wishing you a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations. From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® - The Goal Architect™ to Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Balance - www.theequilibriumcoach.com / www.novena-chanel.com #counsellor #psychotherapist #lifecoach #nutritionaladvisor #reikipractioner #novenachanel #success #successmindset #positivity #selfcare #selflove #recharge #judgement #womanism #survivors #abuse #relationships

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BE THANKFUL FOR THE SMALL THINGS AND WATCH HOW THEY BECOME BIG THINGS When was the last time you sat down, truly blocked out all of the noise  from technology, family, friends and life, and just said "Thank you". The energy of appreciation attracts more things to be thankful for. Take some time each day to simply reflect on all you have, how far you have come, how much you have accomplished, and the good that you have given... and then say, "Thank you".  When was the last time you sent someone a Thank You card? A handwritten card acknowledging their positive input in your life. A thank you for the good they bring; the kind words they offer; the shoulder they provide; the truth they deliver; the support they offered through a difficult time, or during an assignment or dispute at work. While acknowledging and loving how great you are is important, acknowledging the great beings and things around you is equally important - parts of who you are, and are becoming, is because of who you have around you... thank them too and never forget it. THE ENERGY OF APPRECIATION ATTRACTS MORE THINGS TO BE THANKFUL FOR With that said, I am wishing you a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations. From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach - The Goal Architect to Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Balance - www.theequilibriumcoach.com / www.novena-chanel.com #thankful #thelawofattraction #kaizen #EquilibriumSundays #theequilibriumcoach #equilibriumtime #EquilibriumCups #personaldevelopment #Truth #dailymotivation #dailyequilibrium #Reiki #novenachanel #success #successmindset #positivity #selfcare #selflove #recharge #relationships #coaching #counsellor #psychotherapist #lifecoach #nutritionaladvisor #reikimaster

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Are you starting out in Business, or already setup and feeling overwhelmed? Have you perfected your Elevator Pitch, or do you even know what one is and how to explain and sell what you do, in under five seconds? When working with Coachees I start the process by carrying out an assessment - me being a consumer researching who they are. Often, rather than not, I find that their multifaceted approach of listing everything they have ever accomplished since birth (or wanting to find a way to add it to the Business), from their GCSEs, to doing hair, to a speaking event at Church, becomes unecessary noise. A noise which drowns out what and who they actually are NOW, and most importantly, what they have to offer NOW. It is great to be accomplished and experienced in a number of fields. Goodness, you only have to look me up to see that I'm a Counsellor/Psychotherapist, Life Coach, Nutritional Advisor, Reiki Master, Plane Flyer, Krav Maga lover and more, but what good is all of that information to a consumer who is approaching me/you for one service? Even more so if that Service is not calling for you to be experienced in any of the other fields. If anything, it becomes white noise, and they start to wonder if, with all these other things you are doing, if you have really mastered any. You know what I mean... you're on the High Street and you see a Restaurant that is selling Caribbean food, Chinese food, Nigerian Food, and Indian food... is anyone else wondering who the Chef is and if they REALLY know how to properly cook the one we like? Now there are some exceptions. For example, for those who understand the correlation between Mind, Body, Spirit and Life - the impact of food on our mood, and our mood on our thoughts and behaviour, my work and exploration in all areas makes perfect sense. A Coach who is qualified to look at your diet, work with the conscious and unconscious negative thought patterns and beliefs that are holding you back, whilst also supporting you in bringing Balance, Self-Care, and personal insight into your work and life. I mean goodness, throw in a meditation script, and a no nonsense approach to attaining your goals, and you practically have your own Goal Architect®, right? Another exception would be a Builder who is also an Interior Designer, Kitchen Fitter, Carpenter, and Plumber, or a Make-up Artist who can also do hair, nails, styling and photography. You can see how they work together, compliment each other, and therefore make sense to a Consumer? It is like Nike suddenly releasing a Hair Care Brand for Black hair... a few eyebrows would be raised, right? Yet them adding Gyms, Protein Shakes, and Performance Enhancers would be more believed and acceptable. Why? Because Fitness, Sports and Performance is a part of the Brand. So when you are starting the process of building and selling you, your brand, or Starting out in Business, be mindful not to get lost in all that you can do, and instead, focus on what reflects and projects the Brand identity you want to sell. Start with the strongest one and master it, while cultivating the others (if necessary) . You can still be a bad ass Wizard at the weekends who races Ponys, it just doesn't need to be on your card or intro (unless your Client or audience are also Pony racing Wizards who want your product, then yes, you add that in your presentation with pictures, quotes, and an invitation to your next race) . Starting out cab be tough, exciting, exhausting, exhilarating, and confusing.... make things easier for yourself by taking the time to pause and understand what and who you are, and what the Consumer wants and sees, first. Need some more advice, or want to book yourself a free telephone consultation? Visit my website at www.theequilibriumcoach.com abd let's get your journey started today. With that said, I am wishing you all a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations. From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® (The Goal Architect® to your dreams) . Video clip from: https://youtu.be/4FB4NmGBQrI

