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Its all about your Mindset

Going From a Fixed Mindset to a Growth Mindset

Lesson #1: growth is not linear. You will not improve drastically overnight. As I’ve stressed this before, things take time and consistency and concentration.

A fixed mindset is basically a belief that the person you’re born as - your intelligence and talent - are fixed. They cannot be changed, no matter what.

Science has shown that this is not true. It’s 100% possible to get smarter over time and with dedicated effort.

This is what a growth mindset is - believing that you can be better over time, and that your current level of intelligence and talent is temporary.

People with fixed mindsets are insecure, and it shows. Fear of failure; taking constructive criticism to heart; feelings of jealousy when someone they know is doing well… we’ve all known a person like this, and been this person ourselves at some point in our life.

Growth mindset is therefore the opposite but the effects are as grounding; it can help battling anxiety, depression, burnout issues, behavioural issues and so on.

I understand that a lot of you don’t have people in your life with a similar mentality of personal growth. I’m therefore reopening my Discord. My followers can meet, connect and help each other out.

Now, how does one transition from a fixed to a growth mindset?

Here are some things I think could help:

1. Detaching yourself from the definition of failure

If you’ve already decided the outcome of a certain situation without even trying, then you’re still stuck in a fixed mindset. Things like “there’s no point in me applying for that job because I don’t have the skills and I won’t get it anyway” - applying for that job wouldn’t hurt, even if you don’t get it. Stop limiting your opportunities that you never know could actually work out. A growth mindset person will always try to make most of the opportunities they have.

2. Not getting attached to any outcomes

Don’t get attached to favourable or unfavourable outcomes. When something goes well, have gratitude in your heart but don’t let it get to your ego. Life is about constantly learning. Don’t get attached to compliments and don’t get disheartened by criticism.

3. Actively working on yourself

You can learn a language at any age. You can start learning how to dance or sing or ride a horse at any age, if you’re doing it for the pleasure of learning (getting into competitive stages could be challenging if you’re not young). Someone who works on themselves has a growth mindset.

4. Stop self depreciating yourself

If I see one more IG bio that says “I’m so boring uwu” I will literally throw hands. Stop talking shit about yourself. Classic fixed mindset case. It’s childish and people pleasing behaviour.

5. Stop the comparison game

Stop resenting the people around for the good work they do in their life/ if their life is easy. We all have our challenges, whether we show them publicly or not. The more you work on your inner peace and inner self, the less you’ll feel the need to compare yourself to someone else. Jealousy is a disease and a sign of a fixed mindset.

6. Appreciate and thank yourself for being you.

If you’re nice to your mum, siblings, friends when they need your support… you can be nice to yourself too. Growth mindset does not come from berating yourself.

7. Recognise mistakes and take accountability

Admitting that you’re wrong is never easy. However, I’ll always have respect for someone who can admit that they messed up, rather than someone who will make up stories to justify their antics.

8. Provide yourself with at least 3 productive self-care hours a week

Self care here doesn’t mean skin care or hair care. I mean brain care. You feed your brain good things that it needs to stay calm and ever-growing.

These could include: brain games, mediation, a hobby, watching an educational documentary, doing a short online course, reading… anything that’s good for your brain.

9. Stop being a chameleon

Have you ever met those sort of people who will do anything to fit in? It could adopting that group’s mannerisms, thought processes, opinions… now, to an extent, that is normal and subtle. However, when it starts going too far to a point where you can’t be yourself anymore, thats a problem. In my opinion, that’s an example of not being able to practice your growth mindset publicly.

Privately, you may be growth oriented - but it needs to reflect in your words and actions. If you’re holding yourself back in doing certain things because you’re afraid of what other friends will think of you, you need better friends. Embrace people who have a growth mentality.

10. Using social media for better purposes

I made a separate Instagram account where I only follow educational stuff - think history, geography, arts and architecture, science, tech, business - and absolutely no people. It’s my way of using social media to ensure I learn more. Social media may be the devil, but you can be smart and alter it to your purposes, to give you that kick that you need to educate yourself.