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DON'T LET YOUR FEAR BLOCK YOUR SUCCESS. Many fail and block their own blessings by worrying abouth the success, journey, and ideas of others. Instead of investing their time within cultivating and appreciating their own greatness. they sit still feeling threatened, or rush into new things in order to compete, out of fear of being left behind or out done. Some even stand in the way of others, or intentionally withhold information, with misguided belief that it somehow slows others down. Yet the only person they harm is themselves - be it a lost network or contact, a future competitor who will no longer consider them after the negative experience, or a door that will be closed in their face (Karma). So let me tell you this... YOU ARE ARCHITECT OF YOUR OWN FAILURE AND/OR SUCCESS What you think, becomes your reality. If you think someone is better than you, you in turn lessen yourself to support this belief.The same goes for fear of being left behind and failure... you create it.. Say it with me... "THERE IS ENOUGH FOR ME, FOR YOU, FOR THEM... I SUBSCRIBE TO AN ABUNDANCE MINDSET." With that said, I am wishing you a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations. From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® - The Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Practitioner™ - www.novena-chanel.com / www.theequilibriumcoach.com #counsellor #psychotherapist #lifecoach #nutritionaladvisor #reikimaster #EquilibriumCups #theequilibriumcoach #personaldevelopment #thelawofattraction #movewithlife #mumprenuer #mumpreneurmovement #thegoalarchitect #abundance #abundancemindset #successmindset #business #life

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There is an unspoken, unequivocal, and under explored power present, when women sit, stand, gather, love, laugh, and break bread together. Today I laughed, learned, taught, and connected with inspiring women at the KTG Women's Networking Event. Thank you again for inviting me as one of the Guest Speakers for the day. Thank you to Donaly and her great team. Thank you to my fellow speakers. Thank you to all of the lovely women who came and conquered. Truly, together we rise. ___ From the video: A Panel Q&A with my fellow Speakers. To the right of me is an impressive Marketing Coach called @kdadouglas. To the right of her is the inspiring Founder of @mummy.matters. The lovely lady to the left of me is an empowering poet, youth mentor and Writer (I am searching for her on the gram to tag her for you 😉) Here we were discussing the impact of working with men as black women. Can you relate to the cross wires when Networking with men as a woman? The inappropriate gestures, the projections or thinking you strange for not wanting their advances? Do notet it deter you or stop you! As my Aunty Jenny told me, "You are a Woman in Business, and that means you must give out your cards and Network" . So network. Xx From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® - The Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Practitioner™ - www.novena-chanel.com / www.theequilibriumcoach.com #counsellor #psychotherapist #lifecoach #nutritionaladvisor #reikipractioner #novenachanel #success #successmindset #Wealth #wealthmindset #publicspeaker #womenempowerment #womeninbusiness #mumprenuer #mompreneur #mumpreneurmovement #theequilibriumcoach

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THE CATERPILLAR DID NOT REMAIN STUCK WAITING TO BECOME A BUTTERFLY. Too many of us are stuck; frozen and  overwhelmed by thoughts of the journey towards becoming the person we want to be. From losing old habits, to leaving people behind, and learning new things, the fear of change, and true sacrifice, is preventing you from growing your wings. What would happen to the Caterpillar if, instead of digesting itself (yes, it goes through what I can only imagine to be a terribly painful process before becoming the beautiful Butterfly we admire), it stopped and thought about the pain, discomfort, and demise during the process? Do you think it would still want to transform? Well would you? That is exactly what you are doing when you get detered by the hard work and process... You stop yourself from becoming a Butterfly who flies. YOU HAVE TO LET GO OF THE OLD UNHELPFUL PARTS OF YOU TO BECOME THE BETTER YOU. Let yourself Fly! With that said, I am wishing you a blessed and productive weekend ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations. From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® - The Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Practitioner™ - www.novena-chanel.com / www.theequilibriumcoach.com #counsellor #psychotherapist #lifecoach #nutritionaladvisor #reikimaster #EquilibriumCups #theequilibriumcoach #personaldevelopment #thelawofattraction #movewithlife #mumprenuer #mumpreneurmovement #thegoalarchitect #thecaterpillar #thebutterfly #novenachanel