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2023

A happier life in 2023

Health

Nourish your body properly, drink enough water, eat your greens, and take vitamins.

Don't punish yourself if you're having a bad day, are upset, or had something negative happen in your life, dont take it out on your body by depriving yourself of your daily needs.

Aim to become the healthiest version of yourself. Exercise and eat to feel your best, focus on your education, read, and be social.

Try therapy. Talking to someone helps you organize your thoughts, especially if you struggle with overthinking or anxiety. It's 2023; there is no shame in asking for help!! <3

80/20 rule. Find balance in your diet and lifestyle.

Mindset

Treat yourself with care and love. You deserve to feel good; start by appreciating yourself more and aim to feel comfortable within yourself.

Stop comparing yourself, your life and your accomplishments to others. Everyone has a different back story, don't compare your beginning to someone else's middle.

Ignoring negativity. Maybe delusion truly is the key to happiness. Remember the brightest moments, write them down and keep them close to your heart. :)

Smile at people. If you start sending good vibes, they will eventually come back to you.

Be kind. Small acts of kindness can truly mean the world. <3

Lifestyle

Spent more time in the sun. Try reading, studying, or exercising outside when it's sunny!

Be organized. Buy a planner, try notion, start using your calendar more. Staying organized is a great way to reduce stress in your day-to-day life!

Small daily comforts, a nice perfume, your favourite tea or coffee... simple small things that you can look forward to every day <3

Establish routines. Getting up earlier, open your curtains, some simple stretches, having daily routines can be so relaxing and fun!

Save money not just for emergencies but also to treat yourself! Set yourself saving goals for things that you've been wishing for :)

As always, Please feel free to add more suggestions in the comments!

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Tips and Habits to be successful 🌷

habits for success ✨

your day starts the day before

maintain an early night routine

practice meditation

get the biggest task done first

learn to control your emotions

educate yourself

learn how to delegate tasks

prioritize yourself first

surround yourself with like-minded people

journal or do some form of healthy emotional release

invest in yourself

value your mental and physical health

learn how to manage money wisely

consume uplifting and positive media

make time for yourself and allows space when needed

hone in on your craft daily

prioritize your health

practice mindfulness

be consistent

practice self-discipline and self-control

don't break promises

be very self-aware

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Get yourself together <3

guide to get organized and create habits in your life

maybe you think that with your current pace of life, all those things you have to do in the day, it is impossible to create a healthier lifestyle, that's only for people who have money or a lot of free time and it is not so, the key is in the organization and planning of your days, but more importantly: that you really want to level up.

steps to start.

eliminate your beliefs, "it's not possible", "it's not a realistic lifestyle", "it's not possible", or "it's not a realistic lifestyle". if you really want to improve there are no excuses, the only limits are created by you.

what are your goals? what do you want to achieve with all this? the most important thing is to have a healthy lifestyle, but besides that, it may bring you closer to future goals or become your best version to achieve what you want, whatever it is, with bad habits you can not succeed.

plan your days and get organized, you don't need much for this, you can get a weekly planner or write the night before in a to-do list what you have to do the next day, create a routine from that, incorporate into your days those new habits, you always have 30 minutes or 1 hour for exercise, for example, everything is a matter of organizing yourself, but remove the thought of "i don't have time".

create your own lifestyle, you can be inspired by what you see in social media but may not fit you or what you want to achieve, it is easier than it seems, you just have to be clear about what you would like and from there start with new habits or activities, just think: what would make the best version of myself?

start now, do not wait for tomorrow, start organizing how your day will be tomorrow, what things would you like to try, start with 5 minutes of yoga? read that book that you have postponed for a long time? do it and little by little create a routine. for example, you can start by going for a walk for 30 minutes 3 days a week, reading a book at least 15 minutes before bedtime, changing the convenience food for a healthier option and so with everything.

and enjoy the process, not the result, the important thing is to be happy with our life and lead a healthy pace, not the result we want to get, that will come but meanwhile, it is important to enjoy the small improvements that we are incorporating in our day to day.