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I will be one of the Guest Speakers at the KTG Women's Networking Event on Saturday. Come along - it would be lovely to meet you! You can get 50% off your ticket with my personal code (inbox me for details) . Do you want to network with inspirational business women? Maybe you're thinking about starting up a business? Or have a business that you'd like to introduce to others! No matter what stage you're at in developing your business, come along to share knowledge, experiences and build effective working relationships with strong women. Guest speakers Business opportunities Treats Goody bags FAQs Is there a dress code? Smart casual - you can look good and still be comfortable! Who should attend? This event is for ethnic women looking to promote their brand and create working relationships with like-minded individuals. Check out "BAME Women in Business Networking Event" on Eventbrite! Date: Sat, Oct 21 • 13:00 - 17:00 Location: The Crystal, Royal Victoria Docks, Siemens Brothers Way, London E16 1GB Tickets: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/bame-women-in-business-networking-event-tickets-36395460803?aff=eand #networking #womeninbusiness #novenachanel #ktguk #mumprenuer #mumpreneurmovement #successmindset #business #entrepreneur #entrepreneurs

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For many, consciously and unconsciously, they live, relive, and pass on generational wounding and patterns. Each new generation playing out a family cycle, each struggling with, or having to work through, an inherited mindset, way of relating, and circumstance.

From the way they go into discipline their children, to the types of relationships they enter, to their own mental health, each generation carrying and unrolling the family cycle.

How many have witnessed or heard of a Great-Grandmother who had a turbulent relationship with her daughter, then creating the same patterns within her own relationship with her daughters, who then, despite wanting different, then pass the dysfunction down through the family relationships? We then have four generations of women who know nothing else except inconsistency, poor communication, and wounding.

How about a Grandfather who was detached emotionally (or physically absent) from his Son, who then births a “normality’ of detachment - be it physical detachment and absence from the family, or mental and emotional. Thus unconsciously or consciously, teaching a Son to also become a detached and absent Father.

I have seen generations of single parent families within one family unit, just as I have seen generations of poor communication, competition, and jealousy within others. Each generation recreating a pattern of living and being.

If you really want to begin breaking negative family cycles, you need to start by identifying and exploring the root. Like a weed - often rather than not, treating the attachment from its root, begins ending the growth.

Start with creating a Family Constellation - like observing a map of stars, family constellations maps relationships within the family unit, and the conscious and subconscious impact.

Unsure how to begin? Contact me and let’s do the work together at www.theequilibriumcoach.com.

You deserve the opportunity to begin breaking generational patterns.

From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® - The Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Practitioner™

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IF, IT IS FOR MY HIGHER GOOD, IT WILL BE. One of the things I have learned to appreciate, and now, humbly accept, is that although we may truly want something, plan for it, and maybe even clear and prepare for it, if it is not for you, it will not come, or not stay. Look at all the millions of people who play the lottery. Most wonder why they have not won (I know I do! lol) . I mean look at you, you are kind, caring, giving and a good person you would use that money to help so many. However, have you thought that, that is the exact reason why you have not won? There is a Higher intelligence that knows what is truly for your Higher Good. So yes, I do not doubt that you would be charitable and change the lives of those around you, but have you for one minute thought about the consequences of this? Maybe the change of direction will mean you missing an important life lesson, or attracting danger into your life. Maybe the injection of cash into the lives of your loved ones may change their life for the worse, or cause them harm. The same goes for our hopes, dreams, and wishes for others, as with our desire to pass through situations, recover from illnesses, heal others who are unwell or in need of support. If, it does not truly serve their / your Higher Good, it is not (yet) meant to be... or will maybe never be. Humbly add this Rider to your prayers, meditations, requests, and well wishes for yourself and others. "If it is for my (their) Higher Good, let it come into fruition." Learn to accept what is truly for you, and humbly appreciate that there is a greater, Higher Knowledge that knows what is not. With that said, I am wishing you a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations. From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® - The Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Practitioner™ - www.novena-chanel.com / www.theequilibriumcoach.com #counsellor #psychotherapist #lifecoach #nutritionaladvisor #reikipractioner #Yoga #Plantbased #vegan #novenachanel #theequilibriumcoach #equilibriumtime #EquilibriumCups #personaldevelopment #Truth #dailymotivation #dailyequilibrium #Reiki

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DON'T LET THE TITLE BLIND YOU. I meet so many people who tell me about their insecurities when having to deal with those they feel are more qualified, knowledgeable, or Senior than them. Some hear the title 'Doctor', & instantly feel less than; believing they will see them as less than, or see no value in their individual experiencing & input. Nine out of ten times, this is merely a projection of their own feelings of not being enough. The other person does not subscribe to their belief system, & therefore, in front of them, they simply see another human being. Conversely, years after making acquaintance with some, some have confided in me that at first meeting me, they assumed that I would be unfriendly (A Mean Girl type), materialistic, 'air headed', or not as half as travelled & skilled as I am. Why? Usually because a judgment was made based upon my exterior representation - a black woman who flies planes? Nope! It did not fit their reality or beliefs, so it just could not be. A love of fashion & design? She probably does not like or have interest in Politics, the Sciences, or Spirituality... the combination, for some, too contradictory. When meeting people we have to remember that what we see, & how we interpret it, will always be our subconscious translation of what these things represent to us, & our world. I have met Yogis who are tormented by their own fears & insecurities. I have met Relationship Counsellors who reside in unhappy marriages, just as I have met teenagers who are full of wisdom & knowledge (teaching me so much). My point? Do not let anyone's title lead you into making assumptions about who they are; whether that be a positive assumption or negative one. Simply allow the light in you, to see & greet the light in them. Underneath all the titles, fancy clothes, & social standing, sits a Spirt, a oneness, that connects us all. Look for & acknowledge that, first. The rest? well that becomes unearthed when we put aside our assumptions & projections, & allow the other to show us who they are. The light in me, sees & greets the light in you.... whether that be me in red heels & lipstick, or bare foot meditating in a forest.

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IT HAS HAPPENED FOR A REASON... SPEND LESS TIME FIGHTING IT, AND MORE TIME GROWING THROUGH IT. Be grateful for the lessons. The job you didn't get. The relationship that didn't work. The flight you missed. The appointment cancelled last minute. All are things that had to happen; either to teach you; stretch you; build you... or break you. Just be thankful it did not kill you, and take the lesson with an open mind. With that said, I am wishing you a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations. Happy #SelfCareSunday From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® - The Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Practitioner™ - www.novena-chanel.com /www.theequilibriumcoach.com #counsellor #psychotherapist #lifecoach #nutritionaladvisor #reikipractioner #novenachanel #theequilibriumcoach #personaldevelopment #thelawofattraction #movewithlife #gowiththeflow #serendipity #growthmindset #growth #EquilibriumCups #EquilibriumCup

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ASSUMPTION IS THE ENEMY OF TRUTH. IN A WORLD FULL OF ASSUMPTIONS, BE THE ONE WHO ASKS. We live in a world where we are continuously stood as the target point of others assumptions and projections. From assumptions about how we think, what we feel, and who we are, few take the time, and commit themselves to truly knowing by first, asking. Our assumptions are based upon our own truth, projections, fears, hopes, and biases. Be the one who asks. With that said, I am wishing you a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations. From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® - The Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Practitioner™ - www.theequilibriumcoach.com #counsellor #psychotherapist #lifecoach #nutritionaladvisor #reikipractioner #Yoga #Reiki #Plantbased #vegan #novenachanel #theequilibriumcoach #equilibriumtime #EquilibriumCups #personaldevelopment #Truth #dailymotivation #dailyequilibrium

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“Let the only block in your life, be great colour blocking.” - Novena-Chanel Davies, The Equilibrium Coach®. Yesterday I had a lovely afternoon in Brixton Village, spent bumping into old and new friends.

I even met someone who grew up on the same street as my Great Grandfather in Sierra Leone! Me being the sentimental person I am, jumped on the opportunity to take him for a coffee / green tea and record him taking about his memories of him. It is so important to keep records of your history. I highly recommend it!