small habits that you should incorporate into your new lifestyle.

drink plenty of water during the day

create good sleep schedules (you don't have to get up early, but get enough sleep to have energy the next day)

replace junk food for healthier options.

do any kind of exercise every day.

read things that nourish your mind.

limited time on social media, only consume that which is positive.

stop talking bad about others and yourself.

be aware of your health and self-worth.

meditate before waking up and before sleeping.

write a diary or keep a record of your days, so you can also motivate yourself and see your progress.

whatever makes you happy and is beneficial to you.

having a healthy lifestyle always has to be beneficial for you, you don't have to follow to the letter other people's routines or my recommendations, you don't have to force yourself to do things you don't like, just find what you enjoy and it will benefit you in the future, but always focus on you and what is best for you 🤍

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Making my Future Self Proud <3

fitness and fuel

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Healthy habits for you 💐

habits that bring you closer to your best version 🤍

stop living in the past focus on what you have now and what you want to achieve tomorrow

stop reacting to the negative ignore the negative, that which you do not like and which causes you discomfort, and replace all this with positive thoughts even if the situation seems complicated

recognize your achievements day by day they don't have to be only past achievements, every day we achieve something new even if we don't realize it, learn to see the positive in your days, there is always something small to be grateful for

take responsibility for what you think and feel be aware of your thoughts and emotions, nothing has meaning until you give it meaning, so try to always focus on the positive

speak nicely to yourself stop judging yourself or feeling guilty, change your negative internal dialogue, and talk to yourself the way you would like to be talked to

give power to the positive even in the most difficult moments, there is something to be thankful for, focus on the good in your life and make this habit a daily routine, always be thankful for something

be patient everything will come at the right time, so it is not worth losing faith

do different things every day do at least something different every day that helps you to connect with the best version of yourself, it can be a morning walk

be aware of your qualities and express them you can write down what are your qualities to be more aware of them and start to be more conscious of them in your day-to-day life, sure you have a lot of them and that makes you unique and beautiful

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Ways to romanticize life 🌞

✨Ideas for how to romanticize your life.✨

🌱 1. Wake up on a morning and before you look at your phone, take a moment to listen to the birds outside

🌱 2. Take time to drink your coffee on a morning instead of rushing it – taste it, smell it, savour it

🌱 3. Buy yourself fresh flowers and display them properly

🌱 4. Sit and people watch outside a café in the sun

🌱 5. Take your favourite book and go read in the park

🌱 6. Wear the nicest thing in your wardrobe, even if you’re just in the house

🌱 7. Take more pictures in everyday life

🌱 8. Meditate for at least five minutes

🌱 9. Walk bare foot on the grass and connect to the earth in the best possible way

🌱 10. Volunteer at a pet shelter and give some love back into the world

🌱 11. Have a detox bath with candles, salts, hair and face mask

🌱 12. Celebrate the small wins instead of waiting for the big things to happen

🌱 13. Lay down and just look at the beauty of the stars on a clear night

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Some tips to make your life better

self care that will change your life

~ journaling:

prompts about how you’re feeling

journaling about your favorite days

~ meditating:

two minutes every day or every other day

clearing your mind and taking a few minutes to be alone with yourself

~ night routines:

nightly skincare

cleaning up before bed

stretching

~ cold skincare:

using cold face masks & eye patches

keeping your face rollers in the fridge

sleeping w/ a gel bead eye mask

~ complimenting:

compliment others; spreading kindness will bring you good fortune 🦋

compliment yourself; showing kindness to yourself will bring you true confidence 💕

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meal planning and grocery shopping 🫒

meal planning and grocery shopping

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Helpful Teas and their benefits <3

teas you should include in your diet and some of their benefits

green tea

antioxidant promotes fat burning, improves physical performance, accelerates metabolism, relaxes, improves mental focus and concentration, acts as a neuroprotective, is good against stomach diseases, improves the quality of life.