One of the things I love most about #Brixton is the variety of fruits and vegetables. Here's me outside Esme’s Roots enjoying the colours, smells, and texture of #plantbased magic. Places like this make my plantbased life easier ♥️. Eat for your health, and let the only block in your life be great colour blocking, darling 😘

With that said, I am wishing you a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations.

From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® - The Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Practitioner™ - www.novena-chanel.com / www.theequilibriumcoach.com

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Back in 2012 I launched my first company, where I advocated the need for regular and consistent Self-Care, Talk Therapy, Goals, and weekly #DatesWithYourself / #DatingYourself. I can still remember people laughing at the thought of dating yourself… until they started seeing the pictures and blog posts of the fun I got up to, from workshops, arts and crafts, and love letters to myself (you can check some out on my website in the Self Remembrance section).

Self-Care has become such a buzz word, with few knowing how to move the theoritical to actual actions and principles. So let’s practice what we post, and walk our talk, by doing the things that care for, nurture, rebalance, bring joy, promote peace, and nourish us.

Today I practiced being still and truly processing my thoughts by spending some time writing in my journal. Just me, a cup of my favourite herbs and warm water, phone on aeroplane mode with my favourite songs playing, surrounded by nature. My #EquilibriumTime and perfect #SelfCare.

Every now and then, get completely lost in your thoughts.

Write in a journal, draw a picture, doodle, mould, paint, create. Do something to bring thought into the material.

Go out into nature and recenter yourself, reenter yourself.

Self-Care is not Selfish or about detachment from others. It is an act of rebalancing, healing, and igniting yourself, so you can be better for yourself, and to those you give to.

One of the most beautiful things ever said to me when asking how I could help someone, was being told “Take care of yourself, for me” . So I say it to you too…

“Take care of yourself, for me” .

“Take care of yourself, for you”

“Take care of yourself, for them” .

With that said, I am wishing you a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations.

From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach® - The Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Practitioner™ - www.novena-chanel.com / www.theequilibriumcoach.com .

#selfcare #equilibriumtime #EquilibriumCups #EquilibriumCup #TheEquilibriumCoach #YogaTime #Yoga #healthyliving #novenachanel #success #successmindset #positivity #selflove #datingmyself #datingmyselftoday

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IF YOU WOULD NOT ALLOW A HUSBAND OR WIFE TO BLOCK YOUR GROWTH; SABOTAGE YOUR OPPORTUNITIES, SECOND GUESS EVERY ACTION... WHY ARE YOU ALLOWING YOUR OWN FEARS TO? DIVORCE YOUR FEARS... AND FOR GOODNESS SAKE, PLEASE DO NOT PASS THEM ON TO YOUR CHILDREN. Whether it is a fear of Spiders, a fear of failure, or a fear of rejection, your fear is holding you back. That Spider might one day be on the door handle to your success; refusing to open it will mean you take 'the other door' . You think I am over exaggerating? I have literally been sat on an interview panel and watched an interviewee freak out (I mean totally freak out and knock over a glass of water, freak out) because a Spider appeared in the room. The fear was not the issue. The way that fear resulted in a loss of focus, control, and composure, was what lost them the opportunity. If you can not get a handle of your fears, your fear gets a handle of you. Likewise I have seen people sabotage their own success, whether that be Business, relationships, or education, because the fear of success (no, not failure, as many think it is) takes over. They begin to fear the effects of finally having what they want - that new job or education will then mean new social circles... new social circles will mean new ways of being, and thinking.. then they begin to worry or question if their old friends, family, or partner, will still accept the 'new them' . Even worse, will they still like the new them? They then let the fear of success and the unknown, coupled with the fear of the rejections this might bring, destroy the opportunity. Now let me say a word to us parents, guardians, older siblings, and carers... do not let your fears become the children's fears. Do not let your fear of failure become theirs by either stopping them from doing things (in case they fail), or being negative about things (to deter them), or by becoming the pushy parent who makes them afraid to fail; disappointing you. Teach them to face fear; understanding it by voicing it, identifying what the fear is, and then beating it by doing it. Children watch and learn from us - be a healthy example of a fear fighter 💪🏾. With that said, I am wishing you a blessed and productive day ahead; one that truly exceeds all expectations. From Novena-Chanel, The Equilibrium Coach ® - The Mind, Body, Spirit, Life Practitioner ™ - www.novena-chanel.com / www.talktoatherapist.london