red tea

helps to lose weight, increases energy, aids digestion, reduces stress, strengthens the immune system.

black tea

is an antioxidant, ideal to be consumed before meals, as it prepares the digestive system to work properly, protects the immune system, prevents tooth decay and oral diseases, reduces stress, activates the mind, improves concentration and memory, diuretic.

white tea

this tea variety highest in antioxidants cares for the skin, moisturizes the skin, perfect anti-aging drink, is good for oral health, helps to lose weight, eliminates bad breath.

lavender tea

helps sleep, relieves menstrual cramps, improves skin health, helps with stomach problems, relieves headaches, is very relaxing.

jasmine tea

helps against stress and tension, reduces the chances of colds and flu, helps to lose weight, helps to improve circulation.

ginger tea

relieves inflammation, improves brain function, relieves menstrual cramps, regulates blood sugar levels, lowers cholesterol levels, and promotes healthy digestive systems.

matcha tea

burns fat, provides energy, can help reduce anxiety, improves skin, improves concentration, improves oral health, quenches hunger and quenches thirst naturally.

how many cups of tea to drink per day? 3 at the most

when do i drink tea? sometimes in the morning, but i usually drink it after lunch and dinner.

remember that teas do not replace meals, they only complement to improve our health.

and it is much more recommendable if you get natural tea since its benefits are more potent.

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Things to do to become that girl <3

sunday reset routine <3

first things first…

clean out any trash in your room. throw it all away, and take any dirty dishes out of your room as well

return things to where they belong. Move your computer from your bed to your desk, move your bags back to their hanger, you get the idea

reorganize messy areas. Drawers, shelves, or cabinets whatever has become disorganzied or messy over the week

do your laundry. It’s okay, we all get that big mess of dirty clothes that just piles up throughout the week.

Now time to deep clean!

take time to wipe down all surfaces. Use disinfecting and cleaning wipes to remove collected dust and dirt. This includes desks, tables, counters, etc. 

strip your bed. Wash the sheets, comforter, blankets, and pillow cases

vacuum the floor. Pick up any small pieces of trash you might’ve missed 

put away all your clothes. Once they’re done washing, don’t just leave them in the hamper. Fold them up and put them away where they belong

Focus on yourself

shower & skincare! On my Sunday resets, I like to take longer showers and use all my body scrubs and body butters and shower gels. wash your face with cleanser, scrubs, exfoliant, etc. moisturize and use a face roller for a few minutes. Id also recommend doing a face or hair mask

light some candles and meditate. Doing a longer meditation will make your headspace feel less cluttered and more put together. it’s like organizing in your head! This would be a good time to cleanse your crystals as well

journal. Take out your journal and write down your goals and plans for the week. you can also take this time to write manifestations, affirmations, or do a few journal prompts.

finally, do whatever you want. At the end of the day, when everything has been cleaned and organized, you can take time to yourself and do whatever you feel like doing. Not all of us have the time during the week to just relax and do what we want in that moment, so take this time to do that! you can watch youtube, draw a picture, play a game, whatever you want.

stay safe lovelies <3 :3

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Simple healthy tips 💐

simple minimalist habits that will improve your life

focus on the essentials of your day.

start organizing your days.

write a diary to organize your ideas and thoughts, discard those that no longer benefit you.

focus on the things that are in your control.

practice detachment (things, people, situations)

make a list of your priorities, what you need at this moment (can be objects and situations too)

get rid of everything you no longer use.

purchase/consume items that will be useful in your daily life.

tidy up your room or the place where you spend most of your time, create a serene and inspiring space.

create a capsule closet

digital and mental detox

spend less time on social media or watching tv, instead read more or spend time outdoors.

leave out of your life everything that is consuming you or doing you any kind of harm (people, social networks, habits).

be grateful every day.

live in the present moment.

practice meditation and mindfulness.

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please

Before you fall in love with me, unlove everyone in your past.

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To my women ❤

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My childhood was built off this show

gilmore girls is the comfort show !! I love it i wish i was part of it :((

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